Is this statement true?
With Marvin Davis _Swappi_
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00:00Manhood, brought to you in part by Reboot Sports Drink.
00:09So welcome to another conversation on manhood.
00:13I'm really delighted to be here in good health
00:16and talking to all of you and all our listeners out there
00:20as we always aim to make life better, not just for ourselves,
00:25but for those of you listening and watching on.
00:29The purpose of the show always is to be better as brothers
00:32and to try in whatever way that we can to do what we can
00:37to make a positive impact into not just your life but our lives.
00:41Because as you would know from looking at previous shows or episodes
00:45that we ourselves always enlighten ourselves sometimes by what comes out.
00:51Sometimes I ask myself, am I speaking in tongues or speaking in an outer body experience?
00:56You hear something sometimes and you're like, wow, okay.
00:59I kind of, when you hear yourself out loud and more so when I hear from my brothers here on the panel.
01:06So to my right, Johan Tiaudike, behavior change consultant.
01:11To his right, the one and only Swappi, Soka artist.
01:16God is a trinity.
01:18Come on, all that.
01:19And to his right, Niall McNeish vibes God.
01:24Provocator.
01:25Provocator.
01:25Yeah, provocateur, provocateur.
01:29Today's topic, you know, another big one.
01:33No money, no honey.
01:35What do we take from that?
01:37Well, if you don't have the money, you won't get the honey.
01:40You'll be starting playing out.
01:43Let me say first, everybody have a different goal in a relationship.
01:47Right?
01:48So if, let's say a man's goal is honey, right?
01:51And a woman's goal is money, then it's mutually beneficial.
01:55I'm starting with that.
01:56So I'll leave it at that and we can move forward.
01:58Okay, all right.
02:00Swappi.
02:01What I'm going to tell you is that I had a girlfriend.
02:06She's now my ex.
02:08You know what she's going to say?
02:11No voom voom, no ****.
02:13So you say no money, you know honey?
02:16I think it changed now.
02:17It maximized now.
02:19So it's not just no money.
02:21It's no voom voom too.
02:23It's everything.
02:24It's everything.
02:25Yeah, and she come out outright and say that.
02:28So if we take in what Johansson said,
02:33that once you're meeting each other's needs,
02:35then it's all good.
02:37But really and truly is then fake.
02:40It can't be.
02:40If we're talking about, I mean again,
02:42okay, so let me put it into context.
02:46If we talk about something that's genuine,
02:48and by genuine I mean love, right?
02:50It can't be no voom voom or no **** and all that.
02:56If you're a genuinely lovely person,
02:58you're accepting the person regardless.
03:00Okay, if you're talking about love.
03:01So we're talking about it in the fabric of our society
03:06as we would know it.
03:08You know, we are all here between gen,
03:11what was it?
03:12Gen X.
03:14Gen X and millennial, right?
03:15And Gen Z.
03:16And millennial.
03:17Well, I don't think any, let's be honest.
03:20I'm millennial, right.
03:21So if your understanding is you're doing things for love,
03:25you're getting married,
03:25you're in a relationship,
03:27all of these different things.
03:27We're not even talking about relationships.
03:29We're just talking about in general
03:30from the perspective of what are we thinking?
03:33What is our new or the next generation
03:36or this generation in this next reincarnation
03:43or this next incarnation of life,
03:47are we thinking?
03:48Because I wouldn't like to say
03:49it's just a matter of somebody being young.
03:51It could be that me being older
03:53or someone older than me
03:55is now thinking this way as well,
03:57where before you might say,
04:00you know, I'm a one-woman man
04:03and now you're okay with saying,
04:05boy, you know,
04:05man's not meant to be monogamous.
04:08You're meant to be polygamous
04:10and things like that.
04:11We are animals
04:11and that's why we have 20 million sperm
04:13and all of these different things like that.
04:15You know, as women, you know, with eggs
04:17and all this biology
04:18and all these things that we do to justify.
04:21Because nobody says that.
04:22That's what we do.
04:23We try to justify, right?
04:24But there are certain things that are innate in us.
04:26And I'm saying that if it's in a case like
04:29where two people can have an understanding
04:32that you could say,
04:33okay, well, you bring money to the table,
04:36I will supply the honey.
04:38Then it's okay.
04:41And here I was saying.
04:42You bring the vum vum,
04:43you can delegate the f***.
04:45If your basis is love,
04:47then there's an agreement between two people.
04:50And whatever you all define love as.
04:53I remember in university,
04:55we were doing a communications course
04:56and the professor said
04:58a relationship is based on mutual benefit.
05:01Now, he didn't say romantic relationship.
05:03All relationships.
05:04Right?
05:05It's based on I gain something
05:06and you gain something.
05:07Sometimes it's agreed upon,
05:08sometimes it's not.
05:09So if I like to party
05:11and you like to party,
05:12then both of we gain something from each other.
05:15If I like to party
05:16and I only link to the party,
05:18but I have no car
05:18and you have a car,
05:20but you are no link to the party,
05:21then we also have
05:22a mutually beneficial relationship.
05:24Meeting's your halfway.
05:25Correct.
05:26Yeah, in a sense, yeah.
05:28And the truth about it,
05:30and I think what could make it beautiful,
05:32any kind of relationship,
05:33is if we're honest about what we want,
05:35honest about what it is.
05:36But then how,
05:38but then,
05:38talk to this title.
05:40How,
05:40but then how are we then saying to ourselves,
05:43is it that this is a new normal?
05:45And then to me,
05:46it just,
05:46it just might sound abnormal.
05:48Are we saying that,
05:49you know,
05:50when we talk about,
05:51Niles Swapping,
05:52when we talk about equality
05:54and all of these things
05:55that you hear women
05:56on a regular basis
05:57saying they want,
05:58all right,
05:58we know talk more
05:59in terms of job opportunities
06:01and so on,
06:01right?
06:02That's what we're putting it down to.
06:04Okay.
06:04That's what that equality means.
06:06But are we saying that
06:07when it comes to the male-female dynamic
06:10that we're going back to
06:12man is supposed to take care of the woman
06:14and therefore,
06:15you're supposed to be bringing in the money
06:18to take care of the honey
06:19to get the honey.
06:22What is we really telling ourselves?
06:24Well,
06:24let me tell you something.
06:26Long time,
06:28that used to be the mix.
06:30When I was small growing up,
06:31that's how I used to see my parents doing it.
06:34Mother home,
06:36father outside.
06:37Even before,
06:38even before my parents,
06:40their parents,
06:41that's how they used to do it,
06:42even hardcore.
06:43Even biblical days,
06:45that's how it used to be.
06:46But now,
06:47fast forward into 2024,
06:49it's everybody through the door.
06:51Everybody had to go out there
06:53and turn their hand
06:54and communicate something
06:56because at the end of the day,
06:58yeah,
06:58love is there,
06:59but
06:59it had to be a partnership too.
07:02But is it that,
07:03is it that that is happening
07:05because of the environment?
07:07So if,
07:08if,
07:08if,
07:08if things were,
07:09if things were,
07:09if things were,
07:10if things were,
07:10if things were,
07:11if things were,
07:12if things were,
07:12if things were,
07:16if things were,
07:20for lack of a better term,
07:23good,
07:24right,
07:24and the man went out to work,
07:26is it then that we,
07:27that women,
07:27are we saying that women
07:30are telling themselves
07:32or re,
07:32or really
07:33want to not work
07:35and want you to provide?
07:37How I see it,
07:38Robert,
07:39in this day and age,
07:41a woman want to be independent
07:43just as a man do.
07:44So then why they say
07:45no money,
07:46no honey then?
07:46No,
07:47well,
07:47that is some,
07:47that is,
07:48that is,
07:48that is my experience.
07:51But,
07:51but the,
07:51but,
07:52but let me say
07:52from a scale to one to ten,
07:54nine percent of the females
07:57are saying that today,
07:58that they are going out there
08:00to make the money too.
08:01Party coming up,
08:02you think they want to depend
08:03on the boyfriend
08:04for weave and,
08:04and,
08:05and shoes and,
08:06and cosmetics.
08:08They want to take their own money
08:09that they work for
08:10and go and get it too.
08:11Well,
08:12they want to,
08:12they want to be,
08:13they want to be able to match
08:14and not just match
08:15but to contribute
08:16and,
08:17you know,
08:17so that it would have
08:18a perfect union.
08:19Because if the man,
08:21if the,
08:21no,
08:21I'm not,
08:21I'm not talking about me,
08:22right?
08:23I'm just,
08:23I'm just speaking.
08:23I feel it talking real safe though.
08:25No,
08:25no,
08:25I feel it talking safe there.
08:26You want to,
08:27you don't,
08:27you don't,
08:28you don't get bashed
08:29on this show.
08:29You don't be talking.
08:30No,
08:30well,
08:30you see,
08:31in,
08:31in,
08:32in,
08:32in sex,
08:32right?
08:33You just have to,
08:34you just have to,
08:35you just have to,
08:36you just have to,
08:36you know what I mean?
08:38You can't just rush the brush,
08:39you know what I mean?
08:40I get in there.
08:41Yeah.
08:41So my point is
08:42that,
08:43that females today,
08:45they will depend on a man,
08:47yes,
08:47but they want their own too.
08:49Right.
08:50Right?
08:50All right.
08:51Back to my situation now.
08:53I was in a relationship
08:54where my ex was telling me
08:56that,
08:56hey,
08:57if you didn't have a car,
08:59you wasn't getting me,
09:00you know,
09:01and not only just a car,
09:02it's a series too.
