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Kalau nak mudah segala urusan better kahwin dengan orang kita je la kan? Tapi Mya Herry kongsi orang kita yang berkahwin dengan foreigner diorang akan dilayan bagai seorang puteri wow, bestnya! Banyak lagi story yang Mya share dalam episod kali ni! Jom layan PomPuan podcast untuk wanita sahaja hanya di SYOK
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00:00 The men I always get from them, they said they treat their couple like a princess.
00:10 They are not like, sorry, they are not like the men I asked them.
00:22 They are very far. Because they said they have been in a relationship with a Malay guy.
00:30 It's different.
00:32 Hello guys, welcome back to Pompuan, a podcast for women only.
00:42 As usual, every week I will bring in the best and the best artists.
00:49 So that's why today I will bring in a special guest.
00:53 This week, Mia Harry.
00:56 Hi, how are you?
00:58 I'm good, Alhamdulillah.
00:59 How are you?
01:00 I'm good.
01:01 This is how it is, work.
01:03 Suddenly.
01:07 Mia, what are you doing now?
01:09 I just released my second single.
01:12 I'm in the process of promoting it.
01:14 What's the title of the song?
01:17 It's called Munajat Cinta.
01:19 Munajat Cinta, just released?
01:21 Yes, just released last fasting month.
01:23 Can you sing a little bit?
01:26 A little bit.
01:28 A little bit, okay.
01:30 I'm not warmed up yet.
01:31 Okay, or you want to talk first?
01:33 Sure.
01:34 Promise.
01:36 A little bit promise.
01:38 So, Mia, from your office or from home?
01:44 I'm from home to here.
01:46 Okay, everything is smooth.
01:48 Yes, InsyaAllah.
01:50 So, Mia, do you know what our topic today is?
01:53 Our topic is getting married to a foreigner.
01:56 Is that right?
01:57 Yes, that's right.
01:58 So, I saw your Instagram, right?
02:00 There's a mix of Malaysian and Indonesian.
02:02 Yes.
02:03 Why is that?
02:04 Do you have a mix?
02:05 Actually, my parents are from there.
02:09 Oh, Indonesia?
02:10 Yes, they are originally from Indonesia.
02:14 They settled in Malaysia for 10 years and became a family here.
02:19 I see.
02:20 I was born here.
02:21 So, you speak Malay at home?
02:25 My parents can't speak Malay.
02:29 My parents can't speak Indonesian.
02:34 So, I only speak Malay.
02:38 I see.
02:39 So, do you go back to your hometown?
02:44 Yes, I often go to Indonesia.
02:47 So, you can speak Indonesian?
02:49 Yes, I can.
02:50 Just a little bit.
02:52 Maybe I can.
02:53 Just a little bit.
02:54 Actually, during the fasting month, I'm in Jakarta.
02:57 I'm hosting an Asian activities program there.
03:02 Oh.
03:03 So, you're active there?
03:07 Yes, I'm active there.
03:09 Praise be to God.
03:10 I'm active since the reality program, Dangdut Academy Asia 6 in Indonesia.
03:18 It was last year.
03:20 Oh, that's amazing.
03:22 How old are you?
03:23 Oh, my.
03:25 I'm still young.
03:27 I'm still young.
03:29 I'm happy to be young.
03:32 You're still young.
03:34 You look young.
03:36 Praise be to God.
03:37 You look younger than me.
03:38 Really?
03:39 How old are you?
03:40 I'm a little younger.
03:44 It's a secret.
03:47 So, you're okay there?
03:52 Because you talk to your parents there, right?
03:55 Yes.
03:56 I often meet people there.
04:01 I started to speak Indonesian there.
04:04 But, I spoke Malaysian during the hosting.
04:07 Oh, I understand.
04:09 Because it's an Asian program, I represent Malaysia.
04:12 Okay.
04:13 So, your parents are both Indonesian, right?
04:18 Do you want to find a partner there?
04:22 If I want to find a partner there, I don't prefer people there.
04:30 Actually, I can find a partner abroad.
04:33 But, I don't prefer people there.
