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00:00:30This morning has come
00:00:42She is humming
00:00:44She is waking everyone up
00:00:47With flowers in her hair
00:00:49The bird that has come
00:00:57Opened, opened, opened
00:00:59There is dust in it
00:01:02A little bit of mischief
00:01:04She is in mischief
00:01:07This morning has come
00:01:19Good morning Pakistan
00:01:23Assalam-o-Alaikum
00:01:25Good morning, good morning Pakistan
00:01:27How are you?
00:01:29How are you?
00:01:31How is your life?
00:01:33I ask you this everyday
00:01:36People think that there are some techniques to live a successful life
00:01:42What are the techniques to live a successful life?
00:01:46Either you are earning a lot of money
00:01:50Have a lot of fame
00:01:52Have a lot of respect
00:01:54And have a place in society
00:01:56Then you feel that your life is successful
00:01:59Then you feel that you have got a good education
00:02:02You have awareness about the world
00:02:04And you know how to lead your life
00:02:09You feel that this is success
00:02:11Along with that you feel that you have got a good companion
00:02:15You have got an ideal life partner
00:02:17There is peace in life
00:02:19Some people feel that this is the biggest success of life
00:02:23Today I am going to talk about this
00:02:26A lot of people
00:02:28When we are born
00:02:30When we are born
00:02:32This struggle starts
00:02:34To make life good
00:02:36To make it successful
00:02:38And if you are not making it yourself
00:02:40Then your parents induce you
00:02:42To be successful
00:02:43To have a good education
00:02:44To walk on the straight path
00:02:45To be pious
00:02:46Every family
00:02:49The good family people
00:02:52They have a lot of values in their children
00:02:55And they induce a lot of good things
00:02:58That is another thing
00:03:00Who turns out to be good
00:03:02Who turns out to be bad
00:03:03But every parent wants
00:03:05To make their children a good person
00:03:08Whether it is a woman or a man
00:03:11To become a good person
00:03:13So in that struggle
00:03:15Sometimes in a crowd
00:03:18That you have to be successful
00:03:21Sometimes people make their aim
00:03:25That we just have to be perfect
00:03:27We want perfection in life
00:03:29Whether it is work
00:03:31Whether it is a profession
00:03:33Whether it is a personal life
00:03:35Whether it is a search for a spouse
00:03:37And at the same time they think
00:03:40That we have everything in life
00:03:42Sometimes people feel that we are very successful
00:03:44We have availed everything
00:03:46But we did not get true love
00:03:47Then sometimes some people think
00:03:50That we have love, we have everything
00:03:52But we did not get a good profession
00:03:54So everyone is a little thirsty
00:03:57So if we talk about true love today
00:04:00Whose name is true love
00:04:04What is the definition of love
00:04:06Then nothing is understood
00:04:08But in every life
00:04:11In every person's mind and heart
00:04:14Its definition is different
00:04:16Many people
00:04:18Those who are going to school or college
00:04:20In this era of success
00:04:22They start settling there
00:04:24Their heart comes to someone
00:04:26Or the heart gets hurt
00:04:28So their professional life
00:04:30And personal life
00:04:32Are running in parallel
00:04:34They are doing medical
00:04:36They are becoming doctors
00:04:38So we became inseparable
00:04:40And they got married
00:04:42They are in the neighborhood
00:04:44So they saw each other in the neighborhood
00:04:46And they fell in love
00:04:48And you felt that this is true love
00:04:50So you settle there
00:04:52So sometimes it happens
00:04:54In cousins, in relatives
00:04:56You have a crush since childhood
00:04:58You feel good
00:05:00So you decide that
00:05:02To achieve this
00:05:04I have an aim
00:05:06So sometimes it happens
00:05:08To get a girl
00:05:10Boys work hard
00:05:12And reach that aim
00:05:14They stand on their own feet
00:05:16And sometimes it happens
00:05:18That mother
00:05:20Finds a match
00:05:22And you are running
00:05:24To make your life
00:05:26A good job, good education
00:05:28And then you feel that you didn't get true love
00:05:30It is said that
00:05:3242%
00:05:34The marriages that end
00:05:36Those are love marriage marriages
00:05:38I don't know
00:05:40Whether it is true or not
00:05:42Which love marriage
00:05:44Teenage love marriage
00:05:46Twenties love marriage
00:05:48I don't know
00:05:50I have seen many marriages
00:05:52That end in front of me
00:05:54In teenage
00:05:56If you like someone for the first time
00:05:58You fall in love with him
00:06:00And when you mature
00:06:02You realize that
00:06:04You have chosen the wrong spouse
00:06:06Because at that time
00:06:08My mind was not towards maturity
00:06:10I didn't have the strength
00:06:12To make decisions
00:06:14Or I shouldn't have
00:06:16So when you grow up
00:06:18You end those marriages
00:06:20That it was not made for us
00:06:22Or it was made
00:06:24So after a short break
00:06:26Let's talk about what love is
00:06:28And what is true love
00:06:30To run a successful marriage
00:06:32What kind of spouse do you need
00:06:34And does love end after marriage
00:06:36Let's talk about it
00:06:38Welcome
00:06:50Welcome back
00:06:52Good morning Pakistan
00:06:54Today many couples will come here
00:06:56And share their story
00:06:58Is their heart broken
00:07:00Or is it connected
00:07:02How did this love happen
00:07:04We will talk about love today
00:07:06But to talk about love
00:07:08You need some smart people
00:07:10And they are sitting on my sofa
00:07:12And of course
00:07:14Professional help is also very important
00:07:16In today's world
00:07:18Because sometimes
00:07:20You feel that your relationship is over
00:07:22But if you go to a therapist
00:07:24And take professional help
00:07:26You feel that it has just started
00:07:28It's just the beginning
00:07:30So many things
00:07:32You can't find in your relationship
00:07:34A third person
00:07:36Who is smart
00:07:38He says that you should never let a stupid friend
00:07:40In your life
00:07:42Because he ruins you
00:07:44So the smart people
00:07:46Who are sitting on my sofa
00:07:48Ghazal Siddique
00:07:50Thank you so much
00:07:52And Ayaz Samoon
00:07:54Why did you call me
00:07:58I know
00:08:00He is a smart person
00:08:02You think he is a joker
00:08:04But I know
00:08:06He has seen life very closely
00:08:10And obviously
00:08:12You have to go to professional help
00:08:14She has become my favorite
00:08:16Because of her talents
00:08:18And I think
00:08:20Whenever Yasir and I have to go
00:08:22I will go to her
00:08:24So Dr. Sana Yasir
00:08:26With us
00:08:28I am so excited to be here
00:08:30Same here
00:08:32I want to listen to you
00:08:34And learn a lot from you
00:08:36So we have a couple here
00:08:38And this couple is
00:08:40Kashif and Asma
00:08:42Hello
00:08:44How are you?
00:08:46Before we listen to your story
00:08:48What is the definition of love
00:08:50Let's start with you
00:08:52Love
00:08:54Love is different from every person
00:08:56Mother and daughter's love is different
00:08:58I am telling you
00:09:00There are different categories of love
00:09:02Let's calculate it in one word
00:09:04But for every person
00:09:06The criteria of love is different
00:09:08As far as husband and wife love is concerned
00:09:10We have created the word of love
00:09:12There should be friendship
00:09:14I don't know
00:09:16People say friendship
00:09:18There was a dialogue in the film
00:09:20There is no love in friendship
00:09:22There is no love in husband and wife
00:09:24Friendship can't develop later
00:09:26After marriage
00:09:28People say
00:09:30Love ends after marriage
00:09:32Why do they gauge this?
00:09:34Because the connection
00:09:36The friendship ends
00:09:38If the friendship is intact
00:09:40Then the love is intact
00:09:42Bring tea
00:09:44The food is salty
00:09:46The companionship ends
00:09:48When you try to
00:09:50Supersede each other
00:09:52The bonding, partnership
00:09:54That ends
00:09:56You say love is friendship
00:09:58I am chill
00:10:00I am like Sahil Hodi
00:10:02Love is friendship
00:10:04Ghazal, what do you think?
00:10:06I think
00:10:08Along with time
00:10:10The shades of love are different
00:10:12I agree
00:10:14If you love someone
00:10:16To maintain it
00:10:18It's not just his hand
00:10:20You also have a hand
00:10:22With how much patience
00:10:24With how much patience
00:10:26You tried to maintain that love
00:10:28We blame others
00:10:30If he did this, it's over
00:10:32But what did you do
00:10:34To maintain it
00:10:36Love will remain
00:10:38Different
00:10:40They say love changes in feeling
00:10:42Like we give a definition
00:10:44In the beginning, there are talks of air and air
00:10:46After that, love changes
00:10:48There are talks of potatoes and tomatoes
00:10:50This is there
00:10:52If we live in fantasies
00:10:54That's not there
00:10:56She didn't say the next phase
00:10:58After that, medicines
00:11:00But that's also love
00:11:02God forbid
00:11:04If one of your partners
00:11:06Has a problem
00:11:08Will you leave him?
00:11:10Did you take medicine on time?
00:11:12The balm and all
00:11:14This is an ideal situation
00:11:16Put a balm on the waist
00:11:18If you took medicine
00:11:20It's an ideal situation
00:11:22If you took medicine because of me
00:11:24This is a different scenario
00:11:26Doctors are love
00:11:28I would say
00:11:30If this is approached scientifically
00:11:32There is no one definition of love
00:11:34And the area where we live
00:11:36Love, passion
00:11:38Everything is there
00:11:40This is just
00:11:42Intensity
00:11:44To know someone
00:11:46To develop a connection
00:11:48There are stages of connection
00:11:50Initially
00:11:52Friendship
00:11:54Is the easiest
00:11:56You don't feel bad
00:11:58You want to know someone
00:12:00And allow
00:12:02To know you
00:12:04One-sided love
00:12:06Many people do
00:12:08Someone's hair looks good
00:12:10Someone's height looks good
00:12:12These are very subtle things
00:12:14Reduce the filminess
00:12:16Go deep
00:12:18If we want
00:12:20Then we will know
00:12:22Are our values the same?
