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90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Episode 11

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00:00:00I just wanted to tell you that I'm 100% sure about my decision.
00:00:05Are you serious?
00:00:06Yes.
00:00:07In the past few weeks, we have been having so many ups and downs,
00:00:11and I think I can get back your trust by a proposal.
00:00:17Will you marry me?
00:00:22Okay, Maddie has redeemed herself a little,
00:00:25and I feel kind of out of being a bitch.
00:00:30All right, enough of that.
00:00:36Sorry, no, man.
00:00:40You're always home.
00:00:42I'm always home?
00:00:43I think you should go more.
00:00:46For her to say that, I think was a little out of line.
00:00:49I've seen a different side of her.
00:00:52Would you say to her that she should leave the house?
00:00:54Yes, I wanted to see her reaction.
00:00:56Testing her patience.
00:00:58Are you testing my patience?
00:01:00Sometimes I feel like I'm not complete.
00:01:04I really want to have boobs.
00:01:06Have you told Sean that you think you want breast implants?
00:01:10No, we didn't talk about that yet.
00:01:14Aaliyah fully transitioning into a woman could potentially be something he doesn't want.
00:01:18What do your kids think when you talk to them about your relationship with Aaliyah?
00:01:22Oh, they don't know I'm getting married.
00:01:24Wait, they don't know you're getting married?
00:01:26We have a big day be-beating my sisters.
00:01:30Don't say be-be, I feel more nervous.
00:01:33My sisters are all very strong women, very opinionated.
00:01:39Sarper does not have more than one chance for a first impression.
00:01:42I remember you saying he liked you better when you just kept your mouth shut.
00:01:45Sometimes I say I want all of you in her back because she was so obedient.
00:01:50Yes.
00:01:51You know, when you miss the last angle before the bridge and you are in the bridge and you cannot go back, I feel that.
00:02:00I feel more things for you.
00:02:02I love you more, Ham.
00:02:04Because that's kind of a problem.
00:02:05I mistake with this relation for you.
00:02:07Um, it's good for me to tell you this, but Ani said that she doesn't feel the same way about you as me.
00:02:15I haven't known Ani for 10 years.
00:02:17There's no way that she could hurt me as much as my wife keeping something like that from me.
00:02:21Sunset over 10 years, I can see the meaning of whenever I close my eyes.
00:02:41It's a high and portable bidet.
00:02:44I'm not in your purse.
00:02:45I swear.
00:02:46You're going to try to put your butt washer in my purse?
00:02:49I saw the butt washer.
00:02:50What is it?
00:02:52I mean, where's my hand, you babe?
00:02:54Ew.
00:03:04So are you going to start?
00:03:05Start what?
00:03:06I came for a dress and I need a suit.
00:03:10I just got my ring.
00:03:12I know, but we don't have to.
00:03:13It took you long enough to do that.
00:03:15Maybe I should have as much time to plan the wedding as you did if you gave me this ring.
00:03:18Please, um.
00:03:19So you're thinking it would be better to move it up?
00:03:25Yes, because we're going to save money unless you're worried about something still.
00:03:30No, I feel okay.
00:03:32I'm just, I think I'm a little bit stressed about trying to, like, move stuff up quick.
00:03:36Mm-hmm.
00:03:36Would you be able to work sooner if we moved it up?
00:03:39Yeah.
00:03:39I think we also need to ask Dad if he's going to actually walk me down now.
00:03:45What did Dad say when you asked him about marrying me?
00:03:48I think he was worried about the whole situation and how serious I am.
00:03:54He gave you the blessing-ish, ish?
00:03:57Yes.
00:03:57Please don't do that.
00:03:59I don't know.
00:04:00I have to ask him.
00:04:02But I guess if he's not ready to yet, that would be a bit scary.
00:04:04You know, Dad's been, like, super sick.
00:04:11And he's going to get sicker.
00:04:14And it's important to me that Dad does that while he's here because I want him to be able
00:04:18to, um, give me to someone that he knows will take care of me.
00:04:22Mm-hmm.
00:04:22Did you go with the glasses?
00:04:27Yeah, I got him.
00:04:28So if Dad doesn't walk you down from down out, who would you call him any of?
00:04:37I don't think I could get married if Dad wasn't walking me down now.
00:04:42Oh.
00:04:50It's a good date.
00:04:51It's a good date.
00:04:54It works.
00:04:57Let's go!
00:05:18All right.
00:05:20Let's go.
00:05:21Hey, Dad.
00:05:30You still alive?
00:05:31Yeah.
00:05:32Huh?
00:05:32Yes.
00:05:33I don't know.
00:05:35I didn't ever know.
00:05:36I lost your phone, man.
00:05:37What's going on, Maddie?
00:05:38I didn't see your call.
00:05:39Doing good.
00:05:42Did you lose your phone?
00:05:43I didn't hear it ring.
00:05:44I saw where you called me, but it was when I pulled up.
00:05:46Yeah.
00:05:46Yeah.
00:05:47What y'all been up to this week?
00:05:58Um...
00:05:59Now, he took me on a surprise.
00:06:06What?
00:06:06What?
00:06:07He didn't tell me.
00:06:09What?
00:06:09He said he showed you this.
00:06:10Did he show you this?
00:06:12Yeah, but it wasn't there.
00:06:15Huh?
00:06:15Yep.
00:06:16I got it.
00:06:17He did good.
00:06:18Everybody knows he's going to give it to you that quick.
00:06:20Yeah.
00:06:21He did.
00:06:23Yeah.
00:06:24Yeah, I don't think, I mean...
00:06:26No, I think I'm sure...
00:06:27I think I'm sure...
00:06:28Through and through by now?
00:06:29I think I'm sure about what I want.
00:06:34She wasn't sure, like, maybe a couple of days ago, but I think I could just prove it to her.
00:06:42You know, I'm always skeptical of people.
00:06:44And I don't live people in my life unless I know...
00:06:46Yeah, skeptical of people, I mean, shouldn't that be too?
00:06:48Yeah.
00:06:49You lied to me for her.
00:06:52I didn't lie to you.
00:06:53I'm just the tale of the truth.
00:06:55I did not lie to you.
00:06:57Well, you don't think I should be skeptical.
00:06:59Well, at least I'm telling you.
00:07:00I could have just run off to New Orleans or something.
00:07:02No, you could.
00:07:03I mean, of course you could.
00:07:03I just, I don't understand.
00:07:05It's the best decision.
00:07:08I think it's the best decision.
00:07:12She's a grown person, so she's going to do what she wants to, but, yeah, I don't think it's long enough.
00:07:16I think I might be some red flags that she's missing.
00:07:21Well, you know, I'll tell you my concerns or whatever, but if that's what I tell her, this is how I didn't do.
00:07:29Good luck.
00:07:30So, will you walk me down the hall if that's my decision?
00:07:36If you want me to, I'd like to walk you down the hall.
00:07:50Yeah.
00:07:50Yeah.
00:07:51I give hands to dad.
00:07:53I'm not a hugger.
00:07:58You better shake my dad's hand or something.
00:08:00Come on.
00:08:01Thank you so much.
00:08:03I'm relieved.
00:08:07My dad is knocking me down the hall.
00:08:09We have so much to do and not a lot of time to do it.
00:08:13So, I guess that means that Maddie's going to have to put up with me being crazy, kind of running around, trying to get things done in, like, two weeks.
00:08:20Get ready.
00:08:21Yeah.
00:08:22It's going to get hotter.
00:08:23I just hope nothing goes wrong because I'm the one who is just, like, moving everything up.
00:08:29I just hope everything goes right.
00:08:30Is that your favorite toy?
00:08:49It's a new noisemaker from hell.
00:08:53It kept me up all night.
00:08:56I'm going to go see your grandma, so you have to be a good boy, okay?
00:09:11Yes.
00:09:12He's a good boy.
00:09:14What is this?
00:09:16Are you kidding me?
00:09:17What is that?
00:09:21This is your wand, mascara wand.
00:09:24Oh, my God.
00:09:25You might need this.
00:09:26You might want to have this.
00:09:28I'm sure it's very clean and ready to go.
00:09:31Poor baby.
00:09:31Following puppy protection services.
00:09:33I think he tried to steal my makeup.
00:09:35Yeah, yeah.
00:09:36Me and Aaliyah are heading up north for, in our minds, it's our engagement party.
