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00:00Namaste Acharya Ji. Words like situationship have become common in today's relationships.
00:05Prakrit is an endless network of cause and effect. You look at an effect you can never pinpoint what the cause is.
00:13They say that when a butterfly flaps its wings in America, it is possible that a volcano can erupt in Japan.
00:20That's the principle of the tipping point.
00:23I did not come on my own account. I did not come on my own volition, did I?
00:28Just as I came by chance, I will disappear by chance.
00:34Now do you see the meaning? Don't take it seriously.
00:38The very existence of the two here is a demonstration of two-ness.
00:43It's just that that's the way the winds are blowing.
00:47Rukhavao ka jidhar hai, udhar ke hum hai.
00:51So peaceful, situationally.
00:53Oh you are absolutely great, situationally.
00:56Just add this to everything.
00:58I love you. You are a bastard.
01:00I can give my life for you.
01:02Situationally.
01:04And then nothing hurts you.
01:06Because you know it was anyway.
01:08Situational.
01:10Namaste Acharya Ji.
01:14Words like situationship have become common in today's relationships.
01:19In this, people are close to each other, but without any commitment.
01:23This sometimes seems very attractive, but such relationships have no depth or any stability.
01:28Can such relationships satisfy a person?
01:32Please help me understand.
01:33Anything is situationship.
01:38What is not situational?
01:40You see there are two kinds of relationships.
01:46One that are situational and are accepted as situational.
01:59For example, the fellow on the seat next to you on a bus.
02:08There you are able to neatly accept that the relationship is just situational.
02:19I am 36A and he is 36B.
02:22So sitting next to me, that's fine.
02:24And then there are situational relationships that are taken as volitional.
02:30So there are SS relationships where the relationship is situational.
02:35And seen as situational.
02:3736A, 36B.
02:40And then there are SV relationships where it is situational.
02:45But it is named, labeled or tagged as volitional.
02:49Volitional means?
02:50By choice.
02:51By choice.
02:52I decided.
02:53My discretion.
02:54My wisdom.
02:55For example, a love affair.
02:59I chose him or her.
03:06Every damn relationship is just a product of situations.
03:13Nothing else.
03:16Nothing else at all.
03:20A great patriot, he died for the flag.
03:29You were born two inches to this side of the border.
03:35And had your parents taken another eager turn.
03:44You would have been an equal patriot.
03:47But devoted to the other flag.
03:50You would not accept that.
03:51You would say, no, no, no.
03:52My heart beats for my particular flag.
03:53Sir, it is a situational thing.
03:54Sanyog.
03:55Nothing more than that.
03:56Everything is situational.
03:57There is nothing beyond situations.
03:58And wonderfully, when you see that everything is situational.
03:59Then you move to a point that is beyond situations.
04:00Things will always be situational.
04:01You can move beyond situations.
04:06Even if you try your best.
04:07Whatever you have.
04:08Whatever you have.
04:09There is nothing beyond situations.
04:10There is nothing beyond situations.
04:11There is nothing beyond situations.
04:12And wonderfully, when you see that everything is situational.
04:16Then you move to a point that is beyond situations.
04:21Things will always be situational.
04:25You can move beyond situations.
04:28Even if you try your best.
04:33Whatever you have.
04:36Is a gift or product of situations.
04:39Full stop.
04:40Don't quarrel or argue with that.
04:43You will not win.
04:45Your body itself in the first place is situational.
04:50And we have so many jokes around that.
04:56No?
04:57The condom factory received 2,000 pics of babies.
05:04Wonderful pics.
05:05Lovely babies.
05:06And they were shown to the GM.
05:11And the GM asked what are these?
05:14They said customer complaints.
05:16Those babies will never know that they are just situational.
05:28Customer complaints.
05:30Somebody slept on the job.
05:33The condoms were defective.
05:35From there came the babies.
05:37And the baby will say look at me.
05:43I am such a fine product of God.
05:47I was dispatched straight from the heavens.
05:50Sir, there was some leakage somewhere.
05:56Nothing more than that.
05:58Your entire existence.
06:06Or your father was extra drunk that night.
