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00:00Manhood, brought to you in part by Solomon's Bespoke.
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00:14Welcome to another conversation here on Manhood.
00:17And just a refresher and a reminder,
00:20we are not speaking on behalf of all men,
00:23we are few men speaking to all men.
00:25So the topic today is respect above all.
00:28To my right, Johanse Aodike, Behavior Change Consultant.
00:32To his right, Ziggy Ranking, who certainly needs no introduction.
00:37And to his right, Niall McNeish.
00:40I normally would go with the vibes, God,
00:42but he wants to be called the provocateur as well.
00:44So let's add that in for Niall.
00:47So I'm giving him his due respect.
00:49So we're talking here, again, guys, respect above all.
00:53So let me just start off by what we mean by that.
00:55Both, when we say the two things that all humans want
01:00is to be loved and to know that they are enough, right?
01:03So that's for both male and female.
01:05But for men in particular,
01:08it seems that men strive or desire or require more than anything.
01:13Because sometimes when you say desire,
01:14it might be conscious or subconsciously.
01:18Yearn for respect.
01:19And if you don't get that respect,
01:21you either retaliate consciously or subconsciously.
01:24So men requiring respect above everything else.
01:28And if disrespect follows,
01:31then, of course, negative reactions follow that.
01:35All right.
01:35I think a good place to start is
01:37we can define exactly what respect is.
01:39And I mean, everybody may have a different definition.
01:41I'll go with what I believe is a dictionary definition,
01:45which is, I think,
01:46a regard for someone's wishes or values, right?
01:52That's very interesting, right?
01:53If I was to say my personal,
01:55I would say a care or appreciation
02:00for someone's values or someone's opinion.
02:04So if I say,
02:05I don't like you to wear shoes in my house.
02:08I'll just give an example.
02:09You deciding, okay, well, I'll take off my shoes.
02:12That is showing some sort of regard
02:14and respect for my wishes.
02:16Okay.
02:16Right?
02:17If I say I don't want you to send me
02:19no longer than two-minute voice notes, right?
02:22And you still continue.
02:24Right.
02:24That is not regard for my wishes.
02:26That's my take at first.
02:28Ziggy, tell us.
02:29I agree fully with you 100%.
02:31From my upbringing and thing,
02:35respect is one of the fundamental things
02:38that foundation in my household.
02:40And the terms that is make life go much easier
02:43once everybody has mutual respect.
02:46Respect, too, don't mean that
02:47they have to agree with that man.
02:50Right, true.
02:51Right, true.
02:51Right, true.
02:51For me, we can have the same opinion
02:55and sometimes a man might say,
02:56well, you think that way
02:57and because you think in that way,
02:59you figure you're disrespecting him
03:00because you have a different mental.
03:01But my solution for that respect
03:04is always just a conversation.
03:08You know what I mean?
03:08And once the respect in that atmosphere,
03:11for me, if we disagree on something,
03:13once we could find a common ground,
03:15and I understand, well,
03:16that is your perspective,
03:16that is mine.
03:17For me, that is also respect.
03:19You know what I mean?
03:19So you're basically having a regard
03:21for that person's opinion.
03:22Even though you differ
03:23in your understanding
03:25or differ in your opinion,
03:26you're respecting each other's people
03:28as both brethren or brothers and men,
03:32that that's your opinion
03:34and we could agree to disagree.
03:35Yeah.
03:36But it's when that doesn't happen.
03:38Yeah, when that doesn't happen,
03:39that disrespect.
03:40That disrespect is in food.
03:41Which is the majority of the time,
03:43isn't it, sir?
03:44The disrespect, if that's the case,
03:46is the majority of the time
03:47of human interactions.
03:48The minute that somebody
03:50don't agree with somebody else,
03:51think about it.
03:53How many genders are there?
03:56Well, I...
03:57You're going on the road as well.
03:59No good.
04:00Because a lot of people
04:02with a court will think of that
04:03as disrespect for the people
04:04because based on what Johan
04:06said just described
04:07as the definition of respect
04:08is the regards of someone's
04:11interests or needs, right?
04:12But I think people don't know
04:14what respect is.
04:15And think they know
04:16and say it is because
04:17if I have regard for your wishes,
04:19so let's just say
04:21I'll use the same thing.
04:22I regard that you want me
04:25to take off my shoes
04:26in your house, right?
04:27But I don't want to take off
04:28my shoes.
04:29Then I stay outside.
04:30So if...
04:31And that...
04:31And that's okay.
04:32That means I disagree with you.
04:34That could potentially
04:35be viewed as disrespect.
04:37And I agree with you
04:37because it's like,
04:38okay, well,
04:40is it so difficult for you
04:42to respect my wishes?
04:43So rather than you
04:44respect my wishes,
04:45you prefer to stay outside.
04:46But in a way,
04:47it's semantics in a way
04:49or subjective
04:50because I could say,
04:51well, no,
04:51I am respecting your wishes.
04:52I could leave on my shoes
04:54and prance in your house.
04:55But instead of doing that...
04:56What Robert said there
04:58is the reason
04:58you don't know
04:59what respect is
05:00because if I say...
05:01If you say,
05:02take off your shoes
05:03to come in my house
05:03and I say,
05:04nah, boy,
05:05I don't want to take off
05:06my shoes.
05:06And I say,
05:07well, let me talk.
05:08So I stand up outside
05:08the house and we talk.
05:10You regard for my wishes
05:11because I don't want
05:12to take off my shoes.
05:13I regard for your wishes
05:14because I'm not coming
05:16in your house
05:16with my shoes
05:17but we stand up
05:18and talk outside.
05:19But the moment...
05:20And this is where I think,
05:21I don't know
05:21when it gets skewed.
05:22I don't know how long ago.
05:24As soon as somebody
05:25don't agree with you,
05:26it's disrespect
05:27and they start to get off.
05:29So that mutual respect
05:30is important
05:31but I just want
05:31to touch on something
05:32because, you know,
05:32I don't like on this show
05:33especially Ziggy
05:34to leave things
05:35open-ended, right?
05:36Or subject to interpretation.
05:38So when Niall asked,
05:40only both of us responded
05:41with regards to
05:42how many genders are there.
05:44As far as I'm concerned,
05:45there are two, right?
05:46Now, you said to,
05:47based on the definition,
05:49that people may feel disrespected.
05:52Based on our understanding
05:54of what respect is
05:54and to use Johans's analogy,
05:57I'm not disrespecting
05:58anybody who asked me
05:59my opinion
06:00and my thoughts
06:01and what my values are.
06:03So I'm not disrespecting
06:05anybody by saying
06:06that they're two, right?
06:08If they believe
06:09that they're more than two,
06:10then that's...
06:11I'm respecting that
06:12you believe that.
06:13I'm not challenging
06:14that in any particular way.
06:16I'm just saying
06:16if you ask me,
06:17Robert Dumas,
06:18how many genders
06:19there are...
06:20Well, it wasn't you
06:21in particular.
06:22I'm just saying
06:23that that is subject
06:24to interpretation,
06:25but it's definitely
06:26in no way
06:28meant to be
06:28a disrespect
06:29to anybody
06:30and their own beliefs.
06:30Well, let me expand
06:31on it then.
06:32If it is that
06:33a man who is now
06:35identifying as a woman
06:37says that he wants
06:38to be labeled
06:39as such,
06:40would you call him
06:41a her?
06:42Would you say she
06:43as in addressing him?
06:45No,
06:46because then
06:47it violates my values.
06:49So we could agree
06:50to disagree.
06:50If it is the only way
06:52I could speak to you
06:53is to address you
06:54as she,
06:54and in my opinion
06:56it's not that,
06:57then we wouldn't talk.
06:57Then we wouldn't talk.
06:58We wouldn't have a conversation.
06:59And that is
07:01I respecting you
07:01by not disrespecting you
07:03by calling a he
07:04or something
07:04you don't want.
07:05And then I
07:06and I keep
07:07and I hold in my ground.
07:08Well, let's wrap it.
07:09We could go deeper,
07:09you know,
07:09because if that's the case,
07:11we could go even further
07:11back when
07:12there had a time
07:13where black people
07:13wasn't even looked at
07:15or viewed as humans.
07:17It's a whole race
07:18of people,
07:18right?
07:19So to them now
07:21as far as they're concerned
07:24this is their reality,
07:26right?
07:27And what you're suggesting
07:29is that
07:29we as
07:32well,
07:32black people
07:33were supposed to say
07:34well, okay,
07:34I respect
07:35how you feel about it
07:37and we should just
07:39move to suit.
07:40Now, Niall,
07:42you really said
07:42that's a rabbit hole,
07:43eh?
07:44Because
07:44if we're talking about
07:46and I'll
07:47before we started,
07:49I think the discussion
07:49outside of the room
07:51was it has to be earned,
07:53right?
07:53Respect has to be earned.
07:54Respect has to be earned.
07:55And there was
07:56a little banter
07:57about that.
07:58Even for race,
07:59if one race
08:00don't like the other race,
08:02to me,
08:03that is their opinion.
08:05I shouldn't strive
08:06to change their opinion.
08:08So if you're using
08:08white, black,
08:10black people
08:11shouldn't try
08:11to make other people
08:12like them.
08:14Understand that
08:14they don't like you
08:15and then,
08:16as you say,
08:17move to suit.
08:18Do your thing,
08:19right?
08:20Stand outside.
08:22That's race.
08:23That's race.
08:24You're doing that
08:24inequality of rights,
08:25human rights,
08:26because you still
08:27recognize that
08:28we're humans
08:29and as a human
08:31we have rights.
08:31You mightn't like it
08:32or you mightn't want to,
08:34you have,
08:35it could be your opinion,
08:36you know,
08:36your decision
08:37not to interact.
08:39Like you don't have
08:40to marry a black person
08:41or a black person
08:41doesn't have to marry
08:42a white person,
08:43but we have to respect
08:44the human right
08:45of being able
08:46to access
08:47the same things.
08:48But that's only
08:48after the fact though,
08:49because at that point
08:50in time it had
08:51no such thing as...
08:52No, but I'm saying to you,
08:53notice I said human.
08:54Right.
08:54When someone tells me,
08:55call them a particular name,
08:57right,
08:57based on that,
08:58that's outside of,
09:00and you did point out
09:01rabbit hole,
09:02and I don't want us
09:03to get too much
09:04to...
09:04No, but we're still
09:05respecting them.
09:06But it's still in the respect
09:08that I can decide
09:09to myself
09:09that I am not
09:11infringing on your humanity
09:13or your human rights
09:14and I'm not violating that
09:16in my opinion.
09:18Right?
09:18I'm choosing
09:19not to call
09:20your particular name
09:21because I don't agree
09:23with it
09:23and therefore
09:24I am respecting you.