09:04I couldn't tell my series.
09:06Like,
09:06so far it's going now,
09:07my brother,
09:08I'm telling you.
09:10When did you tell her that?
09:11How are you?
09:12Well,
09:13I was like,
09:14it's a good thing you tell me now.
09:17Because if you tell me that,
09:18then I was driving off.
09:19Does she have a vehicle?
09:21No.
09:21Does she come from a family
09:22that have,
09:23have a vehicle,
09:24have money to,
09:25you know,
09:26facilitate her?
09:27Yeah.
09:28No.
09:29So,
09:30is it more like,
09:31I want to change
09:32my standard of living
09:34and I am choosing a man
09:36who can provide me
09:37that standard of living
09:38that I want to get?
09:39Brother,
09:39man,
09:39let me tell you,
09:40boy,
09:40women just brave
09:40and boldface these days,
09:42boy.
09:42The brave,
09:43boldface,
09:44and they say anything
09:45that comes to mind.
09:46Anything that they think
09:47is right,
09:48they think that
09:49that is the right way
09:49to,
09:50you know,
09:50to go about things
09:51and to live.
09:52Right.
09:52Because,
09:53I mean,
09:53at the end of the day,
09:53they're hustling.
09:54Some of them,
09:55you know what I mean?
09:55I mean,
09:56they want to live
09:56and which and why
09:58I'm saying that
09:58I don't really get them wrong
09:59because,
10:01I mean,
10:01they're trying to get
10:02their own.
10:03They're trying to change
10:04the game too.
10:05Yeah.
10:05They don't want a man
10:06to cut style on them.
10:07I mean,
10:07we as artists,
10:08we just sing about that.
10:10Every girl who independent
10:11puts your hands up in the air.
10:13All independent girl
10:14puts your hands up in the air,
10:15you know what I mean?
10:15If you're paying your bills
10:17and things,
10:17you're wearing your own weave,
10:18you're wearing,
10:19you know what it is now?
10:19Yeah.
10:20You know what I mean?
10:21So,
10:21so a couple of things.
10:22One,
10:25the opinion shared here,
10:27we are,
10:27we are having a discussion,
10:29right?
10:29There's not necessarily
10:29beliefs of any one person.
10:31So,
10:32I'm saying that a woman,
10:34we're not talking about
10:35all women,
10:36right?
10:36So,
10:37I'm not talking about
10:38all women are
10:39no money,
10:39no honey,
10:40right?
10:41But,
10:42is it that
10:42it's just different levels
10:44because somebody might be
10:45outright and tell you,
10:46hey,
10:47you have to have a car,
10:48you have to have a vum vum,
10:49you have to have a particular
10:50series and another person
10:52might genuinely love you
10:54but may still be feeling
10:56that they would want you
10:58to have money
10:59or they want to be
11:00taken care of.
11:01Niall,
11:01you've said it on show before
11:03that you want somebody
11:04to take care of you.
11:05So,
11:06right?
11:07What do you mean?
11:08Yeah.
11:09Wow!
11:10I want to be taken care of,
11:11right?
11:12Wow,
11:12first of all,
11:12I'm moving that.
11:14But what I'm saying generally,
11:17thank you Robert
11:18for putting it out like that
11:19which is
11:20if someone is wanting
11:23or willing
11:23to take care of someone,
11:25I use a logic,
11:27right?
11:28My lifestyle
11:29is not changing.
11:29Someone is willing
11:30to give me
11:31everything that I want
11:32where I'm free to do
11:34whatever I feel like
11:35and explore any avenue,
11:36would I not want it?
11:38Is it my ego
11:39saying
11:40for me to feel
11:41like a man?
11:42I need to do
11:44these things
11:44traditionally
11:45what men have been
11:46taught to do.
11:49Copyholding,
11:50right?
11:50But I brought that
11:52as a segue
11:52just to see
11:53because the point
11:54I was trying to get at
11:55is that
11:55I'm glad you clarified
11:58that point
11:58for the persons
11:59who are probably
12:00viewing for the first time
12:00and also swapping,
12:01right?
12:02But my thing is
12:03that men and women,
12:05they are men
12:06that want to be
12:06taken care of as well
12:07or they're people
12:08that mightn't want
12:09to work as hard
12:10or they mightn't
12:10want to work hard
12:13at doing something
12:14that they don't want to do.
12:15So you know
12:15you always say
12:16if you love what you're doing
12:18you never work a day
12:19in your life,
12:19right?
12:20So if you're in an environment
12:22say you're an accountant
12:23but really and truly
12:24your love is to be a pilot,
12:25right?
12:26You're doing what is necessary.
12:27It's a necessary evil
12:28to say okay
12:29well I have to put money
12:30on the,
12:30I have to put food
12:31on the table,
12:31I have to do things
12:32which is all subject
12:33to your consequence,
12:34your environment,
12:37what has been dealt
12:37as a hand to you,
12:38all of these different things.
12:40What I'm coming back to
12:41is apart from that
12:43like we may all want it
12:45or people,
12:45the people who actively
12:47come out and say
12:48no money,
12:49no honey.
12:49Is it that,
12:50can you really fall them
12:51for living their truth
12:52or being their truth
12:53and saying to you
12:54that listen,
12:55my standard is
12:55I don't have a car
12:56so it doesn't mean
12:58I have to go with a broke
12:59to then not have a car as well.
13:03I am coming to you
13:03and saying listen,
13:04my standards are X
13:06and if you fulfill X
13:07then you could have
13:08this honey.
13:09If you don't fulfill X,
13:11you're out,
13:12you're out the door.
13:14Now,
13:14that to you now
13:16is being received
13:16if I'm hearing that
13:17as a red flag
13:18if I'm looking for love
13:20but if it's an understand
13:21that listen,
13:22I just want a nice girl
13:23why you are Mr.,
13:25you are sorry,
13:26you are Mrs. Wright now,
13:27not Mrs. Wright
13:28but you're Mrs. Wright now
13:29because I just want
13:30to have some fun
13:31and you circuit
13:32whatever the case may be,
13:33then it works.
13:35You know what I'm saying?
13:36A relationship
13:37and I go in back
13:39and this is my stance for now,
13:40I mean,
13:40who knows what's happening
13:41by the end of the show.
13:42A relationship is based
13:44on mutual benefit.
13:45Two people
13:45have to know
13:46what they want
13:47from each other
13:47whether it is short,
13:49medium or long term.
13:50Right?
13:50It could be that
13:51you have no money
13:52to buy a house,
13:53I have money to buy a house
13:54but I don't want
13:54to take care of the house
13:55so if I bring you
13:56in my house,
13:57you have to take care
13:58of the house.
13:59It's based on mutual benefit
14:00and let me even go
14:01with Nile's point of view.
14:02Whether it is the woman
14:02taking care of the man
14:03or the man taking care
14:04of the woman,
14:05it's still mutual benefit
14:06because let's just say,
14:07he say,
14:07you know what,
14:08I don't want to work,
14:08I want the woman
14:09to take care of me.
14:10She will say,
14:11well,
14:11I want X, Y, Z
14:12if I take care of you.
14:13Correct.
14:13So therefore,
14:14the relationship
14:15is mutually beneficial.
14:16Well,
14:16Sopi,
14:17let me ask you something
14:17before we go to the break.
14:20You working out,
14:21you eating right,
14:23you doing all of these things
14:24but a woman who now,
14:26who might,
14:27she won't eat
14:27whatever she wants,
14:28she might let herself go,
14:29decides that I want a man
14:32who have a six pack
14:33and who will take
14:34in care of himself.
14:35Now,
14:36you might tell yourself,
14:36but that's hypocritical.
14:37You're not even willing
14:38to do it yourself
14:39but you want it.
14:40Does that take away
14:42from the fact that
14:43she could want
14:44what she wants,
14:44that she might be a five
14:45but she aspires
14:47to have a ten?
14:48You know,
14:49you might look at it
14:50as a society
14:51and say,
14:51but you know what,
14:52you should equally
14:54be bringing it
14:54to the table.
14:55you could be asking
14:57for...
14:58I could answer a question now.
15:00Absolutely.
15:01I was once
15:02in a relationship
15:03with the same said person
15:04that says,
15:05no vum vum,
15:06no ****.
15:07I was working out,
15:09I am working out,
15:10still active,
15:11doing my boxing,
15:13eating right,
15:14but she on the other hand
15:15was the opposite.
15:17However,
15:18her genetics,
15:19she didn't need
15:19to work out.
15:20Some females
15:21come with genetics
15:22that they don't even
15:23need to do a squat.
15:25they just have it
15:26physically blessed,
15:28they just physically blessed.
15:29So,
15:30so automatically
15:31it becomes,
15:32you know,
15:32kind of compatible
15:33in some sense.
15:34You know what I mean?
15:35The flip side of that is,
15:38it may have females
15:39that they just
15:40big enough zucky
15:40and the same said man,
15:44jimin,
15:44eating right,
15:45but that all based on
15:47how much you love
15:48that person too.
15:49It comes to that little
15:50faith as well
15:51because at the end
15:51of the day,
15:53if he's eating right,
15:54it's obviously
15:54you will encourage
15:55her to eat right too.
15:56Yeah.
15:56But she mightn't
15:57eat right one time,
15:58but at some point
15:59she will get there.
16:00So it all boils down
16:01to the understanding,
16:03you know,
16:04the meeting each other
16:04halfway kind of thing.
