Virgin Island - Season 1 Episode 2
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00:0012 virgins have traveled to a paradise island to take part in a unique experiment the word
00:14virgin people see it as a joke it's quite upsetting i'm 23 still a virgin i feel like
00:22there's something wrong with me in a world where sex is everywhere my god terrified
00:29absolutely terrified the truth is surprising there are more adult virgins than ever being a young
00:36adult in this day and age it's difficult social media dating apps influences tv shows porn porn porn
00:44porn is everywhere are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other now yeah this
00:51radical retreat is offering a very hands-on solution oh yeah she's a miracle worker woohoo
00:59oh god yes overseen by a group of experts yeah like that i like that ready to do anything to help
01:07britain's virgins there's the clitters do you have any questions lose the one thing
01:16don't make you nervous they feel is holding them back i would love to have sex with you i do feel
01:21like there's a barrier between me and sex i want to lose my virginity it's now or never but when the
01:29moment arrives would you like to move to bed who will be ready i just don't want anyone to touch me to go
01:38all the way in the first phase of the course the virgins tried to overcome the shame of sexual failure
01:56i didn't handle the rejection too well and started to express their sexual desires she pushed me down
02:03and i'd probably do something for her sex i don't know what i'm doing jason arrived on the island barely
02:09able to shake hands oh hello welcome thank you he panicked when things got touchy-feely feel too
02:16intimate a little overwhelming yeah yeah but zach leapt ahead i would like to go all the way i would
02:25love to have sex with you and there were early signs of attraction i uh i think you're really
02:31pretty thank you do you think ben likes me now things are set to escalate with the next phase of the
02:39course erotic touch nothing happens if you're not good at touching that's what creates all of the
02:47pleasure and sensation in our body and that's eventually what gets us to orgasm hello hello hello
03:11how's the sunburn it's the morning of day three on virgin island
03:17have you guys read your letters no okay what is this and time for the group to discover what's
03:23in store for them over the next two days oh god the next phase of the course is all about touch
03:35great i mean i'm fine with like friendly touch but as soon as it becomes like an intimate touch i think
03:42it'll be more much more difficult for me i feel sick biggest fear of touch sexual touching i've never
03:52done it like no that's not me
03:58god touch yeah that's really hard for me
04:01god knows what they have planned i have no idea probably just outright sex to start off with
04:13so this group the idea of intimate touch is terrifying oh here we go here we go but now
04:23it's time to face their fears hello welcome good morning oh my god what are we doing why is there
04:30a bed in this room i imagine all of them will be quite anxious but you can't learn how to give
04:35and receive pleasure by just talking about it you have to practice
04:42so this first exercise today is called touching for your own pleasure
04:47one of the problems is if you touch being worried about the other person and thinking oh are they okay
04:52am i doing it right then you get all performance anxiety in your head until you actually feel the
04:58sensation of touching for your own pleasure you can't get to that next level it's like the first
05:03step right who's ready to touch for your own pleasure
05:19in my childhood with my family we were never huggers i hated being hooked i just never liked it never have
05:25i'm not an intimate person at all in my adult life never kissed anyone but i'd like to be the opposite
05:30i'll pop on there okay the end goal is to actually try and lose my virginity and find a girlfriend
05:38be more intimate can i pull it off can i do this see if you can take a deep breath down into your belly
05:45and connect your body with your hands think of your hands as like i'm gonna get pleasure out of her
05:52arms you know what i mean yeah for yourself i want to feel i'm sorry i want to feel i'm sorry
06:02see if you can breathe a little bit while you do it so that you actually feel the sensations
06:16um
06:21for jason just a few seconds of touch is all he can handle
06:26but celeste isn't finished with him yet when i'm touching you i just want you to see like
06:32let yourself take it yeah just feel it
06:34MUSIC PLAYS
06:47That's good. Yeah. Good work.
06:49APPLAUSE
06:52Good on you, mate, honestly.
06:54Yeah, it was great. One cloud nine.
06:57OK, who's next?
06:59MUSIC PLAYS
07:02Encouraged by Jason's example, the others get touchy too.
07:06Just explore the sensations in your hands.
07:15See if you can take a deep breath down into your belly
07:18and connect your body with your hands.
07:25Did you feel the difference there?
07:27Yes, that was amazing. Good work.
07:30APPLAUSE
07:33The session seems to be going well,
07:35so Celeste and Danielle decide to turn up the heat.