09:25But where we differ
09:27and where things
09:28start to become
09:28volcanic
09:29in the sense
09:30of our behaviors
09:32is
09:32I believe
09:34I believe
09:34in something
09:34you don't agree
09:35with me
09:36we're going
09:36to fight
09:37we're going
09:37to get aggressive
09:38I have a religion
09:40I believe
09:41in this
09:41you don't
09:42I can't convince
09:43you to believe
09:44what I believe
09:44so
09:45I am no longer
09:46respecting
09:47your opinion
09:48I'm no longer
09:49respecting your beliefs
09:50I want you to believe
09:51what I believe
09:52and if not
09:53it's not a simple
09:54case of you saying
09:55let's just agree
09:56to disagree
09:56violence takes place
09:58ignorance takes place
10:00I want to take it
10:01back to the scenario
10:02for me
10:03as I say
10:03we're not talking
10:04for all men
10:05I believe it
10:07depends on the individual
10:08and how open your mind
10:09is because
10:09as simple as
10:11the situation
10:12with
10:12I don't want to
10:13wear shoes in my house
10:14that simple situation
10:16can turn into
10:16a big back
10:17depending on
10:18the two individuals
10:19involved
10:19because the man
10:20can say
10:21well
10:21you know
10:22how you mean
10:22you ain't want me
10:24walk in your house
10:25with shoes
10:25and I can feel
10:26better than anybody
10:27else
10:27and the same
10:27way the man
10:28can say
10:28well you ain't
10:29want to come
10:29with me
10:29and you can turn
10:30into a big back
10:31and all
10:31depending on
10:32the mental
10:32of the two individuals
10:34so respect
10:35for me
10:35it depends
10:37on the
10:38people involved
10:39in that situation
10:40nah
10:41nah
10:41I disagree with that
10:42man
10:42because respect
10:43has one meaning
10:45it has one meaning
10:46but the understanding
10:46everybody has a different
10:47understanding
10:48but then
10:49then it's not
10:50respect
10:51you know
10:51you're misconstruing
10:53what respect is
10:54to suit you
10:55what
10:56from the scenarios
10:57you're all given
10:58and even I've seen it
10:59what most people
11:01want respect is
11:02you have to agree
11:03with me
11:03if I tell you something
11:04it have to be that
11:05which is
11:06bold faceness
11:07that's what it is
11:08right
11:09so
11:09maybe
11:11this conversation
11:13highlighting
11:14we don't even know
11:15what respect is
11:16really you know
11:18because respect is
11:19so respect is subjective
11:20because
11:21it can't be
11:22might be disrespected
11:23by that
11:23listen
11:23listen
11:24listen
11:24this world
11:25I understand
11:26listen
11:26this world
11:27is how interesting
11:27you can't subject
11:28you can't
11:30I can't decide
11:31what the word
11:32respect means
11:32then you decide
11:33and you decide
11:33and you decide
11:34then you all don't know
11:35what is going on
11:36no but what
11:37Johan say
11:37when you say
11:38yes
11:39I believe that
11:40respect still is
11:41subjective
11:41but it's where
11:42you're at in life
11:43because
11:43there's certain things
11:44that I might tell
11:45Niall
11:45that he
11:46wouldn't feel
11:47disrespected by
11:48but it is what
11:49he puts as
11:49his values
11:50and where
11:50where he is
11:51at in life
11:52and where he is
11:52what page he's on
11:54in his story
11:54that we call
11:55give my example
11:56so like for example
11:58I might tell Niall
11:59Niall
12:00you're always late
12:01or a cardi
12:02pen onion
12:02right
12:03now where he's in
12:04he might be in a position
12:05of I simply don't give a
12:06right
12:07that's
12:08that's not where I am
12:09in life
12:10okay
12:10right
12:10but if I might say
12:11to him
12:12Niall
12:12you know
12:13you're a crap producer
12:15no no but
12:17you're the same scenario
12:17you're late
12:18Niall
12:19you're always late
12:19no but he
12:20but that
12:21that to me
12:22might be a sign
12:22of disrespect
12:23to me
12:24the fact that
12:25you don't call
12:26you know
12:26now this is
12:27for everybody
12:28all intents and purposes
12:29this is a
12:30we're embellishing
12:31a hypothetical
12:32hypothetical situation
12:33right
12:34although he is
12:35sometimes
12:36but
12:36but
12:39the fact is
12:40that
12:41him being late
12:43to me
12:44is a sign
12:45of disrespect
12:45because
12:46if I am late
12:47there are people
12:49that
12:49most people
12:50who are late
12:50don't like
12:51other people
12:51to be late
12:51no
12:52right
12:52I just said
12:53go ahead
12:53right
12:54I not call
12:55any soaker
12:56artists
12:56or anything
12:56neighbors
12:57I just said
12:57there are people
13:02that set up
13:03when they wanted
13:04right
13:05but
13:05so
13:06Niall then
13:08feels
13:08he doesn't feel
13:09any disrespect
13:10for that
13:10because he's like
13:11well I late
13:11I didn't know
13:12to call
13:13or whatever
13:13the case
13:14for me
13:14but I feel
13:15disrespected
13:15did you tell
13:16him what
13:16to do
13:17because
13:17you see
13:17respect now
13:18comes with
13:19boundaries
13:20the only way
13:20for you to
13:21know
13:21not to
13:22wear your
13:23shoes and
13:23mouth
13:23after telling
13:24something
13:24is not
13:25by osmosis
13:26so I will
13:26have that
13:27conversation
13:28but you'll
13:28do it again
13:28because
13:29ah
13:29but if you
13:30do it again
13:30now it
13:31becomes
13:31disrespect
13:31it's a
13:32disrespect
13:32but one
13:33might be
13:34one that's
13:34not learned
13:35because in
13:35my
13:36upbringing
13:37I would
13:37have learned
13:38that being
13:38late
13:38is a form
13:39of disrespect
13:39so I agree
13:40with you
13:41so even
13:41though
13:41there are
13:42levels of
13:42disrespect
13:43because to
13:43him it
13:44might be
13:44one that's
13:44not known
13:45at that
13:46particular
13:46point
13:46it's like
13:47okay well
13:47in my
13:48environment
13:48small thing
13:50you know
13:50what I mean
13:51or you're
13:55so hard
13:56up boy
13:56all these
13:57things
13:57chill
13:57the man
13:58is
13:58only
13:58have
13:58five
13:58minutes
13:59right
13:59you know
14:01and they
14:01say
14:01you can't
14:01be late
14:02twice
14:02or like
14:02the queen
14:03says
14:03god rest
14:04her soul
14:04you know
14:04she's never
14:05late
14:06everybody else
14:06is just
14:06early
14:07but you're
14:07not the queen
14:07right
14:08so my
14:10thing in
14:11this case
14:12is that
14:13you do it
14:13once
14:14that might
14:15be an
14:15unknown
14:15but the
14:16second
14:16now that
14:17I might
14:17have
14:17communicated
14:19it to
14:19you
14:19you do
14:20it again
14:20then it's
14:21at that
14:21point
14:22there's a
14:23disrespect
14:23but we're
14:25coming back
14:26to the fact
14:26that to
14:27him in
14:28his realm
14:28is not
14:29really fully
14:30understood
14:31or embraced
14:32as a
14:32disrespect
14:32me challenging
14:34him with
14:34something that
14:35he really
14:35holds high
14:36in value
14:37is when
14:38he then
14:38feels
14:39disrespected
14:39by it
14:40that it
14:42could be
14:42you know
14:42because
14:43all right
14:43now if
14:45you are
14:45accustomed
14:46being late
14:46I'm just
14:47giving the
14:47example
14:47again
14:48Niall not
14:49always late
14:49right
14:49if you are
14:51accustomed
14:52if you are
14:52accustomed
14:52being late
14:53that's normal
14:53in your world
14:54but you want
14:55to interact
14:55with Robert
14:56and Robert
14:57say I don't
14:58like people
14:58being late
14:59or if you
15:00late call
15:00me
15:00and if you
15:01still choose
15:02you hear what
15:02Robert says
15:03and you still
15:04choose to
15:04interact with
15:05Robert
15:05but not on
15:06Robert terms
15:07that is
15:08disrespect
15:08it don't
15:09really matter
15:09what Niall
15:10background
15:10is
15:10although
15:12Niall could
15:12say
15:13nah boy
15:13see this
15:14early thing
15:14I can't
15:14take this
15:15it's better
15:15we do
15:16work together
15:16or we
15:17figure something
15:19out
15:19in terms
15:20of his
15:20decision
15:20might be
15:21purpose
15:21to
15:21hey
15:22I don't
15:23give a
15:23what our
15:23man
15:24say
15:24I
15:24gonna do
15:24my
15:25own
15:25thing
15:25it might
15:25be
15:25naturally
15:26he just
15:26can't be
15:26on time
15:27but I'm
15:28saying to
15:28by me
15:29saying Niall
15:30you know
15:30you're always
15:31late
15:31you know
15:32I can't
15:32depend on
15:33you
15:33those things
15:34could be
15:34water
15:37trade that
15:37by something
15:38that matters
15:39to him
15:39that might
15:40be me
15:41calling him
15:42something
15:42or saying
15:42something
15:43to him
15:43that he
15:44might
15:44then think
15:44I take
15:45a lot
15:45of pride
15:46in this
15:47and now
15:47that I've
15:48said you
15:48are not
15:48that
15:49as a result
15:50of this
15:50me feeling
15:51disrespected
15:52now disrespects
15:53him
15:53and I'm
15:54seeing that
15:55there's that
15:55back and
15:56forth
15:56and if we
15:57continue to
15:58use your
15:58analogy of
15:58the shoes
15:59and coming
16:00back to what
16:00you said
16:01Ziggy
16:01we're in
16:02a world
16:03that it
16:04is so fickle
16:05and so easy
16:05to feel
16:06disrespected
16:07and when I
16:07say it's
16:08subjective
16:08coming back
16:09to that
16:09it really
16:10comes down
16:11to where
16:12you are
16:12in life
16:13at that
16:14moment
16:14because
16:15if I say
16:16take off
16:17your shoes
16:17when you're
16:18coming
16:18I could
16:18simply
16:19take off
16:19my shoes
16:20and come
16:21in
16:21or I could
16:22be like
16:22nah boy
16:23I have
16:23big bunions
16:23on my toes
16:24all kinds
16:25of things
16:25I'm not
16:25taking off
16:25my shoes
16:26I'll go
16:26talk to
16:26you outside
16:27here
