90 Day Fiance S10 E12
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00:00:00Previously on 90 Day Fiancé...
00:00:03I'm effectively living as a virgin because we haven't been having sex recently.
00:00:07I know what those eyes mean, man.
00:00:09Shut up, shut up.
00:00:10What's she gonna do, not have sex with me?
00:00:22You're in trouble, buddy.
00:00:27Wow, look at that booty.
00:00:29Be gentle.
00:00:30You've been bad girl.
00:00:33Miami is the place where I belong.
00:00:36For the wedding?
00:00:37This is what I dreamt.
00:00:38The only problem is my family wouldn't be there.
00:00:41I don't want them at my wedding.
00:00:43How could she possibly think that I wouldn't want my family at my wedding?
00:00:47That blows my mind.
00:00:56She really wants this.
00:00:58I'm worried.
00:00:59You know, people don't want to be around him.
00:01:00You gonna spend the rest of your life with this man?
00:01:02I have faith, mom.
00:01:04I know, honey. I'm just worried.
00:01:09There's something I kinda need to tell you.
00:01:11After getting arrested for having my Suboxone medication in an unmarked bottle,
00:01:17the judge offered me a diversion program to, like, if I complete it, I get off.
00:01:23I didn't get the paperwork applied for in time, and now I have to go to court
00:01:27and hear what the prosecutor, if he offers probation, jail time.
00:01:33Like, go to jail?
00:01:35Why you just tell me now about that?
00:01:38It really make me angry.
00:01:40I just got here in America, and then it's going to jail.
00:01:44Do you love me enough where no matter what, you're gonna stick by my side?
00:01:48I don't know.
00:01:50You know, if you're trying new things...
00:01:53You answer that question.
00:01:54No, you answer it.
00:01:55You just want me to tell on myself.
00:01:57If I would have said yes, he would have been down for that, which is gross.
00:02:00You cannot blame me for saying this isn't a question for me.
00:02:03You and I haven't married yet, and you're thinking about f***ing other people.
00:02:06I didn't say I was trying to have sex with anyone.
00:02:08I just want to know my man only wants me, and I can get the trust back with you.
00:02:11F*** that.
00:02:20You trying to make me out to be a dog?
00:02:22No, that's not what it is.
00:02:23I feel like if you're that interested in somebody else,
00:02:26or if you're that interested in experiencing another girl,
00:02:29then you have something that you need to figure out
00:02:31on whether or not you're interested enough for us to do this as a couple.
00:02:35Because I don't like the idea of you having a side partner.
00:02:38That's not cool with me.
00:02:39That makes me feel like I'm not enough.
00:02:50I understand why I was upset.
00:02:52It was because I thought you wanted to f*** her,
00:02:55and if it was about supporting me,
00:02:58and not the fact you were getting a green light to have sex with someone else,
00:03:01then that's fine.
00:03:03I understand.
00:03:05Let's just move past it.
00:03:06All right, let's move past it.
00:03:08I feel like Sophie and I will have these heated arguments,
00:03:11and then we somehow find each other.
00:03:13And I really appreciate that Sophie and I have been able to
00:03:16move on from these moments, and I really try to myself.
00:03:20Now he knows in the future,
00:03:22if any girl wants to get with him in any way,
00:03:24with me, without me, just tell her to go away and leave me alone,
00:03:28and I have a stunning fiancé, or soon-to-be wife.
00:03:33Can I have a kiss?
00:03:35Maybe.
00:03:47All right, so you sent me a little list.
00:03:49Chicken, potato, and veg.
00:03:50Yeah.
00:03:52Okay.
00:03:53What's my job in all this?
00:03:55You help me.
00:03:56Help you with which part?
00:03:58All of it.
00:04:00I want you to help me cut the potatoes,
00:04:02but I feel like there's no room.
00:04:07There you go.
00:04:09I mean, that helps. You can go that side.
00:04:11This is the first time me and Rob are cooking in the apartment,
00:04:13just because, you know, there's not much room to cook in the apartment, so...
00:04:17This is not the first time.
00:04:18This is the first time.
00:04:19No, it's not. We cooked when you were here in the first time.
00:04:22What did we cook?
00:04:23We've cooked. We have...
00:04:24No.
00:04:25It's not the first time we've ever cooked in these...
00:04:26We put a pizza in the oven.
00:04:28Like...
00:04:29That is not cooking.
00:04:30Sophie, we have...
00:04:31That's not cooking.
00:04:32Let's see.
00:04:33Mmm.
00:04:34Mmm.
00:04:35Mmm.
00:04:36Mmm.
00:04:37Mmm.
00:04:38Mmm.
00:04:39Mmm.
00:04:40Mmm.
00:04:41See, you couldn't do this in a big old kitchen.
00:04:44What, sit down?
00:04:45They could...
00:04:46Sit down and do this part together.
00:04:47Yeah, a lot of kitchens have...
00:04:48It's a bonding moment.
00:04:53Ah, it's hot. Ah, ah.
00:04:55Why is it hot on there?
00:04:56Stove, it gets hot.
00:04:57My phone is there.
00:04:59All right, but it's not going to get messed up.
00:05:01Mmm.
00:05:05There's about three weeks left until we have to get married.
00:05:07So, tonight, my mum's arriving from Mexico to see me,
00:05:11so I'm excited to see her,
00:05:12but at the same time, I'm a little bit nervous
00:05:14how it's going to go,
00:05:15because I know they haven't had the best bond together.
00:05:18He's stupid, he's grumpy.
00:05:21He's the epitome of a lot.
00:05:23I mean, he bored me a little, if I'm honest,
00:05:26between me and you.
00:05:27He gets on my nerves a bit.
00:05:28He's very, like, blah.
00:05:30He's jobless, he's boring, he has no sympathy.
00:05:33You can't be with this guy, you cannot marry him, Soph.
00:05:37Yeah, um...
00:05:39Are you looking forward to my mum coming later?
00:05:42Sure.
00:05:45Yeah.
00:05:46That would be nice.
00:05:47I mean, you know what I'm saying, I'm going to do my best.
00:05:50Just want to make sure your mum isn't going to add stress.
00:05:56Because, yeah, it's kind of a bad time for us.
00:06:00You and I are trying to get over our own problems
00:06:03before this huge thing that we're about to do.
00:06:06I understand that, but it's also...
00:06:08I don't have anyone out here and it's my mum,
00:06:10so I'd like to see her, and she misses me
00:06:12and we have a close relationship.
00:06:15I kind of feel like Claire is a wrench
00:06:18being tossed in the gears of Sophie and I.
00:06:21She doesn't know how to shut up when it's time to be quiet.
00:06:25That's rude.
00:06:26I'm just saying, though,
00:06:27your mum says some very problematic...
00:06:29What if I said to you,
00:06:31What if I said to you,
00:06:32your mum doesn't know how to shut up when she needs to?
00:06:34That is so rude.
00:06:35If my mum was as rude to you as your mum is to me...
00:06:38No, I think my mum...
00:06:39It definitely affects me.
00:06:40And if you care about me,
00:06:41then you would understand where I'm coming from.
00:06:43Because she might not be making it hard on you,
00:06:45but she's making it hard on me.
00:06:46She's always going to be in our lives,
00:06:48so you have to learn to accept it.
00:06:52They actually taste good.
00:06:54Yeah, they taste good.
00:06:56Good job.
00:06:57You did good.
00:06:58You did good.
00:07:00My mum just landed.
00:07:02Oh, yeah?
00:07:13Oh, my gosh.
00:07:14Am I actually excited to see her?
00:07:15Is she going to kick off at me?
00:07:16What do you think?
00:07:17Nope.
00:07:18I don't know what you done told her.
00:07:20I told her you're stunning.
00:07:22You were right.
00:07:25Are you excited to see her?
00:07:27Are you excited to see her?
00:07:29Am I excited to see her?
00:07:30Like, is there any part of you that's excited,
00:07:32or are you just straight, like, you don't care to see her?
00:07:37Just please try and start from scratch.
00:07:39Of course I'm going to start from scratch.
00:07:41I'm not going to say anything negative.
00:07:47She brings a lot more drama
00:07:49than what is needed or necessary.
00:07:53I can't wait to see her, actually.
00:07:55I'm hoping that Claire does not
00:07:57f*** up our relationship.
00:07:58I hope she's not going to bring
00:08:00her brand of bulls***.
00:08:06Sophie and I are not cruising.
00:08:08You know, we're hitting a bump.
00:08:09We're hitting bumps left and right,
00:08:11so the last thing I need is
00:08:13for her mom to come in and make it harder.
