Do You Text Or Still Talk To People On The Phone?
Category
😹
FunTranscript
00:00Roxanne has a very interesting story, and this is something that I've known for a long time, and this has bothered me.
00:08I think you're spot on.
00:11It's about a girlfriend that you have, and she has a new boyfriend, and there's already a little rift in the relationship.
00:21Now, has she addressed the new boyfriend yet, or she's just talking to friends like you about the situation and what should I do?
00:33Is that what's going on here?
00:34I think she's still just talking to friends because she was married for a good amount of time before she got back into the dating world.
00:42How long was she married?
00:44More than 10 years.
00:46Really?
00:46How long was she divorced or separated from her first marriage to start dating again?
00:50Yeah, a year or so.
00:52How old is she?
00:53She is in her late 30s.
00:56Late 30s, married for over 10 years, dumped the old husband.
01:00Did she dump him, or was it mutual, or he dumped her?
01:03Don't bring MJ.
01:04It's a wood chipper accident.
01:05Don't bring it up.
01:05Very sensitive.
01:06Do you only hang out with divorce?
01:08It's a Fargo situation.
01:11Roxanne has her own little second wives club.
01:12Yeah, I do.
01:13First wives club.
01:14Some days, you too can be engaged for six years.
01:17She starts dating again, and what's the problem with the new boyfriend?
01:22The new boyfriend only sends her text messages.
01:26He doesn't want to have phone conversations.
01:29See, this is a problem.
01:30I've recognized this for a long time.
01:31Yes.
01:32So she comes, as I'm talking about this, I know she was married longer than, it was more like 15 years that she was married.
01:38So she got married pre-text messaging frenzies.
01:42Yeah, this is an issue.
01:43She got to know her husband via phone conversations.
01:46Yeah, and she knew she hated him and dumped him after 15 years.
01:49I recognized this a long time ago, and a lot of our younger population, like my kids, Coop is 23, our producer, Super Cooper, who is a Generation Z at 23 years old.
02:06Coop, Coop, what percentage of your communications with people are via text versus via actual phone call talking on the phone?
02:16Oh, like 90%.
02:1890% texting, 10% maybe talking?
02:21Yeah.
02:21Yeah, that's about right.
02:22See, the intercommunication, the personal intercommunication skills are lacking.
02:29We're becoming like slaves to these, you know, these digits versus actually talking and having conversations, and I know exactly what your friend is going through.
02:42Right.
02:42I feel like when I fell in love with Doug, it was because...
02:47Just saying, it's kind of gross.
02:49But go ahead.
02:50You were saying...
02:51It was because of...
02:52What's wrong with her falling in love with Dig Dug, her perpetual fiancé of 17 years?
02:56Wow, I'm just thinking of Doug's bald head.
02:59All right, go on.
03:00We fell in love on the phone, you know, the late night conversations.
03:05Was he in prison?
03:08This is a call from an inmate at the Florida State Penitentiary in Stark.
03:13This call is being monitored every two minutes.
03:16The warden is listening in to this call.
03:19I text all the...
03:20Listen, don't call me.
03:21I'm not going to pick up.
03:22I'm going to hang up on you before it goes to voicemail and text you and go, my bad.
03:28I'm in a meeting.
03:29What's up?
03:31This is something, and Roxanne raised this issue, but this is something...
03:35You've really hit a nerve here, Roxanne.
03:36This is something that's, like, near and dear to my heart and something that I've discussed, something that's bothered me.
03:42This has come up on my radio shows in the past, that people are turning into textaholics.
03:48And I'm going to call it a textemic, like an epidemic of texting instead of talking.
03:57And if you're just tuning in, just a little recap, and I want to grab calls on this.
04:00If you heard the last segment, please call us, 800-990-1047, 800-990-1047.
04:09Are you in a situation where you agree with me or disagree with me that people are texting so much, people are texting so much, that they're losing the art of conversation?
04:22We're not talking to people as much.
04:25We're not having conversations, hearing people's voices, hearing inflections, emotions, that we're just using these digits over a cell phone to text people.
04:37And to me, that's bothersome.
04:39And what just came up in the last segment was that Roxanne's got a girlfriend who was married for years.
04:46She's newly single.
04:47She's now dating after, like, what, how many years?
04:5015.
