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00:00Thank you for joining us once again on Manhood,
00:09the conversations that we've been having for quite a few months now,
00:13and we believe it's been rather impacting.
00:15The whole premise has always been talking to everyone,
00:21talking to all young men, men, women, everyone,
00:25about how they're showing up in life.
00:27We're better as brothers.
00:28This is manhood.
00:30So today's topic, we're talking about sexual myths, sexual prowess.
00:35Over the period, we've been very fortunate to talk to many, many young men.
00:40Many women have been blessed to have on the panel to give us a real perspective
00:45as to how we're showing up, the insecurities that we have,
00:51the violence, the cause of violence for many a topic.
00:57You know, we've spoke about domestic violence, mansplaining, toxic masculinity,
01:02masculine energy, can women and men handle the truth, a lot of really solid topics.
01:08But the elephant in the room has always been a lot of the underlying cause, has been sex.
01:13You know, that's the root of a lot of insecurities,
01:17the root of a lot of, you know, violent encounters, issues, divorce.
01:22It's always somehow centered around sex.
01:25So today we want to specifically talk about sexual prowess and sexual myths, more importantly,
01:32like porn, like being a marathon man, you know, going for hours.
01:37You know, the whona man, are you thinking about, are women thinking about the man,
01:40are men thinking about the woman, or a man or woman thinking about a woman,
01:44whatever is your preference.
01:46The fact is, sex is normally the root of most of these issues.
01:51And we need to move on from that and get clarification.
01:55So, Johanse, always a pleasure.
01:58Jamie Artis and Niall, always a pleasure having you on the panel.
02:03And I just want to say to everyone out there,
02:06rated PG, rated R.
02:10We're going to be bleeping out as much as we can.
02:13A little bit between PG, PG-13 and R.
02:15And, yeah, so the topic is the topic.
02:19That's the conversations that everyone's having.
02:22And in order to meet people where they're at, we have to be where they're at.
02:26We have to speak the language where they're at.
02:29Very true.
02:29And we're going to do as much as possible and try as best as possible to keep it...
02:34To toe the line.
02:35To toe the line.
02:36But in toeing the line, we have to talk the things.
02:39Okay.
02:40So, let's get straight into it.
02:41Sexual prowess, sexual myths.
02:44A lot in there, like I said, we want to cover topics of, you know, porn performance,
02:48does size matter, a woman's number, when women tell you things.
02:52Let me start with that, Nala.
02:53Let me start with, does size matter, right?
02:56So, I will say yes.
02:57Let me start what?
02:58Yeah, I say yes.
02:59I will say yes.
02:59Size matter.
03:00And not only the size of the man, but the size of the woman also,
03:05in terms of the channel that he's going into.
03:07Okay.
03:08Because women are different sizes.
03:09So, a man could be, I think, what average is about six inches.
03:12I think that's average.
03:13Six and a half.
03:14Six and a half, right?
03:15I don't know which part of the world that is, but let me just say that it's average.
03:18But women also are different sizes.
03:21So, I think the size matters.
03:24Which no one is talking about.
03:25Nobody is talking about, you know, diving into the vacuum of space.
03:30Right.
03:30Sometimes.
03:31Nala started.
03:32Nala started.
03:32Nala started out the blocks.
03:34But let's bring it back to Kama Sutra.
03:36So, Kama Sutra, part of that belief is, like you said, a deer for a deer, an elephant for an elephant, a horse for a horse.
03:43And that's based on the size of the man versus the size of the woman.
03:46But, as we've seen, even in some, you know, I've heard in watching porn, I've heard about it, that, you know, it's really down to your experience, your moment, you know.
04:01So, you'll see a, it's down to the technique, because regardless of what size you're rocking, male or female, I think that once you have an understanding of the anatomy.
04:16And foreplay.
04:17Well, yeah, foreplay.
04:18Foreplay is important.
04:19Just know that.
04:20I felt like.
04:20Just know she rushing it.
04:21She's not rushing it.
04:22But she rushing it.
04:23Foreplay.
04:24Yes.
04:24Yes.
04:25Foreplay will do.
04:26You're just slam bam.
04:27Thank you, man.
04:27Foreplays actually come from you wanting to have the person to have a good time.
04:31Most times when, and I'll take it, I'll take, men, we do a lot.
04:38Sometimes we just only want to focus on us.
04:41Yes.
04:41Like be real.
04:41Yes.
04:42I've been real.
04:43Yes.
04:43Fellas out there, put a little time into a woman.
04:46Trust me, it will, it will pay off in the end, you know.
04:50But once you understand your anatomy and you actually want to put a little effort in trying to make sure that your partner is having a good time, size does not matter at that point.
04:59Because people always have a good time.
05:01Okay.
05:02Okay.
05:02I hear you with that.
05:04Because if you really care about the person, both male and female together, if you care about the person specifically, as in you not just, you do have a format in your mind that sex is supposed to be this every single time with every single woman or man.
05:16Because you care about what they think, how they feel, even in the center, the room, et cetera, et cetera.
05:21Then size may matter less.
05:24Or size may not matter at all.
05:26I feel that, you know, a woman might like, you know, a Frankfurter, generally, but if you come with a Vienna sausage, but she really love you, it wouldn't matter.
05:38Like, she will still rock with it.
05:39Nah, it won't matter, bro.
05:41Yeah, let me hear.
05:43Nah, we're going and do it with a Vienna sausage.
05:45Love him, unconditionally.
05:49Sorry.
05:49So, let's bring it back to, because what we always try to do on these shows, we try to reach people where they are, right?
06:00And biologically, what you have is what you have, unless you're going for some sort of enhancement.
06:04Women do it.
06:04Women go and get butts.
06:06They get boobs.
06:06They do different things, right?
06:07Men also go and do these.
06:12Or pop a pill, yeah.
06:13Pop a pill or whatever they do, right?
06:15But what it comes down to is, what I'm asking is, men place a lot of emphasis on this size and their whole bravado, you know.
06:23You see men have a certain walk and a certain flex, you know, if they feel that they rock in something.
06:28But is that, does that make it appealing for a woman who's looking for something maybe longer term?
06:34Or ultimately, if you're not a six and a half or a ten or even if you have a four, in that connection, what is really more important to a woman?
06:44And what are we really trying to communicate to men out there who biologically have what they have?
06:49I would say women don't really like the peacocking, you know.
06:53You're walking around and you're like, yeah, my thing big, my thing big.
06:57We don't like that.
06:58But if you're getting to know somebody in the early stages and you're conversing and then, you know, you want to talk about sexual things,
07:06that it happens at a certain point in conversing and courting or whatever, right?
07:12You would want to get a little, you know, a little thing to play with your mind.
07:16Like, let me see how long it is.
07:19You know what I mean?
07:20Show me, show me on this banana or something.
07:22You know, because when you go home to sleep, you want to be like, oh my gosh, when I get it, it's going to feel so bad.
07:28You know what I mean?
07:29So, I, I, the walking around, like, I, I, yeah, yeah.
07:34I don't think that's a thing that women need.
07:38Well, like, in a man.
07:38But I want to bring, because again, I want to make sure, this is a very powerful topic,
07:43and I want to make sure that the context is brought to it.
07:46So, Johansi, where does that, is it, is it the advent more of social media, the advent of maybe porn and so on,
07:52that gets people thinking more along those lines, as opposed to, to, you know, where, where, where is this emphasis, really?
08:01Where does it come from that is placed on your, your genitalia?
08:07Well, that's an interesting question, because you mentioned Kama Sutra before, right?
08:14And so, in, in university, I remember doing an abnormal psychology class, right?
08:20And then recently, I'm also studying forensic psychology, which is dealing with abnormalities, abnormal deviant behavior, et cetera.
08:26And most of these myths, right, myths, myths, are Western society things, eh?
08:34Because the Kama Sutra, in fact, kind of speaks about, it don't matter size and all those things,
08:41it doesn't matter what compatibility, energy, understanding each other.
08:45So, there's no bravado walking around who penis bigger, who tighter, who anything like that.
08:51That's a Western society thing.
08:53So, if, making that delineation from the start, then now, I think, of course, if it's a Western society thing,
09:00then, of course, it would be embedded in different things in the culture.
09:03So, songs we sing in, magazines, porn by extension.
09:08Now, and really, of course, reinforced that way.
