The Crisis & Solution:
🔥 Where We Go Wrong:
"Which school for our kids?" → Fights when one wants Islamic school, another wants "prestige"
"Hajj savings vs. new car?" → Resentment builds when priorities clash
"Prayer space at home?" → Shock when one spouse never valued it
"Halal income standards?" → Explosions when discovering dubious earnings
"Family dinner at halal restaurants?" → Arguments when values differ
💡 The Prophetic Prevention:
Pre-Marriage Vetting:
"What’s your 5-year plan for our children’s Islamic education?"
"How do you prioritize Hajj vs. worldly expenses?"
Monthly Check-Ins: Designate a "Deen meeting" to align goals
🔥 Where We Go Wrong:
"Which school for our kids?" → Fights when one wants Islamic school, another wants "prestige"
"Hajj savings vs. new car?" → Resentment builds when priorities clash
"Prayer space at home?" → Shock when one spouse never valued it
"Halal income standards?" → Explosions when discovering dubious earnings
"Family dinner at halal restaurants?" → Arguments when values differ
💡 The Prophetic Prevention:
Pre-Marriage Vetting:
"What’s your 5-year plan for our children’s Islamic education?"
"How do you prioritize Hajj vs. worldly expenses?"
Monthly Check-Ins: Designate a "Deen meeting" to align goals
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LifestyleTranscript
00:00Basic questions may cause a dispute like which school are we going to send our children to?
00:06Are we going to save up money for Hajj next year or not?
00:09Are we going to dedicate a space in the house to pray together as a family?
00:13Basic questions like halal and haram food, where should we be eating from?
00:17Income, how are we making money in this household?
00:19Basic questions becomes a source of fighting.