00:09:42Maybe to other people, it's a meet and greet.
00:09:44But regardless, it's going to be a lovely venue, a lovely day, very opulent, very fancy.
00:09:50Then it's going to be Aaliyah.
00:09:54And then we'll get to see how everybody rolls with it.
00:09:57So, in there, you've got more cosmetics than you have luggage.
00:10:03You look like you're, like, assembled enough to do all the background dancers for the next Academy Award show.
00:10:09It's because you're finally taking me to meet your family.
00:10:14One, I think it's tricky to throw an engagement party when nobody knows you're engaged.
00:10:19People are coming with various amounts of knowledge.
00:10:22Of course, my mom knows everything.
00:10:23God knows what she told her best friend.
00:10:25And I don't know what the Gossip Mill has done and how much people are in the loop or whatever.
00:10:30But I guess this is where they can, you know, get the full picture and do a Q&A.
00:10:36I think, I hope that everything will work well and that you love me.
00:10:40Because I'm in love with you.
00:10:42You're so lovely.
00:10:44I was hoping, like, good moments that we can, like, hang out.
00:10:47But I think we'll be more like we need to explain the things and talk about everything.
00:10:53You got lots of explaining to do, Lucy.
00:10:55You don't even know what I love Lucy is, so it's wasted.
00:11:03Shonen's always making jokes that I actually don't understand.
00:11:08Yeah.
00:11:08And the reference I have, it's, like, all older.
00:11:12I think a lot of my humor is dry humor and usually sarcastic.
00:11:16Do you know what sarcasm is?
00:11:18Nights, things that you're always doing, and I don't care.
00:11:24So, here we go.
00:11:26Our journey begins to Snowman County.
00:11:30How are you feeling about taking me there, introduce me for your family?
00:11:38Can't wait for you to meet my mom, because, you know, she can't wait to meet you.
00:11:42So, I'm excited for you guys to see each other.
00:11:45Do you think it's, like, warm there?
00:11:48It's north.
00:11:49Northern California.
00:11:50That's worse?
00:11:51It's not crazy.
00:11:52It doesn't snow or anything.
00:11:55Actually, I really want to see the snow.
00:11:58I never saw it before.
00:12:00And I love, like, the floofy clothes.
00:12:03The fluffy clothes?
00:12:04Yeah.
00:12:04Or the Michael Fouflete clothes.
00:12:08What?
00:12:10I'm having a ride.
00:12:15I don't like when you're doing, like, jokes with me, and we have, like, people around,
00:12:20because I still, like, poker face.
00:12:24Because you're making joking, and everyone's laughing, and I'm just, like, I don't understand.
00:12:28I am an idiot here, and poker face.
00:12:30It sounds like it could be more poker face, so I should be able to make every joke I want,
00:12:35because you just have the same expression on your face, no matter what I do.
00:12:39You can make jokes, but not about me.
00:12:43It's also my first time, like, meeting them.
00:12:46I don't have an idea who they are, so.
00:12:48You can just go on Brazilian on them.
00:12:50I dare you.
00:12:54I can't believe it.
00:12:56I'm going to another room.
00:13:00It makes me sad that Sean did not tell about me to people and to his family,
00:13:09and it's really frustrating that he's still, like, making jokes about it.
00:13:14I think when I'm doing the joking, then sometimes I'm actually making kind of her cultural differences
00:13:20or age difference.
00:13:22It's, like, uncomfortable.
00:13:24When I meet his friends and family, I really expect him to speak up
00:13:34and to show that he's proud of me and our relationship.
00:13:38I want something serious, and I want to live a serious relationship,
00:13:42and I want to get married.
00:13:44But I think Sean needs to show me more.
00:13:47And I'll be fine.
00:13:55Okay.
00:13:59I need to let Minnie know that she loves her and doesn't really care for me.
00:14:05My whole world's at stake here.
00:14:07To me, I'll be pausing right now because now you're a third wheel.
00:14:10I never imagined that I could lose the money to this, but, I mean, there's a sign that that's possible.
00:14:18You have a little bit of an anger issue.
00:14:20Yeah.
00:14:21But most of the guys have it.
00:14:22No, that's not true, and that doesn't make it okay.
00:14:25They're all watching every little move and every remark he makes.
00:14:29This is intense.
00:14:31You have to learn how to make sure she kind of knows that she doesn't have anything to worry about.
00:14:35And being a man, period.
00:14:36You have to learn how to make sure she doesn't have anything to worry about.
00:15:06You have to learn how to make sure she doesn't have anything to worry about.
00:15:15I haven't even told Minnie that she loves her more than me, and it took Minnie a few days to tell me that.
00:15:23It makes me feel hurt by my girlfriend and my wife.
00:15:27I care about both of them, and for both of them to hide that from me, that's painful.
00:15:32Hey, what's up, man?
00:15:40What's up, man?
00:15:41What are you doing?
00:15:42Sure, you know, just chilling in Mexico.
00:15:46Oh, yeah?
00:15:46Where's the money at?
00:15:48She's still sleeping.
00:15:50Must be nice.
00:15:52Yeah.
00:15:52Eric is my first friend I made in California.
00:15:57He actually has been in a polyamorous type of relationship.
00:16:01So I know Eric, of all my friends, is going to look out for me and give me the advice that I need to get through this experience.
00:16:11So how have you been?
00:16:12What's going on?
00:16:13Well, we went to a winery, and there was quite a bit of commotion between the girls.
00:16:20Ani let Minnie know that she loves her and doesn't really care for me.
00:16:27Yeah, that sucks.
00:16:30How are you feeling right now about that?
00:16:32That did hurt.
00:16:34You know, I'm not going to lie.
00:16:36How does Amani feel about it?
00:16:38Have you talked to her?
00:16:38Like, you know, like, I didn't really talk too much to Amani about it because I don't exactly know what to trust her with, you know?
00:16:46To me, I'll be pausing right now.
00:16:47I'll be pausing.
00:16:48I'll be like, hey, Amani, let's recess our relationship.
00:16:52You know, let's get back to solid ground with us.
00:16:55We're going to be jealous with each other.
00:16:56Because it sounds like there's some jealousy happening now a little bit as well.
00:17:00And once that starts happening, it's illusions start happening, right?
00:17:03You start thinking weird.
00:17:05You start breathing in between the lines of something that may not be there.
00:17:08Because now you're a third wheel in it, you know?
00:17:13When we got into this, it was fun and excitement.
00:17:16And we loved the excitement.
00:17:18And I really feel like Amani's just caught up still in that excitement.
00:17:23Yep.
00:17:24Yeah, I'm not sure, you know, how much closer they're going to draw on this.
00:17:28I just feel like it's slowly getting away from me.
00:17:32Those two seem like they haven't figured out between each other.
00:17:39And I just don't with them yet.
00:17:43Yeah, that sucks.
00:17:45You know, man, you got to be careful because you could lose everything.
00:17:48Your family, your kids.
00:17:51You know, for this woman.
00:17:52And this is kind of a scary road that you're sitting on, you know?
00:17:56You need to talk to Amani.
00:17:58Definitely see where she feels about this.
00:18:00And kind of start really being honest with each other.
00:18:04My whole world's at stake here.
00:18:06I have a happy family.
00:18:08I never imagined that I could lose Amani to this.
00:18:11But, I mean, there's a sign that that's possible.
00:18:15Definitely let them know that you're valid.
00:18:19Because you're valid.
00:18:20You're part of the relationships.
00:18:21That's not them, too.
00:18:23Dude, you're always the best, man.
00:18:26You're my buddy.
00:18:27I'm here for you.
00:18:28Much love, brother.
00:18:30Bye.
00:18:35It's good to know, man.
00:18:38My friend sees the same thing and I'm not crazy.
00:18:40I need a show of concern.
00:18:48Because this may not be healthy, you know?
00:18:50Sometimes I say I want to hold Shukaina back because she was so obedient.
00:19:13I learned it a lot.
00:19:29I'm an overreactive guy, normally.
00:19:31But I'm a lot more cold right now.
00:19:36I can tell this Harper is nervous.
00:19:38Like, how can he not?
00:19:40They're all sitting across the table from him.
00:19:42I'm asking him questions, watching every little move, every expression, every remark he makes.
00:19:48This is intense.
00:19:50If he had a problem, we try to solve it as a modern way.