04:35 I understand.
04:37 But, we don't know.
04:39 We can't just find a partner there.
04:42 If we find a partner there, we'll get a new partner.
04:46 That's right.
04:47 So, I just want to find a suitable partner.
04:53 You mean, you prefer Malaysians?
04:57 Yes.
04:58 Do you prefer Malaysians or foreigners?
05:02 Oh, I see.
05:05 But, you don't live there?
05:08 Is there a reason?
05:10 I don't know.
05:12 I just don't like it.
05:16 I understand.
05:17 But, people there are just like us.
05:20 They're okay.
05:21 But, we have our own perspective.
05:24 Yes, that's right.
05:25 Alia, which one do you prefer?
05:27 Me?
05:28 I'm the same as you.
05:30 You're the same as me.
05:31 Do you have a mix of Chinese and Malaysian?
05:36 I'm just like that.
05:38 I'm a pure Malaysian.
05:40 You're a pure Malaysian.
05:44 I'm a pure Malaysian.
05:45 But, it's just like you.
05:48 If we find a foreigner, it's okay.
05:51 But, if we find a Malaysian, it's better.
05:55 That's right.
05:56 It's easier.
05:57 It's easier to manage.
05:58 That's right.
05:59 It's easier to go back to the village.
06:00 It's easier to speak Bahasa.
06:02 But, there are other advantages if we're with foreigners.
06:09 I don't have that experience.
06:11 But, I have a few friends who are married and have a couple with foreigners.
06:17 I ask them a lot.
06:19 Really?
06:20 What are the examples?
06:21 You're their guest, right?
06:22 I always get this from foreign men.
06:28 They said that they treat their couple like a princess.
06:33 They're not like...
06:36 Sorry.
06:38 They're not like the men I asked them about.
06:45 I understand.
06:46 That's what they told me.
06:48 They said that they've been in a relationship with a Malay man.
06:53 It's different.
06:55 That's right.
06:56 I have a friend who studied in Indonesia.
07:03 When Indonesians see Malaysians, they're interested in them.
07:08 Maybe because they think they're foreigners.
07:11 Like we see in Maksali.
07:14 But, we have Malaysians who are interested in Indonesian men.
07:20 Yes, but mostly, it's men who are interested in Indonesian women.
07:26 It's opposite.
07:29 Your friends are like that?
07:32 I heard that mostly men are interested in Indonesian women.
07:38 That's right.
07:40 The second wife, the third wife.
07:44 That's how it is.
07:46 The first wife is Malaysian.
07:49 The second wife is Indonesian.
07:51 Do you understand?
07:53 Let's start with our first curious cat.
07:58 First curious cat.
08:00 Hi, I'm a woman in my 30s.
08:03 I've been in a relationship with Maksali for 10 years.
08:08 We've known each other since I was in the UK.
08:12 Until now, my family doesn't know about our relationship.
08:14 Because my family is from a religious family.
08:20 I once dropped hints to marry Maksali.
08:23 But, she was against it.
08:25 Even though I'm 30 years old, I told my mom that I'm single.
08:29 But, after 10 years, I think I should get married.
08:34 My boyfriend has asked me to get married and is willing to convert.
08:37 He's also interested in Islam.
08:39 But, I know my family.
08:41 They will reject me.
08:44 At this point, I consider getting married without telling my parents.
08:47 Should I do that?
08:49 No.
08:50 The elders' blessings are important.
08:54 What about you? You have a boyfriend, Maksali.
08:59 I don't agree with her getting married without the elders' blessings.
09:04 No matter what, I should get married without the elders' blessings.
09:09 I'm sure that they will accept me sooner or later.
09:15 Really? - Yes.
09:17 Have you ever imagined of getting married to a foreigner?
09:21 I have.
09:24 I heard from my friends that it's a different kind of bed.
09:32 What about your friends?
09:36 I don't remember.
09:39 But, I feel like I'm getting married to Maksali.
09:42 I feel that there are many Malaysian women who get married to Maksali.
09:50 That's true.
09:51 What about your family?
