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00:00Oh, watch out!
00:02Oh, .
00:04I wasn't quick enough.
00:05I'm trying not to injure you, for real.
00:06Sorry.
00:07When I proposed to Pamela,
00:09I was not expecting us to still be in the basement
00:12two years later.
00:13However, we are now looking at everything
00:16for what it's going to take to move
00:18and getting married.
00:20Oh, wow.
00:22Seeing myself from head to toe as a bride
00:25is like a shock.
00:27You okay?
00:29Yeah, what the veil looks more like.
00:31It's real!
00:34Babe, today's a big day.
00:36I'm excited.
00:37Aren't you excited?
00:38Yeah.
00:39My good old buddy Ben hooked us up with a wheelchair
00:42and we're going to be here today.
00:44We got a slight problem.
00:46The man's not working.
00:47Right now is not the time.
00:49I think I'm more just frustrated with just the fact
00:51that we can't easily get to places like the average person
00:55just to do the most basic things.
00:59It's a new day.
01:00I'm up early.
01:01Just like the sun, I'll be rising up.
01:02Like the sun, I'll be rising up.
01:04Oh, well.
01:05Midtown is an hour away.
01:08Oh, my God.
01:09Everything's so far away.
01:10Hey, babe.
01:11Hey.
01:12Well, you came at a perfect time.
01:13Mm-hmm.
01:14Mm-hmm.
01:15Mm-hmm.
01:16So, so far, the areas that we are interested in looking at, it's far.
01:20Oh, my God.
01:21Oh, my God.
01:22Oh, my God.
01:23Everything's so far away.
01:24Hey, babe.
01:25Hey.
01:26Well, you came at a perfect time.
01:27Mm-hmm.
01:28Mm-hmm.
01:29Mm-hmm.
01:30So, so far, the areas that we are interested in looking at, it's far.
01:35Oh.
01:36And that means transportation's going to be more expensive.
01:37Oh, really?
01:38The wedding is only two months away.
01:40We really have to get out of here and get serious about moving.
01:42So, I went ahead and set an appointment with a realtor, but the van is still not working.
01:59The transportation that we've been looking into, it's good in regards to they have more availability to pick up two wheelchairs, but then it's pricier.
02:10Right.
02:11We're trying to do all these things that require a lot of money.
02:14Yes.
02:15But then we have to spend a lot of money.
02:18Mm-hmm.
02:19On transportation.
02:20On transportation.
02:22Hello?
02:23Hello, is this Jay?
02:25Yes, this is me.
02:26How are you doing?
02:27Hi, Jay.
02:28I'm here to pick you up and take you to your location.
02:30Okay.
02:31We'll be right there.
02:32Thanks.
02:33I need to relay the time.
02:34I got to change real quick.
02:35All right.
02:36All right, babe.
02:37Please.
02:38You start getting loaded up.
02:39Yeah.
02:40And then I'll go taste my shirt.
02:41Please.
02:42Sorry.
02:43I beg of you.
02:44Sorry.
02:45Babe, you are the slowest.
02:46I'm slow, dang.
02:47I feel like I'm going fast.
02:48The urgency, the lack of urgency is alarming.
02:51The coffee shop men is really cool.
03:06It's owned by a woman who is disabled.
03:09The tables.
03:10The tables.
03:11The tables.
03:12Adjust the height.
03:13Uh-huh.
03:14You can go up and down.
03:15And then the lights in there.
03:17They do it for sensory.
03:18Yeah, for those with sensory issues.
03:20Like me.
03:21Mm-hmm.
03:22Just wish they weren't in the city.
03:24Come on.
03:27What do you want to order?
03:29The ice americano with oat milk, please.
03:33The rent comes to finding an apartment and moving all while planning a wedding.
03:38I mean, we're very ambitious right now, for sure.
03:41Do I have a name for your order?
03:42Jay.
03:43Jay.
03:44Jay-ay.
03:45Saving up for while you're having a lot of medical issues is really difficult.
03:48And also, accessibility is a big issue.
03:51You have to make sure the restroom is even wide enough for a chair to fit in there.
03:56Like, my childhood house wasn't wheelchair accessible.
