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00:00all right so we are three graduates from hollywood upstairs medical college yes we have put in our
00:06time and we're here to serve the bay area with therapy thursday meredith md is on deck well
00:12howdy duty uh rich the emotional support animal present is here and orlando bgyn is here just in
00:20case things get surly under low all right let's see we got uh questions already coming in if you
00:25want to text us 888-429-0941 shoot us a question on any topic we'll try and help you with our
00:32expertise uh let's see out of the 941 it says freak show i could be 100 into a woman but after we get
00:40in to that situation after i'm not interested anymore it's not like it sounds i'm not one of
00:48those guys at all i'm just shook at why i'm just as shook as why after it happens my interest
00:56dissipates what does that say about me uh well the chase is gone you know i would say there's no
01:03mystery there's nothing you have to fight for anymore and you got it so i i mean it also comes
01:09with maturity if you really like her that that wouldn't really matter so much if you if you're
01:13choosing that that's the best part if you're choosing somebody who's a partner and somebody
01:16you're trying to build with then that wouldn't be the finish line you just in it for the play play
01:21so once you get to the finish line which you're seeing it as a finish line now you don't want to
01:26now you don't want to engage anymore it's kind of like what they said about those um racing dogs what
01:31are the uh the greyhounds like when they chase the rabbit around but when they catch it too many times
01:37then they don't want to run no more or something like that so you putting in the chase and then you
01:42it's almost like you just don't need to do the do yeah you gotta you gotta kind of switch your goals
01:47here if your goal is if that's your goal and you're hitting it and you're done with it then you need to
01:52switch your goal to something a little bit more uh with substance something like try to find somebody
01:57that you connect with on a you know more deeper level intellectual level how about intellectual not
02:03just a sexual level how about don't be so skanky how about you just don't you you're allowed to say no
02:08if you know that this is a bad issue and this is a habit why don't you just not sleep with the
02:14person so soon it's not just them sleeping with you you are also making these decisions it's a cycle
02:20he's getting that post clarity i'm not saying the other word yeah he's getting that post clarity
02:24you this means that you're not really connecting with these people on the level that you really
02:29want to you know the problem though so stop doing it there you go all right we got uh more coming in
02:34what we got um i need help please i'm a father of six me and one of my kids moms lives together
02:40don't get me wrong when it's good it's good but when it's bad it's bad we have been off and on for
02:45seven years ultimately she wants a future and has mentioned even marriage sometimes i can see that as
02:51an option but the kicker is that deep down in my heart i still have feelings for my other kids mom
02:58and it's been very hard for me to get over because we never actually gave each other a real chance at
03:03a relationship so she's what i'm thinking about i need serious help you um you i think you're in a
03:10normal situation um don't we look at things like oh my god it's such a big burden and then we may we
03:16make them a lot bigger problem than it needs to be there's nothing wrong with you having feelings
03:20with somebody you had kids with that's normal that means you're human acting on it but giving it this
03:26much energy like writing us you know that's what that's what makes it weird so i would say just you
03:32know treat it like it's normal you had a life with that person you still have a connection with
03:37that person but that time is gone for a reason so always look at the reasons you got out of it
03:42uh and then keep that frontal lobe and also keep your happiness that you have with your partner
03:48like the focus that has to be you know the focus when you're grown up and you're a leader of six
03:54humans yes you know i'm saying so so you can't play play jumping back and forth and all that you have
03:59to be absolutely a buck and stay on your job and it's like feelings and stuff like that that stuff
04:05is is a pass after the seventh grade now you've grown so have a feeling because you had a life
04:10but also keep focus on you know the plan keep your eye on the prize yeah definitely out of the 863
04:16i'm really into my girl there's one thing that really bothers me when she eats she eats like a pig
04:24she even burps uh gobbles down her food she also uh she doesn't have table manners oh god how can i
04:33fix this oh that is so unattractive you don't know where your napkin goes and you're just burping
04:39we're at a restaurant i don't know sometimes i i eat real fast and if i'm starving it's probably not
04:44the most like sexiest thing ever but i'm not doing that when i'm out with my man or on a date
04:48like when i'm alone that's a pet peeve of mine so it's like if you can't look the part then you
04:55gotta like go to some sort of i don't know like etiquette school finishing school or something
04:59can you imagine bringing that up well i mean yeah i mean why not though if i'm if i'm it depends on
05:06how you plan it if it's just you and you're embarrassed fine if i'm taking you to a dinner
05:10you know i gotta do a gala friday for the hillsborough county sheriff's office
05:14where the sheriff and six sitting judges and all these people gonna be there if i bring a date
05:20and my date over there wolfing it down like she in the marines and burping and farting and doing all
05:25that foolishness like you we either gotta fix you or i gotta fix the situation and get rid of you
05:29which one do you want to stay because if you want to stay then we gotta drop you off in one of them
05:33schools you can't just be in here scooping and scooping you can't do that if she's a grown-ass woman
05:39she needs to learn like this is a part of maturity and like you said like there's going to be
05:44instances where you have to go to dinner and you're gonna want to bring your girl
05:47they ain't gonna invite you back to eddie v's and you got this lady in there just troughing it up no
05:51that's not gonna work all right uh out of the 407 this says uh i married my wife she left and got an
05:58apartment and now wants to work on the marriage i think she got dumped by the lover and now wants to
06:06be back in a safe place with me and our children what do you think um well you have to decide if you
06:12both want to be together first of all second of all i would straight up ask i'd be like so is this
06:17the situation what's going on um and do you feel like you're alone right now and that's why you're
06:22coming and crawling back to me because if that's the case then somebody else is going to come new
06:26in your life and then you're going to want to leave again and that's so dysfunctional and toxic