00:08:19Now I'm nervous.
00:08:26What?
00:08:30Help me with the paracetamol.
00:08:31They are very heavy.
00:08:33Don't be a pussy!
00:08:35I'm not familiar with these birds.
00:08:37I don't think he likes me.
00:08:46I can't believe I touched it,
00:08:48and I almost kissed one.
00:08:49I know.
00:08:50But I don't want to lose an eye.
00:08:51Will you marry me even if I lose an eye?
00:08:54No!
00:09:01Tonight is our first night in Miami,
00:09:03and I have signed Jasmine and I up
00:09:05for some salsa dancing lessons.
00:09:08Jasmine seems extra stressed
00:09:10about the wedding planning,
00:09:12but I just want Jasmine to have a good time
00:09:14and, you know, be happy with each other again.
00:09:21Yeah, that's the spirit!
00:09:23See?
00:09:25All right, guys!
00:09:26Let's get ready for a salsa class!
00:09:28My history with salsa dancing with Jasmine
00:09:31is I've not been very good.
00:09:34Lose. Lose your body.
00:09:36I'm trying to.
00:09:38Baby, you're dancing like you have a stick under your arm.
00:09:41Just move!
00:09:43I would describe my dancing as, like, John Travolta.
00:09:47You know?
00:09:49Just kidding.
00:09:51Yeah, I need a lot of work with my dancing.
00:09:53So, guys, a little fundamental salsa basic step.
00:09:57Three steps forward, three steps back.
00:10:00For the guys, you start with your left,
00:10:02and ladies, you start with your...
00:10:03Right.
00:10:04Okay?
00:10:05So let's do it.
00:10:06Five, six, seven, and...
00:10:08One, two, three, and...
00:10:11Five, six, seven.
00:10:13Let's put it together.
00:10:15Let's do it?
00:10:16All right, ready.
00:10:17Come on.
00:10:21I'm scared.
00:10:24Every time that I try to practice with Gino,
00:10:27he always hurts my feet.
00:10:32Yay!
00:10:33You're...
00:10:34Yeah, you're great!
00:10:36Okay, the other step, you remember?
00:10:38I'm kind of traumatized about our previous experiences.
00:10:42No, no!
00:10:44But I owe him a big apology.
00:10:47He's doing it good, great.
00:10:50I'm so proud of you, baby.
00:10:53Yay!
00:10:55Oh, my gosh!
00:10:58I'm amazed!
00:11:00You're doing great!
00:11:08Mmm, delicious.
00:11:09How's your coffee?
00:11:10I love this.
00:11:11It's a good cappuccino.
00:11:12I know.
00:11:13It's starting to feel like the old Jasmine and Gino
00:11:17and things were good and we were happy
00:11:19and having a good time together.
00:11:21Look at that view, you can see the whole city.
00:11:23South Point Park Pier.
00:11:26This is exactly what I wanted out of Miami.
00:11:29I want a selfie for real.
00:11:31Because I want to send it to Juan,
00:11:33say he's loving all the videos.
00:11:37And the pictures, you know, and he's like,
00:11:40Send me all the pictures, all the videos.
00:11:42And look at what he said.
00:11:44He said,
00:11:51Oh, really?
00:11:58Oh, wow!
00:12:00He's dreaming of coming here with us.
00:12:04No, I really look forward to the day
00:12:06that we're able to bring your kids over here.
00:12:10I would like to have the chance to be like,
00:12:12you know, a father figure.
00:12:16That's so sweet, baby.
00:12:17Trust me, Juan especially,
00:12:19he sees you as a dad figure already.
00:12:22And I can tell.
00:12:23Yeah, I mean, I can kind of feel that.
00:12:25A bonus dad, but a good one.
00:12:28But you know, I want to be more than a bonus dad too.
00:12:30I want to be, I want to like to try to be a real dad.
00:12:32Being a bonus dad is being a real dad.
00:12:36It is real.
00:12:37It is real.
00:12:38I would like to have one child of my own.
00:12:41At least one would be nice.
00:12:44I'm like almost mid-fifties now.
00:12:49I'd like to try to do it soon.
00:12:55I'm not ready.
00:12:59I have some very personal fears
00:13:02when it comes to having children.
00:13:06I carry a lot of pain inside.
00:13:11And I have never opened myself about how I really feel.
00:13:17Juno has no idea what I went through.
00:13:21I am like some sugar mama to you.
00:13:24And the sex part you get from the other bitches.
00:13:28If you want, we can try together.
00:13:32Oh, so you want to have threesomes?
00:13:35I feel like, why are we even together?
00:13:38A lot of things try with you.
00:13:39You really want to admit to the man that you're with?
00:13:42I don't want to admit to the man that I'm with.
00:13:45I don't want to admit to the man that I'm with.
00:13:47I don't want to admit to the man that I'm with.
00:13:49You want to admit me to the nut house, don't you?
00:13:51What?
00:13:55That's her sleeping on what I told you yesterday.
00:13:58How are you doing?
00:14:01I just moved here and he going to jail,
00:14:04like, it's just a lot for me.
00:14:07I'm still upset about it.
00:14:10I can see it in her eyes that she's having second thoughts.
00:14:20Yeah.
00:14:30Finally, I can eat rice.
00:14:33It's so sad.
00:14:35In America, all these potatoes.
00:14:50Sam told me that he might not get his diversion
00:14:53because he stupidly forgot to fill his paperwork.
00:14:57And maybe, like, there is possibility that he can go to jail.
00:15:06When I heard that, I don't want to talk
00:15:08because it really make me angry
00:15:11because how can you forget something important like that?
00:15:15If Sam did go to jail, I don't know what to do
00:15:18because I moved here for him and how he's going to support me
00:15:22because I cannot work.
00:15:25And I don't know what to say to my dad,
00:15:27the guy that I want to marry,
00:15:29and he's going to jail after our wedding day.
00:15:32It's just a lot for me.
00:15:40Since I've told Citra about not filing the paperwork on time,
00:15:45like, she's been real quiet.
00:15:47I can see it in her eyes that she's having second thoughts,
00:15:51like, did she make the right choice coming here to be with me?
00:15:55And if I could be facing jail time, like, I'm not going to be around.
00:16:00Why would she want to stay around for that?
00:16:03Like, I know it's on me. I have nobody to blame but me.
00:16:06But I hope I don't lose her.
00:16:10You look all nice today.
00:16:16You, after sleeping on what I told you yesterday,
00:16:23like, how are you doing?
00:16:28I'm still upset about it,
00:16:31but I was thinking about our situation, you know?
00:16:37I've been waiting for two years to get my visa approved,
00:16:41and our love is really strong,
00:16:43and, I mean, I'm going to be with you.
00:16:50It's like a 2,000-pound weight off my shoulders
00:16:53hearing that she's still going to stand by me.
00:16:57Thank you for the rice cooker. You saved my life.
00:17:02You're welcome. I'm sorry, baby.
00:17:05I was scared to death. The woman I love, like,
00:17:08I thought maybe there I lost her for a second,
00:17:11but there's just no words to explain it.
00:17:17I hope your dad takes it as well.
00:17:26No, but I'm going to have to.
00:17:42Because my dad is a cop, like, you know,
00:17:45sometimes he can be really hard and disciplined.
00:17:48If my dad take me back to Indonesia,
00:17:51our relationship is over.
00:17:54No, I get it.
00:18:00This is strictly Indonesian food?
00:18:02Mm-hmm.
00:18:03Get your ass **** ready.
00:18:06I have a special way to punish you for keeping a secret.
00:18:10What would that be?
00:18:12It's going to be something special.
00:18:16Special or spicy?
00:18:18I'm going to put everything, like,
00:18:20spiciness in your food to...
00:18:23Burn me a new ass ****, in other words?
00:18:25Mm-hmm.
00:18:30And this is safe to eat?
00:18:32Yeah. I already, like, put, like, a, you know,
00:18:35three or four chilies.
00:18:40Every meal in Indonesia, like,
00:18:42mostly nowadays they're spicy
00:18:44because Indonesian people, they like spicy.
00:18:47I brought seasonings, all the noodles,
00:18:50all the spicy food from home
00:18:52because I'm afraid, like, Cameron is small town,
00:18:55like, I cannot find any of those food.
00:18:58It's her survivor kit.
00:19:00No spicy, no life.
00:19:02It's because they burnt their taste buds so much
00:19:05they can't taste it unless there's a pound of spice in it.
00:19:09Baby, I don't know.
00:19:11An American woman starting to sound good.
00:19:16Like, it's not spicy for me, but it's spicy for him.