07:38Something that helps touch get even better is sexual energy.
07:43I want to invite Ben and Holly to demonstrate.
07:47Oh, God.
07:4930-year-old Ben is the oldest in the group
07:51and has had more opportunities to get intimate than any of the others.
07:55Over the last ten years, I've been on dates of about 40 different women.
07:59Mostly women I've met on just dating apps.
08:01Some it's just been one date,
08:03up to and including an ex-girlfriend of mine
08:06who was probably about, you know, 15-plus dates.
08:08We did sort of try making it a couple of times,
08:10but I wasn't comfortable doing stuff.
08:12So we hit a brick wall, you know.
08:15What I really needed is someone to teach me this stuff.
08:18I'm not very good with the energy mumbo-jumbo,
08:20so you have to guide me through.
08:22I'll help you, OK?
08:24Just remember a moment that you felt kind of excited about someone
08:28or excited about an experience.
08:30Yeah?
08:31You're holding a lot of tension in your mouth.
08:34Mm-hmm.
08:35Can you, like, open your mouth a little bit?
08:37And then relax it.
08:39Yeah.
08:41It's OK.
08:42Play with it.
08:43You need to play with it.
08:44It's OK.
08:45Let yourself feel it.
08:46Like, oh, here you go.
08:47Did you feel the squiver?
08:49I don't know.
08:50No, OK.
08:51I think it's just lack of experience
08:54and lack of success at reading sort of social signals.
08:57You know, there's probably been occasions
08:58where I probably could have got physical or just kissed,
09:01and they'd have been absolutely fine with it.
09:02In fact, they may have even wanted it,
09:04but I didn't because I can't read the signs.
09:06I don't want a woman to think I'm a creep or that I'm handsy,
09:08because that's just not me.
09:10Just let yourself enjoy Holly.
09:15Fantastic.
09:17You have very sexy energy, right?
09:21Feels good?
09:22OK.
09:23You did it.
09:24See if you want to enjoy.
09:25Good work.
09:26So, Tom, Taylor.
09:33Last up is Taylor,
09:35who, after coming out as bisexual at university,
09:38has always found the idea of intimacy with anyone agonising.
09:43Any time I've had something nearing a sexual experience,
09:45it's been so overwhelmingly negative
09:47that when it comes to it, I freak out and I really don't want to do it,
09:51and I get that feeling in the pit in my stomach that makes me stop.
09:54That's why I'm here, is to, like, try to work out
09:57what it is that's holding me back and how to move forward with it,
10:00because it would be really nice to just be able to have what everyone else has.
10:04So, I'm going to invite you to feel into your desire.
10:09Tom?
10:14Mmm.
10:16This is really good.
10:17Keep it steady.
10:18It's really good.
10:20Really good.
10:21You keep it steady.
10:22I'm going to check what's with her.
10:23OK?
10:24If she can receive it.
10:25Great.
10:26That's great.
10:27Let it, let, I'm going to touch your belly.
10:28OK?
10:29Just to help you out, sweetie.
10:30OK?
10:31Good.
10:32Let it shake.
10:33Let it cry.
10:34You're safe now.
10:35OK?
10:36You know you're safe, but your body forgot.
10:39OK?
10:41Yeah.
10:42So, I'm here.
10:43Despite Danielle's reassurance,
10:45the exercise still proves too much for Taylor.
10:50Yes.
10:51You're doing great, Taylor.
10:52Yeah.
10:53Let it cry.
10:54No, I think that's funny.
10:55Thanks, sweetie.
10:56Can I hug you?
10:57Yes.
10:58You did great.
11:00I'm so proud of you.
11:01Sorry.
11:02It's not a you thing.
11:03It's all I was like.
11:04I'm really proud of you.
11:05OK, thank you.
11:06I'm really proud of you.
11:07Good work.
11:08We love you, Taylor.
11:09I don't know what's wrong with me.
11:11OK.
11:12OK.
11:13Yeah.
11:14I'm proud of you.
11:23For the group, the workshop has thrown up very mixed emotions.
11:27Ted, why was the looking thing so hard for you?
11:30I think as soon as it becomes an intimate sexual thing.
11:34Yeah.
11:35It's shut down.
11:36It sounds ridiculous because we're only looking at each other,
11:38but that's something I clearly need to work on.
11:40I usually run the opposite way if anyone looks at me like that.
11:43But if you're not crying, you're not doing it right.
11:45Louise, did you catch his blanking comment?