16:06You know what I mean?
16:06But,
16:07so are you going in,
16:08are you in that relationship
16:09telling yourself that
16:10if this is how,
16:12this is how it is now,
16:13but I see potential,
16:15you know,
16:15the eye is pretty,
16:17you know,
16:17she have nice,
16:18nice boobs.
16:18So you realize that,
16:19listen,
16:20because you could have
16:21horses for courses.
16:24If you,
16:24you could,
16:25a woman,
16:26you know,
16:26love is in the eyes
16:27of the beholder.
16:28So you,
16:29you could look at a woman,
16:30you could say,
16:30okay,
16:30she could become
16:31the fittest woman,
16:32but she's still
16:33not appealing to you.
16:34So is it that you
16:35are looking at the potential
16:37and saying,
16:38okay,
16:38well,
16:39when she come with me,
16:40we will start to run,
16:41she will eat right
16:42and then she will become,
16:43but what if she then
16:44decides,
16:44I like in this lifestyle
16:45and I done,
16:46I done have my cake
16:47here already.
16:48I could continue to,
16:50to level my,
16:52you know,
16:52my,
16:53it all depends on how much
16:54you love that person,
16:55you know,
16:56just like,
16:57just like how I pick
16:58this love mud,
16:58no matter how much
17:00the mud dirty,
17:01you pick all this dance
17:02in it.
17:03That's true.
17:05Very interesting one.
17:06And we're coming back
17:07from the break
17:08to expand on it.
17:09Come on.
17:15Welcome back
17:22to manhood.
17:24Yeah,
17:24man talk,
17:25it's all good.
17:26Yeah.
17:27So,
17:28so I was saying,
17:29I mean,
17:31some females,
17:32they demand certain things
17:33and some females don't.
17:36Some females accept it
17:37for what it is.
17:39Like for instance,
17:39when I was,
17:40you know,
17:41growing up
17:42and amongst my partners
17:43and them,
17:44my brothers,
17:45you know,
17:45the kind of discussion
17:46we will have
17:47is like,
17:48you know,
17:48like my brethren
17:49kind of way,
17:51saying that,
17:52you know,
17:52you would like a woman
17:53to mine him
17:53and some of you
17:54will be saying,
17:55we would like to meet
17:57a rich white woman
17:58somewhere in Westmoren,
18:00you know,
18:01because,
18:02you know what I mean,
18:02you're going to mine,
18:03yeah.
18:03But,
18:05I think,
18:07I think the chances
18:08were that kind of,
18:08kind of slim.
18:10You know what I mean?
18:11Quite similar.
18:11Chances were that slim.
18:13Why?
18:13Because I never experienced that.
18:15That don't mean it's slim.
18:16That just be a little bit
18:18but I don't mean it's slim.
18:19I mean,
18:19in your right area.
18:20Yeah,
18:21you know what I mean?
18:21I never come across
18:22that kind of vibes now.
18:24You know what I mean?
18:24I,
18:25I,
18:25I,
18:25I myself wish
18:26that I could have
18:28bounced up something like that now.
18:29You know what I mean?
18:29And the Westmoren thing,
18:31you know.
18:31You know what I mean?
18:32You see,
18:32you see how the energy is better.
18:34You know what I mean?
18:34That was,
18:34you know,
18:35that was back then.
18:36But who don't want
18:37that peace of mind?
18:38Just even for a little bit.
18:39Nothing wrong with that.
18:39Nothing,
18:40nothing,
18:40nothing ain't wrong with that.
18:41And again,
18:42that choice too.
18:43That's if you,
18:44if you choose to do that,
18:45if you choose to lay back
18:46and put your foot up
18:47and,
18:47and be the,
18:48and be the house man.
18:49No,
18:49no,
18:49put your foot,
18:50first of all,
18:51let me,
18:51let me correct you there
18:52because the woman
18:53who stay in home
18:54and a house woman,
18:56a house wife,
18:57they don't,
18:58they don't have their feet up.
18:59I know the lifestyle
19:00generally is.
19:01No,
19:01when I say,
19:02it's just a metaphor.
19:03Gotcha,
19:03gotcha,
19:04gotcha.
19:04I don't want to say
19:04because the domestic engineers
19:06I know,
19:07you know.
19:08The domestic engineers?
19:10Domestic engineers.
19:11They are,
19:11they are,
19:12they are sometimes
19:13harder working
19:14than the men
19:18who are out there working.
19:19You understand?
19:20That,
19:20that going through
19:21of keeping the house
19:22in order
19:22to,
19:23to go and
19:24pick up the kids,
19:25to take kids
19:26to all these
19:27extracurricular activities,
19:28home,
19:29all that,
19:29that,
19:30and then when you come home now
19:31you expect,
19:32you might expect dinner
19:32or some sort of
19:33comfortable,
19:34whatever the case may be.
19:36That is extremely
19:37taxing on a woman
19:39and it shouldn't be
19:40because even though
19:41you're out making,
19:42you're making,
19:43making,
19:43it might be a decision
19:44that you know,
19:45based on the lifestyle
19:46that you want for your kids
19:47and things like that
19:47that you might say,
19:48okay,
19:48well,
19:48she has to stay home
19:49or vice versa.
19:50I just need to correct something.
19:52Good.
19:52Let me just back,
19:53let me just back,
19:53backpedal a little bit.
19:54I say that never
19:55happened to me,
19:55I lie.
19:56That kind of,
19:57because with my job,
19:58it fluctuates,
19:59right?
19:59Yeah,
19:59yeah,
19:59yeah.
20:00So when my ex
20:02and we just living together
20:03and stuff,
20:04because she was working,
20:28it doesn't mean that
20:29she didn't still want
20:30a certain standard
20:31and that's what I'm saying
20:32that even though
20:32you might have
20:33your independence,
20:34doesn't mean that
20:35you still don't want,
20:36you might be working
20:37for say,
20:38a 10,000,
20:39doesn't mean that
20:40you still don't want
20:40somebody who have
20:41a Mercedes-Benz
20:43or a Range Rover
20:44or a particular
20:45series,
20:46voom voom,
20:46right?
20:47but I just want
20:48to clarify that
20:48because I hear it a lot,
20:50men think,
20:50you know,
20:50the women who,
20:51you know,
20:51women who are working,
20:53like I said,
20:54domestic engineers
20:55are somehow lazy
20:57or just accepting
20:59certain things.
20:59That is,
21:00I have,
21:01I think that's so far
21:02from the truth,
21:03you know,
21:04that,
21:05doing that
21:06is probably tougher
21:06than somebody
21:07who gets to leave,
21:08gets to socialize,
21:10gets to,
21:10you know,
21:11have a breather,
21:11has a change of scenery,
21:12but all,
21:13so I think that
21:14in those circumstances,
21:15even though,
21:15like for you,
21:16I want to be a kept man,
21:18that that part of it
21:19should be shared.
21:20It should still be shared
21:21of with regards to
21:23whether one person
21:24take the yard,
21:25you know,
21:25one person,
21:26you know,
21:26today we do any homework,
21:27next day somebody
21:28drop the kids,
21:29pick them,
21:29it needs to be that balance.
21:31Yeah,
21:31because,
21:32Robert,
21:33nothing is free.
21:35Absolutely.
21:35Right?
21:35Nothing at all is free.
21:36So if you're in a relationship
21:38with somebody,
21:38you're using a romantic relationship,
21:40somebody,
21:41both people have to be
21:42giving something
21:43or some things.
21:44Contributing some way.
21:45And one,
21:47sometimes,
21:47and I would say this
21:48because even I experienced this,
21:49I wasn't honest,
21:50open and honest
21:51exactly what I want.
21:52So sometimes I think
21:53certain things are expected,
21:55but of course,
21:56the person is not in my mind.
21:57And then sometimes,
21:58some things you want,
22:00and I've experienced this
22:00as a man
22:01and even some men I know,
22:03is that things that you want,
22:04you might even say,
22:05so if you say,
22:06you know,
22:06I want to get sex every day
22:09or every twice a day,
22:10sometimes you're free to say that.
22:12Sometimes if you want to say,
22:13I want a different meal every day,
22:15you're free to say that
22:16because next thing,
22:17the woman don't want to do it,
22:18next thing she vex.
22:19So you have these things
22:20that you want
22:21that you have,
22:22you don't say,
22:23and then the person
22:24have the things they want
22:24and they mightn't say
22:25and then things go awry
22:27versus
22:27if both people
22:29honestly just say
22:30what they want,
22:31then relationships
22:32could work.
22:34Right?
22:34And I'm saying this,
22:35not to say
22:36I am perfect with this either,
22:38but if two people,
22:39so even as Robert you're saying,
22:40if a woman fat,
22:42right,
22:42and she wants a man who fit,
22:44it's okay for her to say that,
22:45but that means
22:46she would have to give something
22:47to the man
22:48for him to also to be there,
22:50wherever it is.
22:52So for me,
22:53it's just a basis of being honest.
22:55He could even be bold-faced,
22:56he could even be called bold-faced.
22:58You know what,
22:58I want X, Y, Z,
23:00but you have to know
23:00you're willing to give something to.
23:03So if you bring in,
23:04if you want somebody
23:06that is fit
23:07and all the rest of it,
23:08then you have to be bringing
23:09maybe some financial
23:10something,
23:11stability to the relationship.
23:13Something that the person wants
23:14and it's based really
23:15on what the person wants
23:16and on what you think they want
23:17versus what they really want.
