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00:00I would love to have a cake smash in my face right now.
00:02Of course, like a fantasy.
00:04I have it every day.
00:08Listener, Jesse.
00:12I think it's J-E-S-S-E.
00:16I'm guessing it's a female Jesse.
00:19Jesse sends me a link to one of those Dear Prudence columns, which, you know.
00:24Still around?
00:25Yeah, you know, it's the advice column.
00:27I enjoy those ones in a while.
00:28It's a good topic.
00:30Every once in a while.
00:30But you always want, is this real or just, is Dear Prudence like three people in a cubicle
00:36that are just making crap up?
00:38It's like TikTok before TikTok, Dear Prudence.
00:42Three people in a room making crap up like a morning show.
00:44Right.
00:44So the Dear Prudence thing is, I think it's part of the Slate website.
00:48But they sent me this and it's like, MJ, what do you think?
00:50And I'm like, ooh, this is a good story, so I'm going to do it.
00:52This woman is divorcing her husband or having the marriage annulled because of this.
01:01And, folks, this is a brand new marriage.
01:06The woman got married, allegedly, just before Christmas.
01:12So it's a pretty fresh story.
01:13And she says that she's hoping to be divorced or have the marriage annulled by the end of
01:21January.
01:23I said, what the hell happened?
01:23You just got married before Christmas.
01:25Now you want the marriage annulled or you want a divorce before the end of this month?
01:30Within, what, two weeks?
01:31She says that I never really cared about getting married.
01:35I wasn't opposed to it.
01:36So when my boyfriend proposed in 2020, we decided to go for it.
01:39We each took on about half the responsibility of putting the wedding together.
01:43Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
01:45She said that she was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted to do something.
01:49But she said that the only hard and fast rule was this.
01:58Do not do this.
02:02What?
02:02God.
02:04She did not want to have wedding cake rubbed in her face.
02:12Okay.
02:14That was it.
02:15She did not want, at the wedding, did not want the wedding cake, you know, the bride eats
02:20the cake, the bride eats the cake, the groom eats, you know.
02:22I didn't think I did that.
02:23That's kind of cheesy.
02:24Yeah, I think.
02:25I mean.
02:25I think we did it.
02:27You dork.
02:28Yeah.
02:29Cheeseball.
02:30But it was all the rage in the mid-90s when you got married.
02:34She said, the only thing that I demand is that you do not rub cake in my face at the
02:40reception.
02:42And apparently that was the agreement.
02:45But guess what?
02:46At the reception, he smashed it.
02:48You know what, guys?
02:49I'm just going to do it.
02:50It'll be funny, right?
02:50Listen to this.
02:52Probably that was a conversation that he probably had with his groomsmen.
02:54I'm just going to do it.
02:55Yeah, exactly.
02:56All right, huddle up.
02:57Groom crew, come on in.
02:58Team meeting.
02:59Team meeting, guys.
03:00All right.
03:00At the reception, she says that he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head
03:06down into the entire cake.
03:09Oh, that's even worse.
03:10Yeah.
03:11Worse than just a slice being smacked into your face.
03:13She says that it was planned, that this was obviously planned, and they intended to destroy
03:23the cake, which it was.
03:24The cake was destroyed, apparently, because they had a bunch of cupcakes as a backup.
03:30All right.
03:30Oh, okay.
03:30Well...
03:31The next day...
03:32Sounds like she's a stiff board.
03:34The next day, she said to him, we're done.
03:40Oh, come on.
03:41She says, I'm standing by that.
03:43And she says, the thing is that over the holidays, everyone has gotten together to
03:48say, oh, give him a second chance, that she's overreacting because of...
03:55I'm not just intolerant.
03:56She's got some issues.
03:57Apparently, she's very claustrophobic after a car accident.
04:00Yes, she doesn't want to be surrounded by cake in her face.
04:02And she panicked after being shoved into the cake and held there.
04:05Oh, so she was shoved and held, apparently.
04:08It reminds me of the airbag when it hit me in the face.
04:11Except it didn't have icing on it.
04:13I don't know about this.
04:14She says that I love him, even though right now I don't feel like that at all.
04:19But he loves me.
04:21Asking for advice on what should she do.
04:24I don't want to.
04:25But everyone is so united and confident in their assurance that I'm making a terrible
04:29mistake by ending the marriage this quickly.