06:31for little children and you so you got to pick one are you here because you want to be here and
06:36you made a mistake and maybe we can work on it or is it the bigger better deal and you're just
06:40waiting for somebody else to slide through all you got to do is just to focus on if you
06:43actually love them because here's the deal you can forgive somebody if you see a future there so
06:49you got to test how you feel forget what why she did what she did how do you feel about it do you
06:54want her back because if you want her back swallow your pride don't worry about the ego shot of it
06:58just be like you know what i'm glad you home come on back because that makes it very easy and it's
07:02hard to do but you got to realize if you don't don't lose your happiness because of ego yeah that's the
07:08best way up all right what else we got all right out of the 863 so i've been with my man for three
07:13years in the very beginning like two months and i broke it off for two months and ended up conversing
07:18with another guy he sent me a picture and i sent him a picture back but it was not naked uh my man saw
07:24it when we got back together and i thought he was over but he brought it up again in a conversation we
07:29had two nights ago should i let the relationship go since he can't uh let the situation go okay all right
07:37so here's the deal if you're going to be together and you guys want to be on the same page you can't
07:44just have somebody above you every single time and talking down to you and and holding things against
07:50each other either you're going to let the past go and you can move forward and build on your
07:54relationship and be happy together or you can still bring up old crap and then it'll just destroy
08:00your relationship so do you want to move forward or do you want to keep bringing up that she sent
08:05somebody a sexy photo is that really what's beneficial in your relationship what what i don't
08:10like is when people do something and get caught and then they try and like it's almost like what
08:15do they say when they uh they they like play you or they like uh what they i forgot they call it
08:20something gaslighting the gaslighting where they like trying to put their beliefs on you like she's
08:26like oh but it wasn't naked it don't have to be naked you know damn well if it's not naked but
08:31it's saucy your man seeing you send a saucy picture to somebody else right and he can't get
08:35it out of his head and that's something about the male ego we don't the person we love the last thing
08:41we ever want to see is them doing something that was mine with somebody else like that that's hard
08:47to get out of your head so so don't play it down like it's nothing it was like it wasn't even naked no
08:52get have some empathy for how he feels yeah with with that said though i mean they were not together
08:59so as the man we were on a break you're on a break i get that everybody goes through that but
09:04you can't get mad at your girl for something that she did when you guys were on a break yeah you can
09:08can you can because i need to know how fast well then do this how long was that was before you just
09:12don't know you went to the street that was two years ago though that was two years ago if you can't
09:17get over that then you shouldn't be with your girl that is so true that's very true a very good point
09:22and i can't get over so then don't be with your girl i got one out of the 727 i've been dating this
09:28guy and things are great until i went to visit his place i had absolutely no idea he collected
09:34snakes he has seven in his crib and it's freaking me out i guess some are actually collectibles or rare
09:40he says and it takes really good care of them but it just grosses me out it kind of smells in there
09:45the snake skin is so nasty and when they shed barf just wait till he feed them oh my god you don't want
09:53to see the little mice that's what you just gotta um cast better like you you have to like i mean
09:58before you get all in with somebody make sure you check them check their information and stuff don't
10:02fall in love or fall in like with somebody and then stroll at their house and find out they keep
10:06people in the basement like that you know i'm saying like find out who you dealing with first
10:10stop giving away the scooby snacks yeah your significant other is an extension of you and if
10:15this is something that you don't like about them and he has collectibles this is something he
10:18obviously is passionate but he takes he's he's good at what he does he's taking care of no if
10:22you're not into snakes yeah you can't be around a person that's got seven snakes yeah that's like
10:29laying in the bed next to you and like a snake under the bed and all the stuff you got like they're in
10:33pages man whatever i know snake people and snake people be having them things crawl around on the
10:39kitchen floor and you'll come in their house and there's one coming around the corner you're like
10:42man can you put them away like nah dog let me show off my snake sometimes you just gotta pick
10:47wisely and that ain't for you and to be real with you i actually gone through this my homie got a
10:53whole bunch of snakes and i hated snakes before yeah dj heist my best he's got a whole bunch of
10:59snakes and same thing he actually has collectibles he sells them and he has over 20 of them and i
11:04hated people need to be alone but i hated them before i hated them before i was actually petrified of
11:11snakes before and then i actually grew to liking them so this can work it can but
11:17it's a lifestyle if this is something that you're not willing to change or compromise on
11:22then you might want to rethink man know yourself don't listen to rich rich is the dude that's weird
11:27all right so he he's gonna want to do all kinds of things that ain't the normal person you aren't
11:32into something somebody's into something they everybody can't meet everybody can't be together
11:37some people are going to be off the list yeah so you know i i will tell you if i go to a girl house
11:42and they got a bunch of snakes at the house man it was nice meeting you like a cartoon with a dust
11:48that little meme where the little baby would come in the room and then the baby run around
11:52that's me i would be like that little bitty round baby just be like oh you got snakes
11:57yeah i'm out i'm not i'm not no sorry oh my god bye yeah how much do you really like this person if you
12:05really like i don't i don't like you that much i could love you and profess my love to you in the
12:09driveway and say it's us baby it's us matter of fact if i had jewelry i would put it on your finger
12:14right now because i love you now let me walk you to the door like a gentleman i walk up to the door
12:17and peek in the window and i see all them snakes i'll be like kill yourself i'm never coming back
12:24i'm never coming back just to let you know i just want to let you know orlando and the freak show
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