04:00So, once I got my own apartment and I could be independent, not just, like, getting out
04:05of my home, but also, like, independently go to the bathroom, like, that was, like, wow,
04:09freedom.
04:10Hi.
04:11Hey.
04:12Hi.
04:13Good morning.
04:14Good morning.
04:15Good morning.
04:16Hi.
04:17How are you?
04:18Good.
04:19How are you doing?
04:20I'm great.
04:21Thanks for asking.
04:22Yes, I love your outfit.
04:24I pride myself on knowing how to accommodate people.
04:27But it takes a little greater effort in this because of the disability that is there.
04:33Whether it's a step-less entry or they already have maybe a ramp on the back or something like
04:38that.
04:39So, I'm kind of excited to see what's going to happen here with Jay and Pamela.
04:44So, we're looking for a three-bedroom, two-bed, preferably.
04:47Yes.
04:48Okay.
04:49And our max budget is $1,900.
04:51So, we're anywhere between.
04:52We got a little room.
04:53A little wiggle room.
04:54Yeah, yeah, yeah.
04:55Okay.
04:56Woodstock and Atlanta.
04:57Well, I'm more of a city girl.
04:58He's more of a suburban.
04:59Atlanta.
05:00Woodstock.
05:01Yeah.
05:02Now, tell me why you choose the city.
05:05Because I like more fast-paced.
05:07Okay.
05:08Being close to, like, more entertainment.
05:10Okay.
05:11So, you're not ready to hang it up yet?
05:12No.
05:13No.
05:14Okay.
05:15I still have a little bit of party animal in me.
05:16Okay.
05:17So, why do you choose the suburban yet?
05:18I'm autistic and I don't like a lot of things that have a lot of sensory and, like, overstimulating.
05:24Okay.
05:25Especially, like, noises.
05:26I was diagnosed with autism in 2021.
05:29Because, right here, she noticed some things that really stuck out to her.
05:34He struggled a lot with, like, social interactions.
05:38Um, also, when we would have, like, serious conversations, he would look away a lot.
05:44Um, or his body language made it look like he was a liar.
05:49And I knew he was, like, a really good person.
05:52And I wasn't sure if it had to do because he was the only child and is used to just having it his way.
05:59Or because he's autistic.
06:01And, surprise, he's always been autistic.
06:05No worries.
06:06Is that going to be a deterrent for you?
06:09Yeah, definitely.
06:10And also, like, I just grew up in the suburbs.
06:14Okay.
06:15And I like more of an affluent neighborhood.
06:18I'm a little bougie.
06:19That's okay, baby.
06:20That's okay, baby.
06:21You know, so...
06:22You like what you like.
06:24When I lived in my apartment, you didn't know what an ice tray was.
06:29You were always used to fancy refrigerators.
06:34That's so privileged.
06:35Oh, my gosh.
06:36Yeah, that's how bougie was filtered water and an ice machine.
06:38Oh, my gosh.
06:39And you're like, oh, where's your ice?
06:41And I'm like, breaking the ice cubes and you're like, what the heck?
06:45How do you make it again?
06:46And I'm like, you put water in a tray and then you put it in the freezer.
06:50And then you have to wait until there's ice.
06:53Now, are there any other amenities that are important to you?
06:56Yes.
06:57We have a dog.
06:58Her name is Cheddar.
06:59Okay.
07:00So, like, dog friendly.
07:01Right, right.
07:02Lower countertops.
07:03Right, right.
07:04No carpet.
07:05Right, of course.
07:06Because we both have wheelchairs.
07:07I will make sure that those accommodations are there.
07:10Okay.
07:11I do have a few in mind.
07:13Oh, having the washer and dryer already in our unit.
07:17Okay.
07:18All right.
07:19So, I think that does give us room to...
07:21The entrance, we would appreciate, like, really safety.
07:24Okay.
07:25Like, a coat to get in or something.
07:27Okay.
07:28That's, like, our number one.
07:29Okay.
07:30Got it.
07:31And two bathrooms for ourselves.
07:33Right.
07:34And I love natural lighting.
07:35All right.
07:36So?
07:37I'm Mexican-American.
07:38So, it would be nice if there's, like, some of that culture close by.