11:48Yeah.
11:49I just walked around.
11:52I didn't, do you know what I mean?
11:54I didn't think, OK?
11:55I love that you haven't got a filter.
11:58I feel absolutely fantastic.
12:00I understand now why people like touch.
12:02I'm not just saying that.
12:03Actually, it genuinely does.
12:05I can't really convey how good it feels now.
12:07How did you find the whole thing as a whole?
12:10Quite intense.
12:12Well, I had lots of fun.
12:14Yeah.
12:15When I was doing it, I did feel like...
12:16You'd feel the connection, couldn't you, really?
12:18Yeah.
12:19Yeah, I asked that.
12:20New-age mumbo-jumbo.
12:21Slow nonsense.
12:22I'm quite a logical person.
12:24I mean, it's just a lot of...
12:25Some of that stuff, it just doesn't connect to me.
12:27Do you want me to, like, try it and see if you can feel me?
12:30Yeah, all right.
12:31OK.
12:32Despite his scepticism,
12:33there are some things Ben is open to trying.
12:36Bye!
12:37See you guys a little bit.
12:38Especially if it's with Charlotte.
12:41Are you open to receiving my energy?
12:43Yeah.
12:44See?
12:45You can feel it now.
12:46What does it feel like to you?
12:48The witching.
12:49Yeah.
12:50Many of the women here I find attractive.
12:51I mean, physically.
12:52But there's something about Charlotte.
12:53I really like her.
12:54And it's just...
12:55I like how we connect.
12:56I mean, I don't know if it's mutual or not.
12:57But she's a very confident person.
12:58And she's just got that thing about her.
12:59I feel like I'm doing voyeurism.
13:00Just watching.
13:01You enjoying that?
13:02No.
13:03I walk away, right?
13:04Sorry.
13:05Yeah.
13:06They're jumping in.
13:07They're jumping in.
13:08Horace, you don't know how much respect to have for you right now.
13:09And she's just got that thing about her.
13:12I feel like I'm doing voyeurism, just watching.
13:15You enjoying that?
13:16No.
13:18I walk away, right?
13:23Sorry.
13:24Yeah.
13:34They're jumping in.
13:36Mirage, you don't know how much respect I have for you right now.
13:39Woo!
13:40It's right, you do.
13:45It's day one of the touch phase of the course,
13:48and after an intense morning, a chance for the group to unwind.
13:52Who's your celebrity crush?
13:54I like quite a lot of, like, female celebrities.
13:56I like Charlize Theron.
13:57She's just stunning.
13:59I like Henry Cavill, but not as Superman.
14:01I like him as The Witcher.
14:02I really like Henry Cavill, because he's really nerdy as well.
14:05Mm-hm.
14:06What do you think when you hear virgin?
14:11Because for me, it's like shame, failure, undesirable, weird.
14:18Yeah, it's definitely mostly negative connotations.
14:22Yeah.
14:24I've had people call me a virgin, and it does feel like an insult.
14:27I know it's not.
14:27It's a matter of fact, but it does feel like an insult
14:32when someone says it to you.
14:34It makes me feel weird.
14:35I'm like, a lot of people younger than me
14:37know more about sex than I do, but I'm hoping to change that.
14:42Jason's feelings about his lack of sexual experience haven't gone unnoticed by the experts.
14:50Any time there was an increase in intensity, he would resort to humor.
14:56Mm-hm.
14:57So that he could distract himself from what he was feeling.
14:59We're gonna work on that today, actually staying with the breath as sensations rise.
15:03Yeah, receiving is a huge thing for him.
15:05He's gonna work on that.
15:07Now, the experts want to build Jason's confidence, and Joy has a plan to help him with his horror
15:14of hugging.
15:15Hello again.
15:16Hey.
15:17Come on in.
15:19And have a seat.
15:20Oh, excellent.
15:21Oh.
15:22What is it that happens when you're in a hug?
15:24What do you notice?
15:25It just goes weird.
15:26Like, alien to me.
15:27When I see people hugging, it just freaks me out.
15:28I'm like, oh.
15:29Oh.
15:30What is it that happens when you're in a hug?
15:31What do you notice?
15:32It just goes weird.
15:33Like, alien to me.
15:34It just freaks me out.
15:36I don't know why.
15:37So we want to work towards a hug that feels really good.
15:40Yeah.
15:41Yeah.
15:42So let's stand here because it's a little more even.
15:45Oh.
