Second Date Update - To Whom It May Concern
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00:00Alright, so Carly has reached out to us. She sounds like she's very confident in her date with Thomas. It sounded like it went well. They went to Blue Saki in Dunedin for sushi. And they even talked a little bit after the date.
00:13Yeah, she made it sound like this guy was a really good guy. I mean, he texted her. He's like, hey, make sure you get home okay. He like walked her to her car. She said he was really good looking. And I kind of asked her, I'm like, what'd you do wrong? And she's like, I don't know.
00:26So, we were able to track him down because he has not been getting back to her. But he has agreed to talk to us on the air and give us some answers on this. Thomas, you there?
00:38I'm here.
00:38Thomas, thank you for agreeing to talk to us on the air, man. You know what this is about. This is about Carly. We kind of just were talking right there about your guys' date. We want to know what happened because we want to set you guys up again.
00:49Yeah, I don't know about that. Yeah, it was weird, I got to say. Like, the date itself went really great. I'm attracted to her. And she's really interesting. And I thought everything was going really well. But then she made this one comment at the end of the night. And it kind of just spoiled the whole thing, if you ask me.
01:09Okay, what did she say?
01:10Well, she admitted that she was in a relationship, like a long-term relationship with her boyfriend who lives in LA. And it's been going on for years now. And it's like a long-distance thing. But they have an understanding. They have this agreement where they're out to see other people. And kind of, you know, I don't know. Yeah, not just be alone.
01:28So, she has a boyfriend and she's dating other people.
01:32Yeah, it's very weird. Can you imagine dating her and then the guy, like, flies in. He's been visiting that weekend. You just have to, like, pretend you're not together. Or, you know what I mean? It's so weird.
01:43Yeah. That's not cool. I can understand why you're not calling her back.
01:48So, she just was very open about this. And it just acted like it was no big deal, huh?
01:52Yeah, exactly. She thought it was nothing. And, you know, what do you mean? But she just played it off.
01:58Like, it was too casual. I would have at least tried to explain it the best I could.
02:02And, hey, I can understand if you're weirded out by this. It was none of that.
02:05It was just like, oh, yeah, no, I'm my long-term boyfriend. And we have an agreement to see other people.
02:10By the way.
02:12Yeah, but it was really weird.
02:14Hey, Thomas, we're going to ask her about this because we have her on the phone with us.
02:18You should ask her. Oh, really?
02:20Yeah.
02:22Carly.
02:22Hey, guys. Hello.
02:24Is this accurate? You're just kind of in a...
02:26Yeah.
02:26Okay. Can you explain this to us a little bit?
02:29Yeah, absolutely.
02:30Our relationship is that, you know, he's in L.A. and I'm here.
02:35And, like, we don't want to stop each other from experiencing other people in general.
02:41And if something happens, it happens.
02:42We've been together for, like, five, six years.
02:45Sorry.
02:45Yeah, we're just in an open relationship.
02:47And so, you know, guys, it's 2023. Come on.
02:49Like, we don't want each other to stop exploring people.
02:53And in so many relationships, people are like, you can't be with, hang out with them because they're, you know, this gender.
03:00Or I don't trust you because they're that.
03:02And that's like, we don't, we just don't agree with that.
03:05Well, I think, what are your long-term plans with this boyfriend of yours in L.A.?
03:10Well, that's, we're just in it together as it is.
03:14We're super present with this.
03:16And that's part of the, you know, since we're bicoastal, it's like we're definitely experiencing other people in relationships.
03:23And if, you know, we fall in love with somebody else, then we understand that's part of our agreement.
03:29Wow.
03:30So you don't care if he goes out with other women and falls in love with somebody else?
03:33You're going to be fine with that?
03:35I mean, yeah.
03:36That's part of it.
03:37I mean, it might hurt.
03:38But, of course, I don't go through those emotions, but I'm not going to hold them back.
03:43That wouldn't be fair to me.
03:44And he feels the same way about me.
03:46Okay.
03:47And I really like Thomas.
03:48Like, I really, like, I just really enjoyed you.
03:51And it sucks that you don't want to, you know, enjoy me back.
03:57Well, geez.
03:59Let me ask you this, Thomas.
04:00What are your thoughts after hearing her talk about this a little bit?
04:03Even worse than it was before.
04:05I mean, it's not like this, it's like an all-you-can-eat-buffet approach to a relationship.
04:10You know?
04:11Oh, no.
04:11That's not at all what's going on.
04:13I want to be able to sample everything at the same time.
04:16It's like, what are you talking about?
04:17No, that's not at all what's going on.
04:18What are you talking about?
04:19This is insane.
04:20Maybe you just can't handle being in an open relationship.
04:23And that's okay.
04:24I get it.
04:25I know.
04:25I can't.
04:25You're totally right.
04:26Okay.
04:27Yeah, he's just not ready.
04:28Not ready?
04:29I'm never going to be ready.
04:31Do you send Christmas cards and Valentine's cards to both men you're seeing then?
04:35I mean, do you get it mixed up sometimes?
04:38What's there to mix up, though?
04:40See, that's so...
04:42No, she just sends it.
04:42That's an ignorant statement.
04:43No, she says, to whom it may concern.
04:46To whom it may concern.
04:48Oh, man.
04:49I feel bad for you guys.
04:50You're so one-track minded.
04:52Hey, you know what?
04:52To each their own.
04:53I will say that, Carly.
04:55Well, thank you.
04:55But I don't think it's going to be for Thomas.
04:58And I think you're realizing that, too.
05:00Yeah, it's okay.
05:01I probably dodged the bullet.
05:03Okay.
05:03All right.
05:04Well, Carly, thank you for coming on with us.
05:06And we got you some answers.
05:08Thomas, thanks for your time as well.
05:09Yeah.
05:10I wish you luck.
05:11All right.
05:11Thanks, guys.
05:12All right.
05:13How does she not know that that was the reason he wasn't calling her back?
05:18I mean, it's normal to her.
05:20That's very normal to her.
05:21You heard it in her voice.
05:22She has no idea why that's weird to anybody else.
05:25I mean, here's the thing, though, is that she will probably find somebody that will want
05:29to hang out with her because it'll be a guy that doesn't want to get in a serious relationship
05:32and just wants to hang out and have fun.
05:35Yeah.
05:35She is not the first person I have heard say that they are in that type of relationship
05:39before.
05:39Yeah.
05:39It's just obviously not for Thomas, but she'll definitely find somebody who's totally
05:43totally cool with that.
05:44I want to get your thoughts on this.
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