7-27-23 TT
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00:00All right, Therapy Thursday is here.
00:02When you're texting in questions for us, we got you.
00:05Emotional support animal Rich is over here.
00:09Meredith MD is in the building.
00:11Orlando BGYN is here.
00:13We answer any kind of weird queries that you got,
00:16talking it out and working it out because therapy is a help, all right?
00:20Let's see.
00:20If you have a question, hit us on 888-429-0941 out of the 727.
00:26We have, my wife is overboard OCD, so I need to ask the freaks.
00:33We can't get busy without her taking a shower afterwards, and it's religiously.
00:37Morning quickies are my best performance, and she runs late all the time,
00:42so I get shut down.
00:44I thought if I tried this therapy, it would be good before I go to real therapy.
00:49Help a brother out.
00:51You need to tell her.
00:52I mean, tell her that you want to, you know, get things going in the morning.
00:55See if she can wake up just a little bit earlier.
00:58Just throw it in the mix, maybe once a week or every other week
01:01so it doesn't kind of get boring or you can't really tell.
01:04And then I bet you she'll kind of find it sexy.
01:07If you kind of be like, babe, you look so fine in the morning,
01:10and, you know, I know you got busy stuff to do, blah, blah, blah,
01:13but I really want to piece that.
01:15You just got to set an alarm clock.
01:17Like, seriously.
01:18Set an alarm clock for her.
01:20Wake her up a little bit earlier.
01:21Yeah, let her know that, hey, that's your time.
01:23That's your golden hour.
01:25And she'll be receptive of it.
01:27Never be upset with somebody who's too clean.
01:29If somebody is like, hey, I got to go take a shower after whatever, whatever,
01:32that OCD is an acceptable one.
01:34Like, I mean, because there's a lot of ladies out there that get it in
01:36that don't necessarily take those kind of precautions, we should say.
01:41So your wife is, you know, an MVP at that point.
01:44I do think that you could probably just get up instead of being lazy
01:48and doing it when you're laying down, get up with her when she gets in the shower
01:53because she wants to knock out two birds with one stone.
01:56Like, you know what I'm saying?
01:57Get in the shower with her.
01:58As she's cleaning, you clean it.
02:02You know what I mean?
02:03And sometimes it's nice if she gets up, like, right afterwards.
02:06I mean, sometimes it's nice just to sit there for a minute.
02:08Okay.
02:08All right.
02:09All right.
02:09Don't make me go to the sound effects again.
02:13Don't make me do that.
02:14All right.
02:16By the way, it's 941 says my girl never want to have more in the morning sex.
02:19So there are people out there who are struggling.
02:21All right.
02:22Out of the 863.
02:23All right.
02:23What you got?
02:24I was scrolling through Instagram one day and I saw a cute picture of a girl.
02:29I decided to slide in her DMs and the conversation has been really good.
02:32We've been vibing.
02:34After I, wow, after I investigated her Instagram a little bit more,
02:38I saw she was a little person.
02:41Oh, my gosh.
02:42Okay.
02:43I don't know how to feel.
02:44Mm.
02:45Mm.
02:46Interesting.
02:48I don't even know what to say.
02:49Um, wait.
02:50So you're scrolling through.
02:52I mean, no, of course.
02:53But I'm saying, like, what's the therapy part?
02:55Like, that she's, okay, so.
02:57Well, maybe he was a little, like, put off by, because people take pictures differently.
03:03Like, say you're scrolling on IG and you think somebody's fine and good looking
03:07and then all of a sudden you meet them and they don't necessarily look.
03:10So he doesn't know her and he's never seen her in person, so he only saw the pictures.
03:14Right.
03:15And I guess, I guess he found out that.
03:16Well, I mean, yo.
03:18I mean, if you like her.
03:19I mean, if you, I mean, first of all, angles don't tell the whole picture.
03:22And that's not just for anybody who's, you know, diminutive.
03:25That's, hell, that's anybody.
03:27So if you got a dwarf or a person who's got extra weight or a person who's, you know, extremely tall,
03:32angles are going to give you, you know, different play.
03:35But if you reach out, holla at them on, you know, holla at them in the DM and say,
03:40hey, how you doing?
03:41I wanted to meet you.
03:42Yeah.
03:42And at least meet them.
03:43You might, I mean, whether it's a friend or whether it's somebody you want to holla at,
03:47you know, whatever.
03:47But the fact that you're writing means you liked her more than you're giving credit for.
03:52I say give the person a chance, whether they're super tall or, you know,
03:56they have height requirements and you can't go on a roller coaster with that person.
04:00That shouldn't stop you.
04:02Yeah.
04:02I mean, I'm not bugging at the fact that somebody is a little person.
04:05Like, you know, and honestly, if you were feeling them, you know, go for it.
04:09Bridget, the word that I can't say no more is somebody I love following online.
04:14I think she's entertaining.
04:16And when I met her, me and I, we had to take a whole bunch of pictures with her.
04:19We was excited.
04:20I think if you're vibing with her, I think you should keep it going.
04:23Give a chance.
