Good Morning Pakistan | Positive relationships: parents & children | 26 June 2024

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Good Morning Pakistan | Positive relationships: parents & children | 26 June 2024 | ARY Digital

Guest: Noman Habib, Asma Noman,Kaiser Nizamani, Fazila Kaiser,Maham Amir, Faizan Shaikh

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00:00:30It's hard to play a dirty deck.

00:00:32It's hard to play a dirty deck.

00:01:00Ruh-duh-duh, dut-dur-ruh-duh-ruh.

00:01:03Ruh-duh-duh, dut-dur-ruh-duh.

00:01:05She's humming like that.

00:01:07She's waking everyone up.

00:01:10Yes, with flowers in her hair.

00:01:12The way a bird is fluttering.

00:01:20Dirty, dirty, open, open.

00:01:22It's all dirty, dirty.

00:01:25A little bit of mischief.

00:01:27A little bit of mischief.

00:01:30The morning has come.

00:01:37Ruh-duh-duh, dut-dur-ruh-duh-ruh.

00:01:39Ruh-duh-duh, dut-dur-ruh-duh-ruh.

00:01:42Good morning, Pakistan.

00:01:45Assalam-o-Alaikum.

00:01:47Good morning, good morning.

00:01:49I'm saying Assalam-o-Alaikum with so much fun.

00:01:51And I'm having fun.

00:01:52I know you're not having fun.

00:01:54You're sweating from here and there.

00:01:56And some people don't even have a light at home.

00:01:58Especially now.

00:01:59And then the light goes off early in the morning.

00:02:01And then I know my show gets missed.

00:02:03The heat is different.

00:02:05Frustration is different.

00:02:07And I'm your rightful mother.

00:02:09I can understand your pain.

00:02:10I said today, early in the morning,

00:02:12I will definitely tell you something like this.

00:02:14I will tell you some miraculous things.

00:02:16Is the dupatta straight or is it upside down?

00:02:17Oh, I wore it upside down.

00:02:19Yes, so I will tell you such miraculous things

00:02:21because of which your heat.

00:02:24See, this heat, the light going off.

00:02:26And it's not in my hands.

00:02:28What's in my hands?

00:02:29I do whatever I can to help you.

00:02:30Can I go there?

00:02:31Director, is there an order?

00:02:33Okay, now you see that.

00:02:35I'll give you an idea.

00:02:37My kids don't eat watermelon.

00:02:39I know.

00:02:40This is the problem of all mothers.

00:02:42See this.

00:02:44This is such a good idea.

00:02:46You'll have to work a little.

00:02:47I'm making you work a little even in this heat.

00:02:49Give them this.

00:02:51They will definitely eat.

00:02:52Have a little fun.

00:02:54Give the kids this watermelon.

00:02:57There is so much water in the watermelon

00:03:00that your children will not be dehydrated.

00:03:03Then next step.

00:03:05Sisters are for you.

00:03:07Because if the mother of the house gets sick,

00:03:10then the house will be loose.

00:03:12That's why this purza of the car,

00:03:14the main purza,

00:03:16the main engine is you.

00:03:19My dear friends, sisters.

00:03:21This is cucumber raita.

00:03:24Do eat this.

00:03:26I'm not hungry.

00:03:27I don't feel like it.

00:03:28Take curd.

00:03:30Put raita in it.

00:03:31Coriander, mint.

00:03:33Whatever salt and spices you want.

00:03:36Whip it and eat 4-5 spoons of it quickly.

00:03:40Before you go to the kitchen and start cooking.

00:03:43And see, I know we are hot.

00:03:47Because of this light.

00:03:49Or because of this weather.

00:03:52We feel hot.

00:03:54Because of the talks of the husband.

00:03:56Because he has the burden of the office.

00:03:59We still stay at home.

00:04:01And are under the roof.

00:04:03They are going out in the sun.

00:04:05And transportation.

00:04:06The way they take bus, bike, car,

00:04:09walking, etc.

00:04:11So it is obvious when they go out in this heat.

00:04:14And after that there is 10,000 work in the office.

00:04:18Then they don't feel like taking care of themselves.

00:04:21That they drink some water.

00:04:23Believe me.

00:04:24Most of the time I see.

00:04:26More men than women are suffering from dehydration.

00:04:29The reason is that if women were at home.

00:04:31They would drink water.

00:04:32They would remember.

00:04:33They would see it in front of them.

00:04:35They don't feel anything while working.

00:04:38So what you do.

00:04:39The lunch box you are making.

00:04:41Before going to sleep at night.

00:04:44This is coconut water.

00:04:47Coconut water.

00:04:49The coconut water.

00:04:52Wherever there is a cart.

00:04:54You buy it from there at night.

00:04:57Freeze it.

00:04:58It will become ice.

00:04:59You pick up the bag.

00:05:01With your husband.

00:05:02Put it in the lunch box packet.

00:05:04They will drink coconut water in the afternoon.

00:05:06Do you know what will be the benefit of it?

00:05:08There are electrolytes in it.

00:05:10The electrolytes of the body.

00:05:13When they come out in the sweat.

00:05:15Because of that.

00:05:16The mind also gets confused.

00:05:17Seriously.

00:05:18If you want to keep your husband's mind right.

00:05:21On the right path.

00:05:22Then it is very important to give him coconut water.

00:05:24So do this.

00:05:26So I have told you a few ways.

00:05:29To get rid of the heat of your children and your husband.

00:05:34It is a matter of SMS.

00:05:36Tell me how to do it right.

00:05:37I am taking a pill.

00:05:39It is not affecting me.

00:05:41This whole disease.

00:05:45I went there and prayed.

00:05:47In the Kaaba.

00:05:48I am not sick.

00:05:50Whatever happens later.

00:05:51I don't know why I said this.

00:05:53And as soon as I am in the plane.

00:05:55This throat is bad.

00:05:56This voice is not coming out.

00:05:58Now it is not coming out.

00:06:00But I have become very crazy.

00:06:02I don't know how I am speaking.

00:06:04So you also send me some tips.

00:06:06It should be a little different.

00:06:08Family members together.

00:06:09What are we doing today?

00:06:10I mean.

00:06:11I started like this.

00:06:13If the engine of the car at home is damaged.

00:06:16Means you.

00:06:17Then how will that car run?

00:06:19Similarly.

00:06:20Husband and wife are also two wheels of the car.

00:06:23And if you see.

00:06:25So both are running the house as a team.

00:06:28Very proud.

00:06:30We are shown in our parents' house.

00:06:32But after that.

00:06:33The burden of all responsibilities comes on our shoulders.

00:06:35As a woman.

00:06:36We are a part of the car.

00:06:39We handle a part.

00:06:40A wheel.

00:06:41To balance the car of this life.

00:06:43And one wheel is handled by our husband.

00:06:45Now whether.

00:06:47We have to earn that money.

00:06:49He has to do all the expenses of his house.

00:06:52And what is the woman in making the house?

00:06:55Woman.

00:06:56If she.

00:06:57The money earned.

00:06:58Or the things that are there.

00:07:00The woman will not channelize it.

00:07:02Which the husband will bring and give.

00:07:04Then the house cannot run.

00:07:06Not a single person can do both the work.

00:07:08That the woman should earn.

00:07:09The woman should run the house.

00:07:10Or the man should earn.

00:07:11The man should run the house.

00:07:13Give food to the child.

00:07:14Send to school.

00:07:15All this becomes very difficult.

00:07:17Means.

00:07:18The balance of life is out.

00:07:19So to maintain the balance of life.

00:07:22Both of them together.

00:07:24Teamwork is very important.

00:07:26But.

00:07:27God forbid.

00:07:28Here the husband got sick.

00:07:30Here the wife took care of everything.

00:07:32That is, if he fell.

00:07:34Then she handled it.

00:07:36That is, the woman handled it.

00:07:38If God forbid.

00:07:39The woman got sick.

00:07:40Or any other vice versa thing.

00:07:42She had to do anything.

00:07:44Which she.

00:07:45The duties.

00:07:46She is not able to do them well.

00:07:48So that thing too.

00:07:50Her husband takes care of it.

00:07:52Because it's a teamwork.

00:07:54When there is a team.

00:07:55Sometimes 20%.

00:07:57Sometimes 80%.

00:07:58Sometimes 60%.

00:07:59Sometimes 40%.

00:08:00So this team.

00:08:02This is its work.

00:08:04This relationship.

00:08:05If I was in the 20s.

00:08:07If I was in the teens.

00:08:09Then I would have said.

00:08:10Marriage is a relationship of love.

00:08:12Relationship of love.

00:08:13No.

00:08:14As you get mature.

00:08:15You come to know.

00:08:17That this relationship of husband and wife.

00:08:19This.

00:08:21Love is much higher than love.

00:08:23Much bigger.

00:08:25That is, the whole universe.

00:08:27Running.

00:08:28This is because of these pairs.

00:08:29Running.

00:08:30So how they are.

00:08:31Running with the balance of their home.

00:08:33If someone falls.

00:08:34One falls.

00:08:35He falls.

00:08:36So the first one takes care.

00:08:38So.

00:08:39Today we.

00:08:40Present.

00:08:41Celebrity couples.

00:08:43Will ask.

00:08:44At what time.

00:08:46You know.

00:08:47A lot of learning.

00:08:48You get to learn a lot by listening.

00:08:50So different eras.

00:08:52Or different years.

00:08:53The married couples.

00:08:55They can give you a lot of tips.

00:08:57Who fell at what time.

00:08:59And who took care of whom.

00:09:01This.

00:09:03Is the backbone of marriage.

00:09:05When you fall.

00:09:07And your spouse takes care of you.

00:09:09This is basically.

00:09:11The people who ask.

00:09:13What is the secret of a successful marriage.

00:09:15This is the secret of a successful marriage.

00:09:17Love.

00:09:18Love.

00:09:19Respect.

00:09:20All that later.

00:09:21First.

00:09:22For how long you stand for each other.

00:09:24Stay together.

00:09:26Stay in control.

00:09:28This is the definition of marriage.

00:09:30Good morning Pakistan.

00:09:31After the break.

00:09:32Let's learn from our couples.

00:09:34A lot of tips.

00:09:36To take care of your spouse.

00:09:38Strong.

00:09:49Welcome.

00:09:50Welcome back.

00:09:51Good morning Pakistan.

00:09:52Today.

00:09:53It's a little important program.

00:09:55Take out your notebook very carefully.

00:09:57You can also note on your mobile notebook.

00:09:59We have couples here.

00:10:01We will give you tips.

00:10:03According to your life experiences.

00:10:05Who took care of whom.

00:10:07And what are the things.

00:10:09With which each other can be taken care of.

00:10:11Because in life.

00:10:13No one can walk on a straight line.

00:10:15Always.

00:10:16Someone's lows and highs come.

00:10:18Someone falls.

00:10:19Someone takes care.

00:10:20Someone is successful.

00:10:21Sometimes someone gets stuck.

00:10:23Someone needs to cheer up.

00:10:25So at that time.

00:10:27Your companion.

00:10:29Your brother.

00:10:30Your parents.

00:10:31Or any other relationship.

00:10:32Even your child.

00:10:33Is not with you at that time.