07:43Like, if I ever want to make the traditional Mexican meals.
07:47Well, what they are wanting, what they desire, is maybe a little challenging.
07:54But we'll see how that goes.
07:56I like to have success stories across the board.
07:59And I want this to be another success story.
08:01Not just for myself, but of course, for them as well.
08:03So, when do you need to be in your home?
08:07I mean, we are engaged.
08:08Okay.
08:09We're about to tie the knot soon.
08:11And we would like to, you know, be free on our wedding night.
08:16I like how you said, we want to be free on our wedding night.
08:19Free.
08:20You're making him blush.
08:22I've seen, like, stern face, eye roll.
08:25This is the first time I've really seen him blush.
08:27So, when is your wedding day?
08:30It'll be in November.
08:31In November.
08:32Yeah.
08:33Okay.
08:34I think we may be able to find a happy medium here.
08:37So that you can be free.
08:39Yay.
08:40So, let's keep it real.
08:42Oh, here we go.
08:43All right.
08:44I believe in my bones.
08:47Your bones are not reliable right now.
08:49Okay.
08:50Okay.
08:51If I can go from being in the city and being in the suburbs for years, we can try something
08:58different.
08:59I don't think so.
09:01Since we're already here in the city, do you have anything available to look at today?
09:06There is one place that's available today.
09:08If you want to head over there now.
09:10Absolutely.
09:11Yes.
09:12I'm excited.
09:14Perfect.
09:15Thank you so much.
09:16We appreciate you.
09:17No problem.
09:18Thank you so much.
09:19And I will just get confirmation on our showings.
09:20And then, of course, we can meet at the location later.
09:21Yes.
09:22On to the first place.
09:23I'm excited to say yes to the address.
09:24I don't think I've heard of that phrase before.
09:25I've heard, like, say yes to the address, but yes to the address?
09:26Ooh.
09:27That's a good one.
09:28I'm pumped.
09:29Me too.
09:30Me too.
09:32Wake up, restart.
09:33We gotta think of stars.
09:34We gotta think of stars.
09:35Yeah, we cannot get to show the world who we are, uh-huh.
09:38Put your best kids on.
09:39Wear what you like.
09:40Ain't nobody gonna tell you how to live your life.
09:41No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
09:56No, no, no, no.
09:57No, no, no, no.
09:58It's good for your best friends.
09:59No, no, oh, no, no, no, you ain't control.
10:03Oh, wow, there's already stairs up the front.
10:05Yeah.
10:06Hola.
10:06Hey.
10:07Hola.
10:09This one is a three-bedroom.
10:10Too bad.
10:11There have been some renovations made.
10:12However, it's not totally accommodating
10:14as far as accessing the front door.
10:17The accessible entrance is in the back.
10:19Yeah.
10:20And I'm a little bit nervous about this pathway.
10:22I'm not even sure if we're going to be able to go up it.
10:25Yeah, the gravel rocks.
10:27We're going to have to figure out, see what happens.
10:29OK.
10:29All right, well.
10:30I can go first.
10:31Yes.
10:31I'll test it.
10:32Yes, please.
10:32He's the tester.
10:33OK.
10:42It's not bad.
10:43OK.
10:44OK.
10:45Yeah, it's not as bad as I thought.
10:47Yeah, a little rocky, literally.
10:48Yeah.
10:50OK.
10:51Oh, my perch is already.
10:53Oh, it's getting caught.
10:55OK.
10:57Oh, this is cute.
10:58A pro about the backyard.
10:59It's already fenced in, so there's plenty of room
11:01for each other to run around.
11:03I'll go ahead and get the door for you.
11:05No problem.
11:06Actually, I want to try out the door,
11:08because I want to know if I could do it.
11:10OK.
11:10Like, if we could do it.
11:11Sounds good.
11:12Yeah, good idea.
11:12Good idea.
11:18Well, it's not impossible.
11:19Just not ideal.
11:22OK.
11:23This is not great.
11:27I actually don't think I can get it.
11:29This is not going.
11:30This is not going to work.
11:32As I'm trying to go in the house,
11:34I get stuck on the ramp, because there's actually
11:37a little lip before you get inside.
11:40If he backs up, I'm just afraid he's going to, like,
11:43Tip over?
