Second Date Update - Red Flag Chellenge
Category
😹
FunTranscript
00:00Well, I like Danny and everything he had to say about his date with Gia.
00:03It's a 7-15 second date update right now.
00:05He didn't go, oh, yeah, she was just hot, and we talked about life and all that.
00:09He's like, no, we talked about the fact that we're both real goal-driven
00:12and we're professional and things like that.
00:15Things of substance, basically.
00:17So I felt like the conversation went well, and they were set up by friends.
00:19Which is always a good thing.
00:21So, you know, you get a set of friends.
00:23You're like, these two people would go well together.
00:25Seemed like on his side, it definitely went well.
00:28But now on her side, we don't know yet.
00:31Well, you were able to track her down.
00:32You got her on hold.
00:33You've talked to her a little bit.
00:34She's agreed to come on the air with us.
00:35So let's do that right now.
00:37Gia, are you there?
00:39Hey, yeah, I am here.
00:41Okay.
00:42I know this is super random.
00:44We wanted to see if we could talk to you real quick, and I appreciate you agreeing to do so.
00:48We wanted to ask you about this guy, Danny.
00:50And we know you guys got set up by some mutual friends.
00:53I guess you guys went, you were hanging out in Newport Ritchie for a happy hour.
00:57Had a great time.
00:58With him there is what he thought.
01:01And he thought you guys really had a lot of things in common.
01:04And now he's trying to figure out why he hasn't heard from you since the date.
01:08I probably should have asked for more information from my friends before we went out.
01:17He was fine.
01:19He was fine.
01:20It's just that he was like a little older than I thought.
01:24I'm in like my early 30s.
01:27And I just figured, he's like not that old.
01:31He's 38.
01:31But I just feel like by that age, he should be a little bit more, I don't know, like established.
01:39Like, you know, like he'd never been in a serious relationship.
01:44He's 38.
01:46And he's still renting an apartment.
01:48He, you know, has never been married.
01:51He's never been engaged.
01:54I'm feeling attacked right now.
01:55I want to say, this sounds just like you, J.R.
01:57Are you talking about J.R.?
02:00I don't know, J.R., at all.
02:02I'm sorry, J.R., go ahead.
02:03So this is a problem for you.
02:04You think these are, what do you, you think these are red flags because he's never been married before?
02:09Yeah, I mean, I think it's a red flag that he's never been at 38, even in a really, like, long-term relationship.
02:15Like, if you haven't celebrated 365 days with somebody, like, the holidays, Valentine's Day, Christmas, New Year's, like, you know, Thanksgiving.
02:26Like, how do you expect to just jump into a relationship and be serious with someone if, like, you've never done it before at that age?
02:35Like, maybe I would understand it if, like, the guy lived in an amazing house and had, like, everything else figured out and he's been waiting for his dream girl.
02:43But, like, it seems like he just is kind of, like, floating through life.
02:49I didn't get that vibe from him at all.
02:51No.
02:52Okay.
02:52What if it's, you know, what if you're looking at this the wrong way?
02:55You know, from personal experience, you know, I know that I really was just focused on career and I wasn't really thinking about those other things.
03:01Could that be a reason why maybe he has put priorities into something else and not necessarily getting married and buying a home and all that?
03:10I mean, it's a reason, but it's also a red flag.
03:13Like, that's also a little selfish.
03:15It's like being, like, once I'm at a place that works, then I'll be able to find someone else and then maybe she'll be the perfect missing piece in my life.
03:24I feel like it's just all about him.
03:26Like, I'm in my early 30s.
03:28I have a mortgage.
03:29I own a home.
03:31I am...
03:32Have you been married?
03:32No, I've never been married, but, I mean, I've been in, like, serious relationships.
03:37Gotcha.
03:38You know, it's like I learned a lot.
03:40Okay.
03:40And, I mean, maybe it's kind of like in my mind, I'm like, maybe just nobody wants him or likes him.
03:46Oh, jeez.
03:46You're saying that.
03:47Like, okay, well, what's wrong with him that nobody wants to stick around?
03:52Okay.
03:52Well, sure.
03:53Gee, let me step in here.
03:54Before we get too brutal here, I want to let you know that we have Danny on the phone with us.
03:58Okay.
03:58And I want to bring him back on because that's how we got your phone number.
04:02Danny?
04:03Yeah.
04:05So, you heard what you had to say.
04:06I'm going to just let you respond.
04:08First thing that kind of comes to mind for you right now.
04:11Well, I mean, I think that I'm picky.
04:16And so, while I don't know you can throw that at Gia as, like, at me being selfish, it's just one of those things where it's like,
04:24I don't want to settle down and settle for someone that, you know, is not worth it.
04:28And as far as me not owning a home and being a renter, it's just right now that's where I'm at and it hasn't been in the cards for me.
04:35And considering the insane, you know, housing market and what have you, it's just been, it just hasn't lined up perfectly for me.
04:44But it's certainly an intention of mine.
04:46Okay.
04:47That's cool.
04:48But, you know, it's a huge red flag.
04:51You're like, oh, I'm so picky.
04:52I'm so picky.
04:53I'm so picky.
04:53I don't want to be picked apart.
04:56You're kind of picking him apart, though, right now, right?
04:58Exactly.
04:58Yeah.
04:58You want to both?
04:59I mean, yeah, but some of these things aren't even about him kind of specifically.
05:04It's just about, like, I wouldn't want to go out with anyone in that, with those characteristics and attributes.
05:09Again, I don't know.
05:11It's just one of these things where it's like, I mean, yeah, you could say I'm picky, but at the same time, too, like,
05:16I'm choosy enough to have waited this long to pick you and to have called into this radio show and be like,
05:23no, this seems like it's worth it because you do seem like you're worth it.
05:27Yeah.
05:27To me, that seems kind of desperate, to be honest.
05:32You know what I mean?
05:34Gia, would you be willing to see him again?
05:36Would you be willing to go out and learn more about him?
05:39Um, I think I'm just going to have to say that, look, I'm sure I'll see you around maybe at, like,
05:47my friend's next year Super Bowl party or something.
05:50But, like, for now, I just, I'm going to pass.
05:55Okay.
05:56Oh, man.
05:56Well, I appreciate you letting us know how you really feel because you definitely did.
06:01And, uh, Danny, you got a little better understanding of where she is at and just take that with a grain of salt.
06:07I appreciate you both coming on today.
06:08So you guys have a good day.
06:10Bye, man.
06:11Thanks.
06:12Dude, first of all, what the heck is she doing describing me?
06:15I know.
06:15I've never been married before.
06:16I've been in a long-term relationship, but I've never been married before.
06:20And I've never owned a home.
06:21But at the same time, I'm with him.
06:23I've moved around the entire country for work and being in this business and stuff like that.
06:29And that's being held against him.
06:31I don't think that's cool.
06:33I don't like that.
06:33I don't like that she, like you said.
06:35She's picking him apart.
06:37Yeah, she is.
06:38Yeah.
06:38That was so ironic.
06:40All right.
06:41Let's hear what you think.
06:42800-992-1099.
06:43800-992-1099.
06:45Ladies, I want to hear from you, too, on this.
06:47What do you think about what G is saying?