00:12:24Are our differences
00:12:26We can handle
00:12:28Some things
00:12:30I was talking to Ghazal
00:12:32Age
00:12:34No matter how much
00:12:36Less or more
00:12:38Even if your spouse is younger than you
00:12:40Age will not matter
00:12:42If there is a mental connection
00:12:46What is that?
00:12:48Friendship
00:12:50Or love
00:12:52I would say
00:12:54Emotional connection
00:12:56I think
00:12:58I love my husband
00:13:00I love everything about him
00:13:04I love all his relatives
00:13:06Honestly
00:13:08My brother-in-law was complimenting me
00:13:10You take so much care of us
00:13:12You say
00:13:14Let's go on a picnic
00:13:16Very few people
00:13:18Take their family
00:13:20I said
00:13:22I love my son
00:13:24I love everything about him
00:13:26I love his friends
00:13:28I love his shoes
00:13:30When I like Laila
00:13:32I love Laila's dog
00:13:34He started laughing
00:13:36I said
00:13:38You said a good thing
00:13:42If you love your husband
00:13:44You love everyone related to him
00:13:48It's not just the husband
00:13:50This is the cafe where you will miss all the red flags
00:13:54Yes
00:13:56My mother used to say
00:13:58When the heart is on the donkey
00:14:00What is a fairy?
00:14:02All mothers say
00:14:04But
00:14:06If it's one sided
00:14:08If you do it
00:14:10You don't get a return
00:14:12You feel sad
00:14:16If you love someone
00:14:18And you don't get a return
00:14:20Does your love fade away with time?
00:14:22What do you think?
00:14:24It's a good thing
00:14:28When husband and wife fight
00:14:30Husbands say
00:14:32Leave her
00:14:34When you start ignoring her
00:14:36Remember
00:14:38She will learn to live without you
00:14:40If you
00:14:42Emotionally detach her
00:14:44Slowly
00:14:46She will think
00:14:48No one is listening to me
00:14:50Leave it
00:14:52I will talk to a friend
00:14:54I started talking to myself
00:14:56Slowly
00:14:58She will move away
00:15:00It's not one sided
00:15:02It's two and four
00:15:04Whether husband or wife
00:15:08There will be someone who loves more
00:15:10If he doesn't get that reaction
00:15:14Does his love fade away?
00:15:16If I say
00:15:18Yes it fades away
00:15:20But why?
00:15:22If you can see
00:15:24That it's fading
00:15:26You can improve it
00:15:28My love language
00:15:30Is different from yours
00:15:32I am giving you love
00:15:34In my own language
00:15:36You can't register it
00:15:40I always say
00:15:42There should be no assumption
00:15:44Do you know how to tell?
00:15:46There is a difference
00:15:50If we minus the blame
00:15:52We can tell
00:15:54I like it when
00:15:56We do this
00:15:58Or I want it to be like this
00:16:00Because
00:16:02Spending time with you
00:16:04Doing these things
00:16:06Taking experiences
00:16:08Watching TV
00:16:10Watching a show
00:16:12Anything
00:16:14Until you convey
00:16:16And not receptive
00:16:18Allow her to tell you
00:16:20Her love language
00:16:22There are five universal love languages
00:16:24You won't do anything other than that
00:16:26You will fit in those five
00:16:28It's easy
00:16:30If you know this
00:16:32Then you
00:16:34Which five should I tell?
00:16:38Which five should I know?
00:16:42Just to carry the conversation forward
00:16:44Ayaz
00:16:46My love language is quality time
00:16:50If I don't tell Yasir
00:16:52He is giving me gifts
00:16:54His name is Yasir
00:16:56He is our friend
00:17:00People will say
00:17:02Why are you talking about Yasir?
00:17:04I didn't even get a shave
00:17:06Exactly
00:17:10If I don't convey this to Yasir
00:17:12He can give me gifts
00:17:14Acts of service is another thing
00:17:16He can help me
00:17:18Let me tell you
00:17:20He is trying everything
00:17:22But if I tell him
00:17:24We did all this
00:17:28Words of affirmation is another love language
00:17:30I like to hear
00:17:32Praise me
00:17:34What did you like about me?
00:17:36If I cook well
00:17:38If I wear nice clothes
00:17:40I get your attention
00:17:42I like it
00:17:44If I tell him
00:17:46He won't waste time
00:17:48He will do
00:17:50What will deepen our connection
00:17:54Be moderate
00:17:58If you can see
00:18:00You should reflect
00:18:02From my end
00:18:04Can I do something
00:18:06To keep it ignited
00:18:08Don't be moderate
00:18:10Everything happens
00:18:12Conflicts are manageable
00:18:14Those who are manageable
00:18:16Should manage them
00:18:22You must have experienced
00:18:24Mothers beat their children
00:18:26They say bad things
00:18:28When they fight with their husband
00:18:30Or mother-in-law
00:18:32They get angry
00:18:34I didn't do anything
00:18:38If you don't like your husband
00:18:40You don't like his children
00:18:42These are weird things
00:18:44I have said a deep thing
00:18:50I asked someone
00:18:52He had 2-3 wives
00:18:54I asked him how he manages
00:18:56He said my first wife is so nice
00:18:58I asked him why did you get married again
00:19:00He said I wanted to have 2-3
00:19:02What did he say
00:19:04Praise
00:19:06Is not just
00:19:08Praise
00:19:10What if he
00:19:12Goes out
00:19:14And brings a gift
00:19:18What is that love
00:19:20Care
00:19:22Acknowledge
00:19:24You should be expressive
00:19:26Some people are less expressive
00:19:28Like if someone cooks
00:19:30I want my husband to say
00:19:32It's cooked well
00:19:34He says its been years
00:19:36You don't know
00:19:38I've been eating for so long, I don't know if I'm liking it or not.
00:19:40My husband only praises me when the food is ready.
00:19:43I mean, a person only loves food.
00:19:46When the food is ready, he praises me.
00:19:48You've got five times the food.
00:19:50And Nida, if you love your children,
00:19:52you give them a lot of attention,
00:19:54so this is also a way of loving your husband.
00:19:56Absolutely.
00:19:58What all comes in a wife's responsibilities, Nida?
00:20:01It's not just that you have to take care of your husband,
00:20:03or be obedient to him,
00:20:05or show obedience.
00:20:07It's actually that while keeping your strength in front of you,
00:20:10you both decide how you want to move forward.
00:20:12What is their strength?
00:20:14What is my strength?
00:20:16What standards do we have to set in front of the children?
00:20:19Look, there will be conflicts in every house,
00:20:22there will also be a way to deal with them.
00:20:24The way you would have seen your parents,
00:20:27you will resort to it.
00:20:29Okay, fine, I don't understand anything else.
00:20:31So what did mom do? What did dad do?
00:20:33This will be built in, because you have absorbed it.
00:20:37Even then, if that method is not working in your hands,
00:20:41then you can learn better methods,
00:20:44even if you unlearn the old method.
00:20:46And the most difficult thing is to unlearn.
00:20:51Now look, if you misbehave with your wife,
00:20:55beat her up,
00:20:57there is domestic violence at home,
00:20:59then that will affect your children.
00:21:01When your daughter will get beaten up by her husband for the first time,
00:21:04she will take it as normal.
00:21:06She will think, my mother has been beaten up all her life.
00:21:09If your son did something to your wife,
00:21:12if this was not the case at home,
00:21:14then there will be conflicts.
00:21:16So think about it,
00:21:18the actions speak louder than words.
00:21:21And the boys think that this is how life goes on.
00:21:24And the girls think,
00:21:26if it happened to us, it happened to our mother too.
00:21:28It becomes a setting, a mindset.
00:21:30We are setting standards in front of our children,
00:21:34even if it is a lovey-dovey couple.
00:21:37These are the scales of happiness.
00:21:39You are a role model.
00:21:41We also have different ways of enjoyment.
00:21:45But the small joys,
00:21:51like if you go on a picnic once a month,
00:21:54or go on a vacation,
00:21:55then you are in the city for the whole month,
00:21:57you are happy, you become very productive.
00:21:59In our house, every Sunday there is an open house.
00:22:01We are singers,
00:22:02sometimes our neighbors come,
00:22:03sometimes our friends come.
00:22:05Because we have a lot of compatibility in our habits,
00:22:09hobbies,
00:22:10so we enjoy a lot.
00:22:11Music is a mutual ground where we enjoy.
00:22:15So I think,
00:22:17to keep this relationship alive,
00:22:20or to revive this relationship,
00:22:23small things happen in every house.
00:22:26My husband and I have a lot of difference of opinion.
00:22:29And for no reason,
00:22:30sometimes there is a small thing,
00:22:33and we laugh and say,
00:22:35there was no such thing.
00:22:36Why did this happen?
00:22:38So what happens is,
00:22:39if you live in the same environment,
00:22:41then the water,
00:22:43the stagnant water,
00:22:44becomes smelly.
00:22:45Yes.
00:22:46So small things should be done.
00:22:48You should bring some waves.
00:22:49Absolutely.
00:22:50And I guess there is one more thing in this,
00:22:51like Sana said,
00:22:53the bonding between husband and wife,
00:22:56obviously reflects your next generation.
00:22:58If a child is seeing that,
00:23:00my parents are so close,
00:23:02they play and laugh,
00:23:03they don't fight,
00:23:04even if they fight,
00:23:05they fight in private,
00:23:06not in front of us.
00:23:07So the child also bonds with his parents.
00:23:09He makes friends,
00:23:10he shares things.
00:23:11If he is seeing that,
00:23:12my father shares with my mother,
00:23:14my mother shares with my father,
00:23:15then he also shares his things.
00:23:16Where there is a conflict between husband and wife,
00:23:18where they don't keep a reserve,
00:23:19don't talk to each other,
00:23:20then the child is not telling his own things.
00:23:22Because he thinks this is normal.