11:43Yes.
11:44If you get stuck in a ramp at a certain point,
11:47because it's too steep, the chair is not really necessarily
11:50meant to go backwards.
11:53If you push it too much, it can fall off the ramp.
11:56So stop right there, Jay.
11:59Wait.
12:00The height is pretty high.
12:02Ooh.
12:02Careful.
12:12OK.
12:12Stop right there, Jay.
12:14If he backs up, I'm just afraid he's going to, like,
12:16tip over.
12:17Yes.
12:18Careful.
12:19If we did fall, you know, it can definitely
12:22cause serious injuries.
12:23This is not going to work.
12:25I actually don't.
12:25OK.
12:27So why don't we have you stop right there, Jay?
12:29OK.
12:29Our bones break easily.
12:33Our skull, obviously, is made out of bones.
12:35So you can also have a skull fracture.
12:38Exactly.
12:39So you can back up, I've got you.
12:41OK.
12:42It's because this isn't flat.
12:44Oh.
12:45It's pretty high.
12:46So many places say that they're ADA accessible,
12:48and they're not, because a lot of times people don't really
12:50even know what accessibility truly looks like.
12:52And so it's definitely frustrating.
12:54What I can do, so we can get over this hump, is I can go in,
12:57get some footage for you.
13:09Yeah, I mean, just because of this, it really wouldn't make
13:12sense for us to see the rest of it.
13:14Because, I mean, if we already got this issue and this is the only
13:17kind of way we can get there.
13:19It's, the height is pretty.
13:20I mean, that would have to be fixed as well.
13:22Yeah, right, right, for us to consider the inside.
13:26I mean, at least he's in Atlanta, right?
13:28Let's go, we want him to get in Atlanta.
13:31No comment, I ain't got nothing to say.
13:33Let's see.
13:36Well, we'll get an eight song, so thank you so much.
13:38You guys enjoy the rest of your evening,
13:39and we will definitely be in touch, OK?
13:41All right, let's know what you're doing.
13:42Talk to you again.
13:42All right, bye.
13:44Bye.
13:46If it's all right with you, I'ma step back and kiss myself.
13:50Because I'm really over here feeling myself.
13:55Well, Shakina, the realtor, works on lining up
13:58more apartment tours.
14:00I brought Jay to our very first dance class together
14:03so we can have a dance prepared for our wedding.
14:07And then after that, I'm going to take Jay
14:10on a little tour around the city.
14:13The city girl.
14:13The city girl.
14:15Are you nervous for this?
14:16Yeah, a little.
14:17I'm still trying to figure out how we're going to be.
14:19Dancing, you know, the whole cherries thing.
14:21You know, I don't know.
14:22Just have fun.
14:23It's nothing serious.
14:24I love to dance, but I know Jay, he has two left wheels.
14:28So we will see.
14:29Come on, babe.
14:30Let's see your dance moves.
14:32Yo, I guess.
14:34You know, I do a little shimmy.
14:36Yes, you always start with the shoulders.
14:39I have a little shimmy.
14:40You know what I mean?
14:40See, that's dancing.
14:41And then I go a little side to side, a little, you know?
14:44Oh, see, you got more.
14:46You got more.
14:46You got more.
14:49Well, hello, hello.
14:50How are y'all doing?
14:51So nice to finally meet y'all.
14:52Yes.
14:53I've never worked with anybody in a wheelchair before,
14:55but I have confidence that they'll be able to handle
14:58what I can do.
14:59And if not, then we can adjust it.
15:01As long as they're happy, that's all that matters.
15:02So we'll start just with a little movement,
15:04just to loosen up a little bit and get the feel of you guys.
15:07She's got the dance moves more,
15:09so she's going to be like expert.
15:10Yeah, I love dancing.
15:11I do adaptive dance moves with my wheelchair.
15:16It is a really good way for me to move my body.
15:21And I don't think of it as a workout
15:23because I get so into it and I love music.
15:26I forget that I'm working out.
15:28OK, we're just going to get started with just some basic stuff
15:30first then.
15:31OK, perfect.
15:32And you're just going to move.
15:33OK, oh wait, hold on.