09:12And what I've learned, one, from personal experience, and especially from, from being married and being in long-term relationships,
09:18that maybe about 90% of these things that you learn that's supposed to be what sex is supposed to be, really incorrect.
09:27And then, from having couples counseling and talking to couples and friends' relationship, et cetera, a lot of it are mostly myths.
09:35And then, I used to look at, in the abnormal psychology days, I used to look at a lot of interviews with porn stars, right?
09:42Both male and females, and they would tell you, it's myths also.
09:46Because a lot of it, you had to take one, take two, take three, they really don't last that long.
09:51So, another, take two pills in between to stay, to stay hard.
09:55They're fluffer, they have a glue, all these different things that are to make it look like it's a laggy type thing,
10:01to look as if they've experienced, you know, they've done a lot.
10:04The women have to use so much lubrication because they're not to know anymore.
10:07So, what we think is real is really still a performance, and that's not real.
10:14Just to bring this one into context, we come back to, does size matter?
10:19And where it comes from is almost, like you said, an illusion.
10:23It comes down to, is the person having a good time?
10:25Because you have, one of the other parts that we want to discuss here is,
10:28when men, when men think, they know what women are thinking.
10:33And women sometimes vice versa.
10:35But, you know, a man might think, you know, we'll use the term,
10:37I'll mash up that girl last night, boy.
10:39And the woman's probably thinking, no, you know, buddy, you know, I've had,
10:45I've had children, so it really comes down to whether or not I'm enjoying you or not,
10:50as to whether I could accommodate you, right?
10:52And in that perspective, is it, why do men place so much emphasis on wanting to rougher up
11:01and wanting to, you know, do damage and mash up?
11:05Is it really about the connection?
11:07Is it really about that moment?
11:09Or is it something more psychological?
11:12Is what I'm trying to get an understanding of,
11:15as to why we have this almost aggression towards sex.
11:20And is it that porn is really giving us, it's very damaging?
11:25It's psychological, because even the last conversation we had about ego
11:30and the desired effect somebody wants,
11:33if they're not getting the effect they want,
11:35then they would go in a little more aggressive.
11:37We weren't specifically talking about sex, but we were generalizing.
11:41But if we're talking about psyche,
11:43that means it will manifest itself in different aspects of your behavior.
11:47So if it is you grew up seeing porn and a woman's supposed to react a certain way
11:53or based on the performance we see and the woman reacting a certain way,
11:56then there's a schema that will come in your mind.
11:59So if the woman is not reacting that way,
12:01then either you're doing something wrong or she's doing something wrong.
12:04So it's not even about the connection anymore.
12:07It's about recreating a scenario in your mind that you saw that you,
12:11even her, she probably doing the same thing, forcing something.
12:15So I'm talking about more than just the porn.
12:17I'm talking about is it in his psyche that if I go by Jimmy,
12:24and in my mind I'm like, hey, I want to really handle what might be considered my business.
12:31Is it that I'm leaving there not even thinking about so much the moment,
12:35but I am more concerned in what she's left thinking?
12:39Is she thinking I am the best?
12:41I was the best that she had.
12:42You know, like you hear sometimes with the horn, a man,
12:45that the man himself is not even thinking about the woman as he's doing it.
12:50He's thinking about the husband or the boyfriend or something like that.
12:55Like I had to handle this business, so all she has is me on her brain.
13:00So it's almost like you're spreading.
13:01You need to spread.
13:03You're spreading your seed.
13:04You're spreading your mental image.
13:05You want it to be embedded into her brain that you somehow are the king.
13:10But that's egotistical.
13:11That's back to what I was saying earlier with most men that go into situations for themselves.
13:17That's almost like we're m****** with a woman, really and truly, right?
13:22We just want to feel good mentally and physically.
13:26It's all for us.
13:27It's an illusion that we're doing to cloud what we see is happening.
13:33We claim that it is to make the woman feel better because that will make...
13:39But saying that mentally to ourselves is making us feel better in reality.
13:43And it's not about that.
13:45Now, as me being on the coin of being the whanaman already,
13:51it's less about just jamming hard, right?
13:53It's actually...
13:55I actually don't want to punish or bruise at all, right?
14:00I actually want to be comfort because what I realize is that most women
14:04who take the opportunity to step out in a relationship,
14:10they're trying to find solace within you.
14:12They're trying to find a friend, really and truly, right?
14:17And they're looking for...
14:19They're looking for the heights, right?
14:20They still want the jam, right?
14:24But they hone in with their heart instead of their body.
14:29Most women is hone in with their heart instead of their body.
14:33So they want the man...
14:35They still want the rough-up, so to speak,
14:39but they don't want me...
14:41I can't be in my ego with the rough-up.
14:45I have to really be doing it for her.
14:47I disagree with you, you know,
14:50because rough-up doesn't equate ego to me.
14:55Ego is ego in your mind
14:56because you could be smooth as silk and real sensual,
15:01but it's still not about her.
15:02It's still about you making your mark.
15:04It's still about you showing, well,
15:07I'm the best man you ever had,
15:08but you're not thinking about a woman at all now.
15:12So I think it's really the mindset you're coming from.
15:17And so I agree with you that not all men,
15:20some men, and it's because, let me go back,
15:23we have said this before,
15:24a lot of us men walk around with low self-esteem.
15:27Real plenty of us.
15:28Facts.
15:29So therefore, a lot of this could be born out of low self-esteem.
15:33I could even tell you personally,
15:35I remember as a youth coming up,
15:38I reading up books and things
15:39on how to please a woman, all of those things,
15:42but thinking about it,
15:44it wasn't necessarily about her.
15:45It was about me wanting to feel good about myself.
15:49Right?
15:49It was about me.
15:50So when she go and talk to somebody,
15:52or let's say she didn't even talk to somebody,
15:54the reaction I want to get,
15:56that was about me.
15:58Right?
15:58It was only later on when I got a little more mature
16:01in more long-distance relationship
16:03and in marriage and things like that,
16:04I realized then, okay,
16:06that's a whole different mindset.
16:08But it took her even a while,
16:09and I would even say still even knowing her,
16:11because somebody that is still creeping,
16:13now re-evaluating,
16:15it's really not about me,
16:17it's about us.
16:18Yeah.
16:19When she's talking to her girlfriends,
16:21you want her to be saying,
16:21hey, that man is a man.
16:24And again,
16:25I like how we put this into context,
16:28because we need to take a short break.
16:30But the context is,
16:32the people that are going around with low self-esteem,
16:34are we acting like that?
16:36Is it coming from a place of low self-esteem
16:38where we want to make our mark?
16:40Is that really where we want to be making our mark?
16:43The mark is in sexual intercourse?
16:47So what we really want to come back and talk about now then
16:51is we're going from another area of low self-esteem
16:55or importance to a man,
16:56apart from does size matter in reference to a woman,
16:59does the number a woman has had matter?
17:05Take a short break.
17:18Thank you for staying with us for this conversation.
17:21Again, just a reminder,
17:22it's PG into R.
17:24We're keeping it as censored as possible,
17:27but it's important that we have this conversation
17:29because at the root of many of the issues
17:33that we've spoken about across manhood
17:35and even in general,
17:36always come down to sex
17:37and the many variations and areas
17:39that might be deep-seated around that subject.
17:42So we spoke about low self-esteem
17:45that leads to this need for a man to make his mark,
17:48whatever that is,
17:49and how they then behave
17:52and why they do certain things.
17:53Why do they want to be the horner man?
17:55Why do they want to behave in a certain way in the bedroom?
17:59And as Niall intimated and also vocalized very clearly,
18:05that whole thing about,
18:06is it ultimately about us?
18:09All this self-pleasure,
18:10even when we're with a woman,
18:12are we still about us at that particular point?
18:15You know, you hear men sometimes say,
18:16oh no, I want to make sure that she c*** before I do.
18:20We could say that on, yeah,
18:22I think we could say that, yeah.
18:23But it was said,
18:24so if anything, we have to beat that out.
18:26But that then, bottom line,
18:30still comes back down to the ego
18:31to say, I want her to remember me.
18:34You know, I'm not really that interested
18:36in how much she's pleasured.
18:38It's, I wanted to know that I was the man.
18:40I was the Don Juan de Marco.
18:42Or, I want,
18:44I have a picture of what sex is supposed to be.