16:27and both
16:28parties
16:28could be
16:29cool with
16:29that
16:30but the
16:31reality is
16:32that's not
16:33going to
16:33happen
16:33because people
16:34want you
16:35to feel
16:36the way
16:37they feel
16:38or react
16:39the way
16:39they want
16:40to react
16:40and anything
16:41outside of
16:41that
16:42we're not
16:42really open
16:43to accepting
16:44differences
16:45let us
16:46not be
16:47late
16:47now
16:48to the
16:48break
16:48right
16:49this is
16:52manhood
16:52and we're
16:53going to
16:53a break
16:54and we'll
16:54be right
16:54back
16:54welcome back
17:07to manhood
17:08the topic
17:08is
17:09respect
17:09above
17:10all
17:10so
17:11here
17:11fellas
17:11I
17:13started
17:13into
17:13we
17:13having
17:14this
17:14conversation
17:14you know
17:15sometimes
17:15a man
17:16could
17:16disrespect
17:17you
17:17by not
17:17even
17:17saying
17:18how
17:18right
17:18so
17:19you
17:19have
17:20certain
17:20a man
17:21might
17:22watch
17:22you
17:22certain
17:22way
17:22and
17:22you
17:23don't
17:23know
17:23already
17:24so
17:24for
17:24me
17:24to
17:24have
17:24all
17:25types
17:25of
17:25disrespect
17:26I'm
17:28a
17:28peaceful
17:29guy
17:29I
17:29can
17:29handle
17:29it
17:29but
17:29you
17:30know
17:30one
17:30of
17:30my
17:31pet
17:31peeves
17:31I
17:32could
17:32never
17:32calm
17:33myself
17:33is
17:34when
17:34children
17:36disrespect
17:38me
17:38can't
17:39take
17:39it
17:39at
17:39all
17:40when
17:41I
17:41say
17:41children
17:41I
17:42mean
17:42like
17:42secondary
17:42school
17:42children
17:43and
17:43these
17:44kind
17:44of
17:44things
17:44like
17:44I
17:45mean
17:46back
17:47when
17:47my
17:47daughter
17:47used
17:48to
17:48go
17:48to
17:48school
17:48I
17:49mean
17:49my
17:49daughter
17:49is
17:49a
17:49very
17:50attractive
17:51young
17:51lady
17:51you
17:51know
17:52I
17:52mean
17:52but
17:56some
17:57outer
17:58time
17:58and
17:58those
18:00things
18:00as
18:00a
18:00not
18:01even
18:01as
18:02a
18:02father
18:02but
18:02just
18:02as
18:02a
18:03man
18:03I
18:04can't
18:04take
18:04disrespect
18:04from
18:05youth
18:05at
18:05all
18:05I
18:06can't
18:06handle
18:06that
18:06that
18:06is
18:07something
18:07that
18:07my
18:07mind
18:07can't
18:08process
18:08and
18:08be
18:08like
18:08all right
18:09is
18:10it
18:10the
18:10fact
18:10that
18:10they're
18:10younger
18:11than
18:11you
18:11I
18:11think
18:13it's
18:14that
18:14back
18:15in
18:15New
18:16York
18:16I
18:16think
18:16maybe
18:17I
18:17was
18:17traumatized
18:18with
18:18that
18:18I
18:19was
18:19almost
18:19you
18:20little
18:21youth
18:21man
18:21I
18:22can't
18:23even
18:23say
18:23the
18:23youth
18:24man
18:24was
18:24about
18:24maybe
18:2414
18:2515
18:25in
18:26them
18:26times
18:26I
18:26lived
18:26in
18:26New
18:27York
18:27and
18:27coming
18:27out
18:27of
18:27the
18:27party
18:28and
18:29talking
18:30to
18:30my
18:30normal
18:30time
18:31is
18:32about
18:32sunrise
18:33the
18:33sun
18:33coming
18:33out
18:34and
18:34four
18:35youth
18:35men
18:35come
18:35up
18:35and
18:36they
18:36say
18:36the
18:37party
18:38is
18:38inside
18:38and
18:38the
18:40party
18:40was
18:40nice
18:41party
18:41done
18:41and
18:42as
18:42I
18:42turned
18:42my
18:43head
18:43gun
18:44to
18:45temple
18:46and
18:46had
18:46pull
18:47off
18:47gun
18:47stick
18:48it
18:48so
18:49I
18:50think
18:50as
18:50an
18:51adult
18:52somehow
18:53that
18:53traumatized
18:54me
18:54somehow
18:55and
18:55now
18:55any
18:56you
18:57get
18:57triggered
18:58so
18:58anytime
18:59a youth
18:59man
18:59say
19:00anything
19:00out of
19:01time
19:01I
19:02just
19:02flip
19:03I
19:03can't
19:03take
19:04it
19:04I
19:04tell
19:04them
19:04not
19:05a
19:06disrespectful
19:06thing
19:07but
19:07let
19:07them
19:07know
19:07as
19:09adult
19:09how
19:10they
19:11can't
19:11do
19:11them
19:12things
19:12but
19:12they
19:12be
19:12embarrassed
19:13because
19:13a
19:14big
19:14man
19:14pulling
19:14them
19:14up
19:15in
19:15front
19:15of
19:15the
19:15PS
19:15correct
19:16so
19:16this
19:17is
19:17what
19:17I
19:17wanted
19:17to
19:17ask
19:17you
19:17as
19:18you
19:18said
19:18the
19:19outer
19:19timing
19:20for
19:20them
19:20when
19:21they
19:21now
19:22perceive
19:22how
19:23you
19:23are
19:23responding
19:24based
19:25on
19:25maybe
19:25their
19:25own
19:25traumas
19:26about
19:26their
19:26parents
19:27or
19:27uncles
19:28anybody
19:28around
19:29them
19:29who
19:29might
19:29be
19:30embarrassing
19:30them
19:30in
19:30their
19:30communities
19:31now
19:32looking
19:32at
19:33you
19:33and
19:33anything
19:34that
19:34you
19:34say
19:34could
19:34be
19:34a
19:34trigger
19:35to
19:35them
19:35and
19:36that
19:36puts
19:38you
19:38in
19:38a
19:38real
19:38problem
19:39potentially
19:40even
19:40more
19:41violent
19:41position
19:42correct
19:42whether
19:43you
19:43say
19:43something
19:44or
19:44don't
19:44say
19:44something
19:45by an
19:45action
19:45which
19:46is
19:46what
19:46I
19:46think
19:46happens
19:47generally
19:47as
19:48in
19:48everybody
19:48just
19:48dealing
19:49with
19:49their
19:49traumas
19:49so
19:51then
19:52there's
19:53madness
19:54then
19:54if
19:54you
19:54understand
19:55what
19:55I'm
19:55saying
19:55disrespect
19:56really
19:57have
19:57no
19:58standard
19:58anybody
19:59could
19:59feel
20:00this
20:00and
20:01that's
20:01why
20:01I
20:02wonder
20:02if
20:02it's
20:02really
20:03disrespect
20:03because
20:04I
20:05think
20:05it
20:05more
20:06in
20:06terms
20:06of
20:06offense
20:07than
20:08disrespect
20:09because
20:10the
20:11thing
20:11is
20:12I
20:12still
20:14they
20:14still
20:15had
20:15regard
20:15it's
20:17very
20:17possible
20:17they
20:17still
20:17had
20:18regard
20:18they
20:18didn't
20:19think
20:19well
20:19I
20:19don't
20:19like
20:20this
20:20man
20:20and
20:21I
20:21want
20:21to
20:21so
20:21I
20:22disrespect
20:22his
20:23daughter
20:23in
20:23front
20:23of
20:23you
20:23because
20:24I
20:24don't
20:24like
20:24you
20:24so
20:24it
20:24wasn't
20:25even
20:25about
20:25you
20:25they
20:27doing
20:27their
20:28thing
20:29right
20:29they
20:29I
20:30see
20:30your
20:31daughter
20:31they
20:32say
20:32what
20:33they
20:33want
20:33to
20:33say
20:33they
20:34didn't
20:34think
20:34about
20:34well
20:35I
20:35want
20:35to
20:35hurt
20:36Ziggy
20:37and
20:37I
20:38say
20:38not
20:38that
20:38way
20:38because
20:39they
20:41might
20:41not
20:41disrespect
20:41Ziggy
20:42they
20:42might
20:42not
20:42known
20:49for
20:50Ziggy
20:51like
20:51hey
20:51are you
20:52watching
20:52your
20:52daughter
20:53you
20:53are
20:53not
20:53a
20:54threat
20:54to
20:54me
20:55as
20:55a
20:55parent
20:55working
20:56with
20:56your
20:56child
20:56or
20:57maybe
20:58that's
20:58where
20:58they're
20:58from
20:59and
20:59everybody
20:59do
20:59that
21:00and
21:02there's
21:02so
21:03many
21:03dynamics
21:04why
21:05it's
21:05important
21:06and
21:06we
21:07started
21:07talking
21:07about
21:08it
21:08before
21:08is
21:09one
21:09I
21:10think
21:10it
21:11may
21:11be
21:11difficult
21:11in
21:11the
21:12situation
21:12because
21:12sometimes
21:13when
21:13emotions
21:13rise
21:14your
21:15car
21:15think
21:16about
21:16it
21:16but
21:16if
21:17we
21:17learning
21:19respect
21:19and
21:19show
21:20respect
21:20one
21:20is
21:21the
21:21most
21:21we
21:21could
21:22do
21:22is
21:22at
21:22least
21:23tell
21:23people
21:23as
21:24much
21:24as
21:24possible
21:24what
21:25are
21:25our
21:26preferences
21:26it
21:26wouldn't
21:27be
21:27possible
21:27in
21:28all
21:28scenarios
21:28of
21:28course
21:29but
21:29at
21:30the
21:30most
21:30part
21:30people
21:31who
21:31in
21:32your
21:32sphere
21:32at
21:33least
21:33let
21:33them
21:33know
21:33hey
21:34when
21:34you're
21:34wrong
21:35me
21:35I
21:35like
21:35this
21:36or
21:36I
21:36do
21:36like
21:37this
21:37so
21:37that
21:37you
21:37could
21:37minimize
21:38the
21:38level
21:38of
21:38disrespect
21:39but
21:39outside
21:40of
21:40that
21:40still
21:41we
21:41could
21:41understand
21:42and
21:42sometimes
21:42this
21:42is
21:42where
21:43as
21:43men
21:44we
21:45should
21:45be
21:45able
21:46to
21:46manage
21:46our
21:46emotions
21:47because
21:48somebody
21:48could
21:48do
21:48something
21:49and
21:49they're
21:50not
21:50really
21:50on
21:51us
21:51but
21:51we
21:52take
21:53disrespect
21:54so
21:54the
21:54fact
21:54is
21:55it's
21:55not
21:55they
21:55disrespect
21:56us
21:56we
21:56choose
21:57to
21:57feel
21:57disrespected
21:58based
21:59on
21:59their
21:59actions
21:59you
22:00said
22:00manage
22:01emotion
22:01right
22:02now
22:03you
22:04could
22:04manage
22:04emotion
22:05but
22:05you
22:05can't
22:05control
22:06how
22:07you
22:07felt
22:08right
22:08you
22:09can
22:11manage
22:11emotion
22:12but
22:12you
22:12can't
22:12control
22:13if
22:13something
22:14the
22:14actual
22:14feeling
22:15so
22:16my
22:18thing
22:18is
22:18again
22:19and
22:20I'm
22:21here to
22:21keep
22:21coming
22:21back
22:22to
22:22the
22:22shoe
22:22analogy
22:22but
22:22it was
22:23a good
22:23one
22:23and
22:23they're
22:23very
22:23rare
22:24from
22:24you
22:24right
22:24so
22:25I
22:26have
22:30the
22:30utmost
22:31respect
22:31for
22:31your
22:31answer
22:32he
22:32knows
22:32that
22:32that's
22:32why
22:33I
22:33could
22:33make
22:33joke
22:33about
22:33it
22:34right
22:34because
22:34in
22:34this
22:34case
22:35it
22:35is
22:35a
22:35joke
22:35and
22:37what
22:37I'm
22:37saying
22:37to
22:37you
22:37is
22:37if
22:38it
22:39is
22:39that
22:39somebody
22:40comes
22:41into
22:41you
22:41invite
22:42somebody
22:42into
22:43your
22:43home
22:43you
22:43know
22:44you've
22:44prepared
22:44a meal
22:45you know
22:45you've
22:46cleaned
22:46the house
22:46and all
22:47that
22:47and you