04:31They're saying, come on, just give it a second chance.
04:34And then, you know, the answer...
04:35You know, I want to go to phones on this.
04:36Folks, what are your thoughts on this?
04:38Let's go to the face shoved in cake lines right now at 800-990-1047.
04:48You just heard the story.
04:50What are your thoughts?
04:51The woman said to her husband-to-be, only thing I ask, do not smear cake in my face.
04:59And then it goes beyond that and her whole head is shoved in the cake.
05:03Do you think that she ought to just end it?
05:06Do you think that this was a total violation and a breach?
05:10What should happen here?
05:12What are your thoughts?
05:13Weigh in.
05:13Hey, maybe we have listeners that have their very own cake-shoving wedding stories as well.
05:19I'd like to hear from our listeners right now on what is your advice, what is your reaction
05:26to this, 800-990-1047, 800-990-1047.
05:35There's a couple different sides to this.
05:38Oh, man.
05:39I mean, is she being a little petty?
05:42Maybe.
05:43But she did only ask one thing of him.
05:45One thing.
05:47Don't put my head in the cake.
05:48Yeah, that's the point.
05:49So, I mean, is that such an egregious violation that it is unforgivable, that's what you are?
05:59What do you think?
06:02There is quite a few videos on YouTube of brides and grooms getting in fights because of the
06:07cake smash.
06:08Oh, I bet that's the thing.
06:09I bet there are a ton of videos of the wedding cake smash.
06:11I mean, I'm just watching a woman punch her new husband in the face.
06:16After she got the cake smear?
06:17After the cake.
06:18All right, let's go to Falls.
06:19Look, every line is jammed here.
06:20What happens?
06:21Keep trying.
06:22If you're getting a busy signal, and if you've got a great story and you're getting a busy
06:25signal right now, just keep trying.
06:27So, you know, when I get rid of a call, just try to sneak in.
06:30800-990-1047.
06:33Let's grab Jennifer and Clearwater up first on this.
06:37Hi, Jen.
06:37Welcome to the MJ Morning Show.
06:40Good morning.
06:42What do you think?
06:44I think she's so overreacting.
06:47For my sister's wedding, they planned ahead of time, not that we knew.
06:51Instead of shoving it in each other's face, they turned around at the last minute and shoved
06:56it in my face and the best man's face.
06:58Oh.
06:59That's pretty smart.
07:00Yeah, that's choreographed.
07:01Yes.
07:02That was orchestrated.
07:03Are they still married?
07:05Oh, yeah.
07:06See, that's a marriage that works together.
07:07And did you guys think it was funny?
07:09Oh, you too.
07:11Or did you guys get pissed off?
07:13No, it was great.
07:14It was so fun.
07:17Yeah, I would have been pissed.
07:19I would have been like, what are you doing?
07:20I'm the best man.
07:22You don't do that to me.
07:22Look what you've done to my rental tux.
07:24For real.
07:25You have to pay for that.
07:26I'm going to have a special cleaning charge.
07:28You got fondant on my bouffant or whatever the hell they're called.
07:32The folks at Cicinos are going to be pissed.
07:33Hey, you know, I've got a wedding.
07:35My brother's wedding is on freaking Super Bowl Sunday coming up.
07:40Yeah, and they're going to do the cake.
07:41You're going to be right there.
07:42I have to rent a tux.
07:43Oh, my God.
07:44So, seriously.
07:45Who rents tux anymore?
07:47I'm not buying a tux.
07:48What, do you think he has one?
07:49I don't have a tux.
07:50I'm not going to buy a tux.
07:51Who gets married in a tux anymore?
07:54Let me say goodbye to Jen.
07:55Hey, Jen, thanks for the call.
07:56Thanks for listening.
07:57Thanks, Jen.
07:57Thanks for listening, Jen.
07:58Thanks.
07:58Absolutely.
07:59Love it.
08:00Bye, man.
08:00Bye, Jen.
08:00Thanks.
08:01All right.
08:01So, I've got to call my brother because he sent me, like, the things I need to rent and
08:06a special website because they're coordinating all of the tuxes and the dresses.
08:10What?
08:11Who paid?
08:11What?
08:12But there's a missing item, which I've got to find out.
08:14Huh?
08:15Am I going to be the only one showing up without this?
08:17All right.
08:17Hold on.
08:17Let me finish with these calls.