15:35Yes, hips don't lie.
15:38And take our arms up.
15:42Yes.
15:44You think you can go maybe a little bit more advanced?
15:46Yes.
15:46Yeah?
15:47So what I was thinking is one's facing to the left,
15:50one's facing to the right.
15:51And then we'll just do like a circle around.
15:53Ready?
15:54Do you want to try that?
15:54Yes, I tried to get the directions,
15:55but I'm going to get it down.
15:57All right.
15:57OK, where do I go?
15:58I go around.
15:59You want to go on that side?
15:59That's fine.
16:00What do I do?
16:00I go around.
16:01Yeah, you can go on that side then.
16:01Yeah, that's fine.
16:02And where do I go next?
16:03Hold on.
16:04Just stay back.
16:05Because we're going to come in, right?
16:07Oh, and then I turn around and face this way.
16:09I just don't want to mess up the vibe.
16:11Especially with me being autistic,
16:13sometimes it's hard for me to keep up with a lot of things
16:16going on at once.
16:17And I know that this is a really important thing for her.
16:21Just let go and have fun.
16:23I'll try.
16:24We go around.
16:25Where do I stop?
16:26Oh, this, yeah.
16:27Yeah, a tight circle.
16:28Yeah, there it is.
16:28There it is.
16:29Tight, yeah, tight.
16:30Once we've got a good flow going,
16:32and Jay figured out a circle is a circle.
16:37We started to get the rhythm going.
16:40Here we go.
16:42Back.
16:45OK, there we go.
16:48Yes, my shoulder.
16:50Take it around.
16:52Very nice.
16:54Never wanting to wake up from this moment.
16:57Yes.
16:58Yeah.
16:59And I was getting the, uh, uh, you know what I mean?
17:04Uh, uh, we were holding it.
17:05Yeah, we have it.
17:06We got it.
17:07And drive.
17:08Yes.
17:09Up, together, let's go.
17:10Very nice.
17:11I love it.
17:12I'm really excited about this because I didn't know
17:14what had this in me.
17:15You never know until you drive.
17:17You're right.
17:18Yeah, oh, yes.
17:19I think that would be very nice.
17:20See?
17:21We can do it.
17:22Thank you, see you next time.
17:23Have a good one, thank you so much.
17:24See you next time.
17:25Now let's get out of these sweaty clothes.
17:27Look at all of the trains and stuff, and then you got MARTA, you know, you do so many transportation
17:41options.
17:42Yeah, right.
17:43Yeah, I know.
17:44I wish Jay would understand that living in the city would open up our world a lot more.
17:50There's a lot of children around and, like, it looks like also family-friendly.
17:54And there's a lot of yelling, yeah, people yelling and stuff like that.
17:58I don't know.
17:59Maybe they're having a good time.
18:00Right now, we're not doing a lot of fun things.
18:03We're not close to anything, any activities.
18:07Restaurants.
18:08Lots of restaurants.
18:09I mean, if we lived in an apartment down here or whatever, I mean, everything is sidewalks
18:14and stuff.
18:15I like being part of the community.
18:19In the suburbs, everyone is very to themselves, and I'm not used to that.
18:24Oh, look at that artwork.
18:25Let's look, Ed.
18:26That's so beautiful.
18:27They should've done a painting of you.
18:29Aw, baby.
18:30Oh, can you take my picture?
18:33Yeah.
18:34Love it.
18:35Love it.
18:36Yes.
18:37Pamela is a city girl.
18:40She loved being in the city, doing things, going out and all that.
18:44It's not really even on the, like, the sidewalks and stuff.
18:48Really?
18:49It's really accessible.
18:50It's all different.
18:51It's all different pictures.
18:52Well, yeah, baby.
18:53I mean, that's just a design.
18:54Pamela gave up her active social life just to be with me, and it makes me want to work
19:00ten times harder to give her everything that she deserves to have in life.
19:04But I don't know if I can handle being surrounded by people, and cars, and noise everywhere.
19:10I mean, talk about sensory overload.
19:13I got it just thinking about it.
19:16Hello.
19:17How are you doing, man?
19:18I'm doing good.
19:19How about you?
19:20You're doing pretty good.
19:21Yeah, sir.