00:10:35But the closest relationship at that time.

00:10:37Is your husband or your wife.

00:10:39And at that time.

00:10:41There is a great need for them.

00:10:43Sometimes some couples don't even know.

00:10:45What to give if we give together.

00:10:47Sometimes.

00:10:49Some couples are also like this.

00:10:51They are also a burden on each other.

00:10:53That is, if one is sick.

00:10:55The other does not know how to help him out.

00:10:57So right now.

00:10:59The three celebrity couples we have.

00:11:01They will give you.

00:11:03Guidelines from their life experiences.

00:11:05And I hope.

00:11:07Whatever they have told.

00:11:09You will get a chance to fill something.

00:11:11In this puzzle in your life.

00:11:13So let's meet.

00:11:15The first introduction will be.

00:11:17Fazeela and Kaisar.

00:11:19Assalamualaikum.

00:11:21How are you?

00:11:23Since you are coming to my show.

00:11:25Mr. and Mrs. Kaisar.

00:11:27No, Fazeela and Kaisar.

00:11:29Fazeela and Kaisar.

00:11:31Nowadays it is women's.

00:11:33First of all, congratulations on the Hajj.

00:11:35You and Yasir.

00:11:37I have become a pilgrim.

00:11:39Mashallah.

00:11:41Lucky you.

00:11:43Congratulations.

00:11:45Inshallah.

00:11:47The second couple.

00:11:49We are going according to seniority.

00:11:51Mr. and Mrs. Kaisar.

00:11:53Mr. and Mrs. Kaisar.

00:11:55Like my husband.

00:11:57He has some problems.

00:11:59Mr. and Mrs. Kaisar.

00:12:05I don't know what they think.

00:12:07I will say both.

00:12:09Asma Noman and Noman Habib.

00:12:11Mr. and Mrs. Noman Habib.

00:12:13Mr. and Mrs. look good.

00:12:15Assalamualaikum.

00:12:17How are you?

00:12:19I will talk a lot.

00:12:21I will introduce you to the third couple.

00:12:23This is a chill couple.

00:12:25This is a yo couple.

00:12:27They don't have so many responsibilities.

00:12:29They don't have so many responsibilities.

00:12:31They are in the yo phase.

00:12:33Maham and Faizan.

00:12:35Can I say Maham and Faizan?

00:12:37Yes.

00:12:39You can say Faizan.

00:12:41How are you?

00:12:43How are you?

00:12:45Alhamdulillah.

00:12:47Is the chill game going on in this heat?

00:12:49Absolutely.

00:12:51I haven't seen a dance number

00:12:53made by husband and wife.

00:12:55I am getting bored.

00:12:57Actually both are going on shoot.

00:12:59Everyone will say that they have done hajj.

00:13:01No problem.

00:13:03Both are going on well.

00:13:05I am not feeling well.

00:13:07Everything is going on well.

00:13:09This is the theme of our program.

00:13:11Sometimes we meet each other

00:13:13in the drawing room.

00:13:15We learn a lot from each other.

00:13:17We learn a lot from each other.

00:13:19I think whenever you meet someone

00:13:21in a social gathering,

00:13:23instead of gossiping,

00:13:25we should learn something from each other.

00:13:27That can never end.

00:13:29Today's practice is the same.

00:13:31The screen will help me

00:13:33with the questions.

00:13:35What is the first slide?

00:13:37Constant struggle with relationship.

00:13:39Let's start with both of you.

00:13:41MashaAllah.

00:13:43Your marriage

00:13:45is more than ours.

00:13:47We have been married for 22 years.

00:13:49MashaAllah.

00:13:5130 years.

00:13:53And we got married

00:13:55in 1994.

00:13:57As a couple,

00:13:59there are different stages.

00:14:01What bad things do you find

00:14:03about Yasir?

00:14:05Yasir and you

00:14:07are alike.

00:14:09If you think

00:14:11there is something good about you,

00:14:13then there is something good about him.

00:14:15If you think there is something bad about you,

00:14:17then there is something bad about him.

00:14:19We have been together for 22 years.

00:14:21It is good that we are together.

00:14:23You interview everyone.

00:14:25You know everyone.

00:14:27The viewers want to know about you.

00:14:29I always

00:14:31talk about myself.

00:14:33Today, I want to talk about you.

00:14:35I am here.

00:14:37You must have understood the answer.

00:14:41Struggle with the relationship.

00:14:43Let me tell you.

00:14:45I will

00:14:47divide this question into parts.

00:14:49On the first days of marriage,

00:14:51there is a different struggle.

00:14:53When children are born,

00:14:55there is a different struggle.

00:14:57When children grow up,

00:14:59there is a different struggle.

00:15:01I will divide it into three stages.

00:15:03Please tell us one by one.

00:15:05Will you tell us first?

00:15:07My children are my cars.

00:15:09I am coming from there.

00:15:11I used to have a motorcycle.

00:15:13Now I have a jeep and cars.

00:15:15They are my children.

00:15:17That is all I can say.

00:15:19This is maintenance free.

00:15:21I do my own maintenance.

00:15:23I don't need anyone's help.

00:15:25I solve my own problems.

00:15:29Struggle.

00:15:31Any relationship is a constant struggle.

00:15:33Struggling is not a bad thing.

00:15:37Mentally,

00:15:39psychologically,

00:15:41when you live with your parents,

00:15:43your siblings,

00:15:45your spouse,

00:15:47or your children,

00:15:49you have to do constant work.

00:15:53That work continues from the beginning of life

00:15:55to the end of life.

00:15:57Every relationship has its own

00:15:59intricacies.

00:16:01You have to live with it.

00:16:05There is a constant struggle

00:16:07in relationship goals.

00:16:09When you get married,

00:16:11you get married out of love.

00:16:13When you get married,

00:16:15you spend 2-4 years

00:16:17in love.

00:16:21My point is that you do everything

00:16:23in love.

00:16:25You do everything in love

00:16:27when you have your parents' property

00:16:29so that you don't get tensed.

00:16:33When I got married to Kaisar,

00:16:35I lost my job.

00:16:37When I got married,

00:16:39I thought if it was someone else,

00:16:41I would have lost my job.

00:16:43But that didn't happen.

00:16:47A week or 10 days before marriage,

00:16:49Kaisar printed a card

00:16:51and everything was done.

00:16:53I couldn't get married.

00:16:55I didn't have money.

00:16:57I asked him if he was okay.

00:16:59He said it was his responsibility.

00:17:01I think men get nervous.

00:17:03I have been explaining this

00:17:05to everyone for a long time.

00:17:07I was caught.

00:17:0910 days before marriage,

00:17:11a guy would say that everything

00:17:13was done.

00:17:15He was a handsome guy.

00:17:17Kaisar was waiting

00:17:19for a widow.

00:17:23When I got married,

00:17:25I didn't have much stability.

00:17:27But still, you do a lot in love.

00:17:31The first phase is in love.

00:17:33In the second phase,

00:17:37you respect each other.

00:17:41You respect each other.

00:17:45You develop a bond for each other.

00:17:47In the second phase,

00:17:49you fight.

00:17:51But you are with each other.

00:17:53In the second phase,

00:17:55do you support each other?

00:17:57If the husband is doing something,

00:17:59the wife should support him

00:18:01in a different way.

00:18:03I have done it.

00:18:05In the beginning,

00:18:07we both worked.

00:18:09We are self-made people.

00:18:11In the beginning,

00:18:13we both worked.

00:18:15When Ahmed was born,

00:18:17we managed.

00:18:19When Zorain was born,

00:18:21it became difficult

00:18:23to work with kids.

00:18:25Kaisar told me that

00:18:27kids are alone at home.

00:18:29I don't like it.

00:18:31I feel uncomfortable.

00:18:33Kaisar said that

00:18:35his kids are orphans.

00:18:39I supported him.

00:18:41I left my work.

00:18:43I told him that

00:18:45we both were working.

00:18:47He said that

00:18:49I will give you whatever you want.

00:18:53I left my career.

00:18:55I was leading characters.

00:18:57I took a break from my career.

00:18:59Kaisar was leading at that time.

00:19:01Hero, Marvi, etc.

00:19:03Kaisar was leading.

00:19:05We went to production.

00:19:07Earnings were good.

00:19:09We worked hard.

00:19:13Kaisar gave us everything.

00:19:15He facilitated us.

00:19:17I took my kids to school.

00:19:19I taught them.

00:19:21I was their driver.

00:19:25These things help

00:19:27to maintain a relationship.

00:19:29Obviously.

00:19:31You help each other.

00:19:33You share responsibilities.

00:19:35You settled in life.

00:19:37Your kids studied.

00:19:39Now that stage has come.

00:19:41Relationship.

00:19:43Now,

00:19:45small kids have small problems.

00:19:47Big kids have big problems.

00:19:49You think about kids.

00:19:51You think about their careers.

00:19:53You think about their new lives.

00:19:55You are doing something.

00:19:57Big kids have big problems.

00:20:01You have to take care of

00:20:03the smallest kid.

00:20:05What are you saying?

00:20:07When I started production,

00:20:09Baba had a famous play.

00:20:11Kashkul.

00:20:13You had a new Japanese car.

00:20:15With extended bumper.

00:20:17I don't remember the name of the car.

00:20:23When we were going to NTM,

00:20:25Baba came in the car.

00:20:27Tanveer and I

00:20:29bought a Mercedes.

00:20:31We had black Mercedes.

00:20:33Baba came in the new car.

00:20:35He looked at us.

00:20:37He said, where are you coming from?

00:20:41I said, brother,

00:20:43you are an employee.

00:20:45You can't come openly.

00:20:47We are not employees.

00:20:49We are enjoying.

00:20:51You love each other.

00:20:53Even though you are seniors.

00:20:55We respect each other.

00:20:57Where did your father

00:20:59come from?

00:21:01We were watching

00:21:03our wedding album.

00:21:05Your father,

00:21:07Hassan Jahangir,

00:21:09Shabbir Jaan,

00:21:11Ayaaz Khan,

00:21:13Mishri.

00:21:15Hassan Jahangir

00:21:17sang a very nice song

00:21:19on my mehendi.

00:21:21He said, don't get married.

00:21:23He sang this on your wedding?

00:21:25Yes.

00:21:27He was giving a message.

00:21:31He gave a message.

00:21:33Now, second tip.

00:21:35Show the slide.

00:21:37Children handling.

00:21:39Take care of

00:21:41the children.

00:21:43This is also a tip.

00:21:45This is art.

00:21:47I was listening to

00:21:49so many experiences.

00:21:51Small problems, big problems.

00:21:53We didn't go on the stage.

00:21:55Both our daughters are small.

00:21:57Our small things.

00:21:59Thank God,

00:22:01daughters

00:22:03do whatever they are told.

00:22:05They don't insist.

00:22:07If I don't have a son,

00:22:09I don't know.

00:22:11This doesn't happen in every family.

00:22:13I don't have the experience

00:22:15of what sons do.

00:22:17My daughter is not mischievous.

00:22:19Today's girls

00:22:21are very mischievous.

00:22:23But if you tell them,

00:22:25it won't happen.

00:22:27If you go to your father,

00:22:29he will scold you.

