Second Date Update - The Squatter
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00:00Trying to help out Ryan this morning on the second date update, get him set back up with
00:04Emily so they can continue their romantic dates because they've been on two dates.
00:08It seemed like they were pretty good.
00:10It's commercial-free, new country, 99.5 QIK.
00:13That last date they went on, he actually cooked for her.
00:16And he said he put her in the car and he hadn't heard from her since.
00:20We're like, wait a minute, what?
00:21But we do have her on the phone with us.
00:25She has agreed to talk to us, which is awesome.
00:28Let's bring her on right now.
00:29Emily, are you there?
00:30Yeah, I'm here.
00:31Thank you, Emily, for coming on.
00:33I know that's a weird ask to be like, hey, you want to go on the radio?
00:36So I totally get that you can kind of be apprehensive about this.
00:40But we're just going to be straightforward with you.
00:42This is about a date you went on.
00:43You just heard us talking about that date and that guy, Ryan, that you went out with.
00:47And he thought things went well and it was very romantic.
00:50And it was definitely leading towards a third date.
00:52But that has not happened yet.
00:54And we want to know why that hasn't happened yet.
00:57Okay.
00:57Well, I don't know if he told you this part, but he's basically like a squatter.
01:04A squatter?
01:06Wait, somebody that lives in somebody else's house?
01:09Yeah.
01:09He doesn't have his own place.
01:11Like, he cooked me dinner at his friend's place, which I didn't find out until like halfway through the meal.
01:17Okay, so if it's his friend's place, let's hold off on calling somebody a squatter.
01:21It's his buddy's house, so maybe he'll stay in there.
01:24Are we sure it's his friend's house?
01:26I mean, like, he has no intention of getting his own place.
01:30He just stays at his friend's place and doesn't have a home.
01:33He doesn't have his own place.
01:34Well, did you talk to him about this?
01:36Like, why he's in this situation?
01:38Yeah, I mean, I guess he's wanting to save money, and I don't know.
01:42I mean, it all just seems kind of creepy and weird.
01:45He's kind of vague.
01:46He's like, oh, I'm in between places, and I'm like, you're posing as a homeowner, and you're not.
01:52Like, you're lying, basically.
01:55Yeah, I mean, I guess he could pose as worse things.
01:56Oh, he said that that place was his?
01:59Well, he said, come back to my place, and I'll cook you dinner.
02:03Like, he wasn't like, hey, I'm staying with my friend's, you know, I'm staying at my friend's place.
02:06Like, he wasn't transparent about it at all, and he took me out to a restaurant.
02:10We went to have sushi the first time, so I didn't know what his living situation was.
02:14And he didn't say that he's in between places.
02:17He didn't let me know until we were in the house eating food.
02:21Okay.
02:22All right, here's the deal.
02:23We do have Ryan on the phone with us, too.
02:25Let's see if we can get some answers from him, because I know that would be kind of an interesting situation,
02:28especially if you're over there at his house having dinner, and you're like, wait, this is not your house.
02:33You know, I could see how that news would be a little shocking to you.
02:36Ryan.
02:38Yeah.
02:39You heard what she had to say.
02:40Does that kind of describe your living situation?
02:42You're kind of just staying with a buddy?
02:43I mean, yeah.
02:45Like, I don't see what's so weird about that.
02:50I'm just, you know.
02:51It's disturbing.
02:51I'm asking with a friend.
02:52You're pretending there, and you're pretending that it's no big deal, and you're playing it off like it's your place.
02:58Like, I cannot stress to you enough, Ryan, that you are a grown man, and you should have your own place.
03:04And if you don't, you need to disclose that, like, right off the bat.
03:08Okay, but, like, would you say that to somebody if they were renting an apartment?
03:12That's not their place.
03:13You're not paying anything.
03:14You're staying there for free.
03:16Yeah, but I'm concerned.
03:17It's not like I broke in.
03:19I got a buddy who is letting me stay with him while I stack paper so I can move into the place I want.
03:25Where was your buddy during all this, the date?
03:28Was he just...
03:29He's on vacation.
03:30So he knows you're there, right?
03:32Yes.
03:32Yeah.
03:33So how long are you staying at your buddy's house then?
03:38Until I have enough money to jump into a new place.
03:41I'm just stacking.
03:42I want to be able to move into a, you know, get the exact right place for me, and I just haven't found the right place yet.
03:48Mortgage rates are crazy.
03:49Rent's crazy.
03:50You know, figured I'd...
03:52So, you know, I'm saving a little bit of money.
03:53I got a buddy who's got a house that's paid for, and you are the only person that has made a big deal about this.
03:59Ew, it's not fine, buddy.
04:01Like, no, this is not attractive.
04:04No one loves this.
04:05You're going to go off a little classist.
04:07Just saying.
04:08What?
04:09No.
04:09What?
04:09No, it is not classist.
04:12You lied to me about your situation, and that is not cool.
04:17The fact that you know about it means I didn't lie to you.
04:20No, you didn't.
04:21You didn't tell me until we were there.
04:23You made it sound like it was your home.
04:26It's where I'm staying, ergo, it is my home right now.
04:30No, no, no.
04:32Okay, I see how you are.
04:33I see how this is.
04:34You like to twist stuff.
04:36Hey, guys, listen.
04:37Make sure that you only set her up with somebody who is a homeowner because, you know, she's got expensive taste.
04:44No, set me up with someone who doesn't lie through their teeth and act like they have this beautiful house when it's not theirs,
04:50and they're not paying any money, and they're just using their friend.
04:53I'm staying in a beautiful house.
04:54You are just, yeah, well, you guys, like, live together when he's home.
04:58It's not your house.
04:59It's his house, and you are just living in it.
05:01Yeah, I just, I'm not understanding why this is such an issue for her.
05:05A lot of people stay with friends until they can move into their own place.
05:10I think the issue, too, is that he kind of played it off as his, and also he kind of is not in a rush to go get his own place.
05:18I kind of get that feeling.
05:21That's it.
05:21Okay.
05:22All right.
05:22Well, I can't believe I'm asking this.
05:25I think it's a yes.
05:26I think it's a yes.
05:26Is this going to be a deal breaker for you, Emily?
05:29Yeah, obviously it's a deal breaker.
05:30Yeah, I got you.
05:31I got you.
05:32Well, now you know what's going on and what happened to her after you put her in the car.
05:36And you know what, how she's feeling about everything.
05:39So there's not going to be a third date.
05:41I'm sorry, man.
05:42It is what it is.
05:43Okay.
05:44Well, thanks for coming on, guys.
05:45Have a great day.
05:47Thanks.
05:47I guess if he has no plans in moving out anytime soon, I can see that.
05:55But if you're staying with somebody temporarily, she should be understanding because he's trying to save up.
06:01It sounds like he's saving up.
06:03That's what he said.
06:03But sitting in somebody's house that you don't know and they're not there and you're on a date with somebody that you're still trying to get to know.
06:10If you're trying to play it off as it's your own place, yeah, that's not a cool move.
06:13That's a little weird.
06:14Yeah.
06:15Well, this has been a deal breaker for you.
06:16Did you do anything wrong?
06:17We want to know.
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