19:22How did I see you?
19:23In the city, there's a lot going on.
19:25A lot of people, like, people are definitely going by the way.
19:28Okay, but you're on Earth.
19:29There's always going to be people.
19:31What do you mean?
19:32Yeah.
19:38Well, this is a busy street, Pamela.
19:40It's okay, baby.
19:41Just follow me.
19:42It's time to cross the street.
19:45You know, you want to be a city girl, it's going to be lit.
19:47There's going to be a lot going on.
19:49And I like to be not so in the middle of everything.
19:53I don't know.
19:54I feel like you're not giving it a chance at all.
19:56What?
19:57You're not.
19:58And we got to get to the peach color factory.
20:01Yeah, you know, we got to get you something sweet after me introducing you to something new.
20:06All right.
20:07What would it take to move to the city?
20:11Safety.
20:12No matter where you go, things happen.
20:16Jay's in the hospital.
20:18It's, like, very terrifying.
20:20Last time I heard from him was hours ago.
20:24That's concerning.
20:25Clay's hurting.
20:26That's not like him.
20:28Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
20:30Mm-hmm.
20:31Oh.
20:32That got him.
20:33Oh.
20:35After a long day in the city, the best way to unwind for me is some dessert.
20:50Anything with sweetness, that is his comfort zone.
20:54May I get the mango peach?
20:57Okay. And what about for you?
20:59I'd like to get a kid-sized honey apple cobweb piece.
21:03Are you paying card or cash?
21:04Card. Okay. Thank you.
21:11Give me a sec. Thank you so much.
21:12Yeah, no problem.
21:13So here I am, ready, salivating at the thought of my peach cobbler,
21:26and I'm just having to wait for the seat elevator to reach this lady.
21:30I'm just like, man, I just wish my chair would speed up.
21:35They're waiting on me, and I'm like, I'm waiting on my chair.
21:38I'm like, hold on. Give it a moment.
21:40All right.
21:42And can I get her a seat, too, please?
21:43Yes, sir.
21:45Come on.
21:46Huh?
21:47I can move it.
21:48You got it?
21:49Yes.
21:51Patience is a virtue.
21:54I can take the chair out of the way if y'all want.
21:56It's okay.
21:57All right.
22:02I'm gonna move this out the way, okay?
22:04Okay.
22:05Now I can see your face.
22:07See, you're so excited about this place.
22:09Yes.
22:10That's what happens if we want to move in the city.
22:13We can have peach cobbler every day.
22:15No, that's really good.
22:17Okay, what would it take, then?
22:19Safety.
22:20No matter where you go, things happen, so.
22:22I know.
22:23So kind of like, you just gotta live.
22:26I mean, I'm living.
22:27Order for Jane.
22:28I'm just gonna live.
22:29Oh.
22:30Is that ours?
22:31Yes.
22:32Did you say Jane?
22:33Yes.
22:34Did you say Jane?
22:35Okay.
22:36Okay.
22:37Like, I know you care about safety.
22:39I do too.
22:41But we need to do more.
22:46Time is ticking.
22:48In the suburbs, it's not like there's nothing to do.
22:51There's earplugs when it comes to if it's too loud.
22:54What's the earplugs got to do with anything?
22:58I didn't say anything about earplugs.
23:00Look at you.
23:01You look like a school lunch with a little trace.
23:04Oh my goodness.
23:07Okay, we both got ice cream.
23:09Now you don't have to share.
23:11Now, I understand.
23:13Now you're like, no, I don't like the city.
23:15No.
23:16You know.
23:17Can you help me open this?
23:18Yeah.
23:19No, but not using private transportation.
23:23You know how much we would save?
23:25Like, imagine $200 just to go to the grocery stores.
23:30And groceries.
23:33I'm still not sold on units.
23:36Okay.
23:37It's about compromise, so.
23:38Yeah.
23:39We'll figure it out.
23:40We both, whatever we both, you know, feel comfortable with.
23:43Yeah.
23:44Because I don't believe the whole happy wife, happy life.
23:46That's a BS.
23:47I'm like, okay, to make a marriage work, it's the both of us.
23:52Happy spouse, happy house.
23:53All right, well.