00:22:31She will make an image

00:22:33to scare me.

00:22:35Don't tell your father.

00:22:37I don't scold her.

00:22:39I don't scold her.

00:22:41If I scold her,

00:22:43she will say,

00:22:45I don't know where

00:22:47your mother came from.

00:22:49She is very small.

00:22:51Don't scold her.

00:22:53She scolds me.

00:22:55Noman doesn't say anything.

00:22:57There are many

00:22:59conflicts between

00:23:01husband and wife

00:23:03regarding the upbringing

00:23:05of children.

00:23:07There are many conflicts.

00:23:09Which school to put them in?

00:23:11Which school not to put them in?

00:23:13There are many small issues.

00:23:15You don't know

00:23:17that they are damaging

00:23:19your relationship.

00:23:21What should be done to avoid it?

00:23:23It is every person's desire.

00:23:25Mother and father are different.

00:23:27Children don't know what to do.

00:23:29Every person has to

00:23:31guide them.

00:23:33She wanted her daughter

00:23:35to study in this school.

00:23:37My daughter goes to a school.

00:23:39She should study in that school.

00:23:41I got her admitted in another school.

00:23:43She said, no, study there.

00:23:45I tried my best.

00:23:47I even called the ministers.

00:23:49I tried my best.

00:23:51But I didn't get admission.

00:23:53I told her to get admission

00:23:55in the third school.

00:23:57I told her that I won't get her admitted

00:23:59before 3.5 or 4 years.

00:24:01She said she won't get it.

00:24:03I told her that I won't get it.

00:24:05You said that

00:24:07you won't send your daughter

00:24:09to school before 3.5 or 4 years.

00:24:11You tried

00:24:13to get her admitted

00:24:15in the school where her mother wanted.

00:24:17Nanyal and Daryal

00:24:19are not in our scene.

00:24:21All of them are in Lahore.

00:24:23Only Nanyal is here.

00:24:25She never refuses me.

00:24:27Who will refuse you?

00:24:29I don't know.

00:24:31I have never

00:24:33stayed at home

00:24:35for 30 years.

00:24:37In 30 years,

00:24:39she hasn't stayed at home

00:24:41even for a single day.

00:24:43You are right.

00:24:45If I talk about my marriage,

00:24:47we are very poor.

00:24:49Nanyal and Daryal

00:24:51were very close.

00:24:53Yasir wanted her to be

00:24:55closer to me than Daryal.

00:24:57Whether she was close or not,

00:24:59she wanted to be connected.

00:25:01We were very close

00:25:03to Nanyal.

00:25:05She was my aunt.

00:25:07When my parents used to go to office,

00:25:09she used to take care of us.

00:25:11We were very close.

00:25:13She wanted her children

00:25:15to be closer to her.

00:25:17Nanyal and Daryal

00:25:19are very close to each other.

00:25:21They love each other.

00:25:23There is nothing special

00:25:25about it.

00:25:27Nanyal used to take care

00:25:29of her children

00:25:31when she used to work.

00:25:33Our children are

00:25:35connected to each other

00:25:37but they are only

00:25:39attached to their parents.

00:25:41We have a system

00:25:43that they are our friends.

00:25:45If you are

00:25:47Nanyal's aunt or uncle,

00:25:49I don't have a sister.

00:25:51Our children are connected to us

00:25:53but they are only

00:25:55attached to their nanny.

00:25:57That happens.

00:25:59Show me the slide

00:26:01after the break.

00:26:03I will ask her the solution.

00:26:05She is our third couple.

00:26:07She couldn't say anything.

00:26:09Show me the slide.

00:26:15Hadia and Maham's Panic.

00:26:19Let's hear her views

00:26:21after the break.

00:26:23Be ready. Good morning.

00:26:39Welcome. Welcome back.

00:26:41Good morning Pakistan.

00:26:43Before the break,

00:26:45I will show you the slide again.

00:26:47Maham and Faizan's

00:26:49tips.

00:26:51Hadia and Maham's

00:26:53Panic.

00:26:55This is our topic.

00:26:57If one falls down,

00:26:59the other takes care of it.

00:27:01If the mother is weak,

00:27:03the father becomes strong.

00:27:05If the father is weak,

00:27:07the mother becomes strong.

00:27:09I think I really want to start

00:27:11with that.

00:27:13The word panic is probably

00:27:15used by Faizan.

00:27:17Honestly,

00:27:19I am one of those

00:27:21who are very concerned

00:27:23about everything.

00:27:25Why is this happening?

00:27:27Why is this not happening?

00:27:29Not that I am always in a race

00:27:31because I am never in a part of the rat race.

00:27:33Ever.

00:27:35But maybe

00:27:37my personality is

00:27:39that I am very careful

00:27:41about everything.

00:27:43I overthink a lot.

00:27:45I think about things that are not happening.

00:27:47I think about things that are not happening.

00:27:49I think about things that are not happening.

00:27:51Maybe that is called panic.

00:27:53I think that is called panic.

00:27:55I think that is called panic.

00:27:57I will call it focus.

00:27:59Ever since Maham

00:28:01became a part of our life,

00:28:03Maham's focus is on everything.

00:28:05I keep reminding Maham

00:28:07as a partner

00:28:09that okay, you have a child.

00:28:11It's very good.

00:28:13But you have to take care of yourself.

00:28:15When you start

00:28:17focusing on your child's health

00:28:19and you are not well,

00:28:21you are taking care of him.

00:28:23You are taking care of his medicines.

00:28:25You don't even know about your own medicines.

00:28:27It is said that you should wear

00:28:29the oxygen mask first.

00:28:31This is a good example.

00:28:33I try to constantly remind Maham

00:28:35that she should also focus on herself.

00:28:37I have seen that

00:28:39Maham's entire focus

00:28:41whether it is clothes, food,

00:28:43health, schools,

00:28:45everything is on Hadiya.

00:28:47The first question, the first answer is Hadiya.

00:28:49Which is a good thing.

00:28:51Maham is also working.

00:28:53When we decide our dates,

00:28:55we always try to have one of us

00:28:57at home.

00:28:59When we are scheduling,

00:29:01we always make sure that Hadiya is in focus.

00:29:03We are always at the same house.

00:29:05Although there are grandmothers,

00:29:07grandmothers, sister-in-laws,

00:29:09everything is there.

00:29:11As a parent, one of us should be there.

00:29:13Obviously, as I told you earlier,

00:29:15when I started working again

00:29:17after Hadiya, I was 3 months postpartum only.

00:29:19In the third month,

00:29:21when Hadiya was about to turn 3 months,

00:29:23I went back to work.

00:29:25I made a commitment

00:29:27that I won't be able to work

00:29:29because I was working throughout my pregnancy.

00:29:31I was not at home at all.

00:29:33When I was about to go to work,

00:29:35I started having drawbacks.

00:29:37How can I go?

00:29:39She is so small.

00:29:41Mom guilt, I think,

00:29:43gets attached to your life.

00:29:45At least, it is with me.

00:29:47No matter how perfect everything is,

00:29:49when I go to work every day,

00:29:51I say, I am leaving her.

00:29:53I am such a cruel mother,

00:29:55I am leaving her.

00:29:57I think the biggest support was

00:29:59when Faizan said,

00:30:01I don't want to hear this.

00:30:03I don't want you to say later

00:30:05that I didn't work because of this.

00:30:07Or I was focusing on this.

00:30:09Because I really love what I do.

00:30:11Faizan said, no, it is important to go to work.

00:30:13So, I think, as a partner,

00:30:15this is a big support.

00:30:17To understand that your partner

00:30:19may not be able to see things

00:30:21the way you are seeing.

00:30:23So, this support of Faizan

00:30:25with Hadiya.

00:30:27I don't leave Hadiya with my mom.

00:30:29And she is with Faizan.

00:30:31So, I go very easily.

00:30:33I know Faizan manages everything.

00:30:35If I come to general couples,

00:30:37which is my observation.

00:30:39For example,

00:30:41your children are small.

00:30:43The problems of that time

00:30:45during couples.

00:30:47What are the fights and quarrels

00:30:49between couples?

00:30:51Look, her child is so fat.

00:30:53You don't feed him.

00:30:55The whole blame game starts.

00:30:57You don't feed him.

00:30:59You don't take care of him.

00:31:01You sleep during the day.

00:31:03The child is in pain.

00:31:05Or you don't pay attention to him.

00:31:07In studies,

00:31:09my brother's child has more marks.

00:31:11I was very surprised, Nida.

00:31:13Sorry to interrupt you.

00:31:15I came to know from a very close relationship

00:31:17that when you give the child

00:31:19mother feed in this situation.

00:31:21I am bringing this up because

00:31:23in our religion,

00:31:25as we were discussing,

00:31:27it is not the responsibility of the mother

00:31:29to feed the child.

00:31:31In this also,

00:31:33you will get fatwa on me.

00:31:35But it is true.

00:31:37So, husbands and fathers

00:31:39have this problem.

00:31:41You can't give the child top feed.

00:31:43No matter what happens,

00:31:45you keep it on the mother's feet.

00:31:47There are such problems in husband and wife.

00:31:49You are absolutely right.

00:31:51Even after coming here,

00:31:53there is a break.

00:31:55That's why.

00:31:57We have kept this rule of thumb

00:31:59that we never compare.

00:32:01Because every child

00:32:03and household is different.

00:32:05Every child has a different pace.

00:32:07As you know,

00:32:09I have a lot of children in my family.

00:32:11But we never compare

00:32:13anybody with anybody.

00:32:15We don't even compare

00:32:17other children with elephants.

00:32:19It's unrealistic, honestly.

00:32:21Because everyone has different genes.

00:32:23Everyone's brought up is different.

00:32:25Training is different. Education is different.

00:32:27Background is different.

00:32:29Thoughts are different.

00:32:31Why should I judge my child

00:32:33for no reason?

00:32:35So, we have kept this rule

00:32:37that we never compare.

00:32:39I would like to add

00:32:41one thing to our first slide.

00:32:43We had a constant struggle.

00:32:45We had a rule of thumb

00:32:47that it's a constant effort

00:32:49in a relationship.

00:32:51Take any relationship in the world.

00:32:53If there is no effort,

00:32:55it won't work.

00:32:57If we convert struggle into effort,

00:32:59it's positive.

00:33:01Struggle is also a positive word.

00:33:03Struggle seems like a force.

00:33:05You have to work hard.

00:33:07It's one plus one.

00:33:09Struggle asks for effort.

00:33:11You will work hard only when you are in trouble.

00:33:13We had a rule of thumb

00:33:15that we will always put effort.

00:33:17No matter what,

00:33:19how much work we are doing,

00:33:21how busy we are,

00:33:23what age we are,

00:33:25what social class we are coming from,

00:33:27XYZ, we will make sure

00:33:29that we will have our own time.

00:33:31We will still go out on dinners.

00:33:33Do you guys dialogue, discuss?

00:33:35Always.

00:33:37A lot of couples say,

00:33:39yes, we know.

00:33:41I don't think we need to discuss.

00:33:43Do you think that talking

00:33:45will solve a lot of problems?

00:33:47Of course.

