Ridicule kills love, but praise builds loyalty. The Prophet ﷺ taught us: ‘The best of you are those best to their wives.’ Here’s how to apply it—starting today.
Key Insights:
1️⃣ The Danger of Ridicule
Hurts His Ego: Mocking his efforts (even playfully) makes him withdraw.
Islamic Principle: The Prophet ﷺ never humiliated others—especially not spouses.
2️⃣ The Sunnah of Praise
Public Praise: At in-laws’ house? Say:
“Masha’Allah, he’s so helpful at home!”
“Alhamdulillah, he’s such a caring father.”
Private Encouragement: Even if he rarely helps:
“Jazak’Allah khair for washing the dishes—it meant so much!”
3️⃣ The Psychology Behind It
Men Thrive on Respect: Just as women thrive on love and security.
Small Wins Matter: Praise any effort—it motivates him to do more.
Key Insights:
1️⃣ The Danger of Ridicule
Hurts His Ego: Mocking his efforts (even playfully) makes him withdraw.
Islamic Principle: The Prophet ﷺ never humiliated others—especially not spouses.
2️⃣ The Sunnah of Praise
Public Praise: At in-laws’ house? Say:
“Masha’Allah, he’s so helpful at home!”
“Alhamdulillah, he’s such a caring father.”
Private Encouragement: Even if he rarely helps:
“Jazak’Allah khair for washing the dishes—it meant so much!”
3️⃣ The Psychology Behind It
Men Thrive on Respect: Just as women thrive on love and security.
Small Wins Matter: Praise any effort—it motivates him to do more.
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00:00If you ridicule something they attempted,
00:02if you ridicule a project that they did in public,
00:03you are really hurting his ego.
00:05Rather do the opposite, praise him.
00:07Next time you're at your in-laws,
00:09you have his parents there, praise him.
00:11And praise him to the face of his parents and his relatives.
00:13Masha'Allah, he takes such good care of me.
00:15Masha'Allah, he's a loving person.
00:17Suppose he washed the dishes once last year,
00:19just once.
00:20You say, masha'Allah, tabaraka Allah,
00:21he washed the dishes.