1️⃣ The Fatal Imbalance in Spouse Selection
Case 1: "He prays Tahajjud… but yells at waiters" → Where’s the Khushu’?
Case 2: "He’s so polite… but doesn’t pray" → Where’s the Taqwa?
Quran 49:13: "The noblest are the most pious"—not "the most polite" or "the most strict."
2️⃣ The Prophetic Standard
Hadith: "If someone proposes with religion and character, marry them." (Tirmidhi)
Not: "If they’re religious or well-mannered."
3️⃣ The Reality Check for Families
To Parents: "Would you let your daughter marry a ‘kind’ man who doesn’t pray?"
To Singles: "Would you accept a ‘hijabi’ who backbites?"
Case 1: "He prays Tahajjud… but yells at waiters" → Where’s the Khushu’?
Case 2: "He’s so polite… but doesn’t pray" → Where’s the Taqwa?
Quran 49:13: "The noblest are the most pious"—not "the most polite" or "the most strict."
2️⃣ The Prophetic Standard
Hadith: "If someone proposes with religion and character, marry them." (Tirmidhi)
Not: "If they’re religious or well-mannered."
3️⃣ The Reality Check for Families
To Parents: "Would you let your daughter marry a ‘kind’ man who doesn’t pray?"
To Singles: "Would you accept a ‘hijabi’ who backbites?"
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00:00The relationship cannot truly be successful and properly prosper
00:05Islamically if one of those two are missing.
00:07It's not enough to say this man is on the deen,
00:10but there's no manners with the people.
00:12And it's also the opposite scenario is probably more likely
00:15where a sister she may say to her family,
00:17I'm interested in this individual.
00:19He has such good manners, but he's not praying at the moment.