08:19All right.
08:19Lee is in Tampa.
08:21Hey, Lee.
08:21Welcome to the MJ Morning Show.
08:24Hey.
08:24Good morning, guys.
08:25All right.
08:25So, the cake story, the bride says, listen, the one thing I don't want is do not shove
08:32cake in my face at the wedding.
08:34The groom not only shoves cake in her face, actually takes her head and slams her face
08:40into the entire cake.
08:41What are your thoughts?
08:43I definitely think it was, you know, wrong on his part.
08:47But, you know, especially if she had given him, like, you know, clear instructions, like,
08:52hey, this is the one thing I don't want.
08:54And she did.
08:55And made it abundantly.
08:56That's the one thing she said.
08:58But maybe, MJ, think about it.
09:00What if he was wanting a way out?
09:01He's like, I hate her.
09:02I'm going to smash her in the face, and then it's going to be over.
09:05Maybe the guy's a genius.
09:08So, but I mean, I get it.
09:09When my wife and I got married a few years ago, she had given me a very explicit rule
09:14for our wedding, which was during the reception, she didn't want me drinking alcohol at all
09:20during the reception of our wedding.
09:21And why is that?
09:22Do you turn into, like, a Kim Basinger, like, in Blind Date?
09:26What happens?
09:27It can get a little carried away.
09:30You know, and we were flying out from Florida to New York at, like, 7 a.m. the next morning
09:36for our honeymoon.
09:37So, you know, she didn't want me to be hungover and all that stuff.
09:41And, you know, I understood.
09:43And I respected it.
09:44And probably our reception was about four hours.
09:46And I'd say about an hour into it, that whole no alcohol thing kind of went out the window.
09:51Oh, boy.
09:51But I was, you know, I was at least willing to accommodate her and respect her wishes.
09:57All right.
09:57So what is your verdict?
09:58Should this woman seek a divorce now?
10:01I mean, the wedding was just before Christmas.
10:03She is talking about getting divorced or having it annulled before the end of January.
10:08That would mean they'd be married for, what, just over a month.
10:12And he violated, do not shove cake in my face at the reception.
10:17Do you think that warrants divorce?
10:18I'm guessing you say?
10:20I do not.
10:21Okay.
10:22Gotcha.
10:22All right.
10:23Hey, Lee, thanks for the call.
10:24Have a drink, Lee.
10:25Let's grab Sam.
10:26Sam's in Brandon.
10:27Hey, Sam.
10:28Welcome to the MJ Morning Show.
10:29Hey, good morning, MJ.
10:30How you doing?
10:31We are well.
10:32So what do you think about the wedding cake divorce situation?
10:34I think this chick needs to go to this guy and beg for forgiveness.
10:38But if I'm one of his buddies, I'm telling him he needs to run.
10:41She is way too uptight to get married to.
10:43For real.
10:44Sam, that's the other side of this, Sam.
10:46And I understand where you're coming from.
10:48If you just marry somebody and they tell you for a month that they want to leave you, leave you, leave you, leave you, you know what?
10:54Let that one go.
10:55I got to believe that this is just nothing but trouble down the line.
10:59And, you know, I mean.
11:01He's telling him how she's going to be for the rest of their marriage.
11:04She's living in absolutes.
11:06She's going to have ultimatum left and right.
11:08No way.
11:08Yeah.
11:08Hey, good call.
11:09Sam, thank you, buddy.
11:10Appreciate it.
11:11Let's grab Katrina in Sarasota.
11:14Hey, Katrina.
11:15MJ Morning Show, you're on.
11:17Hi.
11:18I think sometimes it's an age thing.
11:21So if they're in their 20s, early 20s, to some degree, I don't think his brain is just working and he's carried away with what society says you're supposed to do.
11:30Like tradition and just got carried away with it.
11:34But what about the fact that she had one request?
11:36Okay, we'll get married, but don't smash the cake in my face.
11:40And he did worse.
11:41He smashed her head into the entire cake and then held it there.
11:45Yeah, I'm not saying I actually agree with what he did.
11:51And yeah, that's really extreme.
11:53And I'm wondering if he really even validates her feelings or her thoughts or is it just you're silly and I'm going to do what I want to do anyway?
12:01I don't know on that part.
12:03But, you know, I think maybe the friends are putting too much comments into it.
12:08But then again, they know him better than anybody.
