Second Date Update - Too Close To Home
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00:00Well, they had a happy hour date in South Tampa.
00:03I'm talking about Leah, who reached out to us in her date with Patrick.
00:06They had a passionate kiss at the end of the date, she said,
00:09but has not heard from Patrick since that date,
00:12even though he said he wanted to hang out again.
00:14And we got him on hold right now, so I want to bring him back on.
00:17Patrick, I know that Kevin talked to you off the air.
00:20Did he kind of give you a little info on what we want to talk to you about?
00:23Yeah, kind of a little bit.
00:24I'm still a little bit confused, but yeah.
00:25Okay, well, we just wanted to see if it was cool to talk to you
00:28about a date you went on with Leah.
00:31You guys were hanging out in South Tampa,
00:33and then you went back to her place.
00:37Yeah, yeah.
00:39Okay, I mean, you guys talked about going out on another date, she said,
00:42and for some reason, she says she hasn't heard from you.
00:45And, I mean, it sounds like you guys were getting along pretty well
00:48when you guys went back to her house.
00:50Yeah, I mean, it's a little bit awkward.
00:52So she basically lives with her ex-husband.
00:54And, like, they live in the same townhouse.
00:59Really?
01:00Yeah.
01:01It's just a little awkward for me.
01:02I don't know.
01:03Like, she said it's because, I mean, they've got a seven-year-old together.
01:05I understand it.
01:06I get it, whatever.
01:07And they wanted to be close so that things could go easy with the co-parenting thing.
01:12And I get it, but I just, you know, it's just too close.
01:16You know what?
01:16There's, like, no privacy at all.
01:18Wait, they live in the same place and the same house?
01:23Well, I mean, they don't live in the same unit, but they live right next door to each other.
01:28Like, they're in the same townhouse, like, right next door to each other.
01:31So, basically, like, he can see in her house from the courtyard area.
01:34Like, there's a little swimming pool area and all that stuff.
01:36And she can see, he can see directly into her, like, living room area.
01:40Oh, my goodness.
01:41Right outside.
01:41All right, so you guys are sitting there having a beer, and she tells you,
01:44Oh, by the way, my ex-husband lives right there?
01:47Yeah.
01:48You know, she started talking about her son and then was basically like,
01:51Yeah, yeah, he's over at my ex-husband's right now, right over there.
01:55Right there.
01:56Well, that's a little awkward.
01:57Did you see him?
01:58No, I didn't see him, but, I mean, I don't want to, you know what I mean?
02:01Oh, yeah, of course.
02:02So he's, I mean, so they're in contact quite a bit then, huh?
02:07Yeah, I mean, I'm sure they see each other every morning when they're going to work.
02:11Oh, my goodness.
02:12Well, Patrick, I can totally see why that would be a weird situation to be in.
02:17And here's the deal.
02:18We have Leah on the phone with us.
02:20She's the one that reached out to us.
02:21That's how we got your number.
02:22I want to bring her back on and get her take on this.
02:25Leah, so you live right next door to your ex.
02:28I mean, okay, it's for convenience.
02:33I am a mom, and my number one priority is my kid.
02:38And I think it's amazing that we were able to create a scenario where we could be so close to each other.
02:44When another townhouse came up in the same complex, we jumped on it.
02:49Like, it is, I think, genius.
02:51So I don't really, I don't know.
02:54I mean, are you that insecure that you're worried that I'm going to, like, get back together with my ex-husband?
02:59I mean, you broke up for a reason.
03:01It's not about my insecurity.
03:03It's, like, I've been in situations like that.
03:05Like, you're right next door to, y'all were together for a reason for a long time.
03:08Like, there's plenty of things.
03:09There's plenty of history.
03:10I just don't want to be a part of the mess whenever you guys figure out, like, oh, you know what, we'll make this work again.
03:14I just don't think I need to get involved emotionally or anything because it's going to just blow up in my face.
03:19We have a kid, okay?
