9-7-23 TT
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00:00My husband's ex passed away, but now he's taking a day off work to go to the funeral.
00:05But I feel some type of way because why don't do that to yourself.
00:11Don't you know what you're doing?
00:12And I mean, and this is going to sound crass, but you are putting more like respect and more like power in the grave.
00:21Yeah, you are out here with a whole man that can't do nothing with this person because they're gone.
00:27It ain't like he's going across town to their birthday party.
00:30He's going to pay his respects to their memorial.
00:32They in the grave.
00:33He can't.
00:34He probably knows the family, too.
00:35And if he don't go, he's still going to be thinking about it because that's somebody he was with.
00:40Don't play yourself like that.
00:41What are you jealous of?
00:42Like this person's not here anymore.
00:43Well, wait a minute.
00:44I mean, they're in the box.
00:46She's it's OK to have those feelings and express them, but let him go do his thing.
00:51That way he can say his goodbye, make his peace, and then he can move on happily with you.
00:55I mean, listen, it's good.
00:56It's a good thing.
00:57All I'm saying is you making you giving her more power.
00:59I agree.
01:00I agree with that.
01:00Don't play yourself like that.
01:02Don't be stupid.
01:03Out of the 727, my husband won't cook even though he works from home.
01:08I commute an hour to and from work daily.
01:12This has caused a major issue in our relationship because he finds every single excuse that he can about why he can't do it every night.
01:19I am dead ass tired when I get home and he is super old school and feels women should be doing all the cooking even though he has way more time to.
01:28Women should not be doing all the cooking, but it's your job.
01:33Orlando Davis.
01:34I'm not saying.
01:35I'm joking.
01:35Say your whole damn name right now.
01:37I'm just joking.
01:38That was quick for me.
01:39I'm like Orlando Davis.
01:40This sounds like somebody who's making excuses because they probably can't cook.
01:44Right.
01:45Like so.
01:45No.
01:46You know, people can learn how to cook.
01:48This is a learned skill.
01:49Okay.
01:49And if you really care.
01:50It don't make you good though.
01:51It doesn't matter.
01:52It is expensive to just always order out and pick up food.
01:55You can.
01:56Some people need to actually pick up and help out in the relationship sometimes.
02:00Yes.
02:01There's no reason he can't do this.
02:02I totally agree.
02:03I mean, but everybody has their skills.
02:05Like, you know what I'm saying?
02:05Yeah.
02:06He might not be great at it.
02:07It might not be.
02:08It might be a waste of time.
02:09I've made dinner for people and it was trash and it was just a whole four hour process of me wasting time.
02:14And that's why I'm like, hey, I'll order out.
02:16I'll take you out.
02:17I'll make sure you have the best dinner ever.
02:19But if it's up to me to make it, if it ain't spaghetti, we ain't doing it.
02:22Yeah.
02:23And that's out of the can.
02:24I get that.
02:25But let's assume that he can make something basic, like a little piece of chicken, season it, put some barbecue sauce on it.
02:31Maybe wifey's better.
02:32Maybe wifey's better at cooking.
02:33Stop making excuses for him being a lazy.
02:35I'm not making excuses.
02:36Come on.
02:36I'm just saying I get it.
02:38The fact that she's the cook.
02:40She was.
02:41And so now, why not do it like you do?
02:43You plan.
02:44I do.
02:45You be planning the whole damn menu for the week.
02:47It's weirdo as hell to me.
02:49But right here in this situation, she got to commute.
02:52She can get one of them crockpots you got.
02:53The Instapot, the this, that, and the other with the timers and all that.
02:56She can do a lot of that just to help him out.
02:59But then just say, hey, you got to help me out and some stuff.
03:02That's a good point.
03:02They could plan out what they're going to eat for the entire week and then make sure that it's simple.
03:07He can throw some stuff in a crock pot in that way and just set it.
03:10Set it and forget it.
03:11Dummy proof instructions.
03:13Like, hey, babe, put this in here.
03:15You know, like my mom would call me and say, take this out the fridge.
03:18You know, let it thaw out.
03:19And oh, my God.
03:20That's still her responsibility, though.
03:22It's exhausting.
03:22Pick up the slack.
03:24Make it a group thing.
03:25Just a little bit.
03:26You're going to teach him.
03:27She wants to be excluded at least once to twice a week.
03:30Give her a night off.
03:30Well, she's going to have to teach him first.
03:32Oh, out of the full seven.
03:34It says, hey, I'm down bad because my side chick found.
03:38Wait, I'm down bad because my side chick found and linked back up with her ex and now is getting married.
03:46OK, wow.
03:47The worst part is my wife has been trying to talk to me about it, but obviously I can't.
03:54It's been gray since Adalia.
03:57I don't know what that means about Adalia.
03:59So basically, OK, so the side chick.
04:01His side chick.
04:02His side chick linked up with her ex.
04:05Right.
04:05So they're back together.
04:07So the side chick is getting married.
04:09OK.
04:09He's sad.
04:11Right.
04:12And so the wife is trying to counsel him through the sadness.
04:15And she doesn't really know why he's sad.
04:16Not knowing that he's sad because his side chick got somebody.
04:20Listen, you got deal with it yourself.
04:23You got to swallow that and put it down in the deep soul of your pit.
04:27I wouldn't explain that to your wife.
04:29The wife is trying to counsel you.
04:29Yeah, that's bad.
04:30No, he's not going to explain it to her.
04:31The root of this all is that you are unhappy in your relationship.
04:35So I think this is a perfect chance for you to talk to your wife about your relationship.
04:41Don't talk about the side chick.
04:43No.
04:43Oh, well, I mean, that's why you're sad.
04:45He's sad.
04:46Why are you sad, babe?
04:47No, it's just some stuff I'm going through.
04:49Well, talk to me, baby.
04:50Oh, God, here we go.
04:51Here we go.
04:51I can't talk to you about it.
04:53You can't talk to her about it.
04:54But the root of it all is that he's unhappy in his relationship or else he wouldn't have a side chick.
04:59No.
04:59So that's the real root of it all.
05:01That's the base.
05:02But, okay, so, Rich, let me explain.
05:05Because I know you're a young scribe.
05:07Okay, so.
05:09Someone said he dumb as hell.
05:10Shut him up.
05:11Yeah.
05:12He can't talk to her about this.
05:14Because if he talks to her about the relationship, she's now going to get mad and they're going to have to.
05:19Now he's sad and has to fight.
05:21Now he got to debate with her while he's going through this thing.
05:24It's honestly, it's sad to hear that the homie is losing his number one draft.
05:29All right, look.
05:30Sound like he losing number one and two, though.
05:32Get your sadness out of the way before you come home.
05:36I don't know how long it's going to take, but don't let your wife see you getting upset over another woman.
05:41We will see what's going on.
05:43We can see through everything.
05:45You need to kind of get over that.
05:46Your side chick is going away and say bye-bye and move on.
05:49That's sad.
05:50What's sad?
05:51The side chick is gone?
05:53No, I'm just saying that you walk around moping around the house and you're like, are you okay?
05:57Yeah, I just found out some bad news about one of my homies.
06:01I lost one of my homies.
06:02Oh, God.
06:04I lost a real one, baby.
06:06I lost a real one, baby.
06:07I did.
06:09That's terrible.
06:10Yes.
06:11All right, man.
06:11That's Therapy Thursday.
06:12It's a wrap.
06:13It's a wrap.