09:55 What if you suddenly get married to a foreigner?
09:58 Do you think your family will be happy?
09:59 My family won't be happy.
10:03 If a person is willing to convert to Islam, what's wrong with that?
10:10 It's better. - True.
10:13 What should I do for my sister?
10:21 I think...
10:24 I don't know.
10:25 She said that she knows her family well.
10:27 She knows her family well.
10:29 But, she hasn't tried to get married.
10:32 I think she hasn't tried to get married.
10:34 She said that she knows her family well.
10:36 But, we don't know if she will try to get married.
10:40 Maybe, her parents will be happy.
10:43 So, she has to try.
10:45 Maybe, she will fail on her first try.
10:48 Maybe, she will fail on her second try.
10:49 She has to try again.
10:51 Because, the elders want their children to be happy.
10:56 True.
10:57 I think, no matter how hard her parents try, she will be happy in the end.
11:03 True.
11:04 They've been in a relationship for 10 years.
11:06 That's a long time.
11:07 I think, it's okay for a man.
11:10 True.
11:11 It's not going to last for long.
11:14 True.
11:15 I think, it's better for you to meet her.
11:20 At first, she will try.
11:22 But, she has to get ready.
11:25 True.
11:26 Your boyfriend wants to convert to Islam.
11:29 I think, he's a good man.
11:31 He will try to convince his parents.
11:36 He has to put in the effort.
11:39 His future husband has to show his effort to his parents.
11:46 We, Malay people, look at his attitude and his tone.
11:56 True.
11:57 But, I'm curious.
11:58 Do you notice that people in the past had a problem accepting foreigners as their son-in-law?
12:05 What do you think?
12:07 Do you think, it's because of the neighbors?
12:10 They're afraid of being criticized.
12:13 That's one of the reasons.
12:16 I'm not sure why.
12:20 But, for me, what's wrong with that?
12:26 True.
12:27 What's wrong with trying?
12:28 Yes, what's wrong with trying?
12:30 I don't know if it's okay.
12:33 Maybe, they don't accept the new culture.
12:38 The new culture.
12:39 True.
12:40 Maybe, they think that the new culture will bring new culture to their family.
12:45 True.
12:46 One more thing, they're afraid that the husband will bring his son to run away.
12:50 Bring his son to another country.
12:52 To another country.
12:53 But, all of these things are communicated.
12:58 Discussed.
12:59 Where they will stay after marriage.
13:01 True.
13:02 But, if he's willing to convert, I think he's willing to stay here.
13:07 That's a big deal.
13:09 If he's not willing to convert, maybe he will bring his son to his place.
13:15 But, I see other people who go to other countries to follow their husbands.
13:21 They don't forget their families.
13:24 But, it's hard to meet them.
13:27 It's hard to meet them because they're far away.
13:29 True.
13:30 But, 10 years of relationship, I'm sure his son is happy with the relationship.
13:36 Discuss it with his parents.
13:39 True.
13:40 True.
13:41 Discuss it well.
13:43 Just meet them.
13:44 Just bring them to meet.
13:45 Plan something for them to meet.
13:50 Maybe, if you tell them to meet, their family won't want to.
13:55 So, you have to plan a surprise.
13:59 Surprise something.
14:01 Surprise because they're coming.
14:05 If your family is against it but you're in a relationship with your boyfriend,
14:10 for 10 years,
14:12 your family will say, "No, Meera. You can't."
14:15 What will you do?
14:16 I'll try again.
14:18 I'll try again until I can.
14:20 If I really can't, then it's hard to make a decision.
14:29 But, if your family doesn't allow you to get married,
14:36 they can't do anything.
14:38 But, don't get married without telling your family.
14:41 True.
14:42 If you can, try.
14:43 Try to communicate first.
14:46 Okay, so, let's move to the second question.
14:51 I'm Muslim.
14:53 Oh, this is a man.
14:55 I'm Muslim.
14:56 My girlfriend is non-Muslim.
14:58 We've been in love for 3 years and we have a plan to get married.
15:01 My girlfriend and her family are okay with converting her to Islam.