03:20If we wanted to stay together, we would have done everything possible to stay together for our child.
03:25So, like, you need to just kind of put your big boy pants on and take a breath.
03:31Don't insult me.
03:33Well, you're insulting me.
03:34Like, I don't know what I'm doing with my life and I don't know how to make decisions for myself and that I'm going to go and, like, create a relationship with somebody who I clearly, it's not the right fit.
03:45Well, let me ask a question, Leah.
03:47How much do you see your ex?
03:49I mean, do you guys go to the pool together?
03:51Do you go to the gym together?
03:53Do you guys hang out outside and do stuff together with your son a lot then?
03:57Yeah, of course.
03:57I mean, we spend a lot of time with him.
03:59We think it's important for our son to have us both in his life.
04:03Don't you think it's a bigger red flag if we were fighting all the time?
04:06You know?
04:07Like, it's kind of a testament to your emotional maturity, Patrick, that you can't handle this.
04:12That's cool.
04:13Like, I thought you were cool, but I just don't want to be a part of that.
04:15Like, it's beautiful that y'all have whatever you've got going on figured out and that y'all are so good at it or whatever,
04:20but I just don't want to be a part of it, you know?
04:23Patrick, do you feel like you would be, you know, kind of competing all the time?
04:27Exactly.
04:27I don't want, yeah, I want to start something fresh.
04:29I don't want to see your failed marriage right next door every time we hang out.
04:34Yeah, but if we were dating, like, you knew I was divorced.
04:38You knew I had a kid, so you went on the date anyway.
04:41If we were dating, you would have to see him at family functions.
04:44Like, you would have to see him anyway.
04:46It's not like he stalks me.
04:48He's not like standing outside my window waiting for me to come out the door.
04:51I don't know that.
04:53You can see right into your living room from outside.
04:56Patrick, we called to ask you a question.
04:59We wanted to find out, you know, what was going on and if there was a possibility that, you know,
05:04you wanted to ask Leah out on another date.
05:07Or maybe not ask, just agree to go out on another date.
05:10I mean, definitely not after she said, put my big boy pants on.
05:15Yeah, clearly you can't handle this.
05:17So, I think that's a little bit.
05:17You know what, I'm fresh out of big boy pants.
05:19I'm not going, like, we're not going to go out.
05:20I'm fresh out of big boy pants.
05:22I'm so sorry.
05:22Okay.
05:23Yeah, well, I'm sorry for you.
05:26All right, well, guys, obviously this is not going to work.
05:29This is a little bit too much for Patrick.
05:31Leah, I think if you're happy with your situation, that's great and great for your kid.
05:35But it's not going to work out with Patrick.
05:37So, I'm sorry to hear that and I really do wish you the best.
05:42I appreciate your help.
05:43All right.
05:43Sorry.
05:44You guys take care.
05:45Bye.
05:46All right, see ya.
05:47I have to be on his side with this one.
05:50I get it.
05:51I mean, for instance, you know, Kristen's ex lives down the street, not in the same neighborhood,
05:56but, like, down the street, less, you know, a mile away.
05:58And it is what it is.
06:00It's not like he's popping over.
06:01But when you live right next door and you're seeing that person every time you walk out of your house.
06:05I was putting myself, I'm like, if Paul's ex was right there all the time, nope, I'm not doing that.
06:11No way.
06:12That's just an awkward situation.
06:14I mean, in a townhome, you share a wall, don't you, too, in a townhome?
06:17Yeah.
06:18I mean, I understand that, you know, it's good for the parents and the co-parenting, but not so good for the new relationship.
06:24That would just be an awkward situation.
06:25I don't know, but I'm getting a ton of texts on this right now.
06:28All right, I want to get some calls right now.
06:29800-992-1099, 800-992-1099.
06:33Hit us up.
06:35Would this have been a deal breaker for you?
06:36Should have Patrick looked past this?
06:39We want to know.
06:40Hit us up.