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00:00and other matters that occur which create confusion for the children
00:06is the relationship we have with our in-laws
00:09when we have a healthy relationship with our in-laws
00:14then naturally the children will have a healthy relationship with us as well
00:19but when there is chaos and confusion
00:22when it comes to the relationship with in-laws
00:26in that particular case there will be chaos and confusion
00:29when it comes to our own children
00:31let me inform you in islam once a couple are married
00:36you don't interfere with their decisions
00:39you don't interfere with their decisions
00:41even if it is your son or your daughter
00:44you can try and suggest something to them
00:47but it is wrong for you to make decisions for them
00:50and this message is for parents who have children who are married
00:59parents who have children who are married
01:02need to understand that let them live their lives
01:06let them make their decisions
01:08when you were young you made your decisions
01:11now it's their turn to make their decisions
01:14their children's upbringing is their business not yours
01:17now they are married they need to start a life of their own
01:21many marriages are suffering great turbulence
01:26a lot of them even break
01:28because of interference from parents on both sides
01:32and it's a fact
01:33it really is a fact
01:35across the globe this is a problem
01:38and we don't understand as Muslims
01:40take a look at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
01:42he never ever interfered
01:45he never ever interfered
01:47with any of his daughter's husbands
01:50and he never interfered in their lives
01:52not even once
01:53I want to give you one true example
01:55of Abu Bakr Siddiq radiallahu anhu
02:00you know his daughter was Aisha radiallahu anha
02:03she was married to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
02:07one day he passed the room of Aisha radiallahu anha
02:13one day Abu Bakr who is the father of Aisha
02:15passed the room of Aisha
02:18the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was there
02:20and they were
02:22Aisha radiallahu anha had raised a voice
02:27and it sounded like it was a discussion with a debate
02:30it sounded like that
02:31and Abu Bakr Siddiq radiallahu anhu
02:37he knocked the door
02:38he was allowed to go in
02:41he was permitted to go in
02:42he went in
02:44he did not ask questions
02:46you know most of us when there is a problem
02:50with our children and their spouses
02:53we side with our children
02:54some people say my daughter is right
02:57always you are wrong
02:59and some people say my son is right
03:02you are wrong
03:02Abu Bakr Siddiq radiallahu anhu did not ask questions
03:06he didn't even know what was happening
03:07he thought there is a debate going on here
03:10my daughter is being disrespectful
03:12he went in and he admonished her
03:16he admonished her
03:17he admonished her
03:18to the degree
03:19that she
03:20began to weep
03:21then he went away
03:24few minutes later
03:28he was passing the same room
03:30and he heard them laughing
03:31he heard them laughing
03:36so he knocked the door
03:37and he says
03:40ashrikani
03:46this is the Arabic term
03:48fi silmikumah
03:51can you
03:55make me
03:57can you allow me
03:58to take part
04:01in your peace
04:03in the same way
04:05you made me take part
04:07in your war
04:07a few minutes ago
04:08moments ago
04:11I came in
04:11and I took part
04:12in your war
04:13which means
04:13the term war is used
04:15but it was not a war
04:16meaning when there was a problem
04:18I came in
04:20now
04:20when you people are happy
04:21can I come in again
04:22and the Prophet
04:25sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
04:26began to laugh
04:27and he explained to him
04:28look there was no problem at all
04:29you overreacted
04:30there was no problem at all
04:31but why I'm mentioning this is
04:34if we are to interfere
04:37it should only be
04:38to rectify
04:39our side
04:41that's the interference
04:42to rectify
04:44to admonish
04:44to be strict
04:45but we cannot begin
04:47to make decisions
04:47for others
04:48you know
04:50many women
04:51many women complain
04:53that
04:54sometimes our in-laws
04:56don't allow us
04:57to be mothers
04:58what does that mean
05:00I'm talking about
05:01my part of the world
05:02but I'm sure
05:03even in Sri Lanka
05:04everyone has five fingers
05:05isn't it
05:06so we've got the same problems
05:07the poor lady
05:09has had a child
05:11now
05:12normally
05:12there is a postnatal depression
05:14that a lot of women
05:14go through
05:15because of the
05:16vast
05:16sudden change
05:18in body
05:18and one person says
05:21you know what
05:22give the child formula milk
05:23the other person says
05:24give the child
05:25this type of milk
05:26the other one says
05:27breastfeed the child
05:28like this
05:28the other one says
05:29no give them water
05:30the poor lady
05:32is totally confused
05:33what do I do
05:34you'll find a whole
05:35bucket of all sorts
