Sissy Imann berkongsi pengalaman trauma dirinya ketika bercuti ke Korea, memang seram… Topik Pompuan pada episod kali ini kitaorang akan membincangkan isu 'Sexual Harassment' banyak lagi yang dikongsi oleh Sissy dalam episod kali ni. Jom kita dengar PomPuan Podcast Untuk Perempuan Sahaja hanya di SYOK!
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00:00 I went to Korea
00:02 I was at the train station
00:04 I was walking with my brother
00:06 There were 2 people
00:08 Yanda, Bonda and Sissy
00:10 were in front of me
00:12 We were waiting for the lift
00:14 Yanda and Bonda were in front of me
00:16 and Sissy was also in front of me
00:18 I was left behind
00:20 A guy came and stood in front of me
00:22 He stopped
00:24 I was like, "What's wrong?"
00:26 I looked at him
00:28 He smiled
00:30 He was scared
00:32 He smiled
00:34 I tried to avoid him
00:36 I was on the left
00:38 He was holding me
00:40 I was like, "Yanda!"
00:42 Sissy's brother
00:44 came out of the lift
00:46 and asked, "What's your problem?"
00:48 I looked at him
00:50 He was getting closer
00:52 I was behind him
00:54 [Music]
01:00 Hello, guys! Welcome back to Pompuan
01:02 A podcast for girls only
01:04 As usual, I bring hot and explosive artists
01:08 in every episode
01:10 That's why today
01:12 I brought Sissy Iman
01:14 Hi, everybody!
01:16 How are you?
01:18 I'll show you the hot one
01:20 But you're wearing a shirt
01:22 It's hot
01:24 It's not
01:26 I'm fine
01:28 I'm fine, thank God
01:30 How about you?
01:32 I'm fine, thank God
01:34 How about Raya?
01:36 I'm fine, thank God
01:38 I usually celebrate Raya in KL
01:40 Really?
01:42 We're...
01:44 Do you celebrate Raya in KL?
01:46 Yes, because my grandparents
01:48 are not here anymore
01:50 Both of them are gone
01:52 I mean, my grandparents
01:54 So, I usually celebrate Raya in KL
01:58 Is it fun?
02:00 Yes, it's fun
02:02 Because the road is not jammed
02:04 Yes, that's right
02:06 We have to make the situation better
02:08 every time
02:10 That's what I feel
02:12 Because Raya is all about wherever we are
02:14 Whether there's something or not
02:16 we have to somehow
02:18 make the atmosphere better
02:20 and celebrate Raya
02:22 as a celebration of victory
02:24 As long as you're with your family
02:26 That's right
02:28 What are you doing now?
02:30 What are you busy with?
02:32 I'm busy with...
02:34 Praise God, I'm doing well in the field of
02:36 hosting events
02:38 I'm more into sin
02:40 I'm more into it
02:42 So, I'm just
02:44 doing it
02:46 I used to be a host
02:48 I just finished shooting 26 episodes
02:50 for a game show
02:52 I became a host
02:54 Tomorrow, I'll start
02:56 a talk show, 13 episodes
02:58 That's it
03:00 Other than that,
03:02 I just finished my studies
03:04 Really?
03:06 I did my Master's
03:08 I just finished my Master's in Music
03:10 It's been 4 years
03:12 It's been a long time
03:14 But, I'm still doing well
03:16 How do you
03:18 balance your work and studies?
03:20 How do I balance it?
03:22 I don't know if I can
03:24 Actually, you just have to do it
03:26 Just do it
03:28 Sometimes, we're just thinking
03:30 about how to
03:32 balance it
03:34 I have work, I have this and that
03:36 It'll become an overthink
03:38 and it won't work
03:40 So, just do it
03:42 If it's not balanced,
03:44 you're doomed
03:46 We're doomed
03:48 So, today's topic
03:50 is about
03:52 what happened in our lives
03:54 But,
03:56 maybe I'll ask from
03:58 a woman's perspective
04:00 From Sissy's point of view
04:02 So,
04:04 today's topic is
04:06 Sexual Harassment
04:08 It's a tough topic
04:10 We can't smile
04:12 because it's a tough topic
04:14 Have you ever
04:16 experienced sexual harassment?
