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00:00all right therapy thursday is on you know when we talk it out work it out it helps you out
00:05and it helps us makes us feel like we have service we got the brilliant meredith md in the building
00:11brilliant today yeah we have the emotional support animal rich over here i got free hugs
00:18hugging you from the waist down yeah orlando bgyn here if you want to throw your feet up in some
00:25stirrups we got you all right if you have any type of question you want to share with us
00:29we don't judge that's the thing on thursday we we judge every day but not on thursdays all right
00:36just because talking it out we've learned from a lot of the therapist friends of ours that actually
00:41talking it out does help so um 888-429-0941 if you want to text us a little something uh this comes
00:48out of the 813 it says this is funny to write you guys after listening to davi ask for a threesome
00:55every year for his birthday yeah but my wife has brought it up to me i think it's a i think
01:02it's to change up the rut that we've been in but she wants to invite another guy that we choose
01:10together then we can include a two-girl scenario if we continue after it she says if we get into this
01:18world she wants to do it that way first i've imagined this a lot but this layout is not how
01:25it played out in my head if your significant other offered you this deal could you go through with it
01:32i personally would not go down this road because the potential of things going left um and destroying
01:40your relationship are so exponentially high when it comes down to this this is you have to understand
01:47you both have to agree on this and this is a lifestyle change you could be a one and done
01:52thing and then you never go back but you're gonna if you do the two guys you're gonna want to do the
01:57two girls because i mean that's that's what you guys are going ahead and trying to do fair that's
02:02the agreement y'all had yeah for sure and that totally makes sense but it sounds like it's gonna work
02:06its way up into an open relationship you guys have got to lay ground rules this is a long conversation
02:14many conversations if you want to do this the brilliant part was the way you said lifestyle
02:18right because we can kill the cat right there pal lifestyle right if it's not your lifestyle you're
02:23just trying to engage into it you can't play play you can't jump in and jump out it's a lifestyle change
02:29so if you enter into this and y'all not ready it can crumble up what you already got a rut can turn
02:35into trash so you probably don't want to go there there's nothing wrong with having a fantasy in your head
02:40and something that you've been thinking about and don't go through with it some of us got fantasies
02:45in our head that we ain't never gonna live out yeah but it can fuel you in different ways so like
02:50do you ain't always got to get you know you you don't always want to realize your dream and honestly
02:55this sounds like a test it's like uh hey well why do you ask for it if i can't get it right so it's
03:01like hey if you're not willing to do that for her and then you shouldn't be okay doing it for you
03:06yeah but if you're not in that lifestyle don't don't don't play play don't do that it's a big
03:10deal it's it's a bigger deal than you think it is and that's why people usually fantasize about it
03:15but they don't actually do it and it can 100 ruin your relationship okay i got one out of the eight
03:21one three what up it says this is not a joke question how do i cope if my junk isn't massive
03:28okay really no but this is a real problem
03:32and you know what i have a conversation it's stemming from the conversation and i have a
03:38solution you know what it does it's not always about the size it's about the the motion in the
03:44ocean sometimes and if that's a problem then you can do other things you need to get your tongue game
03:49yeah you need to satisfy your lady in other ways wow we really have these conversations bro this is
03:54therapy thursday people have problems listen if somebody is really if this is really it or
03:59somebody's just writing us to troll us because of the last conversation i will say that uh if you
04:04feel like you're inadequate that's something more on the inside it's not about your body because there
04:09are people out there who might be a little smaller than these skin mattress actresses and all this
04:14stuff who have the swagger of king kong right like there there are people out there there are women
04:21out there with little boobs and little booty who can kill it yes you know i'm saying and there's
04:25women out there with diminutive sizes as well who have the swagger and that energy that that they bring
04:32to the table so it's not about your size it's about how you see it and if you see yourself as you know
04:39like you know this type of like wimp wimp yeah then you gotta you gotta feel like a little bit better
04:44about yourself everybody ain't gonna be out here king kong no and and by the way not all women want that
04:48yeah we talk about it and all that stuff but sometimes that can be like extremely painful and
04:52a lot of women don't want anything to be painful when it comes to that there there's that category