05:36of things
05:37and every little while
05:37she's trying one thing
05:38and the other
05:39and the child is all
05:40sick now
05:41why
05:41because there is chaos
05:42let the mother
05:43do what she wants
05:45really
05:47you can advise her
05:49you can tell her
05:49but you cannot
05:50instruct her
05:51she is the mother
05:53and some people
05:55get so passionate
05:56they don't allow
05:57mothers to be mothers
05:58they want to be the mothers
05:59everyone wants to be the mother
06:01and this is a sickness
06:04it is happening
06:04across the globe
06:05we need to rectify it
06:07because we will not
06:08be able
06:09to move forward
06:10and progress
06:11as Muslims
06:12unless and until
06:13we understand
06:14what parenthood
06:16is all about
06:17imagine
06:21I have to interfere
06:22in my grandchildren
06:23every time
06:25and
06:26that trend
06:27continues for generations
06:29and generations
06:29so
06:30rather the grandparents
06:32decide that we are now
06:33the parents
06:33finished
06:34we can change
06:35the terminology
06:36and call parents
06:37grandparents
06:38and grandparents
06:39parents
06:39with all due respect
06:41to grandparents
06:42then
06:46there is another problem
06:47and that is
06:48the sandwich
06:49that a lot of men
06:50are put into
06:51why
06:53because
06:53on one hand
06:54you have your parents
06:55those are your parents
06:57you are the child
06:58and on the other hand
07:00you have your wife
07:00and your children
07:01now
07:02way to go
07:03because now
07:04there is a discrepancy
07:05between the two
07:06should I
07:07listen to my parents
07:09or should I listen
07:09to my wife
07:10you are now
07:13a parent yourself
07:14your parents
07:15have a position
07:17which will never
07:17ever drop
07:18in Islam
07:19they have a very
07:20high lofty position
07:21but where they are
07:23reasonable
07:24you will listen
07:25to what they say
07:26where they are
07:27not reasonable
07:27you will explain
07:29to them
07:29like a man
07:30to say
07:31do you know what
07:32thank you very much
07:34I really appreciate
07:35your advice
07:35and so on
07:36even if you don't
07:37want to tell them
07:37you know
07:38I'm not going to
07:38accept what you're
07:39saying
07:39don't say that
07:40tell them
07:41no I understand
07:42I appreciate
07:42I've heard what
07:43you said
07:43and you know
07:44Jazakumullah
07:44thank you very much
07:45for your advice
07:46and so on
07:46but where they
07:47are unreasonable
07:48you do not
07:49have to take it
07:50you only take
07:52that which is
07:52reasonable
07:53sometimes
07:54some people
07:55say look
07:56you know what
07:56and this is a
07:57fact
07:58my mother
08:00comes first
08:01because paradise
08:03lies under her
08:04feet
08:05I agree
08:05your mother
08:06definitely does
08:07come first
08:08but if the
08:10paradise is there
08:11in the first
08:11place
08:12some mothers
08:14have hell
08:15beneath their
08:15feet
08:16may Allah
08:17protect us
08:17what this
08:18means is
08:18if her life
08:20is un-Islamic
08:21what paradise
08:21do you want
08:22under her feet
08:23she will begin
08:24to tell you
08:25to do things
08:25which are
08:26detrimental to
08:27your own
08:27self
08:28then you want
08:28to use this
08:29excuse to
08:29continue listening
08:30to what she's
08:31saying
08:31she will land
08:32you in the
08:33same place
08:33she has
08:34landed
08:34so paradise
08:37beneath the
08:38feet
08:38is correct
08:39only
08:40when
08:41we
08:42ensure
08:43that
08:43whatever
08:43we are
08:44saying
08:44or doing
08:45is within
08:45the limits
08:46of Islam
08:46and what
08:47I am
08:48telling you
08:48this evening
08:49is connected
08:50to Islam
08:51we are
08:52Muslims
08:52many people
08:55have so
08:56many problems
08:57you know
08:57today we are
08:58speaking about
08:59parent-child
08:59relation
09:00are you
09:01seeing how
09:01I have
09:02brought into
09:03the topic
09:03how parents
09:05themselves
09:05are children
09:06of others
09:07so the
09:08parent-child
09:09relation
09:09can go
09:11through
09:11for a few
09:12generations
09:12sometimes
09:13if you have
09:14a great
09:14grandparent
09:15who is
09:15alive
09:16then there
09:16is a
09:17parent-child
09:18parent-child
09:18parent-child
09:19relation
09:20of three
09:21generations
09:22where do
09:24you draw
09:24the line
09:24you need
09:26to give
09:27the freedom
09:27to those
09:28who are
09:28married
09:28to live
09:30their lives
09:30according to
09:31what they
09:31feel is
09:32correct
09:32on condition
09:33that it
09:34is within
09:34the Islamic
09:35limits
09:35the minute
09:37they decide
09:38we don't
09:38want to
09:38read
09:39salah
09:39you tackle
09:40them
09:40the minute
09:41they decide
09:41we don't
09:42want to
09:42dress
09:42islamically
09:43you tackle
09:44them
09:44you can
09:44interfere
09:45the minute
09:46they decide
09:47we don't
09:47want to
09:48read the
09:48Quran
09:48and the
09:49sunnah
09:49you tackle
09:50them
09:51you can
09:51interfere
09:52but whether
09:53or not
09:53they want
09:54to eat
09:54out or
09:54in
09:55is not
09:55your
09:55business