04:18 Okay
04:20 Actually, when I was asked
04:22 about that topic
04:24 I just remembered
04:26 about the recent incident
04:28 I mean, I went to Korea
04:30 Okay
04:32 And, Alhamdulillah
04:34 During the trip
04:36 I was there for 6-7 days
04:38 Everything was fine
04:40 But, there was one time
04:42 when we were
04:44 at the train station
04:46 Okay
04:48 So,
04:50 Sissy and her brother
04:52 were walking behind us
04:54 And, Ayanda,
04:56 Bonda, and Sissy's brother were in front of us
04:58 So, we were waiting for the lift
05:00 because Ayanda couldn't walk far
05:02 So, every time we got off at a station
05:04 we had to get on the lift to get to the next station
05:06 I see
05:08 So, when we were about to get on the lift
05:10 Ayanda and Bonda were in front of us
05:12 And, Sissy's brother was in front of us
05:14 So, Sissy was left behind
05:16 And, a man
05:18 was standing in front of Sissy
05:20 A Korean man?
05:22 Yes, a Korean man
05:24 So, he stopped
05:26 And, when he stopped, Sissy was like
05:28 "What's wrong?"
05:30 So, Sissy looked at him
05:32 But, he just smiled
05:34 He just smiled, right?
05:36 And, Sissy was like
05:38 And, when Sissy
05:40 How long did it take?
05:42 I don't remember
05:44 But, it was fast
05:46 Yes, it was fast
05:48 So, Sissy tried to avoid him
05:50 But, he was still following Sissy
05:52 So, he was trying to stop Sissy from getting on the lift
05:54 And, we knew that the lift was not far
05:56 So, Sissy saw
05:58 that Ayanda and Bonda
06:00 were already on the lift
06:02 So, Sissy was standing outside
06:04 And, Sissy called Ayanda
06:06 Sissy was like "Ayanda!"
06:08 And, Sissy's brother who was aware
06:10 when he got off the lift
06:12 he shouted at the man
06:14 "What's your problem?"
06:16 And, the man looked at him
06:18 and he got closer
06:20 And, Sissy was like
06:22 And, he ran away
06:24 How dare you!
06:26 Even though there was a man who
06:28 scolded him
06:30 But, he didn't run away
06:32 He was still looking at him
06:34 Yes
06:36 Sissy didn't know why
06:38 Because, when Sissy was walking
06:40 with other women
06:42 Sissy knew that he was with his family
06:44 And, Sissy thought that he did it on purpose
06:46 So, when other people got on the lift
06:48 he would close the lift and leave Sissy alone
06:50 I don't know why
06:52 But, that's what Sissy thought
06:54 Other people
06:56 didn't do that
06:58 But, Sissy thought that
07:00 it was not
07:02 a long-term event
07:04 It was a quick event
07:06 But, it was a quick event
07:08 He didn't know what to shout
07:10 Sissy thought that
07:12 if he shouted, he would be stabbed
07:14 We didn't know that
07:16 It was dangerous in other countries
07:18 So, that's what Sissy thought
07:20 That's what happened
07:22 But, Sissy thought that
07:24 Ayanda was there
07:26 Because, I was there
07:28 You were in a hurry
07:30 The case was in
07:32 MRT station
07:34 Why was it in MRT station?
07:36 It was here
07:38 It was peak hour
07:40 It was crowded
07:42 When I stood up
07:44 I felt that someone was
07:46 holding me
07:48 He was shaking
07:50 I
07:52 I knew that
07:54 maybe someone was holding me
07:56 I didn't look at him
07:58 I ran away
08:00 Because
08:02 I didn't know what to do
08:04 I was shocked
08:06 But, when I recalled
08:08 I thought that I should have shouted
08:10 But, when we were in that situation
08:12 we were blurred
08:14 We couldn't see
08:16 So, I am
08:18 Alhamdulillah, what happened
08:20 was not physically
08:22 holding Sissy
08:24 But, I can imagine
08:26 what he could have done
08:28 It can be traumatizing
08:30 for your situation
08:32 Even though it was just a small thing
08:34 Everytime, I don't know
08:36 After that, maybe you went to MRT station
08:38 You must be extra aware
08:40 No, I just took a car
08:42 That's my solution
08:44 Do you understand?