15:46I'm gonna touch your arm first.
15:48Okay.
15:49Do you want it?
15:50Yeah.
15:51Go ahead.
15:52And you feel me, and you can put your hand on my arm.
15:59Yeah.
16:00If you'd like.
16:01Yeah.
16:02I feel sick.
16:03No, not in a bad way.
16:04I feel like in a good way.
16:05Like, British slang.
16:06Oh, sick.
16:07Oh, yeah.
16:08Sick.
16:09Yeah.
16:10Yeah.
16:11As usual, Jason tries to mask his awkwardness with humour.
16:15Yeah.
16:16I'm quite robotic, I feel like.
16:17But you're moving your hands, but I'm like, yeah.
16:19At first, at first, I just want you to receive.
16:22Okay.
16:23So I can get a sense of what it feels like to be in this moment.
16:26Mm-hmm.
16:27But joy perseveres.
16:28Yeah.
16:29It's really nice.
16:30Before escalating intimacy.
16:32Can I come even closer?
16:33If you want to.
16:34Yeah.
16:35Yeah.
16:36Yeah.
16:37Like, like that.
16:38Yeah, we can move like that by just staying connected with your breath.
16:42Yeah.
16:43Yeah.
16:44So you don't lose that sense of the moment.
16:47Yeah.
16:48Can I come even closer still?
16:49Okay.
16:50Can I get closer?
16:51Yeah.
16:52Okay.
16:53Can I get closer?
16:54Yeah.
16:55Okay.
16:56Can I touch your neck?
16:57Yeah.
16:58Yeah.
16:59Why not?
17:00Yeah, let's do it.
17:01Yeah, let's do it.
17:02Yeah.
17:03Yeah, let's do it.
17:04Yeah.
17:05Okay.
17:07Yeah.
17:08You can touch your neck?
17:09Yeah.
17:14Feels good.
17:15Would you like to do a hug?
17:17Why not?
17:18Let's do it.
17:20Yeah, let's do it.
17:21Yeah.
17:22Yeah.
17:23Yeah.
17:24Yeah.
17:25Yeah.
17:26Yeah, let's do it.
17:27Yeah.
17:28how is this yeah awesome yeah come on yeah
17:42thank you see ya
17:50oh that was great after the session jason's confidence is sky high and that's not the
18:00only thing that's up what happened so i was standing like this because as much as i was
18:06like that i had a bonus i was like that that's really good dude i'm getting there i'm getting
18:13there i'm in a really great mood i feel like i'm glowing i didn't think i'd do this i'm
18:19really proud of myself on this page i'll be a sex god i mean yeah we're gonna leave here
18:24absolutely professionally trained sex demon while jason's conquering new heights i haven't
18:33really gotten much out of mind yet i just feel like i'm letting the team down taylor's still
18:37struggling after crying in this morning's workshop the experts feel there may be more to taylor's
18:43tears then meets the eye even though she was being emotional she wasn't actually letting
18:50go and going into her emotion i feel like she's hiding and that's probably been a survival tactic
18:56that has worked really well for her yeah she is so scared
19:01danielle wants to discover what makes taylor so anxious about intimacy
19:08so how do you feel with guys as opposed to women or girls they're a lot scarier do you ever see
19:19someone very chiseled and you're like i just want to touch that muscle i don't know i don't know i don't
19:24think so i like hair like i'm always like i want to touch people's hair like that interests me because
19:30it's soft but i'm not like i don't want to touch muscle i don't i don't prefer it
19:34when i was in secondary school i felt the shift into realizing that maybe i wasn't exactly the same
19:42as all the girls but being gay was like the worst thing so while i'm still in the process of like
19:48working out what i want all of these opportunities are passing me by it just makes me feel a bit a bit
19:54rubbish
19:54do you have women lovers or i had one really negative experience she got annoyed at me that i wasn't
20:05enjoying myself she did stop but she seemed really disappointed and she was like upset with me
20:09and it kind of ruined that friendship yeah i don't see myself as desirable
20:16right because i am a lot what are you oh now we're getting there my love okay so there's a part of
20:27you that feels that people wouldn't want to be with you yeah yeah i get told a lot the time that i'm
20:36loud and i'm tall and i'm i take up a lot of space and yeah and that's what makes you so special and
20:46beautiful
20:46oh baby
20:51oh sweetie
20:53yeah
20:55your feelings are so great sweetheart
21:00just talking about my experiences always makes me upset but i've had a great few negative experiences
21:10and of course those are the ones i need to talk about for this to work
21:13thank you
21:14yeah
21:15but i've had i've had a breakthrough i think thank you very much bye
21:20i left happier then i went in and forward is always good isn't it so as long as i'm going forward i'm happy
21:31are you nervous no no i mean other than falling off the cliff yes
21:40it's late afternoon on virgin island
21:44jesus yeah this is quite steep and celeste and danielle have hatched a plan to push the group