23:19Well,
23:19everything coming down
23:20to assets and liabilities,
23:22right?
23:22And just one,
23:23I don't want to be a kept man
23:25personally.
23:26However,
23:28if it is,
23:28I end up in a situation
23:29I fall in love
23:30with somebody
23:30who make it astronomically
23:33more than me
23:33and based on our relationship,
23:36I might have to be the one
23:37to step back
23:38and see about the home.
23:40I don't mind doing that
23:42for the person that I love
23:43but I know that
23:44my role
23:45as a kept man
23:46is
23:46if mama coming home
23:47and her feet tired
23:48and I had to rub her feet
23:50and make that happen,
23:51that's my work.
23:53It's to remove the ego now
23:54because now we're talking about
23:55Who wants to work?
23:56Who gets up and says
23:58I want to go and work hard?
23:59It has some people
24:00who enjoy it.
24:00I enjoy it.
24:01No, no, no, no, no.
24:02Remember,
24:03I came back to the point
24:04about if you love
24:05what you do,
24:05you never work a day
24:06in your life.
24:07Fair enough, okay.
24:07So it doesn't mean
24:08that if I'm passionate
24:09about something,
24:10so he might work
24:1119 hours,
24:12like during carnival
24:13and things,
24:1319 hour days
24:14in the studio
24:15and all these other things
24:16but he loves
24:17and is passionate
24:18about what he's doing
24:18so he's not looking
24:19at it as working hard.
24:21But if you now put you
24:21and say
24:22the one bust own.
24:23I beg to differ, bro.
24:25I'd have to correct you
24:26this is hard work.
24:29But I'm not saying
24:30it's not hard work.
24:32What I'm saying to you
24:33because you're passionate
24:34about it,
24:35you don't mind giving
24:36more than if you were
24:38saying busing stone
24:39or doing something
24:39you don't like.
24:40anything that you do,
24:41Robert,
24:42what kind of passion
24:43you have,
24:44if you don't put hard work
24:45behind it,
24:46it will never be successful.
24:48Agreed.
24:48But I think we all
24:50missing what I'm trying
24:50to say.
24:51No, no, no.
24:51I understand the thin line
24:53between want to work hard
24:54and hard work.
24:56I understand the thin line.
24:58But I would just bring
24:58in the point that
24:59where if it is that
25:01you have these products
25:02here looking nice
25:04and glossy,
25:05it didn't just come
25:06just so, you know.
25:07It's hard work
25:08behind it.
25:09Hard work behind it.
25:10But you're still
25:11passionate about it
25:12so you're willing
25:12to give that extra,
25:14that blood, sweat
25:15and taste to achieve
25:16as opposed to if you're
25:17doing something
25:17you're unhappy doing.
25:18Right.
25:19You wouldn't want to
25:20put that same energy
25:21and so on to the
25:22moment they tell you
25:22break, you're taking
25:23the break.
25:24All right.
25:24So bring it in the
25:25context now.
25:26You raised that point.
25:27Bring it in the context
25:28of what we're talking
25:29about.
25:29Right.
25:30No money, no honey.
25:31So if, well,
25:32I could be very honest
25:34I lost my whole train
25:35of thought there
25:36and I don't know
25:36why I brought that up
25:37in the first place.
25:39It wasn't like
25:40I had to get
25:40something off my chest,
25:41you know.
25:42But, um,
25:43no, but, but, but
25:44if I'm to think
25:46no money, no honey,
25:47right, and you are
25:48you are saying
25:49that somebody's
25:50making a lot more
25:51than you're making
25:52in your home,
25:53there's, there's
25:54nothing, there's
25:55nothing wrong
25:56with, let's just
25:59continue the conversation
25:59because I can't even
26:00come out.
26:01Let me, let me, let me
26:02say something.
26:02You see, when, when
26:04you start swapping,
26:04you say women these
26:05days demand what
26:06they want and they
26:07say and they're
26:07boldfaced.
26:08I think we mentioned
26:09frigging take a page
26:10from that because we
26:11don't veto the man.
26:12This is what I
26:13say.
26:13Who tell you that?
26:14Okay.
26:15Plenty men do
26:16the man.
26:16Who tell you that?
26:17In my experience.
26:18Tell them I swapping
26:18I did.
26:19I think, I think
26:20do the man.
26:21A man always
26:26was sex.
26:28That's the first
26:28thing we just
26:29asked for.
26:30All right.
26:30We just asked
26:31for the number
26:31and then after
26:32that, the next
26:33thing that is
26:33on your mind.
26:34Come down and
26:34let me be real,
26:35man.
26:35All right.
26:36Let me be real.
26:37I want, because
26:38we don't really talk
26:39about that often
26:40enough.
26:40And I want women
26:41to understand,
26:41and men, the
26:42science behind
26:43that or the
26:44biology behind
26:45that is the
26:46fact that the
26:46connection is, and
26:48again, we're not
26:48speaking on behalf
26:51of all men
26:52or on behalf
26:52of all women.
26:53We just don't
26:53want the data
26:54that's available
26:57now, is that
26:59men use sex
27:00to connect.
27:01That's their
27:02way of connection.
27:03Women want to
27:04connect in order
27:05to have sex.
27:07Connect, whether
27:07it be emotionally,
27:08feel loved, feel
27:09appreciated, and
27:10all the rest of
27:11it.
27:11I know, but we're
27:12talking about
27:12asking here.
27:13Yeah.
27:13Right.
27:14So that's why
27:15men, they want
27:16to connect like
27:17that.
27:17So a man will
27:17go, hey, honey.
27:19No, we just
27:20ask you number
27:21first.
27:21Well, that's
27:22right.
27:23Yeah.
27:23And after we
27:24ask you, because
27:25that's the first
27:25thing, when I
27:25meet that chick
27:26and I find she
27:27look good, you
27:28scope it out
27:29with the eyes
27:29and your eyes
27:31automatically start
27:32to think about
27:32other things,
27:33start to think
27:33about sex.
27:34That's the first
27:35thing that's
27:35play on your
27:36mind.
27:36Let me be
27:36real.
27:38But you
27:38wouldn't
27:38rightfully come
27:39out and say
27:39it, but you
27:40will ask for
27:41the number.
27:42So when you
27:43ask for the
27:43number now, then
27:44you start asking
27:45other questions.
27:46So you can't
27:47see we don't
27:47ask.
27:49We just be
27:50asking all
27:50kind of thing.
27:51So you
27:52have a man
27:53and they
27:54ask him?
27:54Nah.
27:55That is
27:56indirect
27:56asking.
27:57Indirect?
27:57Yeah, you
27:58don't ask
27:58exactly what
27:59you want.
27:59Oh, we
28:00don't
28:00demand
28:01what we
28:01actually
28:02want.
28:02But we
28:02are
28:02looting
28:03things.
28:03So we
28:04men, and
28:05that's even
28:05a good
28:06point, because
28:06a lot of
28:07us men is
28:07asked for
28:08things indirectly.
28:08We don't
28:10state what
28:10we want.
28:12Even what
28:12you're saying,
28:13women is
28:13asked for
28:14directly what
28:14they want.
28:15They will
28:15say, I
28:16fat, but I
28:17want a man
28:18who have a
28:18six pack.
28:19Directly.
28:20The more
28:20directly, the
28:22straightforward.
28:25And we
28:26could take
28:26a page out
28:27of their book.
28:27Because
28:28some men
28:30end up
28:30beating
28:30around for
28:31months.
28:32Some men
28:32end up
28:32beating
28:32around for
28:33years.
28:35And I
28:36would say
28:37more even
28:38train
28:38big onion
28:39men, because
28:39it's not
28:39worldwide men.
28:40We have
28:41some
28:41culture, men
28:42is asked
28:42for what
28:42they want.
28:44We
28:44train
28:45women
28:45in this
28:45dance, and
28:46then sometimes
28:47we don't
28:47end up getting
28:48what we want.
28:48And then here
28:48what has
28:49happened, we
28:49don't get
28:50what we
28:50want, and
28:50then we
28:51vex with
28:51the woman.
28:52But we
28:52never really
28:52say exactly
28:53what we
28:54want.
28:54The woman
28:54say from
28:55the start
28:55you want
28:56the woman
28:56woman
28:56particular
28:56series.
28:58I can't
28:59even think
28:59about
28:59saying
28:59something
29:00like
29:00that
29:00tell
29:00woman.
29:01But yeah,
29:01I dated
29:02this nice
29:05nice girl
29:05boy,
29:06brown skin,
29:07pick up
29:07the girl
29:08in the
29:08rain,
29:09in my car,
29:10went all
29:11on the
29:11avenue,
29:12went and
29:12eat,
29:14spent
29:14no money.
29:15Leather.
29:15Man,
29:16I gave
29:17a man a
29:17bad drive,
29:18the man
29:18run,
29:18I could
29:19have
29:19dead,
29:20all
29:20kind of
29:20mad thing,
29:21all
29:22kind of
29:22drama
29:23thing that
29:23night.
29:24I
29:26she
29:26said,
29:27I
29:27looking for
29:29sugar,
29:30you know,
29:30you could
29:32give me
29:32anything I
29:33want.
29:34Well,
29:35that was
29:35the first
29:36last night.
