A simple shift in one word can transform your marriage from conflict to connection. The Prophet ﷺ taught us this 1,400 years ago—here’s how to apply it today.
Key Strategies:
1️⃣ The Power of "Insha’Allah" & Positive Tone
Instead of: "Why didn’t you fix this yet?"
Say: "Insha’Allah, could you take care of that when you’re free?"
Why? Softens the request, honors his time, and invites barakah.
2️⃣ The "I" vs. "You" Rule
❌ "You never call me when you’re late!" (Accusatory)
✅ "I feel worried when I don’t hear from you. Could we agree on a quick text next time?" (Solution-focused)
Prophetic Example: The Prophet ﷺ never humiliated others—even when correcting.
3️⃣ Complain Wisely (Like Aisha RA Did)
Aisha (RA) would say: "I feel..." rather than "You always..."
Hadith: "The best of you are those best to their families." (Tirmidhi)
Key Strategies:
1️⃣ The Power of "Insha’Allah" & Positive Tone
Instead of: "Why didn’t you fix this yet?"
Say: "Insha’Allah, could you take care of that when you’re free?"
Why? Softens the request, honors his time, and invites barakah.
2️⃣ The "I" vs. "You" Rule
❌ "You never call me when you’re late!" (Accusatory)
✅ "I feel worried when I don’t hear from you. Could we agree on a quick text next time?" (Solution-focused)
Prophetic Example: The Prophet ﷺ never humiliated others—even when correcting.
3️⃣ Complain Wisely (Like Aisha RA Did)
Aisha (RA) would say: "I feel..." rather than "You always..."
Hadith: "The best of you are those best to their families." (Tirmidhi)
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00:00Whenever you get a chance, inshaAllah, can you take care of that?
00:02It's just a tone.
00:04It's just a positive attitude rather than being negative.
00:08Not to be sarcastic but rather to be somewhat positive.
00:11And if you must complain,
00:13never use the phrase,
00:15you rather use the phrase, I.
00:19Let me give you an example.
00:20Your husband comes home late and he didn't call you.
00:22He didn't call you, he's late from work.
00:24Then you get angry at him.
00:25You never call me when you're late.
00:26You should always call me.
00:28What have you just done?
00:29You just daunted him, right?
00:31Mothers and fathers can say that to their children.