12:10Yeah.
12:10Listen, everyone's trying to talk her out of this.
12:13But, you know, Katrina, that was really deep.
12:15Talking about validating feelings.
12:17It was very deep.
12:18But I think that this is just, this is just like reading the appetizer section of the marriage menu.
12:24And it's going to get really bad down the road.
12:27All right.
12:27Phones have exploded on this.
12:29Let me grab a couple more.
12:30Then we're going to move on.
12:31Brandon is in Newport Ritchie.
12:32Hey, Brandon.
12:33Welcome to the MJ Morning Show.
12:35Hey, what's up, MJ?
12:37Hey there.
12:37All right.
12:37What are your thoughts?
12:38Hey.
12:39So, like, the whole situation with this wedding cake.
12:43Listen, let's be real here.
12:44I can understand the whole face plant into a wedding cake.
12:48It's the bride's biggest day of her life, right?
12:50Yep.
12:51Imagine all the, like, all the makeup you have to put on.
12:54All that's going to be wiped clean.
12:56Oh, yeah.
12:56And then you're going to, you know, like, what's the point in doing all of that?
12:59Like, I'm getting married on February 6th.
13:03And my fiance is like, dude.
13:05Hold on.
13:06Hold on.
13:06We'll let your cell clear up.
13:08Brandon, are you there?
13:10Yeah.
13:10All right.
13:10You just cleared up.
13:11All right.
13:11So, your fiance said what?
13:13My fiance told me to not put any wedding cake in her face when I get married.
13:17Oh, so she's making that ultimatum as well.
13:20Yeah.
13:21Dude, come on.
13:21That's a.
13:22All right.
13:22So, are you going to abide by her wishes or are you going to say, screw it?
13:27Well, you know, maybe a little bit on the nose, you know.
13:31All right.
13:31Well, listen.
13:32Just heed this story.
13:34Make sure you make a well-informed decision because look at this story here.
13:38Hey, best of luck on your wedding next month.
13:41All right.
13:41Let me just clear out this board here.
13:42But, Koopa, I got to move on.
13:44So, calls are going nuts here.
13:45Erin is in St. Pete.
13:46Hi, Erin.
13:47You're on the MJ Morning Show.
13:49Good morning.
13:50What do you think?
13:51I have real mixed feelings about it.
13:54If it was just a little prank, then that's kind of going overboard.
13:57But if that's the beginning of an abusive relationship, I mean, you said that he slammed her head after grabbing her hair.
14:05You don't want to stay in that.
14:08I'm sure it wasn't aggressive.
14:10I'm sure.
14:11It was into the wedding cake.
14:12I'm sure it was playful.
14:14She's just mad that she didn't.
14:14But, again, it was exponentially worse than what she asked him not to do by just smearing cake like the slice in her face.
14:21He grabbed her by the head and slammed her whole head into the wedding cake.
14:24Right.
14:24Well, if he grabbed her by the head, did he grab her hair and pull it?
14:28Yes, yeah.
14:29Grabbed her by the back of the head, yes, and slammed her right in the cake.
14:32And you said he held her there.
14:34She's already got claustrophobic issues.
14:36Yeah.
14:36That's abusive.
14:37You know, Erin, does it matter what flavor of cake it is?
14:40All right.
14:41Fester, shut up.
14:42All right.
14:42Erin, thanks.
14:43I mean, what if it's like one of those?
14:44If it's buttercream cake, I don't mind.
14:47Like that, man.
14:48Come on.
14:48Yeah.
14:49Erin, thanks for the call.
14:50All right.
14:51Two more, and I've got to move on.
14:52All right.
14:53Two more, and I've got to get the Alec Baldwin story on.
14:56I've got to call my brother, too, because I've got a big problem, potentially.
14:59Greg is in Lakeland.
15:00Greg, you're on the MJ Morning Show.
15:02Hi.
15:03Good morning.
15:05Good morning.
15:06This lady is 100% justified.
15:11110%, easily.
15:12This was a condition for my first marriage.
15:15I said, you smash the cake in my face.
15:17I'm walking out.
15:18Oh, so you.
15:19Matty is.
15:21So, Greg, you said this to your bride.
15:26Yes.
15:27Wow.
15:28You said, you smash the cake in my face.
15:30I'm walking out.
15:33Exactly.
15:34Period.
15:35And that was your.