00:19:20It's just such a level of burning,
00:19:22numbing your tongue, like, I can handle it,
00:19:25it's just other parts of me can't handle it.
00:19:28Getting a good case of IBS from loving this one.
00:19:32But it's worth it.
00:19:39So good, baby, so good.
00:20:00Babe?
00:20:08Babe?
00:20:26I don't know what to say
00:20:30because I don't understand the problem.
00:20:35Of course not.
00:20:38Nikki wants to leave the winery
00:20:41because before I get engaged with Nikki,
00:20:44I had some of, like, sex friend.
00:20:47I love Nikki.
00:20:49I want to be happy, but Nikki feel betrayed,
00:20:54and this is, like, some of sad news.
00:20:58If you invested as much as I did,
00:21:01I think that you would feel something
00:21:05like what I'm feeling right now.
00:21:07I didn't know if we work.
00:21:10I feel like now I am, like, some sugar mama to you,
00:21:15and the sex part you get from the other bitches,
00:21:18that's what I feel like.
00:21:20If you want, we can try together.
00:21:23Try what?
00:21:24Another girl.
00:21:29Excuse me?
00:21:30And you will see how it's easy.
00:21:32What are you talking about?
00:21:34This is just sex.
00:21:36We can have fun.
00:21:38Just sex?
00:21:39Yes, we can have fun.
00:21:42Oh, so you want to have threesomes?
00:21:47Oh, my God.
00:21:49But with you, I feel more open for this world.
00:21:53A lot of things try with you.
00:21:55You really want to admit me to the nut house, don't you?
00:21:57What?
00:21:59For me, it's one of my dream have threesome
00:22:03with two woman.
00:22:06This is my things.
00:22:08This is what I'm dreaming.
00:22:10Why I can say my fiancée what I'm feeling,
00:22:14what I want?
00:22:15I want this trip to be opening for us.
00:22:23It's sometimes...
00:22:25I was explorative and experimental in my 20s.
00:22:30Like, I did all that stuff.
00:22:32But I'm not.
00:22:33You come in my 20s, and I'm close for many moments.
00:22:37Really?
00:22:38Very close.
00:22:39Very close.
00:22:46I'm wondering if the reason
00:22:49why he wants to have this threesome
00:22:51is honestly mostly it's just because of my gender, you know?
00:22:56And me not being born biologically female,
00:23:01I feel like I'm not enough.
00:23:03I feel like why are we even together?
00:23:05Like, why don't you just go be with another woman?
00:23:11So much for our romantic getaway.
00:23:18I don't know if Justin loves to get a reaction out of me
00:23:22because he knows that I can go crazy, you know?
00:23:27And I think that either he likes to get me jealous
00:23:30or he literally is serious.
00:23:33And I don't know which one is it.
00:23:57We seriously need to have a talk.
00:23:59Because a lot of things are really upsetting me.
00:24:04First, the part with you saying
00:24:08that you didn't find what we were doing anything important,
00:24:15that it was just like we were just talking, right?
00:24:18Okay, fine.
00:24:19But I was already having unprotected sex with you.
00:24:22So, like, how many partners?
00:24:24I'm always protecting myself.
00:24:27You always protect yourself?
00:24:28Yeah.
00:24:29Yeah? Okay, how many girls?
00:24:35Maybe two.
00:24:39Okay.
00:24:41Now, in the car, you also was like,
00:24:46oh, I want the threesome.
00:24:48Hon, I'm 47 years old.
00:24:51I'm ready to settle down.
00:24:52I did all this playing and doing all this, like,
00:24:56sex experimenting, exploring when I was younger.
00:25:00And I've been with girls.
00:25:02I've been in a two guys with me.
00:25:04I've been with two girls with me and a guy.
00:25:07You've seen so many advances.
00:25:09Yes, I did.
00:25:10I tried all of it.
00:25:11I did it once upon a time.
00:25:13I even had three guys with me in Paris.
00:25:15That didn't work too well.
00:25:17It was too much.
00:25:18But still, your sex drive with me is at its worst.
00:25:24I talk about these things in the future.
00:25:27Not now.
00:25:28Oh, in the future.
00:25:29I want to focus on us.
00:25:30So after we're married and we have our vows,
00:25:32you want to do these threesomes?
00:25:34Are you serious?
00:25:35No, we're talking.
00:25:36We're just talking.
00:25:39You know, at this point, I've been thinking,
00:25:41and I've been thinking so much
00:25:46about where I want to go with this relationship.
00:25:50Do I want to end it?
00:25:51Do I want to continue?
00:25:52Do I want to deal with him cheating on me
00:25:58or feeling like it's not cheating,
00:26:00dealing with these, like, games?
00:26:02And I'm just trying to, like, process all this right now
00:26:06because it's a lot.
00:26:08Everything that you've been telling me
00:26:10is, like, you just kept on living your life.
00:26:12Like, I was nothing.
00:26:13Like, I was a piece of s***.
00:26:15I just don't know what to think for our future together.
00:26:23Oh, my Lord.
00:26:33More money, more problems.
00:26:36Are you ready to say,
00:26:38look, you know what to do next?
00:26:40I'm ready to marry Aisley.
00:26:42It's nice to say, but it's hard to do.
00:26:50I don't want to disrespect her in any way,
00:26:52but this whole not telling her dad thing
00:26:55is also causing her to hide you from her life.
00:26:58I know that these things tend to spiral
00:27:00and I would hate to see something like that happen to him.
00:27:03Honestly, man, she has some uncertainty about you.
00:27:19Yes, I love it.
00:27:23Hola.
00:27:26Ding.
00:27:31Un minuto.
00:27:33Rico Suave, we have a visitor.
00:27:35Are you excited?
00:27:37Hi.
00:27:38Aisley.
00:27:39How are you?
00:27:51Ven, ven, ven.
00:27:52Oh, my God.
00:27:54Oh, yes.
00:28:04Manuel's best friend Jonathan lives in New York City.
00:28:07It's been a year since Manuel and Jonathan have seen each other.
00:28:09Like, I'm talking probably like six years plus.
00:28:23Oh, yeah.
00:28:54Y él me ha ayudado con toda la información
00:28:57sobre esta transición de América y Sudamérica.
00:29:08Since he's been here,
00:29:10mi casa mucho full de español.
00:29:13La televisión, él hablando, yo hablando con él, más que antes.
00:29:18How did you learn English?
00:29:20Did you take any classes or did you just kind of go for it?
00:29:22Like, how did you learn?
00:29:23A street, a street class.
00:29:25A street.
00:29:26Exactly.
00:29:27Yo pregunto a él cómo él aprende inglés y él dice que en los calles.
00:29:32Mira, aquà tienes una mejor maestra que ella para que te enseñe.
00:29:35Pregúntale.
00:29:36Yo solamente me pongo a escucharle nomás lo que está.
00:29:40Solamente los loros que habÃa allá, asÃ.
00:29:43Repetición, la repetición y la repetición hace al maestro, loco.
00:29:47I think it's time for you guys to go enjoy Rochester a little bit.
00:29:51Pienso que es tiempo para ustedes ir a disfrutar Rochester un poquito
00:29:55y get out of the house.
00:29:57SÃ, serÃa bonito, bueno salir un rato, sÃ.
00:30:01Vámonos, mijÃn.
00:30:02Vámonos.
00:30:03Vámonos.
00:30:04Vámonos, señora.
00:30:06It has been such a challenge for Manuel to connect with my friends,
00:30:09so this is one of the reasons why I invited Jonathan to come see Manuel,
00:30:12cheer him up, and then also to be able to speak in his language.
00:30:19I remember all the traveling I did and at a point in time,
00:30:23just wanting to hear some English.
00:30:24And so, I know that he's probably at that point.
00:30:53More money, more problems.
00:31:24Acostumbrarse a eso, más que todo, ¿no?
00:31:26Hay que ver en el futuro, no ver ahorita, le dije.
00:31:30Bueno, ese lado sÃ, loco, eso sà te creo, porque ponte…
00:31:33Tengo unos cuatro pantalones, tengo unos cuatro camisetas o cinco camisetas.
00:31:38Vas variando cosas que les vas variando hasta la más mismo.
00:31:41Yo no creo que más suficiente de eso no puede ser.
00:31:44Escucha, ese es un problema que es aquà en los Estados Unidos, loco,
00:31:47que uno es muy consumista, loco.
00:31:49Exacto.
00:31:50Por ejemplo, en mi casa yo tengo 20 pares de zapatos, loco.
00:31:52Pero si yo ya me voy de paseo asà por ahÃ, veo algo que me gusta,
00:31:55yo sé que no lo necesito.