29:37So I
29:37just
29:37show you
29:38that
29:38women
29:39directly
29:40but they
29:41have men
29:42who
29:42understand
29:43that now
29:43and you
29:43see them
29:44they'll
29:44go and
29:44rent a
29:45Ferrari,
29:45they'll
29:46walk around
29:46with the
29:46keychain and
29:47they understand
29:48now that
29:49way of
29:50to go and
29:51get that
29:51because bottom
29:52line is you
29:53know business
29:54whether or not
29:54she on you
29:55after that,
29:56you know,
29:56as long as
29:57you get a
29:57dip,
29:58as far as
29:59you're
29:59concerned,
30:00hey,
30:00well,
30:00you know,
30:02I'll get
30:03through.
30:03But that's
30:03still indirect,
30:04you know,
30:04because if you
30:05rent a Ferrari,
30:06you're still
30:06lying.
30:07She wasn't
30:07lying.
30:08She comes
30:08one time
30:10if you rent
30:10a Ferrari
30:11life.
30:12No,
30:12we're talking
30:12about direct
30:13communication.
30:16That's how we
30:16start with.
30:17If a man
30:18wants something,
30:19if I drive
30:19in a,
30:19what was that
30:20old school?
30:20A Cortina,
30:21right?
30:21If I drive
30:22in a Cortina,
30:23right?
30:24I seen,
30:25even if I
30:26drive in a Cortina,
30:27if I didn't
30:28direct,
30:28I could tell
30:29you,
30:29baby,
30:29I drive
30:30in a Cortina.
30:30At the end
30:31of the night,
30:31this is what
30:32I want.
30:32I take in
30:33your KFC
30:34and we're
30:35going for
30:35ice cream
30:35after.
30:36This is what
30:36I'm giving
30:37you and
30:37this is what
30:38I want,
30:39right?
30:39Then she
30:39could decide
30:40if I even
30:41want that
30:41or they
30:42could have
30:42a,
30:42this man
30:44is utopian
30:44where we're
30:45talking the truth
30:45and coming
30:46out and saying
30:46everything is a game.
30:48I'm being utopian.
30:48He's just saying
30:49everything is a game
30:50but men
30:51typically just
30:52lose the game
30:53because they're
30:53not asking
30:54for what they
30:55want and
30:55they're hoping
30:56the woman
30:57will do it.
30:57They're hoping
30:58something and
30:59then it
30:59don't have fun.
30:59If you change
31:03the game,
31:03right?
31:04And you get
31:05honey and you
31:05have no money,
31:06how you
31:07lose?
31:08How you
31:09lose?
31:09Because if you
31:10print a keychain
31:12or the woman
31:13has the perception
31:14that you have
31:16money and you
31:17end up getting
31:17the honey and
31:18that's all you
31:19really was after,
31:20then how did you
31:21lose?
31:21But it's not a
31:22game.
31:22If a woman
31:23out,
31:23I tell you no
31:24money,
31:24no honey,
31:25that's not a
31:25game.
31:26That's a
31:26straight.
31:27If you now
31:28come and
31:28they're beating
31:29around the bush
31:29and they're renting
31:30a Ferrari,
31:30that becomes a
31:31game that you
31:32probably playing
31:33by yourself.
31:33not if you're
31:36getting honey.
31:37First of all,
31:37not all honey is
31:38to eat.
31:39By the way.
31:39Yeah,
31:39this one,
31:40no.
31:40No,
31:41that's where
31:41when you say
31:42I was just
31:42going towards
31:43if you can't
31:44lose,
31:45but you are
31:45losing.
31:46If it is I
31:47pull out a
31:48Ferrari keys,
31:49Ferrari keys to
31:50fool a young
31:51lady into
31:52prematurely
31:54giving me
31:55a little
31:55a little
31:56whop,
31:57right?
31:58That mightn't
31:59be the honey
32:00that I want to
32:01consume as a
32:02man and I
32:03might end up
32:03in more
32:04issues after
32:04that.
32:05If you're
32:05looking for
32:06a relationship,
32:07I am saying
32:08if you're going
32:09out and a
32:09woman telling
32:10herself,
32:10listen,
32:11she want
32:11money,
32:13right?
32:13That's her
32:14end game.
32:14She want to
32:15be taken
32:15care of.
32:16She wants
32:16to get
32:17some Gucci
32:17bag or
32:18something.
32:19And a
32:20man decide,
32:21okay,
32:21well,
32:21you know
32:21what?
32:23I will
32:23spend my
32:24whole paycheck
32:25on this
32:25dinner tonight.
32:26Because in
32:27her mind,
32:28she gets
32:28in,
32:29well,
32:29this man
32:29have money,
32:30boy.
32:30You might
32:31charter a
32:32boat or
32:32do something.
32:33Chain up
32:33things.
32:34Basically,
32:35it's chain
32:35up.
32:36You understand
32:36what you're
32:37looking for?
32:37Chain up.
32:38And you
32:38now get
32:40the honey,
32:41she ain't
32:41getting no
32:42money.
32:42Because all
32:43she gets
32:43is that
32:43nice dinner
32:44at that
32:44particular
32:44point where
32:45the charter
32:45down there.
32:46Now,
32:46if you're
32:46looking for
32:47a relationship
32:48later down
32:49in the line
32:49and so on,
32:50then you
32:50know that
32:51you go in
32:51with a
32:51woman who
32:52decides,
32:53you know,
32:54what do you
32:54call it?
32:55Nature's
32:56credit card?
32:56Swipe.
32:57You understand?
32:58A woman.
32:59Forget before
33:00you even reach
33:01a relationship.
33:01We're talking
33:01about a
33:02woman.
33:03You buy
33:03the dinner
33:04and you
33:05fool her.
33:06You get
33:06through.
33:07But now
33:07she could
33:07have your
33:08seed.
33:09You know,
33:09you didn't
33:10want a
33:10relationship
33:11with her.
33:11You get
33:11you.
33:12I win.
33:12Aha.
33:13You know,
33:14I get
33:15you on your
33:15back.
33:16But now
33:16she have
33:16your seed.
33:17What
33:17situation
33:18are you
33:18in there
33:18now?
33:19Well,
33:19where Jimmy's
33:20had brother
33:21clothed up,
33:22you know,
33:22something.
33:23But it's real
33:24interesting,
33:25but we have
33:25to go to the
33:26break.
33:26we have to
33:28go to the
33:29break.
33:29So this is
33:30Manhood.
33:30We're talking
33:31here.
33:31No money,
33:32no honey.
33:33So thank
33:44you for
33:44staying with
33:45us here on
33:45Manhood.
33:46The topic
33:46is a very
33:47dicey,
33:47juicy,
33:48very,
33:49very
33:49controversial
33:51one.
33:52I wouldn't
33:52even say
33:52nice or
33:53juicy,
33:53a very
33:54controversial
33:54one.
33:55No money,
33:56no honey.
33:57What exactly
33:58do we
33:58understand by
33:59that?
33:59And we've
33:59talked about
34:00our position
34:01with regards
34:02to whether
34:02it be
34:02exes,
34:03whether
34:03women who
34:03want to
34:04be taken
34:04care of.
34:05But I
34:06want to
34:06get to
34:07the seriousness
34:07of it.
34:08And how
34:09does it
34:09impact male
34:10behavior now?
34:11When we say
34:11no money,
34:12no honey,
34:13when people
34:14are robbing
34:15and killing
34:15in order to
34:16get money
34:17because a
34:18woman might
34:18be perceived
34:19as wanting
34:19that,
34:20as a
34:21lifestyle,
34:22and you
34:22want to
34:23attain that.
34:23So for
34:24example,
34:24I might be
34:25working very
34:26hard and
34:27like an
34:28apple,
34:28but I
34:29earn in
34:29pumps,
34:29two or
34:30five fingers
34:30money.
34:31does that
34:34mean that
34:34I don't
34:34have to
34:35be content
34:38with our
34:38five fingers
34:39when I
34:40can't help
34:40my taste
34:41is to
34:41want an
34:42apple?
34:43And
34:43therefore,
34:44it depends
34:45on your
34:46upbringing and
34:47your societal
34:48influences.
34:48you may
34:49stay in
34:49market and
34:50say,
34:50okay,
34:50well,
34:50this is
34:51what I
34:51have to
34:52be content
34:53with,
34:54and you
34:54may find
34:55love in
34:55that,
34:56you might
34:56be in
34:56love with
34:57you,
34:57but you
34:57might find
34:57love in
34:58that,
34:58but there
34:58are other
34:59persons who
34:59might say,
35:00no,
35:00I want
35:01that,
35:01and I'm
35:01doing what
35:01it takes
35:02to get
35:03that.
35:03That apple
35:04that you're
35:04talking about,
35:05you could have
35:06that want
35:06based just
35:07simply on
35:07marketing.
35:09The reason
35:09why you want
35:09that apple
35:10is because
35:11you've been
35:12told that you
35:13should be
35:13eating this
35:13apple.
35:14It doesn't
35:14change the
35:15fact that
35:15you want
35:15it.
35:17But the
35:17point is,
35:18is that the
35:19structure behind
35:20it all is
35:20what is
35:21skewed.
35:23You understand?
35:24But we're not
35:24denying that,
35:26but it is
35:26what it is.
35:28So,
35:28but the,
35:29okay,
35:29well,
35:29if you're
35:29going on
35:30it is what
35:30it is,
35:31the reality
35:31is that
35:32women out
35:33number men.
35:34So just
35:35offer those
35:35statistics,
35:36generally,
35:37most men
35:38are supposed
35:38to be able
35:38to have a
35:40partner or
35:41get sex
35:41somehow.
