A respected husband becomes your protector, provider, and deepest love—but only if you nurture his dignity. Here’s how the Prophet ﷺ taught wives to inspire this loyalty.
What Respect Actually Looks Like:
1️⃣ Trust His Judgment (Even When You Disagree)
Scenario: He’s driving and “misses” your preferred exit.
❌ "You’re going the wrong way! Exit here!" (Undermines him)
✅ "I trust you know the route." (Then silently make dua for safety)
Why? Men need to feel capable to love deeply.
2️⃣ Never Treat Him Like a Child
Islamic Insight: The Quran honors men as qawwam (maintainers) (4:34)—a role tied to respect, not control.
Example:
❌ "Did you really lock the door?" (Implies incompetence)
✅ "Jazak’Allah for taking care of us." (Affirms his role)
3️⃣ Praise His Efforts (Especially in Public)
Prophetic Model: Khadijah (RA) called Rasulullah ﷺ "the truthful, the trustworthy"—before prophethood.
Modern Application: At family gatherings, say:
"Masha’Allah, he’s so wise with finances."
"Alhamdulillah, he always puts family first."
The Emotional Payoff:
When He Feels Respected:
He becomes more affectionate.
He listens to your advice willingly.
When He Feels Diminished:
He withdraws emotionally.
He resists your input (even when right).
What Respect Actually Looks Like:
1️⃣ Trust His Judgment (Even When You Disagree)
Scenario: He’s driving and “misses” your preferred exit.
❌ "You’re going the wrong way! Exit here!" (Undermines him)
✅ "I trust you know the route." (Then silently make dua for safety)
Why? Men need to feel capable to love deeply.
2️⃣ Never Treat Him Like a Child
Islamic Insight: The Quran honors men as qawwam (maintainers) (4:34)—a role tied to respect, not control.
Example:
❌ "Did you really lock the door?" (Implies incompetence)
✅ "Jazak’Allah for taking care of us." (Affirms his role)
3️⃣ Praise His Efforts (Especially in Public)
Prophetic Model: Khadijah (RA) called Rasulullah ﷺ "the truthful, the trustworthy"—before prophethood.
Modern Application: At family gatherings, say:
"Masha’Allah, he’s so wise with finances."
"Alhamdulillah, he always puts family first."
The Emotional Payoff:
When He Feels Respected:
He becomes more affectionate.
He listens to your advice willingly.
When He Feels Diminished:
He withdraws emotionally.
He resists your input (even when right).
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00:00And what will the husband give back?
00:01The husband will give back that love,
00:03that cherishing, that nurturing
00:05that the wife craves.
00:06So the question is,
00:08what does it mean
00:10for the wife to respect the husband?
00:11So what does it mean to show him respect?
00:13A few very specific points.
00:15Number one,
00:16respect his knowledge and his judgment.
00:19Wives, respect your husband's knowledge
00:21and judgment.
00:22When your husband makes a decision,
00:24don't double guess him.
00:25Don't doubt him.
00:27Don't try to make him feel
00:28he's not intelligent,
00:30he's not qualified to do what he's doing.
00:32In other words,
00:33don't treat him like a child.
00:35Classic example.
00:36Classic example, happens all the time.
00:38Husband is driving
00:40and the wife thinks that
00:41this is the wrong way.
00:42The wife says,
00:43no, you should exit here.
00:44You just missed the highway exit.
00:45This is where you're supposed to exit from.
00:47What has just happened here?
00:48The husband gets irritated.
00:49I know where I'm going, don't worry.
00:51I know it's right ahead.
00:53What's happened here?
00:54Well, the wife has doubted
00:56her husband's sense of power,
00:58sense of being in charge,
01:00sense of responsibility.
01:01And what happens here
01:03when a husband is challenged,
01:05he becomes...