04:51Oh, 15 years.
04:52Closer to 15, yeah, when I did the math.
04:53So after 15 years of marriage, she's now dating a new guy, new boyfriend, and all he wants to do is text.
05:00So all their communication is done over text, and she prefers to speak and talk and have a communication.
05:09Now, folks, I'd love to hear from listeners right now.
05:11Is this an issue with your loved one, maybe your kids?
05:16Do you have to deal with somebody with work, and it's all texting, and you want to actually talk to people?
05:23You want to hear a voice?
05:26You don't want to have to just rely on your thumbs going da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da on your cell phone?
05:31I like to explore all these relationship dynamics, but as it pertains to dating, I wonder about the whys.
05:38Why does this happen?
05:39I think guys like to control the situation, and they can do so via text easier.
05:44And I also think when you're dating, you get that dopamine rush of, oh, I got a text message.
05:48Who's it from?
05:49It's kind of exciting.
05:49Listen, there are times when texting is efficient, and it's good.
05:54Hey, be right there.
05:55Be there in a second.
05:56Running five minutes late.
05:57Whatever.
05:58But there are times where people are texting, and they're completely eliminating the art of talking and having a conversation.
06:08Being human.
06:09So what?
06:11My frog, I'm going to come over there, and I'm going to be.
06:13I mean, seriously, some people are annoying to talk to.
06:16We're talking to you right now about this.
06:19I'd rather you all text me about it.
06:21Yeah, well, Froggie, why don't you text me?
06:22Why don't you?
06:23I'm going to shut your mic off, and you just text me for the rest of the show.
06:25That's a good idea, actually.
06:26And if it's good enough, I'll read your text on the end.
06:29I just got a text in from Froggy.
06:31He says, cool.
06:32I just turned his mic off.
06:33All right.
06:33I just turned his mic off.
06:34Text it.
06:35Froggie, text me your response.
06:36All right.
06:37Let's go to phones on this.
06:38Folks, do you agree with me or disagree with me?
06:41800-990-1047.
06:44Good point you brought up, Roxanne, because this is near and dear.
06:47I'm telling you, this has always bothered me.
06:49800-990-1047.
06:53You agree or disagree?
06:54Am I right or wrong?
06:56Let's go with Jerry in Tampa.
06:59Jerry, first up on this on the MJ Morning Show on Q105.
07:02Hi, Jerry.
07:03Hi.
07:04Jerry, your thoughts, please.
07:08Yes.
07:08I'd rather talk instead of text, because I want to know that I'm talking to a real person,
07:13because when you text somebody, how do you know if they're actually real or not?
07:19All right.
07:19Can you give me an example of maybe a text conversation?
07:23I'm talking about people you know and relatives.
07:26Well, my daughter, she'd rather text me instead of talking to me.
07:30Well, so you don't know if your daughter's real?
07:31Well, I know she is real, but some people that you actually end up texting to, how do
07:39you know if they're actually real or not?
07:41Oh, okay.
07:41So you're talking about people that you might not know.
07:44That you're meeting or you're dating or you're trying to meet online.
07:47You know, a lot of these things happen on Tinder.
07:48Well, what do you, was it like a bot that's texting you or something?
07:52Or I don't know.
07:52Could be some guy.
07:53Yeah, because there's a lot of them out there now.
07:56All right.
07:56Jerry, thanks for the call.
07:57I do appreciate it.
07:58Let me grab Mari in Tampa.
08:01Mari, you're on the MJ Morning Show.
08:02Hi.
08:03Good morning, guys.
08:04How are you?
08:05Doing fine.
08:05Go ahead.
08:06I absolutely hate texting.
08:10First of all, it's just getting sometimes misunderstood when you're trying to communicate
08:16things on text.
08:18And my kids know that I would never respond to text, so they usually call me.
08:23Oh, so that, oh, that, that is strong.
08:27Mari, you're telling me that you hate texting so much when you're, how old are your kids?
08:32My son is 22.
08:34My daughter is, it's, um, going to, it's 19.
08:37So 19 to 22.
08:38So.
08:39No, no, no, 20.
08:4020.
08:40I'm sorry.
08:40My daughter is 20.
08:41My son is 22.
08:41That's all right.
08:42So when, when they text you, you don't respond.
08:45So you force them to have to call you to talk.