04:24I think the embarrassment is more on you than it is more on her.
04:27That's an insecurity with yourself.
04:29Yeah.
04:29I don't think that's an issue.
04:31That's a non-issue right there.
04:32I have one out of the 863 anonymous.
04:35Hey, freaks.
04:35I have two friends, a couple staying with my boyfriend and for a little while.
04:40And while they look for a place, it's going on two months and the girl still hasn't found a job.
04:45And it looks like they won't be finding a place anytime soon either.
04:49My hospitality has run out and I want my space back.
04:53How do I politely kick them out without hurting the friendship?
04:56That's one of the reasons you, I know it's going to sound selfish, but that's one of the reasons why you got to watch who you let come in.
05:04Because if people are very comfortable, like being not an inconvenience, but being an inconvenience, like, you know, I'm saying if they're comfortable because they like, hey, we're cool.
05:13So, right, I'm good.
05:15It's not always like that.
05:16And you have to make sure that you bring in people who kind of have that internal clock.
05:21Now that you've made the mistake, are you willing to lose these friends because of an inconvenience?
05:26We all can be inconvenienced for somebody we care about.
05:29How much do you care about these people?
05:31That's what you got to ask yourself.
05:32Yeah.
05:33In essence, if the answer is you care about them a lot, then you got to just be a little bit more patient and think about it.
05:40If it was turned the other way, they would be there for you and maybe they will.
05:44Give them a time.
05:45Give them a deadline.
05:46Like, you have another month or another month and a half.
05:48Give them an exact date and then keep that date.
05:51And it has nothing to do with your friendship, but this needs to expire soon.
05:54All right.
05:55I'm going to hit this button here.
05:56Girlfriend, I'm the side chick.
05:58I've been happy in my position and we love each other very much.
06:01But now his girlfriend is pregnant.
06:05Should I keep this going or step away?
06:07I feel like I would put his new family at risk and I don't want that kind of karma.
06:12I mean, so now it's time to have morals because the baby is here?
06:16Yeah.
06:17I mean, before, I guess she thought it was just not that serious, just a girlfriend.
06:21But now they're going to create a whole family.
06:23Okay.
06:23Well, then I think that's your answer right there.
06:26If you're asking the question, that means that you know there's something wrong.
06:28You were playing, playing, and now playing, playing just got real.
06:32You weren't breaking up a family, but now you are, in essence, breaking up a family.
06:39Right.
06:39So if it's hitting your heart like that, then I guess you should probably tap it out.
06:43If you're asking the question, you already know the answer to it.
06:45And you probably need to cut it loose and just let that family be happy.
06:50He's going to be real busy, by the way, coming up.
06:51Like doctor's appointments, visits, after the baby comes, he's not going to have much time for you either.
06:55And that shift is going to be hard for you to deal with.
06:57One hard part of it, though, is that if he was messing around and dipping and dapping with you, he probably wasn't happy.
07:03And a baby doesn't necessarily, the stresses and everything else, babies fix a lot, but they don't fix everything.
07:08So if he wasn't happy, he might end up wanting to be with you, but you still are a person who is breaking up that family.
07:15So if you're asking the question, again, that might be a real, real part of it.
07:20All right.
07:21Let's see.
07:22People are calling you something.
07:24That's all I'm just saying.
07:25Use.
07:26All right.
07:28Let's squeeze in one more.
07:29What do we got?
07:30I need therapy.
07:31I am putting in my notice today to quit my job.
07:34I've been there two months.
07:35I feel horrible, but my new job is something that I followed up with me from before I started my current company.
07:42I love my boss, but she's out of town.
07:44Do I try to call her or send her an email to avoid the disappointment in her voice?
07:48I want to just email her, but is that horrible?
07:52To quit via email?
07:54Yeah.
07:55But she, okay, so she loves where she is currently working, but she's leaving, and she has like a really close relationship with her boss, a bond.
08:03How you leave is important because if this new job fails and you have to ever come back in front of this person, that means that, you know, you're going to want that opinion to be about you being an upstanding person and somebody who didn't burn a bridge.
08:18So, you never want to really just walk out on somebody.
08:21How you come in is how you should walk out with class and with them feeling good about you.
08:26They might be feeling good about you, you know, moving to another position, or they might try and keep you.
08:31Yeah.
08:31So, you know, like, I mean, but if you're sold on leaving, then make it as classy as possible and probably want to shoot them an email and say, hey, I just wanted to give you a notice that this has happened, and if the decision is made, then you go ahead and cut that off as gracefully as possible.
08:47That's what I would think.
08:48I think if you have a really good relationship with your boss, and your boss will understand, but you definitely, I think you should give them a call.
08:54If they don't answer, then you send that email.
08:57You want to make it a little bit more personal, especially if something happens with that other job, maybe you don't like it.
09:03You can go back.
09:04Something's going to be telling me she's sitting there like, oh, I hope she don't answer.
09:08I hope she don't answer.
09:08She hang up real quick after one ring saying, all right, I'm going to shoot an email.
09:11All right, your therapy Thursday's a wrap.