Second Date Update - Out Of Bounds
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00:00All right, Hunter has pretty much laid it out for us about his date with Jill.
00:04It's the second date update right now, commercial-free New Country, 99.5 QIK.
00:08He's excited to see Jill again, but after their date, they were texting a bunch,
00:13but then it just kind of just dropped off.
00:15Yeah, he says they both talked about going out on another date.
00:18The date went well, so he doesn't understand what happened.
00:21Okay, so we do have Jill on hold.
00:24Kevin was able to track her down.
00:25Let's bring her back on right now.
00:26Jill, you there?
00:27Yeah, I'm here.
00:28Hey, Jill, thanks for agreeing to talk to us on the air.
00:30We really, really, really appreciate it.
00:33You just heard us talking about your date, and we heard you guys went to the Salt Shack
00:36and had a great time, and then you guys were talking about hanging out again,
00:41but those plans never happened, and we were kind of just trying to figure out
00:45why those plans never happened.
00:47No, I mean, we did, you know, that's accurate.
00:50We had a great time.
00:51It's just that he, you know, he has some kids with his ex,
00:55and his ex has, like, complete control over him.
00:58Like, no concern about his schedule, does whatever she says.
01:03Just, like, no.
01:05Mm-mm.
01:05Can I ask how you know all this?
01:08Oh, because, you know, he was, we were trying to make plans,
01:11and he just, like, kept canceling.
01:14She just would always change, like, the pickup time, like, willy-nilly,
01:18like, not an emergency, just, I don't know, she wanted to get her nails done
01:22or something, I don't even know.
01:24Oh.
01:24Like, he did it a couple times.
01:26He, like, canceled again, same reason, just, like,
01:29and the thing is, like, his ex doesn't even work.
01:32I mean, I'm not, like, discounting the job of a mom, you know what I mean?
01:36Mm-hmm.
01:37But, like, she doesn't have to juggle, like, a job as well as her kids,
01:40so, like, why does he have to do anything for her?
01:43You know?
01:44So he's canceling plans with you because she's changing the schedule.
01:50Yeah.
01:51So she's kind of dictating his dating life now.
01:54Oh, absolutely.
01:55Oh, and he's not standing up to her, it doesn't sound like he's not saying,
01:57hey, I can't, I have plans.
01:59Yeah, did he try to do that?
02:01Not at all.
02:02That would be a game, you know, that would be a whole different ballgame.
02:04But, like, he does not stand up to her at all.
02:07Every single day that he has off that he could potentially make plans,
02:11she just, like, swoops in, takes his time,
02:13so I'm not dating a guy where, like, this woman has total control over him.
02:19Okay.
02:20Well, here's the deal.
02:22Jill, we do have Hunter on the phone with us,
02:24and he did not tell us all that,
02:26and maybe he doesn't even know that you feel that way,
02:29but he heard what you had to say,
02:30so I want to just kind of get his reaction.
02:33Hunter, are you there?
02:34Yeah.
02:35I mean, Jill, I can't control that as far as my ex,
02:40and when I have to come get the kids.
02:42You know, again, it's about my kids,
02:44and it's not about my ex.
02:46It has nothing to do with her.
02:47You know, she wanted me to come get the kids earlier that day
02:51that we talked about,
02:52and I just had to be there and for the kids.
02:55Look, I'm trying to make peace here, too.
02:57Like, I don't want my kids to disrupt the kids
03:00and their movements and their everyday life.
03:01I want them to still understand that they have a great mom and dad
03:06who still are in their lives, you know, pretty regularly.
03:11So, you know, this is a tricky situation,
03:14but it's not about her.
03:15It's not about my ex.
03:17I really wish we could try to figure this out here.
03:19Well, you know, it is about helping her out.
03:22I don't believe it's all about your kids.
03:24I believe it's about being there for her,
03:26and you're just, like, never going to find a woman
03:28who's going to tolerate this.
03:30Hey, Hunter, I've got a question for you.
03:32Does your wife ask, or I'm sorry, your ex-wife,
03:35ask you to help out with the kids
03:37when she knows you have a date,
03:39or does she not even know that you have a date?
03:41No, she doesn't know,
03:42because I don't tell her that information.
03:43Okay, I just didn't know she was blocking you from something, you know.
03:46Yeah, no, no, she doesn't,
03:48unless someone else tells her,
03:49because obviously my buddies know that I'm going on these dates, but...
03:52Well, hopefully your buddies are not talking to your ex-wife.
03:53But she knows your schedule
03:56and when you're not working,
03:58so she knows when you're free,
04:00and so she's taking that time away from you?
04:03Exactly.
04:04She knows when I have free time
04:05and we don't get too personal about,
04:07or asking questions about each other's personal time.
04:10Sure.
04:11As a rule, we kind of set,
04:13which is respectful,
04:14and she understands that.
04:15And so, yes, this does happen,
04:17but again, it's not about her.
04:18It's always about my kids,
04:19and I'm trying to see,
04:20you know, I like to spend as much time as I can with my kids,
04:23and I'm also trying to have a personal life here
04:25and go out there and meet somebody.
04:27So, you know, I'm really trying here, Jill.
04:29I just, you know, give me some credit.
04:32I'm sorry.
04:33I just feel like you're her nanny, basically.
04:35And the thing is,
04:36I just feel like you're a great dad.
04:39I'm not disputing that,
04:40but you just don't have room for two women in your life,
04:43and I'm certainly not going to be one of those women.
04:45Oh.
04:46Hey.
04:46Hey.
04:47No, I'm sorry.
04:48Just not doing it.
04:50Hmm.
04:51Well, Hunter, you heard Jill right there.
04:54I think she's kind of just point blank said it,
04:56that she's not looking to go on another date with you.
04:59I'm sorry that's the case.
05:01The situation's not for her,
05:02and like you said, it's all about your kids,
05:03and you've got to be there for your kids.
05:05This is not going to work, I don't think, for Jill.
05:08So, Hunter, thanks for coming on with us.
05:10Jill, thanks for coming on with us,
05:12and I hope you guys have a great day,
05:13and I wish you both luck, okay?
05:15All right, guys.
05:18I mean, I feel bad for Hunter.
05:20I think all of us do,
05:21because he's just trying to be a good dad,
05:23but I think I can understand you have to set boundaries,
05:26and you can't let your ex control your life.
05:30Well, if every time he's canceling,
05:32he's saying to Jill,
05:34oh, my ex needs me, or whatever.
05:37That's what it sounded like.
05:37That's not going to be a good look.
05:38That's not a good look at all, and yeah,
05:41and it doesn't, and like you said,
05:42he's saying it's about the kids,
05:44but it sounds like he's helping her out.
05:47Yeah.
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