22:47think
22:47to
22:48yourself
22:48it's
22:49simply
22:49a case
22:49of
22:50you know
22:50just leave
22:50your shoes
22:51at the
22:51door
22:51but he
22:52might feel
22:52very strongly
22:53about it
22:53now
22:54even though
22:57you may
22:58relent
22:58and either
22:59say
22:59no it's
23:00okay
23:00then you
23:01know
23:01leave your
23:01shoes on
23:02and come
23:02in the
23:02house
23:02you
23:04may
23:04manage
23:05your
23:05emotion
23:06into
23:06how you
23:08show that
23:09person
23:09you feel
23:10at that
23:10particular
23:10point
23:11but inside
23:11you're like
23:12what
23:12was he
23:14problem
23:15boy
23:15and
23:15immediately
23:16you've
23:16left
23:17you've
23:17started
23:17already
23:18to leave
23:18some
23:19resentment
23:22inside of
23:23there
23:23because
23:24you throw
23:25off the
23:25whole game
23:26or you
23:27then
23:27might
23:27take off
23:28your
23:28shoes
23:28or leave
23:29it on
23:30and stay
23:30outside
23:30and then
23:31the person
23:33relents to
23:33you
23:33and says
23:34okay
23:34and have
23:34a conversation
23:35outside
23:35if they
23:36didn't go
23:36and cook
23:36a meal
23:36and all
23:37kind
23:37and again
23:38it depends
23:38as well
23:39if it's a
23:39woman
23:39because if it's
23:40a woman
23:40you take
23:40your shoes
23:41everything else
23:41and you're
23:44going to
23:44manage that
23:45emotion
23:45but the
23:46emotions
23:46are still
23:47there
23:47because
23:47inside
23:48we're not
23:49happy
23:49with the
23:50fact that
23:51I've either
23:52had to
23:52give way
23:53or the
23:54fact that
23:55I don't
23:56believe in
23:56what you
23:56believe in
23:57which is
23:57life
23:58but
23:59does it
24:04mean that
24:04if it is
24:05that there
24:05is no
24:06respect
24:06means it's
24:07disrespect
24:07there's no
24:08neutral
24:08ground
24:09with respect
24:09so
24:10I can't
24:11wait
24:11I have
24:14so many
24:14scenarios
24:15where
24:15all right
24:17because
24:17sometimes
24:18a man
24:18or
24:19for instance
24:21you go
24:21a juve
24:22you carry
24:23your girlfriend
24:23with you
24:24and you
24:24in a juve
24:25and you
24:25just step
24:26to the side
24:26to get
24:27something
24:27for the
24:27drink
24:27and two
24:28and three
24:29and four
24:29man trying
24:29to jam
24:30up on
24:30your
24:30gill
24:30when they
24:32know
24:32we say
24:33we're in
24:33the same
24:33band
24:33and they
24:34don't
24:34know
24:34I come
24:35with my
24:35girl in
24:36the band
24:36but you
24:36just wait
24:36for me to
24:37turn
24:37and you're
24:37behind
24:38my
24:38girl
24:38that's
24:39not
24:39disrespectful
24:40so as a
24:41man now
24:41what are you
24:42supposed to
24:42do
24:43did you
24:44tell them
24:48not to
24:48come and
24:49jam
24:49up on
24:49your
24:49gill
24:49it's
24:50supposed to
24:52be
24:52understood
24:52right
24:53because
24:59again
24:59some of
25:00these
25:00things
25:00that we
25:01take
25:01in a
25:01disrespect
25:02it's
25:02just
25:02an
25:02understanding
25:03and it's
25:04an
25:04understanding
25:04sometimes
25:05somebody
25:05may not
25:06have
25:06that
25:08understanding
25:08at all
25:09but I
25:09get what
25:10you're
25:10saying
25:10so go ahead
25:11let me
25:11take it a
25:12bit further
25:12right
25:13your girl
25:14decide
25:14hey
25:14she want
25:15the wine
25:15you know
25:16they come
25:17in for a
25:18wine
25:18and she
25:18have no
25:18problem
25:19in
25:19leg
25:20back
25:21and
25:21tongue
25:21out
25:21that
25:22depends
25:22on your
25:24relationship
25:24that you
25:24and your
25:25significant
25:26other
25:26have
25:26did you
25:26tell her
25:27not to
25:27jam up
25:27on any
25:28other
25:28no
25:28no
25:28no
25:28if
25:29you
25:30have
25:30a
25:30point
25:32because
25:33if
25:33you
25:34and
25:35your
25:35significant
25:35other
25:36are
25:36going
25:36to
25:37parties
25:37and
25:38that
25:38is
25:38the
25:38party
25:38fine
25:39but
25:40if
25:40you
25:41are
25:41a
25:41couple
25:42and
25:42you
25:42are
25:42conservative
25:42and
25:43you
25:43are
25:44whining
25:45and
25:45know
25:45it
25:46understood
25:47for
25:47instance
25:48for
25:49me
25:49to
25:49go
25:50and
25:50jam
25:50on
25:50the
25:50next
25:50girl
25:50in
25:51our
25:51party
25:51would
25:51be
25:52disrespectful
25:52for
25:52my
25:52girl
25:53if
25:53she
25:53tells
25:54you
25:54not
25:54to
25:54exactly
25:54vice
25:55versa
25:56same
25:57as if
25:57we
25:57in
25:57the
25:58same
25:58juvie
25:58thing
25:58if
25:58we
25:58understand
25:59we
25:59going
25:59to
25:59have
25:59a
26:00good
26:00time
26:00and
26:01I
26:01do
26:01my
26:01one
26:01and
26:01you
26:02do
26:02one
26:02it
26:02understood
26:03if
26:03we
26:03move
26:04in
26:04the
26:04juvie
26:04band
26:04as
26:05a
26:05couple
26:05and
26:06people
26:07see
26:07in
26:07from
26:07the
26:18Johan
26:18said
26:19you
26:19could
26:19really
26:20give
26:20us
26:20some
26:21of
26:21the
26:21psychological
26:25evaluation
26:29because
26:33it
26:33really
26:33does
26:34come
26:34down
26:34to
26:34a
26:34level
26:35of
26:35trauma
26:35so
26:35let's
26:36talk
26:36about
26:37horning
26:39for
26:39example
26:39so
26:41our
26:42man
26:42did you
26:43tell her
26:44not to
26:44horning
26:44that's
26:47supposed
26:47to be
26:47understood
26:48but
26:49levels
26:50of
26:50disrespect
26:50men
26:51they're
26:53men
26:53out there
26:53be it
26:54from
26:54trauma
26:55or not
26:55who
26:56purposely
26:57go out
26:57to
26:58disrespect
26:58another
26:59man
26:59because
27:00it's
27:00been
27:01done
27:01to
27:01them
27:01and
27:01they're
27:02going
27:02out
27:02there
27:02looking
27:03for
27:03that
27:03reaction
27:04that
27:05interpretation
27:05my
27:05days
27:06I'll
27:06give
27:06you
27:06two
27:06examples
27:06quick
27:07examples
27:07my
27:09days
27:09when I
27:09lived
27:09in
27:09England
27:10I
27:10left
27:11Manchester
27:12and
27:12went
27:12down
27:12to
27:12London
27:13to
27:13meet
27:13a
27:13friend
27:14we
27:14were
27:14a
27:14bunch
27:15of
27:15students
27:15and
27:16we
27:18and
27:18the
27:19gang
27:21walked
27:21in
27:21a
27:22couple
27:23of
27:23guys
27:24five
27:25or
27:25six
27:25of
27:25them
27:25and
27:26they
27:26purposely
27:26went
27:27up
27:27to
27:27the
27:27girl
27:27and
27:28one
27:29guy
27:29put
27:29his
27:30hand
27:30up
27:30her
27:30skirt
27:30the
27:32guy
27:33then
27:33tell
27:33himself
27:34he's
27:34looking
27:34and
27:35saying
27:35guys
27:35guys
27:36guys
27:36you
27:36know
27:37cool
27:37yourself
27:37now
27:38whatever
27:38they
27:38were
27:39looking
27:39for
27:39anything
27:40to
27:40incite
27:40some
27:40sort
27:41of
27:41violence
27:41what
27:42then
27:42happened
27:42is
27:43the
27:43woman
27:43then
27:44looked
27:44at
27:45her
27:45partner
27:45as
27:46if
27:46you
27:47you
27:48just
27:48gonna
27:48stand
27:48there
27:49and
27:49do
27:49nothing
27:49about
27:49this
27:50he
27:50evaluated
27:51the
27:51situation
27:51saying
27:51there's
27:51five
27:52men
27:52here
27:52clearly
27:53looking
27:54for
27:54drama
27:55and
27:55she
27:56is
27:56there
27:56now
27:56pushing
27:57it
27:57and
27:57of
27:57course
27:57he
27:58now
27:58goes
27:58and
27:58puts
27:58his
27:59hand
27:59out
27:59and
27:59the
28:00next
28:00thing
28:00he's
28:00in
28:00hospital
28:01they
28:01took
28:01the
28:01bar
28:01stools
28:02and
28:02beat
28:02him
28:02across
28:02the
28:03head
28:03and
28:03all
28:03the
28:03rest
28:04of it
28:04so
28:04this
28:04is
28:04a
28:04case
28:04same
28:06thing
28:06with
28:06the
28:06whining
28:07the
28:07woman
28:08might
28:08be
28:08looking
28:08for
28:09you
28:09to
28:09make
28:09a
28:09stop
28:10to
28:10that
28:10right
28:10I
28:11am
28:11saying
28:11that
28:12these
28:12are
28:12all
28:13specific
28:14levels
28:15of
28:16disrespect
28:16in
28:17that
28:17case
28:17and
28:17I
28:17want
28:18to
28:18bring
28:18back
28:18very
28:18quickly
28:19to
28:19the
28:19horn
28:20inside
28:20of
28:20things
28:20men
28:21know
28:22whether
28:22they
28:22want
28:22to
28:23admit
28:23or
28:23not
28:23if
28:24you
28:24have
28:24ever
28:24been
28:24in
28:25a
28:25situation
28:25where
28:25a
28:26woman
28:26is
28:27with
28:27you
28:27and
28:27she
28:27has
28:28a
28:28man
28:28right
28:29when
28:30you
28:30doing
28:30your
28:30when
28:31you
28:31doing
28:31your
28:31deed
28:31you
28:32not
28:32really
28:33thinking
28:33about
28:34the
28:34woman
28:35per se
28:35you know
28:36you
28:36trying
28:36to
28:36see
28:36how
28:37much
28:37you
28:37handling
28:38that
28:38woman
28:39almost
28:40as if
28:40to
28:40say
28:40I
28:41want
28:41that
28:41woman
28:41to
28:41have
28:42an
28:42imprint
28:42of
28:42me
28:43when
28:43she
28:43go
28:43back
28:44home
28:44we've
28:45had
28:46that
28:46we love
28:48that
28:48sometimes
28:49and
28:50so
28:50does
28:52it
28:52all
28:52come
28:52down
28:53to
28:53levels
28:54of
28:54trauma
28:54that
28:54we
28:55purposely
28:55want
28:56to
28:57disrespect
28:57and
28:58break
28:59our
28:59next
28:59man
29:00to
29:01somehow
29:02I don't
29:02know
29:02make
29:03ourselves
29:03feel
29:04better
29:04I mean
29:04that
29:05was
29:05all
29:05come
29:05down
29:05to
29:06everybody
29:07just
29:08trying
29:08to
29:08cope
29:08somehow
29:09you know
29:10that's
29:10why
29:11it's
29:11those
29:11negative
29:12comments
29:12on
29:12social
29:13media
29:13people
29:14their
29:15way
29:15of
29:15coping
29:16is
29:16disrespecting
29:17somebody
29:18else
29:18because
29:18again
29:19a lot
29:19of
29:19times
29:19they
29:20feel
29:20small
29:20or
29:20unheard
29:21of
29:21and
29:22they
29:23want
29:23their
29:23voice
29:24to be
29:24heard
29:24somehow
29:25and
29:25a lot
29:26of
29:26times
29:27injuring
29:27somebody
29:28else
29:28is
29:29the