08:46 When I saw
08:48 on Twitter
08:50 a woman who was sexually harassed
08:52 People replied
08:54 "Why didn't you shout?"
08:56 Actually
08:58 I couldn't do that
09:00 Sometimes, she was
09:02 confused
09:04 I don't know
09:06 But, I
09:08 I can reflect
09:10 when I shouted
09:12 I was used to shouting
09:14 When I was at home
09:16 I had a problem
09:18 I shouted
09:20 "Yana!"
09:22 Maybe, I reflected
09:24 how it happened
09:26 I can imagine
09:28 People are usually scared
09:30 True, she was blurred
09:32 She couldn't do anything
09:34 Okay, so
09:36 Let's read Curious Cat
09:38 I have three
09:40 I will read the first one
09:42 My old friend
09:44 whom I haven't contacted for a long time
09:46 He contacted me
09:48 At first, we
09:50 talked like usual
09:52 like friends
09:54 Then, I noticed
09:56 his jokes had double meaning
09:58 But, I was too lazy to shout
10:02 So, I just ignored it
10:04 Until now
10:06 If he was horny
10:08 He just straightforward
10:10 I told him that I was uncomfortable
10:14 He stopped for a while
10:16 But, he will start again
10:18 What should I do?
10:20 I want to scold him nicely
10:22 But, I don't know how
10:24 My own friend
10:26 Okay
10:28 My own friend
10:30 I think
10:32 There's no other way
10:34 but to stay away from this guy
10:36 I don't know
10:38 I think it's to cut it off
10:40 Right?
10:42 If I were him
10:44 I will scold him
10:46 I don't feel comfortable
10:48 But, he never scold you?
10:50 No
10:52 I think I should talk to him
10:54 Or, I don't know
10:56 Sometimes, we want to scold a guy
10:58 directly
11:00 But, he will get offended
11:02 So, most probably
11:04 If I were in the case
11:06 If I was like
11:08 I didn't answer his call
11:10 That's me
11:12 But, I think
11:14 The subtle way to approach
11:16 this thing is to
11:18 scold him first
11:20 And, scold him directly
11:22 And indirectly
11:24 When he's being naughty
11:26 Don't treat him
11:28 like a topic
11:30 Change the topic
11:32 How about you?
11:34 I have an experience like this
11:36 My boyfriend's friend
11:38 We're just friends
11:40 So, in the future
11:42 Maybe, because he's still young
11:44 He's starting to
11:46 be naughty
11:48 So, first
11:50 He will be a double meaning guy
11:52 But, usually
11:54 I will
11:56 change the topic
11:58 So, in the future
12:00 He will be like
12:02 "Eww, you're sexy"
12:04 "Eww, you're sexy"
12:06 "Eww, you're sexy"
12:08 So, what I do
12:10 I just ghost him
12:12 So, I'm not his friend anymore
12:14 That's right
12:16 That's the only solution
12:18 If we try to
12:20 ignore what he said
12:22 and he still continues
12:24 Then, slowly, we will be away from him
12:26 But, if he comes back to you
12:28 What will you do?
12:30 I will block him
12:32 I don't think
12:34 I will
12:36 add value to him
12:38 Even if I talk to him
12:40 He won't be sensitive
12:42 to such things
12:44 So, it's hard
12:46 But, let's say, if your friend
12:48 He said, "This is just a joke"
12:50 "You're not
12:52 open-minded?"
12:54 "You're not relaxed?"
12:56 But, it's important to have boundaries
12:58 That's right
13:00 Because, we don't care
13:02 if we're open-minded or not
13:04 But, if it's a joke
13:06 We can accept it
13:08 But, if it's a level
13:10 "You're such a..."