00:33:49Look at the world,

00:33:51everything ends with dialogue.

00:33:53There are so many wars,

00:33:55everything ends with dialogue.

00:33:57Everyone wants to sit at the table and talk.

00:33:59I think this should happen in all relationships.

00:34:01It's not just for husband and wife.

00:34:03It's for everyone.

00:34:05But in a couple,

00:34:07sometimes the husband thinks

00:34:09that you don't want to talk to him.

00:34:11You don't understand anything.

00:34:13When I start thinking,

00:34:15you stop thinking.

00:34:17Then it's over.

00:34:19Relationship is a relationship

00:34:21between a husband and wife.

00:34:23If the partner is not supportive,

00:34:25then the relationship should be respectful.

00:34:27The answer to this question is,

00:34:29it's called a couple because

00:34:31it should stay together.

00:34:33If you don't stay together,

00:34:35then there's no point.

00:34:37So always,

00:34:39keep in mind that

00:34:41people are not used to listening.

00:34:43We tell them to listen to us.

00:34:45Only a good listener

00:34:47can give a good answer.

00:34:49He can also talk.

00:34:51We discuss a lot

00:34:53from day one till now.

00:34:55We talk about everything.

00:34:57Thank God, we don't face any problem.

00:34:59It's important to walk together.

00:35:01It's important to put

00:35:03constant effort in a relationship.

00:35:05Sorry,

00:35:07A husband and wife

00:35:09get to know about a relationship

00:35:11when they have kids.

00:35:13Things are different after that.

00:35:15We have two kids.

00:35:17You have three kids.

00:35:19When a third person

00:35:21comes in a relationship,

00:35:23all the attention goes to that person.

00:35:25At that time,

00:35:27husband and wife

00:35:29need to be on the same page.

00:35:31We have a strange norm.

00:35:33I want to address it.

00:35:35Only men should know everything.

00:35:37We should take it out of ourselves.

00:35:39Men should take it out of themselves.

00:35:41Absolutely.

00:35:43Our norm is that

00:35:45father sets the rules.

00:35:47Sometimes, single parents also do it.

00:35:49Sometimes, mothers set very good rules.

00:35:51Sometimes, single parents also do it.

00:35:53It depends on the personality of husband and wife.

00:35:55Whose personality is it?

00:35:57If your father is not at home

00:35:59or he is out,

00:36:01then how will you go?

00:36:03You should give equal respect

00:36:05to your wife's opinion.

00:36:07You should listen to her.

00:36:09If she has a good opinion,

00:36:11you should not be egoistic.

00:36:13In a group,

00:36:15the leader is the one

00:36:17who thinks

00:36:19that he has leadership qualities.

00:36:21It is not necessary

00:36:23to have leadership qualities only in a man.

00:36:25Sometimes, a woman is a good administrator.

00:36:27Absolutely.

00:36:29The rules set by the family

00:36:31are very important.

00:36:33For example,

00:36:35my mother was a very good administrator.

00:36:37She used to make the rules of the house.

00:36:39My father used to earn more than my mother.

00:36:41He used to run the house more.

00:36:43But my mother used to make the rules.

00:36:45So, it is not necessary

00:36:47that a man should set the rules of every house.

00:36:49A woman can also do it.

00:36:51It is not necessary

00:36:53that a man always says the right thing

00:36:55or a woman always says the right thing.

00:36:57If one person does not say the right thing,

00:36:59he can support her and tell her.

00:37:01It is very important to understand this.

00:37:03If my partner says something to me,

00:37:05instead of being offended,

00:37:07I should understand it.

00:37:09I should not judge her.

00:37:11In a partnership,

00:37:13if there is a judgment,

00:37:15then the matter is over.

00:37:17It is not necessary

00:37:19that we do not have a conflict.

00:37:21Sometimes, Maham does not understand my opinion.

00:37:23I do not understand Maham's opinion.

00:37:25We should convince her.

00:37:27Let's talk about the future.

00:37:31Future planning for kids.

00:37:35We are not getting out of it.

00:37:37Parents, husband and wife

00:37:39are like children's parents.

00:37:43You have shared your experience.

00:37:45We have shared our children's experience.

00:37:47You have three children.

00:37:51How will I become a host today?

00:37:53How many live transmissions

00:37:55have you done?

00:37:57You tell me.

00:37:59How is the experience of three children?

00:38:01You do one thing.

00:38:03Sit there.

00:38:05It is very good.

00:38:07How do you manage?

00:38:09The third one reminds you

00:38:11that you are young.

00:38:13When you are young,

00:38:15you stand in front of the young children.

00:38:17We are also young.

00:38:19You are also young.

00:38:21The experience of three children is amazing.

00:38:23I was saying the same thing to you.

00:38:25We are not agreeing.

00:38:27Let's adopt a child.

00:38:29I have adopted a child.

00:38:33I cannot afford it.

00:38:35There is a lot of work.

00:38:37There is no end to it.

00:38:39They do their own work.

00:38:41My children do their own work.

00:38:43This is amazing.

00:38:45Maham has trained both the children

00:38:47to do their own work.

00:38:49They are very independent.

00:38:51They are not at home.

00:38:53They don't have to worry

00:38:55about how to eat.

00:38:57I have adopted a child.

00:38:59The problem is that

00:39:01I come home at night.

00:39:03I take out the food from the fridge.

00:39:05I serve them.

00:39:07I keep it in front of them.

00:39:09I don't put a spoon in their mouth.

00:39:11I have to feed them.

00:39:13I have been coming since morning.

00:39:15I have a guilt.

00:39:17I have a guilt that I am leaving my husband.

00:39:19When I come home at night,

00:39:21I ask my husband,

00:39:23did you eat?

00:39:25No, I am not hungry.

00:39:27I didn't eat yesterday.

00:39:29I have come home at night.

00:39:31I ask him, did you eat?

00:39:33No, I have to serve food.

00:39:35I eat rice and lentils at night.

00:39:37I say, it's 11.

00:39:39I say, I will order.

00:39:41I say, order in the night.

00:39:43I say, it's hot.

00:39:45I say, it will be ready in half an hour.

00:39:47We had lentils and rice in an hour, so Mr. Kaisar ate it at 11.30.

00:39:50The whole day, there's a record of him eating from my stomach.

00:39:54He'd say, oh, my husband didn't eat.

00:39:56My husband didn't eat.

00:39:57All my life, Baizan, one day, I'm telling you.

00:39:59I don't know if he cooked fresh food or not.

00:40:01No, I'm telling you, this is an experience for everyone.

00:40:03One day, I went to work without having breakfast.

00:40:07So he called me.

00:40:09He was crying.

00:40:10I said, it's not like that.

00:40:11I said, no.

00:40:12No, I'm going to make food and bring it to the set.

00:40:14I said, no, brother, I'm working.

00:40:16No, no, I said, how can you go without eating?

00:40:18I didn't have this problem.

00:40:19Now you've pampered a man like this.

00:40:22And we've spent 30 years like this.

00:40:24And all of a sudden, I come and ask for rice.

00:40:26No, no, don't heat it up.

00:40:28OK.

00:40:29I'll make it.

00:40:30Food is a 15-minute job for me.

00:40:32Food is not an issue for me.

00:40:34I say, eat it.

00:40:35No, it should be presented.

00:40:36It should be presented.

00:40:37The Lord is at your service.

00:40:39But I got this problem from my mother.

00:40:42My mother was very caring.

00:40:43She said, when I go, have tea and food all your life.

00:40:46I said, what's your problem?

00:40:47No, no, no.

00:40:48It's a good thing.

00:40:49It's a good thing.

00:40:50One day, her mother said, I'm going to make food.

00:40:52The selection of words may be a little different.

00:40:54But the point is, this is my favorite problem.

00:40:57The conversation should end here.

00:40:59It's quiet now, right?

00:41:00I think this relationship, then,

00:41:02in the course of time, this cute joke

00:41:04also starts coming after 30 years.

00:41:06If this doesn't happen, you'll get bored.

00:41:07Exactly.

00:41:08I think this is very necessary.

00:41:09It's necessary.

00:41:10It's a spice.

00:41:10I go in a different direction.

00:41:12The table's off, isn't it?

00:41:13Yes.

00:41:14Sorry, I'm coming back to the slide.

00:41:15Let's come back to the slide.

00:41:17Show the slide again.

00:41:18Because we forgot.

00:41:19No, I remember.

00:41:20I remember.

00:41:20Kids, future planning for kids.

00:41:22Now we have a break.

00:41:23Now we have a break.

00:41:24Let's talk later.

00:41:25It's okay, so this future planning for kids.

00:41:26Come, let's cut the breaks.

00:41:27What?

00:41:28Come, let's cut the breaks.

00:41:29It's not like that.

00:41:29How will I get my salary?

00:41:30Oh, no.

00:41:31And how will I give you a cheque?

00:41:32Good morning, Mr. Parthi.

00:41:33Stay with us after the break.

00:41:34Future planning for kids.

00:41:36Even here, who falls, who takes care,

00:41:39whose decisions are made,

00:41:40we have to know all of this after a short break.

00:41:42Good morning.

00:41:52Welcome.

00:41:52Welcome back.

00:41:53Good morning, Pakistan.

00:41:55So, the tip we need right now is,

00:41:57this couple is going to tell us,

00:41:59about the future planning for kids.

00:42:01Now, about the future planning for kids,

00:42:03there are fights between couples.

00:42:05Not fights, difference of opinion.

00:42:06In difference of opinion,

00:42:07there are fights too, somewhere.

00:42:09Some people feel bad about it.

00:42:10Yes.

00:42:11It's okay, it's normal.

00:42:12Yes.

00:42:13For example, father wants his daughter to become a doctor.

00:42:15Daughter says, I can't study.

00:42:17I can't study so much.

00:42:20Here, mother says,

00:42:21I want my child to become a doctor.

00:42:23Casser says, no.

00:42:24Let him do whatever he wants to do.

00:42:25For him, it's up to us.

00:42:27My father was a doctor.

00:42:28He tried a lot to become a doctor.

00:42:31He couldn't.

00:42:32He repeated the exam.

00:42:33He couldn't.

00:42:34C grade, D grade, C grade,

00:42:36I'm going to pass.

00:42:37I'm not lying.

00:42:38Because our priorities were to fly kites,

00:42:41to play marbles,

00:42:42to play football,

00:42:44to play cricket.

00:42:45Education was secondary.

00:42:46And father said,

00:42:47do whatever you want.

00:42:48Just pass.

00:42:50Your class will keep changing.

00:42:51I said, alright.

00:42:52Father said, I don't care.

00:42:54Now, with kids,

00:42:55I'm saying something,

00:42:56so you guys,

00:42:57you're not angry, right?

00:42:59No, no.

00:42:59When we got the kids admitted

00:43:00in an English school,

00:43:03and when they were in class 3 or 4,

00:43:04I saw their pants were coming down,

00:43:06their pockets were coming down.

00:43:08I said, this is wrong.

00:43:09No, even I thought it was wrong.

00:43:11It's fashion.

00:43:12I saw the famous Umar Sharif's

00:43:13burger coming down.

00:43:14I thought it was wrong.

00:43:15It's not like that.