00:23:24If they don't share with each other,
00:23:25then I can't do it either.
00:23:26Forget this,
00:23:27I have heard that many children say,
00:23:29we don't want to get married at all.
00:23:31Yes.
00:23:32Nowadays,
00:23:33if they have seen a negative relationship,
00:23:35with their parents,
00:23:36then their heart
00:23:37and their belief
00:23:38goes away from this relationship.
00:23:40We are taking a small break.
00:23:41After the break,
00:23:42we will listen to the stories of different couples,
00:23:44so that we can elaborate a little more,
00:23:46apart from our personal experiences,
00:23:49on this relationship.
00:23:51Like we talk about the love of husband and wife.
00:23:54The phone is ringing from now.
00:23:55No one will call Dr. Sana now.
00:23:57We will talk after the show.
00:23:58Good Morning Pakistan will be with us after the break.
00:24:13Welcome,
00:24:14welcome back.
00:24:15Good Morning Pakistan.
00:24:16Today we are talking about
00:24:18love marriage,
00:24:20love marriage.
00:24:22Because we can only talk about that.
00:24:24In our society,
00:24:26the system of girlfriend and boyfriend,
00:24:28is not there.
00:24:29Basically.
00:24:30The definition of marriage is also very different,
00:24:32from the western world.
00:24:33In our society,
00:24:34marriage is not done with one person.
00:24:35Yes.
00:24:36In our society,
00:24:37mostly girls are married to their families.
00:24:39Exactly.
00:24:40Absolutely.
00:24:41We have to think in the same way.
00:24:43Let's see,
00:24:44let's see the thoughts of others,
00:24:46and then decide,
00:24:47what we have to tell you on today's show.
00:24:49Asma and Kashif are with us.
00:24:52Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:24:53Assalam-o-Alaikum.
00:24:54What would you like to say?
00:24:55We also had a love marriage.
00:24:57Yes.
00:24:58I went to my friend's wedding.
00:25:00He came from the groom's side,
00:25:02to his friend's wedding.
00:25:03Yes.
00:25:04He liked her.
00:25:05Yes.
00:25:06In our family,
00:25:07marriage is done,
00:25:08not out of the family.
00:25:10But he sent a proposal.
00:25:12Okay.
00:25:13And it was refused.
00:25:14This doesn't happen today.
00:25:15First, I agreed with my family,
00:25:17Speak a little louder, please.
00:25:18First, I agreed with my family,
00:25:20my mother,
00:25:21she was also not ready.
00:25:22Okay.
00:25:23There was a caste issue.
00:25:24Okay.
00:25:25So, there was a lot of show.
00:25:26Hmm.
00:25:27Then, I convinced her,
00:25:28after convincing her,
00:25:29I took some tablets.
00:25:31You took some tablets?
00:25:32Yes, I took some tablets.
00:25:33Oh my God!
00:25:34Why did you take medicine?
00:25:35Yes, yes.
00:25:36Did you take it by counting,
00:25:37or will I be saved, or what?
00:25:38No.
00:25:39I think you took it by counting,
00:25:40but it was a bit of a drama.
00:25:41Okay.
00:25:42No, it was not a drama,
00:25:43it was a fact.
00:25:44I have friends,
00:25:45witnesses,
00:25:46there were 6-7 tablets.
00:25:47So, for 2 days,
00:25:48I was not conscious.
00:25:49I went to the hospital,
00:25:50the doctor treated me.
00:25:51Oh my God!
00:25:52After 2 days,
00:25:53my mother agreed.
00:25:54After that,
00:25:55my father also agreed.
00:25:56Did you take this decision
00:25:57after seeing him at the wedding?
00:25:58That you will take tablets for him?
00:25:59I shared this with my friends for 4 days.
00:26:00Okay.
00:26:01They said,
00:26:02no, try it.
00:26:03I was getting good proposals
00:26:04in those days.
00:26:05So, I was afraid
00:26:06that someone else would take it.
00:26:07But,
00:26:08did you start communicating?
00:26:09No,
00:26:10not at that time.
00:26:11Okay.
00:26:12Then, when they…
00:26:13They were going one way.
00:26:14Yes,
00:26:15they were going one way.
00:26:16Did you take tablets?
00:26:17Yes.
00:26:18And when…
00:26:19My family members were not agreeing.
00:26:20Then,
00:26:21I convinced my family members
00:26:22and they came to our side.
00:26:23So,
00:26:24he was in the hospital at that time.
00:26:25When they came to our side,
00:26:26my mother was very kind.
00:26:27She said,
00:26:28the boy who has done this for you,
00:26:29he will take good care of you.
00:26:30At first,
00:26:31she was also not agreeing.
00:26:32She was also afraid
00:26:33that he would take tablets.
00:26:34Later,
00:26:35when she came to know
00:26:36that I was in the hospital,
00:26:37then,
00:26:38she suddenly
00:26:39said yes.
00:26:40Then,
00:26:41her father also came and said,
00:26:42why did you suddenly say yes?
00:26:43But,
00:26:44we are from Pathan.
00:26:45We don't do this.
00:26:46We do this outside.
00:26:47My mother-in-law said yes.
00:26:48My mother-in-law said yes.
00:26:49Then,
00:26:50she agreed.
00:26:51Then,
00:26:52she said yes.
00:26:53Okay.
00:26:54So,
00:26:55this is how it happened.
00:26:56This is how we got married.
00:26:57All your life,
00:26:58how many times did you taunt me?
00:26:59I took tablets because of you.
00:27:00These are the taunts
00:27:01in my life.
00:27:02Leave the taunts.
00:27:03Don't threaten me.
00:27:04If you do something,
00:27:05I will take the tablets.
00:27:06I threaten you
00:27:07that I will make you take the tablets.
00:27:10But,
00:27:11you have to do it.
00:27:12See,
00:27:13now,
00:27:14we have started
00:27:15talking on the phone.
00:27:16Now,
00:27:17we are giving a lot of time.
00:27:18We are giving a lot of time.
00:27:19Talk to me.
00:27:20Baby,
00:27:21say something.
00:27:22Don't be quiet.
00:27:23If you call me baby,
00:27:24I will be quiet.
00:27:25Don't say anything.
00:27:26So,
00:27:27this is the difference.
00:27:28All these years.
00:27:29Earlier,
00:27:30we used to talk comfortably.
00:27:31Now,
00:27:32it is very difficult.
00:27:33Okay.
00:27:34Now,
00:27:35there are kids.
00:27:36There are a lot of things.
00:27:37We are living in a joint family.
00:27:38So,
00:27:39you know
00:27:40where to get angry
00:27:41and where to get angry.
00:27:42It happens.
00:27:43It really happens.
00:27:44Yes.
00:27:45So,
00:27:46earlier,
00:27:47if I am going somewhere
00:27:48and I have a plan
00:27:49that we are going to a park
00:27:50and if they come to know,
00:27:51they would be present
00:27:52at the gate
00:27:53before we reach there.
00:27:54In the park?
00:27:55In the park.
00:27:56Okay.
00:27:57Just to see.
00:27:58Yes.
00:27:59But,
00:28:00now,
00:28:01if we have to plan,
00:28:02we have to press their feet.
00:28:03Then,
00:28:04they go somewhere.
00:28:05The kids are also happy
00:28:06that they don't have time now.
00:28:07Earlier,
00:28:08there were no responsibilities.
00:28:09Now,
00:28:10there are a lot of responsibilities.
00:28:11Yes.
00:28:12But,
00:28:13we are still in the same thing.
00:28:14We are not yet
00:28:15in that beautiful city.
00:28:16Golden period.
00:28:17That period is called
00:28:18golden period.
00:28:19Golden period.
00:28:20Yes.
00:28:21That's it.
00:28:22So,
00:28:23the kids also have responsibilities.
00:28:24Then,
00:28:25it becomes very difficult.
00:28:26The second thing is that
00:28:27earlier,
00:28:28if I have cooked something,
00:28:29I have cooked this today.
00:28:30Okay,
00:28:31you send it.
00:28:32Your food.
00:28:33Wow.
00:28:34There were so many compliments
00:28:35that I used to think
00:28:36that I don't know
00:28:37where I have come from
00:28:38that I am cooking food like this.
00:28:39Now,
00:28:40tell me.
00:28:41I don't have that much time.
00:28:42You can't praise me all the time.
00:28:43Yes.
00:28:44I am just eating.
00:28:45But,
00:28:46sometimes,
00:28:47you should praise me a little.
00:28:48The thing is that
00:28:49they are watching the news
00:28:50or there is something
00:28:51in their mobile.
00:28:52So,
00:28:53the food is done
00:28:54with that.
00:28:55And,
00:28:56I am sitting and waiting.
00:28:57Look,
00:28:58I will compliment my brother
00:28:59that the complaints
00:29:00that she is making,
00:29:01he is looking at her
00:29:02with so much love.
00:29:03I will also say the same.
00:29:04We fight
00:29:05mostly because
00:29:06they say that
00:29:07you didn't have
00:29:08so much anger earlier.
00:29:09Now,
00:29:10you also have anger.
00:29:11They were angry.
00:29:12And,
00:29:13they are still angry.
00:29:14You have cooled them down.
00:29:15They are smiling
00:29:16at your death.
00:29:17Then,
00:29:18they say the same things
00:29:19that you said earlier.
00:29:20I try a lot
00:29:21not to get angry.
00:29:22But,
00:29:23their talks are like this
00:29:24that they get angry.
00:29:25Getting angry at children.
00:29:26Now,
00:29:27those children have come
00:29:28from school.
00:29:29Nowadays,
00:29:30they come from school
00:29:31from 1.30 to 2.00 pm.
00:29:32They are tired.
00:29:33We also have a lot of work.
00:29:34When they come,
00:29:35they change immediately.
00:29:36When they come,
00:29:37they get angry.
00:29:38Now,
00:29:39they have to get ready
00:29:40quickly.
00:29:41Then,
00:29:42I say one thing.
00:29:43Just like your father
00:29:44is lazy,
00:29:45you are also lazy.