29:29best
29:29way
29:29to
29:29feel
29:31strong
29:31which
29:32is
29:32unfortunate
29:33right
29:34but
29:34you
29:35had
29:35mentioned
29:35something
29:35way back
29:36in the
29:36first
29:37segment
29:37where
29:37you
29:37said
29:38that
29:38respect
29:39has to
29:40be earned
29:40and
29:41and I
29:41actually
29:42disagree
29:42with
29:42that
29:42I
29:42actually
29:43think
29:43that
29:43respect
29:44should
29:44always
29:44be
29:45given
29:45first
29:45unwillingly
29:47just
29:47respect
29:48and then
29:49you
29:49can
29:50remove
29:50respect
29:50accordingly
29:51give
29:51me
29:52example
29:52example
29:55of
29:55that
29:55would
29:56be
29:56you
29:57walk
29:57into
29:57a
29:57room
29:58let
29:58just
29:58say
29:59someone
30:00has
30:00all
30:01the
30:01markings
30:02of
30:02a
30:04white
30:04supremacist
30:05right
30:05have
30:07the
30:07swastika
30:08nice
30:08subjective
30:08go ahead
30:09go ahead
30:10go ahead
30:10markings
30:10is what
30:11I said
30:11right
30:12I could
30:13easily
30:13interpret
30:14how this
30:15person
30:15is acting
30:16or behave
30:16or how
30:17they look
30:18as
30:18disrespectful
30:19to me
30:19and my
30:20race
30:20right
30:21but
30:22I would
30:23respect
30:23him as
30:24a man
30:24because
30:25as far
30:26as I
30:26concern
30:26he did
30:27not do
30:27anything
30:28to
30:28disrespect
30:29me
30:29in the
30:29moment
30:30and if
30:31it is
30:31that he
30:31does
30:32say
30:32something
30:32or does
30:33act in
30:33a way
30:33that I
30:34see
30:34as
30:35or I
30:35deem
30:35as
30:36disrespectful
30:36I
30:36could
30:37now
30:37start
30:37removing
30:38respect
30:39from
30:40how
30:41I'm
30:42not
30:42going
30:42to
30:42react
30:43or
30:43retaliate
30:44unless
30:45you
30:45do
30:45these
30:46things
30:46so
30:46railing
30:47through
30:47the
30:47respect
30:47is
30:48already
30:48lost
30:48between
30:48the
30:49both
30:49of you
30:49it's
30:50just a
30:50matter
30:50of
30:50how
30:51do
30:51you
30:51act
30:51upon
30:52it
30:52if
30:53you
30:53feel
30:53disrespected
30:54that's
30:54really
30:54what
30:54you're
30:55saying
30:55I
30:55just
30:55wanted
30:55to
30:56bring up
30:56this
30:56term
30:58as we
30:59were
30:59talking
30:59about
30:59disrespect
31:00that
31:01that
31:01somebody
31:01sent
31:02me
31:02the
31:02other
31:02day
31:02it's
31:03called
31:03sea
31:04lioning
31:05I
31:05don't
31:05know
31:06if
31:06anybody
31:06is
31:06sea
31:07lioning
31:08another
31:09one
31:10of
31:10these
31:10topics
31:10like
31:11manaless
31:11you've
31:14heard it
31:14no but
31:15that can
31:18be
31:18disrespectful
31:19you're
31:22disrespecting
31:23the people
31:23that came
31:23up with
31:23this part
31:26so
31:26sea
31:27lioning
31:27refers
31:28to
31:28the
31:29disingenuous
31:29action
31:30by
31:30commenter
31:31of
31:31making
31:32an
31:32ostensible
31:33effort
31:33to
31:33engage
31:34in
31:34sincere
31:34and
31:35serious
31:35civil
31:35debate
31:36usually
31:36by
31:37asking
31:37persistent
31:38questions
31:38of
31:38the
31:38other
31:39commenter
31:39the
31:40commenter
31:40usually
31:40says
31:41I
31:42am
31:42just
31:42sincerely
31:43trying
31:43to
31:43understand
31:44so
31:45that's
31:45a new
31:45thing
31:45called
31:46sea
31:46lioning
31:46we could
31:48talk
31:49about
31:49this
31:50on
31:50another
31:50show
31:51but
31:51I
31:51think
31:53I
31:53do
31:53that
31:53exactly
31:54so
31:55in
31:55short
31:55you
31:55have
31:56the
31:56former
31:57president
31:57of
31:57the
31:57United
31:57States
31:58the
31:58way
31:58he
31:58delivers
31:59certain
31:59things
31:59it's
32:01almost
32:01sarcasm
32:02in a
32:02way
32:02but
32:02it's
32:03now
32:03coined
32:03as
32:03sea
32:04lioning
32:05and
32:05these
32:07are
32:07all
32:08different
32:09ways
32:09of
32:10what
32:10you're
32:10really
32:11doing
32:11is
32:11looking
32:11at
32:11somebody
32:12with
32:12a
32:12sincere
32:12way
32:13but
32:13really
32:13you have
32:14total
32:14disrespect
32:15in
32:16them
32:16whether
32:17they're
32:17aware
32:17of
32:17it
32:18or
32:18not
32:18right
32:18and
32:19you
32:20yourself
32:20are
32:20in
32:21a
32:21form
32:21of
32:22gas
32:23light
32:23in
32:23disrespect
32:24probably
32:25in a
32:25particular
32:26way
32:26but
32:26you're
32:26doing
32:26it
32:26in a
32:26very
32:27sincere
32:27way
32:27like
32:27you're
32:28really
32:28trying
32:28to
32:28understand
32:29and
32:29ask
32:29a
32:29particular
32:30question
32:30sounding
32:31sincere
32:31and
32:32it's
32:32almost
32:32as if
32:32you're
32:32just
32:33letting
32:34them
32:34dig
32:34a hole
32:35deeper
32:35and
32:35deeper
32:35from
32:35themselves
32:36and
32:37you
32:38see
32:38it
32:38a lot
32:39a lot
32:39of
32:40interview
32:42do it
32:43and they
32:43let that
32:44person
32:44put
32:44themselves
32:45into
32:46a
32:46particular
32:46way
32:46so
32:46you
32:47really
32:47felt
32:47that
32:47way
32:48tell us
32:50more
32:50so
32:52what
32:52about
32:52this
32:52and
32:52so
32:52you
32:52really
32:53liked
32:53it
32:53and
32:53they
32:53go
32:54yeah
32:54of
32:54course
32:54and
32:55all
32:55of a
32:55sudden
32:55they
32:55just
32:56putting
32:56themselves
32:57more
32:57and more
32:57memes
32:58are
32:58coming
32:58up
32:58so
32:59it's
33:00sea
33:00lining
33:00so
33:00I just
33:00wanted to
33:01put that
33:01out there
33:01as the
33:02different
33:02levels
33:03of
33:03disrespect
33:04all right
33:05well let
33:05you not
33:06disrespect
33:06the
33:07sponsors
33:08welcome
33:21back
33:22this is
33:23manhood
33:24and we
33:24talking
33:24about
33:25respect
33:25and respect
33:26above all
33:26and I
33:27have a
33:27question
33:27for you
33:28Ziggy
33:28would you
33:30ever feel
33:31disrespected
33:32if a
33:32promoter
33:33or someone
33:33who
33:33hire
33:34for your
33:35music
33:35for your
33:36craft
33:36if they
33:37deemed
33:38they say
33:40okay
33:40rather than
33:41let me
33:41I think I
33:42could offer
33:43him a
33:43300 US
33:44for his
33:45performance
33:45would that
33:46be a
33:46disrespect
33:47to you
33:47of course
33:48that's a
33:49big disrespect
33:49as
33:51artist
33:52but for
33:53me
33:53you
33:54have to
33:54know
33:54your
33:54worth
33:55I'm
33:57the type
33:57of guy
33:57if
33:58everything
34:00not right
34:00and I
34:01prefer not
34:01to do
34:01it
34:01that's my
34:02way
34:02of
34:02hard
34:02feelings
34:04for
34:06example
34:07some
34:07of
34:07these
34:08reggae
34:08concerts
34:09we have
34:09in
34:09Trinidad
34:09and
34:10Tobago
34:10if
34:11you
34:11see
34:12me
34:12missing
34:12from
34:12a
34:13reggae
34:13concert
34:13it's
34:13because
34:14I politely
34:16declined
34:16my
34:17thing now
34:17with the
34:18level
34:18that we
34:18are
34:18speaking
34:19for
34:19all
34:19my
34:19brothers
34:20and
34:20them
34:20we
34:21deserve
34:21the
34:21same
34:22amount
34:22of
34:22respect
34:22as
34:23whoever
34:24they
34:24bring
34:24in
34:25to
34:25Trinidad
34:25and
34:25Tobago
34:26to
34:26perform
34:26because
34:26when
34:27we
34:27leave
34:27the
34:27country
34:27we
34:28get
34:28the
34:28same
34:28amount
34:29of
34:29respect
34:29outside
34:30I
34:37promoter
34:37we
34:38go
34:38on
34:38a
34:39reggae
34:39show
34:39for
34:39example
34:40I
34:40need
34:40my
34:41band
34:41I
34:42need
34:42a
34:42live
34:42band
34:42I
34:43need
34:43a
34:44certain
34:44amount
34:44of
34:44time
34:44if
34:45you
34:45want
34:45to
34:45put
34:45me
34:45on
34:45first
34:45it's
34:46not
34:46a
34:46problem
34:46but
34:46I
34:47need
34:47these
34:47certain
34:48criteria
34:49and
34:49if
34:49we
34:49decline
34:50anything
34:50then
34:50I
34:50you
34:51know
34:51but
34:52another
34:52man
34:53might
34:53take
34:53it
34:53as
34:53disrespect
34:55because
34:55they
34:55bring
34:56in
34:56you
34:56somewhere
34:56because
34:57they
34:57know
34:57you
34:57have
34:57the
34:57power
35:07higher
35:07in
35:09the
35:09industry
35:09yeah
35:10is
35:11it
35:11always
35:12again
35:12without
35:12conversation
35:13and
35:13context
35:14is
35:14it
35:14always
35:15disrespect
35:15because
35:16there's
35:16a lot
35:17of
35:17times
35:17that
35:18the
35:18promoter
35:19might
35:19be
35:19trying
35:19to
35:20do
35:20something
35:20and
35:21for
35:21example
35:22and
35:22I'm
35:22not
35:22saying
35:22that
35:22that
35:22is
35:23always
35:23the
35:23circumstance
35:23you
35:24know
35:24we're
35:27trying to
35:27give you
35:30this
35:30opportunity
35:31how many
35:32opportunities
35:33that
35:33is
35:33over
35:3415
35:34years
35:35that
35:35is
35:36a
35:36disrespect
35:36when
35:36they
35:37say
35:37this
35:37will
35:38give
35:38you
35:38a
35:38good
35:38platform
35:39or
35:39engagement
35:41etc
35:41etc
35:42now
35:43that
35:43I
35:43understand
35:44but
35:44if
35:44I'm
35:44saying
35:44to you
35:45that
35:45you
35:45really
35:45only
35:45have
35:46300
35:46US
35:47is it
35:47then a
35:48conversation
35:48that
35:48could
35:48be
35:49hard
35:49to
35:49say
35:49I
35:50know
35:50and
35:50you've
35:50probably
35:51heard
35:51this
35:51several
35:51times
35:52I
35:52know
35:52you're
35:52worth
35:52X
35:53but
35:54this
35:54is
35:54what
35:54I
35:54could
35:54afford
35:55and
35:55this
35:55is
35:55what
35:55we're
35:56trying
35:56to
35:56do
35:56because
35:57there's
35:57circumstances
35:57with me
35:58people say
35:59I can't
36:00afford it
36:01or I want
36:01you to do
36:02something
36:02for me
36:02I want
36:02you to
36:02come and
36:03host
36:03something
36:03I want
36:03you to
36:04help
36:04me
36:04produce
36:04a film
36:05or show
36:06and I
36:06would
36:06simply
36:07say
36:07that
36:08in many
36:09cases
36:09if I'd
36:10rather
36:10do it
36:11as a
36:12give back
36:12than
36:13to take
36:14this
36:15money
36:16there's no