00:43:16Thanks to that school,

00:43:18where I never got admission,

00:43:20can I take your name?

00:43:21Yes, why not?

00:43:22It's a public school.

00:43:22Yes, it's a public school.

00:43:24I know your kids are studying there.

00:43:25It's okay.

00:43:26When both the kids went there,

00:43:28the boys were being punished

00:43:32in the ground.

00:43:33They were being kneeled down.

00:43:35My kids have come from an English school.

00:43:37And it was such an English school,

00:43:39let me add,

00:43:40it was such an English school,

00:43:41where the AC was on,

00:43:43the seats were soft,

00:43:44and the kids used to sit comfortably

00:43:46and pass with good marks.

00:43:48And the teacher used to say,

00:43:49the English of the kids has improved a lot.

00:43:51But the teacher used to say,

00:43:52it's okay.

00:43:52If they can't match anything,

00:43:54it's okay.

00:43:55They will learn.

00:43:56It was such an easygoing school.

00:43:58They didn't see the heat or the sun.

00:44:00When they went there,

00:44:00it was scorching heat,

00:44:02and the kids were being kneeled down,

00:44:03and they were being kneeled down.

00:44:05Ahmed, my elder son and younger son,

00:44:08said, we have to come here.

00:44:10I said, yes.

00:44:11My father said, no.

00:44:13I said, okay, now you have to come here.

00:44:16I did the same thing with him,

00:44:17that I took him off the Cadillac

00:44:18and put him on the camel.

00:44:19And I used to send him to school by bus.

00:44:20I said, the bus will come.

00:44:21Thank God.

00:44:24Who made the decision,

00:44:26that the English school?

00:44:27Both.

00:44:28It was a comfortable school.

00:44:29Because the school I studied from

00:44:31was a convent.

00:44:33And there,

00:44:34the hair was short,

00:44:34and everything was fine.

00:44:36This is a jail.

00:44:37My kids won't come here.

00:44:38I said, we did the matriculation from here.

00:44:39Nowadays, this has also happened.

00:44:41There is a lot of show-off.

00:44:42There is a lot of competition.

00:44:43Okay, that has become your status symbol.

00:44:44Which school are your kids studying in?

00:44:45Which school are your kids studying in?

00:44:46Where are they studying?

00:44:47The one who is giving the most money,

00:44:49that has become a status symbol.

00:44:51So, I didn't have anything like that.

00:44:52I just had a way,

00:44:54which is popular in the world,

00:44:55that the English of the children

00:44:57should be good,

00:44:58because all the education is in English.

00:45:00So, it's not that I'm status conscious

00:45:02or something like that.

00:45:02But no, it was that

00:45:03the English should be good,

00:45:04the grammar should be good,

00:45:05which was not possible in our schools.

00:45:08So, that was the difference.

00:45:09Yes, they learned,

00:45:10but then when I saw that

00:45:11this kid has become 60 kg

00:45:14by sitting in an English school.

00:45:16There is no school in the bungalows,

00:45:17no exercise,

00:45:18no sports.

00:45:19I mean, it's the boys' thing.

00:45:21So, when I picked him up

00:45:23and put both of them in Habib Public,

00:45:25they say, our first year was very bad.

00:45:26But after that, they say,

00:45:27no, now we have become street smart.

00:45:29They learned to deal with children

00:45:32from every area.

00:45:32The children from every area are their friends.

00:45:34So, they made me very happy.

00:45:35They have friends from every area of Karachi.

00:45:36My eldest son has lost 10 kg

00:45:38after going there,

00:45:39because of sports.

00:45:40I must add that,

00:45:41they have one of the most well-behaved kids.

00:45:44I have worked a lot with them.

00:45:46So, both the kids come to the set

00:45:47and you will not feel at all

00:45:49that I am the producer's son.

00:45:51No, we have not given them

00:45:52any celebrity status.

00:45:53They work hard,

00:45:54they come and ask too.

00:45:55You will feel that they have

00:45:56really come to work.

00:45:57The learning thing,

00:45:58I have seen in both the kids.

00:46:00They come and add things too.

00:46:02I have observed Zorain very closely.

00:46:06He is more into editing and camera.

00:46:08Ahmed is more into management.

00:46:10So, he used to manage things like that.

00:46:12And Zorain, you know,

00:46:13he used to look at technical things.

00:46:14He used to look at the monitor.

00:46:15He used to look at the lens.

00:46:16He still does the editing

00:46:17of my cooking show.

00:46:19I am telling you,

00:46:2010 years ago,

00:46:21I observed both the kids 10 years ago.

00:46:23But they are very well-behaved.

00:46:25If we talk about the general public,

00:46:27there is this difference

00:46:28between husband and wife.

00:46:29There is one thing left.

00:46:30Yes, yes.

00:46:31There is one important thing.

00:46:32Your kids are young.

00:46:33That is career counselling.

00:46:35Okay.

00:46:36What is career counselling?

00:46:38It should be in our universities

00:46:40and colleges.

00:46:41We have learnt these things

00:46:42from outside universities.

00:46:44Either in our families

00:46:45or by looking at each other.

00:46:47Kids have their own personal…

00:46:50Grooming.

00:46:51No, not grooming.

00:46:52There is a desire.

00:46:53There is an interest too.

00:46:54Interest.

00:46:55What they want to do.

00:46:56You give them that field.

00:46:57See,

00:46:58a degree makes you a good person.

00:47:01Employment gives you talent.

00:47:04True that.

00:47:05So, give the kids

00:47:06any degree that is of talent.

00:47:09So, we told the kids

00:47:11to become doctors.

00:47:12I said, make them.

00:47:13I said,

00:47:14you guys become lawyers.

00:47:16It will be fun.

00:47:17Then they saw

00:47:18a very big lawyer's speech

00:47:20on TV.

00:47:21So, Zorain said,

00:47:22Baba, he is a lawyer.

00:47:23I said, son, he is a lawyer.

00:47:24Real lawyer.

00:47:25Real lawyer.

00:47:26This is how I became one.

00:47:27And secondly,

00:47:28I feel that

00:47:29we should live

00:47:30according to the country

00:47:31we live in.

00:47:32Unfortunately,

00:47:33in our country,

00:47:34you can live properly

00:47:35only when you know

00:47:36your rights.

00:47:37A lot of people

00:47:38don't know their rights.

00:47:39So, when my kids said

00:47:40to become lawyers,

00:47:41I said, okay,

00:47:42they will know their rights.

00:47:43At least no one

00:47:44will be able to hurt them

00:47:45like this.

00:47:46They won't come

00:47:47into any problem.

00:47:48So, this was also the reason.

00:47:49Although, my heart wanted

00:47:50to become a doctor.

00:47:51My father wanted me

00:47:52to become a doctor.

00:47:53So, a Dr. Fazila

00:47:54was named after me

00:47:55by my grandfather.

00:47:56But, after entering

00:47:57the medical pre-medical

00:47:58field,

00:47:59when I came into

00:48:00the acting field,

00:48:01I became an actor.

00:48:02Because, obviously,

00:48:03at that time,

00:48:04you have a new hobby.

00:48:05So, the desires

00:48:06of our own hearts,

00:48:07we say,

00:48:08let's take it out

00:48:09on our kids.

00:48:10But, if the kids

00:48:11don't have that interest,

00:48:12then we shouldn't do this.

00:48:13So, we used to

00:48:14discuss among ourselves.

00:48:15And many times,

00:48:16it used to happen

00:48:17that they used to say

00:48:18this and that.

00:48:19But, when the end result

00:48:20is good,

00:48:21then those fights

00:48:22also become worthwhile.

00:48:23So, basically,

00:48:24it was a discussion.

00:48:25So, like these two

00:48:26were talking,

00:48:27Maham and Faizan,

00:48:28that communication

00:48:29is very important.

00:48:30Like, when our kids

00:48:31were young,

00:48:32I had learned

00:48:33one thing.

00:48:34At that time,

00:48:35the parents didn't

00:48:36see these things

00:48:37in us.

00:48:38We didn't have

00:48:39this training

00:48:40that you shouldn't

00:48:41fight in front of

00:48:42the kids,

00:48:43shouldn't misbehave.

00:48:44Or, if there is

00:48:45any such thing

00:48:46in your heart,

00:48:47then separate it.

00:48:48I had said this

00:48:49to Kaisar,

00:48:50when my kids

00:48:51used to sleep

00:48:52after the fight,

00:48:53if there is any

00:48:54problem,

00:48:55it will be solved.

00:48:56So, at night,

00:48:57we used to communicate

00:48:58among ourselves

00:48:59that you did this

00:49:00wrong,

00:49:01I felt bad,

00:49:02you said this,

00:49:03I felt bad.

00:49:04So, these things

00:49:05are very important.

00:49:06It makes a big difference

00:49:07in your relationship

00:49:08and in the environment

00:49:09of your house.

00:49:10My kids,

00:49:11until they didn't

00:49:12come to 9th,

00:49:1310th,

00:49:14until we used to

00:49:15put them to sleep,

00:49:16they didn't know

00:49:17that their parents

00:49:18also fight.

00:49:19Yes, when they

00:49:20put us to sleep

00:49:22In reality,

00:49:23credit goes to mother.

00:49:25Fazila took care

00:49:26of the kids

00:49:27very well,

00:49:28all three kids.

00:49:29I am telling you

00:49:30the truth,

00:49:31both the kids

00:49:32roaming,

00:49:33their studies,

00:49:34everything

00:49:35is done by

00:49:36this woman.

00:49:37Thank you.

00:49:38That's fine,

00:49:39you facilitated me

00:49:40financially,

00:49:41so, I said

00:49:42Son, you have

00:49:43met Katrina

00:49:44and Sakina.

00:49:45Yes.

00:49:46You have met

00:49:47Katrina and Sakina

00:49:48together.

00:49:49Package.

00:49:50You scratch

00:49:51my back,

00:49:52I scratch yours.

00:49:53We are no less

00:49:54than anyone.

00:49:55She is a hero,

00:49:56he is a hero.

00:49:57I am a hero,

00:49:58what do you mean?

00:49:59That's why

00:50:00we have met

00:50:01the heroines.

00:50:02He has also

00:50:03done international

00:50:04dramas.

00:50:05Let's go to

00:50:06international dramas.

00:50:07What else?

00:50:08Slide.

00:50:09What is the

00:50:10story of

00:50:11knee surgery?

00:50:12Who took

00:50:13care of

00:50:14whom?

00:50:15This period

00:50:16is very bad.

00:50:17During a

00:50:18shooting,

00:50:19the ACL was

00:50:20broken.

00:50:21Oh.

00:50:22I didn't know

00:50:23what ACL is.

00:50:24I didn't know

00:50:25what ACL is.

00:50:26I don't know.

00:50:27I don't know

00:50:28what it is.

00:50:29Basically,

00:50:30there is a

00:50:31ligament

00:50:32between

00:50:33our bones

00:50:34that doesn't

00:50:35allow it to

00:50:36move forward.

00:50:37And it

00:50:38doesn't

00:50:39allow it to

00:50:40move backward.

00:50:41The one

00:50:42that moves

00:50:43forward

00:50:44was broken.