08:49Absolutely.
08:49That's great.
08:49What if they text you, Mom, I've been in an accident.
08:51Froggy, text me.
08:52Don't talk.
08:53I just shut Froggy's mic on.
08:55Don't turn your mic back on.
08:56Text me.
08:56Hate this.
08:58Mari, thanks for the call.
08:59Good call.
09:00Good, good point.
09:01Uh, Krista's in Land O'Lakes.
09:04Krista, you're on the MJ Morning Show, Q105.
09:06Hi, Krista.
09:07Hi, good morning.
09:09I do not like texting because you cannot tell the tone of the conversation through a text.
09:13100% right.
09:14That's one of the things that I said is you can't tell inflection.
09:17You can't tell emotion.
09:19And sometimes, sometimes when somebody delivers a text, it's interpreted the wrong way because
09:26you don't know tone and inflection.
09:28Krista, you're 100% right.
09:31Times to text and there are times not to text.
09:34Correct.
09:35Krista, thanks for the call.
09:37That's an excellent point.
09:38People always tell me I'm good at letting them know I'm ready to get off the phone.
09:41But now, I feel like people don't recognize that as much when you're like, okay, well,
09:46I got it because they don't recognize tone of voice.
09:48Gail in Clearwater.
09:49Gail, you're on the MJ Morning Show.
09:50Hi.
09:51Hi, good morning.
09:52Hold on a sec.
09:53Frog, you just tested me.
09:54Uh, texted me.
09:55Texted you, yeah.
09:55Yeah.
09:57Kiss my...
09:58I can't make you read this, Frog.
09:59Well, you want me to text you?
10:01Kiss my...
10:01I mean, you could have just said it on the radio.
10:03Hang on a minute.
10:04All right.
10:05Gail, you're on the MJ Morning Show.
10:07Hi, Gail.
10:08Hi, how are you?
10:09Doing fine.
10:10I am a caller.
10:12I have a 17-year-old daughter and a 21-year-old son.
10:15Yep.
10:16And they will actually text each other and myself while we're in the same home.
10:21I don't answer them.
10:22Oh, my God.
10:22They're texting you while you're in the same...
10:25They won't come talk to you?
10:26That's a whole different issue.
10:28That's even beyond not calling somebody on the phone, texting in the house instead of
10:34going to the next room to have a face-to-face conversation.
10:37That's like a whole new level.
10:40Oh, it's terrible.
10:41And they know I will not answer them.
10:43My God.
10:44Gail, thanks.
10:45That's terrible.
10:47Tracy is next on the MJ Morning Show.
10:49Hi, Tracy.
10:50Welcome.
10:51Hi.
10:52You got a problem, Tracy?
10:54What's the issue?
10:55I've got some adult children that text nonstop.
10:59They've definitely lost the appreciation of communication via a phone call.
11:06I'm telling you.
11:07Big problem.
11:07Thanks, Tracy.
11:08How about Mary Catherine?
11:10Is it Mary Catherine Gallagher, buddy?
11:12Are you going to flop down on a card table?
11:15Are you going to smell your fingers?
11:16Mary Catherine.
11:17I'm a superstar.
11:18I'm sure she's never heard that.
11:20Mary Catherine, give me a superstar real quick.
11:23Superstar.
11:24I was going to play for Halloween one year.
11:26That's fantastic.
11:27All right, Mary Catherine, MJ Morning Show, you're on.
11:29Go ahead.
11:30Yeah, so I'm 38.
11:32My husband's 33.
11:34And we're both millennials, but I'm on the cusp of the Xenial Gen X.
11:39And with him, it's totally different.
11:41It's like he doesn't even know how to form words when we're face-to-face talking.
11:47But text, it's like a bucket of information.
11:51That's interesting.
11:53Yeah, look at that.
11:54All right.
11:55You married a real dope man, seriously.
11:57So, I mean, is this doomed, or is this going to last?
12:00What do you think?
12:01Can you get through this?
12:02I mean, I'm very hopeful that it's not doomed, but it's hard.
12:06It's very difficult, and I feel bad.
12:08I think it's just a generational thing.
12:10Yeah, we've totally hit on something here.
12:12I know.
12:20Yeah.
12:21Like, I know.
12:22I didn't go there.
12:23I know.
12:24I know.