00:29:46So,
00:29:47this happens.
00:29:48You triggered this.
00:29:49Yes.
00:29:50The fight starts.
00:29:51The fight starts.
00:29:52Oh,
00:29:53oh,
00:29:54oh.
00:29:55Earlier,
00:29:56I used to send so many gifts.
00:29:57I have sent so many gifts.
00:29:58Our engagement
00:29:59of 3 years
00:30:00was amazing.
00:30:01So many gifts
00:30:02used to come to us.
00:30:03Listen,
00:30:04I am interrupting you.
00:30:05If you
00:30:06keep yourself
00:30:07like this,
00:30:08your mother
00:30:09used to be like this.
00:30:10So,
00:30:11you are like this.
00:30:12So,
00:30:13how much trouble
00:30:14did you face?
00:30:15But,
00:30:16see,
00:30:17I tried my best.
00:30:18This is an insult.
00:30:19Yes.
00:30:20You have to
00:30:21vent out your anger.
00:30:22Yes,
00:30:23I have to vent out my anger.
00:30:24You should vent out your anger
00:30:25somewhere else.
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00:35:10You should vent out your anger
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00:35:12You should vent out your anger
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00:35:14You should vent out your anger
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00:35:16You should vent out your anger
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00:35:18You should vent out your anger
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00:35:20You should vent out your anger
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00:35:22You should vent out your anger
00:35:23somewhere else.
00:35:24You should vent out your anger
00:35:25somewhere else.
00:35:26So,
00:35:27at least acknowledge your own
00:35:28contributions.
00:35:29At least acknowledge your own
00:35:30contributions.
00:35:31The one thing that is very
00:35:32clear is that you both
00:35:33have a lot of love.
00:35:34And this is very obvious.
00:35:35Even your body language
00:35:36is telling you this.
00:35:37In my opinion,
00:35:38you both don't have any
00:35:39problem.
00:35:40But,
00:35:41I want to ask you
00:35:42Asma,
00:35:43they liked you
00:35:44after seeing you
00:35:45and even took your pills.
00:35:46You can tell us
00:35:47at least 3 qualities
00:35:48of them
00:35:49due to which
00:35:50you are with
00:35:51them and
00:35:52want to be with them.
00:35:53Now,
00:35:54I want to stay with them.
00:35:56The things that I complain about, when I discuss them with them, they get settled.
00:36:02They get settled, but then again, I get angry.
00:36:06No, her question is, what did you like about them?
00:36:09Tell us three good things.
00:36:11Three good qualities.
00:36:13In their family, our Pathans are a little different.
00:36:18They don't have much unity.
00:36:20In their family, we saw that they have a lot of unity.
00:36:23They have a lot of unity.
00:36:25This is a family matter.
00:36:27Kashif, you are living with them, right?
00:36:30The things that I liked about them, the time restriction.
00:36:33I like that a lot. I myself am very punctual.
00:36:36I saw that and liked them.
00:36:38The value of time has been aligned here.
00:36:40One thing that they used to do a lot is to note down a small thing.
00:36:45They used to point it out.
00:36:47I didn't do it either, but they noted it down.
00:36:50Whatever I say, and if they don't like it, they used to follow it.
00:36:59Or they used to make it up to me.
00:37:03If there is a disagreement, they don't try to fix it.
00:37:10I liked that.
00:37:12They used to make an effort first.
00:37:15Now we are in the process of bringing unity.
00:37:17I saw that they do everything that I like.
00:37:21Kashif, they have also changed over time.
00:37:25When did you stop praising them?
00:37:29Why did you stop?
00:37:30Or is their busyness so much that it is no longer a priority?
00:37:33Their busyness has increased a lot.
00:37:35They want to get tired.
00:37:36Now they are tired.
00:37:37They have eaten.
00:37:38For whom are you tired, Kashif?
00:37:40For them, for the kids.
00:37:42You have to tell them too.
00:37:44If you praise or acknowledge them, it will be covered.
00:37:48Absolutely.
00:37:49You can tell them, but you can't tell them every day.
00:37:51You can't praise them for a day or two.
00:37:56They are tired.
00:37:58If they are tired, tell them that they are tired.
00:38:02They don't have the courage.
00:38:03The things that I say to them, that I don't like these things,
00:38:07or there will be a fight between us because of this,
00:38:09then they will set it temporarily and then again.
00:38:14Because we are all bound by our habits.
00:38:16Our habits develop over time.
00:38:19Any practice, for example, if you go in the morning,
00:38:23whenever you go, if you go in the afternoon,
00:38:25at that time, if you say a few words to them,
00:38:28that you put on red lipstick and sit in the evening,
00:38:31or anything,
00:38:33they will comply, they will look forward.
00:38:38She is so happy.
00:38:39I am smiling.
00:38:41Even if they put on red lipstick,
00:38:43it won't make a difference to them.
00:38:44That's what I am saying.
00:38:46Asma, whatever their request is,
00:38:49I am telling you as a ritual,
00:38:50if you start from today,
00:38:52this is an example, it is not necessary to do it,
00:38:54you can do anything,
00:38:56but I am telling you as an example,
00:38:57start a ritual.
00:38:59That I make a request to them every day,
00:39:02and my request is fulfilled every day.
00:39:04Then if you fulfill the request they make every day,
00:39:07it will take 21 days to do this,
00:39:10so that it becomes a habit.
00:39:12So, it can be done for 21 days,
00:39:15if you want to do it.
00:39:16Their requests also increase day by day.
00:39:18No, no, wherever they go,
00:39:20there is a flower shop on their way,
00:39:22earlier there used to be so many flowers,
00:39:24they are stuck in my diaries,
00:39:25those dried flowers,
00:39:26I am taking them out one by one in anger.
00:39:28When I was angry, I took one out and threw it away.
00:39:30Okay, so anger is not on Kashif.
00:39:32Now those flowers are not there.
00:39:33Asma, anger is not on Kashif,
00:39:34because that flower is a symbol of something.
00:39:37You don't want that flower,
00:39:39you want their affection and attention.
00:39:42You want that love,
00:39:44which is behind that flower,
00:39:45it's not the flower.
00:39:46And that love,
00:39:47again I will say this,
00:39:49identify your own love language.
00:39:51The value that matches them,
00:39:53that is the restriction of time,
00:39:55you told it yourself,
00:39:56we don't need to explore it further.
00:39:58If you can do these things privately,
00:40:00for 20 minutes every day,
00:40:02when the kids go to sleep,
00:40:04or when they are away from you,
00:40:05both of you sit together for 20 minutes,
00:40:07take out so much time for yourself,
00:40:08that you share a little every day.
00:40:09Often it happens, Sana,
00:40:10that the 20 minutes that are taken out,
00:40:12there are complaints against each other.
00:40:13Complaints.
00:40:14And mobile.
00:40:15That whole time is wasted like this.
00:40:16Yes, exactly.
00:40:17So, keep a few rules for those 20 minutes,
00:40:20that there will be no distraction,
00:40:21mobile will be on the side.
00:40:22We can talk,
00:40:24but when I am going to talk,
00:40:26they don't have time.
00:40:28So, time.
00:40:29Mobile.
00:40:30Like a date,
00:40:31you can set a date.
00:40:32Like a date,
00:40:33time is set.
00:40:34That's what I want,
00:40:35date, date.
00:40:36Like time used to be,
00:40:37now it's not like that.
00:40:38You have to think for them.
00:40:39You can't spend time for a date every day,
00:40:41but see,
00:40:42even after the kids are gone,
00:40:44the parents or the couple,
00:40:46should go somewhere alone.
00:40:48Nida, we...
00:40:49I have seen it at dinner,
00:40:50the kids are crying,
00:40:51Chunnu, Munnu,
00:40:52and the poor mother,
00:40:53is changing their diaper,
00:40:54and is busy going to the bathroom.
00:40:56Dude, science proves this.
00:40:57So what?
00:40:58Nida, science proves this,
00:40:59that you don't have to go out for a date.
00:41:01You don't even have to go out of the house.
00:41:03That 20 minutes is your own time.
00:41:05Make tea, make coffee.
00:41:07Kashif gets 10 minutes,
00:41:08Asma gets 10 minutes.
00:41:09For 10 minutes,
00:41:10when I am saying this,
00:41:12you listen,
00:41:13and when I am saying this,
00:41:14you listen.
00:41:15At that time,
00:41:16you just have to acknowledge each other.
00:41:17You don't have to argue.
00:41:19Active listening is part of good communication.
00:41:23Active listening means,
00:41:24you have to be patient.
00:41:26Even if you get angry.
00:41:28See, anger is natural.
00:41:29Anger is a natural emotion.
00:41:31Aggression is not.
00:41:33There is a difference in intensity.
00:41:36You can get angry.
00:41:37You can get triggered.
00:41:38If you say something for their father,
00:41:40he will definitely get triggered.
00:41:42It is up to them,
00:41:43how they react,
00:41:44or how they respond.
00:41:45I usually teach people,
00:41:48that you have to respond,
00:41:49not react.
00:41:50Conflict increases with reaction.
00:41:53It gets amplified.
00:41:54In your hand,
00:41:55do I have to put energy in it,
00:41:57or do I have to weigh it?
00:41:59What do I have to do?
00:42:01What end result do I want?
00:42:03Asma,
00:42:04you both love each other so much,
00:42:05that you don't want to be apart.
00:42:07You have kids too.
00:42:08You just have to design,
00:42:10a happy and better future.
00:42:12You can plant joy in your life,
00:42:14every day for 20 minutes.
00:42:16And for 20 minutes,
00:42:17no matter how many responsibilities you have,
00:42:19for them,
00:42:20it is not difficult to take out 20 minutes.
00:42:22When I give them 20 minutes,
00:42:23they get angry.
00:42:25After a short break,
00:42:26we will come back.
00:42:28After a break.
00:42:29Good morning.
00:42:40Welcome.
00:42:41Welcome back.
00:42:42Good morning Pakistan.