04:57as well a lot of ladies like to keep it cute yeah like keep it cute ain't nothing wrong with having
05:01a puppy undersell over deliver man don't worry about the size don't brag about it yeah don't don't even
05:08brag about it there's a lot of things you could do that you don't need that it's not like you
05:12patting him on the head yeah man you're gonna be all right little baby you're gonna be all right
05:16you're all right you're all right with that little nubbin you got that little nubbin hey hips don't
05:21lie like shakira said just start using those hips dog somebody said little p energy don't mean it
05:27ain't gonna be good yeah see that's why y'all not the therapist y'all don't know how to talk right
05:32oh my god all right wait meredith you got one out of the 813 okay this question is for meredith
05:36i have two young ones age two and four i've been a stay-at-home mom since my oldest has been born
05:42things have been tight and i'm looking to go back to work and i want to know how you are able to manage
05:48work life and a home life right now we uh have a pretty solid routine and the house is running like
05:56a well-oiled machine i'm afraid that it'll fall apart once i step back into the work world how do you
06:01balance it uh oh it will it will there's going to be stuff that's going to fall apart and you have to
06:06be okay with that not everything is going to um be perfect all at the same time it's almost
06:12impossible and by the way it's very unhealthy expectations mentally for you to expect everything
06:18to run like uh perfectly the household the kids are going to get sick work is going to be perfect
06:23all at the same time and maintain a healthy relationship yeah of course we all strive for
06:28that something is not going to work and you just got to ride that roller coaster baby you need some
06:33extra money um if you maybe you don't have to do like a whole big nine to five job at first maybe
06:39you can do side jobs because a lot of people are just doing you know like the ubering uber eats
06:43whatever it is um and they're making a good amount of money and that way they can still be home and take
06:48care of the kids at the same time your your life um if you focus on what's important if the money is
06:55tight and you have to get it going concentrate on that because that upside is going to give you a lot
07:01more benefit than just sitting and worrying about what if what if what if you can't you can't control
07:07what it hasn't happened yet so you know you can be an adult and worry about it but if the end is to
07:13get more ends in the house focus on that because y'all are hurting on that side and if you can
07:19contribute get off the bench ain't no coach gonna look at you on the bench and be like yeah just sit
07:24over there and wonder if we could win with you in the game get in the game yeah you know and then
07:28figure it out on the other side when you walking around eating great coupon because y'all living
07:32big you know i'm saying so like just do that yeah and also there's uh stay-at-home jobs the uh you
07:38could be a phone person you could be customer service i heard google is hiring crazy to work
07:43from home and they get in the bag because trust me if this radio thing in i'm gonna give me one of
07:47them jobs where i can sit at home with some nachos in my drawers and just do google so there you go
07:53rich keep talking about people's crotchable regions and we might end up working for google
07:57hey people are asking it's therapy thursday we do all problems all right mr obgyn
08:02wait danimal just wrote us and said i love you guys doing therapy thursday it is amazing to help
08:08others when they don't know who to ask hard questions yeah sometimes it's hard sometimes
08:13it's silly danimal don't say hard because rich might start this old conversation
08:16gentlemen this one just came in yo freak show i need help my wife since 2009 my high school
08:24sweetheart literally just shattered the bond i thought we had we were joking in the kitchen
08:28last week and i made a comment that if your brother keeps joking about my motorcycle accident
08:32i'm gonna have to slap him up and i was just joking i was in a good mood but she responded in a
08:37serious manner if you slap him i i then i'm gonna slap you too she said he's the realest man i know
08:44and she will defend him over anyone else period even including me i don't know how it makes me feel
08:51because i've been the perfect husband since day one never cheated always a provider i work and put
08:56her through school we're in our mid-30s and her brother is 30 it just took me by surprise i'm not
09:03sure how to continue my marriage anymore because she doesn't have my back like i've had her man back
09:08up slow down you didn't lose your wife because she rides with her brother like you know there's
09:14nothing more heartbreaking than when somebody don't find your joke funny that's basically what it is that
09:19you're gonna lose your marriage because she didn't find your joke funny she thought she was trying her
09:22brother yeah like really like i don't know about my marriage now because she think her brother is
09:26more important that's her brother yeah blood is thicker than water like i mean she loves you but
09:30that's her brother like i mean you she thought you was being serious you weren't maybe you maybe your