00:31:57Ya lo estás comprando.
00:31:58Lo compro.
00:31:59Pero me siento bien.
00:32:01Pero tienes que ver los diferentes puntos, a mà me importa, sÃ.
00:32:03Porque a veces ya me siento acabado, ya.
00:32:05Es que ya nunca he sufrido necesidades, ese es el problema.
00:32:10A paso frustrado, a veces me siento mal.
00:32:13Extraño mucho a Ecuador, extraño mucho a mi gente,
00:32:16mis amigos, mi familia.
00:32:18Extraño todo allá, la comida.
00:32:21Y aquà estoy, poniendo los pechos, poniendo el pecho a las balas.
00:32:27Vos estás listo, listo, loco, ya como para decirte,
00:32:29mira, sabes que dar el siguiente paso, estoy listo para casarme con Aisley.
00:32:33Decir es bonito, pero hacer es difÃcil.
00:32:50Es un arma cargada, y tu cabeza está en el botón.
00:33:06Es nuestro primer mañana de despertarse en San Diego,
00:33:08y Annalie no está contenta conmigo.
00:33:14Ella está enojada conmigo por compartir nuestra vida privada,
00:33:17pero nuestra vida privada me afecta también.
00:33:20Asà que estoy recibiendo consejos de mi amigo y su novia
00:33:25sobre algo que me afecta directamente.
00:33:35Chicos.
00:33:38Hola.
00:33:39¿Estás lista para el desayuno?
00:33:43Es nuestra primera mañana en San Diego,
00:33:45y realmente me siento molesta todavÃa por lo que pasó anoche.
00:33:50Fuera, fuera, fuera, fuera.
00:33:53Si Clayton quiere resolver algo de nuestra relación,
00:33:56deberÃa hacerlo solo conmigo, no consultarlo con sus amigos.
00:34:02Ellos no son su terapeuta.
00:34:09Está caliente todavÃa tú.
00:34:12Está bien.
00:34:16¿Esto es mayonesa?
00:34:18Necesito esto.
00:34:26QuerÃa hablar contigo sobre anoche.
00:34:31Lo primero que hablaste con tus amigos,
00:34:34tu primera conversación fue de sexo.
00:34:37Sé que tú eres abierto y todo,
00:34:39pero sabes que yo soy un poco más conservadora
00:34:42y que no es cómodo para mÃ.
00:34:53Lo siento, chiqui, pero solo...
00:34:56Soy persona que habla de lo que está en mi mente.
00:35:01En tu mente está sexo.
00:35:03Al azar.
00:35:04Al azar pensé en sexo.
00:35:08Tengo eso en mi mente.
00:35:09Es mi mejor amigo.
00:35:11Hablamos.
00:35:13Ya, puedes hablarlo tú con él,
00:35:15pero no cuando esté yo, al menos.
00:35:18Lo siento, chiqui.
00:35:23¿Qué eres tú haciendo?
00:35:32Me siento bien de que Clayton me haya pedido disculpas,
00:35:36pero lo que dijo realmente fue muy grosero
00:35:39y me siento muy molesta.
00:35:42Me he dado cuenta que,
00:35:43a pesar de que estamos juntos más de dos años
00:35:46y ahora que estamos a punto de casarnos,
00:35:49todavÃa hay cosas que no entendemos uno del otro
00:35:51y espero que Clayton aprenda rápido.
00:35:55Hoy dÃa yo y Cameron vamos a preparar algo
00:36:00para sorpresa para nosotros.
00:36:03Para la boda.
00:36:04Para la boda.
00:36:05Para la boda.
00:36:06Ok, como ahora Cameron es tu nueva novia.
00:36:10Quizás puede ser sister wife.
00:36:13Hermana esposa.
00:36:14Yeah.
00:36:18Clayton.
00:36:36What's going on, big boss?
00:36:37What's up, man?
00:36:39You ready to learn how to dance, man?
00:36:40Let's do it, bro.
00:36:41All right, give me another hug.
00:36:43You ready to get your groove on?
00:36:44Yeah.
00:36:46Annalie has been making fun of me recently
00:36:48saying that I dance like a tree.
00:36:51Hello.
00:36:52Welcome, welcome.
00:36:53Who's teaching me how to dance?
00:36:54Both of us.
00:36:55Oh, come on.
00:36:57So I found a Peruvian dance instructor
00:37:00that's going to teach me how to dance.
00:37:03to impress Annalie at our wedding.
00:37:05So we're going to do the Marinera Norteña,
00:37:06which is the national dance of Peru.
00:37:08Okay, all right.
00:37:09It's going to be for you.
00:37:10It's for you, too.
00:37:11Then we have the hats.
00:37:13Since you get the groom, you get the big one.
00:37:14Okay.
00:37:15You get the little one.
00:37:16I got a bigger head, I think.
00:37:18Let's get started.
00:37:19All right.
00:37:21I wouldn't exactly consider myself a graceful person.
00:37:23Bow.
00:37:28I'm not doing very good so far.
00:37:29It's all good.
00:37:31There you go.
00:37:32Catch yourself.
00:37:33I feel like I'm limping.
00:37:34Am I limping?
00:37:35Yes.
00:37:36It's an A for effort, right?
00:37:38Definitely.
00:37:40Speed it up just a little bit.
00:37:41No, you got to speed up.
00:37:42And float.
00:37:43Think of floating.
00:37:44Awesome, Clayton.
00:37:45There he goes.
00:37:48Clayton is doing better than I expected, in all honesty.
00:37:53He can get his shoulders and hips moving
00:37:54more than I expected.
00:37:55So I'm going to give him an A.
00:37:57He can get his shoulders and hips moving
00:37:58more than I expected.
00:37:59So I give him that.
00:38:01And music ends.
00:38:06That's it.
00:38:08All right.
00:38:10Good job, man.
00:38:11That was awesome.
00:38:12All right, bye.
00:38:13Bye, guys.
00:38:14Take care.
00:38:17How do you think dance class went, man?
00:38:18I'm going to be honest, bro.
00:38:19I didn't know you had it in you.
00:38:21That was better than I expected.
00:38:24I think she's going to like it, man.
00:38:26This is a cool little area.
00:38:27Yeah, for real.
00:38:33How do you feel about Annalie last night?
00:38:36Kind of like your guys' first really, like, sit down, you know?
00:38:40Look, man, I think Annalie is a great girl,
00:38:43and I don't want to disrespect her in any way,
00:38:45but just I know you, and I don't want you to be hurt.
00:38:48So, I mean, there's just a lot of things going on.
00:38:51Like, you guys aren't having sex.
00:38:54Not only that, but this whole not telling her dad thing
00:38:59is also causing her to essentially hide you from her life.
00:39:04Really, what I truly want to do is be like,
00:39:08hey, Annalie, you need to do it kind of like now-ish,
00:39:13or I'm going to do it myself.
00:39:16But I think that would just not end well,
00:39:18and she would threaten or actually break it off,
00:39:22and, you know, but then I have to think,
00:39:25if that would be a possibility,
00:39:27is that a relationship that I want to be in anyway?
00:39:32Yeah.
00:39:34Honestly, man, I think the reason behind all of these things happening
00:39:39is she also has some uncertainty about you.
00:39:43I don't know, man.
00:39:47You're about to get married.
00:39:50I just don't want to see you hurt, man.
00:39:53I think you need to take some time to reflect to yourself
00:39:57what an ideal marriage and lifelong commitment would look like to you.
00:40:04Ultimately, it's you who has to live with you and your mind and her
00:40:07if you do choose to go with her.
00:40:11I understand what you mean, man.
00:40:16I think in Clayton's head,
00:40:18he is very anxious about losing his girl
00:40:22and losing his source of happiness right now.
00:40:26However, I think that it's a little bit of a veil
00:40:29because the source of happiness may not be exactly what he thinks it is,
00:40:33and I know that these things tend to spiral,
00:40:36and I would hate to see something like that happen to him.
00:40:39I'm not aggressive.
00:40:41Oh, you're pretty aggressive.
00:40:42I am.
00:40:43She's not aggressive. She's just joking.
00:40:46Between both of them, I'm always one word away from saying the wrong thing.
00:40:52I know deep down you want to say something to me.
00:40:54I can feel it. You want to say something to me.
00:40:56I can always say something.
00:40:57Go on, then. Say it.
00:41:03I'm not aggressive.
00:41:04Oh, you're pretty aggressive.
00:41:06I am.
00:41:22Now I'm nervous.
00:41:29Oh, my God! Oh, my God! Oh, my God! Oh, my God! Oh, my God!
