Therapy Thursday: My Brother Owes Me Big Money!
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00:00which therapist you need therapy thursday now on wild 94.1 i understand therapy
00:04therapy thursday we love it because we get to talk it out uh doc monica came up monica burton
00:12who is our therapist that we tap in when it gets real yeah she came up to the toy drive tower she's
00:16like i still think thursday mornings are my favorite because some of y'all sometimes y'all
00:21choose violets but most of the time y'all trying to give them real yeah advice she also says her
00:26other favorite is mansors by the way mansors is great she likes the way we give it raw all right
00:31all right so um let's see we got uh questions that have come in uh if you want to ask 888-429-0941
00:43please believe we know we're in the midst of that 8 a.m hour so any point i can drop that question
00:50and ask you who you know what i'm supposed to ask you i can't say it because we're in the midst of
00:56right now but you know what the answer needs to be to get the pair of tickets to see janet that's
01:02all i'm saying you're trying your heart is not to say it and chris bridges they'll be they'll be in
01:07orlando april 19th so if you want those tickets keep listening for that question to drop because
01:12it could happen anywhere in the aid all right uh first question uh who got one i got one it came in
01:18out the 941 it says my wife is scared to travel outside of the u.s she doesn't think anywhere in the
01:24world is safe but here we've gone to so many places in the states but i want to travel abroad
01:29and she is so against it the most she'll do is a cruise to the caribbean but won't even get off
01:34the ship i'm tempted to take a solo vacation but i don't want to cause a situation where she'll never
01:40forgive me what should i do you gotta you gotta get her out of her bubble a little bit it's not safe
01:45so many people you're not comfortable but that's okay maybe you can look into i actually know people
01:51that feel this way as well what they do when they travel outside the country because they don't feel
01:55safe is they'll stay at unlike dobby which will go outside of a resort absolutely go in the city
02:01that person feels uncomfortable make sure you try to find a resort that's kind of enclosed
02:06you're not getting the experience but that's not what she wants you could do that i love when our
02:12doctor's in their lab coats one person gives a diagnosis another one says i'm trying to tell
02:16why would you go why would you go to another country and never leave the hotel they have
02:22resorts and you never and never leave you see taken they take you and then they don't your parents
02:27don't know jujitsu and can't don't have a certain set of skills you want to rip off the band-aid real
02:32quick i'm saying to ease her into that's not that's you don't get the experience of this guy wants to
02:38go abroad right if you go to another country and stay in the hotel you might as well have gone to
02:42orlando like i i say listen you can take tours and stuff like that in a resort and then take the
02:48the sanctioned ones don't take the ones that you just met somebody at the airport because i've seen
02:53that in broken down palace they'll keep you in the philippines it sounds like you and his wife are
02:57watching the same movie yes well i i'm just in the grand scheme of things help her over time and then
03:02you'll be able to go into the city without having to be on a tour that ain't never gonna happen i say take
03:07that trip by yourself bro go ahead you're gonna leave your wife she she doesn't want to go that's
03:12really gonna work out she doesn't want to go they've already gone through the states why why are you
03:16gonna miss out on experiences when they kidnap you and you call home your wife is gonna be like i don't
03:22have a certain set of skills i don't know i don't know any of that there are a ton of places that are
03:27much safer than the u.s much safer than we need that list sweden we just don't need to be making it up
03:32like give me a clear list of where it's safer than this is a dangerous place in the grand scheme of
03:36things there's so many guns here there's so much crime here there are a lot of places that those
03:42things don't exist welcome to america i'm an immigrant that's why i i look at i look at myself
03:47as a citizen of the world yes you are yeah yeah you definitely are comfortable with the world uh i
03:52have one gentlemen okay what we got um this is a snap snapchat question uh this person says i found
03:58naked pictures from females on my husband's account he says it's spam is this something that actually
04:04happens do girls send naked photos of themselves to random guys on snapchat and i'm not on snapchat
04:09yes i don't think my husband is or would physically cheat on me but is this spam or cyber cheating i
04:16want to blindly trust my husband but it's been hard when a naked pic from a female pops up on his phone
04:21by the way he deleted the app when i confronted him so now i can't go back and investigate okay well
04:27let me tell you i as somebody who does have snap i've had i've woken up to people that i thought
04:32friend requested me and i'll open it and i'll see all of this nudity like and i'm like yo that's not