00:42:43Today,
00:42:44we will try to connect broken hearts.
00:42:47Why should I say connect?
00:42:48Let's try to connect.
00:42:50There are many couples,
00:42:52who have differences.
00:42:54Those small differences,
00:42:55turn into big ones.
00:42:57So, if you don't let those big differences,
00:42:59become bigger.
00:43:00If you make your heart bigger,
00:43:02stronger,
00:43:03it won't break on small things.
00:43:05Yes.
00:43:06Exactly,
00:43:07this is what happened.
00:43:08If you make your heart strong,
00:43:10it will become immune,
00:43:11to those small things,
00:43:12which are there in naive life.
00:43:14If you don't do so much,
00:43:15people will say,
00:43:16you have a very stony heart.
00:43:17Yes.
00:43:18This is also there.
00:43:19It needs to be a good balance.
00:43:20Yes.
00:43:21Okay,
00:43:22our last couple,
00:43:23if we tell the conclusion of this,
00:43:25then let's go to the next couple.
00:43:27What did you feel in their life,
00:43:29that what problem is coming?
00:43:31The problem is not that big.
00:43:33All they need to do is,
00:43:34what they did in the past,
00:43:35and now they are not being served,
00:43:36they need to break that pattern.
00:43:38What I told them about 20 minutes,
00:43:40if they start this daily practice from today,
00:43:42then they are designing their future.
00:43:44They are not going around in the past,
00:43:45that they used to do like this,
00:43:46or like that,
00:43:47or it was like this.
00:43:48If we talk about today,
00:43:49then we will talk about designing the future.
00:43:51Because I don't want,
00:43:52anyone to keep on breaking their past.
00:43:54Yes.
00:43:55Absolutely.
00:43:56So,
00:43:57the next couple I have,
00:43:59they are Farman and Nimra.
00:44:02They are young.
00:44:04They get married at a young age.
00:44:06I told you,
00:44:07sometimes it happens.
00:44:08Greetings.
00:44:09Greetings.
00:44:10How are you?
00:44:11Are you fine?
00:44:12Absolutely fine.
00:44:13Yes.
00:44:14So,
00:44:15you both got married early.
00:44:17Yes.
00:44:18They say,
00:44:19she used to live in my area.
00:44:21So,
00:44:22I liked her.
00:44:23So,
00:44:24her family is strict.
00:44:26They are very strict.
00:44:28So,
00:44:29their love marriage is not possible.
00:44:31You have no idea.
00:44:32Yes.
00:44:33So,
00:44:34I sent a proposal,
00:44:35and it happened.
00:44:36How did you see them when they were young?
00:44:39I saw them in their childhood.
00:44:41Okay.
00:44:42Then,
00:44:43in their childhood,
00:44:44after that,
00:44:45I mean,
00:44:46understand,
00:44:47in their childhood,
00:44:48you know,
00:44:49we used to play normally.
00:44:50Yes.
00:44:51In their childhood,
00:44:52after a long time,
00:44:53I saw them,
00:44:54when I saw them with my sister for the first time.
00:44:56Okay.
00:44:57Okay?
00:44:58And then,
00:44:59I mean,
00:45:00I talked to my sister,
00:45:02that,
00:45:03I mean,
00:45:04you have friends,
00:45:05right?
00:45:06So,
00:45:07through my sister,
00:45:08she has a letter,
00:45:09a proper letter,
00:45:10I sent it to her.
00:45:11Because,
00:45:12it was not allowed in their house,
00:45:13the phone,
00:45:14the phone was not allowed in their house.
00:45:15So,
00:45:16so,
00:45:17after that,
00:45:18I mean,
00:45:19for one week,
00:45:20there was no response.
00:45:21Like,
00:45:22shock,
00:45:23my sister told me.
00:45:24So,
00:45:25I was surprised,
00:45:26I was a little scared.
00:45:27So,
00:45:28I was also a little scared.
00:45:29So,
00:45:30I said,
00:45:31I don't know what will happen next week.
00:45:32My parents are standing outside my house.
00:45:33So,
00:45:34what happened?
00:45:35This happens normally.
00:45:36Brother,
00:45:37she was trying to understand the writing
00:45:38for a week.
00:45:39What is written?
00:45:40Cute.
00:45:41I have a point,
00:45:42I had written in Urdu.
00:45:44And,
00:45:45she was a little shy.
00:45:46She was in Urdu.
00:45:48So,
00:45:49what happened next?
00:45:50Her reply came,
00:45:51through her sister,
00:45:52in this letter.
00:45:53So,
00:45:54she was attracted
00:45:55to the same thing.
00:45:56Did you know her name?
00:45:57Yes.
00:45:58Before?
00:45:59Yes.
00:46:00I said,
00:46:01it's not like that,
00:46:02they are thinking at home,
00:46:03for whom did the letter come?
00:46:04Proper sister,
00:46:05I sent it to her.
00:46:06Dakiya was sure,
00:46:07I sent it to my sister.
00:46:08Dakiya told me.
00:46:09Dakiya told me,
00:46:10the whole name,
00:46:11told me.
00:46:12That's why,
00:46:13the letter was received.
00:46:14After that,
00:46:15what happened is,
00:46:16when our letter
00:46:17was going on,
00:46:18then,
00:46:19she got married.
00:46:20Okay.
00:46:21After marriage,
00:46:22she got a phone call.
00:46:23Okay.
00:46:24Yes.
00:46:25After marriage,
00:46:26she got a phone call.
00:46:27Then,
00:46:28our conversation started.
00:46:29And,
00:46:30we met.
00:46:31Those days are very good.
00:46:32I mean,
00:46:33everyone remembers
00:46:34those moments.
00:46:35Okay.
00:46:36And,
00:46:37then,
00:46:38on the wedding day,
00:46:39first,
00:46:40my family didn't agree.
00:46:41I thought,
00:46:42her family didn't agree.
00:46:43Her family accepted it.
00:46:44Okay.
00:46:45Because,
00:46:46her father said,
00:46:47it's a good proposal.
00:46:48He is asking for a boy.
00:46:49Okay.
00:46:50But,
00:46:51her family didn't agree.
00:46:52Her family,
00:46:53No,
00:46:54your family.
00:46:55Yes,
00:46:56sorry.
00:46:57My family didn't agree.
00:46:58So,
00:46:59my family said,
00:47:00my mother,
00:47:01my mother and
00:47:02my mother's sister,
00:47:03between them,
00:47:04with her daughter,
00:47:05I didn't know about it.
00:47:06It was between them.
00:47:07Hmm.
00:47:08So,
00:47:09their mind was,
00:47:10so,
00:47:11I mean,
00:47:12I insisted a lot.
00:47:13Okay.
00:47:14And,
00:47:15I left home.
00:47:16Okay.
00:47:17Okay.
00:47:18I,
00:47:19I went to Lahore,
00:47:20to my friend.
00:47:21My friend is from Lahore.
00:47:22I went there.
00:47:23Okay.
00:47:24So,
00:47:25it was one week,
00:47:26two weeks.
00:47:27Then,
00:47:28my friends contacted me.
00:47:29And,
00:47:30I told them,
00:47:31I am fine.
00:47:32Will you speak louder?
00:47:33Yes.
00:47:34What's the need to be quiet?
00:47:35Everyone knows.
00:47:36Now,
00:47:37it's done.
00:47:38So,
00:47:39I told them,
00:47:40okay,
00:47:41I will come.
00:47:42But,
00:47:43my family,
00:47:44if they listen to me,
00:47:45I will come.
00:47:46Otherwise,
00:47:47I won't come.
00:47:48I will go forever.
00:47:49Okay,
00:47:50you got married.
00:47:51Now,
00:47:52we will talk about marriage.
00:47:53Alhamdulillah.
00:47:54Alhamdulillah.
00:47:55Now,
00:47:56all those good things.
00:47:57Now,
00:47:58what's the problem?
00:47:59Now,
00:48:00what happened?
00:48:01How long was the marriage?
00:48:02The real story starts now.
00:48:03Marriage,
00:48:04one year and
00:48:05one month.
00:48:06Oh,
00:48:07okay.
00:48:08Yeah.
00:48:09Then,
00:48:10now,
00:48:11the issues,
00:48:12I don't think it's me.
00:48:13It's them.
00:48:14Now,
00:48:15let's give you a chance to speak.
00:48:16We won't give you a chance to speak.
00:48:18What are the issues?
00:48:19First,
00:48:20I had made an agreement
00:48:21that I will take him home.
00:48:22Now,
00:48:23I am not taking him home.
00:48:24Oh,
00:48:25you had made an agreement before marriage.
00:48:26Yes,
00:48:27that I will take him home.
00:48:28Basically,
00:48:29you had made a commitment.
00:48:30Yes.
00:48:31Now,
00:48:32I am not taking him home.
00:48:33And,
00:48:34secondly,
00:48:35he leaves.
00:48:36Then,
00:48:37Okay.
00:48:38Means,
00:48:39you live in a combined family system.
00:48:40Yes.
00:48:41In a joint family system.
00:48:42Yes.
00:48:43And,
00:48:44you are not able to adapt there.
00:48:45Yes.
00:48:46And,
00:48:47before marriage,
00:48:48he had said that he will live separately.
00:48:49Yes,
00:48:50he will take him to a separate house.
00:48:51Yes.
00:48:52You know,
00:48:53I have to face this issue.
00:48:54My,
00:48:55I mean,
00:48:56we have different parents.
00:48:57So,
00:48:58my father has a business.
00:48:59Now,
00:49:00I am helping him in his business.
00:49:01Right now,
00:49:02I can't settle anything.
00:49:03Right now,
00:49:04I am not ready for that.
00:49:05Then,
00:49:06I will hug you immediately.
00:49:07It will take some time.
00:49:08At least,
00:49:09support me.
00:49:10Now,
00:49:11we are married.
00:49:12You shout a lot.
00:49:13Now,
00:49:14one person comes home at night.
00:49:15Okay.
00:49:16Now,
00:49:17I come and sit.