36:17when people
36:17are genuine
36:18too
36:18for me
36:19I would
36:19always say
36:20to
36:20pass it
36:22on to
36:22somebody
36:22else
36:23or give
36:24a younger
36:24artist
36:24who come
36:25on that
36:25platform
36:25to do
36:27what you
36:27want me
36:27to do
36:28you know
36:29what I
36:29mean
36:29so it's
36:30not no
36:30malice
36:31or anything
36:31but if
36:31you can't
36:32as I
36:32say
36:32if
36:33I don't
36:34feel like
36:35I gain
36:35my worth
36:35then I
36:36take a
36:37back seat
36:38and just
36:39give somebody
36:40the opportunity
36:40to take it
36:42but outside
36:42of that
36:43what are
36:43some of
36:43the other
36:44scenarios
36:44that you've
36:45encountered
36:45of seeing
36:46people being
36:47disrespected
36:47or you
36:48yourself
36:49being
36:49disrespected
36:50or why
36:52other people
36:52feel the
36:53way they
36:54feel
36:54boy
36:55it's
36:56so much
36:57it's
36:57so much
36:58I do
36:59even want
36:59to get
36:59personal
37:00people know
37:01me
37:01it have
37:03different
37:04things
37:04I mean
37:04radio
37:05stations
37:05different
37:07interviews
37:07when people
37:07interview you
37:08for instance
37:09if somebody
37:10don't do
37:10the research
37:11the proper
37:12way
37:12and a man
37:13bring you
37:13to give
37:14you an
37:14interview
37:14and they
37:15don't even
37:15know you
37:15sing
37:15they don't
37:17do the
37:18proper
37:19research
37:19and sometimes
37:20you have to
37:21find yourself
37:21answering
37:24questions
37:24that don't
37:25even make
37:25sense
37:25to me
37:26that's a
37:26big
37:26disrespect
37:27too
37:27but here
37:28why answer
37:29the questions
37:30if you
37:30know it
37:30didn't make
37:31sense
37:31because you
37:32don't want
37:32to put that
37:33person in
37:33place live
37:34on here
37:34and say
37:34well you
37:35know
37:35soldier
37:36you should
37:36have do
37:37your research
37:37before you
37:38call me
37:39on your
37:39program
37:39because
37:40sometimes
37:40most of
37:40the time
37:41it's be
37:41live
37:41going on
37:42live
37:42and they
37:43asking
37:43you these
37:43questions
37:44and you
37:44like
37:44this
37:44have
37:45nothing
37:45to do
37:46with
37:46anything
37:47that I
37:48am about
37:48as an
37:49artist
37:49or what
37:49I
37:51be
37:51lost
37:52and
37:52you
37:52had
37:53to
37:53try
37:53and
37:53you
37:54professional
37:54is a
37:55giant
37:55play it
37:56off
37:57but
37:59are you
38:00disrespecting
38:01yourself
38:01by doing
38:02that
38:02yes
38:02I am
38:03and you
38:03see
38:03that
38:04is
38:04an
38:04important
38:04thing
38:05because
38:05if
38:05somebody
38:06disrespecting
38:07you
38:07I
38:07have
38:07seen
38:08it's
38:08tit for
38:08tat
38:09you
38:09had to
38:09lash
38:09them
38:09back
38:10but
38:10ensure
38:11that
38:12you
38:12don't
38:12disrespect
38:12yourself
38:13in
38:13the
38:13process
38:13so
38:14a lot
38:15of
38:15people
38:15don't
38:15know
38:15that
38:15after
38:17the interview
38:19I
38:19would
38:19if it
38:20happens
38:21after
38:22the
38:22interview
38:22I
38:22would
38:22say
38:22you
38:23need
38:24to
38:24do
38:25a
38:26little
38:26more
38:26research
38:26because
38:27welcome
38:28on
38:28the
38:28program
38:28to
38:28try
38:28and
38:29achieve
38:29it
38:31and
38:31I
38:31would
38:33tell
38:34them
38:34next
38:35time
38:35do
38:37a
38:37little
38:37homework
38:37either
38:38they
38:40might
38:41take
38:41it
38:41a
38:41bad
38:41way
38:41and
38:42leave
38:42and
38:42say
38:43they
38:43might
38:45take
38:47the
38:47learning
38:48and
38:48say
38:49next
38:49time
38:49they
38:50might
38:50really
38:51prepare
38:51for
38:51somebody
38:52and
38:53not
38:55for
38:55them
38:55to
38:56take
38:56it
38:56positive
38:57we
38:57said
38:57it
38:58at
38:58the
38:58start
38:58about
38:58maturity
38:59and
38:59we
38:59were
38:59speaking
39:00about
39:00that
39:00about
39:00the
39:01levels
39:01and
39:02are
39:02we
39:02there
39:02as
39:03men
39:03where
39:03we
39:04could
39:04understand
39:04that
39:05let
39:06me
39:06see
39:06where
39:06they're
39:06coming
39:07from
39:07or
39:07take
39:07it
39:08to
39:08a
39:08point
39:08of
39:08if
39:09I
39:10go
39:10into
39:10an
39:11environment
39:11I
39:11see
39:11some
39:12young
39:12men
39:12and
39:13I
39:13say
39:13something
39:13I
39:14might
39:14genuinely
39:15be
39:15trying
39:15to
39:16educate
39:18or assist
39:19or
39:19being
39:19no
39:20disrespect
39:20but
39:20they
39:20could
39:21see
39:21it
39:21based
39:21on
39:22trauma
39:22or
39:23just
39:23my
39:23appearance
39:23or
39:24delivery
39:24as
39:25a
39:25disrespect
39:25and
39:25retaliate
39:26in a
39:26particular
39:26way
39:27or
39:27in
39:27your
39:29case
39:29for
39:29example
39:29an
39:31event
39:31of
39:31crime
39:32I'm
39:33saying
39:33that
39:35moving
39:38into
39:38a
39:39scenario
39:39like
39:40that
39:40not
39:41everybody
39:41is
39:42at
39:42the
39:42level
39:42that
39:42they
39:42are
39:42going
39:43to
39:43say
39:43let's
39:43have
39:44a
39:44discussion
39:44what
39:44did
39:45you
39:45mean
39:45explain
39:46that
39:46they're
39:47just
39:47going
39:47to
39:47react
39:47based
39:48on
39:48their
39:48interpretation
39:48so
39:49when
39:50you
39:51go
39:51into
39:52that
39:52environment
39:52like
39:52you
39:52said
39:53if
39:53you
39:53were
39:53to
39:53tell
39:53the
39:53gentleman
39:54the
39:54VJ
39:55or
39:55the
39:55DJ
39:55after
39:56the
39:57fact
39:57about
39:58the
39:58information
39:58it
39:59might
39:59be
39:59like
39:59who
40:00he
40:00is
40:00he
40:01tired
40:01all
40:03these
40:03different
40:03things
40:03are
40:04going to
40:04come
40:04and
40:04now
40:04it's
40:04a
40:04retaliation
40:05for
40:06something
40:07that
40:07you
40:07are
40:07simply
40:07trying
40:08to
40:08educate
40:09and
40:10help
40:11them
40:11raise
40:12the
40:12standard
40:12for
40:12going
40:13forward
40:14but
40:14they
40:15take
40:16it
40:16as a
40:16form
40:16of
40:16disrespect
40:17and
40:17they're
40:17going
40:17to
40:17act
40:18out
40:18on
40:18that
40:18and
40:18that's
40:19why
40:19we
40:19keep
40:19coming
40:19back
40:19to
40:20this
40:20show
40:20particularly
40:21where
40:21we
40:21say
40:22that
40:22respect
40:22above
40:23all
40:23you
40:24yourself
40:24said
40:24that
40:24there's
40:25no
40:25specific
40:25one
40:26size
40:26fits
40:27all
40:27for
40:27that
40:27in
40:28terms
40:28of
40:28our
40:28meaning
40:28and
40:29it's
40:29subjective
40:29because
40:32you
40:32might
40:33go
40:33on to
40:33somebody
40:34else
40:34next
40:34I
40:34might
40:35tell
40:35you
40:35something
40:35you
40:36might
40:36feel
40:36disrespected
40:37I
40:37tell
40:37Ziggy
40:37doesn't
40:38feel
40:38disrespected
40:39and he
40:39says
40:39we
40:40have
40:41a
40:41further
40:41discussion
40:42on it
40:42and we
40:43go along
40:44the line
40:44I
40:44might
40:45tell
40:45this
40:49conversation
40:53has
40:54helped
40:54me
40:54a lot
40:55one
40:56I
40:56understand
40:57even
40:57in
40:57previous
40:58relationships
40:59and
40:59not only
41:00with
41:01women
41:01friendships
41:02etc
41:02where
41:03I
41:04was
41:05wrong
41:05because
41:06sometimes
41:07I
41:07expected
41:07people
41:07to
41:08know
41:08what
41:09are
41:09my
41:09boundaries
41:10what
41:10are
41:10my
41:11triggers
41:13etc
41:13and I
41:14may
41:14have
41:15sometimes
41:16exploded
41:16on people
41:17or even
41:17felt
41:17disrespected
41:18when
41:19sometimes
41:20they don't
41:20even know
41:20what is
41:21going on
41:21with me
41:21so
41:22to
41:22everybody
41:22I
41:23did
41:23that
41:23to
41:23I
41:23apologize
41:24that's
41:24one
41:25and
41:25then
41:25two
41:26it
41:26also
41:26made
41:26me
41:27realize
41:27because
41:27this
41:28comes
41:28up
41:28a lot
41:28in
41:29couples
41:29counseling
41:29too
41:30on
41:31both
41:31men
41:32and
41:32women
41:33that
41:33you
41:33know
41:34well
41:34he
41:35decided
41:35disrespect
41:36when
41:36he
41:36said
41:36but
41:36I
41:37didn't
41:37I
41:37just
41:38do
41:38xyz
41:38and
41:39then
41:39he
41:39said
41:39she
41:40just
41:41come
41:41out
41:41and
41:41she
41:42xyz
41:42and
41:42she
41:42said
41:43but
41:43I
41:43didn't
41:43know
41:43anything
41:44about
41:44that
41:45and
41:45I
41:46know
41:46everybody
41:47not at
41:48the level
41:48and we
41:48all of
41:49us
41:49learning
41:49so
41:50as
41:50people
41:51viewing
41:52and
41:52as
41:53you
41:53even
41:53say
41:53Robert
41:53now that
41:54we
41:55understand
41:55a little
41:55better
41:56what
41:56respect
41:57is
41:57I
41:57think
41:58we
41:58could
41:58gain
41:58it
41:58more
41:59if
41:59we
41:59ask
42:00a
42:00question
42:00again
42:01it's
42:02not a
42:02perfect
42:02scenario
42:04but
42:05as
42:05the
42:05people
42:05who
42:06are
42:06listening
42:06here
42:06and
42:06the
42:07people
42:07that
42:07want
42:07to
42:07do
42:08a
42:08little
42:08better
42:08one
42:09let
42:09people
42:10know
42:10what
42:10are
42:10your
42:10boundaries
42:11and
42:11then
42:12two
42:12even
42:12ask
42:12a
42:12question
42:13so
42:13Ziggy
42:14why
42:14you say
42:14that
42:15versus
42:15just
42:16think
42:16well
42:16he
42:17don't
42:17like
42:17me
42:17you
42:18think
42:18if
42:18you
42:18are
42:19always
42:19going
42:19to
42:19have
42:19the
42:20respect
42:20for
42:20the
42:21person
42:21to
42:22want
42:22to
42:22engage
42:22now
42:23if
42:23we
42:23have
42:23a
42:23conversation
42:24here
42:24I
42:24respect
42:25you
42:25enough
42:25or
42:26your
42:26partner
42:26whatever
42:27then
42:27you
42:27may
42:27say
42:27explain
42:29that
42:29a
42:29bit
42:29more
42:29so
42:29I
42:30have
42:30an
42:30understanding
42:30so
42:30let
42:30me
42:31really
42:31understand
42:31whether
42:32you're
42:32trying
42:32to
42:32me