00:50:45Sometimes,

00:50:46I used to

00:50:47twist it

00:50:48while playing

00:50:49cricket.

00:50:50I used to

00:50:51play cricket

00:50:52a lot.

00:50:53One day,

00:50:54after six

00:50:55years,

00:50:56I threw

00:50:57the ball

00:50:58from the

00:50:59boundary and

00:51:00my foot

00:51:01stopped there

00:51:02and I

00:51:03fell down.

00:51:04And my

00:51:05foot was

00:51:06locked.

00:51:07And there

00:51:08was a

00:51:09sound.

00:51:10My foot

00:51:11was locked.

00:51:12It

00:51:13wasn't

00:51:14straight.

00:51:15There was

00:51:16a meniscus

00:51:17and I

00:51:18asked him

00:51:19what it

00:51:20was.

00:51:21I was

00:51:22with Imran

00:51:23and he

00:51:24told me

00:51:25that he

00:51:26would

00:51:27fix it

00:51:28right now

00:51:29but it

00:51:30would be

00:51:31a problem

00:51:32in the

00:51:33future because

00:51:34it can't

00:51:35be fixed.

00:51:36It can only

00:51:37be fixed

00:51:38through

00:51:39surgery.

00:51:40Otherwise,

00:51:41there is

00:51:42no option.

00:51:43After that,

00:51:44he said

00:51:45something

00:51:46like

00:51:47if there

00:51:48is any

00:51:49bone problem,

00:51:50they come

00:51:51to us.

00:51:52Friends,

00:51:53I want to

00:51:54clear this

00:51:55to you.

00:51:56It will

00:51:57be useful

00:51:58in life.

00:51:59He said

00:52:00that we

00:52:01are not

00:52:02just

00:52:03bone doctors

00:52:04but

00:52:05joint

00:52:06doctors.

00:52:07We

00:52:08are not

00:52:09experts.

00:52:10There are

00:52:11many

00:52:12experts.

00:52:13He referred

00:52:14a doctor

00:52:15to me

00:52:16and he

00:52:17said that

00:52:18this

00:52:19will

00:52:20be

00:52:21operated.

00:52:22We

00:52:23heard this

00:52:24from our

00:52:25childhood

00:52:26that the

00:52:27operation

00:52:28is over.

00:52:29Dr.

00:52:30Umar

00:52:31was not

00:52:32here.

00:52:33He

00:52:34came from

00:52:35outside.

00:52:36He

00:52:37came for

00:52:38some time.

00:52:39We

00:52:40were thinking

00:52:41that my

00:52:42cricket is

00:52:43over.

00:52:44I

00:52:45will

00:52:46ruin

00:52:47your

00:52:48career.

00:52:49I

00:52:50will

00:52:51give you

00:52:52interviews.

00:52:53He

00:52:54operated

00:52:55very well.

00:52:56We

00:52:57did the

00:52:58operation

00:52:59in Lahore.

00:53:00I

00:53:01stayed

00:53:02at my

00:53:03in-laws'

00:53:04house for

00:53:053 months.

00:53:06I

00:53:07remember

00:53:08that.

00:53:09I

00:53:10was in

00:53:11pain.

00:53:12I

00:53:13remember

00:53:14everything.

00:53:15My

00:53:16in-laws,

00:53:17my

00:53:18wife,

00:53:19my

00:53:20mother-in-law,

00:53:21my

00:53:22mother-in-law

00:53:23took care

00:53:24of me.

00:53:25My

00:53:26leg was

00:53:27swollen.

00:53:28I

00:53:29was in

00:53:30pain.

00:53:31I

00:53:32was in

00:53:33pain.

00:53:34I

00:53:35was in

00:53:36pain.

00:53:37I

00:53:38was in

00:53:39pain.

00:53:40I

00:53:41was in

00:53:42pain.

00:53:43I

00:53:44was in

00:53:45pain.

00:53:46My

00:53:47leg was

00:53:48swollen.

00:53:49I

00:53:51asked my

00:53:52mother-in-law

00:53:54not to

00:53:55walk

00:53:56for one

00:53:59month.

00:54:00I

00:54:01asked a

00:54:02talker

00:54:03not

00:54:05to walk

00:54:06for a

00:54:07month.

00:54:08I

00:54:09stopped

00:54:10jogging

00:54:11Let the meat come. Eat the meat.

00:54:13Oh God, what will I become?

00:54:15Will I get up from my bed? What will I do?

00:54:17I said, Noman, there is a little time.

00:54:19You have to take medicines as well.

00:54:21It's very difficult.

00:54:22No, you recover and then try whatever you want.

00:54:24But if you eat, it will take longer to eat and drink.

00:54:27That's why in my in-laws,

00:54:29you know, I couldn't do it alone.

00:54:32Seriously, it was very difficult for me.

00:54:34If I was here, my mother was here.

00:54:36Poor mother, what would she do?

00:54:38I couldn't do it alone.

00:54:39I couldn't even get up for small things.

00:54:41But why was the importance of the family so much?

00:54:43They used to scream.

00:54:44The importance of the family was there.

00:54:46Taking care of the child.

00:54:48And Zara, she couldn't sleep without them.

00:54:51Now those poor legs are also sitting.

00:54:53She used to say, I have to sleep on your stomach.

00:54:56I will sleep.

00:54:58What did you do?

00:55:00And at night, the poor mother used to scream.

00:55:03In sleep.

00:55:05That too in sleep.

00:55:08We had a fight once in the middle of it.

00:55:10He talked to the doctor.

00:55:12Yes, tell me that.

00:55:14There was a fight in the middle.

00:55:16It's not such a crisp fight.

00:55:18It was light.

00:55:20He is talking to the doctors.

00:55:22He is saying that it will happen like this.

00:55:24It will take some time.

00:55:26His physio things.

00:55:28I said, no matter what anyone does,

00:55:30I will get the surgery done.

00:55:32I didn't want to get it done.

00:55:34I will fix it like this.

00:55:36I said, no.

00:55:38I went to the doctor's meeting without asking.

00:55:40He did everything.

00:55:42His card kept working.

00:55:44He did it himself.

00:55:46After that, tickets.

00:55:48I said, we are going this day.

00:55:50To get the surgery done.

00:55:52I was very confused.

00:55:54Sometimes you have to take this tough decision.

00:55:56Whether it is a child or a woman.

00:55:58For betterment.

00:56:00I was very confused.

00:56:02Because I was very scared of the operation.

00:56:04How to get the surgery done.

00:56:06There are many norms.

00:56:08Technology has advanced.

00:56:10A person should be decisive.

00:56:12I think this is an issue.

00:56:14Men are confused.

00:56:16As soon as their partner is supportive.

00:56:18He supported me.

00:56:20He gave me courage.

00:56:22I said, what will happen now?

00:56:24She is a woman.

00:56:26She said, whatever happens.

00:56:28I am married now.

00:56:30I will support you.

00:56:32One break.

00:56:34After one break.

00:56:36We will come back.

00:56:46Welcome, welcome back.

00:56:48Good morning Pakistan.

00:56:50Basically, to live a practical life.

00:56:52When I used to watch talk shows.

00:56:54I used to say, I want tips.

00:56:56To live a practical life.

00:56:58People talk a lot.

00:57:00They lie a lot.

00:57:02Fake things.

00:57:04They don't tolerate.

00:57:08There are many things.

00:57:10When you watch talk shows.

00:57:12You don't know what to learn.

00:57:14How to answer our questions.

00:57:16When you talk about practical life.

00:57:18Your own life experiences.

00:57:20I will say one more thing.

00:57:22You will start.

00:57:24I will say one thing.

00:57:26People think.

00:57:28Ideal couple.

00:57:30What is the definition?

00:57:32People think.

00:57:34Ideal couple.

00:57:36Is perfect.

00:57:38I don't think.

00:57:40Ideal couple is not.

00:57:42We wear the same color clothes.

00:57:44And say yes to each other.

00:57:46This is not ideal couple.

00:57:48When two different people.

00:57:50Live together.

00:57:52Compensate each other.

00:57:54Respect each other.

00:57:56Live with love.

00:57:58Let them be.

00:58:00Don't try to change each other.

00:58:02You are me.

00:58:04They feel sad.

00:58:06They used to say.

00:58:08What is this?

00:58:10Sir, you are a compulsory subject.

00:58:12You are the focus.

00:58:14You are the center of my attention.

00:58:18They used to say.

00:58:20I talk to you.

00:58:22No.

00:58:24I will not say yes.

00:58:26I will say yes.

00:58:28I will not say no.

00:58:30When you.

00:58:32Don't try to change each other.

00:58:34Then you are an ideal couple.

00:58:36I ask this to all couples.

00:58:38Does a person know.

00:58:40About himself?

00:58:42What are my strengths?

00:58:44How is it?

00:58:46Or do you have to convince yourself?

00:58:48No.

00:58:50I think.

00:58:52We know.

00:58:54But even after knowing.

00:58:56We don't want to show it.

00:58:58To ourselves.

00:59:00I know what my weakness is.

00:59:02But I will say no.

00:59:04I know.

00:59:06But we pretend so well.

00:59:08That we overlook it.

00:59:10When does your spouse.

00:59:12Know about your weakness?

00:59:14For how long?

00:59:16I think.

00:59:18I think he knows.

00:59:20I think he knows.

00:59:22I think he knows.

00:59:24In a few days.

00:59:26Everyone is working.

00:59:28Not just one person.

00:59:30I am not 100 percent.

00:59:32No one is 100 percent.

00:59:34Self-realization is very important.

00:59:36If you know.

00:59:38That I accept it.

00:59:40Then your relationship will be better.

00:59:42If your spouse knows.

00:59:44After marriage.

00:59:46That this is my weakness.

00:59:48Then.

00:59:50What should that partner do?

00:59:52We both.

00:59:54I will ask everyone.

00:59:56What happens.

00:59:58I think.

01:00:00The male member in the spouse.

01:00:02He.

01:00:04Female member.

01:00:06His wife.

01:00:08To make his personality.

01:00:10Strong.

01:00:12Helps a lot.

01:00:14If the husband.

01:00:16Is not supportive for his wife.

01:00:18Then the wife's personality.

01:00:20Will be under shadow.

01:00:22Will never be strong.

01:00:24Sometimes.

01:00:26Some women's personality.

01:00:28Is dominating.

01:00:30And some are submissive.

01:00:32Being strong is different.

01:00:34What is the difference.

01:00:36Domination and strong.

01:00:38Domination families.

01:00:40Will never work.

01:00:42If you.

01:00:44Give the wife.

01:00:46The title of head of the house.

01:00:48Inside the house.

01:00:50You are the boss.

01:00:52Whatever you say.

01:00:54We will agree.

01:00:56We will agree to everything you say.

01:00:58We agree to everything.

01:01:00If a working woman.

01:01:02Like Fazila.

01:01:04We have to be.

01:01:06The role model for them.

01:01:08If my wife is strong.

01:01:10Her personality is strong.

01:01:12Personality is strong.

01:01:14Because of family.

01:01:16Because of academics.

01:01:18Because of market experience.

01:01:20But on the back.

01:01:22Father.

01:01:24Brother.