15:35There was no negotiation.
15:36What are you, a drill sergeant?
15:37Well, that was the first marriage, so apparently.
15:39I'll tell you what.
15:40Period.
15:41End of question.
15:42Greg sounds very authoritative.
15:43He does.
15:44Greg, what do you do for a living?
15:46I actually work for an industrial refrigeration company right now, but I was in the military.
15:51All right.
15:52Got you.
15:52Yeah.
15:52There you go.
15:53All right.
15:53So, tell us the rest.
15:54So, what happened?
15:55So, I mean, she respected that wish because she, it was literally the same thing.
16:01My only condition, I let her have full control, only condition was no smash.
16:07I hate smashed food.
16:09I have, like, a thing with smashed food.
16:11I hate smashed food.
16:13I've got a thing against smashed food.
16:16Never had mashed potatoes, sir?
16:18When my son turned one, I left the room for the smash cake.
16:22Because you couldn't see it.
16:23That's great.
16:24I will not be there.
16:25All right.
16:25It's just.
16:26It's weird.
16:27All right.
16:28So, like, an hour earlier, you committed a lifetime of marriage to this person with
16:32the one condition of, I'm out if you smash cake in my face.
16:37Well, this was arranged before.
16:40All right.
16:40When we were making arrangements.
16:42All right, Greg, can I ask you a final question, Greg?
16:44Did you have some kind of a smash food issue as a kid?
16:47Did something really traumatic happen to you?
16:49Good question.
16:51Not that I can remember.
16:52Gotcha.
16:53It's blocked.
16:54It's blocked.
16:55All right.
16:56Thanks for the call.
16:57Wow.
16:57Thanks for listening, Greg.
16:58All right.
16:59Last call on this.
17:00Then we're going to move on.
17:00The Alec Baldwin story.
17:02All right.
17:03Jamie is in Tampa.
17:04You got the last say on the woman that wants a divorce or an annulment a month after marriage
17:10because she demanded that the hubby not smash cake in her face.
17:15He did it anyway at the reception.
17:17Even worse, smashed her whole head in the cake.
17:19What are your thoughts?
17:22Good morning.
17:22I'm driving, trying to figure out why we're offering the lady advice and not the guy to
17:28head for the heel.
17:31This is insane.
17:32I asked my husband not to do it.
17:34He did it.
17:35Okay.
17:35And I get it.
17:36He smashed her face.
17:37I mean, I get all of that.
17:38But why are we offering her advice instead of him?
17:45That's a great point, Jamie.
17:46He needs to haul the other way.
17:49Go.
17:49I got to be honest.
17:51Her wishes should have been respected.
17:53But I think this is an indication of a real bleep storm.
18:00Well, you married me.
18:01Yeah.
18:02MJ, do you have?
18:03I have a thing that if I do to Kim, she'll divorce me instantly.
18:07And it's sort of like it has to do with mustard.
18:10She always, since we've been dating.
18:12What?
18:12She hates mustard so much.
18:14And I always threaten her.
18:15I say, when you're sleeping, I'm going to pour mustard all over your face.
18:19What?
18:19And she said she'll divorce me.
18:21I know it's different.
18:23I'm just saying.
18:23No, no.
18:24If you called Kim right now and said, if one thing will you divorce Froggy for, she'll
18:29say mustard.
18:30Jamie, how is that different?
18:31It's the same thing.
18:32Are you making this up?
18:34It's totally different.
18:34Are you making this up?
18:35You're making things in the tradition.
18:36No, I'm not.
18:37Completely true.
18:38Are you making this up?
18:39I swear to God, it's no other condiments.
18:42It's only mustard.
18:43So if you were to like pour a bucket of mayonnaise on your wife's face.
18:46That would be bad, but not as bad as mustard.
18:49Hey, Jamie.
18:50Is it Jamie?
18:51Yeah.
18:52Jamie.
18:52Jamie, have a great day.
18:53Okay.
18:54Thanks, guys.
18:55Hey, thanks for listening.
18:56It's not different, Jamie.
18:57It's the same thing.
18:58All right.
18:58You got the MJ Morning Show on Q105.
19:01Do you have something else to add before I move on?
19:02Please.
19:03You guys don't want to know that I would love to have a cake smashed in my face right now.
19:07Of course.
19:08It's like a fantasy.
19:09It's every day.
19:09It's every day.