21:51further all right let's get a mat down we want them to start just getting comfortable with any kind
21:56of touch massage is something that a lot of people have experienced i'm hoping maybe they'll take off
22:01a piece of clothing to start to feel more relaxed around touch and maybe you know eventually nudity
22:07are you taking your cup off or go on i'll like lift it up for you through massage the experts can assess how comfortable
22:14the group are with exposing their bodies
22:18a little bit yeah and touching each other for pleasure
22:24you're very good at this thank you i have my skills all of them end with a z
22:29what did you learn it my family does them we grew up giving each other massages you're shaking a bit
22:37you're sure it's all right no no i'm fine no i'm fine okay i mean i'm actually sure you're like this
22:41relax relax yeah i need to be more loosey-goosey while uptight ben struggles to relax
22:48rock this off the experts are keen for jason to build on his growing confidence around touch
22:54with the island's most outspoken virgin charlotte how's this it's fine yeah it just feels
23:02i don't know weird but in a nice way why do you use these horrible stretch marks i don't know
23:08all right you didn't say horrible did you well it's just it looks painful it looks like you got
23:12you just see my ass it's more on my ass okay
23:15i'm bored now yeah i'm bored now
23:20all right which arm first this one this one yes okay okay why are you focused on one area
23:30you need to see okay you want me to show you no no no no let's go i'll put more oil on
23:36for jason intimacy with another member of the group is proving tougher than with an expert
23:43more thumb more movement you need to be doing the whole like like that how about that like that
23:50like it's all of it jesus christ what are you doing it's like wanking off your arm like that like
23:55that's how you do it what's slower okay now i definitely want you to stop
24:00how's the monsieur oh so did you not like it that was a disaster i looked off my shirt and everything
24:18i was like oh all right fucking nightmare maybe not being berated a lot would have felt nice
24:29i've always hated my body my especially my back and the stretch marks i know it's a little thing
24:36but it's for me it's quite big
24:38although jason's suffering from overexposure to charlotte
24:44it's yours yes basically you've already tried them on ben can't get enough of it
24:51i always find i end up getting very steep in the summer because of the hay fever tablets i take
24:58i'm sorry i always get very steep in the summer because of the hay fever tablets
25:02because they're drowsy ones the big question now is is the feeling mutual
25:08how many songs you can get there anyway oh i have like a i have a thousand and seventy
25:14pretty good yeah
25:15i mean it's so great that we've like gotten to know each other and that we can
25:23you know we feel comfortable around each other but i'm not interested
25:28and so it's going to be tricky you know this is my friend this is someone i'm going to have
25:36breakfast with tomorrow and i'm going to have to be cruel to be kind and tell him that i'm not interested
25:42it's day two of the touch phase and the
26:12the sessions are about to intensify really in order to have amazing sex you need to touch
26:19you won't be able to make any moves you won't be able to seduce someone if you're feeling anxious
26:23and worried that everything that you're doing is wrong a lot of people they're holding back
26:27all of those animal instincts they just need to open up
26:31i think it's one of those things where you've got to just keep on going and try and get yourself to
26:38the next step ideally without crying but we'll see i'm dreading the group activity it's just getting
26:45more intimate with touch i feel nervous after yesterday's massage catastrophe yeah i'm not
26:53sure what would happen next for me um just being desired that's a key thing for me that's one of my
26:57sort of issues is you know being wanted and desired and i don't think i've had that a lot
27:00but um just you know see what happens and uh go with it i guess
27:04it's getting first on the back row yes my plan exactly
27:12so today we're going to go much deeper into touch and work on disinhibition
27:33and that means letting out a little bit more of your wildness a little bit more of your inner
27:37animal oh god we are wired for sex right we're wired to go after it and yet society says shame shame
27:45shame and we just you know and we shut down and the animal game helps people feel the passion and
27:51desire in their body so i know tom that you've taken some acting classes so i'm wondering if you
27:59would be willing to demo with me yeah sure so let's get on our hands and knees i want you to
