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00:00All right, we've got Gianna, who reached out to us today on the 7-15 second date update, very confused.
00:05They went to American Social.
00:06She could not stop talking about how handsome Jeremy was and what a gentleman Jeremy was.
00:11You brought up the fact that, was there any weird or strange topics, maybe something you probably shouldn't be talking about?
00:16She said no.
00:17It honestly sounds like it was a really good date.
00:21He even texted her when he got home and said, hey, did you get home okay?
00:24Just want to make sure you're home.
00:25She's like, after that, she hasn't heard nothing from him.
00:27All right, so we actually tracked him down.
00:29We have him on hold.
00:30We're going to bring him back on, see if we can get some answers right now.
00:33Good morning.
00:33Is this Jeremy?
00:35Yes.
00:35Yeah, hello?
00:36Hey, Jeremy, I appreciate you hanging on for us.
00:38We want to see if we could talk to you for a second on the air.
00:41I know you talked to Kevin off the air, but it would be okay to talk to you on the air about a date you went on?
00:46I think he kind of gave you the rundown a little bit.
00:49Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:50Yeah, sure.
00:51Okay, I appreciate that.
00:52It's about a girl that thinks that you are very good looking, a complete gentleman, had nothing but nice things to say about you.
01:00I'm talking about Gianna, and she told us that you guys went to American Social.
01:05She said that you guys had a great time, and the conversation was great.
01:08And in her mind, she thought this was leading towards a second date, but I guess you have not gotten back to any texts that she has sent you.
01:17So she's just trying to figure out what happened.
01:20Yeah, I did not respond to her.
01:23And the reason being is because, don't get me wrong, she's a great girl and all that, and we had a good time.
01:29I'm not denying that.
01:30But it's just, you know, I took some time to self-reflect and kind of think back on the date and, you know, the things that we spoke about.
01:39And for the most part, you know, it went well.
01:41But then there was one topic that just kept on, she kept on revisiting.
01:45And, you know, she kept on bringing up her ex, which I get, I get it.
01:48It comes up in conversation from time to time, even in first dates.
01:52But, you know, it seemed like a conversation that was dragged on a little too long.
01:56I feel like she has a lot of emotional baggage and things to get over before she's ready to get to, you know, get on to the next step and move on.
02:04Well, what are some of the things she said then?
02:06You know, the thing, like how things just ended on bad terms and then on a bad note with her ex and, you know, all the horrible things that he did, that he was not being faithful, you know, like just all around, like what you would imagine the typical picture of like what a bad ex-boyfriend would be, you know?
02:25Okay, but did you, I mean, did you bring up the topic of exes or something?
02:30I mean, she brought it up initially and, you know, at first I, you know, I wasn't really taken aback by it.
02:36But then, you know, it's just like, all right, can we change the topic now?
02:39Yeah.
02:40Sometimes when people get on a roll, though, with something, they just, they feel like they're going to keep talking and they're nervous and they just keep, it's just their way to like talk.
02:48Or maybe she hasn't talked about it in a long time and she just needed it.
02:51Yeah.
02:51See, well, it seems very fresh in her mind.
02:54So that's why I was like, I don't know, in my mind, I'm thinking, I don't know if you're ready for this.
03:00And I, I'm sure I don't want any part in this is like getting involved in, you know, I'm the guy to blame and I'm just kind of paying for a man sin, so to speak, you know?
03:10Okay.
03:10I thought she, I was going to say, you're going to look like a hero right here.
03:13If this guy is such a jerk and you're a good dude, that, that sounds like, but now you're thinking that she's going to hold this against you?
03:19I don't know.
03:20I mean, she, she, she started talking about how, you know, she has a hard time trusting guys and that she doesn't know she could ever feel the same way she ever felt before.
03:29And I'm thinking, well, if this is going to be a thing between us, you know, am I going to, is she going to start all this, she's going to, all this pent up, you know, aggression that she has.
03:41Oh, take it out on you.