13:12 "You're such a..."
13:14 "You're such a..."
13:16 "You're such a..."
13:18 But, let's say
13:20 If our female friend made a joke
13:22 Can you accept it?
13:24 Female friend?
13:26 A joke that...
13:28 I don't know
13:30 About a female friend
13:32 or...
13:34 Maybe, about your body
13:36 It's not
13:38 body shaming
13:40 It's like, sexualizing
13:42 your body
13:44 It's not okay?
13:46 But, if it's a female friend
13:48 For me
13:50 But, if my friend said
13:52 "You're so pretty"
13:54 I think it's a compliment
13:56 "You're so sexy"
13:58 "You're so pretty"
14:00 I think it's like that
14:02 But, it has to be
14:04 Like I said earlier
14:06 It has to be a thin line
14:08 that makes it
14:10 sensitive or insensitive
14:12 So, it's up to us
14:14 It has to be set
14:16 Some people feel like
14:18 "It's fine if you don't feel anything"
14:20 If a man makes you sexy, it's okay
14:22 If a man makes me sexy
14:26 I'm shy
14:28 I've never got a compliment like that
14:30 from a man
14:32 Really?
14:34 "You're so pretty"
14:36 "You're so pretty"
14:38 "You're so smart"
14:40 But, being sexy is like
14:44 But, it's weird
14:46 Because I'm not sexy
14:48 It's okay
14:50 I'm a sexy girl
14:52 It's okay
14:54 Ayanda said it
14:56 I've never been told that I'm sexy
14:58 Ayanda
15:02 Maybe
15:04 Ayanda said that
15:06 She's like a proud of herself
15:08 But, sometimes I ask her
15:10 "Are you sexy?"
15:12 My dad said no
15:14 So, every time you go out
15:16 You'll ask Ayanda first
15:18 That's right
15:20 It's a must
15:22 My dad is not at home
15:24 Sometimes, he'll call me
15:26 Or I'll go to my mom
15:28 Or my sister or my brother
15:30 I'll ask them
15:32 So, you take care of yourself
15:34 You can't be bothered by anyone
15:36 Ayanda is behind you
15:38 I like it
15:40 But, Ayanda won't be with me 24/7
15:42 I have my own life
15:44 I'm with my friends
15:46 Ayanda is not a proud person
15:50 But, I think
15:52 That's one of the factors
15:54 That makes me
15:56 Be bothered by her
15:58 I understand
16:02 But, if you want to be bothered, you have to
16:04 Like the case in Korea
16:06 You have to listen to Ayanda
16:08 But, it's a disclaimer
16:10 Everywhere I go in Korea, I feel safe
16:12 It's just one time
16:14 That I'm like "Why?"
16:16 Every time, in other places
16:18 There's a moment
16:20 My mom and dad are staying in a hotel
16:22 My brother and I are going out
16:24 My brother wanted to go to this side of the street
16:26 I'm here
16:28 So, we just walk
16:30 Everywhere I go, I feel safe
16:32 I think in Korea, you're a bit bored
16:34 No, I'm not
16:38 I'm not sure
16:40 But, I feel safe there
16:42 I'm okay
16:44 But, that night, it's going to happen
16:46 In Malaysia, it's going to happen
16:48 Have you ever been hit in Malaysia?
16:50 No, I don't think so
16:52 Never?
16:54 Even DM?
16:56 Okay, if it's physical
16:58 No
17:00 In DM, there's a lot of things
17:02 Like people
17:04 Send a lot of things
17:06 I think in terms of
17:08 What they said
17:10 There's even
17:14 How do you say it?
17:16 An example?
17:18 For example
17:20 Do you want me to open it?