28:08just to start to feel your senses we close our eyes and we start to feel this animal inside of us and
28:15we let that animal go after the other person actually letting it move letting it out in our body
28:21tom may be finding his wild side
28:41but for the rest of the group
28:45it's too much to bear
28:51that was a lot of fun to be there
29:15it was very jungle book and i was feeling very downton abbey
29:24and i was like it's lovely like they're really enjoying it but also
29:29so someone want to try it
29:38the whole role play animals thing just really like freaks me out yeah yeah yay
29:55okay does someone wanna try it with charlotte
29:58yeah i'll do it amazing
30:05no no no no
30:07you can change your mind
30:12yeah i wouldn't yeah i wouldn't do it
30:14yeah okay
30:15do you want to do it
30:16do you want me to do it
30:17do you want me to do it
30:18okay
30:19do you want me to do it
30:20okay
30:24i've just always felt like i'm ugly and repulsive in some way and i know that objectively i'm not
30:28but i was bullied in school and i think the dating experience sort of just saying reinforce
30:33that i'm just not like good looking why would any girl be interested in me so i struggle to
30:39to sort of initiate uh you know contact or intimacy and find a place on the rug your life is awkward
30:49unfortunately and you simply you know you just move on you know that's that's how that's how it goes
30:54and i'm just not very good at that start to notice that there's another animal here with you
31:01oh
31:15oh
31:26men are expected to make that first move
31:29and i think for guys like me who just struggle with that making the move and reading the signs
31:34it's very hard
31:35ah
31:37ah
31:39ah
31:41shhh
31:43oh
31:47that's my happy heart
31:51this is so hot
31:55did you feel any arousal i'm curious
31:57yeah i think some yeah yes
31:59yes
32:07acting like a zoo animal that was not for me
32:09oh god that was just
32:11it was a bit rough that was cringe
32:13i found interesting then spring that was saying oh you've done drama so you've done this sort of stuff
32:17like i'm not sure i've gone quite that far in drama to be fair
32:21how did you feel a bit at all i flipped our instructor
32:27i noticed like i could hear people like talking and giggling and i was like oh you know
32:31i had to kind of try to block that out
32:33yeah it was like watching a porno
32:35i felt like a proper pervert
32:37were you getting turned on no
32:39i thought you'd be one of the first ones up jason
32:41no i absolutely hated that
32:45in the back of my head i had a bit of trepidation about
32:47a bit of fear about it
32:49so i didn't want to do that
32:51jason's massage experience has set him back and the experts have sense that something's changed
32:57jason he's been so gung-ho and i thought he would be gung-ho today but he was way more reserved
33:03we did in our session uh have very close body on body but he wasn't able to then move the energy into something more sexual
33:13okay so maybe i can build on that yeah
33:17celeste decides jason needs to put his massage fiasco behind him in a one-on-one session to boost his sexual self-belief
33:25the only person if i had sexual experience with was my right hand
33:29i'd love to have more confidence i'd love to be able to be intimate yeah that's my goal
33:34to reach his goal celeste wants to try a different approach to unleash his inner animal
33:41so we had the animal game and the touching we did
33:45yeah seemed like the animal game was not doing it
33:47not my cup of tea no
33:48so i was thinking maybe trying some different connection positions to build confidence
33:53yeah
33:54maybe you like lying down and us like touching each other
33:57i'm here to try new things
33:59try yeah well let's try it so you can lie down like here
34:02on my back or
34:03yeah lie down on your back like with your head down there
34:06i'm gonna like move in here
34:08maybe i'll take off my glasses
34:10see if you can like just connect with your sexy energy and you if you feel an urge to touch back
34:18feel free okay
34:20and there's like a little bit of intensity that we're gonna kind of try to build between us
34:26and you can touch
34:50and you can touch
34:51i can't touch you back
34:52you can
34:56yeah
35:00as his confidence builds
35:02i'm so kind of good
35:04celeste makes things harder
35:08now i want you to see if you can take your energy seriously now and look at me like i wanna fuck you kind of
35:15kind of
35:17okay
35:25i want you to know
35:27oh my god
35:28i want you to know that
35:29oh my god
35:30this is so good
35:31oh my god
35:32this is so good
35:33oh my god
35:35Do you need a little break, or do you need a little break?
35:59Okay.
36:00It's amazing.
36:07A lot different than hugging.
36:10A lot different than hugging.