18:46So, it means even for her to remember me.
18:49I want to feel good that she reacts a certain way.
18:52Right.
18:52So, it doesn't really matter,
18:53even if she remembers me,
18:54it happened the way I wanted,
18:55so I good.
18:56Yes.
18:56This is the picture I had painted,
18:58and this is how it's being displayed,
19:00and it came to terms.
19:01You know, I've seen it in the art gallery,
19:02as was, you know.
19:04So, you know, sometimes they say,
19:06don't meet your heroes.
19:07Well, in this case,
19:08everything rolled out
19:09the way I thought it was going to be rolled out,
19:11at least in your mind.
19:12So, we come back down
19:13to one of the other questions
19:14where we spoke about,
19:16do men,
19:17are men really accurate
19:19in what they think
19:21women are really thinking?
19:23And one of the biggest conversations around that
19:25is when we ask a woman,
19:27what's her number?
19:28So, we ask, does size matter?
19:30Now we're asking what really goes on
19:33in a woman's mind
19:34or the conversation surrounding,
19:36the why as well,
19:37why men even ask it in the first place
19:39about a woman's number?
19:44Okay.
19:44So, we all know that
19:46there are double standards
19:47when it comes to women's sexuality
19:50and men's sexuality.
19:52if a man has sex
19:55with like 25 women,
19:56it's like,
19:57darn, you real,
19:58you're not done.
20:00And if a woman say,
20:01well, I went with 50,
20:02man, it's like,
20:03bruh,
20:04you,
20:05you,
20:05you're dying.
20:08So,
20:09excluding that,
20:14for me,
20:15when a man asks,
20:17what, like,
20:18where's your number,
20:18how much men you had sex with
20:20or whatever?
20:22And I return the question,
20:23it's like,
20:23bruh,
20:24what do you want to know that for?
20:25Why do you want to,
20:25why do you want to know that for?
20:27Men is,
20:28majority men is really
20:29react that way
20:30when you ask them
20:30about the next thing.
20:31Yeah, yeah.
20:32Okay.
20:32Because,
20:33because,
20:33it's like,
20:35they would prefer
20:36to have a virgin.
20:37You know,
20:37they would prefer
20:38to have a woman
20:39who had like,
20:40one,
20:41one man in she life.
20:42And they would be quick
20:43to like,
20:44wife them
20:45or want to wife them.
20:47But,
20:47a woman wouldn't want
20:48a man who's a virgin.
20:50That's true for you?
20:52Yeah.
20:53Because,
20:54he don't know
20:55what he's doing.
20:57Let me be real,
20:57he don't know
20:58what he's doing.
20:59Right.
20:59Right?
21:00Okay.
21:01No, go ahead,
21:02go ahead,
21:02interject.
21:03No, no,
21:03that actually comes back
21:04down to the same thing
21:05that we're talking about
21:06as in,
21:08a man wants to be
21:09the one to teach.
21:10Yeah.
21:10To be like,
21:11you know,
21:11in other words,
21:13I'm in competition
21:13with the two men
21:15that you probably
21:16was with before me,
21:17mentally.
21:18Yes.
21:19And I need to know
21:20that I am better
21:22than those two.
21:23Again,
21:23going back to the ego
21:24of what men do.
21:25So,
21:25pause there.
21:26So,
21:27you're saying,
21:28based on what I'm getting,
21:29is that
21:30the reason men ask
21:32or are going to be upset
21:33by the answer,
21:35if it is that they feel
21:37that they,
21:37they,
21:37they underperform.
21:39But if you say,
21:40if you went with 20 women,
21:42or 20 men,
21:43sorry,
21:43or in your case,
21:44when you said 50,
21:45and you went with 50 men,
21:46and he knows,
21:47okay,
21:47well,
21:47I am bigger than them,
21:48I last longer than them,
21:49and I am,
21:50I am ultimately the champion,
21:53then it's okay?
21:53Is that what we're saying?
21:54No.
21:55I feel it might be better.
21:56In other words,
21:57I see what you're asking.
21:58In other words,
21:58if she says,
21:59yo,
22:00I was with 50 men,
22:01and you were the best,
22:03I think her man could take that.
22:05Pick it on,
22:05pick it on,
22:06just that rare information.
22:09It's 50 men,
22:09you were the best.
22:10So,
22:10you're not really concerned
22:11whether it was your partner,
22:12whether it was your brother,
22:13whether it was,
22:14you know,
22:15a celebrity,
22:17it comes down to,
22:18was I the best?
22:19Yes.
22:20And as long as you were the best,
22:22it's okay?
22:23Is that what you're saying?
22:23Let me add,
22:24I'll add,
22:25me personally,
22:26why I would have wanted to know that
22:28is,
22:29it's how it happened
22:30versus how many.
22:32So,
22:32if you're in relationships,
22:34like,
22:34if you had a boyfriend before,
22:36and you all had sex,
22:37I mean,
22:37you're all in a relationship.
22:39But if it was like,
22:40one night stands.
22:41So,
22:42for me,
22:43I wouldn't want to go around,
22:44men say,
22:45I b***ed that man's wife
22:46in the bathroom
22:47some years ago,
22:48you know,
22:48right?
22:49Not that when we were married,
22:51but,
22:51see,
22:52that it's still going,
22:53oh,
22:53I hit the girl
22:54in a carnival,
22:56things like that.
22:57That would be,
22:57my personally,
22:58my concern,
22:59more than necessarily
23:00the number,
23:01the reputation of it.
23:03Because that would also add
23:04to my reputation.
23:05Which,
23:06I mean,
23:06could be my ego also,
23:07but,
23:08I've been honest,
23:09honest with that.
23:09And is there any video footage?
23:11You know,
23:11people taking pictures,
23:12et cetera.
23:13If you have certain personality
23:14that could come out later,
23:15you have children,
23:16and all of a sudden,
23:17something can surface,
23:18a sex tape,
23:19something can surface.
23:20And you're more interested
23:21at that point in that background
23:23and whether she was a loose goose.
23:25But,
23:26a lot of it then comes down to,
23:28as Jamie started off,
23:30you know,
23:30a man goes with 25 women,
23:32you know,
23:32a stud.
23:32A woman goes with
23:34a particular number,
23:35whatever is your perceived number,
23:37because your number
23:37might be okay
23:38to Johansson's number.
23:41So,
23:41it is all preference.
23:43Yes,
23:43it's preference.
23:43And in that case,
23:44that woman is then perceived
23:45as a s***,
23:46or s***,
23:47I guess that's how
23:48you were raised.
23:49You know,
23:50or you have some daddy issues.
23:52But a man,
23:53a woman,
23:54a man to a man
23:56doesn't ask that question
23:57or think that,
23:57and a woman to a man
23:58doesn't,
23:59you know,
24:00doesn't feel that way.
24:01By honesty,
24:01think it's a generational thing,
24:03because I've been conversing
24:05with a young guy,
24:06and it's like,
24:09it's cool,
24:10it's cool for a woman
24:11to have,
24:12how much amount of men,
24:13like sexual partners
24:14in terms of men,
24:15right?
24:16And,
24:17the thing is,
24:18they,
24:19Jamie,
24:21let me pause you there.
24:22You see,
24:23you see,
24:23let me tell you something,
24:25you see courting,
24:26when someone's courting,
24:27and it's another part
24:28of the topic
24:29that we want to discuss today,
24:31when somebody's courting,
24:32you say or accept a lot,
24:34because at that point,
24:36there's no deep connection.
24:38Right.
24:38Right?
24:38So in other words,
24:39he's doing anything
24:39to get you to get you.
24:40It's okay,
24:41you don't even,
24:42you know,
24:42you find it more
24:43with the gen Z's
24:43where the numbers
24:44and so on and sex
24:45doesn't really matter.
24:47But in general,
24:47somebody's having
24:48a conversation,
24:49you say,
24:49yeah,
24:49I've slept with so and so,
24:50I did this,
24:51I did that.
24:52It's like,
24:52hey,
24:53you focus,
24:54you just,
24:54you haven't gotten there yet.
24:56You have no deep feelings
24:58as yet.
24:58Yeah.
24:58When those feelings
24:59and so on start to come in,
25:01all of a sudden,
25:01you might be concerned
25:03about the partner
25:04and what she did,
25:05because now,
25:06there's more than ego
25:08in stay care.