01:01:26Husband.

01:01:28She knows.

01:01:30Someone is behind her.

01:01:32My question is.

01:01:34If I talk about weaknesses.

01:01:36What are the weaknesses.

01:01:38For example.

01:01:40If husband is earning.

01:01:42Wife is running the house.

01:01:44And her hand is open.

01:01:46She doesn't know.

01:01:48How to divide the expenses.

01:01:50Or spread her legs in the sheet.

01:01:52These days it is difficult.

01:01:54Electricity bills are coming.

01:01:56But still there are very smart women.

01:01:58Who can survive in that too.

01:02:00For example.

01:02:02Your grandmother.

01:02:04That time was different.

01:02:06Now everyone earns together.

01:02:08But if you see.

01:02:10Wives complain.

01:02:12Husband doesn't keep money on my hand.

01:02:14Husband says.

01:02:16I don't keep money on my hand.

01:02:18Because money doesn't stay in my wife's hand.

01:02:20Trust is very important.

01:02:22Here it is.

01:02:24Half a month ago.

01:02:26Fazila knows my account.

01:02:28I don't have a credit card.

01:02:30She has a debit card.

01:02:32Thank God.

01:02:34I don't have a credit card.

01:02:36Because Kaisar is so open.

01:02:38I go shopping with him.

01:02:40Then I ask him.

01:02:42Kaisar is looking good.

01:02:44Kaisar does a lot of shopping.

01:02:46I don't go with him.

01:02:48Why are you laughing?

01:02:50Kaisar is very open hearted.

01:02:52Whatever money Kaisar has.

01:02:54If you say anything.

01:02:56I want it.

01:02:58Fazila.

01:03:00It's a blessing.

01:03:02It's a blessing.

01:03:04A woman should be open hearted.

01:03:06A man should be open hearted.

01:03:08I don't have money.

01:03:10From the beginning.

01:03:12Kaisar never refused.

01:03:14Never.

01:03:16Whatever money Kaisar used to earn.

01:03:18He used to put it in my account.

01:03:20I used to do Kaisar's account.

01:03:22I used to do Kaisar's account.

01:03:24Once I went to the bank.

01:03:26I asked the bank to make a certificate.

01:03:28They didn't see.

01:03:30They made it in my name.

01:03:32They said it's my husband's account.

01:03:34I said I have never seen him.

01:03:36We don't go to the bank.

01:03:38We pay income tax.

01:03:40Kaisar never stopped me.

01:03:42No matter how much money I spend.

01:03:44I am so used to it.

01:03:46No one asked me.

01:03:48I am very careful.

01:03:50I don't waste money.

01:03:52But no one asked me.

01:03:54I asked everyone a tip.

01:03:56I forgot the question.

01:03:58It's weakness.

01:04:00It's not weakness.

01:04:06It's a package.

01:04:08It can't be finished.

01:04:10Opposite attracts.

01:04:12To fulfill my shortcomings.

01:04:14My husband has qualities.

01:04:16He has qualities.

01:04:18God has made it like this.

01:04:20Why do you say couples should be equal?

01:04:22They should be balanced.

01:04:24They should be equal.

01:04:26Opposite attracts.

01:04:28I don't understand.

01:04:30How can they be equal?

01:04:32If they are equal, it won't work.

01:04:34If they are equal, it's necessary.

01:04:36Brother and sister's thinking is also equal.

01:04:38No.

01:04:40How can husband and wife be equal?

01:04:42Opposite attracts.

01:04:44One's shortcomings are fulfilled by the other.

01:04:46That's why they go together.

01:04:48That's why it's a couple.

01:04:50That's why it's an ideal couple.

01:04:52Two people living with each other.

01:04:54Like they said.

01:04:56One is going to spend.

01:04:58One is going to control.

01:05:00Everyone knows that we both spend.

01:05:02We have a hole in our hands.

01:05:04Tell us something else.

01:05:06I am not talking about spending.

01:05:08There are many other things.

01:05:10Spending is the biggest problem these days.

01:05:14Maham told in the beginning.

01:05:16What I observed in Maham.

01:05:18She over thinks.

01:05:20I start from there.

01:05:22Then how do we cater to it?

01:05:24Now Faizan will start doing it.

01:05:26There will be something that is not happening.

01:05:28In your couple,

01:05:30Faizan comes up with a solution.

01:05:32We both come up with a solution.

01:05:34Obviously, I have a lot of shortcomings.

01:05:38But sometimes,

01:05:40One of the husband and wife

01:05:42is very good at concluding.

01:05:44That's it.

01:05:46We have done this and that.

01:05:48Now if we collect things like this.

01:05:50It's a way to collect things.

01:05:52That's Faizan.

01:05:54We discuss everything.

01:05:56Because there are many things

01:05:58that I will say that

01:06:00it can't be done further.

01:06:02Basically, if I say in slang,

01:06:04someone is going to spread the mess.

01:06:06I spread the mess.

01:06:08Because I over think.

01:06:10I go ahead a lot to over think.

01:06:12I think women over think.

01:06:14I don't know.

01:06:16My husband over thinks.

01:06:18My husband over thinks.

01:06:20He spreads the mess.

01:06:22I have to collect.

01:06:24I would say,

01:06:26Faizan is

01:06:28my partner.

01:06:30I think I have told you before.

01:06:32For me, he is the go-to.

01:06:34For everything.

01:06:36Faizan, this is done.

01:06:38Faizan, this is done.

01:06:40Now I have such a bad habit.

01:06:42Your car will run for many years.

01:06:44Then there will be departments.

01:06:46Faizan will have to come to you

01:06:48for some things.

01:06:50It still happens.

01:06:52It still happens.

01:06:54Faizan has really spoiled me.

01:06:56Because I have been working

01:06:58since before marriage.

01:07:00This is a very silly example.

01:07:02I manage my dates with Faizan.

01:07:04I make a schedule.

01:07:06Faizan says, you keep me as a manager.

01:07:08Listen, check these dates.

01:07:10I am standing in the scene.

01:07:12Faizan says, you manage these dates.

01:07:14I have a habit of spoiling.

01:07:18He is my go-to for everything.

01:07:20Even I do negotiation.

01:07:22We have the opposite here.

01:07:24We also have the opposite.

01:07:26I am the manager.

01:07:28I am doing the negotiation.

01:07:30Thank God, everyone knows.

01:07:32When my phone rings,

01:07:34they say, why are you calling?

01:07:36I say, I will talk to him.

01:07:38I don't have time after Maham.

01:07:40Then I manage.

01:07:42Both of you tell us.

01:07:44Like he said,

01:07:46people think

01:07:48what a perfect couple is.

01:07:50No one has the same mindset.

01:07:52Girls have a different upbringing

01:07:54in their homes.

01:07:56Boys have a different environment.

01:07:58When there is a wedding,

01:08:00the girl leaves her home.

01:08:02She has her own lifestyle.

01:08:04She has to adjust.

01:08:06In my opinion,

01:08:08the perfect couple is

01:08:10those who can understand each other.

01:08:12And understand each other quickly.

01:08:14It shouldn't be that they understand each other

01:08:16after 10-20 years.

01:08:18Then they will talk to each other.

01:08:20We still fight.

01:08:22They say, women are a riddle.

01:08:24I don't understand.

01:08:26Men usually want

01:08:28us not to fight.

01:08:30They say,

01:08:32talk less.

01:08:34Women are waiting

01:08:36since morning.

01:08:38I am talking about the house.

01:08:40It is important to understand each other.

01:08:42We have a lot of problems.

01:08:44You tell us.

01:08:46I am coming.

01:08:48I am punctual.

01:08:50I am very punctual.

01:08:52I am very dangerous.

01:08:54If you give me time,

01:08:56I will be there half an hour earlier.

01:08:58What is the scene here?

01:09:00I am very calm.

01:09:02I am a Nawab.

01:09:04I have spent a month

01:09:06to get this money.

01:09:10It hasn't been two days.

01:09:12I have been sitting in the dorm

01:09:14with the kids.

01:09:16I fight at the end.

01:09:18If it is too much,

01:09:20I will pay you next month.

01:09:22I am very demanding.

01:09:24I always shout,

01:09:26Ayesha, tell daddy,

01:09:28you should have been in the army.

01:09:30I like this a lot.

01:09:32If this is your place,

01:09:34why are you here?

01:09:36What is your caste?

01:09:38I am Vargo.

01:09:40Leo is Vargo's caste.

01:09:42All three of us are the same.

01:09:44I relate to these problems.

01:09:46I am Leo.

01:09:48No, he is Vargo's caste.

01:09:50Leo is Vargo's caste.

01:09:52I am Vargo's caste.

01:09:54Leave Leo and Shio.

01:09:56What is this?

01:09:58Leo and Dio.

01:10:00I like it in one place.

01:10:02When I go out to look for it,

01:10:04I punctual a lot.

01:10:06I have a punctuality.

01:10:08I have a timing.

01:10:10I don't reach there at that time.

01:10:12I have all the time.

01:10:14I feel sad that I am doing everything perfectly.

01:10:16Why is this not in its place?

01:10:18I like such things.

01:10:20Asma has a different style.

01:10:22She will think at that time.

01:10:24Once the clothes are out,

01:10:26let's wear this.

01:10:28I have taken out anything.

01:10:30The clothes are ironed.

01:10:32I will wear another one.

01:10:34What difference does it make?

01:10:36They won't match.

01:10:38I did the same at night.

01:10:40Nothing happens.

01:10:42The clothes are out at night.

01:10:44They should be separate.

01:10:46I asked him what he wants to wear.

01:10:48He said he is hangover.

01:10:50I asked him to wear white.

01:10:52He said he will wear purple.

01:10:54I asked him why do you get into this.

01:10:56He said it is normal.

01:10:58I have to go for a show.

01:11:00It is true.

01:11:02Nothing happens.

01:11:04Tell me after the break.

01:11:06Okay.

01:11:18Welcome.

01:11:20Welcome back.

01:11:22Good morning.

01:11:24Pakistan is an interesting topic.

01:11:26I don't think anyone

01:11:28who is watching at home

01:11:30can't relate.

01:11:32The couple who is watching

01:11:34must have gone through all this.

01:11:36I am going to talk about

01:11:38an important topic.

01:11:40When you are on a journey,

01:11:42like this is a journey of your life,

01:11:44there are good and bad days.

01:11:46There are good days in your life

01:11:48when you are happy.

01:11:50There is happiness and sadness.

01:11:52This is the graph of life.

01:11:54Sometimes there is happiness and sometimes there is sadness.

01:11:56I told you

01:11:58that the straight line

01:12:00is the line of death.

01:12:02This is the line of life.

01:12:04Sometimes there are

01:12:06good and bad days.

01:12:08How to tackle

01:12:10those times?

01:12:12Everyone has their own experiences.

01:12:14Please share your experiences.

01:12:16Our worst experience was

01:12:18when we were

01:12:20both working.

01:12:22There was a time

01:12:24when we were stable.

01:12:26Our business was flourishing.

01:12:28We were earning well.

01:12:30Suddenly,

01:12:32the channel we used to work for

01:12:34got shut down.

01:12:36NTM got shut down

01:12:38or collapsed.