00:49:18And,
00:49:19he will talk about my mother and sister.
00:49:20Today,
00:49:21your mother did this.
00:49:22Today,
00:49:23your mother said this about me.
00:49:24And,
00:49:25then she will start crying.
00:49:26Now,
00:49:27what will I do?
00:49:28I will forcefully go out of the house.
00:49:29Enough.
00:49:30Now,
00:49:31I can't do anything with him.
00:49:32What will I do?
00:49:33I will go out of the house.
00:49:34So,
00:49:35you will go out of the house
00:49:36when you get married.
00:49:37Why did you get married?
00:49:38Then,
00:49:39you should have let him go out of the house.
00:49:40No,
00:49:41she disturbs me mentally.
00:49:42She starts crying.
00:49:43Then,
00:49:44who will take care of her?
00:49:45Now,
00:49:46one thing.
00:49:47One thing.
00:49:48Now,
00:49:49she is your sister.
00:49:50No.
00:49:51You brought your wife.
00:49:52So,
00:49:53you will take care of your wife.
00:49:54Absolutely.
00:49:55And,
00:49:56we have a big dilemma,
00:49:57Nida.
00:49:58That,
00:49:59well,
00:50:00Ayaz is on the panel.
00:50:01But,
00:50:02boys are not taught
00:50:03emotional expression.
00:50:04What did you say?
00:50:05You said,
00:50:06Ayaz is on the panel.
00:50:07Because,
00:50:08Ayaz is speaking well so far.
00:50:09Like,
00:50:10I don't feel that
00:50:11he has talked about
00:50:12any off-the-topic topic
00:50:13that can be contested.
00:50:14He is very much on point.
00:50:16Majority of men
00:50:18don't talk like this.
00:50:20Because,
00:50:21they don't know
00:50:22emotional regulation.
00:50:23They don't know doesn't mean
00:50:24they can't learn.
00:50:25Okay?
00:50:26They are not taught.
00:50:27No,
00:50:28they are not taught.
00:50:29They don't want to learn.
00:50:30This is also a problem.
00:50:31Yes,
00:50:32both.
00:50:33They don't know
00:50:34emotional regulation.
00:50:35They don't know
00:50:36emotional regulation.
00:50:37They don't know
00:50:38emotional regulation.
00:50:39They don't know
00:50:40emotional regulation.
00:50:41They don't know
00:50:42emotional regulation.
00:50:43They don't know
00:50:44emotional regulation.
00:50:45They don't know
00:50:46emotional regulation.
00:50:47They don't know
00:50:48emotional regulation.
00:50:49They don't know
00:50:50emotional regulation.
00:50:51They don't know
00:50:52emotional regulation.
00:50:53They don't know
00:50:54emotional regulation.
00:50:55They don't know
00:50:56emotional regulation.
00:50:57They don't know
00:50:58emotional regulation.
00:50:59They don't know
00:51:00emotional regulation.
00:51:01They don't know
00:51:02emotional regulation.
00:51:03They don't know
00:51:04emotional regulation.
00:51:05They don't know
00:51:06emotional regulation.
00:51:07They don't know
00:51:08emotional regulation.
00:51:09They don't know
00:51:10emotional regulation.
00:51:11They don't know
00:51:12emotional regulation.
00:51:13They don't know
00:51:14emotional regulation.
00:51:15They don't know
00:51:16emotional regulation.
00:51:17They don't know
00:51:18emotional regulation.
00:51:19They don't know
00:51:20emotional regulation.
00:51:21They don't know
00:51:22emotional regulation.
00:51:23They don't know
00:51:24emotional regulation.
00:51:25They don't know
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01:06:30giving the right meaning
01:06:31is a choice.
01:06:32Yes.
01:06:33You can give it a
01:06:34positive meaning,
01:06:35you can give it a
01:06:36negative meaning.
01:06:37We have one more
01:06:38couple with us.
01:06:39Their name is
01:06:40Saima and Azim.
01:06:41Their name is
01:06:42Saima and Azim.
01:06:43They have a problem
01:06:44with their hearts
01:06:45breaking and
01:06:46connecting.
01:06:47Let's go to
01:06:48this problem.
01:06:49Hello.
01:06:50Hello.
01:06:51How are you?
01:06:52We are fine.
01:06:53Thank God.
01:06:54Why is the
01:06:55connection of
01:06:56your hearts
01:06:57breaking?
01:06:58What is the reason?
01:06:59I will tell you.
01:07:00First of all,
01:07:01I will tell you
01:07:02how I got
01:07:03married.
01:07:04My mother
01:07:05was hospitalized.
01:07:06Coincidentally,
01:07:07her mother
01:07:08was also
01:07:09hospitalized.
01:07:10One of my
01:07:11friends came
01:07:12there.
01:07:13He is a
01:07:14matchmaker.
01:07:15He knew
01:07:16her family.
01:07:17She passed
01:07:18by and
01:07:19he greeted
01:07:20her.
01:07:21My mother
01:07:22had already
01:07:23told him
01:07:24that if there
01:07:25is a
01:07:26marriage,
01:07:27he should
01:07:28tell her.
01:07:29I am the
01:07:30only son
01:07:31in the family.
01:07:32I saw her
01:07:33and liked her.
01:07:34I told her
01:07:35that the
01:07:36girl has
01:07:37greeted you
01:07:38and I liked
01:07:39her.
01:07:40I also
01:07:41told my
01:07:42mother.
01:07:43I told her
01:07:44that if
01:07:45there is
01:07:46a marriage,
01:07:47I will
01:07:48talk to her.
01:07:49We talked
01:07:50and then
01:07:51we got
01:07:52married.
01:07:53Is this
01:07:54your
01:07:55arrangement?
01:07:56No.
01:07:57I told
01:07:58my mother
01:07:59that there
01:08:00were
01:08:01many
01:08:02problems.
01:08:03I told
01:08:04her to
01:08:05end the
01:08:06marriage.
01:08:07I got
01:08:08attached to
01:08:09her.
01:08:10I told
01:08:11her that
01:08:12I will
01:08:13marry her
01:08:14and not
01:08:15marry anyone
01:08:16else.
01:08:17What
01:08:18were the
01:08:19problems
01:08:20after
01:08:21marriage?
01:08:22There
01:08:23were
01:08:24family
01:08:25problems.
01:08:26It's
01:08:27been
01:08:2815 years.
01:08:29My
01:08:30mother has
01:08:31been
01:08:32forcing me
01:08:33to get
01:08:34married again.
01:08:35There
01:08:36is nothing
01:08:37wrong in
01:08:38getting
01:08:39married again
01:08:40but I
01:08:41am
01:08:42refusing her.
01:08:43She
01:08:44is
01:08:45agreeing.
01:08:46I
01:08:47heard her
01:08:48say that
01:08:49she also
01:08:50wants to
01:08:51get married.
01:08:52I
01:08:53also
01:08:54advise her
01:08:55If I can fulfill your rights, God has given me so much,
01:08:58I will keep you in the same house,
01:09:00I will fulfill your rights and their rights too.
01:09:02If there is injustice in this, then you can tell me.
01:09:05So, if there is a second child and then,
01:09:08God forbid, if you don't have a child, then what will happen?
01:09:11You go to the doctor,
01:09:15what are the problems, he tests you, all these things happen.
01:09:18We have also done tests.
01:09:19We have done tests.
01:09:20There is a little problem with me, there is a problem with the PCOs.
01:09:22There is a problem with them, there is a problem with me.
01:09:24You see, I have spent 15 years of my life very beautifully.
01:09:28I want my entire life to be like this.
01:09:32No woman can tolerate another woman.
01:09:35When we talk, I feel that something will happen to me.
01:09:39No, no, it's not like that. I still love her a lot and I take care of her.
01:09:43We do, and we have spent 15 years with a lot of love.
01:09:46But there are some things about her,
01:09:47look, I will tell you openly,
01:09:51she is not like before.
01:09:53One thing, she has started getting irritated.
01:09:56But I understand that.
01:09:58I understand that. I do understand.
01:10:00The problem medically, the way you are not able to digest it,
01:10:04there is something in her body.
01:10:06Look, I do understand.
01:10:08That thing is with me too. I also need a child.
01:10:10But I tolerate this thing, okay?
01:10:14I spend my time, I take them out.
01:10:16Believe me, almost.
01:10:17I told him that we will adopt, but he didn't agree to this either.
01:10:20Look, in adopting, you don't have your own blood.
01:10:23Your own blood is your own blood.
01:10:27I don't want to...
01:10:28But I can never tolerate it.
01:10:31How will I do it? If they do it, then how will my life be?
01:10:34No, it's not like that.
01:10:35They will promise that they will live like that,
01:10:37they will give the same love, but it's not possible.
01:10:40I am trying to convince her, I am also counselling her.
01:10:43As far as I know, I have studied psychiatry a little,
01:10:45so I am also counselling her.
01:10:47I am also making her understand.
01:10:49And I am also making my mother understand.
01:10:51Now let's see what the result is.
01:10:54Why are you making your mother understand?
01:10:56What do you want?
01:10:57You are saying that I should listen to her too.
01:11:00I am also making her understand, so what do you want?
01:11:02First of all, he had told me that my entire life is in your name.
01:11:06It is still there.
01:11:08Then why is the second one coming in between?
01:11:10Look, I didn't know that such a thing would happen.
01:11:14Okay?
01:11:14My will is that I want to have a child.
01:11:19Okay?
01:11:20And there is no harm in having a second marriage
01:11:23if I give equal rights to both of them.
01:11:26Do you think there can be equality?
01:11:29Why not? Why not?
01:11:30Majority of women, especially a heartbroken woman,
01:11:33can never imagine equality.
01:11:36I have a question for you.
01:11:37You said that my mother is insisting
01:11:42and you are the only son in the family.
01:11:43I mean, you are the only son.
01:11:46Right.
01:11:47Obviously, you said that she has PCOS.
01:11:50There are many women with PCOS who opt for IVF.