03:43Yeah.
03:43Yeah.
03:43That's common.
03:44Women do that.
03:46Well, listen, Jeremy, that's an interesting conversation to have on a first date.
03:50No doubt.
03:50Uh, we actually have Gianna on the phone.
03:52I want to bring her back on real quick here.
03:54Gianna.
03:56Hey, hey, Jeremy.
03:58Did we go on a little too long about the ex?
03:59And did you, were you talking about like not trusting guys?
04:01Like were you speaking kind of in general here?
04:05I did.
04:06Yeah.
04:06I mean, I did talk about my ex and he was, you know, I explained to him how horrible he was and cheated on me and, and all that.
04:14And so I'm just, you know, I feel like I've got to put that out there.
04:17I mean, but I was willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and give you a chance to prove yourself.
04:23Well, that's the thing that now that the way, the way you're putting it right now, like having to prove myself, like, why should, why, why can't I start off on a clean slate?
04:31I'm being vulnerable to you.
04:33I mean, I'm not thinking the same way about you.
04:35You know, I don't think that's fair.
04:37If you, again, if you've been through all that I've been through with, with what he put me through, it's just, you know, I might have a little bit of a guard up.
04:43But, but like I said, I was exciting and excited and willing to see where it could go with you and, you know, try and give it a chance at least.
04:55Well, Gianna, I totally get like being maybe a little apprehensive, like you said, putting your guard up.
05:00If you've experienced something like someone not being faithful to you, but do you get by saying in general, I don't trust guys or in general, do you have a chance to prove yourself?
05:11Do you see how if you're sitting on Jeremy's side of the table, he could be like, whoa, what?
05:15I'm already guilty.
05:16Like, do you see how you feel that way?
05:19I mean, yeah, I see where he could be coming from, I guess.
05:21But I mean, it's not like I'm not going to give him a chance to prove me wrong.
05:25Yeah, I don't know if I could work with that.
05:28So, Jeremy, you don't want a chance to prove yourself?
05:32I will.
05:33Are you going to pass on another day with her?
05:36I don't think we're on the same page, emotionally speaking.
05:39Okay.
05:39I mean, she was comfortable enough to just spill the beans and tell you probably too much information that you wanted to hear.
05:45So, I mean, at least, you know, she's comfortable talking with you, at least.
05:49You got that going for you.
05:50Yeah, but I think that was a problem.
05:51Which is why I said, you know, she would make him, you know, maybe for someone else.
05:55But I don't know if I could.
05:57Okay.
05:57I don't know if I have it in me.
06:00All right.
06:01You see what I mean?
06:01This is why I have to have my guard up because of that.
06:04You see?
06:04That's how it goes.
06:05Well, hey, I'm sorry, Gianna, that we couldn't make another date happen.
06:08I'm sorry that your ex was a jerk.
06:10I hope you find someone great, and you will, I'm sure.
06:13Jeremy, thank you for coming on.
06:14I wish you both the best.
06:17I appreciate it.
06:18I mean, I feel bad for her because no one wants to go through that.
06:22But also, you can't take that into another relationship and say, hey, you could be the
06:27same guy.
06:28I mean, you could be in the back of your, or at least say it.
06:30You can't say it.
06:31No, but I think it's, I mean, it's inevitable you're going to talk about your exes in a relationship.
06:36That's just what you do.
06:37And you kind of say, you know, he did this or she did this.
06:40I didn't really like it when she did this.
06:42So you learn, and you throw it out there, but maybe it was just too much for him.
06:46Well, I think she came off kind of as a man-hater, and so he's thinking to myself, oh, I'm already
06:51guilty until proven innocent here.
06:53Yeah, she had some choice words, you know, about proving, and I need to get this out here
06:58right now.
06:58I mean, yeah, so.
06:59All right, where are you guys at on this?
07:01Would this have been a deal breaker for you, or do you think she didn't do anything wrong?
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07:09All right.