15:04 At first, everything was okay.
15:06 But, one day, my friend asked,
15:08 "Are you really able to convince your girlfriend to convert?"
15:12 In fact, my girlfriend also asked me to teach her about religion.
15:17 To be honest, my religion is not that strong.
15:20 It's just basic.
15:22 At first, I was shocked.
15:24 I was wondering if I was making the right choice.
15:29 I wanted to ask her,
15:31 "Do you guys trust a man like me to be your husband?"
15:35 Of course, if we love someone, we have to trust our partner.
15:40 True.
15:41 It's a heavy responsibility for her to teach us.
15:46 True.
15:47 But, I think it's okay.
15:53 We can learn together.
15:55 Yes, we can learn together.
15:57 True.
15:58 But, she said her religion is not that strong.
16:03 Do you think she should have given herself a chance to learn?
16:10 Then, she would have been ready to be my wife.
16:14 Then, she would have converted.
16:15 Or, we can learn together.
16:17 Like I said, we can learn together.
16:19 But, mostly, I saw that she converted her wife to Islam.
16:27 Then, both of them didn't have a strong religion.
16:31 They got divorced.
16:33 Then, the woman was a convert.
16:37 There are many cases like that.
16:42 So, if she wants to be better, she has to strengthen her religion.
16:50 True.
16:51 But, for me, it takes time to strengthen her religion.
16:58 So, it's not wrong to learn together.
17:01 True.
17:02 We can go to the same class.
17:05 Yes.
17:06 So, for example, you're not a non-Muslim.
17:11 Do you want to follow your boyfriend?
17:13 He said that he's not that strong.
17:15 Can you follow him?
17:17 Personally, I don't want to do that.
17:20 Because, of course, we want to do what we're told.
17:25 True.
17:26 Because, if you want to follow a different religion, it's a big deal.
17:32 That's right.
17:33 So, if we follow the wrong person, we'll be in trouble.
17:38 True.
17:41 So, actually, for the better, she has to strengthen her religion first.
17:47 I think for people who love non-Muslims,
17:53 if you want to marry your partner,
17:57 you have to have basic knowledge of religion.
18:03 Because, it's a pity if you're already married,
18:07 and suddenly, you're not.
18:12 You don't have a guide.
18:14 You don't have a guide.
18:15 But, in this story, she said that her family is okay.
18:22 So, she can ask for a guide from her family.
18:26 True.
18:27 Her friends.
18:28 Like I said, they can learn together.
18:31 Have you experienced this with your friends?
18:35 I'm not sure.
18:38 I don't know much about religion.
18:44 But, they seem happy.
18:49 But, do your friends convert or are they both Muslims?
18:56 They convert.
18:59 Not happy?
19:01 Because, my friend has a boyfriend.
19:05 So, your friend is a woman.
19:08 My friend is a woman.
19:09 She married a man.
19:10 That's new.
19:11 How is it?
19:12 Let's say, if I marry my non-Muslim boyfriend,
19:18 how am I responsible for my friend?
19:23 I don't ask for details.
19:26 Because, I don't dare to ask.
19:27 I might be sensitive.
19:30 I just ask if he's willing to convert.
19:36 He said, okay.
19:38 But, I don't ask for details.
19:39 Like, do you want a guide?
19:41 I don't ask for details.
19:46 I don't want to be blamed.
19:48 That's right.
19:49 If you want to marry a non-Muslim boyfriend,
19:55 will you strengthen your religion first?
19:59 Or, are you ready to guide him?
20:02 I think it depends.
20:10 Like I said, if you want to strengthen your religion,
20:14 you might need time to learn.
20:17 But, we'll see if he's willing to wait.
20:21 If he's not willing to wait,
20:24 and our religion is not strong yet,
20:27 if he agrees to learn together,
20:30 then, okay.
20:32 But, if he's not willing to wait,
20:35 what can we do?
20:37 That's right.
20:38 Have you heard of a couple who didn't get married
20:42 just because they couldn't commit to their religion?
20:49 You've heard of it, right?