42:33up
42:33or
42:34whether
42:34or
42:34it was
42:34some
42:35misunderstanding
42:35on
42:36both
42:36our
42:36parts
42:37right
42:37so
42:38you're
42:38not
42:38always
42:47understanding
42:48of
42:49respect
42:49to
42:50someone
42:50to
42:50a
42:50man
42:51right
42:51for
42:52example
42:52I
42:52saw
42:52there
42:53was
42:53a
42:53video
42:55a
42:55clip
42:55the
42:55other
42:55day
42:56of
42:56one
42:57of
42:57the
42:57basketballers
42:58shaking
42:59LeBron's
42:59hand
43:00and they
43:01had a
43:01big
43:02thing
43:02made a
43:02big deal
43:02about
43:03it
43:03walk
43:03past
43:04the
43:05wife
43:05but
43:05what
43:05it
43:05really
43:05came
43:06down
43:06is
43:06the
43:06man
43:07didn't
43:07introduce
43:07it
43:07to
43:08his
43:08wife
43:08so
43:09she
43:09understood
43:09that
43:10as
43:10respect
43:10to
43:11say
43:11if
43:11he's
43:11not
43:12doing
43:12the
43:12introduction
43:12I
43:13not
43:13going
43:13to
43:13push
43:14up
43:14myself
43:14and
43:15that's
43:15their
43:16understanding
43:16and it's
43:16a
43:17cultural
43:17thing
43:17as
43:17well
43:18so
43:18I'm
43:19saying
43:19that
43:19apart
43:20from
43:20a
43:20global
43:21understanding
43:21of what
43:22respect
43:22is
43:22there's
43:23just
43:23a
43:23general
43:24understanding
43:25regardless
43:25of where
43:25you come
43:25from
43:26and there's
43:27also
43:27a
43:28cultural
43:28thing
43:29so
43:29you
43:29come
43:29to
43:29Trinad
43:30they say
43:31ignorance
43:31of the
43:31law
43:32is
43:32no
43:32excuse
43:32so
43:33if
43:33you
43:33go
43:33to
43:33a
43:34particular
43:34country
43:35and
43:35you
43:35not
43:37wearing
43:38a
43:38you
43:39know
43:39if
43:39you
43:39go
43:40do
43:40that
43:40you
43:40mean
43:40yeah
43:40like
43:41you
43:41don't
43:41write
43:41the
43:41right
43:42clothing
43:42you
43:43go
43:43in
43:43the
43:43states
43:43and
43:44you
43:44drinking
43:44alcohol
43:44so
43:47there's
43:47an
43:48understanding
43:48of
43:48certain
43:49things
43:49that
43:50those
43:51levels
43:51of
43:51disrespect
43:52so
43:52not
43:52everybody
43:52is
43:53going
43:53to
43:53have
43:53a
43:53t-shirt
43:53that
43:54says
43:54you
43:55can't
43:55whine
43:55on
43:56me
43:56right
43:57and
43:57asking
43:57these
43:58questions
43:58but
43:58there's
43:58you
43:59know
44:00so
44:00there
44:01is
44:01there
44:02are
44:02levels
44:03to
44:04that
44:05initial
44:06understanding
44:07of
44:07respect
44:07and
44:08what
44:08disrespect
44:09is
44:09and
44:10what
44:10I
44:11want
44:11us
44:11to
44:11get
44:11out
44:12of
44:12and
44:12kind
44:12of
44:12go
44:12around
44:13the
44:13road
44:13is
44:14how
44:15do
44:15we
44:15address
44:15how
44:16we
44:16react
44:17whether
44:18to
44:19respect
44:20someone
44:20show
44:21that
44:21respect
44:22but
44:22also
44:23how
44:23to
44:23not
44:24react
44:24to
44:25disrespect
44:25because
44:26we
44:26are
44:26somewhere
44:27doesn't
44:27mean
44:27that
44:27person
44:28might
44:29still
44:29be
44:29getting
44:29ready
44:30they
44:31might
44:31not
44:31started
44:32that
44:32journey
44:32as
44:32yet
44:33I
44:33had
44:33work
44:33on
44:34myself
44:34with
44:34them
44:34youth
44:34I
44:35can't
44:36control
44:36that
44:36at
44:36all
44:37for
44:38instance
44:38the
44:40call
44:40my
44:41brothers
44:42my
44:42close
44:42circles
44:43my
44:43brothers
44:45and
44:45them
44:45not
44:46only
44:46members
44:47of
44:47the
44:47call
44:48but
44:48I
44:49have
44:49a
44:49couple
44:49other
44:49bridges
44:49we
44:50will
44:50always
44:52talk
44:53and argue
44:54but we
44:54will come
44:55to
44:55some
44:56kind
44:56of
44:56conclusion
44:56if I
44:57don't
44:57like
44:58something
44:58I
44:58let
44:58you
44:58know
44:59we
45:00could
45:01have
45:01those
45:02discussions
45:02for me
45:03that is
45:03a
45:03level
45:03I
45:04respect
45:04that
45:05it's
45:05not
45:05hard
45:05for
45:05everybody
45:06to
45:06have
45:06not
45:06everybody
45:07agree
45:07on
45:07the
45:07same
45:07thing
45:07if I
45:08meet
45:08you
45:08today
45:09and we
45:09talk
45:09about
45:09something
45:10I
45:10say
45:10boy
45:10this
45:10you
45:11really
45:11like
45:11that
45:12material
45:12and
45:12you
45:13say
45:13well
45:13this is
45:15my
45:15thing
45:15this is
45:15how I
45:15like
45:16to
45:16wait
45:16and
45:16that is
45:17you
45:17I
45:17understand
45:17that
45:18so
45:18so
45:18I
45:19know
45:19further
45:19down
45:19the
45:20road
45:20if I
45:20see
45:21him
45:21something
45:21he
45:22waiting
45:22something
45:22like
45:22that
45:22again
45:23I
45:23know
45:23that
45:23I
45:24am
45:24a
45:24boy
45:24there
45:24that
45:25way
45:25choose
45:25to
45:26do
45:26and
45:26so
45:27something
45:27for me
45:28as we
45:29said
45:29this
45:29it
45:30could
45:30go
45:30on
45:30and
45:30on
45:30it
45:31have
45:31different
45:31levels
45:32but
45:32for me
45:32I
45:32try
45:32to
45:33make
45:33it
45:33simple
45:33I
45:33try
45:34to
45:34respect
45:34not
45:34try
45:35I
45:35respect
45:36everybody
45:36no matter
45:37what
45:37if
45:38somebody
45:38have
45:38a
45:38difference
45:38of
45:39opinion
45:39I
45:39respect
45:39that
45:40and
45:40I
45:40just
45:40know
45:41we
45:41can
45:41go
45:41down
45:41that
45:41road
45:43it's
45:43simple
45:44for
45:44me
45:44let me
45:45ask
45:45something
45:46as well
45:46Ziggy
45:46what is
45:48your
45:48definition
45:48or
45:49understanding
45:49of
45:50what
45:50a
45:50man
45:50is
45:51a
45:53man
45:53should
45:55be
45:55what
45:55my
45:56brain
45:57is
45:57I
45:57show
45:57them
45:57things
45:58out
45:58the
45:58window
45:58I
46:02how
46:03a
46:03human
46:03being
46:03supposed
46:03to
46:04be
46:04that
46:04I
46:06ain't
46:06just
46:07bull
46:07but
46:08I
46:08really
46:08believe
46:09that
46:09we
46:09supposed
46:09to
46:09love
46:10everybody
46:10and
46:11try
46:11to
46:11assist
46:12everybody
46:12and
46:12treat
46:12everybody
46:13as
46:13brothers
46:13and
46:13sisters
46:14that
46:14is
46:14what
46:14make
46:14a
46:15real
46:15man
46:16not
46:16a
46:16man
46:17who
46:17beat
46:17the
46:17chest
46:17and
46:17say
46:17well I
46:18do
46:18this
46:18and
46:18I
46:18do
46:18that
46:19I
46:19need
46:20some
46:22assistance
46:22or
46:23don't
46:23know
46:23this
46:23Bridgen
46:24assist
46:25me
46:25tell
46:25me
46:26something
46:26that
46:26a
46:26man
46:26for
46:27me
46:27for
46:29me
46:30hide
46:30behind
46:30this
46:31person
46:31of
46:31a
46:31man
46:31supposed
46:32to
46:32be
46:32this
46:32and
46:32a
46:32provider
46:33for
46:34me
46:34I
46:34don't
46:34really
46:35think
46:38it
46:38like
46:38that
46:38I
46:39don't
46:39subscribe
46:39to
46:39them
46:40things
46:40a
46:41man
46:41is
46:41somebody
46:41with
46:42humility
46:42a
46:43humble
46:43man
46:44somebody
46:44not
46:44afraid
46:45to
46:45ask
46:45somebody
46:45not
46:45to
46:46admit
46:46when
46:46you
46:46wrong
46:46somebody
46:47not
46:47afraid
46:48to
46:48admit
46:48when
46:48you
46:48do
46:48have
46:49when
46:49you
46:49do
46:49have
46:50that
46:52is
46:52a
46:52man
46:52egotistical
46:55kind
46:55of
46:55thing
46:56for
46:56real
46:56for
46:56real
46:56yeah
46:57it
46:57be
46:57better
46:58like
46:58that
46:58you
46:59have
46:59to
46:59be
46:59humble
46:59and
47:00you
47:00can't
47:01really
47:01watch
47:01a
47:01man
47:01and
47:02say
47:02this
47:02man
47:02better
47:02than
47:03me
47:03because
47:03he
47:03had
47:03this
47:03and
47:04that
47:04I
47:04don't
47:04know
47:04what
47:04he
47:05do
47:05to
47:05get
47:05what
47:06he
47:06get
47:06same
47:07way
47:07a
47:07man
47:08can
47:09watch
47:09me
47:09and
47:10suppose
47:10he
47:10have
47:11real
47:11money
47:11they
47:12could
47:12do
47:12that
47:12so
47:15that
47:16is
47:16it
47:16for
47:16me
47:17you
47:18see
47:18that
47:19and
47:19somebody
47:19look
47:19at
47:19you
47:19and
47:19think
47:20they
47:20have
47:20real
47:20money
47:20and
47:21ask
47:21you
47:21for
47:21$20
47:21it
47:22hard
47:24for
47:26me
47:26to
47:27call
47:27somebody
47:27to
47:28say
47:28my
47:28AC
47:29work
47:29it
47:30is
47:31very
47:31hard
47:31for
47:31me
47:32from
47:33the
47:33time
47:33they
47:34walk
47:34in
47:34the
47:34house
47:34and
47:34they
47:34see
47:35my
47:36face
47:36the
47:36price
47:36has
47:37changed
47:37it
47:37always
47:37be
47:37a
47:37different
47:38price
47:38for
47:38me
47:38and
47:39it
47:40be
47:40a
47:41hard
47:41thing
47:41when
47:41you
47:41go
47:42and
47:42fix
47:42your
47:43car
47:43I
47:43mean
47:43I
47:43prove
47:44it
47:44I
47:44do
47:44the
47:44test
47:45on
47:45my
47:45own
47:46where
47:46I
47:46call
47:47brendings
47:47to fix
47:48thing
47:48and I
47:48get
47:48a certain
47:48price
47:49and
47:49then
47:49I
47:49call
47:50real
47:52thing
47:52more
47:53than
47:53them
47:53call
47:54somebody
47:54to
47:54fix
47:55somebody
47:55I
47:55say
47:55well
47:55I
47:55want
47:55to
47:55use
47:56them
47:56to
47:56fix
47:57my
47:57thing
47:57and
47:57the
47:58price
47:58they
47:58charge
47:58me
47:58so
48:00I
48:02mean
48:02I
48:03play
48:06devil
48:06out
48:07here
48:07maybe
48:08they
48:08respect
48:08you
48:09so
48:09much
48:09in
48:13your
48:13closing
48:14I
48:14wanted
48:14to
48:14address
48:15something
48:15that
48:15we
48:15had
48:16a
48:16conversation
48:16about
48:17where
48:17you
48:18no
48:18longer
48:18say
48:18sorry
48:19and
48:20you
48:20were
48:20saying
48:20where
48:21you're
48:21at
48:21in
48:21life
48:21if
48:22you
48:22could
48:22tie
48:22that
48:23into
48:23respect
48:24and
48:24how
48:25that
48:25could
48:25also
48:25be
48:25perceived
48:26as
48:26disrespect
48:27but
48:27you
48:27are
48:27respecting
48:28yourself
48:28you
48:28just
48:28apologize
48:29though
48:29you
48:30know
48:30that
48:31is
48:31true
48:32but
48:32I
48:32mean
48:32like