09:36joke telling skills ain't up to par whatever it is she got serious about it you could have went the
09:40other way and said babe babe you know i love your brother i'm just joking right and then she would
09:45have calmed it down but you doubling down she doubling down like that's that's silly ain't
09:49nobody losing no relationship over no no no brother like that's not gonna happen and and you shouldn't
09:55be out there talking about you gonna slap somebody if you ain't got that kind of energy your wife is
09:59apparently telling you you ain't got that kind of energy yeah in the hierarchy of arguments
10:03family is almost always gonna win over anybody else right because you can talk trash about your
10:09sibling yeah but let somebody else talk about your sibling and it's like oh now i gotta cut you
10:13okay i say go slap him and see what happens you can do that too you're like you know what i i'm
10:21calling cap yeah and slap him there you go and see what out of nowhere but now we talk about domestic
10:26violence which we don't endorse now that her well yeah that's domestic coming from her to him is still
10:31domestic so we don't want you to do that but but but making a joke that somebody don't get when they
10:38don't get it abort abort cut it out just you don't double down just say you know what baby i was joking
10:44and obviously we shouldn't be joking about that because you ain't gonna slap me i ain't gonna slap
10:48your brother right let's go put on some music and let's chill out i would move on from this whole
10:53conversation in general don't go down the rabbit hole you're not gonna get anywhere good it was all
10:57a joke yeah the last thing somebody wants to hear from their significant other is that you have a problem
11:02with their family member but don't be so wimpy man don't i mean i mean i know you listening to the
11:07show and whatever and i get it but just uh if i'm being like absolutely a buck with you like you can't
11:12be that sensitive to be ready to tap out of your wedding and your marital bliss because your wife is
11:17riding with her brother right that's that's her brother all right uh one more out of the 813 it says
11:22my sex drive is through the roof um live with my wife oh love my sex drive is through the roof
11:30love my wife to the moon but i need more of her fine self oh i too am tired but i do my duty
11:41hmm what can i do so she she needs to put out more he wants more from her yeah he works but he's like
11:48i want more that's awesome that's communication that is communication that's you talking about
11:53your needs and not your wants and and you're not stepping out or anything and by the way you find
11:58your woman attractive and all you want is her i mean this is all a win i feel like just saying this
12:03and you know keep the compliments coming to make her ego feel good i would say that this is something
12:08a wife a girlfriend wants to hear she may be tired but also making time for the two of you
12:13outside of the house outside of the norm maybe a date night maybe go see a movie and then run into
12:18the bathroom you know spontaneity keep things a little bit exciting because dude i deal with this
12:23all the time just the routine day in and day out and kids and work and all that stuff it can really
12:27be boring but if you put a little bit of fun in your relationship and that excitement it can go into
12:33the bedroom as well you're um we've talked about this before there's a foreplay that happens that you
12:39can get the pump primed same way if you go out to use your lawnmower and you got to prime the pump
12:43yeah you got to prime your wife up you gotta you can't just come home and expect her to be able to turn
12:48it on you're working you're exhausted if you text your wife and you're like i'm having the most
12:53exhausting day but i still can't wait to get home to x y and z yeah i can't wait if you tell her that
13:02now she's like damn he's exhausted but all he wants is me now you're making a feel like she's
13:08killing it like he's like baby i i had to get to work this morning but i saw you laying in bed and i was
13:14just like damn i really should take the day off you look beautiful this morning i can't wait to get
13:18home and see you do you know that you might as well call it a sex crock pot that thing is gonna be
13:24simmering by the time you get home a little tease that's the way you do it prime the pump give her a
13:30little bit of something don't be dirty be cautious be like man my boss just gave me a whole bunch of
13:34work and i'm knocking it out as fast as i can because i can't wait to get home to you that's those are the
13:39things that you can use yeah and if the excuse is that she's tired hey tell her to take a week off
13:44from work go on a little vacation little staycation that way she's away from work if you can't afford
13:48like i don't know rich just hit the power bar i'm just saying no no it could be a staycation too
13:52what i'm saying is if the if it's that she's tired then get her some time off of work and let her get
13:58her energy back and let her you know that's good advice come home with a red bull and an energy bar
14:03and be like baby here you go you 10 minutes you gonna head much energy bar at the 561 just cheat on
14:10her bro no i mean don't do that do not until she doesn't listen
14:16every thursday is a wrap people