20:50 Yes, I've heard of it.
20:52 Some people don't believe in it.
20:54 They think, oh, we're going to be fasting.
20:56 Yes, that's right.
20:57 I've heard of that too.
20:59 Like, okay, I want to convert to Islam.
21:02 But, there's only one problem.
21:04 They say, because they're going to be fasting.
21:06 I can't fast.
21:07 That's a problem too.
21:09 So, I can't continue my relationship.
21:11 That's just the basics.
21:12 Yes.
21:13 They can't even fast.
21:15 What else can they do?
21:16 They can't even pray five times a day.
21:18 They can't commit to their religion.
21:20 That's right.
21:21 It's hard.
21:22 Things like that.
21:23 I used to have dreams of getting married to a foreigner.
21:31 Yes, you'll get a beautiful mixed-race child.
21:33 Cute.
21:34 Cute.
21:36 But, when I think about it, I'm like, okay, honestly, we're not that good.
21:42 We're not like, I'm not that good, I'm not that expert in religion.
21:48 So, when I'm responsible for guiding someone, I feel like I can't.
21:57 Right?
21:58 Because we need someone to guide us.
22:01 That's right.
22:02 It's a heavy responsibility.
22:04 That's right.
22:05 Sometimes, we're afraid that we might make a mistake.
22:11 That's right.
22:12 Or, we might invite him to our home, but he'll do nothing.
22:22 He'll do nothing.
22:23 That's right.
22:24 I heard of a case where a man married a non-Muslim from Sarawak.
22:31 He got married, had kids, and then they got divorced.
22:36 They got divorced, and I don't know how, but the woman got married again to a non-Muslim.
22:44 So, now, he doesn't know his status.
22:48 Is he Muslim or not?
22:53 His partner is not a convert when they got married.
22:57 Convert.
22:58 Convert.
22:59 Convert.
23:00 So, this man is Muslim, married to a non-Muslim.
23:03 So, this woman is a convert.
23:05 Then, they got divorced.
23:07 The woman got married again to a non-Muslim.
23:15 I read a lot of ads.
23:18 I don't know if his status is Muslim or not.
23:23 But, once we're in, we're Muslim, right?
23:27 I'm not sure.
23:28 You're not sure?
23:29 I'm not sure.
23:30 So, I'm not sure.
23:31 But, once he's back to his non-Muslim status, of course, he'll return to his culture.
23:41 His culture.
23:42 He'll return to his culture.
23:43 But, that's what I feel sorry for.
23:45 When the man who brought him in, he's not a convert, and he's left like that.
23:52 I feel sorry for him.
23:53 That's right.
23:54 That's right.
23:55 He doesn't have kids yet.
23:57 If you really want to bring a convert, make sure you're ready.
24:06 Even if you're not strong, but you're willing to learn together.
24:12 And, be determined.
24:15 Don't let him be a burden.
24:20 Be determined.
24:21 Learn together.
24:22 That's right.
24:23 But, this man is really good.
24:24 This man who brought him in, he's really determined.
24:27 He's not just playing around with marriage.
24:29 He's determined.
24:30 "My religion is not strong. Can I do this?"
24:33 Like you said, you can learn together.
24:36 If you want to strengthen your religion, you can.
24:39 Sometimes, half of the people don't think about marriage.
24:43 They're just confused about religion.
24:45 That's a lot.
24:46 That's a lot.
24:47 That's true.
24:48 Sometimes, I see people who are already married, but their lifestyle is not good.
24:59 So, what should I do?
25:02 That's what we usually see when people get married.
25:06 Some people become a Muslim.
25:08 Right?
25:10 Right.
25:11 They convert because they want to get married.
25:15 Yes, because they want to get married.
25:17 I've heard that a lot.
25:19 That's right.
25:20 So, that's it.
25:22 When you want to get married, marriage is a burden.
25:26 Especially when you marry someone who is not a Muslim.
25:30 You want to convert them.
25:32 That's right.
25:33 You have to get ready.
25:35 Okay.
25:36 Next.