06:08He forgot to pull out in time.
06:10That's all.
06:12And you call yourself
06:15some kind of divine miracle embossed in dignity.
06:19Hello?
06:20Each of us is like that.
06:25It's all situational.
06:29Your gender,
06:30the colour of your skin,
06:32your ethnicity,
06:33your beliefs.
06:34In fact,
06:39studies are more and more saying
06:42that it's not just about survival of the fittest.
06:45There is also the element of randomness factored in.
06:49evolution.
06:52Evolution is not altogether logical.
06:58There is also
07:00a probabilistic element into it.
07:04This could have happened.
07:05That could have happened.
07:07Both had a certain probability.
07:10A non-zero probability.
07:11And somehow this happened.
07:14Even if the probability of this was
07:16lower.
07:17But it happened.
07:19Now this you cannot even call as
07:21the survival of the fittest
07:22or the survival of the greatest probability.
07:29Because when you look at
07:31a lot of species,
07:33in terms of evolution,
07:35they are not very fit.
07:38And compared to certain other related species,
07:41species related to...
07:42those species that were relatively fitter,
07:48they have gone extinct.
07:51And these ones,
07:52they still survive.
07:53How is it happening?
07:55Surely there is a certain
07:57randomness too involved in it.
07:59It's all situational.
08:01You never know why it is happening.
08:02Indian philosophy calls it as
08:08mere Saiyog.
08:09Saiyog.
08:14Nadi Nao Saiyog.
08:15All kinds of Saiyog.
08:16All kinds of Saiyog.
08:21It is not knowable.
08:25Prakriti is
08:28an endless network
08:31of cause and effect.
08:34You look at an effect,
08:35you can never pinpoint
08:37what the cause is.
08:38Because the causes themselves are
08:41are infinite.
08:42And it is not a
08:43straight chain of causes.
08:47It is at least
08:48a two dimensional network of causes.
08:51Not a straight chain.
08:53This cause...
08:55Everything is affecting something else.
09:00They say that
09:01when a butterfly flaps its wings
09:04in America,
09:05it is possible that
09:06a volcano can erupt in Japan.
09:10That's the principle
09:12of the tipping point.
09:15Things could have reached
09:16such a final state
09:19that the final straw
09:20on the camel's back suffices.
09:24And you feel as if
09:26one particular straw
09:27has led to the avalanche.
09:29No.
09:33The thing had reached
09:34a particular point.
09:37And you never knew
09:39what would be
09:40the precipitating factor.
09:42It's all situational.
09:44You never knew
09:45when the precipitation
09:46would come.
09:47It's situational.
09:53Are you getting it?
09:54the wise person
09:57the wise person
09:59accepts everything
10:01as random.
10:05And stands with folded hands
10:07in front of Prakriti.
10:10Does not identify,
10:11does not
10:15take himself
10:16to be the cause.
10:19It's happening in a stream.
10:21I cannot be the cause of that.
10:24When I am myself
10:25an effect of something
10:26how can I be the primary cause?
10:33And there is no primary cause.
10:35It's all a flow.
10:39Everything is just situational.
10:41That does not mean
10:42that you lose respect
10:43for everything
10:44and drop it.
10:45That does not mean
10:46that sitting here
10:47you start texting to someone
10:48you know,
10:49I just came to discover
10:51we are in a situation ship
10:52rather than a relationship.
10:54So I think
10:55we should move on.
10:57That's not what we are saying.
10:59We are saying
11:01even your body
11:02is situational
11:03how can you break up then?
11:05Can you break up with your body?
11:07No.
11:11Just realise
11:14that
11:16there are
11:17things
11:18and there are only things
11:20and things have their own flow.
11:22and when you realise this
11:27then you stand at a point
11:29above all things
11:30and that is liberation.
11:36There is no
11:38sense
11:40in categorising
11:42as
11:43situationship
11:44versus relationship.
11:46There is nothing called as relationship.
11:48Everything is situationship.
11:49just
11:57saying
11:58relationship is sufficient.
11:59Relationship itself
12:00is a synonym of
12:02situationship.
12:05So fine.
12:06Make peace with that.