36:15That is your inner animal.
36:19When you take your desire seriously, it's very compelling.
36:25Whoa.
36:27Whoa.
36:28Okay.
36:29I'll see you soon.
36:30Yeah.
36:31See you soon.
36:32Have a lovely day.
36:33You too.
36:34Bye.
36:37I'm feeling incredible.
36:41Absolutely incredible.
36:42She's a miracle worker.
36:43I was a virgin.
36:44Well, I am a virgin still, but I'm like a different virgin now.
36:47I'm closer to losing her.
36:49Ben.
36:50How did it go?
36:52I kissed her on the cheeks.
36:55You're a cloud nine, are you?
36:57I'm lying down, yeah?
36:58And I'm there, cupping her breasts, squeezing over.
37:01How did that feel?
37:02Great.
37:03I feel like I'm glowing.
37:04I'm like, woo-hoo!
37:05I feel like Jason is a superstar.
37:08I cannot believe how much he has blossomed today.
37:13It is insane.
37:15He brought his sexual energy, eye contact.
37:19He really got what sex is all about.
37:22You don't seem.
37:23Da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da.
37:28We like the top part is a thing.
37:30Oh, yeah.
37:37Oh, it's one banana.
37:38The touch phase of the course is drawing to a close.
37:41Ooh, whipped cream, chocolate.
37:44Oh, strawberry laces.
37:45Do you like strawberry laces?
37:46I do like strawberry laces, yeah.
37:47OK.
37:48And the group have been served up a tasty exercise.
37:51It's a smallish bite, I'm not gonna put it in too much.
37:54There's something very sensual about feeding each other.
37:57You know, the experience of putting food
37:59into someone's mouth, especially if you deal with, like,
38:01a little bit of flirtatiousness.
38:05When you laugh, I know where your face is
38:07and I can slap it.
38:09Technically, this will be the first act of penetration,
38:12so I'm very curious how they put objects inside one another.
38:19Put the whole strawberry in.
38:21Open wide.
38:22I'm not opening my mouth wide.
38:24You can trust me, you can trust me.
38:26Many of the group are throwing themselves in.
38:29You've dropped it, Matt!
38:31Have you ever faced something before?
38:33No. No.
38:34You're the first person.
38:36But not everyone is feeling fruity.
38:38Blech!
38:40I feel like this is probably not the most romantic.
38:43No. No.
38:47So far on the course,
38:49it's Ben and Taylor who are holding back the most.
38:51So the experts want to see if they can help, starting with Ben.
38:56The animal game was really hard for Ben.
38:59When he volunteered to help out Charlotte and she said no,
39:04that she didn't want that, he was very sad.
39:06Yeah. He needs to understand rejection and, like, how you survive that as a man dating women.
39:12After Celeste's breakthrough with Jason, she wants to help Ben find his sexy side.
39:18But spontaneity is not his strong point.
39:21I'm quite a logical person, I like to think things, I like to plan for things.
39:24Probably the best example, and this is going to sound quite sad, but it's true.
39:28I've got a spreadsheet on my PC at home of just, like, every date I've been on.
39:31I see dating in the same way a football manager would see their team.
39:35I like to analyse things and see what I can do better.
39:38So, can Ben Ditchie's spreadsheet approach to sex with some hands-on practice?
39:45I think if you learn how to hold a little bit more flirtatious energy, like...
39:53Yeah.
39:54I'm going to do it now with you for a second, okay, and show you what I mean, like...
39:58I'm really enjoying being here with you.
40:01That's what I would do, to them.
40:03Yeah. So, as you talk to me, just at some point when you're talking,
40:07give me a touch while you're talking.
40:10I mean, this is quite crude, but you are sort of my type, so it's sort of like, yeah.
40:14That's not crude, that's a compliment. Thank you.
40:16I mean, yeah, you're quite attractive, so, I mean, you know.
40:18I usually go for the hair, actually, sometimes.
40:20Yeah?
40:21Yeah, so it's sort of, I sort of do that, and yeah, it's, um...
40:24That's actually my total weakness.
40:26Really?
40:27Yeah, but I like it really, really slow, like...
40:37And I feel, like, very precious.
40:39Yeah.
40:40Yeah.
40:41So, like...
40:42And I think even if you go a little bit slower, so then it feels more, like, sensual.
40:54Mm-hmm.
40:55Mm-hmm.
40:57I do feel tingly when you do that.