17:22 Sure
17:24 Let's open it
17:26 Because I have an account
17:28 That was once
17:30 Messy
17:32 No, because it's Sissy
17:34 Sissy is a big figure
17:36 People
17:38 Look at Sissy
17:40 I love you so much with my love
17:42 My love for you is so beautiful
17:44 Like a magician
17:46 Coming down from a palace
17:48 That's so seducing
17:50 That's so hot
17:52 That's so
17:54 Sexy
17:56 And that's so sexy
17:58 That's so
18:00 Sexy
18:02 So, I don't block her
18:04 Because I'm afraid
18:06 Like
18:08 She might be mad
18:10 Hey, Hassan, you blocked me
18:12 So, I restrict
18:14 So, other people can't see it
18:16 But I don't approve
18:18 So, she looks like she sees it
18:20 But I'm sure
18:22 I hope she doesn't see it
18:24 I'm scared
18:26 So, this picture
18:28 We'll share it at the end of the video
18:30 But
18:32 I'm sure you must get a lot of comments like that
18:34 There must be
18:36 Comments from people who are obsessed
18:38 With you
18:40 How do you feel? Aren't you scared?
18:42 I'm scared
18:44 That's because I have
18:46 Social media sometimes
18:48 Like when I'm on vacation
18:50 Especially in the country
18:52 I'm
18:54 My story
18:56 Is not real-time
18:58 I understand
19:00 So, it's either I'm already gone from that place
19:02 Or
19:04 It's like I'm late for 1-2 days
19:06 So, I'm already gone for 2 days
19:08 Then I go to that place
19:10 So, we don't know
19:12 What they can do
19:14 If we make a mistake
19:16 We'll be like, "Oh, Sissy is here. Let's go"
19:18 So, that's the secret of Sissy
19:20 All of Sissy's posts on social media
19:22 She'll be a little late
19:24 She'll be either a few hours late
19:26 Or a day or two late
19:28 It's scary
19:30 Scary
19:32 Especially when we
19:34 Become public figures
19:36 Like celebrities
19:38 Or singers
19:40 Especially when we go to the city
19:42 People will come to greet us
19:44 Sissy was once
19:46 Not popular
19:48 But
19:50 Sometimes when we go to
19:52 Unusual places
19:54 I remember there was an event
19:56 Where Sissy was
19:58 A woman
20:00 Like an auntie
20:02 She was pulling Sissy
20:04 Like a real pull
20:06 We were scared even though she was like an auntie
20:08 But the situation was like
20:10 "Eh, what's that?"
20:12 She was pulling us like a cartwheel
20:14 We just wanted to take a picture
20:16 Sometimes we don't know. People are excited
20:18 But sometimes it's scary
20:20 So, if people like that
20:22 Sissy is scared
20:24 If there's a man, we'll look at him like, "Oh my god"
20:30 Because I used to
20:32 I used to work here
20:34 So, I posted my videos
20:36 This is a company video
20:38 A company account
20:40 But someone commented
20:42 "Oh, I made a food video using chopsticks"
20:44 "Oh, Alia is good at using chopsticks"
20:46 "How did you know my name?"
20:48 I was like, "I'm not anyone"
20:50 But how did she know
20:52 My name?
20:54 Because I don't think
20:56 I've ever told my company's video about my name
20:58 Your fans are scared
21:00 Your fans are scared
21:02 We're nobody
21:04 Nobody is nobody
21:06 If people are interested, they are interested
21:08 That's why I think
21:10 I was scared
21:12 "Eh, what's that?"
21:14 "How did she know my name?"