00:19:54Talking.
00:19:55Like, not physically, like, doing anything.
00:19:57No, nothing.
00:19:58I mean...
00:19:58Like, grabbing things out of each other's hands.
00:20:01We talked about you not having female clients.
00:20:05You shouldn't do it.
00:20:06You're dating an American girl now.
00:20:10Come on.
00:20:12That was a complete mistake.
00:20:18I mean, I hope that she believes me.
00:20:22So you have a little bit of an anger issue.
00:20:24Yeah, I had it.
00:20:25I mean, not most of the guys have it.
00:20:29Not all.
00:20:29No, that's not true.
00:20:30And that doesn't make it okay.
00:20:32You're saying that you know that that's not right.
00:20:34Do you just make a point to not do it?
00:20:37If you are arguing with someone, you get mad, right?
00:20:40I mean, the action, the reaction is wrong.
00:20:43But, like, how do you make sure she kind of knows that without just your word?
00:20:47Like, being a calm man and being a man, period.
00:20:50Letting she kind of know that she doesn't have anything to worry about.
00:20:53Yeah, I understand what you mean.
00:20:55If you guys are going to get married, you're going to go through so many different phases of your life.
00:20:59You have to learn how to grow and respect and love the person that you're with day in and day out.
00:21:04I feel like, you know, in the matrix, you dodge the bullets.
00:21:09Everyone, you know, Zion is really sark.
00:21:11Look at you.
00:21:12I'm turning down.
00:21:14Suraya and Maria, oh my God.
00:21:16Even she kind of looks unhappy.
00:21:18Right now, I am on my own.
00:21:21I have a lot to prove to all of you guys because, I mean, we didn't make a good start with you, especially.
00:21:30To be honest, I was thinking different that time, you know?
00:21:32I mean, I was, I didn't care what Shikina's family thinks.
00:21:39I'm honest with you guys.
00:21:40I mean.
00:21:41Yeah.
00:21:42Tell her how long it had been.
00:21:43It's been like 10 days.
00:21:45Yeah, it had only been 10.
00:21:46I had no idea at that point.
00:21:49Like, for some reason, like, I thought it had been like six months or something.
00:21:53Our second meet was kind of.
00:21:55That was our second time meeting.
00:21:57And so, those 10 days, we were just starting to uncover stuff.
00:22:01And then he met you right away.
00:22:03Yeah.
00:22:03Yeah.
00:22:04It was just a lot.
00:22:05Yeah.
00:22:06I was a little rude that time.
00:22:09But I'm always trying to progress to make her happy, to improve.
00:22:13As a sister, you are one of the strongest people I know, through and through.
00:22:19And, like, if Serper is lucky enough to keep your attention, then he deserves it.
00:22:23But I know that you're going to be okay, because you're really strong, and we love you.
00:22:27Thanks, Brian.
00:22:28I want you guys to be happy for me, you know.
00:22:31We are happy for you.
00:22:32Because I have to be happy.
00:22:33Because I have to be...
00:22:33Serper to put his best foot forward as well.
00:22:36It's going to take time.
00:22:37Just, like, trust takes time for anyone.
00:22:40Time, time, yeah.
00:22:41It will take time.
00:22:41And if you guys are choosing each other for a lifetime, there is going to be time for us
00:22:44to see it.
00:22:45Yeah.
00:22:46And really accept you as a brother-in-law.
00:22:49I'm okay with that.
00:22:51I mean, diagonal interrogation.
00:22:53Triple interrogation.
00:22:55You mean cross-examination?
00:22:56Cross-examination.
00:22:58I know it seems like the hot seat of interrogation for you, Serper.
00:23:02And I appreciate you hearing us out.
00:23:04So, like, mend the bridge of, like, what we've seen versus being you in person.
00:23:10I thank you.
00:23:11And I apologize once or again for the Turkey visit that we had.
00:23:16I'm so regretful about that.
00:23:18It's okay.
00:23:18We've got a new start.
00:23:25Thank you for coming.
00:23:26Yeah, thanks, you guys.
00:23:27It means so much to have you all here.
00:23:29And thanks for meeting with Serper, finally.
00:23:32Yeah.
00:23:33Here we go?
00:23:34Yeah.
00:23:34Okay, let's go.
00:23:36I don't know, with Serper, there hasn't ever been, like, a real genuine feeling.
00:23:41I get past this.
00:23:43And some of it did feel, like, very rehearsed.
00:23:46Like, he's, like, you know, really thought about, like, what he's saying and, like, how he's going to present himself.
00:23:53Yeah, I just hope that there's, like, actual change that happens.
00:23:56Aside from, like, whatever words we're hearing today.
00:24:00My favorite.
00:24:01I love you.
00:24:02Overall, I feel like this time with my sisters was productive.
00:24:15They finally gave Serper a fair chance.
00:24:18And now it's just going to take time, I guess, for them to really believe that he's a good partner for me and to see that these changes he's made are really going to stick.
00:24:27Sometimes I should say something, I don't understand if they like it or not, you know?
00:24:33I know.
00:24:33Well, I know what you're trying to express.
00:24:36Yeah.
00:24:37But they don't yet, so it'll take time.
00:24:41There are things that I have also wondered at one time or another about Serper.
00:24:45You know, like, if I can trust him, if he is an honest person, if he will not cheat, given his past, and he's going to have to prove himself on a lot of these things.
00:24:55Okay, let's go.
00:24:58Ah, Serper.
00:24:59Another chapter.
00:25:03You know, with the wedding, having it here, it's going to be a lot for me to do.
00:25:07So, I remember this little hole, and I'm thinking maybe we could go with that instead.
00:25:12But he also has to appear for that diary.
00:25:15The diary?
00:25:16Don't stop me with that.
00:25:18Can you factor in how much, you know, you're, like, supporting her?
00:25:22No.
00:25:23I'm like, lay off, Gregory.
00:25:27Yeah?
00:25:28Give him a break.
00:25:30The big of us, the bulls, the big of us, the bang!
00:25:32The big of us, the bulls, the big of us, the bang!
00:25:36I'm going to check the A.
00:25:38Is this one here?
00:25:40What's that, babe?
00:25:42Hey, she's the dude.
00:25:47What's up, babe?
00:25:49Later.
00:25:50Later.
00:25:50Later.
00:25:53Okay.
00:25:54You don't want to be cradled.
00:25:56Okay.
00:25:57The big of the bulls, the big of the bang!
00:25:58All of us, the big of the hang-out!
00:26:00All of us in the house!
00:26:03Mwah!
00:26:04Greg?
00:26:05Yeah?
00:26:06Am I disturbing?
00:26:08No, not at all.
00:26:09Oh, good.
00:26:10What's up?
00:26:11What's he doing?
00:26:12Nothing.
00:26:13I'm just getting ready for the day.
00:26:14What's going on?
00:26:14Oh, you took a shower?
00:26:18Yeah.
00:26:22I don't know why somebody needs two showers a day.
00:26:26Before she goes to bed, she'll take a shower, and then the shower in the morning.
00:26:30I'm like, how dirty is your bed that you need to take another shower?
00:26:33I always say, oh, the royal shower's coming in now, you know?
00:26:38Your room looks nice.
00:26:40I guess Joan had a big influence on that, because I've been trying to make you do this for years,
00:26:46clean it up.
00:26:49He's just lazy to do some stuff, but when he steps on it, yeah, he can do it.
00:26:54Yeah, right.
00:26:55He can be lazy, laid back, you know, sit on the computer.
00:26:59I mean, I'm not the only one here.
00:27:00Look at the garage, all right, for example, all right?
00:27:03There's a lot of things we have in this house.
00:27:04Here we go.
00:27:06We've been working on the garage, right?
00:27:08Quite frankly, I'm not the only one, just saying.
00:27:10Quite frankly, yeah, okay.
00:27:12But besides all that, you know, with the wedding, having it here,
00:27:20well, it's going to be a lot of people, a lot for me to do.
00:27:24So, I remember this little hall.
00:27:28Your sister had the baby shower there.
00:27:30And I'm thinking, uh, maybe we could go with something like that instead.
00:27:35I don't know.
00:27:36I mean, I thought it would be pretty cool having it here,
00:27:38especially, I was thinking we let the chickens run around.
00:27:40I think, you know, it's a pretty unique experience, you know?
00:27:44I thought it would be pretty cool.