25:38 "Hi, I'm married to a foreigner.
25:41 To be honest, I'm happy.
25:43 But, I'm a little bit off with her lifestyle.
25:46 It's very different from our lifestyle here.
25:48 One of the things is that she eats differently.
25:51 We eat with our hands.
25:54 But, she eats like a glutton.
25:56 But, that's their way.
25:58 I understand that.
26:00 But, every day, I'm like, "What is this?"
26:05 I have to travel a few hours to get to her village.
26:09 It's so far.
26:10 I'm tired.
26:11 I'm tired of our different lifestyles.
26:13 The thing I can't accept is their food.
26:16 Their food is not my style.
26:18 But, what can I do?
26:20 My husband always asks me to cook for him.
26:25 If I cook for him, he won't eat.
26:28 It's not hard when we're in love.
26:30 But, after we got married, there are a lot of differences between us.
26:34 If you have an experience of being in love with a foreigner,
26:37 I want to know how you make yourself comfortable.
26:40 That's funny.
26:41 I want to know how you make yourself comfortable.
26:44 She didn't mention it.
26:46 But, if you marry a Malay man, you'll have a different lifestyle.
26:55 We have to adapt to our lifestyle.
26:58 It's not the same.
27:01 That's right.
27:02 But, it's not because she eats like a glutton.
27:06 She can change her lifestyle.
27:09 Maybe she can teach her partner how to cook.
27:12 Or, you can be a glutton too.
27:15 You can be a glutton too.
27:19 That's okay.
27:20 But, it's normal.
27:29 When you're in love, how do you eat?
27:33 When you're in love, you'll be a glutton.
27:35 After you got married, you'll be a glutton.
27:37 You'll show off your naked body.
27:39 You'll show off your naked body.
27:41 I can't do that.
27:43 I can't do that.
27:45 But, it's normal.
27:50 When we get married, we'll be living with a new person.
27:55 But, our lifestyle will be different.
27:58 Even if you marry a Malay man, it'll be the same.
28:01 We have to learn how to adapt.
28:07 I think the husband can't accept it.
28:11 He wants to do it his way.
28:14 Maybe he's a glutton because he's hardworking.
28:17 After you get married, you'll be responsible.
28:21 You'll have a big commitment.
28:22 So, you have to be hardworking.
28:24 He'll move here.
28:26 He'll be hungry.
28:28 The food in Malaysia is delicious.
28:30 That's what makes you a glutton.
28:32 But, I think...
28:34 Your husband has moved to Malaysia with you.
28:39 He doesn't want to eat Malay food.
28:41 He wants to cook his own food.
28:44 It's okay. He's sacrificed for his Malaysia stay.
28:50 He asked you to cook his food.
28:52 What's wrong with that?
28:54 You have to sacrifice for your own stay.
28:58 You have to accept it.
29:00 If he wants to eat Malay food or cook his own food, it's up to him.
29:06 It's a complication.
29:08 We're like a marriage therapy.
29:10 It's okay to eat Malay food.
29:14 You're okay.
29:16 Eating Malay food is different from eating Malay food.
29:19 It's the same.
29:21 It's the same.
29:23 It's okay to eat Malay food.
29:26 Are you okay?
29:28 You got married to a Muslim.
29:33 Are you okay with that?
29:35 I'm okay.
29:37 That's right.
29:39 She's cooking.
29:42 What's this?
29:44 If we're going to get married,
29:49 we have to adapt and accept.
29:53 We have to accept what he likes and dislikes.
29:56 We have to learn to adapt and accept.
30:00 But if we can't accept it,
30:07 sometimes it's a pity.
30:10 That's right.
30:11 He tried but he couldn't.
30:13 But he's just eating.
30:19 If possible, we can eat small things.
30:22 But that's it.
30:24 The lid is a big thing.
30:26 It's a divorce.
30:27 I think it's okay to eat more.
30:30 You can cook two dishes.
30:34 One of his food and one of ours.
30:38 It's a bit tiring.
30:40 It's tiring.
30:41 Because we have to make two videos.
30:43 But how can we do it when we're married?