21:16 I understand
21:18 I used to use chopsticks
21:20 Sometimes I felt like
21:22 The clothes were not enough
21:24 I was scared
21:26 I got a lot of DMs
21:28 Sometimes I just took a selfie
21:30 I don't know if the video
21:32 had anything to do with the clothes
21:34 But she saw that part
21:36 That's right
21:38 Try to focus on what message you want to send
21:40 That's right
21:42 Sometimes we sing
21:44 Suddenly, people comment something else
21:46 Scary
21:50 It is a scary world we live in
21:52 We don't know what to do
21:54 That's right
21:56 We have to try
21:58 to avoid
22:00 what we can avoid
22:02 Love takes care of itself
22:04 That's right
22:06 Okay, next
22:08 Curious Cat
22:10 I'm a woman, I've been working
22:12 My story may be a little weird
22:14 But when I was an intern
22:16 I was a sexual harassment victim
22:18 at the office
22:20 But because I was an intern
22:22 I was afraid to tell anyone
22:24 I was often harassed
22:26 by men at the office
22:28 Honestly, I was scared
22:30 and traumatized
22:32 But after I finished my internship
22:34 I felt normal
22:36 when people did something bad to me
22:38 Many men I know
22:42 took the opportunity
22:44 But I was okay because I was used to it
22:46 But I knew it was wrong
22:48 And this made me
22:50 have a trust issue with men
22:52 I think it's trauma
22:56 That's dangerous
23:00 Because she felt normal
23:02 That's the point
23:04 that we know
23:06 She thought, "I can't do this"
23:10 The fact that she can write that
23:14 and she felt normal
23:16 which means she knows
23:18 what to do
23:20 I think she still knows
23:24 what to do
23:26 I suggest she meet a specialist
23:30 Or just talk to your friends
23:36 about what to do
23:38 Actually, when we have a problem
23:40 we can ask our friends
23:42 to share their opinion
23:44 What should people do?
23:46 I will ask
23:48 If it happens to me
23:50 I will ask
23:52 "Do you think it's okay for him to do that?"
23:54 Like if he's being harassed
23:58 by an extreme person
24:00 I will ask
24:02 "Do you think it's okay for him to do that to you?"
24:04 Maybe I will talk to her
24:06 I will ask her
24:08 "Is it okay?"
24:10 Maybe I won't say
24:12 "Do you know that it's wrong
24:14 for him to do that to you?"
24:16 I will say
24:18 "If he does that to me
24:20 I don't think I can accept it"
24:22 I think I can't do that
24:24 So she will think again
24:26 "Why does Sissy feel like this is not okay?"
24:28 "Why do I feel like this is okay?"
24:30 Maybe like that
24:32 I think I read somewhere
24:34 in the ads
24:36 She's like normal
24:38 First, she's been sexualized
24:40 and harassed
24:42 by that person
24:44 Seriously?
24:46 I read it
24:48 So when she's been harassed
24:50 by that person
24:52 She opened a D.S. account
24:54 D.S. account?
24:56 D.S. account
24:58 Okay
25:00 Because she craves that
25:04 While at first
25:06 she rejected it
25:08 But when she's used to it
25:10 She likes it
25:12 She likes it
25:14 She wants it
25:16 So I think
25:18 this person
25:20 was harassed by an intern
25:22 She knows it's wrong
25:24 but she's afraid to tell it to others
25:26 I think that's where it starts
25:28 It's supposed to be
25:30 When she's been harassed
25:32 she has to confront
25:34 If not with that guy
25:36 she has to tell his supervisor
25:38 That's true
25:40 But I understand
25:42 because of these things
25:44 She's afraid
25:46 because people will blame us
25:48 We live in a world where
25:50 women are always blamed
25:52 I mean
25:54 not making it like
25:56 Don't get me wrong
25:58 But it's always like that
26:00 If we look at any case
26:02 For example, rape
26:04 "That woman is so sexy"
26:06 "Why is she wearing a bikini?"
26:08 "That woman is so sexy"
26:10 It's always like that
26:12 Women are always blamed
26:14 for these things
26:16 So I understand
26:18 why she didn't tell it to others
26:20 Plus she's an intern
26:22 She's an intern
26:24 "Don't come here"
26:26 "You're the one who's blamed"
26:28 People don't know her
26:30 So they will blame her
26:32 Maybe it's me
26:34 When I'm being blamed
26:36 I'm an intern
26:38 I'll check myself
26:40 I'll say more
26:42 That's why
26:44 We live in a world
26:46 where there are
26:48 different opinions
26:50 For example
26:52 "That woman is not sexy"
26:54 "She's sexy"
26:56 In what terms?
26:58 For example, "You're so sexy"
27:00 "Why are you like this?"
27:02 "You're so sexy"
27:04 Maybe out of 10 people
27:06 5 said she's sexy
27:08 5 said she's not sexy
27:10 I'll follow that opinion
27:12 I'll wear it
27:14 So what do you think?