00:27:45But weather-wise, too, I mean, I don't know how it's, we never know how it's going to be.
00:27:51We got to rent tents and tables and chairs.
00:27:54So, would that be a big deal?
00:27:57We switch it up?
00:27:58Although Gregory wanted the wedding here,
00:28:05I would have probably been doing everything.
00:28:09You want to have the house clean, you want to have the backyard clean.
00:28:12I don't have a landscaper, I do everything here.
00:28:15You need tents, never mind a DJ.
00:28:18You know, you have to order the cake,
00:28:20and I don't think Gregory would have been on top of all that.
00:28:24Instead of being within the budget, I, you know, I...
00:28:27So, I actually did a little inquiry in this place and cooled up.
00:28:32Really?
00:28:34This place included everything.
00:28:36Cocktail hour, food.
00:28:38I could probably make better food.
00:28:40Flowers included photography, included DJ.
00:28:44And they offer a three-tiered wedding cake, too.
00:28:48You know, an official-looking wedding cake.
00:28:50So, I was thinking that was like a no-brainer.
00:28:56I think it's a little crazy, I really do.
00:28:58We've talked about this multiple, multiple times with her.
00:29:00I was preparing for the wedding at home,
00:29:02trying to make invitations, get everything going,
00:29:04and all of a sudden, hey, I went to a venue.
00:29:06I want a nice wedding, a beautiful wedding,
00:29:08but the situation we are in, I feel like we can save up that money so that we can.
00:29:13Get an apartment or save it for the house.
00:29:18Sounds expensive.
00:29:20Well, how much did you budget for a wedding?
00:29:21I budgeted it for five.
00:29:23I mean, and that's, I'm pretty sure I could do it.
00:29:25Five grand for a wedding for 75 people for food and liquor.
00:29:29It's not that expensive.
00:29:31But he also has to pay for that dowry before.
00:29:37The dowry?
00:29:39Don't stop me with that.
00:29:41Why he needs so many cows, I don't even know.
00:29:44But her ranch, you know, that's my culture, that's my culture.
00:29:48Like lay off Gregory.
00:29:51You know?
00:29:51Give him a break.
00:29:53In order to get married, I have to pay the dowry.
00:29:56Can you factor in how much, you know, you're, like, supporting her?
00:30:00Every day you go shopping for food and, you know, things she needs,
00:30:04and would that be able to be factored in, maybe?
00:30:09No.
00:30:11He has to show that he can take care of me.
00:30:14So if he can't pay the dowry from the start,
00:30:16then he can't take care of me.
00:30:18I think he's showing it right, you know, every day how he's taking care of you.
00:30:22The difference between what you think and what their culture and what they think is,
00:30:26she thinks Greg doesn't have to pay dowry because Greg has invested much money in me coming here.
00:30:36But in Uganda, culture is culture, so if you don't follow the culture, you can't have the wedding.
00:30:42I went to Uganda, I fell in love with Joan, and this is what it's going to be.
00:30:45It's not going to change.
00:30:46It hasn't changed in thousands of years.
00:30:47It's not going to change now for me, Greg.
00:30:50The fact that I just have to keep repeating myself to her, it's very frustrating.
00:30:53I'm going to be looking out for the best for you.
00:31:01Are there any decorations that represents you?
00:31:04What represents me?
00:31:05Your paintings.
00:31:07Like the one of me.
00:31:08Did you paint her?
00:31:10Yeah.
00:31:10Is it like a normal painting?
00:31:12A painting for your nerd.
00:31:14Why haven't you told me that?
00:31:16To be honest, she's giving me bisexual vibes again.
00:31:19Women being together is totally wrong in my culture, and I'm not okay with it.
00:31:25Even in the bro of candlelight
00:31:30You're the brightest star that shoots across the sky
00:31:34And I just want to see the world the way you picture
00:31:40I'm going to call clear real quick.
00:31:46Hey.
00:31:47Hey.
00:31:48I'm headed that way.
00:31:49I'm just running a little behind, so I just want to call and let you know.
00:31:52Okay.
00:31:52Bye-bye.
00:31:53All right. Bye.
00:31:53Bye.
00:32:04Love you.
00:32:05Love you, Bob.
00:32:06I hope you're okay.
00:32:08You're still feeling me sick.
00:32:10Today we're going to look at the wedding venue.
00:32:16My friend Claire is going to meet us there.
00:32:18And Maddie's not feeling too well because he has chosen to eat pork for the first time.
00:32:22So it's going to be interesting.
00:32:28You cannot find any pork in Iran because in Islam, pigs are not like clean animals.
00:32:37But last night I tried to have pork belly.
00:32:42Not a good first time.
00:32:43It was really bad.
00:32:45Why did you eat it to begin with?
00:32:47I mean, I would like to try new things, but I think it's the first and last time.
00:32:55I caught a lot of different venues and everybody's booked up.
00:33:00So I'm really hoping that this one works out.
00:33:02So Maddie and I have decided to move the wedding date up.
00:33:08Yeah?
00:33:09Save money.
00:33:10Yes.
00:33:11But it's definitely added a lot of stress to our lives, or at least to my life.
00:33:16There's not a lot of venues that are available with this short notice.
00:33:20The whole thing is crazy.
00:33:21But I guess we've done crazier things.
00:33:23Like, I fell in love with someone across the world.
00:33:25So what's planning a wedding in a few days?
00:33:35Okay, look at it.
00:33:37Hopefully we can make it work, and hopefully they'll listen to this.
00:33:41I think it's really hard for Maddie to help me plan a wedding here because he doesn't really
00:33:45know, like, how a traditional American wedding is.
00:33:48The only times that I've seen American weddings are in the movies.
00:33:52Yeah, and those are probably, like, super traditional, and I don't want that.
00:33:57Weddings in Iran are so different.
00:33:59Like, they're not co-ed.
00:34:01Like, the girls are in one room, the guys are in one room?
00:34:03Oh, yes, totally different.
00:34:04So you dance with the guys?
00:34:06Yes.
00:34:07That sounds exhausting.
00:34:07You can hear them, but you can't see them.
00:34:10You have to talk through the wall.
00:34:11Hello.
00:34:12Yeah.
00:34:15Hello.
00:34:16Hey, how are you?
00:34:17I'm good.
00:34:17Hey, I'm Stevie.
00:34:18Hey, I'm Andrea.
00:34:19Nice to meet you.
00:34:20Maddie.
00:34:20Bye.
00:34:20Hey, nice to meet you.
00:34:21Yeah.
00:34:22So, this is the space.
00:34:24This is the Mockingbird.
00:34:25Okay.
00:34:26It's a small space.
00:34:28Okay.
00:34:28It's a very intimate venue.
00:34:29Okay.
00:34:30This is the main common area of the interior space.
00:34:33Okay.
00:34:33But this is, this is, like, the thing.
00:34:36Okay.
00:34:37It's this beautiful courtyard space, right?
00:34:39I love it out here.
00:34:43Hey!
00:34:43Hey!
00:34:46Hi.
00:34:47Hi.
00:34:47Hey!
00:34:48I'm Claire.
00:34:49Nice to meet you, too.
00:34:50Do anything about you.
00:34:51I do.
00:34:52Right?
00:34:53This is my husband, Whit.
00:34:54Oh, nice to meet you.
00:34:54And then this is our baby, Evie.
00:34:56Isn't she cute?
00:34:59Hey!
00:35:00Hey.
00:35:01Hey!
00:35:03So, tell me what's your plan?
00:35:06What's the vision?
00:35:06So, um, I'm not thinking about having too many people, only, like, close family and close friends.
00:35:12The ceremony and the reception.
00:35:13Yeah.
00:35:14All together.
00:35:14Yeah.
00:35:15If I didn't do it up here, then I could do it, like, over on this wall.
00:35:21And do, like, tears this way.
00:35:24Yeah, you can rearrange those however you need.
00:35:26Okay.
00:35:28So, tell me again, your time frame.
00:35:30Maddie, what's your time frame?
00:35:32Um, maybe two weeks or less.
00:35:35Oh, wow.
00:35:36Well, let me go check.
00:35:38Y'all talk, y'all look around.
00:35:39If you need pictures or anything of the venue space, you go ahead.
00:35:42Okay.
00:35:43I'll let you know.
00:35:44Thanks.