25:09You want to know that,
25:10am I your best?
25:11Because I'm not with you,
25:12and I want to know
25:13that you're not thinking
25:14about Harry.
25:15Yeah.
25:15Or Jeremy,
25:16or whoever it is,
25:18while,
25:19if you can't perform.
25:20my reason for asking,
25:22Amanda,
25:22is,
25:23to make sure that,
25:27well,
25:27I think sex is a spiritual thing
25:29as well as physical.
25:31Mm-hmm.
25:31And,
25:32I don't want to be
25:33with a man
25:34that has so much,
25:36it's an exchange of souls.
25:37Spirit ties.
25:38Yeah,
25:38soul ties.
25:39Soul ties.
25:40Soul ties.
25:40So I don't want to be
25:41confused,
25:43and I don't know
25:44how I feel
25:44and what kind of thing,
25:45because of that exchange
25:47of whoever energy
25:49that person,
25:50them people
25:51that he was with
25:52has.
25:53I don't want to get that now.
25:54So I would ask
25:55a man that,
25:57for that reason,
25:58and then I would know,
25:59okay,
25:59I could continue on
26:01to see a potential
26:02relationship with this man
26:03or not.
26:04because I personally
26:05don't want a man
26:06who have
26:07a hundred.
26:09A hundred,
26:10fifty.
26:10I don't want that.
26:11But does the number matter?
26:12It matters for me.
26:13Because when you talk
26:13about soul ties,
26:14it's a matter of
26:15who that person,
26:16that man slept with a woman,
26:18who slept with another man,
26:19who slept with another woman,
26:20and it goes on and on.
26:21So in other words,
26:22if you slept with a man
26:23who had a hundred women,
26:25or you slept with a man
26:26who had two,
26:28the connections
26:29of soul ties there
26:30could still be the same.
26:32It could be.
26:33But that's why
26:34we had to talk
26:35about a sexual history.
26:36So that many less number,
26:38of course,
26:38still would be preferable.
26:41To be honest,
26:42I'll tell you my personal opinion.
26:43For me,
26:44the less sexual partners,
26:45even for myself,
26:47because I understand
26:48what you're saying
26:49about just going around
26:51and f***ing down the place,
26:52right?
26:53I have friends
26:55who have had,
26:56let me see,
26:57more than 50 partners,
26:58and friends who have had less.
27:01Male and female.
27:01Let me go with males first,
27:03right?
27:04And that's soul tie.
27:07That's a real thing now.
27:08Yes.
27:09Because for a lot of the men,
27:11it is really
27:11f***ing them up.
27:13Mm-hmm.
27:14Real bad, right?
27:16And I could see where
27:18they are now searching
27:20for something
27:20because bonding,
27:23the bonding between
27:24a man and a wife,
27:26the likelihood
27:27of the bond happening
27:28reduces the more
27:30sexual partners
27:31you have, right?
27:32And I remember
27:33a time my partner
27:34tried to tell me
27:35if you wear a condom,
27:36then really,
27:37if your soul
27:37really ties you up,
27:38right?
27:39But I mean,
27:40we're talking about
27:40a soul tie,
27:41it's more emotional
27:42because it wasn't...
27:43It can come through
27:43the plastic.
27:44Right.
27:45Right.
27:46Latex.
27:46Right.
27:47So, I mean,
27:48there are stereotypes.
27:49We could say
27:50it's a personal preference,
27:51but here in these things,
27:53I realize,
27:54sometimes you really
27:55have to be honest
27:56with yourself.
27:56Mm-hmm.
27:57We have all these
27:57euphemisms
27:58and these myths
27:59and whatever it is.
28:01To brass tacks,
28:02I honestly think
28:03I could be wrong,
28:04but I think each person
28:05really want,
28:06really could be,
28:07want to be each other's
28:08first,
28:08or at least,
28:09they don't want to be
28:10with somebody
28:10who's been with
28:11a lot of people.
28:12If you had one relationship
28:13before and it was
28:14a long-term relationship,
28:15I mean,
28:16you would have sex
28:16with the person.
28:17Mm-hmm.
28:17But the plethora
28:19and the multitude
28:20of partners,
28:21to be honest,
28:21I don't think anybody
28:22really want a partner
28:23with many partners.
28:24You don't.
28:25I mean,
28:25but there are people,
28:26but like you said
28:26with Jamie,
28:27where she said
28:28a woman mightn't want
28:30a man who is inexperienced,
28:32right?
28:33But then you have people
28:34who,
28:34a man who's had
28:35maybe several women
28:36and then you still
28:37find a woman who goes,
28:38he don't know how to,
28:39he don't know how to
28:40handle this business.
28:40He don't know how to
28:41please her.
28:41Exactly.
28:42Because again,
28:43it's understanding
28:43that language
28:44and that you have
28:45to communicate
28:45to be able to say,
28:46hey,
28:47whether a man
28:47might be selfish innately
28:49to be able to say to him,
28:50listen,
28:51I want foreplay,
28:52I want cuddling,
28:53I want these different things
28:55or you're not really
28:55doing it right.
28:56But you may be
28:58holding back,
28:59he may be thinking
28:59he's performing
29:00and doing what he has to,
29:02which is why you then
29:02have people who
29:03fake orgasms.
29:04And all of these things
29:06come as a result
29:07of lack of communication
29:09or being afraid
29:10to hurt feelings,
29:11which is,
29:12you know,
29:13a segment,
29:13I mean,
29:13a conversation
29:14we've had in the past
29:15where we are not
29:16open with regards
29:17to our feelings.
29:18but I still want
29:19to come down
29:19to why
29:22do,
29:24why is it
29:25the information
29:26if asked,
29:27one,
29:27why do we ask,
29:29and two,
29:29the information
29:30that's forthcoming
29:30is not always accurate.
29:32So you always say,
29:33if they say,
29:34you know,
29:34and I'm going to tell you
29:34three,
29:35it might be
29:36multiply that by seven.
29:37Multiply by three.
29:38Or multiply by three.
29:39Multiply by three.
29:41The reality is
29:42that males'
29:44egos
29:44are very brittle.
29:46The fact that we're
29:47asking generally
29:48is because
29:48most of our egos
29:49are brittle
29:50and a lot of women
29:52suss us out
29:53very early.
29:55Most women
29:55can tell
29:56the level
29:57of how much
29:57a man can take
29:58from the minute
30:00that she starts
30:00to have a conversation
30:01with them.
30:01Or is she embarrassed
30:02by it?
30:04She thinks
30:04it's a mistake.
30:04I think it's really
30:05about embarrassment
30:05because I know
30:07that if a woman
30:08really comfortable
30:08Rarely
30:09R-E-A-L-L-Y
30:10or R-A-Y-E
30:12Rarely
30:13embarrassed
30:13by the number.
30:14I think that
30:15because she will
30:16have no problem
30:17talking to her
30:17female friends
30:18about it.
30:19So it's not
30:19an embarrassment.
30:21It's really about
30:21it's really
30:23about
30:24if I'm interested
30:26in this man
30:27and I know
30:27that his ego
30:28can't take
30:29a particular number
30:30because they know
30:31women's intuition
30:32are on the next level.
30:33Then fake from the start.
30:35She will now
30:36throttle
30:37her answer
30:38based on
30:39whatever she thinks
30:41that your ego is.
30:43So it's fake
30:43from the start.
30:44I wouldn't say fake.
30:45I would say
30:46they take into consideration
30:47you're lying.
30:48Once you're lying
30:48you're lying.
30:48First of all
30:49everybody puts on a face
30:52for everybody else
30:53in the beginning.
30:54It doesn't stop it
30:55from being a liar.
30:57Well then
30:57everybody's liars.
30:59Because men
31:00wearing a fake gold watch
31:01or whatever
31:02to give the illusion
31:03of wealth
31:04is all lies
31:05to get a mate
31:07to a point where
31:08we could now
31:09be ourselves.
31:10The point where
31:11it could be yourself.
31:12Yeah.
31:13That's the reality.
31:14Right?
31:14Yeah, yeah, yeah.
31:15But back to the point
31:16I was making, right?
31:16With the reason why
31:19orgasms get fake
31:20is because
31:21again,
31:22back to
31:22we're trying to
31:23throttle
31:23by the way ladies
31:25let me just
31:25preface this with
31:26men fake orgasms too.