00:41:33Oh, my God!
00:41:34Hello.
00:41:35Oh, my God! Oh, my God!
00:41:36You look so beautiful.
00:41:38Oh, my God!
00:41:40I'm going to cry.
00:41:41Don't cry.
00:41:42Oh, my God.
00:41:43You look so beautiful.
00:41:45Hello.
00:41:46You smell, Sophie.
00:41:48You smell of flower blossoms.
00:41:50I think I was a sniffer dog in a past life.
00:41:53Hey, Rob. How are you?
00:41:55I'm good. How are you?
00:41:56I like your hat.
00:41:58You look good.
00:41:59Oh, Baba.
00:42:01You're literally stealing my baby.
00:42:04You know I'll kill you if you hurt her.
00:42:09Do you want to sit down?
00:42:11I've been worried about my Sophie,
00:42:13because I've just been so scared of her living in LA all by herself
00:42:17with an unsupported boyfriend.
00:42:20And I'm hoping Rob just isn't just Rob the knob anymore
00:42:23and just sort of ups his game and starts being a grown-up,
00:42:26because I just think he's a bit immature.
00:42:28I want to hear what's going on.
00:42:31We're here to see you. How was your flight?
00:42:33It was good.
00:42:34Yeah?
00:42:35Was it stressful?
00:42:36No, I made lots of mistakes, dropped lots of things,
00:42:39things fell out my bag, normal stuff, but, no, it was good.
00:42:42It was good.
00:42:43So, when is it all happening, the wedding?
00:42:46Uh, the 16th.
00:42:48OK, so am I helping with that?
00:42:50Totally. You should help her with that.
00:42:52You know I have no idea how weddings go.
00:42:54Neither does she.
00:42:55Do you think you still need the stuff?
00:42:58No, I think that's...
00:42:59Is that a thing anymore?
00:43:00I think that's, like, some...
00:43:01No, no, no, I think it's a thing.
00:43:03That's, like, some 80s s**t right there.
00:43:05You're just being a killjoy, because I think it would be fun.
00:43:09Oh, you've thrown a bunch, OK, though.
00:43:13That's not the same thing.
00:43:14No, you have to do that, because I have to catch it.
00:43:16I've never been married and no-one's ever asked.
00:43:18OK.
00:43:19So you've got to have the book and you've got to throw it.
00:43:21I'll throw it to you.
00:43:22I mean, it's a super small wedding,
00:43:24so I'm pretty sure it'll be between you and my mum on catching that.
00:43:27I swear, I'll knock your mum to the floor.
00:43:30Get out of the way.
00:43:32I need to get married.
00:43:33I don't doubt it. My mum's a tiny lady, so it's not like...
00:43:36She's super tiny and not aggressive, so she's not going to...
00:43:40I'm not aggressive.
00:43:41I don't think so.
00:43:42Oh, you're pretty aggressive.
00:43:43You're going to...
00:43:44Like you just said, you'll knock my mum to the floor.
00:43:46That's pretty aggressive in itself.
00:43:48Oh.
00:43:49Yeah.
00:43:50Yeah.
00:43:51That's pretty aggressive in itself.
00:43:53Oh.
00:43:54She's not aggressive, she's just joking.
00:43:56Right, but that's kind of her mum, your mum to my mum, the energy.
00:44:01My mum is super...
00:44:02Yeah, my mum's joking.
00:44:03She's not going to knock your mum to the floor.
00:44:04It's a joke.
00:44:05I know it's a joke, but it's still...
00:44:06Yeah, but you just more or less called me aggressive.
00:44:10Don't be so...
00:44:11As if I'm going to be at your wedding and knock a woman to the floor.
00:44:14My mum's very sarcastic and jokey, right?
00:44:16You guys are taking me literal.
00:44:18I didn't take you literal.
00:44:19No, I think that was low-key a dig.
00:44:23See, this is exactly why I'm always on edge when Claire's around.
00:44:26It's like we're joking, everything's good,
00:44:28and then if I say, you know, a joke back,
00:44:30now we want to take it personal or make it negative.
00:44:33It just feels like, between both of them,
00:44:36I'm always one word away from saying the wrong thing.
00:44:43See, you know...
00:44:45I know deep down you would have said something to me
00:44:47because the way you're sitting, your body language is all about...
00:44:51I can feel it. You want to say something to me?
00:44:53I could always say something.
00:44:55Go on then, say it.
00:44:56I always have something.
00:44:57I think we need to,
00:44:58because I don't want to be the mother-in-law that you hate.
00:45:00I don't hate you. That's not what I'm going to say.
00:45:02Oh, you don't hate me?
00:45:04I don't think he gets you, but it's fine.
00:45:06Oh, I get you.
00:45:07I get both of you.
00:45:08You don't get me.
00:45:09No, I don't think you do.
00:45:10I get both of you.
00:45:11I can see why you argue,
00:45:12because when we talked about the bouquet
00:45:14and me tackling your mother to the floor,
00:45:16which was a joke,
00:45:17you literally didn't take it as a joke.
00:45:19You got...
00:45:20I didn't take it seriously.
00:45:22He doesn't get British humour.
00:45:23No, he doesn't get it.
00:45:24I don't think he gets humour, full stop.
00:45:26No, he does. He is.
00:45:29Anyway, so tomorrow I'm going to come and see your place, yeah?
00:45:33I guess so.
00:45:36I'm excited to see it.
00:45:40I'm dreading seeing the house,
00:45:41because I can tell by their faces it's...
00:45:44..obviously not very good.
00:45:46So I don't know if she's got wrapped up in the whole fantasy there.
00:45:50Because he's a lovely guy, beautiful-looking, I get that,
00:45:53but you can...
00:45:54You know, there's only so long you can stare at a beautiful painting
00:45:57before you get bored, so...
00:45:59It's all right, son.
00:46:02Yeah, I'm glad I'm here.
00:46:04I think maybe I need to observe a lot
00:46:06and see what's really going on before something bad,
00:46:09they make a big mistake.
00:46:11Bye. See you later.
00:46:13Bye.
00:46:24He's trying to dictate how I spend my money.
00:46:27I don't like that.
00:46:31So are you telling me I'm not supporting you right now?
00:46:33Is that what you're saying?
00:46:36I brought you here on my back with no cosigner.
00:46:41How are you going to sit here and say that you don't feel supported by me?
00:46:45It's, like, disrespectful.
00:47:11Shannon, when you're coming, I'm gonna hold it back and lose.
00:47:15Shannon, ride the waves.
00:47:21Guys.
00:47:23Tell me, what happened last night?
00:47:25I want to know all the tea, give me all the gossip.
00:47:28What **** did you talk about me?
00:47:30What **** do I blast this over?
00:47:33Tell me!
00:47:35That's the problem, she imagines the worst.
00:47:38He says he's very happy with you.
00:47:40You're the best woman in the world.
00:47:43Let's take it slow, let's take it slow.
00:47:46Okay, okay, okay.
00:47:50Can you, like, help me figure this out?
00:47:53What happened?
00:47:54I'm noticing Manuel doesn't really like to spend money on himself.
00:47:57And I feel like I work hard,
00:47:59so if I want to spend money on myself, I'm going to.
00:48:02So, like, why is how we spend money, like, so important to him?
00:48:09It's an intense question.
00:48:11I just feel like Manuel thinks that I, like, the money that I spend on myself
00:48:17could be put towards helping his family.
00:48:22Directly, that's how I feel.
00:48:38I don't like this.
00:49:09Exactly.
00:49:13It's coming out of my pocket.
00:49:15This could go to my light bill.
00:49:17And I'm taking it out of my purse to give to a family
00:49:20that he is keeping me separated from.
00:49:31I'm paying all these bills on my own.
00:49:35He gets on my nerves with this topic
00:49:37because he's trying to dictate how I spend my money.
00:49:40I don't like that.
00:49:43I'm not going to not take care of myself for your bill.
00:49:49I take a lot of offense to that, and I might cry.
00:49:53I take a lot of offense to that, and I might cry.
00:50:08I hate that.
00:50:10I hate that.
00:50:21I can't.
00:50:23He just hurt my feelings.
00:50:26I'm not supporting him. He doesn't feel supported by me.
00:50:30All I am doing is supporting him.
00:50:35The food you eat is the food that I bought.
00:50:38The cell phone you use is the phone that I bought.
00:50:42I give you love. I give you affection.
00:50:44We're banging it out multiple times a day.
00:50:47How else can you feel supported by me?
00:50:59I brought you here on my back with no cosigner.
00:51:04How are you going to sit here and say that you don't feel supported?
00:51:07You don't feel supported by me.