35:41But it
35:42mightn't be
35:42the apple,
35:43and is the
35:43apple you
35:43talking about
35:44now?
35:44Right?
35:45This is not
35:46easy because
35:47I myself
35:48learning how
35:49to not
35:49settle for
35:50less.
35:51But if
35:51you want
35:52an apple,
35:52aim for
35:53the apple.
35:54Right?
35:54You might
35:54eat a
35:55palm city,
35:56you might
35:56eat a
35:57five-finger,
35:58you see,
35:58in between
35:59all of them
35:59things are
35:59more expensive
36:00than apple
36:00now.
36:01But anyway,
36:02you might
36:02eat that
36:02in between.
36:03But don't
36:04settle for
36:04those things.
36:05Aim for
36:05your apple
36:06because we
36:06go on the
36:07flip side,
36:07and as you
36:07were saying,
36:08women not
36:09settling either.
36:10And that's
36:10what I'm
36:10saying,
36:10take a page
36:11from their
36:11book.
36:13Aim for
36:13where you
36:13want.
36:14If you
36:14know you
36:14want a
36:15woman who
36:15XYZ,
36:16XYZ,
36:17and you
36:17have a
36:17layout in
36:18your mind,
36:18then aim
36:19for that.
36:20Don't settle
36:21for less.
36:21Because if
36:21you settle,
36:22then you
36:22wouldn't be
36:23happy.
36:23And then
36:23you get
36:24vexed and
36:25resentful.
36:25When a
36:25woman is
36:26telling you,
36:27no money,
36:27no honey,
36:28because she
36:29maintaining her
36:30standard,
36:31but we
36:31falling for
36:33us.
36:33So a
36:33gold digger
36:33is okay
36:34then?
36:35Generally
36:35speaking.
36:36What is a
36:38gold digger?
36:39Gold digger
36:39is specifically
36:40entering in a
36:41situation,
36:42ship or
36:42relationship,
36:43specifically for
36:44financial or
36:45monetary gain?
36:46If they want
36:47financial or
36:48monetary gain and
36:49they're giving
36:49whatever it is
36:50for that gain,
36:51for the person
36:51who's giving
36:52them,
36:52then it's okay.
36:53It's a mutually
36:53beneficial
36:54relationship.
36:55So then there's
36:56no gold digger?
36:57No.
36:58So explain that.
36:59How I explain,
37:01elaborate,
37:01is that if all
37:03a woman wants
37:04is money,
37:05if that's all
37:06she wants,
37:07and what the
37:07man who's
37:07giving her money,
37:08if all he wants
37:09is sex,
37:09I'll just give you
37:09an example,
37:10and he getting
37:11sex and she
37:11getting money,
37:12then all right,
37:13they have an open
37:14and honest relationship.
37:16But that's semantics
37:17now,
37:17Johansi,
37:18because the term
37:20of a gold digger
37:21or the understanding
37:22of a gold digger
37:22is just that.
37:23It's a woman who's
37:24looking after,
37:25who's coming for
37:25a man's money.
37:26And no sex.
37:27He ain't got nothing
37:28in return.
37:28If he get nothing
37:30in return,
37:30then he's a gold digger.
37:31Then there's something
37:32wrong with him.
37:33Then she's a gold digger.
37:38If she ain't
37:38getting nothing,
37:39then yes.
37:40She's giving something
37:41because time
37:42still has to be given.
37:44No.
37:45Not the something.
37:46If she's giving
37:46what the man wants,
37:47how are we going
37:48back with what
37:49the man wants?
37:49Because if she
37:50getting money,
37:51and let's say
37:52he don't want sex.
37:53Let me go.
37:54She wants money,
37:55but he wants
37:56company.
37:57I just gave you an example.
37:58He's a lonely man
37:59and all he wants
38:00is company.
38:01And she giving him
38:02company,
38:03then it's fine.
38:04Once he gets
38:04in what he wants.
38:05It is still
38:06the understanding.
38:07We mightn't like
38:08the negative
38:11connotation attached
38:12or the titles
38:14and so on
38:15that we give things.
38:16But if you ask
38:17anybody
38:17what a gold digger
38:20is,
38:21it is still seen
38:22as someone
38:23who is going
38:24after someone,
38:25whether it be
38:25a male or female,
38:27that person's money,
38:28it still will be
38:29in exchange for
38:30something,
38:30whether it be
38:30time,
38:31whether it be
38:32whatever the case
38:35may be.
38:36It is still
38:36in exchange for
38:37something.
38:37And that person's
38:38going in with the
38:38intent of getting
38:40the person's money.
38:41So it's a gold digger
38:43regardless whether
38:43the person knows
38:44what the person knows.
38:45So my question
38:46now is,
38:47is gold digging
38:48bad?
38:50Because what it
38:51sounds like to me,
38:51no, no,
38:52but I know,
38:54I agree.
38:54At first,
38:55I came into this
38:57conversation thinking
38:58that being a gold
38:59digger is a
39:00negative connotation,
39:01but however,
39:02and I'm real happy
39:03that my mind
39:04opening up a little
39:05bit,
39:06it's really just
39:06a standard
39:07because real men
39:08is going to
39:08situations a lot
39:10just for jam.
39:11Right.
39:11So if,
39:12just want sex only.
39:13If he's a
39:14conquer,
39:15right?
39:15So let go gold
39:16digger and conquer.
39:17All I want
39:18is,
39:18is,
39:19is sex.
39:20Then it's the
39:21same thing.
39:22So then man
39:22gold digging too.
39:23It's not gold
39:26that they're
39:26digging for.
39:27No,
39:27no,
39:27that's their
39:28goal.
39:28That's their
39:29goal.
39:29Right,
39:30right,
39:30right.
39:30Yeah.
39:31When we said
39:32no money,
39:32no honey,
39:33right?
39:34Honey don't
39:34have to be
39:35woman,
39:36you know?
39:36Honey could
39:36be man.
39:37So it could
39:38be a man,
39:38it could be
39:39the man
39:40going after
39:41a woman
39:41and telling
39:42her,
39:42hey,
39:42no money,
39:43no honey.
39:43You ain't
39:44getting no
39:44honey either.
39:45Well,
39:45it's the same
39:45and vice
39:46versa.
39:46Yeah.
39:47So men
39:48are gold diggers
39:48too.
39:48What I am
39:54coming down
39:54to is what
39:54Johansi said
39:55at the start
39:55about being
39:56in your
39:56truth and
39:57speaking your
39:57truth.
39:58Where it
39:59becomes
39:59negative.
40:00If that's
40:00what you
40:00want to
40:01do,
40:01that's
40:01what you
40:01want to
40:01do.
40:02I am
40:02not,
40:03of course
40:03you can,
40:04of course
40:04you can,
40:05right?
40:06Reboot.
40:07So my
40:09thing is,
40:10is that if
40:11you're in a
40:12situation of
40:13that you
40:15want to
40:17you want
40:19money in
40:19your life,
40:20right?
40:21And you
40:22are willing
40:22to give
40:23of yourself.
40:24We're not
40:24here to
40:24judge your
40:25moral standards.
40:26I am
40:26here basically
40:27saying that
40:28according to
40:29Johansi,
40:29is the
40:30truth.
40:31Is if you
40:32say to
40:32yourself,
40:33if you
40:33say to
40:34yourself that
40:34listen,
40:35I know
40:35I have
40:36money and
40:37I don't
40:38mind getting
40:38this honey
40:38and she
40:39know,
40:40he or
40:41whoever,
40:42this is a
40:43relationship,
40:44then dies
40:45on you.
40:45I am
40:45talking about
40:46where
40:46the topic
40:49was brought
40:49up around
40:50is it that
40:51relationships
40:52now are
40:52women going
40:53and gyming
40:54it,
40:55wearing certain
40:55things,
40:56going to
40:56certain
40:56places and
40:57this is
40:59where it
40:59comes from
40:59to go
41:03after the
41:03money.
41:04It's okay,
41:05you say they're
41:06gyming,
41:06so they're
41:06looking good
41:07and they're
41:08going where?
41:08They're going
41:08and positioning
41:09themselves around
41:10men of
41:10money.
41:12You're not
41:12getting this
41:14unless you
41:16have money.
41:17I don't
41:17care how
41:17educated you
41:18are.
41:19I don't
41:19care how
41:19genuine you
41:20are,
41:20if you're
41:20a good
41:21man.
41:22That could
41:22also be
41:23that you
41:23could start
41:24off with
41:24money and
41:25a genuine
41:26relationship,
41:26you say you
41:27bust.
41:28What are you
41:31saying?
41:31Something wrong
41:31without something
41:32right?
41:33What are you
41:33saying?
41:33I am not
41:34here to
41:34judge.
41:35Let me
41:36use it.
41:37At the
41:37beginning of
41:38our
41:38relationship,
41:39if two
41:39people decide
41:40exactly what
41:41they want
41:42from each
41:42other,
41:43whether you
41:44want to
41:45call it
41:45unconditional
41:46love or
41:46conditional
41:47love.
41:48If you
41:48don't have
41:48these
41:49things,
41:49then I'm
41:49not with
41:50you.
41:50If you
41:50don't have
41:50these
41:51things,
41:51I'm not
41:51with you.
41:52That to
41:53me is
41:53better to
41:54be honest
41:54from the
41:54start than
41:55pretending
41:56that you're
41:56not too
41:57sure what
41:57is going
41:58on.