00:35:46I am a little worried that Stevie's rushing things.
00:35:51And I know that there's some things with his paperwork, I think.
00:35:55And so, I think that's why they had to move things up a little bit.
00:35:58But I would just want to make sure that this is definitely something that he's gonna, you know, be in the long haul for.
00:36:04Just because I feel like that would be so devastating for Stevie if, you know, this didn't work out.
00:36:08Do you think your family is gonna talk to a video call for the wedding?
00:36:14Um, I don't think so.
00:36:16If they see, like, any signs of, like, alcohol and also having a co-ed party, they're not gonna be happy.
00:36:25Oh, my gosh.
00:36:26And they're, like, super religious.
00:36:28So, it's not cool, but it is what it is.
00:36:31Well, we're gonna make you feel welcome as much as possible, for sure.
00:36:36So, are there any elements that y'all are gonna incorporate into the decorations that represents you?
00:36:44What represents me?
00:36:45Your paintings!
00:36:49You have so many beautiful ones.
00:36:51Okay, but what would I paint for you?
00:36:52Like the one of me.
00:36:57That's probably not appropriate for...
00:36:59Yeah, probably not.
00:36:59Did you paint her?
00:37:00Yeah.
00:37:01Okay, so is it, like, a normal painting that...
00:37:08No, I've had a clear name.
00:37:12Are you serious?
00:37:13Yeah.
00:37:15Why haven't you told me that?
00:37:16I didn't think it was a big deal.
00:37:17Because all the moves and nude pictures that you painted were, like, online.
00:37:25So, you just...
00:37:25People are sending pictures that...
00:37:26Oh, so you sent a picture?
00:37:29No, but people have done that before.
00:37:31What's the difference?
00:37:32Yeah, definitely.
00:37:34It's just a weird doing all.
00:37:35Yeah.
00:37:35With Claire.
00:37:36This is news to me.
00:37:42Stevie has told me that women would send her the picture of their body and she would paint them, like, topless or whatever.
00:37:51She has never, ever mentioned that she has painted girls naked in person.
00:37:58We'll talk about it later.
00:38:00Alright.
00:38:03Anyway.
00:38:04Anyway.
00:38:05Thank you for all your help.
00:38:06No problem.
00:38:07Sorry, I made it weird.
00:38:10Stevie has never, ever kept anything from me.
00:38:13And knowing that she was with her friend naked, it just blows my mind.
00:38:24To be honest, she's giving me bisexual vibes again.
00:38:28Women being together is totally wrong in my culture and I'm not okay with it.
00:38:34Well, double-checked the calendar and the day is yours.
00:38:40Good.
00:38:40Good.
00:38:41We have Eleni.
00:38:43Yay!
00:38:46That's exciting.
00:38:47I have a lot of unanswered questions when it comes to me and Aaliyah's relationship.
00:39:03So, to open it up to the family, I'm not looking forward to it, but I've helped it out for as long as I can.
00:39:10I have never cared what you've done in your life as long as you're happy.
00:39:15Are you 100% happy?
00:39:17I'm 100% happy.
00:39:27This street is super famous.
00:39:29People come from all over to do this street.
00:39:32Oh, it's so cool.
00:39:34And you know what the best part of this street is?
00:39:37Mm-hmm.
00:39:37Barbra Streisand did a movie and they filmed on this street.
00:39:41Here we go.
00:39:43Again.
00:39:44It's true.
00:39:45It's true.
00:39:46It's all we don't know.
00:39:48There it is.
00:39:51It's a golden leaf bridge.
00:39:53Beautiful, yeah?
00:39:55It's orange.
00:39:56I thought it was red.
00:39:58Oh, it's kind of ready orange to me.
00:40:01It's definitely, it's not gold.
00:40:03I don't know why they don't just paint it gold, since that's what it's called.
00:40:09It's so nice.
00:40:12I'm really excited to show Leah around Sonoma County because there's so much natural beauty.
00:40:17And all the vineyards and the wineries.
00:40:20And so it has a certain amount of elegance, but mixed in with nature.
00:40:26So we're heading more and more away from the city to the redwood trees.
00:40:34This part of California looks really different.
00:40:38And it's like in the middle of nowhere.
00:40:41These kind of places reminds me horror movies.
00:40:47It reminds me of the horror movies that I really like and he hates.
00:40:51It's always like quiet place and like nature in the middle of nowhere and like something
00:40:56that will happen.
00:40:58Like the animals are dying and what's happening.
00:41:01And they get something for the day view.
00:41:03People just like get out of the big city to the relaxed moment.
00:41:11But in the relaxed moment, it's like not that.
00:41:13Someone who's the arm or the leg and cannot run anymore.
00:41:19Always a pretty girl gets it.
00:41:20I have been looking forward for this moment to meet Sean's mom for so long.
00:41:50Since the beginning of the relationship, she was being always supportive and she respects
00:41:55me and the person that I am.
00:41:57And I just feel embraced by her.
00:41:59It's like she's like a mom for me.
00:42:07Hola.
00:42:08Oh my God.
00:42:10Look at you.
00:42:14Hi.
00:42:15Hi.
00:42:21This is really you.
00:42:28This is really you.
00:42:29It's me.
00:42:29I mean, let me, let me do this.
00:42:31Oh, it's beautiful.
00:42:33Look at her.
00:42:35It's very special.
00:42:36We are in contact for so long and talking and she always understands me.
00:42:41And we talk about you.
00:42:43What?
00:42:44How dare you.
00:42:45Yeah.
00:42:45I'm right back.
00:42:46I know a lot of things she told me.
00:42:51I want to welcome you to my home.
00:42:54And I know that you want to meet Wookie because we've talked about him so long.
00:42:58Oh my God.
00:42:59Here.
00:43:00Come see Wookie.
00:43:03There's your dog.
00:43:04Now you've got a small dog.
00:43:07And you know what?
00:43:09Long time ago we talked about Christmas stuff.
00:43:12It's so nice.
00:43:14Christmas, Christmas everywhere.
00:43:17Shonsman's house has a lot of stuff.
00:43:20And I can notice now how similar your guys, they have the same obsessions.
00:43:27They have collections of coffee cups.
00:43:30Coffee cups.
00:43:31And the monks.
00:43:32And they have the monks.
00:43:34Or my mom has all the Christmas ornaments out.
00:43:36Now you can have my vision of too much stuff.
00:43:39You understand what I'm saying.
00:43:40Well, I think my mom has too much stuff.
00:43:42So I'll agree with you that my mom has too much stuff.
00:43:44So you get the view.
00:43:45And it's the view that I have.
00:43:47Because I have like a fourth of what my mom has.
00:43:53And how are things going?
00:43:55You haven't been living together for that long a period of time.
00:44:00I call it our honeymoon period.
00:44:03I ask her about Moody.
00:44:05She's Moody in the morning.
00:44:07I'm Moody in the evening.
00:44:08Yeah.
00:44:08Yeah.
00:44:10Oh my God.
00:44:11I'm here.
00:44:11I am talking to you all night.
00:44:13And tomorrow it's a huge day.
00:44:16See everyone.
00:44:17Yeah.
00:44:18Oh, all these people that.
00:44:20Do you think they like me?
00:44:21No.
00:44:22Do I think they'll like you?
00:44:23Yeah.
00:44:24What's there not to like?
00:44:25Oh, I did write something.
00:44:33I have a gift for you.
00:44:34Not a gift.
00:44:36For me?
00:44:36Do you have the keys?
00:44:38Yeah.
00:44:39I get it.
00:44:40And I need to be back.
00:44:41Oh.
00:44:42Maxwell thinks you're leaving.
00:44:46Sean.
00:44:46Are you nervous about tomorrow?
00:44:50I'm not nervous.
00:44:51I'm just, you know, part of me, the reason I don't think I really talk to people is because
00:44:55I don't want to hear their concerns because they're not telling me anything.
00:45:02That you don't know?
00:45:02That I don't even, you know, rolled over a million times.
00:45:06I just, I found myself with a few friends in LA when I told them I got these weird comments
00:45:14and just about the whole transgender thing and their feelings about it.
00:45:19And it just made me like really shift my feeling about who I thought these people were.
00:45:25You know, like they were so, had such strong opinions about it.
00:45:31So I'd rather keep it in some bubble that I don't have to deal with.
00:45:37I have never cared what you've done your whole life as long as you're happy.