00:51:10How are you going to say that? It's, like, disrespectful.
00:51:14I don't know if I will have the strength to go through this.
00:51:19It's really painful to see her so emotional.
00:51:23I feel helpless because there's not much I can really do about it.
00:51:27I don't know, you know. It scares me to death.
00:51:30I don't know if I...
00:51:37He was seeing a couple of girls for sex.
00:51:41Then he says things to me like,
00:51:43I very much want a threesome.
00:52:08OK.
00:52:10How can I say it?
00:52:16I love my kids.
00:52:19More than my own life.
00:52:22You know? I love them.
00:52:25But one of the hardest things that I have experienced as a mum
00:52:30was to accept my youngest son's diagnosis.
00:52:36You know?
00:52:37Look at you, you picture your son or your daughter like,
00:52:41like, oh, I'll do this, I'll do that,
00:52:43and then reality is different.
00:52:49What if we have a kid?
00:52:51And he's also special.
00:52:56Before I agreed to marry Gino,
00:52:58we made the decision that both of my kids
00:53:01will have to come to America.
00:53:03I have two sons, Juanse and JC.
00:53:08I share custody with my ex-husband, their father,
00:53:14but JC, he has special needs.
00:53:17It's very hard for him to communicate.
00:53:20He doesn't have a verbal language.
00:53:23But what makes it difficult to have a child with special needs
00:53:27is not the child.
00:53:29It's the people.
00:53:31It's very hard. It's not easy.
00:53:36People are very mean.
00:53:38And I just confirmed that once I have my son
00:53:41because people are mean.
00:53:43Some people.
00:53:44Some people.
00:53:46They have no tolerance.
00:53:48You know, I...
00:53:50I'm glad that sometimes my son doesn't even realise
00:53:53what's going on around, but me as a mum,
00:53:55My son doesn't even realise what's going on around,
00:53:58but me as a mum, I do.
00:54:00If we go to a restaurant
00:54:02and he's not behaving as a neurotypical kid,
00:54:06you have the stares, you have the ugly looks,
00:54:09you have even the staff from the restaurant, you know.
00:54:16And it hurts me a lot.
00:54:19I don't know if...
00:54:21I will have the strength to go through this.
00:54:28I don't know, baby.
00:54:32What if I cannot give you a neurotypical kid?
00:54:37I don't know, you know.
00:54:39It scares me to death.
00:54:41I don't know if I...
00:54:43I don't know if I...
00:54:50He's still a human being.
00:54:52We're going to take care of him, right?
00:54:55You can't predict it.
00:54:57Exactly.
00:54:58It scares me, baby.
00:55:00It's my fault.
00:55:01It's not your fault.
00:55:02How do you know that?
00:55:03Even doctors cannot tell.
00:55:05Why?
00:55:06Still a child, you know, there's no difference
00:55:08whether he has a disability or not.
00:55:11That's the way you should look at it.
00:55:14Nothing is your fault.
00:55:15Don't think it's your fault.
00:55:21It's really painful to see Jasmine so emotional and,
00:55:26you know, sad.
00:55:28And the thing is, I feel helpless
00:55:30because there's not much I can really do about it.
00:55:33So it just makes me sad to see her like this.
00:55:38I just want to assure her that, you know,
00:55:40whatever happens with us in regards to children,
00:55:43whether we have a child or not,
00:55:45I will always be there for her no matter what,
00:55:48and I'm not going to abandon her.
00:55:53You're such a kind soul.
00:55:55Oh, yeah, so beautiful.
00:56:02I'm so lucky to have you.
00:56:04I'm lucky to have you, too.
00:56:06We are lucky, both of us.
00:56:08Yeah.
00:56:09And my children are lucky to have you, too,
00:56:11and if we ever have a baby,
00:56:13he or she's going to be very lucky to have you as a dad.
00:56:25If you need a little time, do you mind if I go with Ivan?
00:56:29You can do whatever you want.
00:56:31I just need to talk to my mom.
00:56:36Okay.
00:56:50Hey, Mom. How are you?
00:56:53I'm good.
00:56:55So tell me how everything's going, hon.
00:56:57I haven't heard from you.
00:56:59How's everything going? Everything's good?
00:57:01I had the biggest hangover this morning,
00:57:04and I went to breakfast with Justin,
00:57:08and we got into this conversation.
00:57:12He basically stated that he was seeing some girl,
00:57:17a couple girls for sex, like, you know, just to whatever.
00:57:24He was basically not taking our relationship serious
00:57:27until he, like, proposed to me.
00:57:30Remember when I told you all those times
00:57:32where I was calling him and he was always on the road
00:57:34or times where he just ignored my text messages
00:57:37and got nasty with me on the phone?
00:57:39There were times in on our vacations
00:57:42where it felt like there was a blockage,
00:57:44like there was somebody he was dating
00:57:46and he was an asshole to me on purpose.
00:57:48It felt... I felt so many things, and...
00:57:51And you knew it.
00:57:52I knew it, but it's like I had the feeling in my gut.
00:57:56Is he really being honest with you?
00:58:01It seems like now he is,
00:58:03but then he says things to me like,
00:58:06oh, this, I very much want a threesome.
00:58:09I've never done threesome.
00:58:11No, Mom.
00:58:13Threesome.
00:58:15Two girls and him.
00:58:17And, Mom...
00:58:19Ah!
00:58:49So what?
00:59:20No.
00:59:22You're not going to conform to anything.
00:59:25You want a relationship, you want a husband,
00:59:28you want him to come here, to get a job,
00:59:31and be serious with you.
00:59:33That's what you want.
00:59:35Right.
00:59:37Okay?
00:59:39I mean, no.
00:59:41No.
00:59:43Absolutely not.
00:59:45No.
00:59:47No.
00:59:49Absolutely not.
00:59:51No.
00:59:53Tell him to get over whatever he desires,
00:59:57and that, you know,
00:59:59your ultimatum is going to be,
01:00:01I want to get married and I want to have a life.
01:00:04I mean, you deserve it.
01:00:15I mean...
01:00:46The one, he tells me,
01:00:48be more man in this relationship.
01:00:52And I think that's true.
01:00:59Mom, and just in a few days,
01:01:01we're supposed to have an engagement celebration.
01:01:05I know, well, you know what?
01:01:07You don't have to have a threesome.
01:01:09You don't have to have a threesome.
01:01:11You don't have to have a threesome.
01:01:13I know, well, you know what?
01:01:15You don't have to have it.
01:01:17You don't have to have it.
01:01:19That's where I'm at right now.
01:01:21That's where I'm deciding what I want to do.
01:01:23I mean, I know you love him,
01:01:25and I know he loves you, too.
01:01:27I know he loves me, but this is a lot.
01:01:30But, yeah, I'm going to have to figure it out.
01:01:33It's been a roller coaster.
01:01:35I'm really drained today.
01:01:37Like, it's been a long day for me.
01:01:40And I'm tired.
01:01:42I'm exhausted.
01:01:43Maybe I'm overreacting.
01:01:45But for me, my motto is
01:01:47trust is earned, never given.
01:01:50And there's a lot I have to think about.
01:01:53I came all the way here,
01:01:55and now I'm contemplating the K1,
01:02:00our relationship,
01:02:02and our engagement celebration.
01:02:04All three in that order.
01:02:07All right, Mom, I'm going to let you go,
01:02:09but I love you.
01:02:10All right, honey, love you.
01:02:11Take it easy.
01:02:12All right.
01:02:19Oh, my God.
01:02:20Is this it, your mom?
01:02:24I know from the past,
01:02:25and, like, living with my mom,
01:02:27all it takes is one second
01:02:29for anything to blow.
01:02:30It's Armageddon.
01:02:32What would happen if Sam didn't win?
01:02:36Would he get to still marry you?
01:02:41I'm sorry.
01:02:52It is hot inside.
01:03:09Me and Citra,
01:03:10we're heading to my mom's house right now,
01:03:12and they're going to meet for the first time,
01:03:14so fingers crossed.
01:03:16Let's hope it goes well.
01:03:18You want to put it, like,
01:03:19somewhere stable right here?
01:03:21No, I'm fine.
01:03:23I grew up with my mom
01:03:25for, like, my early years,
01:03:27and we were pretty close,
01:03:28but since, like, teenage years,
01:03:30we've kind of been estranged,
01:03:32and there's been a big distance.
01:03:34But even though we've been estranged
01:03:36for, like, over the last 10 years,
01:03:39she recently kind of resurfaced in my life
01:03:42and is back in the area,
01:03:43back in Cameron,
01:03:45and we're trying to rebuild things
01:03:47and build that relationship back up.