04:37it and so i block them because i'm like apparently it's like a spam thing they want you to hit the
04:42link that's in it so then you're now beholden to them or whatever like it's some sort i treat every
04:48hyperlink to somebody treat me like a act of aggression yeah so i don't trust it and especially
04:52if i ain't ask you for something don't you have to be friends with somebody no no they they send stuff
04:58out to like everybody that they feel is in an algorithm if you've ever looked at a pretty girl
05:03they're like oh you and a pretty girl receiving crew so they just lump it out there and you get
05:08i mean i tell i'm tell you every day i get some sort of somebody that's like oh this person wants
05:13to say hi and when you click it i'm like i don't know that person and i just immediately block it
05:17i've had snapchat for a long time i've never gotten just a random person i don't know send me
05:22naked pictures i'm just i'm just gonna put that out there it's it's never i mean but the people who got
05:27pages like cam people not like not like a real person it's never happened okay but also he deleted
05:34snapchat when she wanted to kind of go through it and so they could talk about it so does it sound
05:39like that boy got caught it sounded like he was doing some things i'll just go keep it real okay well
05:46yeah well but it problem solved what snapchat's gone snapchat's gone i don't even snap or chat
05:54no more snappy that's it all right uh all right here's one uh that's family related it says my
06:01brother borrowed money from me and told me that i'd have it back by black friday i'm still missing my
06:09money it's a full rent payment so 2100 and now i'm tight on my shopping and he's ducking me my only
06:18question is because i know i ain't getting it back before christmas do i still buy him a christmas
06:23hell no you pull up yeah you know where he lives you pull up to him and you go that's a brother did
06:29you have coffee this morning yeah you are choosing violence on every question if you you can't let
06:35somebody put you in a situation first of all it was dumb to give anybody the amount of money
06:39family but if it's so much money that you're going to be short on your rent that's crazy but now
06:45you're in this situation and you pull up you pull up forget christmas christmas is canceled he paid
06:50his rent of 2100 right and now this guy is is short you're short on money you pull up what do you
06:56mean you pull up you go to his house okay and you get your money back one way or another
07:01oh wait that's your family yeah i mean we can't kill him we're not gonna kill him that's why i said
07:05what do you mean pull up we gotta pull up you said by any means that's right that usually isn't with a
07:09gun that's what i'm saying take his tv oh my god all right so we're gonna go there and collect in
07:14some sort of way yeah you are collections now but that's a family member you guys are putting too
07:19too much uh the family is on too high of a pedestal where they can't you guys are making
07:26it like they can't do anything wrong find out about it put your hands on like your brother
07:30your grandma i'm gonna find out when you're passing you the gravy at christmas grandma he
07:34owe me two thousand dollars i learned something today do not borrow money from davi what do you
07:39mean i like the fact that grandma gonna look at you and say well sometimes you gotta bust his ass
07:42you have to you have to finish that statement do not borrow money from davi if you do not intend to
07:47pay it right because i'm gonna come through and collect pull up 10 out of 10 times
07:52davi gonna pull up yeah there we go all right that's your answer yeah for real don't borrow
07:59money from me because i'm sending davi to your house hey davi for a percentage can you go pull up
08:04all right we got your shot at come getting to getting that concert coming up and more questions
08:09on the other side hold on everybody is convinced that davi has chose violence today
08:13oh yeah it's true nobody would ask you no questions right unless they want an unadulterated
08:20truth yeah you should call us for all right uh let's see this comes out of the 863 it says forgiveness
08:25is supposed to be something that your people who love you urge you to do it's like everyone my
08:31siblings my parents my friendship group thinks that i should not forgive my girl for going outside
08:37i found out from her being seen having coffee with somebody that she where she was not supposed
08:44to be she was supposed to be somewhere else and was caught things have unraveled very quickly after
08:50that i haven't acted on anything but spent the last week or so not answering any of her communication
08:57is this a forgiveness situation can that be done or am i headed for a lawyer oh man a lawyer oh they're
09:04married yeah oh that's a big problem you really have to decide if this is something you want to
09:08work on and deal with yourself but the fact that everybody else knows in your family that sucks
09:13because they're not going to let that go it's as quickly that's a great point that you bring up
09:17though because they know yeah like eliminate them eliminate yes you have make it about your feelings
09:22make it about how you feel about your wife if your wife is out there chasing something then you got