30:47 But before marriage,
30:49 we have to discuss.
30:51 We have to discuss.
30:52 We have to decide who's suitable for each other.
30:54 I don't know where he's from.
30:56 But he has this culture.
30:58 How do you want to discuss with him?
31:03 Can we just eat with a spoon?
31:06 Maybe we have to talk to him.
31:10 Maybe he can't do it.
31:13 But if we tell him often,
31:16 we can show him how we eat.
31:19 I don't want to discuss this.
31:23 Communication.
31:25 Communication is the key in marriage.
31:29 Everything is about marriage.
31:31 Don't just look at him and eat your own heart.
31:37 You have to talk to him.
31:39 I don't like it.
31:40 If he can't do it,
31:42 you can try to eat in front of him.
31:45 And you can do it often.
31:47 You can do it often.
31:48 He'll follow you.
31:50 That's right.
31:51 One more thing.
31:52 He has a problem going back to his hometown.
31:54 It's far.
31:55 You're the one who chose to marry him.
31:58 It's far.
31:59 What are you trying to say?
32:01 You're the one who chose him.
32:02 You're not the one who doesn't know where he's from.
32:04 He's living with you here.
32:06 Can't you go back to your hometown for a while?
32:09 If you marry a Kranten,
32:11 you have to go back to your hometown for 7 hours.
32:13 You have to accept it.
32:15 7 hours.
32:16 I think everything is about communication.
32:19 Do you have any advice for him?
32:27 As I said, communication is the key.
32:30 If he can't eat in front of you,
32:33 you can do it.
32:34 He'll follow you.
32:37 Maybe he'll try to accept you.
32:42 You can eat with him.
32:44 Or you can eat with him.
32:45 You can follow his way first.
32:46 Then, you can follow his way.
32:48 If he sees you eating with him,
32:50 he'll be like, "What's wrong with you?"
32:52 "What's wrong with my wife?"
32:53 "You're more glossy than him."
32:55 "Okay, I'll eat with him."
32:56 "Let's go."
32:58 You just found out.
32:59 That's it.
33:02 From the 3 things I read,
33:04 they're all about communication.
33:06 That's right.
33:07 Communication and make sure you're ready...
33:11 before you bring someone into your religion.
33:17 Follow the culture.
33:19 We're reaching the end.
33:23 It's fast, right?
33:25 It's fast.
33:26 There's more.
33:27 Aren't you looking for foreigners?
33:32 Hi, my name is Mia Harry.
33:38 People say you're okay eating with him.
33:41 I'm okay eating with him.
33:44 Promise me you won't be a troublemaker.
33:45 I can sing.
33:47 I can go back to my hometown.
33:50 I don't mind.
33:51 You can do that while you're out.
33:53 You're so positive.
33:55 While you're out.
33:56 Eating with him is okay.
33:58 Eating with him is okay.
34:00 Your parents are okay.
34:01 Everyone is okay.
34:03 Everyone is okay.
34:04 Please, Mia Harry.
34:05 Please.
34:06 I'm okay.
34:08 You're not okay?
34:09 I'll stay in Malaysia.
34:11 I'll stay in Malaysia.
34:12 You can go to Jogja.
34:14 Okay, so...
34:16 Don't you have a new song?
34:18 You promised to sing it.
34:20 Munajat Cinta.
34:21 You promised to sing it.
34:23 Can I sing a little?
34:24 Sure.
34:25 Okay.
34:26 If Allah wills it.
34:27 Okay.
34:28 Okay.
34:30 [Singing]
34:58 That's all.
34:59 If you want to hear more, you can watch it on...
35:02 YouTube Music, Spotify, and other digital platforms.
35:06 Yes.
35:08 Thank you.
35:10 Thank you, Mia.
35:11 Thank you for your time.
35:12 Thank you for inviting me today.
35:14 Thank you for letting me sing.
35:17 It's hard to sing for a foreigner out there.
35:19 Okay, thank you.
35:21 If you want to hear the next episode...
35:25 Leave a comment below.
35:27 [Music]