41:58I'm
41:59holding
41:59back and
42:00I hope
42:00the person
42:00understands
42:01what is
42:02going on.
42:02Next thing
42:03all it
42:03could be
42:03in a
42:03relationship
42:0410 years
42:04and then
42:05you realize
42:06she really
42:07not giving
42:07me what
42:08I want
42:08or he
42:09not
42:09really
42:09giving
42:09me
42:09what
42:10I
42:10want
42:10because
42:10all I
42:11didn't
42:11say
42:11from
42:11the
42:12start
42:12what
42:12it
42:12is
42:13all
42:13you
42:13want.
42:14Let me
42:15also ask
42:18then because
42:18we are
42:19going down
42:19the road
42:19of no
42:21money,
42:21no
42:21honey,
42:22just
42:22in
42:22relationships
42:23or male,
42:24female,
42:25male,
42:25male,
42:25female,
42:26female,
42:26whatever the
42:27case may
42:27be in
42:28terms of
42:28getting
42:29physical.
42:31But also
42:32what are
42:35your thoughts
42:35on no
42:36money,
42:36no
42:36honey in
42:38general with
42:39people who
42:40have money
42:40versus people
42:41that don't.
42:41Say for
42:42example your
42:43partner have
42:43a boat.
42:45So he's
42:46like hey
42:46everybody you
42:47want to go
42:47down the
42:48islands?
42:49And you
42:50know people
42:52say go down
42:53and there's
42:53an air
42:53about
42:54somebody
42:54now because
42:55they're
42:57facilitating
42:58somebody to
42:59have a good
42:59time.
43:00Right?
43:01And people
43:02then say hey
43:02that man
43:03real cool,
43:04a woman
43:05might like
43:05him because
43:06you have a
43:06boat,
43:07you have a
43:07Range Rover,
43:08you might
43:08have something
43:08else.
43:09You might
43:09be able to
43:10give them
43:10something that
43:11allows them
43:11to access
43:12happy moments.
43:14And also
43:14they might
43:14then be able
43:15to bring
43:15a friend
43:16or bring
43:17their mother
43:17or something
43:18like hey
43:18that person.
43:19So my
43:20thing is
43:21at that
43:22point do
43:23we say
43:23that money
43:24brings
43:24respect,
43:25money
43:25brings
43:26certain
43:28friendships,
43:29all of
43:29these
43:29different
43:30things.
43:30Because if
43:30you're saying
43:30that no
43:31money,
43:31no
43:31money,
43:31and once
43:31you have
43:32an
43:33understanding
43:33it's
43:33okay and
43:34we're not
43:35saying that
43:35it's fake
43:36or going
43:37beaten around
43:39the bush
43:40or the
43:41moral compass
43:42is off
43:43all of
43:43these
43:43different
43:44things,
43:44could it
43:44not be
43:44the same
43:45in terms
43:45of you
43:47have money
43:47today,
43:47you have
43:47no money
43:48to borrow
43:48the
43:48first of all
43:49we live
43:49in a
43:49capitalistic
43:50society,
43:51so money
43:52is the
43:53paramount
43:53of said
43:53society,
43:54like that
43:55is in
43:56God we
43:57trust,
43:57it's
43:57literally
43:58written on
43:58our
43:59currency,
44:00so yes,
44:01obviously,
44:02I just went
44:02on the
44:02universal dollar,
44:03it's
44:05okay,
44:05what I
44:06gotta say,
44:06I just
44:06gotta back
44:07up with
44:07you saying
44:07it,
44:07but more
44:08in layman
44:09terms,
44:10in the
44:11more real
44:12terms,
44:13but that's
44:13the reality
44:13of it,
44:14we're living
44:14in that
44:15space,
44:16so,
44:17could you
44:17have a
44:18wedding
44:18without
44:18money?
44:19No,
44:20if you have
44:21a wedding
44:21without
44:21money,
44:22you have
44:22to get
44:22a loan
44:23and that
44:23is
44:24money.
44:24I
44:25will tell
44:25you,
44:25I
44:25get invited
44:25to a wedding
44:26the other
44:26day,
44:26and the
44:26man
44:27had
44:27a
44:27cool
44:27affair,
44:28okay,
44:28that's
44:29still
44:29money,
44:29because at
44:35the end
44:36of that
44:36cool affair,
44:37at the
44:37end of
44:37that
44:37wedding,
44:38they,
44:39the couple,
44:40have to
44:40still go
44:41and look
44:41for it,
44:42by all
44:43means
44:43necessary,
44:45by whatever
44:45means they
44:46know how
44:46best,
44:47whether it be
44:47the man
44:48or the
44:48woman,
44:49because they
44:50might bring
44:50a child
44:51into the
44:51world and
44:51there's
44:51more
44:52money,
44:52more
44:53problems,
44:55you know
44:55what I
44:55mean?
44:56So,
44:56we have
44:56to have
44:57sustainable
44:57substance
44:59done
44:59anything,
44:59which is
45:00finance,
45:01finance run
45:02the world,
45:03it runs
45:03relationships
45:04and break
45:04homes,
45:05it breaks
45:05relationships
45:05too,
45:06but I'm
45:06going to
45:07tell you
45:07this,
45:08I was
45:08once in
45:09an ex
45:09relationship,
45:11they're not
45:11from them,
45:12right?
45:12No,
45:12they're an ex
45:13one,
45:13right?
45:14It's only
45:15ex and
45:16one.
45:16So,
45:16so,
45:17so,
45:17yeah,
45:17what,
45:17right?
45:18Coran gone
45:19and she
45:21gone too.
45:23You're
45:23like,
45:23what's
45:24this?
45:25Coran gone
45:26and she
45:27gone too.
45:28gone by
45:30her mother
45:30for however
45:31long the
45:32Coran gone
45:32for.
45:33And when
45:33they come
45:34back,
45:34she come
45:35back.
45:35Yeah,
45:36they're just
45:37like the
45:37light.
45:38When they
45:38switch off,
45:39right?
45:40Click,
45:40they're gone.
45:41So,
45:41it's
45:41conditional.
45:42So,
45:42when the
45:42money comes,
45:43they come
45:44back on
45:44like the
45:44light,
45:44right,
45:45right in
45:46her face.
45:47Come on.
45:48Now,
45:48I understand
45:49what you're
45:49saying.
45:49Robert,
45:50let me see
45:50if I could
45:50expand on
45:51what I
45:51think you're
45:52trying to
45:52say,
45:52right?
45:53And it's
45:53a concept
45:53I heard
45:54about recently.
45:55It's less
45:55than a
45:56week now
45:56and I've
45:57been doing
45:57some research
45:58on it.
45:58It's called
45:59men being
46:00a contextual
46:01alpha.
46:03Contextual
46:04alpha.
46:04A contextual
46:05alpha.
46:05So,
46:06let me break
46:06that down
46:06for the
46:06audience.
46:07Break it
46:07on.
46:07Break it
46:08on.
46:09So,
46:09using the
46:10word
46:10context now,
46:11there's an
46:11alpha in
46:12certain
46:12contexts.
46:13Like the
46:13boat,
46:14like the
46:14man with
46:15the yacht.
46:15So,
46:15if we're
46:15going down
46:16the
46:16islands and
46:17I have
46:17a boat,
46:18I's the
46:18alpha
46:19and I
46:19move.
46:19I's the
46:20man.
46:21When I
46:22come back on
46:22land,
46:25it's now
46:26the
46:26alpha.
46:27If we're
46:28going in a
46:28box,
46:30you know
46:32the
46:32alpha in
46:34that
46:34moment.
46:35Like we
46:35say we're
46:36going and
46:36do counseling
46:37in that
46:37moment,
46:38I might
46:38be the
46:39alpha.
46:40So,
46:41in certain
46:42contexts,
46:43there's an
46:43alpha,
46:44certain
46:44men are
46:44alpha in
46:45context.
46:46And in
46:46that,
46:47some of
46:48the
46:48women
46:48will be
46:49on
46:49that
46:49man.
46:50So,
46:50if,
46:51again,
46:51both
46:51men,
46:52if he's
46:52the
46:52alpha
46:52there,
46:53that's
46:53where
46:53the
46:53woman.
46:54If
46:54the
46:55car
46:55man,
46:56the
46:56boxing
46:56man,
46:56whoever
46:57you are,
46:58and there
46:58don't have
46:58to be
46:58anything about
46:59physical
47:00strength.
47:00You could
47:01be the
47:01weakest
47:01man,
47:01but he's
47:02the
47:02alpha in
47:02that
47:03moment.
47:03Let
47:03we say
47:03typically,
47:05I know
47:05there's a
47:05computer
47:06guy,
47:07but in
47:07that
47:07moment,
47:07the
47:07computer
47:08guy
47:08knows
47:08everything
47:09about
47:09computers.
47:09He's the
47:12alpha.
47:12That's what
47:13a lot of
47:13women.
47:14So,
47:14let
47:14we say,
47:15it's not
47:15necessarily
47:15the
47:16money
47:16they're
47:17after,
47:17but more
47:18of the
47:18status
47:19of being
47:19around
47:20the
47:20alpha.
47:20Correct.
47:21It
47:21makes sense
47:23to that?
47:23Wonderful,
47:23wonderful,
47:23wonderful point.
47:24But before
47:25we go to
47:25the break,
47:26I'm going
47:26to leave.
47:26Not
47:27break.
47:28The
47:28last
47:29segment.