31:28Good, good point.
31:29That's just the reality, right?
31:30I don't know.
31:30That don't make sense
31:31because
31:32I have
31:32because
31:34okay,
31:35when a man orgasms
31:36do you mean
31:38it's ejaculation?
31:40Yeah.
31:40Right.
31:41But if a man
31:42But you always check in, Jamie?
31:44Do you always check?
31:44Yes.
31:45Jamie?
31:46Yes.
31:46So they pull out
31:47and they have a condom
31:48and you pull out
31:49and you say
31:49it can't be in the dark
31:51you see.
31:52No, it won't be in the dark
31:53number one.
31:53I like lights.
31:55Well,
31:55sometime it might be in the dark
31:56but I'll fake a headache or two
31:58but point is
31:59I have
32:00on her back already.
32:02Thanks for sharing that.
32:07Thank you for sharing that.
32:09I think with that one
32:09we need to take a break.
32:11We need to take a break
32:12with that one
32:13ladies and gentlemen.
32:15A lot of good conversation here
32:17so
32:17we take a short break
32:19and come back.
32:20Manhood.
32:20Nile boy.
32:21Oh God.
32:32We are back
32:34talking about
32:36sexual
32:37everything sexual
32:38and
32:39we closed off
32:41the second break
32:42with Nile
32:44talking about
32:45men fake
32:45men fake orgasms
32:47and
32:48I didn't agree
32:49with that
32:49because
32:50to me
32:51for a man
32:53to feel
32:54like he did
32:55something
32:55he
32:56alright
32:57he get
32:57he finish
32:59ejaculation
33:01occurs
33:02with a woman
33:04not all the time
33:05you could tell
33:06that she is
33:07you know
33:09she
33:09okay
33:10you know
33:11I mean
33:11because some
33:12women
33:12due to
33:13probably
33:14you ain't
33:14drinking
33:14enough water
33:15it might be
33:16not as
33:17fluid
33:18as you
33:19you know
33:19supposed to be
33:20so you can't
33:22really tell
33:22now
33:23it's easier
33:23for a woman
33:24to fake
33:25an orgasm
33:25than a man
33:26but you
33:27wanna
33:27we won't
33:29repeat it
33:29right
33:30so
33:31that's
33:32interesting
33:33because
33:33men
33:33are somewhat
33:34gonna
33:35you know
33:37I mean
33:37y'all are
33:38cons
33:38y'all are
33:39just to
33:40close this
33:40right
33:41alright
33:41it's more
33:44like
33:44it's back
33:45down to
33:46feeding
33:46egos
33:47that's
33:48the whole
33:48point
33:48people
33:49fake
33:49anything
33:50in a
33:51relationship
33:51right
33:52I wanna
33:53feed her
33:53ego
33:53because
33:54I don't
33:54want to
33:55say at
33:55the time
33:55saying yo
33:56I am
33:57bored
33:57or I'm
33:58no longer
33:58interested
33:59or I have
33:59something
33:59better to
34:00do
34:00I just
34:00wanna
34:01I don't
34:03want her
34:03to feel
34:03bad about
34:04herself
34:04the same
34:05reason
34:05or the same
34:06way that
34:06a woman
34:07fake
34:07orgasm
34:08with a
34:08man
34:08she wants
34:10to feed
34:10our ego
34:11she wants
34:11us to
34:12feel better
34:12about
34:12ourselves
34:13when she
34:13leaves here
34:14and I go
34:14about my
34:15day
34:15I can't
34:16go about
34:17feeling like
34:17wait boy
34:18I didn't
34:18make a
34:20c***
34:20orgasm
34:21that just
34:22ruined my
34:22whole day
34:23now I eat
34:24mad in
34:24traffic
34:25going to
34:25work
34:25is that
34:26why then
34:26things would
34:27come up
34:27like you
34:27know
34:27women say
34:28things like
34:28what was
34:29the term
34:29you all
34:30used
34:30earlier
34:30zadi
34:31so is it
34:31that you
34:32say hey
34:32big
34:32zadi
34:33yeah
34:33you know
34:34so all
34:34all of that
34:35comes about
34:37ego you
34:37want while
34:38that man
34:39is with
34:39you the
34:39woman
34:39is probably
34:41saying to
34:42themselves
34:42you know
34:43I want to
34:44feel that he
34:44was the
34:44biggest and
34:45best I
34:46had but
34:47it's BS
34:47to me if
34:48I care about
34:49him then I
34:50would feel
34:50into the
34:50ego or
34:51whatever
34:51but if I
34:52don't I
34:52will if I
34:53care about
34:54him
34:54that one
34:57session
34:59probably was
34:59bad
35:00but he
35:01was like
35:02oh my
35:03god
35:03top of
35:03tops on
35:04the
35:04second
35:04the
35:05fifth
35:05the
35:06tenth
35:06and if
35:06he's
35:07not
35:07but
35:07you
35:07like
35:08how
35:08he
35:08makes
35:08you
35:08laugh
35:09how
35:09he
35:09makes
35:09you
35:09mean
35:09what
35:10he
35:10buys
35:10you
35:10wouldn't
35:10be like
35:11oh gosh
35:12it's good
35:12it's good
35:13but you
35:13want to
35:13drink
35:14but that's
35:14worse
35:14that's
35:16worse
35:17you don't
35:18care about
35:18because
35:19listen
35:20I
35:21realize
35:21from
35:21this
35:22we need
35:23to have
35:23plenty
35:24more
35:24of these
35:24conversations
35:25especially
35:26around
35:26sex
35:27because
35:27sex
35:28is such
35:28a
35:28taboo
35:29thing
35:30I mean
35:30I hear
35:31that
35:31sex
35:31is a
35:32taboo
35:32subject
35:33I hear
35:33since I
35:34about
35:34five
35:35years old
35:35and it's
35:36still
35:37it still
35:38seems like
35:38it's a
35:39taboo
35:39subject
35:39so we
35:40really need
35:40to be
35:40honest
35:41this episode
35:42is going
35:43to be
35:43seen
35:43there are
35:44going to
35:44be people
35:44that are
35:45going to
35:45listen to
35:46it
35:46that are
35:46going to
35:46be
35:46up in
35:47arms
35:47but
35:48it's
35:48the
35:48conversation
35:49everyone
35:49is having
35:50including
35:51the
35:51people
35:51who
35:51are
35:51going
35:52to
35:52be
35:52upset
35:52by
35:53the
35:53way
35:53it's
35:54going
35:54to
35:54come
35:55across
35:56but
35:57it
35:57might
35:57we
35:58had to
35:58have
35:59these
35:59conversations
35:59because
36:00listen
36:01so many
36:02so many
36:02relationships
36:03become
36:04unhealthy
36:05because
36:06of lying
36:07and lying
36:08with sex
36:08and then
36:09because
36:10people
36:10lie
36:11even to
36:11themselves
36:12about
36:12sex
36:13they
36:13don't
36:13know
36:13even
36:14how
36:14to
36:14enjoy
36:14sex
36:14properly
36:15and
36:15then
36:15then
36:19I
36:19had
36:20a
36:20horny
36:20person
36:20then
36:20I
36:21had
36:21to
36:21watch
36:21porn
36:21and
36:21create
36:23all
36:23these
36:24unhealthy
36:26paradigms
36:27and
36:27behaviors
36:28so
36:28I
36:28want
36:29to
36:32ask
36:32you
36:32a
36:32question
36:33right
36:33you
36:35were
36:35talking
36:35about
36:35like
36:36pleasing
36:36like
36:37if
36:38you
36:39could
36:39just
36:39be
36:40vocal
36:40and
36:40communicate
36:41with
36:41your
36:41partner
36:41with
36:42reference
36:42to
36:43what
36:43you
36:43would
36:43like
36:44or
36:44whatever
36:44I
36:46have
36:46a
36:46question
36:47in
36:47terms
36:47of
36:48why
36:48do
36:49the
36:49majority
36:50of
36:50women
36:50like
36:51rough
36:52sex
36:53or
36:53love
36:54rough
36:55up
36:55or
36:55a
36:56little
36:56choke
36:56neck
36:57while
36:57they
36:57get
36:58down
36:58passion
37:00the
37:01majority
37:01of
37:02women
37:02like
37:03that
37:04I
37:04would
37:04say
37:04it's
37:05passion
37:05because
37:06a lot
37:06of
37:06women
37:07and
37:07I
37:07would
37:07say
37:07even
37:08my
37:08personal
37:09relationships
37:09and
37:10having
37:10sessions
37:11with
