Second Date Update - Strikeout
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00:00We are in the middle of a second date update right now, where we're trying to match Rob back up on a date with this girl, Lori.
00:06It has not happened yet for him.
00:08They have been on one coffee date.
00:10Their kids are on the same baseball team, which can get complicated, I think.
00:14So there's a lot of variables floating around here.
00:16Yeah, and I asked him if there was any other moms he was dating on the team.
00:18You did ask that.
00:19And he said no, just her.
00:21That's good.
00:22That would have been an obvious one for sure.
00:24All right, cool.
00:24So we do have Lori on the phone with us.
00:26Let's just see if we can get some answers from her.
00:28Lori, are you there?
00:29Hi, I'm here.
00:31Hey, thanks for agreeing to do this.
00:33I know it's probably a little awkward.
00:35And you just heard us talking and kind of telling people what we know about you and Rob.
00:40And, you know, we heard about that coffee date.
00:42And then he just thinks things have been different since that coffee date when he saw you again at the next game or practice or whatever it was.
00:51And is confused on why there hasn't been another date between you guys.
00:56Is there a reason for this?
00:57Yeah, I just, I really don't think Rob and I are a good match.
01:03I'm just not looking for somebody like Rob in my life.
01:06Ooh, strong words.
01:08Yeah, what do you mean like Rob?
01:10I don't approve of the way that he talks to his son.
01:16All right.
01:16And this is at the baseball field, I'm taking it?
01:18It's mainly when his son is out on the field.
01:21It's, I mean, let's just put it out there.
01:25These kids are 10 years old, okay?
01:27It's a baseball game.
01:29And he's yelling at his son, cursing at his son.
01:32Oh, wow.
01:33I mean, the ugliness that comes out of his mouth.
01:36And, like, parents have been talking about it, you know, and he's getting looks.
01:42And, honestly, it makes me really uncomfortable the way that he talks to his son.
01:46I just, I don't want my son around that environment.
01:50I don't want my son thinking.
01:52Well, it sounds like he already is if he's on the team with his kid.
01:55Right.
01:55And I just don't want him getting the idea that that's okay because it's not okay with me.
02:02Gotcha.
02:02You know, I just, I, and the way that the parents are talking about him and everybody's looking at him,
02:07I mean, it's just, it's awful.
02:10Okay.
02:11And this is something that you kind of notice more, you know, post-date?
02:15Yeah, I'm like, well, why did you go out with him in the first place?
02:18I didn't really see him in action until I'd already been out with him.
02:22And then it just, it hit me wrong.
02:25I was just like, oh.
02:27And then other parents are talking about it.
02:29And that's, you know, that kind of sparks it.
02:30Do the other parents know you guys went out?
02:33A couple of the moms do.
02:35And, you know, I just, I want to nip this at the bud before it becomes more awkward.
02:41Okay.
02:42Well, listen, here's the deal, Lori.
02:43Um, we do have Rob on the phone.
02:45That's how we got your phone number.
02:46You probably figured that out already.
02:48And how we knew about your guys' date.
02:50Um, do you care if we bring him on with us and just kind of get his side of things?
02:54I mean, it's already awkward now.
02:56Already.
02:57So, um, yeah.
02:59What's going on, man?
03:00Wait a minute.
03:01That's why you want, you're being weird about around me is because of the way I coach my son.
03:07And, yeah, it's, I mean, you're so serious.
03:11It's, it's overboard.
03:13I mean, it's a game.
03:15Yeah, it's a game.
03:16But the whole point of these games, the whole point of sports, the whole point of anything in childhood is to teach these kids some kind of responsibility.
03:25You know, some kind of, they teach them skills, teach them how to survive in the world, you know?
03:31And if we're just talking about the game itself, they gotta learn.
03:35They gotta learn what it takes to get to that next level.
03:38Rob, they already have a coach and he's doing a great job.
03:42But what you're doing, in my opinion, I would want a guy to be encouraging his kid.
03:47Like, way to go.
03:48Listen, as a parent, it's my responsibility to my son, okay?
03:54Their coach is responsible for the whole team.
03:57But he's coaching, you know, a peewee league group of 10-year-olds playing baseball.
04:04You know, he doesn't have a vested interest in any of these kids' development.
04:08You know, I want my child to be able to learn proper lessons in life, get better.
04:14Their, you know, life, the lessons he learns playing sports, they're going to translate to his adulthood.
04:22You're isolating him.
04:23I'm the only parent.
04:24You're singling him out and yelling at him and cursing at him like a drill sergeant.
04:30I'm the only parent that apparently cares enough.
04:32Maybe the rest of you guys didn't play sports when you were younger either.
04:35But I played baseball my entire, you know, educational career.
04:39I could have gone into college, but I had an injury.
04:42Oh, okay.
04:42There was a ball.
04:44There we go.
04:46I mean, I feel like you're kind of taking your own experience and, you know, putting it on your son.
04:55At the end of the day, they're kids and they're playing a game.
04:58And you want them to love the game.
05:01It's a game.
05:02But I want him to be good at that game.
05:05I want him to develop skills.
05:06And, you know, if I got to use harsh language or whatever to motivate him, so be it.
05:11It ain't nothing that he hasn't heard already.
05:13Rob, I'm not telling you how to parent your kid.
05:17All I'm saying is that's not okay with me and my kid.
05:21And I can't have him influenced by that.
05:24Because at the end of the day, it's okay if he don't win.
05:25You don't want your child to learn?
05:27You don't want your child to get better?
05:29I want my child to know it's okay if he isn't the best.
05:32It's okay if he doesn't win.
05:34Look, it is not okay to be a loser.
05:38All right?
05:38I will say that.
05:39I do believe you should not be content with that.
05:43You should not be okay with that.
05:44You should not be happy with losing.
05:47This whole touchy-feely kind of coaching that the coach does, you know, where he's supportive
05:54and, you know, giving them, saying good job even when they strike out, you know, that's
05:59crazy to me.
06:00Okay.
06:01All right.
06:01It sounds like you guys have way different parenting styles.
06:04Yeah.
06:04And that's always going to be an issue between the two of you.
06:07And I think maybe, Rob, after hearing from Lori, do you really think you're a good match
06:13with her?
06:14The fact that, you know, she's throwing this at me now after, you know, we've known each
06:20other for a while, that's kind of surprising.
06:22Okay.
06:23But, yeah, I can see this, obviously, is a difference of opinion.
06:28Okay.
06:28Well, Lori, I'm assuming that you're not looking for another date with Rob.
06:32No, I am not.
06:35Okay.
06:35Well, I'm sorry, guys.
06:36We can't make another date happen.
06:38Hopefully, you guys are going to be cordial at these games and practices and stuff like
06:41that, because that can be a little awkward.
06:43But, Rob, now you know what's going on.
06:45I wish you both the best.
06:46And you guys have a great day.
06:48Okay?
06:49All right.
06:49Well, thank you.
06:50You got it.
06:50Take care.
06:51I think there's something else going on.
06:53Really?
06:53I do.
06:54I don't know.
06:55I just, I don't, I feel like she's going to change teams or something if she can.
06:59I don't know.
06:59Well, I think she will definitely want to change teams now after that.
07:03Yeah.
07:03Yeah.
07:04But we talk about this all the time.
07:06If there's a problem like this, like the parenting situation, like right out the gate, when is
07:11that not going to be a problem for them?
07:13Oh, right.
07:13Yeah.
07:13So, um, do you think he said anything that wasn't true?
07:17Do you think he said, do you think he's in the wrong here, in the right here?
07:20We want to know.
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