41:00Well, maybe I'm better than I thought I was, but, you know, it's not something I have
41:08sort of conscious control over, it's just sort of, you know...
41:11That's what's good about it, is I feel like you're touching me just because you desire me,
41:15and you want to touch me, not like you're thinking about it, and that's hot.
41:19Yeah.
41:21Mm-hmm.
41:22By losing himself in the moment, Ben's gaining a flair for the physical.
41:27If you just want to, like, come in and, like, kiss me on the cheek, you don't have to.
41:31Mm-hmm.
41:32But you can.
41:33Yeah.
41:34Mm-hmm.
41:35Oh, my goodness.
41:39What?
41:40Look at you.
41:42Mm-hmm.
41:45Makes me want to touch you back.
41:47Mm-hmm.
41:50You don't realise how much of a confidence booster this is.
42:03So now I'm doing it good.
42:05It's really great.
42:07You're getting better every time.
42:11Mm.
42:16It's baby steps, but Ben's session has been
42:20a success.
42:22Now the experts want to get to the bottom of what's troubling Taylor.
42:27The furthest I've ever gone with a boy is met a nice guy.
42:33He was very attractive and very lovely.
42:35I invited him back, and I was like, right, you can do this.
42:38I had convinced myself I was going to lose my virginity.
42:42But I freaked out.
42:43I hit that invisible barrier.
42:44And I was just like, nope, I can't do it.
42:46That's it.
42:47I can.
42:48And he left.
42:49And then I just felt so bad and disappointed in myself
42:51and, like, I'd let him down because I couldn't follow through.
42:55To clarify her thinking, the experts want to pair her
43:00with male surrogate partner therapist Andre.
43:05So my role in this is to basically stand in as what could be
43:10a potential partner or a potential lover.
43:14And I'm here to support you through the emotion,
43:17the communication, transparency.
43:19Surrogate partners helped by forming a therapeutic relationship,
43:23supported by a clinical therapist.
43:25I will leave the two of you to enjoy your time together.
43:29All right?
43:30Thank you very much.
43:31I'll see you soon.
43:32Take care.
43:42I'm scared.
43:44You sorry?
43:45It's OK.
43:46I've got a lot of emotions about this whole thing and...
43:49they're kind of trickling into everything.
43:51There's nothing to be sorry about in displaying emotion.
43:57So...
43:58what could potentially be, like, a desired, like, goal or outcome?
44:03Less of this.
44:04OK.
44:05Then we're on the right track.
44:06Step on less of this.
44:08And just feeling more comfortable, like, in a situation where...
44:12I feel like any time it comes to a situation, sorry,
44:15where, like, sex is on the table,
44:18I freeze up and I panic.
44:20Mm-hmm.
44:21I just don't want anyone to touch me or anything like that
44:23because I just feel wrong.
44:26Mm-hmm.
44:27OK.
44:28Well, that is exactly why I'm here,
44:31and we can practise with one another.
44:38We can explore the things that you came here to explore.
44:42Oh, God.
44:50Just want to see how you're feeling.
44:53It feels like there's, like, a knot in my throat.
44:56So it's generally, like, uncomfortable kind of a feeling.
45:00OK.
45:02Is there anything I can provide for you?
45:04Would you like a hug?
45:05No, thank you.
45:07OK.
45:13The therapy that was explained to me terrifies me
45:15down to the very depths of my cot.
45:17Well, if you'd like, you're welcome to head on out
45:20whenever you're ready.
45:21OK, thank you very much.
45:22You're very welcome.
45:23I don't know if I've made any actual photographs,
45:25because I just kind of get a bit weepy.
45:29I really liked Andre, and he was really lovely,
45:31and I'd love to be his friend.
45:32But I'm trying to work out why I'm so panicked.
45:36I think it scares me, the fact that he's a man.
45:45Sorry.
45:47I just have one minute.
45:53I think I'm upset about more things than I've got on.
46:00Next time...
46:01Ah!
46:02..Jason gets back in the groove.
46:04I just feel the pleasure.
46:06I've got a bone.
46:08..Taylor tries a fresh approach.
46:10I just feel such a relief to not feel scared at all.
46:13This is my body.
46:15And Emma reveals a secret.
46:17It's because you're so stronger than you think
46:19and wiser than you know.
46:21As Ireland dates...
46:23Does that make you nervous?
46:24A little bit.
46:25..Hotter.
46:27..
46:37..
46:39..
46:41..
46:51..
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