09:28to have a conversation with her and then decide if you are out like if you can't fix it if you can't get
09:33past it if you can't forgive that she was somewhere she wasn't supposed to be who knows what she was
09:38doing right but let's just assume it was the worst if she was out there and are you willing to have
09:43a conversation with her to get back that's that's what that's what the question because you're the
09:46only person that can answer that can't be your grandma can't be your siblings can't be your family
09:50it's gonna be awkward around christmas it is but if you and her are like listen we gonna work on
09:56this and we locked in and it's just me and you boo then whatever the peanut gallery say
10:00shouldn't matter right yeah we're gonna show up we're gonna show out and we're gonna leave together
10:04because they ain't gonna drive a wedge in between us i still love you girl you messed up but let's go
10:09to the park i think you have to put your detective hat on and dig a little deeper and find out if it
10:14was more than just coffee because i think a lot of people would argue that coffee is is that
10:21necessarily grounds for divorce that might be when you wasn't where you were supposed to be you said you
10:26was supposed to be i understand i understand i understand that but i think a lot of people
10:30could eventually forgive that now did the coffee lead to something else right to something that's
10:35unforgivable that's i i would start there personally i think the coffee's unforgivable really you're
10:40supposed to be at church and you're at the emotional cheating at that point with a man yeah but to get
10:44lawyers involved over a cup of coffee i i think could be seen as an overreaction yeah more legal than
10:49kill him figure out what she did we got a text out the 813 it says i want my baby daddy back
10:54the thing is that he is in a new relationship oh no i want to break them up and get my man back
10:59i am not here asking if i should or shouldn't my mind is made up my question is how should i do it
11:06oh you asked the right one davy chose oh man how should you break uh i wouldn't break one of the
11:16good answers davy go ahead give it to i i guess you you set him up you said you set him up with
11:22like the cup of coffee you know what i'm saying have him get caught doing something that he wasn't
11:27supposed to be doing text all the time if it's you or if it's a friend of yours first you break
11:32him up and then you work on getting him back oh this is so steps to it it's terrible we've never
11:38been asked to be evil okay let's be evil no i mean no we've just been evil on jump okay we've never
11:44been asked to be well if we want to be villains for a second i would try to get him in bed with
11:50you i would try to lure him in try to see if you guys could potentially record uh take you could
11:56take some pictures of said scene a receipt of the hotel whatever you have whatever you need that you
12:01can just text him in the middle of the night call him in the middle of the night that way she feels
12:05uncomfortable he gets caught but you have to make it where he doesn't know it was you so like if you
12:11take him to bed and record it and send her the video now he's gonna know hey you leaked the video
12:16because at the end of the day you want that man back right right step step one is the breakup
12:21yeah get get them broken up somehow and then step two is the lure back the lure okay so you got a
12:28kid with him so there's got to be a birthday a father's day or something that's coming up now
12:33you think we're not okay christmas you walked me into it all right christmas or whatever where you
12:39do something that's overtly kind for this man we talked about giving men their flowers so you give
12:44this man just very platonically you give him a gift something thoughtful so the girl don't suspect
12:52it and then he comes back then you share and say you know what i i wanted to give you know something
12:58to you because of whatever and you know his buttons to push because you didn't push them before
13:02yeah so now you lure him in and y'all get the yeah you get that going on the little mattress mambo
13:08right and now it's easy to peel him after the holiday let him do his holiday business but you
13:13can get him back if you want him back don't want him back fast because now that's messy
13:17plant a seed long game long game play the long game if you really want him back and that'll help out
13:23because the holidays get emotional yeah and everything else and now he's found out he got a little
13:27action right and now you can you know now you now y'all getting a little free with it by jam by
13:32february you're having back yeah february wow february if you play christmas right by february you
13:39have him back now also remember you said you want him back so you're forgiving whatever made him not
13:45your guy because whatever he did before you let yeah she's past that part she's messy yeah she
13:51chose violence and it was the right day don't do this we normally don't but we are at the service of
13:57whoever texts us that's yeah that's how we're gonna get away with it right there if he would
14:01have texted us like yo my crazy baby mama wants me back we would have given him advice right stay
14:06strong my brother keep it in your pants