27:16 Wow
27:18 I don't know
27:20 How do you take care of yourself?
27:22 Do you wear a bra?
27:24 You can't blame men
27:26 There are so many men in front of you
27:28 You're scared
27:30 We're the ones who get blamed
27:32 "You're not okay"
27:34 I don't know
27:38 So we take care of ourselves
27:40 as much as possible
27:42 Right
27:44 We avoid
27:46 For example, when we go out at night
27:48 No one can stop us
27:50 No one can stop us
27:52 If a woman wants to go out at night
27:54 I think it's up to each person
27:56 But you're alone
27:58 You have to take care of yourself
28:00 With your friends
28:02 You have to trust each other
28:04 This world is cruel
28:08 It's dangerous when you're normal
28:10 It's true
28:12 When people do this to you
28:16 You'll feel okay
28:18 Everyone feels this way
28:20 But it's not
28:22 If you're in this stage, you'll feel sick
28:24 You'll need a doctor
28:26 You'll need a doctor
28:28 You'll need a doctor
28:30 Okay, next
28:32 This is a family matter
28:36 I'm scared
28:38 My mom just got married to my stepdad
28:42 I know where this is going
28:44 I respect him as my dad
28:48 But he started calling me "darling"
28:50 But I think he just called me "daughter"
28:54 Sometimes he asked me to massage his body
28:56 I think it's normal
28:58 Massaging my dad
29:00 But sometimes I feel uncomfortable
29:02 When I'm taking a shower
29:04 He looks at me differently
29:06 I told my mom
29:08 She got mad at me
29:10 But I really feel uncomfortable
29:22 Run
29:24 Run, girl
29:26 Don't stay in the house
29:28 I'll leave the house if my mom doesn't back me up
29:30 Run
29:32 Don't stay in the house
29:34 You have to get out from the house
29:36 That's all I can say
29:38 Save yourself
29:42 Don't feel like
29:44 Because no one will back you up
29:46 You're in the house
29:48 You know it's wrong
29:50 You have to get out
29:52 People in the house are the ones
29:54 We should trust the most
29:56 But if they don't trust us
30:00 They'll run
30:02 But we don't know how old this kid is
30:04 What if she's a schoolgirl?
30:08 If I were to be this girl
30:14 Maybe I'll talk to her
30:16 We have a counselling teacher
30:18 Maybe the older people
30:20 The more mature people
30:22 Can help us
30:24 Like the outsiders
30:26 Like your teachers
30:28 You have to talk to other people
30:30 And
30:32 You have to get out of the house
30:34 But if she has siblings
30:36 I suggest you tell her first
30:38 Maybe they can help each other
30:42 That's right
30:44 I'm scared
30:46 I'm scared of being alone
30:48 But that's it
30:50 It must be very traumatising
30:52 It's scary
30:54 That's right
30:56 And I don't know
30:58 Maybe this happens
31:00 If she's alone
31:02 Or with her stepfather
31:04 I'm not sure
31:06 But if it happens
31:08 When her stepfather is alone
31:10 If possible, avoid it
31:12 Get out
31:14 But if your mother is there
31:16 If she doesn't do anything
31:18 Just do it
31:20 But you have to tell her first
31:22 But like she said
31:24 After taking a shower, her stepfather's perspective is different
31:26 Make a toilet in your own room
31:32 I don't know
31:34 I suggest you avoid wearing a bed sheet
31:36 In your house
31:38 Wear a big bed sheet
31:40 Maybe
31:42 That's a different solution
31:44 But I don't know
31:46 If the child
31:48 Has been out of the toilet
31:50 It can happen
31:52 Because people
31:54 People's perspectives are different
31:56 They can scan other people
31:58 It's hard to say sexy
32:00 We're not in that situation
32:02 We want to know
32:04 If she's really sexy
32:06 We have to tell her not to wear sexy clothes
32:08 But if she's not sexy
32:10 But
32:12 Sis, run
32:14 Don't stay in that house
32:16 Don't
32:18 If you've
32:20 Learned something, then go
32:22 Get out of that house
32:24 Please
32:26 Like you
32:28 Have you ever felt
32:30 That there's a uncomfortable perspective
32:32 Looking at you
32:34 We're women
32:36 Yes, I have
32:38 It's different
32:40 People's perspectives
32:42 But
32:44 I ignore it
32:46 Usually in public
32:48 Yes
32:50 And another thing
32:52 If I go out
32:54 If it's not with my parents
32:56 Not with my brother
32:58 Or my sister
33:00 I'll go out with people
33:02 I trust
33:04 Have you ever been out alone?