37:11couples
37:12is
37:12about
37:12passion
37:13a lot
37:13of
37:13women
37:14don't
37:14feel
37:14like
37:15they
37:15get
37:15passion
37:16from
37:16the
37:16man
37:16right
37:17so
37:18they
37:19would
37:20sometimes
37:20even
37:21outside
37:21of
37:22the
37:22bedroom
37:22they
37:23would
37:23provoke
37:23you
37:24want
37:25a
37:25reaction
37:26out
37:26there
37:27because
37:27most
37:28a lot
37:28of
37:28times
37:29we
37:29men
37:29let's
37:29be
37:29stoic
37:30right
37:30a lot
37:31of
37:31times
37:31even
37:31for
37:32ego
37:32well
37:32she
37:33can't
37:34get me
37:34vexing her
37:34so you
37:35keep
37:35it
37:35inside
37:35but
37:36you
37:36rarely
37:36vexing her
37:37so again
37:38we
37:38lie
37:38we
37:39men
37:40sometimes
37:40really
37:40want to
37:41let out
37:41passion
37:42let out
37:42emotion
37:43but
37:43we
37:43not
37:44doing
37:44it
37:44and
37:44then
37:45if
37:45women
37:46are
37:46emotional
37:46creatures
37:47that's
37:48part
37:48of
37:48the
37:48dynamic
37:49so they
37:49want to
37:50know
37:50I could
37:53get a
37:54certain
37:54reaction
37:54from
37:55a
37:55man
37:55right
37:56so
37:56then
37:56we
37:56coming
37:57back
37:57into
37:57the
37:57sex
37:58now
37:58because
37:58a lot
37:59of
37:59times
37:59we
38:00men
38:00hold
38:00back
38:01you
38:01hold
38:02back
38:02in
38:02sex
38:02release
38:04now
38:04release
38:05sometimes
38:06release
38:06sometimes
38:08so
38:08choke
38:09me
38:09do
38:09me
38:09something
38:10and
38:10and
38:11whatever
38:11it
38:11is
38:12of
38:12course
38:12I
38:12mean
38:12that
38:12could
38:13depend
38:13on
38:13the
38:14woman's
38:14upbringing
38:15what
38:15her
38:16personal
38:16preferences
38:17are
38:17but
38:17they
38:18don't
38:18even
38:18also
38:18have
38:18to be
38:19choking
38:19it
38:19could
38:19be
38:20take your
38:20hands
38:21in a
38:21certain
38:22make a
38:24sound
38:25I like
38:27where you're
38:27going with
38:27that
38:28and I
38:28understand
38:28the
38:28psychology
38:29of it
38:29which
38:30is
38:30apt
38:31and that
38:31also
38:32but
38:32there's
38:32also
38:32a
38:34reasoning
38:36behind
38:36sometimes
38:37really
38:37choking
38:37and
38:38it's
38:39about
38:39heightened
38:40sexual
38:40feeling
38:42so
38:43when
38:43a
38:43woman's
38:43about
38:44to
38:44ejaculate
38:45or
38:46and I'm
38:47still not
38:48sure
38:48whether
38:48that's
38:49a word
38:49that we
38:49could
38:49but we
38:50all
38:50understand
38:50it
38:50everybody
38:51uses it
38:51if
38:53c-o-m-e
38:55that
38:57at that
38:58moment
38:58by that
38:59almost
39:00asphyxiation
39:02right
39:02you're
39:03stopping
39:03air
39:04from
39:04going
39:04to
39:05blood
39:06blood
39:06and
39:06the
39:07brain
39:07so
39:07it
39:07heightens
39:08the
39:08I'll
39:09go back
39:10to
39:10fashion
39:10you want
39:12to
39:12feel
39:12something
39:13most
39:14times
39:14I mean
39:14I don't
39:15know
39:15everybody
39:15in the world
39:16so I can't
39:16speak for
39:17everybody
39:17but most
39:18times
39:18when we
39:19have sex
39:20we want
39:20to have
39:20some sort
39:21of
39:21connection
39:21right
39:22some sort
39:22of
39:23connection
39:23and they
39:23say
39:23it
39:24don't have
39:24to be
39:24the purest
39:25it don't have
39:26to be
39:26the most
39:26sensual
39:27but we
39:27want
39:28some kind
39:28of
39:28connection
39:29and therefore
39:30there are
39:31different ways
39:31that that
39:32connection
39:33expands
39:34itself
39:34that manifests
39:35itself
39:36so it
39:37could be
39:37I want
39:38row to
39:39row
39:39right
39:39I'm going
39:40to see
39:40something
39:41I don't
39:41know if
39:41you can
39:41say this
39:42I remember
39:42I was
39:42watching
39:42a show
39:44a show
39:44a show
39:44billions
39:45I don't
39:45know if
39:45you ever
39:46watched
39:46that series
39:46billions
39:47and one
39:48of the
39:48characters
39:48says
39:49he love
39:50them out
39:51right
39:52right
39:53and so
39:54he was
39:55actually
39:55talking to
39:55our therapist
39:56he was
39:57actually
39:57talking to
39:57our therapist
39:58so like
39:58why
39:59and he
39:59thought
40:00about
40:00and he
40:00said
40:01the fact
40:02that the
40:02woman
40:03loved him
40:03in his
40:03rawest
40:04form
40:04means a
40:06lot to
40:06him
40:06right
40:07now
40:07that's
40:08expressed
40:08it could
40:09be in a
40:09very explicit
40:10way
40:10and it
40:10could even
40:11some people
40:11think it's a
40:12nasty way
40:12but if you
40:13understand the
40:14deeper psychological
40:15behind it
40:15he wants to be
40:16accepted for
40:17who he is
40:18and I think
40:18all of us
40:19want to be
40:20accepted for
40:20who we are
40:21but yet we
40:22just lie
40:22we just lie
40:23when we're in bed
40:24we just lie
40:24about what we
40:25really want
40:25we just fake
40:26orgasm
40:26we just do
40:27all these
40:27kind of
40:27things
40:28instead of
40:28just seeing
40:29what we
40:30really want
40:31the reason
40:31why I
40:31asked you
40:32that
40:32I know
40:32we crunch
40:33for time
40:34the reason
40:34why I
40:34asked you
40:35that is
40:35because
40:35a woman
40:36told me
40:36once that
40:37it's because
40:38of how
40:39women think
40:39women constantly
40:40think
40:41men have the
40:42ability to
40:42just shut
40:43down
40:43sit on
40:44and not
40:45think about
40:46anything
40:46we don't
40:47have the
40:47ability
40:48even when
40:48we sleep
40:49in our
40:49brains
40:49keep working
40:51so she
40:52said that
40:53because we
40:53are constantly
40:55like stressed
40:56from
40:56from your
40:58menstrual
40:59cycle
40:59from
41:00dealing
41:00with
41:01inequality
41:02in your
41:03workplace
41:03or whatever
41:04that pain
41:05it comes
41:07out
41:08during sex
41:09and you
41:10by getting
41:11physically
41:12like
41:13again
41:13someone
41:14getting
41:15aggressive
41:15with you
41:15during
41:16sex
41:17is
41:17a release
41:18for women
41:19that makes
41:20sense
41:20psychosomatic
41:21because
41:22psycho meaning
41:23mental
41:23somatic meaning
41:24body
41:24right
41:25I've heard
41:26and women
41:27and men
41:27now
41:28if we have
41:29pain
41:29and we're not
41:29wearing too
41:30much
41:30pain
41:30we do
41:31something
41:31to numb
41:32it
41:32so it
41:32could be
41:33I have
41:33a lot of
41:34people take
41:34tattoos
41:35the pain
41:35from the
41:36tattoo
41:36that's numb
41:36their pain
41:37in life
41:38the cut
41:39cutting
41:39themselves
41:40alcohol
41:40gambling
41:41porn
41:41we go
41:42through
41:42so I
41:42could
41:43understand
41:43because
41:43sex
41:44is an
41:44expression
41:44of
41:45self
41:45so you
41:45would want
41:46it there
41:46also
41:46so that
41:47makes sense
41:47so is that
41:48part of why
41:48we're then
41:49saying that
41:49women may want
41:50a certain
41:50element of
41:51roughing up
41:52because
41:52in the pain
41:53you know
41:54you have
41:55women who
41:55may want
41:55as we're
41:56coming back
41:56to size
41:57may want
41:57a bigger
41:58size
41:58at that point
41:59because they
41:59enjoy any
42:00pain
42:00or any
42:01sex