12:08Yes, it is situational.
12:10Obviously.
12:16The train got late.
12:17And it was raining.
12:24And the workers in the electricity department
12:27were on a strike.
12:31And it was midnight.
12:33The train got late.
12:37And so I came out.
12:38And she came out.
12:40And she came out.
12:44And I asked her,
12:46where are you going?
12:48And she said something.
12:50And I said, right.
12:52Let's share a ride.
12:56And from that ensued an entire
12:58dynasty.
12:59Jhunnu 1, Jhunnu 2, Jhunnu 3, Jhunnu 4.
13:11Just as you have in dynasties.
13:15Did you plan out
13:17that strike in the electricity department?
13:20Had it not been so dark,
13:22she wouldn't have agreed to share the ride.
13:29Did you conspire with the railways?
13:32To delay the arrival of the train?
13:34The train was supposed to reach at 7 pm.
13:38Had it reached at 7 pm,
13:40she wouldn't have needed to share the ride with you.
13:48Do you wield some special influence with the rain god?
13:51Had it not started raining,
13:54she would again not have agreed to share the ride with you.
13:57But then you share the ride.
13:59And there are potholes.
14:01Did you dig them?
14:03One particular pothole.
14:05She jumps up and falls in your lap.
14:13Everything is situational.
14:15But then you say, you know my great love for you.
14:17What love for you?
14:18Electricity department.
14:20Pothole.
14:24Municipality.
14:25Electricity.
14:26Railways.
14:28Roads.
14:32And that drunkard.
14:35The autowalla.
14:37That particular night,
14:39he had a tiff with his wife.
14:41And was driving like this.
14:46Repeatedly she kept falling on you.
14:50And then you say, you know,
14:52our great love affair.
14:54You are not the doer at all.
14:57There are just so many causes.
15:00Just so many causes.
15:05Even the hormones inside the body,
15:08vary on a daily basis, a weekly basis, a monthly basis.
15:12Not just inside the woman, also inside the man.
15:14Surely it was just a matter of probability that the two of you were at the peak of your hormonal cycle.
15:25So both of you got excited.
15:27Had the bodily cycles also not matched, there would have been no confluence.
15:34But then you say, my great love affair, there is nothing great in it.
15:47Board examinations.
15:50You go to some other centre.
15:52Right?
15:53Your name is Keshav, her name is Kamini.
15:59She is sitting in front of you.
16:01You are forced to smell her all the time.
16:04One month of board examinations.
16:07Just because your name
16:11in the roaster comes after her name, what can you do?
16:14Had somebody in his mindlessness not named you Keshav?
16:20Think of the real Keshav.
16:24Would you have ever been in physical proximity of Kamini?
16:31Now K-A and K-E and K-E is sitting behind K-A and smelling...
16:38And she happened to use the shampoo gifted to her by her ex-boyfriend.
16:46Just that K-E does not know that K-A is using
16:51the shampoo that the ex-boyfriend stole from his ex-girlfriend
16:57to give to Kamini.
16:59She is now happily using that shampoo.
17:02And this fellow is getting totally hot.
17:05And from there something happens.
17:10It is insulting to accept this, no?
17:15But that's the way it is.
17:26You are about to tick something in your entrance exam paper.
17:31Last minute.
17:34Some random fly comes and lands on your nose.
17:39And you get busy with the fly.
17:41And instead of marking option D, you mark option C.
17:45So your rank falls by 10.
17:50So instead of getting electrical, you get mechanical.
17:53I mean department.
17:57Dirty minds.
17:59That's what happens.
18:03For loss of two marks, it is very probable that your rank falls by 100.
18:08And because you get mechanical department,
18:13so you get into an altogether stream of career, different stream of career, no?
18:20And why did that happen?
18:22That random fly came and sat on your nose.
18:25Instead of working in a power grid, you are working somewhere else.
18:34Well, please think, how much your career is decided just by the rank that you get in a particular examination.
18:47And that rank is decided by so many random factors.
18:50It's all very situational, though it hurts us to accept that.
18:58When you see that it's all situational, then you do not feel it very important to be attached with anything.
19:07Because anything came to me just by chance.