01:03:52There's a reason I keep my distance from my mother.
01:03:55So just...
01:03:57If it goes fine, fine,
01:03:59but just...
01:04:02I told you, she's kind of crazy.
01:04:05She'll be nice and sweet to you,
01:04:07but...
01:04:09don't judge me off of her.
01:04:16Part of me wants to keep Citra and my mom apart
01:04:19just because on one side,
01:04:21my mom's side,
01:04:22they were really religious,
01:04:24and...
01:04:26I hate saying it, but more of those,
01:04:28they love to preach,
01:04:29but don't follow what they say.
01:04:31Who knows what's going on in my mom's head,
01:04:33or, like, she might think that Muslims don't wash up
01:04:36or, like...
01:04:38use toilet paper.
01:04:40It could just be something weird.
01:04:42Hopefully she just doesn't say obscene things
01:04:45and asking her all kinds of questions,
01:04:48overloading her.
01:04:51She's gonna love you.
01:04:53She's so gonna love you.
01:04:55Let's see about that.
01:04:59I feel a little bit nervous because
01:05:02I know that Sam's mom is really a religious person,
01:05:05about Christian, religious.
01:05:08Let's see.
01:05:10It doesn't look too bad.
01:05:14But I hope, like, everything gonna be okay
01:05:17between me and his mom because
01:05:19I don't have my mom anymore.
01:05:21So that's why I need his mom to be my second mom.
01:05:34Hi.
01:05:35Oh, my God.
01:05:36Is this your mom?
01:05:37I am really glad to meet you.
01:05:39Another daughter.
01:05:41We have too many boys to grow more girls.
01:05:44I know.
01:05:45No, I'm joking.
01:05:48Come here and meet my mother, which would be Grandma.
01:05:51Yeah.
01:05:52Mom, this is Citra, and this is Treva.
01:05:55Hi, Citra.
01:05:56Hi.
01:05:57I've heard tons about you.
01:06:01Did you just move here?
01:06:03Yeah, from North Carolina.
01:06:06I did this, Citra, just for you.
01:06:10No.
01:06:15This is what I cooked.
01:06:17What is it?
01:06:19Rendang.
01:06:21Rendang.
01:06:22You know how much I love coconut?
01:06:26Remember your old salsa?
01:06:27Uh-uh.
01:06:28It's got some flavor like that.
01:06:29You look good, Sammy.
01:06:31I love you.
01:06:33She's my favorite grandma.
01:06:36So I'm, like, talking, like,
01:06:38oh, you know, it's gonna be scary,
01:06:40but it's going well.
01:06:42I'm trying to play it cool,
01:06:44but I just, I know from the past,
01:06:46and, like, living with my mom,
01:06:48all it takes is one second for anything to blow.
01:06:51It's Armageddon, so...
01:06:55Nervous.
01:06:56Definitely nervous.
01:06:58So what do you think of it here?
01:07:00Just in the United States alone, Missouri.
01:07:03It's quiet.
01:07:05Quiet?
01:07:06Not that busy, like, where I live.
01:07:08It's not busy?
01:07:09She's used to, like, motorbiketowns and motorbikes.
01:07:12Like the pictures I've seen of you.
01:07:14Those are my favorite pictures ever.
01:07:17They are.
01:07:18We're gonna be getting married in a few days,
01:07:21and me and her.
01:07:23Oh.
01:07:25And you're invited, by the way.
01:07:26You better be there.
01:07:27Yes, I'll be there. Don't worry.
01:07:29Yeah.
01:07:30It is nice, like, I have grandma.
01:07:32You'll have to get used to me, okay?
01:07:35Okay.
01:07:37I am excited about them getting married,
01:07:39but this is honestly something new for me.
01:07:43So are you having a Muslim ceremony?
01:07:51Yeah.
01:07:52That's good.
01:07:55What became of your conversion?
01:07:57Is that all settled and done?
01:08:01We're still finding a mosque to, like, do it at,
01:08:04setting up an appointment, and we gotta do it here soon.
01:08:09I don't believe anybody should have to change their ways
01:08:14or beliefs just to marry somebody.
01:08:17You should love them no matter what, you know?
01:08:20I mean, there's some things you shouldn't maybe marry, too.
01:08:23Like, I'm gonna be blunt about this, witchcraft.
01:08:27But, you know, again, if I could have it my way,
01:08:31I'm not gonna stand here and lie.
01:08:33I would love to see her and her family
01:08:36serving the same God as I do.
01:08:38Absolutely. Absolutely.
01:08:43What would happen if Sam didn't want to do it?
01:08:47Would he get to still marry you?
01:08:54Would you just call it off?
01:09:00I'm not gonna talk to you again, maybe.
01:09:07As a Christian, going to a Muslim ceremony...
01:09:14I don't know how to explain this.
01:09:16How do you go to something that you don't approve of?
01:09:22I'm glad you guys got to meet her,
01:09:24and I hope you better make it to the wedding.
01:09:27I approve of them marrying, but not of the Muslim way.
01:09:33All right, we're heading out, Grandma.
01:09:35What, baby?
01:09:36We're heading out, Ben.
01:09:37I'm so glad you guys got to meet her.
01:09:39Oh, me too.
01:09:40Nice to meet you.
01:09:42You tell me if he's bad.
01:09:44I'll straighten him out, okay?
01:09:46I will.
01:09:47Okay.
01:09:48He's bad all the time.
01:09:49Bye-bye.
01:09:50Bye-bye.
01:09:51Mom, I love you guys.
01:09:52Bye, hon.
01:09:53We will.
01:09:54Okay.
01:09:57Were they better than I warned you of?
01:10:00Yeah, they're nice.
01:10:02She acted better about the, like, conversion
01:10:05than I thought she would.
01:10:07Yeah, which is nice.
01:10:08But it's probably because you were here and around.
01:10:10You know, that's why she threw in that, like,
01:10:12if I don't convert, would you leave me?
01:10:15Mm-hmm.
01:10:18To be honest, I kind of have some faith going on there
01:10:22that this whole thing's going to turn out okay.
01:10:25I really do.
01:10:26Sounds like you might be praying for something different.
01:10:30Maybe.
01:10:32Maybe.
01:10:53Like, is she in danger?
01:10:55Like, why is she so worried about it that she's crying?
01:10:59Like, she seems scared.
01:11:26Surprise.
01:11:27It's Cameron.
01:11:56I just wanted to come say my goodbyes.
01:11:59This is my last time that I'm going to be able to see you.
01:12:10Come here. Bring it in.
01:12:12Yeah.
01:12:16All right, see you, brother.
01:12:17Good to see you, man.
01:12:18Are we going to do a handshake or a hug, bro?
01:12:20I mean, we do both, you know?
01:12:21All right, man.
01:12:22Good to see you.
01:12:23Good to see you, brother.
01:12:24It's a big relief to know that meeting Cameron after 13 years
01:12:28is the exact same as online.
01:12:31It's pretty much like a seamless transition.
01:12:35Best friends goes both ways, right?
01:12:37So, I don't know.
01:12:39I'm glad that the interaction was mutual.
01:12:51Speaking with Cameron has made me realize
01:12:53that we don't really have a lot of time left.
01:12:55So, I'm cooking Annalie a special dinner,
01:12:58and I'm planning on talking to Annalie about her dad
01:13:02not knowing about our relationship.
01:13:04We'll be having a nice meal, having a good day.
01:13:08I think this will be a good time to resolve the things
01:13:11that we need to resolve.
01:13:23Okay.
01:13:33Okay.
01:13:34Yeah.
01:13:54Okay.
01:14:08Okay.
01:14:23Okay.
01:14:53Okay.
01:15:17Bye.
01:15:18Bye.
01:15:24Bye.
01:15:31I have no idea why Annalie is crying about this.
01:15:34You know, it makes me wonder if there's something else going on.
01:15:38Like, is she in danger?
01:15:40Like, why is she so worried about it that she's crying?
01:15:44Like, she seems scared.
01:15:48Hello.
01:15:50Cheeky.
01:15:54F***.
01:15:59This is our humble abode.
01:16:01Is it safe here?
01:16:03We had gunshots two nights ago.
01:16:05It's sad.
01:16:06They shouldn't be living there right now.
01:16:08I think you could have done more.
01:16:09Neither of y'all can sit here and tell me
01:16:11about what I should have done and what I should have,
01:16:13because neither of you guys have ever been at the bottom.
01:16:24Do you want me to put some gel in your hair?
01:16:26Yeah, if you want to.
01:16:29There's so much hair.
01:16:39Nice and shiny.