42:01and all
42:02these other
42:02things
42:02that is the
42:03pain of
42:03that is
42:04giving them
42:04some sort
42:05of pleasure
42:08because
42:10like you
42:11said
42:11yeah
42:11numbing
42:11because
42:12women
42:12you know
42:13sometimes
42:13you hear
42:14it all
42:14the time
42:14where women
42:15are not
42:16all women
42:16again we're
42:17not speaking
42:17we're speaking
42:18to some
42:18you know
42:19on behalf
42:20of some
42:22women
42:22you know
42:23and that's
42:24your representation
42:24Jamie has
42:25to say that
42:27women
42:27for the most
42:29part
42:29are about
42:29feelings
42:30so when
42:31they're having
42:31sex it's about
42:32that connection
42:33it's about
42:33that feeling
42:34whereas a man
42:35you know
42:36you see it
42:37all the time
42:37even in an
42:38argument
42:38a woman
42:39a man
42:39and a woman
42:39has an
42:40argument
42:40and the
42:41man comes
42:43to the woman
42:43to say
42:44I apologize
42:45or he want
42:46peace or he want
42:46something
42:47and she
42:47nah she want
42:48to hold on
42:49to that grudge
42:49whereas a woman
42:50you could be
42:52as upset as a woman
42:53come and whisper
42:53two things in your ear
42:54you know
42:54you're ready to go
42:56you just
42:56because you know
42:57you're not really
42:58making
42:58you don't really
42:59need all those
43:00connections there
43:00to have sex
43:02and again
43:04this is not
43:04speaking on behalf
43:05of all women
43:06you know
43:06but the
43:07one of the things
43:08that you also
43:09understand
43:09as we talk
43:10about connection
43:10is that
43:11when a man
43:13and woman
43:13copulate
43:14or
43:15you know
43:18I'm trying to
43:19make sure
43:19we all
43:20decide the words
43:21the words that
43:22can be broadcast
43:22on television
43:23to copulate
43:24to perform
43:25coitus
43:26correct
43:26coitus
43:27coitus
43:28let's use the words
43:30from the old
43:30Roman times
43:32coitus
43:32and when
43:36that act
43:36happens
43:37also in order
43:38to make
43:38the full
43:39connection
43:39between male
43:40genitalia
43:41and of course
43:42female
43:42is to also
43:43ensure that
43:44both the
43:45chest
43:45the connection
43:46is there
43:47so there's a
43:47point
43:47is it
43:48under
43:48prior
43:50nama
43:51or again
43:52get a bit
43:53heart chakra
43:54to make sure
43:56to have the
43:56connection
43:56here
43:57and there
43:58which is my
43:59favorite position
44:00by the way
44:01what's that
44:02so missionary
44:03it's important
44:04to have that
44:04but again
44:05I just use that
44:06to know
44:06the only man
44:06does complain
44:07about that
44:07position
44:08well nobody
44:08says stay
44:09in the position
44:10and not all
44:13men
44:13so you're
44:14coming into
44:14technique
44:14technique
44:15is so
44:19intricate
44:19because
44:20that is
44:21an honesty
44:22thing
44:22to get it
44:24because
44:24when two
44:25people meet
44:25each other
44:25for the first
44:26time
44:26you can have
44:27sex with
44:2850 people
44:28each
44:29when you
44:29meet each
44:29other
44:30you all
44:30could be
44:30virgins
44:31to each
44:31other
44:31because you
44:32don't know
44:32each other
44:33technique
44:33that's nice
44:34right
44:34so
44:48virgins
44:48each other
44:49yes you may
44:49have
44:49experience
44:50having sex
44:51so you know
44:51what the
44:52anatomy
44:52is like
44:53but even
44:53in that
44:54is to
44:55really
44:55learn
44:55that
44:55person
44:56now
44:56sometimes
44:57Robert
44:57is telling
44:58me
44:58I think
44:58about
44:59things
44:59in a
44:59utopian
45:00manner
45:00right
45:01but we
45:01the point
45:02to me
45:03part of
45:03the point
45:03of this
45:04is coming
45:04up with
45:04solutions
45:05we want
45:05to be
45:06better
45:06we want
45:07to be
45:07better
45:07as men
45:08right
45:09and yes
45:09we have
45:10women on
45:10the show
45:10sometimes
45:11but we
45:12as men
45:12we want
45:12to be
45:12better
45:13when we
45:13go in
45:13our
45:14relationships
45:14we even
45:15ourselves
45:16talking to
45:16our children
45:17talking to
45:17other young
45:18men
45:18we want
45:18to be
45:19better
45:19at it
45:19so if
45:20we
45:20look at
45:21this
45:21in a
45:22better
45:22manner
45:22so technique
45:23now
45:23technique
45:24we could
45:25watch as
45:25much
45:25porn
45:26as we
45:26want
45:26we may
45:27never
45:27meet
45:27that
45:28woman
45:28do you
45:29see on
45:29porn
45:29and then
45:30remember
45:30it's an
45:31act
45:31porn
45:31is an
45:32act
45:32no matter
45:32how much
45:33reality
45:33porn
45:34it might
45:34have
45:35or
45:35things
45:35like
45:35that
45:36or
45:36sex
45:36tapes
45:36even
45:37sex
45:37tapes
45:37now
45:37they know
45:38you're
45:38being
45:38taped
45:38people know
45:39they're
45:39being
45:39taped
45:40so most
45:40likely
45:40they're
45:42putting
45:42on
45:42the
45:42act
45:43exactly
45:45so
45:46technique
45:47really
45:48I think
45:48is an
45:49honesty
45:49thing
45:49one
45:50you
45:50being
45:50honest
45:51with your
45:51partner
45:51and then
45:53if you
45:53intune it
45:54your
45:54partner
45:54because
45:55I remember
45:55I'll tell you
45:56this
45:56I remember
45:56we're talking
45:58about
45:58size
45:59right
45:59but
45:59I remember
46:00in a
46:01relationship
46:01I remember
46:02once
46:02size
46:04depending on
46:05how the
46:05person felt
46:06in that
46:06moment
46:07whether
46:07she would
46:08want
46:08all
46:08or she
46:09would
46:09want
46:09some
46:10right
46:11and
46:12I remember
46:12thinking
46:13in my
46:14linear
46:15thinking
46:15before
46:16in my
46:16mind
46:16it's
46:16all
46:17you want
46:18all
46:18if you're
46:18not going
46:18all the way
46:19up
46:19and she's
46:20not feeling
46:21that something
46:21wrong
46:22but she was
46:22saying
46:22sometimes
46:23she don't
46:24want that
46:24right
46:25and I
46:25thought
46:25she's
46:26lying
46:26right
46:27but only
46:28after
46:28talking to
46:29other people
46:29detecting
46:30difference
46:31some days
46:31you want
46:31it fast
46:32some days
46:33you want
46:33it slow
46:33some days
46:34you want
46:34a quick
46:34too much
46:34she said
46:35and I
46:36think
46:36let me
46:36get a cookie
46:37and I
46:38think
46:38nah
46:38my brain
46:39has always
46:39had to be
46:40long
46:40it had to
46:41be
46:41thing
46:41because
46:41that's
46:42what I
46:42learned
46:42but
46:42the technique
46:43for that
46:44day
46:44different
46:45the technique
46:45for the
46:46morning
46:46might be
46:46different
46:47the technique
46:47for the
46:47evening
46:48to answer
46:49Jamie's question
46:49the rough
46:50ing up
46:50quick
46:51might be
46:52for the
46:52morning
46:52it might
46:53be
46:53evening
46:53so
46:54this is
46:54really
46:55I mean
46:55human
46:56that's why
46:56I love
46:57having these
46:57conversations
46:58human dynamics
46:59and human
46:59behavior
46:59is a lovely
47:00thing
47:01but for it
47:02to work
47:02we have to
47:03be honest
47:04first with
47:04ourselves
47:04know what
47:05you want
47:06know what
47:07you like