19:10Therefore, what obligation do I have to stay committed to it?
19:16You cannot remain committed to things of chance.
19:23Can you?
19:25Son, you are a mechanical engineer.
19:28You must work only in the mechanical industry.
19:31What mechanical engineer?
19:33That fly?
19:34Had there been an entire swarm of them,
19:41maybe I could have become a computer engineer.
19:46Mark this, mark this and get rid of them.
19:49Randomly it happens that all the answers are right.
19:52So, you get an even better rank and you become a computer engineer.
19:56What commitment?
19:58Commitment to randomness.
19:59The problem with us is,
20:03we take random things as essential.
20:09And because you take random things as essential,
20:12therefore you have no respect for what is actually essential.
20:29Your body is not essential.
20:32Your thoughts are not essential.
20:34They are all coming from random influences outside of you.
20:42The tastes that you have in clothing, in food, that is not essential.
20:49That is dictated by social factors.
20:53There is no need to give it too much respect.
20:56There is no need to treat it as sacred.
21:00Because it is not sacred.
21:03Only the unchangeable is sacred.
21:06Only the uncaused is sacred.
21:08Random things are not to be taken as sacred.
21:12What is random must be taken lightly.
21:16You don't need to throw it away.
21:18You just need to take it like a joke.
21:21Yes, it is there, fine.
21:23I am not going to cast off my body.
21:27I will just take it like a joke.
21:33I do have food choices.
21:36But I will not initiate World War 3 to defend my taste buds.
21:44I will be cool about all that.
21:46Fine, I understand.
21:48You are born in Mexico.
21:50You have a particular taste in food.
21:56You are coming from Arabia.
21:58You have a particular sartorial choice.
22:01That looks pretty odd to me.
22:03But still, I know it's a random thing.
22:11Then you do not fight over things of chance.
22:16One fellow prays and worships in a particular way.
22:23Did he invent that?
22:25It's coming to him by?
22:27The other fellow prays and worships in a different way.
22:31The moment they see that both of these things are just situational, they will stop fighting.
22:34Then neither you invented that nor did I.
22:42What do we have to do with these things that have just randomly come to us?
22:50That lightness is the gift of spirituality.
22:52Nothing makes you heavy because nothing is too important.
22:59You can joke about anything now and you need not take anything too seriously.
23:06Everything is situational.
23:08How to take it too seriously?
23:09One day just randomly you came to me.
23:16One day just randomly you went away.
23:20Either because you thought to go away or because death took you away.
23:25That's fine.
23:26One day you came to me.
23:27One day you went away.
23:29That's fine.
23:30Now even your own death does not matter too much to you.
23:40I did not come on my own account.
23:43I did not come on my own volition, did I?
23:46Just as I came by chance.
23:49I will disappear by chance.
23:52Anybody here who decided on his appearance?
23:55Then why are you so concerned about your death?
24:00Randomly you came, randomly you go.
24:03Fine.
24:07Are you getting it?
24:09It's all situational.
24:11Don't take it seriously.
24:15Getting it?
24:16Nishtragunnyobhava Arjun.
24:25Now do you see the meaning?
24:27Don't take it seriously.
24:34Do you see the ramifications?
24:37You stop respecting a lot of authority.
24:43You know the fellow is there.
24:46Mostly because situations put him there.
24:51Another time, another age, another situation.
24:54The fellow wouldn't have been there.
24:56Not at all.
24:58How do I respect him?
25:01There is nothing that he achieved.
25:03There is nothing there of his own.
25:09That which is your own is called the ultimate truth in Vedanta, Atma.
25:14Mine.
25:15Prakrati is that which is not yours really.
25:25There can be a great statue of the highest deity.
25:30And some speck of dust can come flying randomly in the wind and get placed on the forehead of the deity.
25:46Is it not possible?
25:48It happens all the time.
25:49You go and wipe the deity's forehead and there will be dust there.
25:54Do you start respecting the dust?
25:57Just randomly it happened that you got into a high place.
26:01I will not consider you some kind of authority.
26:04It's a matter of chance.
26:08And chance is chance.
26:11Nothing sacred.
