Second Date Update - No Experience Needed
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00:00Well, Rachel sounds like someone who has thought about this date, thought about what could have gone wrong and what went right, and apparently things all went right for her.
00:08Yeah, she really was gushing about what a perfect date this was, and this guy Nick, she said they were texting a little bit after the date, but then he just, nothing anymore, so she kind of wants our help.
00:19Okay, we got him on hold right now, let's talk to him. Nick, you there?
00:23Yep.
00:23Hey Nick, I appreciate you talking to our producer off the air, and he kind of explained what's going on right now, and we want to talk to you about this date with Rachel, you just heard us talking about it, we know you went to the Lure, had a great time there, according to her, but there's been no real communication since the date, and we kind of like to get involved, which maybe we should, maybe we shouldn't, but get involved and kind of figure out what's going on, because she wants to see you again, and we want to see if we can set that back up for you, so what's up with Rachel?
00:52Well, I mean, Rachel's really nice, she's sweet, and I mean, I had a fine time, but, you know, it's just not for me, I just don't think she's for me.
01:04Why?
01:05Can we explain that a little bit more?
01:07I don't know, I mean, it's just like she, you know, just some things she said were like a red flag, or like, you know, you know how you know, like, when you're, you know, dealing with someone, and you're like, ah, this isn't going to work out, you know?
01:18Can you be a little bit more descriptive, though?
01:21Yeah, you mentioned red flag, what was the one that was glaring at you here?
01:25All right, well, she's, you know, she's never been in a long-term relationship, and at her age, I feel like that's something she should have done, and, you know, like, maybe that's a red flag, or she lacks experience.
01:36You know, I don't want to come off controlling, or, you know, or feel like, you know, Michael, like, you know, like, way more experience.
01:46I don't know, I feel like there's something there that, you know, I'm just not looking to do that.
01:49She told you that she's never dated anybody?
01:52Um, she's never been in a long-term relationship.
01:55So that freaks you out?
01:56It doesn't freak me out, necessarily, but I'm looking for somebody to be with, and, again, it's like, I don't want to be a controlling person, or somebody who's, you know, like, you know, usually when people are in a long-term relationship, they understand how it works, you know?
02:10Yeah, but you could also take this opportunity to kind of, you know, teach her the way that you want things, though.
02:18I mean, kind of mold her into the way that person that you want her to be.
02:21Yeah, I don't know.
02:23That, like, sounds like a controlling position, you know?
02:25Yeah.
02:26So you just think there's something to it?
02:28You think there's something off about the fact that she has not been in a long-term relationship?
02:33Right.
02:34Okay.
02:34So it doesn't feel right, you know what I mean?
02:36Okay.
02:37Well, we do have Rachel on the phone with us, Nick, and that's what we wanted to tell you, and we want to bring her back on.
02:44It sounded like you guys had a good time, so that's great.
02:47Rachel, are you there?
02:48Yeah, I'm here.
02:49Hey, Rachel.
02:50I just, I'm a little confused here.
02:53I just don't understand why me not being in a long-term relationship yet is such a red flag.
03:00I mean, I've dated people.
03:01I mean, I want a long-term relationship.
03:03I for sure do.
03:04I mean, I'm picky.
03:05I think it's good to be picky and not just settle.
03:10I don't know.
03:10It's like, there's something about it.
03:12You're in your mid-20s.
03:13It doesn't really line up for me.
03:16There shouldn't be anything wrong with this.
03:17I mean, I don't have any horrible exes.
03:20I don't have baggage.
03:21So I think these are all good things.
03:24But I don't want to train you to date.
03:25You know what I'm saying?
03:26Like, I don't want to, like, that's not my job.
03:27Like, I...
03:28Nick, I'm not looking for someone to train me.
03:30I mean, I can date.
03:31I've dated.
03:33I just haven't had...
03:34Met someone that has been someone I want to spend the long-term with.
03:38So I get that.
03:39But this isn't going to be for me.
03:41Well, I don't think you're getting it because you're, like, consistent.
03:45I don't understand.
03:46I just don't get why this is such a big deal.
03:49Is there any particular reason?
03:50I mean, you said you're picky, Rachel.
03:52But is there any particular reason that you haven't had a long-term relationship?
03:55It's just...
03:56No.
03:57I mean, it's...
03:58I mean, I just haven't met a guy yet that, you know, is consistent.
04:02And it stays to who he portrays to be the first date, you know?
04:07They always change.
04:08And I just haven't felt someone that I could spend more time with.
04:13She's only in her mid-20s.
04:15I mean...
04:16How many serious relationships have you had at your mid-20s, Lana?
04:19We're not talking about me right now.
04:20We're talking about Rachel.
04:22But I'm just saying, I mean, she's been busy.
04:25Yeah.
04:25I mean, I work, you know?
04:27I mean, I just got out of college not too long ago.
04:29And I've got a job and doing my thing.
04:32Okay.
04:33So, you know, you're saying you don't have time because of work.
04:36But we all have jobs.
04:37And we all, you know, find time to date.
04:39I know.
04:40I'm just saying that, you know, you're talking about, like, I'm so much older.
04:46Like, I'm young.
04:47I mean, I'm in my mid-20s, yes.
04:50But I'm just saying, that's why I brought up the job.
04:53It's because I am working.
04:55I am being consistent.
04:56I'm starting my life.
04:57And so, it's not like I can't date.
04:59I just haven't found someone that's worth my time date.
05:02All right.
05:02Well, listen.
05:03Let me jump in here.
05:03Let me just say this.
05:05Nick, would it be worth going on another date just to, you know, maybe talk about this more
05:09and maybe get a better understanding?
05:11Because, you know, we are kind of bombarding you today by calling you.
05:14But would you be willing to sit down and talk to her more about it?
05:17I don't think so.
05:19Oh.
05:19Okay.
05:19It's not going to work.
05:20Aw.
05:21Well, Rachel, you heard what Nick had to say.
05:23I'm sorry.
05:23It's not the answer you wanted.
05:25But it is an answer.
05:26Hey, you know, if you feel like you haven't found the one that's worth your time, then all
05:31the power to you.
05:32Thanks.
05:32I just don't understand why this happens.
05:34This happens all the time when I express myself.
05:36I just don't understand.
05:37Well, keep your head up.
05:38Stay out there.
05:39You're going to find the one for sure, okay?
05:41You'll find them.
05:42Thanks.
05:43Thank you, guys.
05:45I'm torn on this because I think she sounds nice.
05:49And I get the fact that you don't want to waste your time with someone that you don't
05:53really, you know, see a future with.
05:55But at the same time, you do kind of need experience to know what you want.
06:00In a sense.
06:01But I don't think I think he should have really given her a chance because this could be a
06:05positive thing.
06:06Like she said, no baggage, no ex-boyfriends, no, like, I like it.
06:10I like things this way.
06:11I like things that way.
06:13I mean, they, I mean, he could totally experience a whole new thing with her.
06:17I don't know.
06:17I think he's missing out.
06:19Should this been a deal breaker for him or should they have gone back out?
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