01:11:55Okay?
01:11:56IVF is still an option.
01:11:58You can marry a woman,
01:12:01have children with her
01:12:03and you can have two houses in Kifalat
01:12:06and you have your own parents.
01:12:09So, it is better not to adopt your own blood,
01:12:13but at least try IVF.
01:12:16You didn't tell me. We have already done it.
01:12:19IVF is successful after a certain time.
01:12:24We have done two attempts in Lahore.
01:12:26No, we haven't.
01:12:28We went to Lahore and we have done two attempts.
01:12:30There is an Australian hospital.
01:12:32I don't remember the name.
01:12:33Yes, there is one here.
01:12:33Okay, let's talk about this.
01:12:37We have done all this.
01:12:38If a man comes in such a situation,
01:12:43how can he get his wife ready for a second marriage?
01:12:47Look, a monogamous man will never agree to a second marriage.
01:12:52Okay?
01:12:53It is good that he is not cheating.
01:12:55Yes.
01:12:56Okay?
01:12:56He has already done it.
01:12:58He already has children.
01:13:01He is devoted.
01:13:02That is why he is saying that he is explaining to his mother
01:13:04and to his wife.
01:13:05He is still here in his life.
01:13:07Yes.
01:13:08Children are a gift.
01:13:11God gives to some people and He does not give to some people.
01:13:13We don't have a say in that.
01:13:15The medical science that has progressed,
01:13:17it can definitely help you.
01:13:19But, as Nida said,
01:13:22even after a second marriage, if it doesn't happen,
01:13:25will there be a third or fourth marriage?
01:13:27There is no end to it.
01:13:29So, the situation of your relationship right now,
01:13:33I feel resentment in my heart
01:13:36that how can they think of someone else other than me?
01:13:38Because I don't want to share.
01:13:40Their problem is not not having children.
01:13:42Their problem is that my husband will come to share with me.
01:13:47This is it.
01:13:48The nature of the problem is completely different.
01:13:50But why doesn't it happen that when a man is not able to give birth to a woman,
01:13:52then he doesn't get married again?
01:13:54Why does it always happen that if a woman cannot give birth,
01:13:58in many couples, a man cannot give birth.
01:14:00Yes.
01:14:00Men don't even go for a test.
01:14:02They don't go.
01:14:03Absolutely.
01:14:03Why doesn't it happen?
01:14:04This pain,
01:14:05first of all, the pain from God is the same
01:14:08that she cannot become a mother.
01:14:10And then the other pain is...
01:14:12No, the pain is for both of them.
01:14:16Children are for both of them.
01:14:17Two people are making a product together.
01:14:21So, if they are not able to do it, then the pain is for both of them.
01:14:24You cannot say that the pain of a woman is more.
01:14:26Okay?
01:14:27So, the pain is for both of them.
01:14:28The desire is also for both of them.
01:14:30Okay.
01:14:31There is nothing beyond prayers.
01:14:35Okay?
01:14:35God is the one who will bless you.
01:14:38Yes.
01:14:38Like I said, medical science can help you to an extent.
01:14:41After that,
01:14:42the mental harmony between the two of you,
01:14:47there is a factor of polygamous and monogamous.
01:14:51Men are polygamous more,
01:14:53women are monogamous more.
01:14:56And this is by default...
01:14:56If you translate it...
01:14:57No, you tell me. I will explain it to you.
01:14:59Oh, sorry.
01:15:00Yes.
01:15:00So, 80% of women want to be with the same person
01:15:05as a single wife.
01:15:07Whereas, around 50% to 60%,
01:15:11which is the majority of men,
01:15:13they...
01:15:13I am not talking about religion,
01:15:15but I am giving a general perception.
01:15:17Some people make religion a crutch.
01:15:20I am not talking about that.
01:15:21But they express this desire that
01:15:23yes, we can keep two, three or four women in our marriage at the same time.
01:15:29And like you said, God has given us so much
01:15:31that we can equalize both of them.
01:15:34My dilemma here is that
01:15:37in my practice, this has not happened yet.
01:15:40In the desi culture...
01:15:41I am a coach for desis.
01:15:43In the desi culture, it has not happened yet
01:15:44that a monogamous woman accepts it.
01:15:47Yes, it has happened that she allows you to get married,
01:15:50but then the relationship with me is over.
01:15:53Because I will not associate anyone with me.
01:15:58Okay?
01:15:59So, this is a very intimate matter.
01:16:02This will be a very personal discussion.
01:16:04You will have to decide, my sister,
01:16:07whether you want to live with them
01:16:09or you want to live happily with them.
01:16:11Will you be happy with the conditions they will prepare for you?
01:16:15Yes, it is your right to secure your future.
01:16:18How will you secure your future if they take this step?
01:16:23Look, this is what happens in Arab countries outside Pakistan.
01:16:28Women remain as sisters.
01:16:29They become friends.
01:16:31So, I will not say that this is not possible.
01:16:33But, like I said, in our desi culture,
01:16:37I have rarely seen this.
01:16:38Because, like I said, the heart breaks.
01:16:42How to pacify...
01:16:45Look, you cannot force them.
01:16:47No.
01:16:47If they do not want to share, they will not agree.
01:16:50This is a different kind of battle.
01:16:53Okay?
01:16:54But, because this is a very intimate matter,
01:16:56there are a lot of things that we cannot discuss on the show.
01:17:00But, you have to discuss with each other.
01:17:03And, believe me, your mother has no role in this.
01:17:06This discussion is between the two of you.
01:17:08Grandparents want their grandchildren to have grandchildren.
01:17:15They want to have a dozen.
01:17:17Exactly.
01:17:18But, who will take care of them?
01:17:19Okay, we will take care of them.
01:17:20Husband and wife.
01:17:21Okay, we will take care of them.
01:17:22Yes.
01:17:23So, the problem is very genuine, Nida.
01:17:26But, both of them have to solve this problem through decision-making.
01:17:29I will tell you a small tool.
01:17:31I hope it will be useful for you.
01:17:33Whenever you think about it, write it down.
01:17:37What will happen if my husband marries again?
01:17:40And, you will write down all the consequences.
01:17:42More than ten.
01:17:44What will happen?
01:17:45What will happen if my husband does not marry again?
01:17:48You will write down the consequences.
01:17:49Again, more than ten.
01:17:51What will happen if my husband marries again?
01:17:54What will happen if my husband does not marry again?
01:17:57It will sound the same.
01:17:58But, do watch it repeatedly in the recording.
01:18:01Because, the nature of these four questions is different.
01:18:05Two questions will engage your conscious mind.
01:18:07And, two questions will engage your unconscious mind.
01:18:10After the answers, when you get at least 40 answers.
01:18:15In each room.
01:18:17Then, both of you will share.
01:18:19That, I have written this answer.
01:18:20I have written this answer.
01:18:21The discussions.
01:18:22And, on that basis, you will be able to take a better decision.
01:18:26Thank you. Thank you very much.
01:18:27Thanks for the advice.
01:18:29We will take a short break.
01:18:30We will continue after the break.
01:18:31Good morning, Pakistan.
01:18:42Welcome. Welcome back.
01:18:43Good morning, Pakistan.
01:18:45So, our program to connect broken hearts was going on.
01:18:51And, the product we are showing you can also connect broken hearts.
01:18:55So, with Kauhasa, we have Yale.
01:18:58Greetings.
01:18:59Greetings. How are you?
01:19:00Absolutely fine. You tell me. How are you?
01:19:02I am absolutely fine.
01:19:03And, the things I have come with today.
01:19:05These are my favorite things to talk about.
01:19:07Yes.
01:19:08Okay. In Kauhasa, I used to talk about perfumes.
01:19:11Yes. Body sprays.
01:19:12Body sprays.
01:19:14Now, we are going to talk about skin care.
01:19:17Exactly.
01:19:18Okay. When celebrities come and talk about skin care,
01:19:21it is a very clichéd thing.
01:19:22People think that celebrities have so much access to everything.
01:19:26So, why would they talk about the truth?
01:19:28But, I will honestly tell you that they sent me this a long time ago
01:19:32when their new products were launched.
01:19:34This is a Korean skin care situation that Kauhasa has launched.
01:19:38And, I have been using that.
01:19:39And, today, I have used Kauhasa's sunblock which is 50 plus SPF,
01:19:44which is very, very necessary.
01:19:46So, my favorite thing in the world is SPF.
01:19:49Without that, you don't get protection.
01:19:51You are sitting here in the light.
01:19:53Yes, exactly.
01:19:54In fact, it is said that you should apply sunblock in front of the stove
01:19:58because its rays also affect you.
01:20:00Okay. Will the sunblock have an effect even after washing your face?
01:20:04No, no.
01:20:05In fact, you have to apply sunblock every two hours.
01:20:07Yes.
01:20:08Now, there are a lot of sprays in the world.
01:20:09But, we are lucky as in celebrities
01:20:12that if we apply sunblock and do our makeup,
01:20:14we get double time.
01:20:16Okay.
01:20:16It lasts longer.
01:20:18So, first of all, everyone knows how effective Korean skin care is.
01:20:21Absolutely.
01:20:22Okay.
01:20:22And, the other thing is that our brown skin tone
01:20:26doesn't suit western skin care.
01:20:29It doesn't.
01:20:30Because there is a difference in pigmentation.
01:20:31Yes.
01:20:32Okay.
01:20:32And, Koreans also try to avoid the sun as much as possible.
01:20:36The British are fond of sunbathing.
01:20:40And, maybe they don't care that much.
01:20:42But, because we have more melanin in our skin,
01:20:45so, their ingredients suit us better.
01:20:47Okay.
01:20:48Okay?
01:20:48So, I am a total Korean skin care buff.
01:20:51Okay.
01:20:51I also have my own brand.
01:20:52So, my research is always on which ingredients are better.
01:20:56Yes.
01:20:56So, the things that I have used are sunblock,
01:20:59serums, and they have a rice water face wash.
01:21:02If you know the benefits of rice water,
01:21:06people generally make rice water at home.