33:06 Yes
33:08 But not in a dark place
33:10 No
33:12 Even if I'm alone, I'll go to a mall
33:14 Just like that
33:16 Grabbing
33:18 But it's okay
33:20 There are many cases
33:22 I'm afraid
33:24 There are many cases
33:26 But
33:28 What can I do?
33:30 Maybe
33:32 How do you take care of yourself?
33:34 Can you share with others?
33:36 Yes
33:38 I think
33:40 I've said it a few times
33:42 If you want to go out
33:44 Avoid it
33:46 If you want to go out at night
33:48 Either go out with people you trust
33:50 Or don't go out at night
33:52 And if
33:54 It's already happened
33:56 Sexual harassment
33:58 At home
34:00 Or with friends
34:02 Don't go out with friends
34:04 If it's at home
34:06 You have to seek help
34:08 It's hard
34:12 We're like
34:14 I didn't tell them
34:16 Sexual harassment
34:18 They're like
34:20 They're happy
34:22 But there are many things to share
34:26 Whatever we can do
34:28 We never know
34:30 We're in trauma
34:32 We're afraid of people
34:34 Who have been sexually harassed
34:36 Because we've never
34:38 Been there
34:40 We don't know
34:42 We've never been there
34:44 But we know
34:46 If we're hit, we'll be blurred
34:48 If we want to say
34:50 It's like this
34:52 We can't
34:54 We don't know what happened
34:58 We're at the end
35:00 Do you have anything to promote?
35:02 Promote a little
35:04 If you want to get a daughter-in-law
35:08 I'm still single
35:10 That's another promotion
35:14 If you want to get a daughter-in-law
35:18 You can slide into my DM
35:20 I'm not talking
35:22 She opened her DM
35:24 I'm not talking about
35:26 The people out there
35:28 I'm talking about
35:30 The aunts
35:32 I'm talking about the people
35:34 The aunts
35:36 If the people are interested
35:38 Talk to your mom
35:40 Tell your mom to DM me
35:42 Actually
35:48 Last year
35:50 I released an album
35:54 Most of it was recorded at
35:56 Abbey Road Studios, London
35:58 There were 6 songs
36:02 It was my first EP
36:04 I wrote all the songs
36:06 I released it under
36:08 My own company
36:10 I did everything by myself
36:12 Abbey Road Studios
36:14 Thank you
36:16 Not everybody can enter
36:18 Even taking a picture
36:20 In front of the door
36:22 It's not easy
36:24 But I can follow you there
36:26 You can listen to the album
36:28 There's a physical album
36:30 And digital
36:32 You can listen to it on any streaming platform
36:34 You like
36:36 That's it
36:40 If there's anything
36:42 From my latest programs
36:44 I'll share it on Instagram
36:46 Now I also have a band
36:50 In the last 10 years
36:52 In this industry
36:54 We sing with Minus One
36:56 I play the instrument
37:00 Piano, guitar
37:02 There's around 6 of us
37:04 After this
37:06 I'll be with my bandmates
37:08 Which I haven't given a name yet
37:12 You can stay tuned
37:14 On my Instagram
37:16 She's our guest
37:20 Listen to her
37:22 She can't only sing
37:24 She can write and cook
37:26 We can even
37:30 Cook and close our eyes
37:32 Close our eyes
37:34 You can check it on my Instagram
37:36 If you're looking for it, go to
37:40 MC Semen's Instagram
37:42 She can cook and close her eyes
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