How to Become an ACTIVE Listener | Part 4
This video explains the last two KEY strategies to improve active listening, and concludes theses series of discussion on the topic 'How to Become an Active Listener'.
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This video explains the last two KEY strategies to improve active listening, and concludes theses series of discussion on the topic 'How to Become an Active Listener'.
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00:00In our last discussion, we explained the first five key strategies to improve active listening.
00:11In today's discussion, we will discuss the last two key strategies to improve active listening.
00:20Remember, the fifth key strategy to improve active listening is Ask Thoughtful Questions.
00:31And what is the reason for asking thoughtful questions?
00:34The reason for asking thoughtful questions is to gain understanding of the message the speaker is trying to deliver
00:43and to eliminate any form of misunderstanding.
00:47But what if the speaker is a slow speaker, or the speaker is too fast in speaking, or the speaker is not saying things that are inspiring to you?
01:02What should you do?
01:04You should apply the sixth key strategy to improve active listening, which is Be patient and present.
01:15When a speaker is speaking, whether the speaker is inspiring or not, whether the speaker is fast or slow,
01:23be patient and present when the speaker is speaking.
01:27You are advised to be comfortable with silence, and do not rush to feel pauses.
01:38It's not easy to practice active listening.
01:42It's not even easy to apply the sixth key strategy of being patient and present.
01:46But do you value your relationship with the speaker?
01:51Do you respect the person who is speaking?
01:56If you value your relationship with the speaker,
02:01give the speaker the respect of waiting for him or her to finish before responding.
02:09Do not interrupt a speaker when a speaker is speaking.
02:14It is the height of disrespect.
02:19There are many cases where a speaker will say something that you do not believe.
02:25Where a speaker will say something that you do not agree with.
02:29What should you do in this situation?
02:31Apply the last but not the least key strategy to improve active listening, which is
02:39Control Emotional Reaction.
02:43If a speaker says something that you do not agree with,
02:47say something that you do not believe,
02:49control your emotional reaction.
02:53Do not react in an aggressive or in a wholesome manner.
02:57One of my colleagues complained that his wife
03:03quarrels with him a lot whenever he says something that his wife does not agree with.
03:11And how does it make him feel?
03:13My friend told me that his wife's attitude makes him feel so discouraged
03:18to engage in any form of conversation with his wife
03:22so that he will avoid quarrel with her.
03:27It is normal for a couple to discuss and to gist.
03:33And when people are discussing,
03:37differences of opinions will arise.
03:40It is normal.
03:43Disagreements can even come up.
03:44It is normal.
03:46So should a couple avoid discussing
03:48in order to avoid quarrel?
03:51They are saying it is no.
03:53It is wrong.
03:53When you discuss,
03:57when differing opinions come,
04:00or differences in ideas and beliefs come up,
04:04you do not react in a wholesome manner.
04:06Rather,
04:08you should respond
04:10in an amicable and gentle manner.
04:14Uncontrolled emotional reaction can hinder communication.
04:23Uncontrolled emotional reaction is a poison to communication.
04:28It can also hinder expression of thoughts
04:31and gradually deteriorates any relationship.
04:36When a speaker says something that you do not agree with and you wish to respond and you want to respond,
04:46respond calmly
04:47instead of reacting in an aggressive or a quarrelsome manner.
04:55We have just discussed the seven key strategies to improve active listening,
05:04which are
05:051. Giving full attention
05:082. Showing that you are listening
05:123. Seeking to understand, not just to respond
05:174. Paraphrasing and reflecting
05:215. Asking thoughtful questions
05:256. Being patient and present
05:287. Controlling emotional reactions
05:35Many relationships have broken as a result of misunderstanding
05:44due to ineffective communication that comes from lack of active listening.
05:52If you have a boss, a friend, a spouse, a sibling that you value your relationship with,
06:027. Make a firm decision
06:06Make a firm resolve to practice active listening
06:10Make a firm decision to apply all these strategies that you have discussed
06:16Do this and you will see how deep your relationship with people will become
06:24My greatest secret of winning people's hearts is active listening
06:32People love me so much and I am proud to say it
06:37What is my secret?
06:40I listen to people
06:42I give them listening ears
06:45I listen to my boss
06:47I listen to my beloved wife
06:49I listen to my sisters
06:51I listen to my brothers
06:52I listen to my friends
06:53And because of this reason, they trust me a lot
06:57They even reveal secrets to me and whenever I am around them, they appreciate my presence
07:07There is no respect that is greater than actively listening to somebody
07:15I repeat, there is no respect that is greater than actively listening to somebody
07:22Practice active listening today
07:27You will surely improve your relationship and communication
07:32Both in a personal and professional setting
07:36Thank you very much
07:38I am Mr. Saproji
07:39Take care and have a blessed day
07:41Bye
07:42Bye