01:21:09So, it is time consuming.
01:21:11For example, rice should be fermented,
01:21:12then water should be extracted from it,
01:21:14and then it should be massaged.
01:21:15You already have these things in the form of face wash
01:21:19which are afforded by KUHASA.
01:21:20Okay.
01:21:21So, first you took the name of sunblock by KUHASA.
01:21:23Then, you took the name of rice face wash.
01:21:26Rice water face wash.
01:21:27Rice water face wash.
01:21:28It is kept here.
01:21:29Yes.
01:21:30So, I don't want to go into the nitty-gritty of these ingredients.
01:21:35But, let me tell you that it is very hydrating.
01:21:37Okay.
01:21:38And, it is very important.
01:21:39Because, generally, face washers strip you of your natural oils also.
01:21:43Yes.
01:21:44Which is not that great.
01:21:45Because, you can wash your face with soap.
01:21:48But, after washing your face with soap,
01:21:49how can you save yourself from getting pimples?
01:21:52So, one is sunblock and the other is rice water face wash.
01:21:55What else do we have?
01:21:56And then, we have serums.
01:21:58Now, I am a very big connoisseur of serums.
01:22:00Because, Korean skin care has a nine-step regime.
01:22:05Oh.
01:22:05We can't do that because we don't have time.
01:22:08So, I always say that if you have a good serum in your skin care,
01:22:13you have to use a face wash for cleansing,
01:22:16a good moisturizer,
01:22:18and a good toner,
01:22:20then you are set.
01:22:21Even if you don't have a toner, you can avoid it.
01:22:23There is no problem.
01:22:24But, your serum should be very good.
01:22:25Yes.
01:22:26Okay.
01:22:26So, my favorite ingredients are niacinamide and vitamin C.
01:22:32Okay.
01:22:32And, the usage of vitamin C is that it gives a brightening tone to your skin.
01:22:36It doesn't make you fair.
01:22:38People generally think that I will suddenly become Caucasian.
01:22:42That won't happen.
01:22:43But, you will have an even skin tone.
01:22:45Yes.
01:22:45And, it gets adjusted quickly.
01:22:46If you don't have blemishes, you will glow.
01:22:48Absolutely.
01:22:49Isn't it?
01:22:49Absolutely.
01:22:50Because, when you use vitamin C,
01:22:51I feel that your face really starts to shine.
01:22:54Yes, the glass skin.
01:22:55Yes.
01:22:55That Koreans promote.
01:22:57And, niacinamide pores contract.
01:23:01By the way, let me tell you one thing.
01:23:02This is a misconception that people think that niacinamide
01:23:05pores are of the same size.
01:23:07But, when your skin is healthy and plump,
01:23:10you feel that the pores are minimized.
01:23:12Yes.
01:23:12When it is dehydrated, the pores look bigger.
01:23:15Absolutely.
01:23:16And, when you do special makeup,
01:23:17that makeup is also dehydrating.
01:23:19Okay.
01:23:19So, before that, I think it is very important for you that you...
01:23:23Now, the serum that I am talking about,
01:23:25vitamin C is generally used in daytime.
01:23:27You can use it at night also.
01:23:29But, there is also a retinol serum which you can only use at night.
01:23:33So, they have retinol serum too.
01:23:34So, they have a whole day and night regimen.
01:23:37I have used their retinol serum.
01:23:40And, generally, retinol does not suit everyone.
01:23:43But, it is not at all heavy on your skin.
01:23:46Like, if you do not have any breakout or irritation,
01:23:49you can use it without hesitation.
01:23:51Hmm.
01:23:52Right.
01:23:52Okay, let me tell you one more thing, Rida.
01:23:54Because, this is an opportunity.
01:23:55And, I know that people do not believe in Valentine's Day.
01:23:58But, why don't they believe in it?
01:23:59It is the day of love.
01:24:00In which, you can buy gifts for your mother, sisters, and friends.
01:24:04So, it is a deal in which you can buy two perfumes for Rs 4,000.
01:24:08That is, if you want it for yourself and your significant other.
01:24:11Or, you can give it to your mother or sister.
01:24:13And, along with this, in Rs 2,500,
01:24:17you can also get three skin care products.
01:24:19Great.
01:24:19And, I wanted to ask, will it be delivered on the same day?
01:24:23Because, today is the 13th and tomorrow is the 14th.
01:24:25So, for you all, especially for the people of Karachi,
01:24:28I will get it delivered on the same day.
01:24:30If you order it online right now.
01:24:32Yes, as soon as the show is over, pick up the phone.
01:24:35How do I deliver it?
01:24:36I mean, not deliver, sorry. How do I order it?
01:24:38You can order it online on Kohasa's website.
01:24:40And, you can put it in your cart.
01:24:42Everyone must know how to order.
01:24:43Even my mother orders like this.
01:24:45Okay, tell us about the perfumes.
01:24:47Perfumes, I mean, skin care is done with the gifts.
01:24:50Of course.
01:24:50Which perfumes do you recommend?
01:24:52Okay, my two favourites.
01:24:54By the way, I told Nida during the break
01:24:57that the science behind perfumes is
01:25:00that the perfumes that are made for men
01:25:03are to attract women.
01:25:04And, the perfumes that are made for women
01:25:06are to attract men.
01:25:08And, I have also been using men's perfumes all my life.
01:25:11Yes, Nida's father's perfume.
01:25:13Yes, so even I didn't know about it.
01:25:14But, when I researched,
01:25:15and especially, you are on YouTube with countless channels
01:25:18in which people are telling you about these things.
01:25:20So, the men's perfumes that they have are very amazing.
01:25:24Especially, there is a tobacco that I have applied.
01:25:27It's so nice.
01:25:28It's so, it's almost floral.
01:25:30Where did it go?
01:25:31Here, look at this.
01:25:34It is floral, musky, a little sour.
01:25:38How do I describe this?
01:25:39It's like mixed notes.
01:25:41Yes, but it's really, it's actually very unisex.
01:25:44I think I gave you the intense one.
01:25:46I didn't give you tobacco, I gave you tobacco.
01:25:47Intensity is very good.
01:25:48This is also very good.
01:25:49So, my two favourites in Khawatin are Moonlight and Orchard.
01:25:54Moonlight, as the name suggests,
01:25:56it's a slightly intense perfume.
01:25:59And, you use intense perfumes at night.
01:26:01And, the Orchard is a little spicy.
01:26:06And, that is meant to be used in the daytime.
01:26:09Okay.
01:26:09But, obviously, it's up to you
01:26:10what you want to use in the daytime.
01:26:12But, if you use Moonlight during the day,
01:26:15how do you justify it?
01:26:16Its name is Moonlight.
01:26:17And, I use it during the day.
01:26:19So, yeah.
01:26:20So, perfumes is something that, you know,
01:26:23I feel that you shouldn't give names to men and women.
01:26:26They're all unisex.
01:26:27Absolutely.
01:26:27And, you like that too.
01:26:28Absolutely.
01:26:29Are there any deals?
01:26:30And, how long will they go on?
01:26:32Okay, the deals that I just told you about.
01:26:34You can buy two perfumes in Rs 4,000.
01:26:36Any of these.
01:26:37And, in Rs 2,500, three skincare products.
01:26:40I also told you about them.
01:26:41So, please have a look.
01:26:42These are the deals.
01:26:43These are the deals.
01:26:43And, how long will our deals go on?
01:26:45Is it going on the ticker?
01:26:46It's going on the ticker.
01:26:47I shouldn't say anything.
01:26:48It's going on the ticker.
01:26:50No, no.
01:26:50And, how long will it go on?
01:26:51It's not going on the ticker.
01:26:53This month?
01:26:55For one month.
01:26:55For one month.
01:26:56I think we should buy the Eid gifts too.
01:26:58Yes, buy them.
01:26:59Collect them.
01:26:59Yes, what else?
01:27:00The skincare gets over.
01:27:02It's very important.
01:27:03It's very important.
01:27:04So, this was the story of Kohasa.
01:27:06Yes.
01:27:06Yale's language.
01:27:07Literally.
01:27:08Right?
01:27:08Absolutely.
01:27:09And, their website where you have to place an order.
01:27:13That has been banned.
01:27:15Absolutely.
01:27:15Place an order like this.
01:27:16As soon as the show is over, immediately...
01:27:19You can do it right now.
01:27:20Place an order.
01:27:20You are watching the show on TV, right?
01:27:21Yes.
01:27:22So that you get it by tomorrow.
01:27:24So that the product gets delivered to you.
01:27:26Absolutely.
01:27:26I have told them that I am packing it and taking it with me.
01:27:29Because perfumes...
01:27:30One more thing that I want to tell you.
01:27:32Since COVID came and prices around the world have become expensive for us.
01:27:38Absolutely.
01:27:38The conversion rate of dollars has increased three times.
01:27:42So, those who were using high-end perfumes,
01:27:45they can't afford it now.
01:27:46They can't.
01:27:47I don't want to afford them.
01:27:48They are so exorbitant.
01:27:49I want to use more perfumes.
01:27:50Yes.
01:27:51How can I do that?
01:27:51They are kept in the juicer.
01:27:53So, if you are getting two perfumes for Rs. 4000,
01:27:55and I am giving you a guarantee that I will use it.
01:27:58And, its longevity...
01:28:00Generally, we buy expensive perfumes because of its longevity.
01:28:04So, it has longevity.
01:28:05And, when you buy it and keep it with you,
01:28:08and give it as a gift to someone,
01:28:09then you will be blessed.
01:28:10You will be blessed.
01:28:10Thank you so much, Yale.
01:28:11No problem.
01:28:12So, this was our program for today.
01:28:14I hope that you have understood.
01:28:17And, you will be able to implement it in your life.
01:28:20So, give us your blessings.
01:28:21Good morning, Pakistan.
01:28:22Today, we tried to touch the broken hearts.
01:28:24It was a really nice show.
01:28:25It was very nice and very informative.
01:28:28Goodbye.

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