The MRL Show: LauRen's List For Getting Over An Ex
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00:00So we hear all the time about how Charlotte is so hard to date in, but maybe you're going through a breakup.
00:09I like this. This is a Lorenz list. How to get over an ex immediately. Not not 10 minutes from now.
00:16Right. Not two hours from now, but immediately get over an ex. I like six months from now.
00:20Right. All right. So there's 10 of these. I'll put the whole list up and I'm going to share with you my top five.
00:26OK. OK. Number one is to accept whatever you feel. Going through a breakup is like an addiction.
00:37You've been with that person. So you have to expect to have withdrawals from that person.
00:42Right. And it's OK. And that's OK. Got to have empathy, kindness and compassion for yourself.
00:49There's nothing worse than like sharing an apartment with someone you dated and then you break up and then you come home and they're not there because you're using it.
00:56I'm not used to them being there. But I'm glad you brought up places because that is also on my list.
01:00You move out immediately. This I think that this is very important. Stay away from the places that you used to frequent together.
01:09What if you live together? Well, you should probably move. No. Burn the place down.
01:15No. But like if you used to go to a coffee shop, you know, and it was right by your place or something like that,
01:22you've got to stay away from that coffee shop because that's going to just keep dredging those feelings.
01:27OK. You've got to break up completely. Break away.
01:32Yeah. We're talking no calls, no emails, no text messages, no DMs, no Facebook stalking.
01:38Yeah. That's the hardest part. That is. That's the hardest part for a lot of people.
01:43Yeah.
01:45As you still want to have that connection and you're like, you know, we're not dating anymore, but we still want to be friends.
01:50Like I know I always prided myself on breaking up with someone and then being friendly with them.
01:57And I think it made it easier for me, but harder for them.
02:00Right. So guys are really much better at like compartmentalizing and like getting rid of those feelings where women like we're such compassionate people and passionate people that we we tend to hang on to things.
02:15OK. So another thing that you can do, these are secrets to get over a breakup guaranteed immediately.
02:22Get out your journal, get out a diary and whatever feelings you feel like you're having that you want to text that person or write to that person.
02:30Just put it in the journal. Close it. Put it away.
02:34Don't text it. Don't text it. Don't DM it.
02:38Nope. OK. Put it in a journal. So at least you write it down and you get it out, but you're just not sending it.
02:42Right. And then my last one, and I think this is the most important. Do not isolate yourself.
02:47Go out with friends, go out with family, like start living again.
02:52Hmm. Like that one of the putting that one step first is the biggest step. Right.
02:57Like to forward motion. Yeah. And then the rest of this will fall in.
03:01I think only two people broke my two women broke my heart.
03:05My high school sweetheart, when she broke up with me, when she when we got out of high school, we dated even like a year while she was in college.
03:12And then her sophomore year, she's ain't about you anymore.
03:14Like high school boyfriend. I got new things going on in college. And that was pretty sad for me.
03:18Yeah. And then when I moved to Arkansas, I dated someone for like a year.
03:23I lived there for two years. I dated her for a year and she moved into my apartment.
03:27Remember, she was the one that was still married. Oh, yeah. Yeah.
03:29And she moved into my apartment. And that's the one that really broke your heart.
03:32Yeah, because like I was so young and I never really lived with anyone before.
03:36And like we played house. You know, I like that she had she brought all the stuff from her house, the dishes, the fishbowl, the pictures like my place went from bachelor pad to actual house.
03:48Yeah. My apartment. And then quickly as as quickly as she came, it ended like in I don't know, we dated only for three months and but it was hot and heavy.
03:57And I thought for sure that like that would continue. Did you think she was the one?
04:00I don't know what I thought. I was 23, dude. She was this beautiful, blonde haired woman.
04:06I mean, and she I knew she was separating. Yeah.
04:09And I thought for sure she was going to get a divorce, but she never did.
04:13No dice, huh?
04:15She's also the one who I moved furniture with, with the two year old was on the bed.
04:18Oh, goodbye.
04:19Goodbye.