00:45:42And if you tell me you're happy, then that's all that matters.
00:45:50Are you 100% happy?
00:45:53Like, no, of course not.
00:45:55Like, who's 100% happy?
00:45:57Like, I'm not expecting 100, but I don't want to be 60.
00:46:05I think my bigger issues are questions.
00:46:08And the hardest part of all of it is, you know, we've got the magical 90 days, which 60 days are up.
00:46:16And I don't know if I can get those answers in 30 days.
00:46:21I'm hoping that the party's going to go great and everything's going to be well.
00:46:27But I have a lot of unanswered questions when it comes to me and Aaliyah's relationship in the future.
00:46:35And if we should even have a future.
00:46:38So to open it up to the friends, the family, it is daunting for me.
00:46:45I'm not looking forward to it, but I've helped it out as long as I can.
00:46:57If I told you that your significant other said that she doesn't love you, what would you do?
00:47:04She doesn't love you as much.
00:47:06A polyamorous relationship is understanding the balance and when it's not balanced.
00:47:11I mean, it's just my seeing the signs that our relationship isn't balanced.
00:47:15Remember the good days, Mike.
00:47:17How do you switch on me like that?
00:47:19Okay.
00:47:19How are you listening?
00:47:20Oh, combines it in mass.
00:47:23And how are you hurting?
00:47:27Yeah, okay.
00:47:28Oh my God.
00:47:35Oh, my God.
00:47:38Oh, my God.
00:47:39How are youушلف things?
00:47:40Oh, my God.
00:47:47Oh, my God.
00:47:47Oh, my God.
00:47:48Oh, my God.
00:47:48I woke up seeing Matt on the phone.
00:48:09I'm thinking he's talking about me and his friend.
00:48:11He's talking about me and Ali and his friend.
00:48:12Like, I wish he would talk to me.
00:48:15It was hard to wake up and not finding him in the bed.
00:48:18I don't think he's upset about Ani saying what she's saying.
00:48:21I think he's upset about me taking this long to say something about what Ani said.
00:48:25Hi.
00:48:35Hi.
00:48:36How's she?
00:48:38I'm sorry in the morning, like you weren't in bed.
00:48:45I can't.
00:48:46I can't.
00:48:47I can't.
00:48:48I can't.
00:48:49I can't.
00:48:50I can't.
00:48:51I can't.
00:48:52I can't.
00:48:53I can't.
00:48:55I can't.
00:48:56I can't.
00:48:57I can't.
00:48:58I can't.
00:48:59I can't.
00:49:00I can't.
00:49:01I can't.
00:49:02I can't.
00:49:03I can't.
00:49:04I can't.
00:49:05I can't.
00:49:06I can't.
00:49:07I can't.
00:49:08I can't.
00:49:09I can't accept how that went down.
00:49:11Do you understand why?
00:49:12Like, if I told you that your significant other said that she doesn't love you, what
00:49:28would you do?
00:49:29She doesn't love you as much.
00:49:30Do not see that the relationship is further with you and her, right?
00:49:31Because we're just very similar together, I guess.
00:49:32I told you we would bond easier.
00:49:33Okay, okay, okay.
00:49:34My point exactly.
00:49:35Now that you bonded with her, try to bring me in.
00:49:36Don't try to push me out.
00:49:37Amini is definitely blinded by her feelings for Ani.
00:49:40A polyamorous relationship is understanding the balance and when it's not balanced.
00:49:47Amini is just not seeing the signs that our relationship isn't balanced.
00:49:53We need to understand, like, really what's going on in her heart.
00:49:58I don't have access to it.
00:50:00You seem to have a little more.
00:50:02Help me.
00:50:03She told us many times, like, I want to make this work.
00:50:06I want to go to Guadalajara.
00:50:07I want to be part of my family.
00:50:08I want to go to Guadalajara.
00:50:09I want to be part of my family.
00:50:10I don't care.
00:50:11I'm not.
00:50:12I'm not.
00:50:13I'm not.
00:50:14I'm not.
00:50:15I'm not.
00:50:16I'm not.
00:50:17I'm not.
00:50:18I'm not.
00:50:19I'm not.
00:50:20I'm not.
00:50:21go to gualajara i want to be part of this remember the good days matt you kind of remember the good
00:50:26days do you we were looking up k1 visas we were talking to lawyers how do you switch on me like
00:50:33that i'm here to try to say that i am still in this but i need some help because it's not developing
00:50:44you haven't said that to her and you're still in here i'm coming to you because i have that bond
00:50:49with you and i am trying to develop that bond with her i give her the most important thing in my life
00:50:57i open up my family to her that is the most important thing in my life
00:51:09i have to dismantle a family structure that i've built for 10 years
00:51:14get a divorce and i'm not sure if annie understands the things that i've done for her or the things
00:51:22that i'm doing for her but those are the things that i show my love you know like i wouldn't be
00:51:27doing this all of this because i didn't care about her there's no relationship without you in it
00:51:42i love you baby i love you
00:51:45i don't want to feel like you're keeping something like that i need to know that you have my back in
00:51:55this always always i'm asking for your help to get free to
00:52:10on this side this is the buffet area and this is open bar all night open bar all night
00:52:15watches is everything and i'm just so tired of this i really am you only do this once in a lifetime
00:52:23everything is very beautiful here yeah but
00:52:29here they come
00:52:30finally your hands are full
00:52:35most of my relationships have been with men until now so there was already like what what
00:52:42she's had a very short open gay life
00:52:45being married in that situation is it really the best thing for you at this point if i really let all
00:52:51all the doubts creep in i think i could get cold feet
00:53:07where are you driving yes okay we want to trust
00:53:11i don't think we're prepared enough to have it in the house and the weather permitting too that's
00:53:38another factor so i think we'd be more beneficial all around to have it in a venue i like a good
00:53:46wedding like everything going perfect but us having the wedding at home it would have really saved us money
00:53:54yeah i think it's very nice i think you can do everything for you cooking cleaning up
00:54:02serve the liquor you know from soup to nuts
00:54:08i feel a little tension on the way to the venue my mom she really sincerely wants us to have a good
00:54:14day and and i trust her in that but um budget is everything especially with everything that's
00:54:19going on right now here we are this is the venue and i'm just so tired of this i really am i'm just
00:54:26ready to party i'm afraid to get wasted thank you ladies first ladies
00:54:35nice fire please it's nice tiles hello how are you how are you how are you
00:54:41nice to meet you lucille lucille joan and gregory how are you doing how's it going
00:54:46i want to meet you a happily love you lovely couple welcome to marconi mana
00:54:51very nice it is yep it's one of the i think uh nicer venues not because i work here we do an
00:55:00awful lot of the weddings this is a bar right here this is the bar here this is the bar right
00:55:06nice that's what i'm talking about it's long big and this is open bar all night open bar all night
00:55:11yes it is people don't have to be pressured you know get that last drink that's right
00:55:16close close that's right that's right so imagine we were in uganda we got married at marconi manor
00:55:21where would we put the cows in the parking parking lot
00:55:28the groom also bought cows so the cows are in the parking
00:55:34if you want to confirm some people go and say oh oh my god there's 10 cows
00:55:39that's crazy we're here on this side this is the buffet area all food is made in-house yeah in-house wow
00:55:46how much is that package you should be able to do it for somewhere around eight thousand nine
00:55:52hundred dollars somewhere in there yeah yeah so why don't you folks just uh look around a little
00:55:59while and i'll be in the office and you can talk yeah so joan you like this idea yes everything is
00:56:07very beautiful here yeah it's just a lot of money hey i really need this job excuse my language but i really
00:56:14need people pay well for this for a wedding
00:56:19i want you to enjoy and you know i want a little fanciness you know and of course and
00:56:23you only do this once in a lifetime it's a lot of money mom you know i'm saying uh i don't know
00:56:30you think you could pitch in maybe just a thousand dollars yeah then your father and i will pay the rest
00:56:36and you don't have to worry about anything you're just walking and look beautiful
00:56:45we really appreciate everything you guys do for us but we are becoming a burden like you know
00:56:53i'm very grateful for these things i am it's amazing you know it's important it's you know
00:57:08it's a big burden on her my mom does work quite often you know you see how much she works just for
00:57:23the little money that she has or whatever and for her to help us out it's huge i'll always be like
00:57:40thankful and grateful for her every day i know you show your appreciation every day you know
00:57:46i'm getting emotional here no you do joan you're always helping out and you know and that's what
00:57:54families do they give you know they give back so we're very appreciative we love you mom
00:58:02i'm a mom and moms always look out for their sons and making sure that you know everything's just right
00:58:07for them and i want him to have a special day and i want joan to enjoy herself as well yeah sorry
00:58:15mom i'm sorry to make you cry i didn't cry just kid up a little bit no it's fine
00:58:31so hypothetically if i was say a fiance that was waiting for a fiance to be ready for an engagement
00:58:42party that's hardy that's already started how long do you think that said person would take to finish
00:58:49their makeup i'm like andy here but i don't want to rush okay love you
00:58:56so we're getting ready for our engagement slash mean greet party i think it will be irritating that
00:59:16they have to wait so long for us uh it takes a long time to get a certain someone together but i'm not