01:16:41This is the coconut gel?
01:16:43Yeah.
01:16:54I'm going to be nice, Sophie. I promise, I'm going to be nice.
01:16:57Thank you. I appreciate that.
01:16:59But when you start seeing it, you know me.
01:17:01You see the energy.
01:17:02I can only take so much, so I need you...
01:17:04I need you to also be aware of what's happening,
01:17:06so that if she's making digs,
01:17:09maybe just remind her that Rob hears everything.
01:17:14This morning, Sophie's mom will be coming to my house,
01:17:17and I'm nervous because I know that she's super over-opinionated
01:17:22and just says things before thinking,
01:17:25and I'm like, you know, is she going to come into this spot
01:17:29and just rip me apart or what? I don't know.
01:17:32I'm just hoping that she can... I don't know.
01:17:35I don't know what I'm hoping. I'm nervous.
01:17:41She said, I'm here, I think.
01:17:43Okay, so let's go out there and see if she's really here or not.
01:17:46Yeah, I should probably go to the street and check on her,
01:17:49because she doesn't want to be walking around in the woods.
01:17:52Oh, my God.
01:17:55Well, well, well.
01:17:57Well, well, well.
01:17:59You look nice. Oh, my God, you look beautiful.
01:18:02You look nice. I like your dress. Oh, my God.
01:18:04Hey, Rob. Hey. Damn, you look good.
01:18:06I'm really nervous to see where you live. I've got anxiety.
01:18:09Do you want to lead the way? Yeah.
01:18:11So you've got the flower entrance. I like this pretty gate.
01:18:14Yeah. Yeah, the courtyard's cute.
01:18:17Yeah.
01:18:20I will show you in the house, and the bathroom's through there.
01:18:25That second door is our bathroom.
01:18:28Oh, so you don't have a bathroom in your house.
01:18:32Okay.
01:18:34Ta-da!
01:18:36This is our humble abode.
01:18:39Very humble.
01:18:42This is the kitchen.
01:18:45This is our dining room, with no dining table or chair.
01:18:51This is the bed and sofa and chilling area.
01:18:56And that is it.
01:19:01So this is where you live?
01:19:03For now.
01:19:15For me, this was fine, while I was living here by myself,
01:19:19trying to figure things out.
01:19:22No, like, it's a proper man cave.
01:19:27I don't know what to say.
01:19:32Is it safe here? Yeah.
01:19:36Debatable. We had gunshots two nights ago, outside of our house.
01:19:40I wouldn't say it's safe.
01:19:42I think somebody was just playing with their s*** in their backyard.
01:19:47To be honest, for Rob's place, it was...
01:19:50Like, the courtyard's really cute and everything,
01:19:52but for her, it wasn't what I visualised for Sophie to be getting married into.
01:19:59Yeah, they shouldn't be living there right now.
01:20:02This is my area.
01:20:05Listen, it's your home, and the courtyard's beautiful.
01:20:09What I don't get is, you knew she was coming.
01:20:13Yeah.
01:20:14Why wasn't there...
01:20:16Why haven't you sorted out a different place, a bigger place?
01:20:19Because in the last two and a half years,
01:20:21I've been putting a lot of money into just us being together.
01:20:24I mean, the travelling, everywhere we've had to stay.
01:20:28I mean, we literally lived in the same house.
01:20:30I mean, the travelling, everywhere we've had to stay.
01:20:33I mean, we literally lived in Playa for two months,
01:20:35so that was rent money going to a whole other spot.
01:20:38In the two years, if you...
01:20:40Like, I don't want to say that term, it's not the right term to say.
01:20:44Like...
01:20:45No, I can't say it.
01:20:47Like, a real man would be like,
01:20:49Sophie, we can't see each other, I know we want to be together,
01:20:51but we need to put all this money in, so by the time you get here,
01:20:54we've got a deposit, we can move into a one-bedroom place,
01:20:56we'll have space in a safe place.
01:20:59You've basically moved yourself into a man cave.
01:21:02The whole idea of a real man is supposed to tell his woman,
01:21:06like, all right, we're not going to see each other for a year
01:21:08so that we can get a spot, that's ridiculous.
01:21:10Instead, a couple of months of dealing with the spot
01:21:13and then finding a spot together, that seems way more accessible
01:21:16and way more like me and her will actually get to be together.
01:21:19I really, truly, like, stand true to this.
01:21:22I think you could have done more.
01:21:24You two are in this situation because you didn't put enough effort
01:21:26into saving up for it.
01:21:28And whether you like it or not, she can't work.
01:21:30You knew when she got here, she can't work.
01:21:33I'm trying not to take my mum's side,
01:21:36but it's like everything my mum's saying I agree with
01:21:39and everything Rob's saying, he's just acting defensive.
01:21:41He's being the same old Rob that he always is,
01:21:43so she can't get anywhere with him.
01:21:45I just, I don't know, I just, I don't know what to say.
01:21:48I think we're doing just fine.
01:21:50I mean, I agree that you did know the situation was going to be in
01:21:53and when I came here, you didn't have a job lined up already.
01:21:59So what haven't I done from your perspective?
01:22:01Because you've obviously been here a little bit more.
01:22:03You knew I was coming here, you knew I couldn't work.
01:22:05You haven't had a job secured, you haven't had the place secured.
01:22:07There could have been a lot of things you could have done better.
01:22:09There was months I was saying, when are you going to get a job,
01:22:11when are you going to get a job?
01:22:12You're like, oh, yeah, soon, soon, soon.
01:22:13You didn't get a job.
01:22:14Y'all and these opinions is blowing my f***ing mind.
01:22:16Neither of y'all can sit here and tell me about what I should have done
01:22:20and what I should have,
01:22:21because neither of you guys have ever been at the bottom.
01:22:24If you've never lived on your own and had to do it on your own,
01:22:27then shut up trying to tell somebody else what they should be doing.
01:22:32You don't know what the hell being at the bottom is
01:22:34unless and whenever you have ever been at the bottom,
01:22:37you just make a phone call and you're back up.
01:22:39That's easy enough for you guys, but I don't have that.
01:22:42It makes me feel like fully f***ed.
01:22:45Not even the slightest bit.
01:22:48I have zero help.
01:22:49You have no idea what I've done.
01:22:50I have zero help.
01:22:51You have no idea.
01:22:52I have zero help from anybody.
01:22:53And you're going to tell me you have zero help?
01:22:55Yeah, I do.
01:22:56That's a full-face lie.
01:22:57Yeah, that's what you think.
01:22:58I'm confrontational.
01:22:59I'm trying not to be.
01:23:01But they brought it out of me.
01:23:03And I can't really go back from that.
01:23:06Judge, judge, judge, and act like y'all been through it all.
01:23:09That's bulls***.
01:23:14Next time on Not Today, Fiancé.
01:23:16Baby.
01:23:18That is good.
01:23:20Tu quieres casarte conmigo.
01:23:26Gino has shown me nothing but love during this trip.
01:23:31But I've been feeling guilty because I have lied to Gino
01:23:35and I have hide things that I shouldn't have.
01:23:41Awesome, thank you.
01:23:42There you go, guys. Enjoy.
01:23:43Before I convert, I want to have some fun.
01:23:47There you go.
01:23:49You did it, man.
01:23:50I'm about to meet her dad again.
01:23:53And if I don't impress her dad and make him trust me,
01:23:56then, like, there's no wedding, there's nothing.
01:24:02Are you ready to marry me and also, like, ready to convert?
01:24:20Si no vas a respetar eso, es mejor terminar.
01:24:26I love you, Gino.
01:24:27My hair, feeling in love with her.
01:24:29But my body, don't feel the same.
01:24:33But I gotta see you f*** a girl, another girl, and me?
01:24:37Yes.
01:24:38Why?
01:24:40That's really so disrespectful that you can f*** laugh at my face.
01:24:44You don't take accountability for when you do something.
01:24:46Mom, you don't want to hear it because you're the man.
01:24:48Here we go.
01:24:49Speak with yourself.
01:24:50I don't have time for this s***.
01:25:09Sex doesn't make all the problems go away, even though it's a good time.
01:25:19Y'all just want to f*** judge, judge, judge
01:25:23and act like y'all been through it all.
01:25:25That's bulls***.
01:25:26My legs are shaking, I've got adrenaline, I don't want to kick them for you.
01:25:29It's, like, absolutely ridiculous like a child.
01:25:31Like, grow up.
01:25:32They can't accept that they're not right.
01:25:34I can hear you talking, I feel like you're being extremely disrespectful.
01:25:38Like, f*** out of here with that s***.