48:32everything
48:33else
48:33the
48:33journey
48:33is
48:33about
48:34several
48:34failures
48:35along
48:35the
48:35way
48:35so
48:36I
48:36know
48:36that
48:37that
48:37way
48:37you
48:37want
48:37to
48:37be
48:38not
48:38sorry
48:38you
48:39know
48:39it's
48:39pleased
48:39you
48:40don't
48:40want
48:40what
48:41what
48:41Robert
48:42and I
48:42had a
48:42conversation
48:43and
48:43I
48:44have
48:45been
48:45along
48:45a
48:45journey
48:46of
48:46adjusting
48:47my
48:47language
48:48to
48:48be
48:48more
48:48intentional
48:49about
48:49what
48:49I
48:50really
48:50mean
48:50because
48:50I
48:51want
48:51to
48:51be
48:51able
48:51when
48:52I
48:52speak
48:52I
48:52speak
48:53the
48:53truth
48:53my
48:54truth
48:54so
48:54instead
48:55of
48:55saying
48:55I
48:56give
48:56an
48:56example
48:56somebody
48:57say
48:57come
48:57and
48:57lie
48:57with
48:58me
48:58and
48:58I
48:58can't
48:59come
48:59when
49:00I
49:00say
49:00I
49:00can't
49:01come
49:01that's
49:01actually
49:02a
49:02lie
49:02I
49:03have
49:03the
49:03ability
49:04to
49:04come
49:04but
49:04I
49:04don't
49:05want
49:05to
49:05come
49:05so
49:06instead
49:06of
49:06saying
49:07instead
49:07of
49:07saying
49:07words
49:08like
49:08that
49:08I'm
49:08being
49:08very
49:09intentional
49:09with
49:09my
49:10words
49:10and
49:10I
49:11can't
49:11remember
49:11what
49:11it
49:11was
49:12and
49:12Robert
49:12was
49:13like
49:13please
49:14and
49:14I
49:14told
49:15him
49:15I
49:15don't
49:15say
49:15please
49:15anymore
49:16because
49:16when
49:16I
49:16did
49:17the
49:17research
49:17please
49:17is a
49:18form
49:19of
49:19the
49:19word
49:19plea
49:20which
49:20is
49:20a
49:20beg
49:20and
49:21I'm
49:21not
49:21begging
49:22anybody
49:22to
49:22do
49:22anything
49:23if I
49:23ask
49:23you
49:23to
49:23do
49:23something
49:24it's
49:24either
49:24you
49:24want
49:24to
49:25do
49:25it
49:25or
49:25you
49:25don't
49:26want
49:26to
49:26do
49:26it
49:26now
49:26I
49:27have
49:27encountered
49:27people
49:28who
49:28please
49:29please
49:29and
49:30that's
49:30what
49:30they
49:30want
49:30from
49:30me
49:31and
49:31I
49:31said
49:31I
49:31I'm
49:32not
49:32saying
49:32that
49:32I'm
49:33asking
49:33you
49:33for
49:33something
49:34and
49:34they
49:34want
49:35to
49:35give
49:35it
49:35to
49:35me
49:35simply
49:38because
49:38it
49:39could
49:39easily
49:40be
49:40a
49:40demand
49:40without
49:41the
49:42please
49:42and
49:42the
49:42fact
49:42that
49:43please
49:43was
49:44introduced
49:45in
49:45the
49:46language
49:46specifically
49:47to be
49:48there's
49:49an
49:50option
49:50between
49:50you
49:50please
49:52please
49:55please
49:55please
49:56please
49:56please
49:56please
49:56please
49:58please
49:59please
50:00please
50:01please
50:02please
50:04no
50:05you
50:06can't
50:06get
50:06this
50:06you
50:06be
50:06like
50:07please
50:07please
50:09but
50:10that
50:11is
50:11begging
50:11that
50:12is
50:12now
50:12to
50:13what
50:13you
50:13were
50:13describing
50:14of
50:14plea
50:14right
50:15I'm
50:16pleading
50:17for
50:17something
50:17I
50:17get
50:18that
50:18but
50:18in
50:19terms
50:19of
50:19I'm
50:20just
50:20requesting
50:20or
50:21I'm
50:21asking
50:22of
50:22a
50:22favour
50:22right
50:24which
50:24is
50:24not
50:24a
50:24demand
50:25I
50:26am
50:26that's
50:26where
50:26I
50:27think
50:27the
50:27introduction
50:28of
50:28please
50:29could
50:29be
50:30manners
50:31maketh
50:31the
50:31man
50:32as
50:32they
50:32say
50:33and
50:33in
50:33Johansi's
50:34case
50:34he
50:35was
50:35lucky
50:35that
50:35I
50:36was
50:36controlling
50:36my
50:36let
50:40me
50:40give
50:40an
50:41example
50:41Niall
50:43I
50:43want
50:44your
50:44jacket
50:44please
50:45right
50:46Niall
50:48give
50:48me
50:49your
50:49jacket
50:49say
50:50the
50:50same
50:50line
50:51Niall
50:52I
50:53want
50:53your
50:53jacket
50:54two
50:55different
50:55connotations
50:56I
50:56want
50:57your
50:57jacket
50:57means
50:57it's
50:57almost
50:58like
50:58I
50:58don't
50:58have
50:59a
50:59decision
50:59I
50:59had
50:59to
51:00take
51:00off
51:00my
51:00jacket
51:00that's
51:01how you
51:01perceive
51:02it
51:02but
51:03generally
51:04that is
51:04not
51:04the
51:05general
51:05perception
51:06and
51:07I'm
51:08okay
51:08with that
51:08because
51:09I'm
51:09saying
51:09there
51:10are
51:10ways
51:10how
51:10I
51:10want
51:11to
51:11interact
51:11with
51:11things
51:12and
51:12not
51:13I'll
51:13give you
51:13one
51:14quick
51:14example
51:14when I'm
51:15talking on
51:16the phone
51:16most times
51:17with
51:17business
51:17you see
51:18the
51:19how are
51:20you
51:20I
51:21go in
51:21good
51:21I
51:21don't
51:22need
51:22for me
51:22I
51:22don't
51:23need
51:23that
51:23so
51:23I
51:24would
51:25say
51:25good
51:25morning
51:25because
51:26that's
51:26my
51:26standard
51:27morning
51:27talk
51:28to me
51:29you
51:30say
51:30morning
51:31or
51:31good
51:31morning
51:32I
51:32don't
51:32know
51:33somebody
51:34telling me
51:35morning
51:35you know
51:36I have
51:36a pet
51:36if you
51:39tell me
51:39morning
51:39Ziggy
51:40I would
51:40acknowledge
51:41I'm
51:43aware of
51:44what time
51:44of day
51:44it is
51:44right
51:45if you
51:45tell me
51:46good
51:46morning
51:46it means
51:47at this
51:47time
51:47of day
51:48you're
51:48wishing
51:48me
51:48a pleasant
51:49day
51:49right
51:50everybody
51:51have
51:51their
51:52way
51:52they
51:52want
51:52to
51:52be
51:53addressed
51:55and
51:55boundaries
51:56and
51:56if
51:56Robert
51:57tell me
51:57if
51:58you
51:58want
51:59to
51:59speak
51:59to
52:00me
52:00you
52:00have
52:00to
52:00say
52:01please
52:01right
52:02or
52:02good
52:02morning
52:03I
52:03would
52:03have
52:04to
52:04decide
52:04do
52:05I
52:05want
52:06to
52:06speak
52:06to
52:06Robert
52:07and
52:07I
52:07have
52:08to
52:08decide
52:08whether
52:08I
52:09want
52:09to
52:09change
52:09my
52:10own
52:10thing
52:10for
52:11him
52:11if
52:12you
52:12understand
52:12what
52:13I
52:13say
52:13and
52:15that
52:15is
52:16respect
52:16and
52:17it
52:17is
52:18really
52:18based
52:18on
52:19you
52:20personally
52:20so
52:21in
52:21closing
52:21respect
52:23above
52:24all
52:24what
52:25I
52:25realized
52:25is
52:26which
52:26I
52:27think
52:27is
52:28a bit
52:28unfortunate
52:29but
52:29that
52:30respect
52:30is
52:31so
52:31subjective
52:32that
52:32each
52:32person
52:33could
52:33have
52:33their
52:33own
52:33perception
52:34of
52:34respect
52:35which
52:35could
52:36make
52:36communication
52:37a bit
52:37difficult
52:38but
52:38what
52:38I
52:38would
52:39say
52:39to
52:39help
52:39mitigate
52:40that
52:40is
52:41one
52:42you
52:42know
52:42what
52:43your
52:43boundaries
52:43are
52:43and
52:44try
52:44best
52:44at least
52:45the
52:45people
52:45closer
52:45to
52:46you
52:46let
52:46them
52:46know
52:46what
52:46your
52:47boundaries
52:48be
52:48knowledgeable
52:49of
52:50it
52:50to
52:50respect
52:51it
52:51and
52:51also
52:52as
52:53much
52:53as
52:53you
52:53can
52:53you
52:53can
52:54ask
52:54so
52:54Niall
52:55how
52:55do
52:55you
52:55want
52:56to
52:56be
52:56addressed
52:56Ziggy
52:57how
52:58do
52:58you
52:58want
52:58to
52:58be
52:58addressed
52:58when
52:59I
52:59come
52:59in
52:59home
53:00by
53:00you
53:00what
53:00do
53:01so
53:02you
53:02could
53:02ask
53:02as
53:03much
53:03I
53:03know
53:03it's
53:03not
53:03the
53:03perfect
53:04word
53:04of
53:04that
53:04but
53:04if
53:05we
53:05try
53:06to
53:06get
53:06as
53:06much
53:06respect
53:07as
53:08possible
53:08at
53:09least
53:09ask
53:09and
53:18respect
53:20is
53:21a
53:21two
53:21way
53:21street
53:21you
53:22give
53:23as
53:23you
53:23want
53:23to
53:24receive
53:24however
53:25if
53:25you're
53:25not
53:26receiving
53:27what
53:28you
53:28perceive
53:30as
53:30respect
53:31then
53:32you're
53:32now
53:32in
53:32control
53:33of
53:33your
53:33reaction
53:34to
53:35that
53:35and
53:35you
53:35can
53:36make
53:36that
53:36determination
53:36whether
53:37you
53:37want
53:37to
53:37go
53:37forward
53:38with
53:38that
53:38interaction
53:39or
53:39you
53:40can
53:40remove
53:40yourself
53:40so
53:41be
53:42in
53:42control
53:42of
53:43your
53:44reaction
53:44and
53:45show
53:45respect
53:46not
53:46just
53:46to
53:47that
53:47person
53:47by
53:48not
53:48interacting
53:49as a
53:49result
53:49of
53:49that
53:50disrespect
53:50but
53:50either
53:51educating
53:51them
53:52to
53:52how
53:52you
53:52feel
53:52about
53:53the
53:53situation
53:54or
53:55simply
53:55walking
53:55away
53:56violence
53:57should
53:57never
53:58be an
53:58option
53:58with
53:59regards
53:59to
53:59feeling
54:00disrespected
54:00communicate
54:01communicate
54:02communicate
54:03I agree
54:04for me
54:05I would
54:06go with
54:06respect
54:09just to
54:09reiterate
54:09respect
54:10is
54:10something
54:11should
54:11be
54:12given
54:12forthwith
54:14and
54:15the
54:15lack
54:16of
54:16respect
54:17does
54:17not
54:17mean
54:18disrespect
54:18and
54:20I'll
54:21leave
54:21it
54:21at
54:21that
54:22does
54:23you
54:23get
54:23any
54:23closing
54:23words
54:23for
54:25me
54:25it
54:25is
54:25simple
54:25before
54:26you
54:26address
54:26anybody
54:27just
54:27think
54:27how you
54:28would
54:28like
54:28somebody
54:28to
54:28address
54:29you
54:29treat
54:30people
54:30how you
54:30want
54:30to be
54:31treated
54:31you
54:36go to
54:37about
54:38you
54:38so
54:39you
54:40talk about
54:41respect
54:42for
54:42me
54:44it's
54:44fundamental
54:45thing
54:45and
54:46I just
54:46want to
54:46treat
54:46everybody
54:47how I
54:48would
54:48love
54:48to
54:48be
54:48treated
54:49I appreciate you, I appreciate the panel
54:52I appreciate the discussion here today
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