00:59:21naming names i mean it harkens back to like another time for me that's where it's like
00:59:28weird the wife getting ready and doing all the things but then i've been free of it
00:59:34for a lot of years and now i'm back to square one i think perfection take time
00:59:44love yeah i'm done i'm done but i need help with your dress of course it's a big deal what's about to
00:59:53happen with this party all right shoes jacket hair touch up and then we're out it's kind of like a
01:00:01literal coming out party so um gender reveal coming out all those good things all together all at once
01:00:09i think they know they're meeting alia but i'm not sure they know what that means
01:00:21like i've told some of them that there's somebody in my life i want them to meet
01:00:27not specifically any gender or anything i got all these so i think there's going to be people that are
01:00:35going to push back you know just the way people are come on big beast oh the feathers are flying
01:00:45that's where they should be
01:00:46you know i have cranberry in here oh good cranberry in what
01:00:56well you know you can't taste the vodka
01:01:02oh no
01:01:04yeah oh here they come they're here they're here
01:01:09the star
01:01:10oh
01:01:24oh my god they were really really late don't get me started
01:01:33but everybody's happy for him
01:01:40hi this is my daughter actual relative blood this is my baby kayla
01:01:54hey one question pronouns what pronouns do you prefer
01:01:57she and her she and her yeah okay great she's going on every count
01:02:02i want you to meet my son austin yeah he's playing hard to get which is normal
01:02:12austin patrick coming for you can't avoid me
01:02:17you can try
01:02:26so nice to meet you thank you
01:02:32how's it going
01:02:34it's good to be here now i'm meeting with emily
01:02:38sean's always talking about you guys yeah it's so awesome
01:02:41i know that sean is distant from some of his family and friends and even his kids
01:02:52when did you guys get here together no no here yes
01:02:57that's right
01:02:59i think they were surprised and but at the same time this looks like happy to like meet
01:03:05meet me i have like my mom by my side but i have like part of my family that they don't accept me
01:03:14so means a lot for me that all sean's friends family are being so warm and acceptable
01:03:24how long are you guys here i think we're here for a couple of days and then we'll have to go back
01:03:29and then we're on the 90 day visa so we have 90 days to either get hitched or send her back to brazil
01:03:41a beautiful way to flip it now it's so poetic
01:03:46i know it's a lot to ask the family to wrap their head around not only engagement but there will be a
01:03:53a wedding in short order here's to a healthy and happy journey thank you so much
01:04:01and obviously most of my relationships happen with men until now so there was already some you know
01:04:10sort of like what what so sean i have a question i'm gone oh here it comes i mean you know we got
01:04:19invited this is beautiful here we're all friends we all love you but how come we haven't heard about
01:04:26this beautiful creature before
01:04:32anybody that really knows me well knows this about me like
01:04:35who's ever in front of my face in real life gets the attention all the attention and all the
01:04:42information and so somebody is like not in that space like randomly i'm not like telling everybody
01:04:49oh this is this this is this and i'm not even like you know how everybody's like into the texting like
01:04:54seems so weird to me like you know here's my text i'm engaged i met somebody i'm in brazil i mean
01:05:00it just seems so randomly you're a great texter you have a great texter in what way like it seems
01:05:11hard to disclose your life in like a word or less for sean to come out of the blue and bring his new
01:05:20fiancee this young bride was a surprise to us surprise to me so you're here on a 90-day fiance visa so how
01:05:29soon is your wedding about a month away she's got 60 days down maybe immigration will come and
01:05:39take her away i don't know
01:05:43there's just something about that older youth combination which i don't quite understand
01:05:48and i think his children are kind of upset about it but it's always sean will stick to what he wants and
01:05:54uh that's that's sean i'm so happy for you i don't know what to say but i'm a little concerned
01:06:02she's so young she hasn't had a career she has anything behind you you have everything behind you
01:06:06what is so your point is what with the years she's young she's had a very short open gay life
01:06:16she's still exploring that and now she's a woman and she's exploring that that's just so many new
01:06:24things and and to be married in that situation is it really the best thing for her and and is that
01:06:33really the best thing for you too i think for her it's best that i am around and am involved in her
01:06:43life because i seem to be able to roll with the changes now it could be a point where i can't or
01:06:52don't or won't well sean a marriage is till death do you part you know it has this thing of forever
01:06:57it'll be like 10 years which is longer than most of my relationships at this point i just have to
01:07:06have the trust that things work out because if i really let all the doubts creep in and all the
01:07:13things that could go wrong and might happen then of course i think it could get cold feet and not
01:07:19want to continue i'm not looking for something that's going to burn out like i'm looking for
01:07:25something that's going to last if there was more time i would be taking more time but there's not
01:07:30so i have to just trust in my basic instinct that we are going to be okay
01:07:38at the end of the day the one thing i know i can count on is that it's change is going to be part of
01:07:43our deal and part of our life and i don't know like how much changes i can take i'm rolling with the
01:07:50patches now so there are concerns but you know we'll have to see how it goes
01:07:55just the other day he was being such an asshole and it was different like at his place when we
01:08:10were fighting because i could leave and here i can't leave my place i just went to book a flight and i
01:08:23choose my the seats the dates everything how do you feel babe leaving your hometown we accomplished what
01:08:44we came here to do and yeah i think it's been a good amount of time what do you think i love this
01:08:51place you know i'm so compatible you're so adaptable oh like asia
01:09:08basically i think that with my sisters it's just kind of a wait and see thing at this point because
01:09:18you did say so many good things but they don't care so much about like all the things you're saying
01:09:25they care more about your actions and what you end up doing so it's just gonna take time they need
01:09:32to see me consistently happy never like devastated by you or upset i understand everything but we don't
01:09:41have years we have to 90 days to decide what we will do so i wish it would be faster
01:09:49but we cannot do anything you know my sisters brought up a lot of good points and you know those
01:09:54points are kind of lingering in my mind because they're things that i've thought of before too
01:09:59like sarper can be a little bit reactive and he can be a little bit controlling and we are not even
01:10:05halfway through these 90 days and i'm wanting to see if sarper can maintain these changes that he's made
01:10:12people use that it's cute we love a good costume a lot of people can change for a day or a week or
01:10:18however long they need in order to get something and then they fall back into their old ways so it's
01:10:23really important for me to see if you know it sticks how come i have the big suitcase you have
01:10:28a small one i'm a tough montana girl that's why why montana
01:10:34what is your problem it's your face my face
01:10:51i just came home from working all day and i cooked you a meal and you just
01:11:11say you you say you you say to me and now you're leaving okay
01:11:27everything up
01:11:35because we have an argument she sent me but i said i won't let you drive my car
01:11:41i am hard to live it it is hard to live with my dogs i didn't say such a thing i feel myself useless
01:11:48everything piled up that depression and i said it's enough that's all i just go downstairs don't
01:11:57talk with her let the time solve something and this is where we are right now we are not talking
01:12:03two strangers in the same house
01:12:18sarper and i are just not even speaking right now he's sleeping on the couch and it's so tense it's so
01:12:26awkward things since montana were fine like we came back and everything was good he was
01:12:35adjusting more to la life i took him to some parties in la he loved them it was just the other day
01:12:42that everything changed he was in a bad mood he was treating me like he was being such an
01:12:49asshole it's like i have made such huge adjustments for him to live here like there's no room in my closet
01:12:55for my clothes like i have all of his stuff hung up and the whole thing with me packing right now
01:13:01is i'm planning to move my workspace out of here so that we can just live here like i'm making big
01:13:07adjustments to fit him into my life here and i just feel like he doesn't even appreciate it
01:13:16and it was different like at his place when we were fighting because i could leave
01:13:19and here i can't leave my place like this is my place i'm not just gonna leave
01:13:33my place like this with me and i'm not just gonna leave her house like this is my place
01:13:40what do you think is it's my place like this is my place it's my place like this is my place
01:13:46what is it's my place please i don't like to have a place here i'm out of here
01:13:50where i am i can't wait for you to be younger than me i've been here
01:13:56Of course, it was a little bit of me, but it was a shame for me, in a way of saying it.