47:30You realize
47:32we've done it?
47:33Well,
47:33here's what I
47:33wanted to jump
47:34into.
47:34So,
47:34I wanted to
47:38ask a
47:38question,
47:39especially to
47:40swap it,
47:40the rest of
47:41us,
47:41swap it,
47:42being in
47:42the field
47:43where you
47:44have access
47:45to a lot
47:45of women.
47:46Because,
47:46you know,
47:48the lifestyle,
47:50you know,
47:50women love
47:50musicians and
47:52you know,
47:53but the
47:54question I
47:54was going
47:54to ask
47:55is,
47:56seeing that
47:56we know
47:57that,
47:57yes,
47:58no money,
47:59no honey,
47:59or with
47:59money,
48:00honey,
48:01can men
48:02or women,
48:03but as
48:04we're on
48:04manhood,
48:05I'll keep
48:05it with
48:05men,
48:05can men
48:06who have
48:06more money,
48:07should
48:08they have
48:10more access
48:11to more
48:12women?
48:13If it is
48:14that you
48:14could afford
48:15it,
48:15if it is
48:16I could
48:16afford to
48:16take care
48:17of this
48:17one woman
48:18and that
48:19was the
48:19exchange,
48:20she wanted
48:21some money,
48:21she wanted
48:21security,
48:22because we
48:23never mentioned
48:23that women
48:24really want
48:24security in
48:25the end of
48:25the day.
48:26It just
48:26so happened
48:27in our
48:27capitalistic
48:28society,
48:29security means
48:29money,
48:30right?
48:30In a lot
48:31of the
48:31situations.
48:32That's what
48:32it means
48:33to be
48:33secure now,
48:34right?
48:34But I
48:34just one
48:35box here
48:35might be
48:35checking off
48:36to her
48:36because now
48:38she's looking
48:39at a pool
48:39or he's
48:41looking at
48:41a pool
48:42of people
48:43with money
48:43so then
48:43you know
48:44you have
48:44to have
48:44the other
48:44levels.
48:45Are you
48:45good looking?
48:46Are you
48:47smart?
48:47Are you
48:48these different
48:48things like
48:49that?
48:49You know
48:49there's
48:50other levels
48:51that might
48:51just be
48:52to put you
48:54in the pool
48:54to even
48:55put you
48:55in the game.
48:55right?
48:56No, I
48:57like how
48:57you're
48:58well said
48:59but I
48:59like how
49:00you level
49:00it up
49:01there
49:01because my
49:02ex once
49:02again,
49:03she used
49:04to be
49:04looking at
49:05me like
49:05this all
49:05the time
49:06every day.
49:08Boy,
49:09I'm just
49:09making sure
49:10that you're
49:10not ugly
49:11now.
49:12Wake up
49:12next day
49:13and making
49:13sure that
49:13you really
49:14look like
49:15how you're
49:16looking
49:16and making
49:18sure that
49:18you're
49:18not ugly
49:18so apart
49:19from having
49:20a good
49:21series,
49:22apart from
49:22having a
49:23voom-voom,
49:24apart from
49:24place and
49:25all that,
49:26she had to
49:26make sure
49:27that they're
49:27good physical
49:27and have a
49:28good look
49:29as well
49:29because I
49:29will tell you
49:30something,
49:30it has some
49:30ugly men out
49:31there,
49:31you know,
49:32but they
49:33have good
49:33money,
49:33but when
49:34the girl
49:35get the
49:35money,
49:36they still
49:36leave because
49:37of the man
49:38looks,
49:39but if it
49:39is that they
49:40have the
49:40full package,
49:41I guess
49:41that's what
49:41they're
49:41looking for
49:42these days,
49:42they're looking
49:42for number
49:43one,
49:43not number
49:44two.
49:45And you
49:45know what?
49:46They're right.
49:46No,
49:47nothing wrong
49:47with that.
49:48And that's
49:48what we
49:49mentioned
49:49should be
49:49looking for
49:50two.
49:50Nothing wrong
49:50with that.
49:50Look for
49:51what is your
49:51number one.
49:52So we have
49:52to step up
49:52your game
49:53now,
49:53right?
49:54Full
49:54hundred.
49:55Correct.
49:56So if both
49:56are we
49:57swappy looking
49:57for money
49:59or looking
50:01for honey
50:03and then
50:04at what
50:05point,
50:06two are
50:06looking for
50:07money and
50:07both are
50:08broke?
50:09Then
50:09all are
50:10will diverge
50:11into one
50:15separate
50:16because both
50:16are looking
50:17for the
50:17same thing
50:18which are
50:18not providing
50:19to each
50:19other.
50:20You know
50:20what I
50:20mean?
50:21So it
50:21wouldn't
50:21make sense.
50:23So then
50:24we could
50:24also,
50:25I mean,
50:25as another
50:25topic,
50:26but we
50:26have to
50:26wrap.
50:27Is love
50:29enough?
50:29Because you
50:30could...
50:30No.
50:32So let
50:32me hear you
50:34as you're
50:35closing.
50:35Wrap it
50:36all up
50:36with your
50:36closing.
50:37Love is
50:37not enough
50:38and I've
50:38learned this
50:39especially
50:39being in
50:40marriage.
50:40Love is
50:41not enough.
50:43There's
50:43many other
50:44factors to
50:45that.
50:45Not even
50:46in a family
50:47relationship,
50:48love is
50:48not enough.
50:49In friendship,
50:50love is
50:50not enough.
50:51And what
50:52I would
50:52say is,
50:53men,
50:53we cannot
50:54control what
50:56women do,
50:56we cannot
50:57control who
50:57women choose,
50:58but it's
50:59always best to
50:59be a best
51:00version of
51:00yourself.
51:01You push
51:02hard for
51:03whatever you
51:03think is
51:03the best
51:04version of
51:04yourself,
51:05so here's
51:05the contextual
51:06alpha and
51:07as many
51:08things that
51:09you love
51:09and not
51:09just do
51:10something for
51:10doing it.
51:11You love
51:11something,
51:12you be the
51:12best,
51:13you can be
51:14in that and
51:14the woman
51:15who are
51:15attracted to
51:16that will
51:16come and
51:17then you
51:17will be
51:18able to
51:18trust that
51:19they will
51:19find you.
51:20I feel like
51:20a lot of
51:21men don't
51:21have the
51:22trust that
51:22the woman
51:23based on
51:24whatever
51:25feeling,
51:25whatever
51:26context
51:27they're the
51:27alpha in,
51:28won't find
51:28them.
51:29Trust men
51:30will find
51:30you once
51:31you are
51:31put yourself
51:32in position
51:32and be
51:34the best
51:34it can be.
51:35It can't be
51:35the best
51:35tomorrow,
51:36but if you
51:37continue striving
51:38as you
51:39grow,
51:40you will
51:40attract the
51:41woman for
51:42you.
51:42That's my
51:43closing.
51:43Your closing
51:44thoughts?
51:45I just want
51:46to tell
51:46the men
51:46don't look
51:49for nobody
51:49like my
51:49ex.
51:50because that's
51:53next.
51:54What I will
51:54tell you is
51:55that according
51:56to the
51:56gentleman
51:57just say,
51:58trust in
51:59your process
51:59and if it
52:00is you
52:00shooting for
52:00somebody that
52:01you love,
52:02shoot for it
52:02and don't
52:03stop.
52:04Shoot for
52:04the stars,
52:04brethren.
52:05Yes,
52:06man.
52:06Shoot for
52:07the stars.
52:07I will go
52:08and you
52:09could close
52:09off this
52:10one as a
52:11summary.
52:14This one
52:15is hitting me
52:16for six.
52:17I normally
52:17have something
52:18that I
52:18tried to
52:19in that
52:21summary,
52:21but I'm
52:22still not
52:23sure that
52:23I'm taking
52:24away the
52:26no money
52:27no honey
52:28concept
52:28because
52:29it seems
52:32I'm at a
52:38loss for words.
52:39Let's change
52:40you with
52:41money to
52:41security.
52:43And what
52:44I can say,
52:46I'm not sure
52:47this is a
52:47nugget,
52:48guys and
52:49ladies,
52:50to say
52:51that you
52:52be in your
52:53truth.
52:54And being
52:55in your
52:56truth,
52:57tell the
52:57truth.
52:59And if
52:59that is
53:00indeed your
53:00truth,
53:01then at
53:01least everybody
53:02is in the
53:03same playing
53:03field and it's
53:04not a game.
53:05And if it's
53:05a game,
53:06everybody is
53:06aware of
53:07the rules.
53:08So,
53:09you know,
53:11it's not
53:12about judgment.
53:14You have to
53:14do what you
53:15want to do
53:16and what you
53:16feel you
53:17want out
53:17of this
53:18life.
53:18for me,
53:24in closing,
53:26I would
53:26say,
53:27ask for
53:28what you
53:29want.
53:29That is
53:30certainly a
53:30takeaway.
53:31If it is
53:32money,
53:32it's money.
53:33If it's
53:33sex,
53:33it's sex.
53:34I'll keep
53:37it like
53:37that.
53:38Just ask
53:39what you
53:39want.
53:40So,
53:40this is
53:41Manhood.
53:41Thank you
53:42very much.
53:42Today we
53:43were discussing
53:43no money,
53:45no money.
53:46Thank you
53:46very much
53:47for being
53:47here.
53:54Manhood,
53:55brought to
53:55you in
53:55part by
53:56Reboot
53:56Sports Drink.