47:07and then
47:07connect with
47:08your partner
47:08so we as
47:09men
47:09you want
47:11to be honest
47:12women
47:12you want
47:12to be
47:13honest
47:13with the
47:14men
47:14especially
47:14if you're
47:15saying
47:15you have
47:15feelings
47:16for them
47:16with
47:16themselves
47:17first
47:19and then
47:19communicate
47:20because if
47:21you say
47:21you love
47:21them
47:22then
47:24the best
47:25way to
47:25express
47:26that
47:26and I'll
47:26be part
47:27of my
47:27closing
47:28to have
47:28that
47:28quick
47:29discussion
47:29but
47:29I want
47:30time
47:31for us
47:32to wrap
47:32this
47:32particular
47:33conversation
47:33a lot
47:34has come
47:34out of
47:34it
47:34so
47:35you want
47:36to finish
47:36your thought
47:37yeah
47:37people I
47:39employ
47:40right
47:40and I'm
47:41saying I
47:41know even
47:42perfect
47:42because there
47:43are certain
47:43paradigms
47:43I'm still
47:44trying to
47:45get over
47:45but the
47:46only way
47:46to get
47:46over it
47:47is being
47:47honest
47:48right
47:48honest
47:49with
47:49yourself
47:49especially
47:50we're
47:50talking
47:50about
47:51sex
47:51sex
47:51I
47:52think
47:52is an
47:52important
47:52part
47:53of
47:53relationships
47:54is an
47:54important
47:55part
47:55of
47:55human
47:55connection
47:56and then
47:56is an
47:57important
47:57part
47:57of
47:57what's
47:58procreating
47:58so be
47:59honest
47:59about
48:00first
48:00what you
48:01like
48:01be honest
48:02with your
48:03partner
48:03about
48:03what you
48:04like
48:04and then
48:05also
48:05be
48:05perceptive
48:06because
48:06sometimes
48:07people may
48:08not be
48:08as expressive
48:09as you
48:09but if
48:10you're
48:10perceptive
48:11you could
48:11see
48:12he like
48:12this
48:13she like
48:13this
48:13so you
48:14could
48:14maybe
48:14do a
48:14little
48:15more
48:15of
48:15that
48:15and
48:15ask
48:16so the
48:17point
48:17is one
48:18honesty
48:18and also
48:19two
48:19being
48:20caring
48:20and
48:21empathetic
48:21to your
48:22partner
48:22to understand
48:23what they
48:24want
48:24or what
48:25they
48:25may
48:25like
48:25Jimmy
48:26I would
48:28say
48:28women
48:29know how
48:29to
48:30hit a
48:30man
48:31where
48:31it
48:31hurts
48:32in
48:32terms
48:32of
48:34getting
48:34them
48:35to be
48:35on your
48:36level
48:36when
48:36you're
48:36angry
48:37and
48:38how
48:41to say
48:41emasculating
48:42men
48:43that
48:44has
48:45somewhat
48:45become
48:46a
48:46reoccurring
48:47theme
48:48in terms
48:49of
48:49relationships
48:49I would
48:50say
48:50for Trinidad
48:51right
48:51because
48:52I can't
48:52speak
48:52about
48:53any
48:53country
48:53and
48:55we
48:56as
48:56a
48:56whole
48:57citizens
48:58male
48:59female
48:59we
48:59had
48:59to
49:00do
49:00better
49:00so
49:01more
49:01conversations
49:01like
49:02this
49:02you know
49:04interact
49:04with
49:04us
49:05in
49:05the
49:06when
49:06we
49:07have
49:07our
49:07shows
49:07every
49:08Friday
49:08interact
49:09in
49:09the
49:09chats
49:09share
49:10you know
49:11so we
49:11could
49:12get
49:12more
49:12resolve
49:13through
49:14discussion
49:15and just
49:16being
49:17open
49:18and raw
49:19about
49:19situations
49:20holistically
49:22I would
49:25say
49:25keep it
49:26short
49:26the amount
49:28of sexual
49:28partners
49:29that the
49:30person
49:30that you
49:30would
49:30have
49:31is none
49:31of your
49:31business
49:32and you
49:32don't need
49:32to ask
49:33and that's
49:35about it
49:36I want
49:37I want
49:38to close
49:38to say
49:39first off
49:40Niall I'm
49:41proud of
49:41you
49:41I'm proud
49:43that you
49:43kept it
49:44you know
49:45you kept
49:45it PG
49:46and that
49:48being said
49:49on a
49:50serious
49:50note
49:50is that
49:51this
49:52conversation
49:52needed
49:53to be
49:53had
49:54and
49:54conversations
49:55like this
49:56as
49:57Johanse
49:57pointed out
49:58need to
49:58continue
49:59to happen
50:00it's
50:01it's
50:02the
50:02basis
50:02it's
50:02the
50:03root
50:03cause
50:03it's
50:04it's
50:04it's
50:05it's
50:05the
50:05sometimes
50:06the
50:07outcome
50:07of
50:08issues
50:08such as
50:09low
50:09self-esteem
50:10insecurity
50:11pent up
50:12anger
50:12all of
50:13these things
50:13come and
50:14they manifest
50:14in areas
50:15such as
50:16this
50:16and as
50:17you've
50:17heard
50:17by this
50:18discussion
50:18today
50:19and this
50:19conversation
50:20so much
50:21has come
50:21out
50:22the fact
50:22that
50:22in
50:23certain
50:23cases
50:23where
50:24we feel
50:24that sometimes
50:25being honest
50:26is actually
50:26holding back
50:27and part
50:28of that
50:29love
50:29is actually
50:30holding back
50:30not to
50:31allow that
50:32person to
50:33feel a
50:33particular
50:33way
50:34but we
50:34really need
50:35to get
50:35to the
50:35root cause
50:36of what
50:36that is
50:37and what
50:37comes out
50:38of that
50:38so
50:39Niall you
50:40pointed it
50:40out
50:41does the
50:41number
50:42really matter
50:42at that
50:43point
50:43let's face
50:45it everyone
50:46you might
50:47like it
50:47but the
50:48truth is
50:48they cannot
50:49change the
50:50past
50:50you cannot
50:51change the
50:51past
50:52so if
50:52you intend
50:53in your
50:53court
50:53to get
50:54that
50:54information
50:55decide at
50:56that point
50:56that's your
50:57red flag
50:57get out
50:58correct
50:59if you
50:59continue to
51:00move forward
51:01know that
51:01the person
51:02cannot change
51:03their past
51:03and to
51:04continue going
51:05down a road
51:05of what can
51:06almost be seen
51:07as a form
51:07of domestic
51:08violence
51:08that's mental
51:10abuse
51:10by constantly
51:11having attack
51:12on that person
51:13for that number
51:14of things
51:14that they
51:14can't change
51:15now if they're
51:16going back
51:16in the past
51:16and they take
51:17an attack
51:17back
51:18or they're
51:18bringing it
51:19about as you
51:19say hitting
51:20people where
51:20it hurts
51:21that's an
51:21entirely different
51:22story
51:22but if that's
51:24not the case
51:24then the only
51:25number that
51:26really matters
51:26is the fact
51:27that you can
51:28count on
51:29them and
51:30that's what's
51:31really important
51:31I like that
51:32I like that
51:32gems boy
51:35gems
51:35so in
51:39closing
51:40I love the
51:41fact that we've
51:42come to the
51:42main nugget for
51:43me was that
51:44we are trying
51:45to make our
51:46mark and
51:47really have to
51:48check yourself
51:48on that
51:49check yourself
51:50on where is
51:51that coming
51:51from is that
51:52making your
51:52mark in
51:53society or
51:54you making
51:54your mark
51:55out of
51:55insecurity
51:56and things
51:57that really
51:58don't matter
51:59because what
52:00you think
52:00the woman
52:01thinks is a
52:02totally different
52:03thought most
52:04of the time
52:04so this has
52:05been manhood
52:06Johanse
52:06Jamie
52:07Nile
52:08always a
52:09pleasure
52:09this conversation
52:10today is
52:10sexual prowess
52:11sexual myths
52:13manhood
52:24brought to
52:25you by
52:26Jameson
52:26natural
52:27sources