01:12:40NTM

01:12:42filed bankruptcy.

01:12:44We had nothing.

01:12:46At that time,

01:12:48there was a senior actor

01:12:50Mr. Mehmood Siddiqui.

01:12:52He was in debt.

01:12:54At a certain age,

01:12:56when a person

01:12:58is in debt,

01:13:00it becomes very difficult.

01:13:02No one recovers.

01:13:04At that time,

01:13:06all our money

01:13:08got lost.

01:13:10I told him

01:13:12that I don't want anyone

01:13:14to come to my door.

01:13:16Some people

01:13:18are famous in our field.

01:13:20They discuss people's money.

01:13:22Alhamdulillah, we never

01:13:24kept anyone's money.

01:13:26I told him that I don't want

01:13:28anyone to come to my door

01:13:30and say that you didn't give me

01:13:32my money.

01:13:34We sold our cars and assets

01:13:36and cleared the market.

01:13:38At that time,

01:13:40in 1998-99,

01:13:42it was a big amount.

01:13:44We sold our assets

01:13:46and cleared the market.

01:13:48It was a difficult time.

01:13:50I told Kaisar that I am selling

01:13:52his car. He said, no problem.

01:13:54We bought a small car worth

01:13:56one lakh rupees.

01:13:58We used to drive it.

01:14:00It was a sports car type.

01:14:02I used to leave my kids at school

01:14:04in that car.

01:14:06People used to feel it.

01:14:08At that time,

01:14:10we understood that

01:14:12it was a difficult time.

01:14:14What else

01:14:16did we face?

01:14:18They were from Karachi.

01:14:20I was shooting with a producer

01:14:22in Malaysia.

01:14:24You were acting?

01:14:26Yes, I was acting.

01:14:28While crying,

01:14:30he called me and said that

01:14:32his car wasn't starting.

01:14:34I called the mechanic from Malaysia

01:14:36and told him to go to his wife.

01:14:38I told him not to ask for money

01:14:40and that I will pay him back.

01:14:42In Malaysia,

01:14:44I didn't have anything.

01:14:46I didn't have a single rupee.

01:14:48The assistant and associates

01:14:50were being paid in dollars.

01:14:52I didn't even get

01:14:54an advance.

01:14:56When you feel bad,

01:14:58people do this to you?

01:15:00I am telling you this now.

01:15:02For the very first time in my life,

01:15:04I went out of Pakistan

01:15:06and couldn't even get a biscuit.

01:15:08I didn't have anything.

01:15:10How long was that?

01:15:12I think it was

01:15:14two years.

01:15:16I used to tell my kids

01:15:18that we kept them with us

01:15:20even though they weren't that old.

01:15:22I told them that

01:15:24they can't go out

01:15:26and eat every day.

01:15:28We can't afford it now.

01:15:30Both husband and wife

01:15:32get jealous of their kids.

01:15:34If a mother

01:15:36educates her kids

01:15:38that this is the right time,

01:15:40it will pass.

01:15:42I told them that

01:15:44this can't happen now.

01:15:46When the time comes,

01:15:48we will make it happen.

01:15:50It was a difficult time

01:15:52but we both supported each other

01:15:54and God blessed us.

01:15:56What would you two say?

01:15:58Our basic concept is

01:16:00to be thankful in good times

01:16:02and be patient in bad times.

01:16:04That's the basic concept

01:16:06We constantly

01:16:08remind each other.

01:16:10Even when we eat

01:16:12at a good place,

01:16:14the mother starts saying

01:16:16God bless you.

01:16:18Our daughter also

01:16:20learns from this.

01:16:22She has made a saying

01:16:24that God bless you,

01:16:26fill your stomach.

01:16:28When she eats,

01:16:30it's a sign that her stomach is full.

01:16:32God bless you, fill your stomach.

01:16:34We should constantly remind

01:16:36ourselves that things won't

01:16:38always be the same.

01:16:40A lot of people in my family

01:16:42are from this field.

01:16:44I have seen it.

01:16:46I think

01:16:48the one who falls

01:16:50is the one who is sitting

01:16:52on the tree.

01:16:54We always stay on the ground.

01:16:56It's God's grace.

01:16:58We don't deserve to be a star.

01:17:00We stay humble.

01:17:02When you talk about health,

01:17:04someone said

01:17:06that we should

01:17:08take risks in our youth.

01:17:10Sometimes

01:17:12it upgrades you.

01:17:14It's a game of subsidy.

01:17:16You learn from it.

01:17:18If you don't take risks,

01:17:20you will stay on the ground.

01:17:22You said that

01:17:24it's a sign of life.

01:17:26Sometimes things come from

01:17:28health point of view.

01:17:30I had COVID-19.

01:17:32I couldn't talk to the doctor

01:17:34because it's difficult

01:17:36to get an appointment

01:17:38from the hospital I was in.

01:17:40They didn't know

01:17:42that I had COVID-19.

01:17:44I was working.

01:17:46When I found out

01:17:48that I had COVID-19,

01:17:50everyone said that

01:17:52I should come out.

01:17:54Faizan's brother

01:17:56discussed it with him.

01:17:58I didn't want him

01:18:00to stay with me.

01:18:02He was negative.

01:18:04I was positive.

01:18:06He said that he won't

01:18:08go out of the room.

01:18:10He said that he will get COVID-19

01:18:12even if he doesn't get it.

01:18:14I said that COVID-19 is a bad condition.

01:18:16I was pregnant for 6 months.

01:18:18I couldn't take any medicine.

01:18:20It was the worst time.

01:18:22I couldn't take medicine.

01:18:24My body ached.

01:18:26Faizan said that

01:18:28he won't go out of the room.

01:18:30This is a part of the relationship.

01:18:32Faizan got COVID-19

01:18:34after a week.

01:18:36It happened after 5-6 days.

01:18:38We didn't get COVID-19 before that.

01:18:40We checked it.

01:18:42It was confirmed.

01:18:44I was quarantined.

01:18:46Faizan was quarantined.

01:18:48We were quarantined for 24 days.

01:18:50Faizan made sure that I won't

01:18:52get COVID-19.

01:18:54Are you sure you want to stay inside?

01:18:56I would assume that you are positive as well.

01:18:58He didn't leave me.

01:19:00He didn't leave me.

01:19:02He was inside with me.

01:19:04I got sick on the 5th day.

01:19:06You must have felt better.

01:19:08Yes.

01:19:10I came here.

01:19:12I heard two stories.

01:19:14As you said that life is a graph.

01:19:16When I came here,

01:19:18I saw that

01:19:20our profession is

01:19:22a jobless profession.

01:19:24I saw the condition

01:19:26of our senior actors.

01:19:28They are in a very bad condition.

01:19:30They didn't save when it was peak.

01:19:32I noticed this at that time.

01:19:34I told them that they have to save.

01:19:36When you are getting a job,

01:19:38you have to save.

01:19:40I took this thought and left.

01:19:42Then I got married and saved.

01:19:44Then COVID-19 came.

01:19:46Then COVID-19 came.

01:19:48When COVID-19 came,

01:19:50there was no work in COVID-19.

01:19:52We had to leave the house.

01:19:54We used to pray for COVID-19.

01:19:56We used to pray that everything will be fine.

01:19:58But nothing happened.

01:20:00The savings got over.

01:20:02At one point,

01:20:04we had to sell our car as well.

01:20:06We had to sell our car as well.

01:20:08We had to sell our car as well.

01:20:10We had to sell our car.

01:20:12We didn't have a car for a long time.

01:20:14We didn't have a car.

01:20:16We bought a car like you.

01:20:18What did you do as a spouse?

01:20:22I saw many women.

01:20:24Most of the women leave their parents' house.

01:20:26Most of the women leave their parents' house.

01:20:28When you get a job,

01:20:30call me.

01:20:32But we didn't leave each other.

01:20:34Many things were wrong for me as well.

01:20:38We don't have a perfect life.

01:20:42She didn't leave me at that time.

01:20:44Neither she didn't leave me.

01:20:46If you want to live with someone, you have to pay up and down for such a small thing.

01:20:50Then there was a surgery.

01:20:52It happened in Covid.

01:20:54It happened when the surgery was done.

01:20:56There were so many financial problems in Covid.

01:21:00Then when the surgery was done,

01:21:02he was the only person to earn.

01:21:04What to do?

01:21:06Then there was a lot in that too.

01:21:08But thank God for the kids.

01:21:10Like you said, we didn't let the kids struggle.

01:21:12We didn't even tell the kids.

01:21:14We are small now.

01:21:16But so many of them know.

01:21:18Even if they go to buy toys,

01:21:20I buy my own clothes.

01:21:22I don't wear toys.

01:21:24I buy clothes for them.

01:21:26Now Ayesha mama doesn't have money.

01:21:28Yes, mama.

01:21:30Then when daddy will give, we will buy again.

01:21:32I mean, such a small child.

01:21:34There should be a feeling in the children.

01:21:36He knows that onions and tomatoes didn't come today.

01:21:38The stove is not cooked.

01:21:40There is a problem.

01:21:42Whatever you do for your children,

01:21:44this is also a tip.

01:21:46Bless your children.

01:21:48After you, we will say goodbye.

01:21:50The conclusion is that

01:21:52everyone in the entertainment industry

01:21:54should have been born in rich families.

01:21:56Their parents should have been rich.

01:21:58They should have bungalows.

01:22:00So this time is not difficult for them.

01:22:02So we were not born with our choice.

01:22:04But okay.

01:22:06Thank you, God.

01:22:08The conclusion is that

01:22:10In today's world,

01:22:12whether it is a girl or a boy,

01:22:14every person in the family should

01:22:16do something.

01:22:18Relationship is also good.

01:22:20Because there is nothing useless in the mind.

01:22:22In your mind, it is that I have to do this.

01:22:24Because now is not the time

01:22:26that one person is ten members of the family.

01:22:28Normally there are only ten members.

01:22:30I was expecting that Kaisar bhai will say

01:22:32that husband and wife are two wheels of the car.

01:22:34There is an example of a car in it.

01:22:36If one wheel doesn't sit, there will be a problem.

01:22:38This car is very big.

01:22:40I am a small man.

01:22:42Is this a wheel of a tractor or a wheel of a cycle?

01:22:44I am a small man.

01:22:46Last week we were making a paper

01:22:48that let's start saving.

01:22:50Because other things, expensive things,

01:22:52everything is happening.

01:22:54There is a bell.

01:22:56Sister, your order has come.

01:22:58What are you doing?

01:23:00I will save here and there.

01:23:02You are ordering something there.

01:23:04My time is not saved.

01:23:06Thank you.

01:23:08With your experiences,

01:23:10many couples

01:23:12must have solved their problems.

01:23:14There are people who don't tell.

01:23:16It feels strange to ask.

01:23:18How to ask someone?

01:23:20So many things

01:23:22must have been understood.

01:23:24If you have understood, then apply it in life.

01:23:26Because you make your life quality

01:23:28bad and good.

01:23:30Remember this.

01:23:32Good morning Pakistan.

01:23:34Good morning.

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Good Morning Pakistan | Positive relationships: parents & children | 26 June 2024 | ARY Digital

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