01:14:15Yesterday, I just went to my computer to book a flight.
01:14:19I chose my seat, the date, everything, just one button.
01:14:25And I thought, Sarkur, don't be impulsive.
01:14:28Because if you do it, there is no turning back.
01:14:55It can not continue like this.
01:15:02The next conversation that I will do with her has to be we are okay, but we are changing or it's over.
01:15:17If I go back to my country, I will burn everything.
01:15:20I will never remember if there is Shikai nor not.
01:15:21I promise to myself this.
01:15:22It's up there.
01:15:23You should have told me.
01:15:24I've already done it.
01:15:25What do you want me to do about it?
01:15:26I can't get back in time.
01:15:27I can't get back in time.
01:15:28I really hate it when something is so okay for her, but it's not okay for me.
01:15:29I can't get back in time.
01:15:30I can't get back in time.
01:15:31I can't get back in time.
01:15:32I can't get back in time.
01:15:33You should have told me.
01:15:35I will never remember if there's Shikai or not.
01:15:38I promise to myself this.
01:15:42It's up there.
01:15:48You should have told me.
01:15:50I've already done it. What do you want me to do about it? I can't get back in time.
01:15:53I really hate it when something is so okay for her, but it's not okay for me.
01:15:58You have never made me sure about you not being interested in the same sex.
01:16:04I'm not talking about this.
01:16:16All right. Well, I guess we're going to head out because it's starting to get dark.
01:16:19But thanks for coming.
01:16:21Yeah, it was really nice to meet you.
01:16:23Yeah, same here.
01:16:24So if you've got any questions while you're planning, I'm guessing you're the one kind of planning a lot of fun.
01:16:37I'm going to come in and do her day off.
01:16:38She's just my best. She said she'll help me with whatever.
01:16:40While we're at the wedding venue, Nani realizes that I painted Claire nude.
01:16:48I can honestly immediately tell that he's not okay.
01:16:52And I'm trying to kind of de-escalate whatever thoughts that he's having,
01:16:57but also protect my friend because she didn't do anything wrong.
01:17:01If you have any questions, call me.
01:17:04Absolutely. I will.
01:17:06Thank you so much.
01:17:07You're so welcome.
01:17:09Okay, we're going to head out.
01:17:13It is so awkward.
01:17:15It makes me wonder if there will be a situation in the future where Maddie feels like he needs to tell Stevie,
01:17:21like, oh, you don't need to dress that way, or you need to cover up more, or something like that.
01:17:27And I just, you know, I just worry about that.
01:17:33Anyway, you pull a shot.
01:17:41Are you mad?
01:17:42I don't know.
01:17:44Should I be?
01:17:44No.
01:17:46It shouldn't be.
01:17:48Don't you think you have hidden something from me?
01:17:51No, because I didn't feel like I was hiding anything.
01:17:53If it's bad, then I would, if I thought it was bad, I would have told you.
01:17:58So you don't think it was bad?
01:18:00No.
01:18:02I don't think that I've given Maddie any reason to be upset with me right now.
01:18:06So I'm really caught off guard by the way that he's acting because he's questioning who I am as a person.
01:18:12And I don't think that I've given him any reason to do that.
01:18:16I paint stuff like this all the time, so it's no different than what I normally would do.
01:18:21Which made it super awkward in front of Clara, and that's the first time she was meeting you.
01:18:25You called me off guard.
01:18:26I understand that, but I didn't expect it to catch you off guard.
01:18:30Had I expected it, don't you think I would have told you before you met her?
01:18:32So then you don't know me enough.
01:18:37Maddie.
01:18:38You should have told me.
01:18:40I've already done it.
01:18:41What do you want me to do about it?
01:18:41I can't get back in time.
01:18:45It's different than what you're used to, but it's normal for me.
01:18:48If I thought it was bad, I would have already told you about it.
01:18:50Don't keep secrets from you and hide things behind your back.
01:18:52Right now, I'm just thinking that, one, she has kept a secret.
01:18:58She can do it again, and she will do it again.
01:19:01And two is, I want her to be honest because being bisexual is not okay in my culture.
01:19:07And it's not only about my culture, it's about my brain also.
01:19:10I'm really worried about, what if after our marriage, she says something like, I want something else.
01:19:17I want something that you cannot give me.
01:19:20You have never told me you would do it in person.
01:19:23You told me, you were like, they just send me pictures and I would paint them.
01:19:27What is the difference if someone sends me a picture and I paint them and I still see their picture
01:19:32versus I see them there and I paint them?
01:19:35I mean, I would think cross and line would be me painting a guy, and I don't do that.
01:19:41One, because I don't want to and I have respect for you.
01:19:43I don't do that, and I wouldn't do that.
01:19:46But you have never made me sure about you not being interested in the same sex.
01:19:53Oh my gosh, I'm not talking about this.
01:19:56This is ridiculous.
01:19:57I'm in a relationship with you and you just keep bringing it up.
01:20:00Stop.
01:20:01Stop it.
01:20:01My problem is, you always give me a vague answer.
01:20:07Okay, well that's your problem, that you can't take the answer that I'm giving you, not my problem.
01:20:11You just said my problem is, that's your problem, not my problem.
01:20:13That you're not listening to me.
01:20:14That's not a big deal.
01:20:15So you're not going to say yes or no?
01:20:18No what?
01:20:19No, that you're not interested in girls.
01:20:22Yeah, no.
01:20:24Does that make you feel better?
01:20:27I don't get it.
01:20:27I'm not having this conversation anymore.
01:20:30I'm cold and I'm ready to get in the car and I think you're overreacting.
01:20:33I'm going to the car.
01:20:34Okay, well I'm going to the car.
01:20:35I really hate it when something is so okay for her, but it's not okay for me.
01:20:44Like, it's totally not okay for me.
01:20:46I want to know before my wedding, before our wedding, that what type of person I'm getting
01:21:02married to.
01:21:03If we don't come to a conclusion or if I just keep getting the vague answer as the previous
01:21:09times, I think we need to postpone the wedding.
01:21:13Are we dying?
01:21:14Next time on Night's Day, Beyoncé, somebody beeps at you, but I'm walking here.
01:21:29I'm walking for you.
01:21:30Forget about it.
01:21:32Forget about it.
01:21:35I'm really excited to show you New York City.
01:21:38This is cool.
01:21:40Come on, yeah.
01:21:41Should I be spending money?
01:21:42No.
01:21:42But you know what, man?
01:21:43It's here in your city.
01:21:45Okay.
01:21:46I will go the extra mile and make her feel good about our situation.
01:21:50I don't want you to go back to Uganda.
01:21:54I know that we have not had what you and Amity have yet.
01:21:58I need to be with you.
01:22:01I have my husband on a date with another woman that I planned for.
01:22:06I just wish I could use to do another contract on the boat and say, Bob, I'm sure Jessica will
01:22:22be like kind of sad.
01:22:24But I also know that I'm miserable here.
01:22:26I think she'll be upset if you're even thinking about it.
01:22:31I just have some questions about the bottom surgery.
01:22:35The bottom surgery?
01:22:35Yeah, for genital surgery.
01:22:36Uh-huh.
01:22:38If that's where we're going, you should tell me that now.
01:22:42Have you all talked about surgery before coming here?
01:22:44I stay home alone.
01:22:52I lost my friend.
01:22:53I lost my job.
01:22:54I lost everything.
01:22:56Don't you cry?
01:22:57Precisely, you are in.
01:22:59As a woman, you are counting on him.
01:23:03And there are no guarantees.
01:23:04I don't have a clue how she will react to it.
01:23:14If we break up, you will cry for years for me.
01:23:18I don't even know if I want to get married.
01:23:20What?
01:23:21What?