26:13Nothing to be worshipped.
26:15Similarly, most people who are at high places,
26:18they are like the speck of dust resting on the forehead of the deity.
26:22Not to be taken seriously.
26:27You also see the vice versa.
26:31Just because somebody appears to be at the low end of life,
26:40the ebb, that does not mean the fellow is unworthy.
26:50Another time, another place,
26:53favourable situations, he would have been somewhere else.
26:56So, the wise man does not evaluate a person by his social standing.
27:03What does he look for?
27:10He looks for the essential.
27:13Does this person value the essential?
27:17If that person values the essential, then he is valuable.
27:21I will not value you for your designation,
27:26your power, your pelf, your reputation,
27:29because all of these are situational.
27:33What will I value in you?
27:36The essential.
27:37If you respect the essential, then I respect you.
27:42Otherwise, you might be the president of the world.
27:45I don't care.
27:46I don't care.
27:48Chance has put you there.
27:49Otherwise, you are nobody.
27:50They say, if you give enough monkeys, enough computers,
28:02one of them will come up with all the works of Shakespeare.
28:07It's just about having enough numbers.
28:12Billions of monkeys, billions of systems,
28:15and they will randomly start keying in.
28:19And just by chance, you will find,
28:20because there are going to be so many chances,
28:24that one of them will be a favourable chance.
28:27You will say, this one is Shakespeare.
28:30We are not going to respect randomness.
28:32I always say, measure a man by the odds he is rising against.
28:53The name of the odds is Prakriti.
28:55The measure of a man is the quality of his engagement with Prakriti.
29:08Not where his situations have taken him,
29:11but what he has done with his situations.
29:16His relationship with his situations.
29:21And that is more difficult to assess.
29:23Therefore, we often falter in our assessment of people.
29:30We want to see where they have reached.
29:34We do not see how they are relating with their conditions.
29:39That's what you must look at.
29:41But to look at that in others,
29:45you must first be able to look at that in yourself.
29:49How am I relating to my situations?
29:54If you take situations too seriously,
29:58you are, as they say,
30:05ignoramuses, one of them.
30:11Just a common ignorant fellow.
30:15Your bank balance shows one billion and you are so full of yourself.
30:28And suddenly it shows nothing and you are punctured, fully deflated.
30:37Situations are ruling you.
30:40Most people are like that.
30:43Don't be like that.
30:51Classically it is called Samta.
30:53Irrespective of the situation,
30:56I am myself.
30:57Samta.
30:58A lot of this peaceful experience that you have is also just
31:05situational.
31:06So don't take it seriously.
31:08You are not so peaceful.
31:11And that will show up
31:13as soon as these two doors open.
31:15This is my way and this is your way.
31:21As long as this little hall, this little sabhagar will continue to have two rooms,
31:27there will be separation.
31:29Two doors, there will be separation.
31:31Because we are one while we are here.
31:33Then I go my way and you go your way.
31:35The very existence of the two here is a demonstration of two-ness.
31:48You have chosen to have a separate life.
31:53So don't take this piece too.
31:56Because even your choice is situational.
32:00You have not even chosen to have a separate life.
32:02It's just that the,
32:06that's the way the winds are blowing.
32:11Rukh hawaon ka jidhar hai,
32:13udhar ke hum hai.
32:24So peaceful.
32:26Situationally.
32:28Oh you are absolutely great.
32:29Situationally.
32:32Just add this to everything.
32:34I love you.
32:38You are a bastard.
32:40I can give my life for you.
32:54Situationally.
32:56And then nothing hurts you because you know it was anyway.
33:03Situational.
33:08Then you don't bank on the promises because you know that all promises are?
33:12Situational.
33:14Only fools who hope that the promises will be kept.
33:17No promises can ever be kept because all promises are situational.
33:28That's why the wise ones don't bank on promises, they bank on love.
33:33And as I am fond of saying, in love there can be no promises.
33:37Tooочьification.
33:41Four lives on what?
33:42Maybe no one will claim anything.
33:52You are f委.
33:55long there can be no promises.
33:57My love is insecure.
33:59There was no promise to live and even움 Wakely.