23:54Yeah, there you go.
23:55Good job.
23:56All right, now.
23:57Mom, aren't you sure?
23:58I don't know what you were trying to help me through.
23:59Well, I can't reach the kitchen.
24:01All right.
24:02It would really have to be a place that wins me over in the city in order for me to choose
24:08to live in the city.
24:09What have you found?
24:10I'm open.
24:11What do we find a combo?
24:12That it feels like the suburbs, but it's not the suburbs.
24:15There's still a lot going on.
24:17If you find that, then you let me know.
24:20Thank you, cutie-patootie.
24:22All right.
24:23Cutie-patootie.
24:24No, no, wait a minute.
24:25Sorry.
24:26I didn't mean to embarrass you.
24:27Why'd you have to try?
24:28Cutie-patootie.
24:29Pookie.
24:30Stop.
24:31All I'm saying is we have to make a decision soon.
24:38Time is ticking.
24:39Okay.
24:40That's cute.
24:43Have a great one.
24:44Have a good one.
24:45Come on, let's go.
24:46That's cute.
24:49Have a great one.
24:50Have a good one.
25:15It's okay.
25:16You can jump.
25:18Oh, we were taking a nap with Daddy's chair.
25:22Jay went to the hospital a few days ago
25:24because of stomach issues.
25:28Even Cheddar told me something was wrong
25:31when you were in the bathroom.
25:32She started whining.
25:34With our type of a lie,
25:36it can lead to severe constipation,
25:38which leads us to having to go to the hospital
25:41a few days or two a week
25:43to be able to evacuate the poop.
25:47Your parents will be coming down soon
25:49to take you to the emergency room.
25:53Jay called up, and he needed to go to the hospital.
25:56And now that the van is dead,
25:59Jay has to be transported in the car.
26:04So currently, we don't have a vehicle
26:05that will transport their power wheelchairs.
26:08My mom has a manual collapsible chair
26:11that we can break down and get into the trunk
26:13vehicles, so that's what we use
26:15to get Jay to the hospital.
26:21It's weird that his chair is here and not him.
26:27I'm sorry.
26:28So Jay had to leave his power chair behind,
26:30and also, with the van being broke down,
26:34I couldn't go with him either.
26:36That's why you keep napping in his chair.
26:38I'm sorry.
26:40And I feel really bad, because I'm like,
26:42oh no, how do you explain to a dog
26:43that her daddy's in the house?
26:46I feel so bad for her.
26:47If it's hard for a dog, you know,
26:49it's hard for a human, you know?
26:52So it's nice to have Cheddar there,
26:54you know, to be comforting each other.
26:56But the space really does feel very empty in there.
27:06I did call up to the hospital
27:08and spoke to Jay's nurse
27:10just based on the update that she gave,
27:14hoping it's not going to be more than
27:15two or three more days.
27:17Okay, so the usual.
27:18Yeah, the usual.
27:19Okay, well, that's good.
27:21Get him all cleared out.
27:24Even though the GI issues,
27:27it's pretty routine for them,
27:29the amount of just discomfort, pain,
27:33it has to be dealt with at the hospital.
27:36I mean, at this point, I'm glad.
27:38Nothing out of the ordinary.
27:41And we're only looking at a few days.
27:46Let me take this.
27:47Let me be the hospital calling.
27:49All right.
27:51Hello?
27:53For this particular situation,
27:55it's stomach related.
27:56So sometimes you want to be alone.
27:59Yeah.
27:59If Jay needs us there, we will get there.
28:02Yeah, I mean, yeah, it is.
28:04It is what it is.
28:05Thanks a lot.
28:06All right.
28:06Bye.
28:08That was Bob the mechanic.
28:11The van is going to cost more than it's worth
28:14to get it fixed.
28:16I don't anticipate us getting much for it.
28:19Well, maybe it's enough for a plane ticket.
28:21I figured it'd probably be enough for a dinner,
28:24a really nice dinner.
28:26I mean, all the fixings.
28:28You can order a la carte.
28:32The van being down,
28:34this may put a dent in Jay and Pimela's wedding fund
28:37because they're going to have to pay
28:38for transportation services.
28:41We can deal with that once Jay is out of the hospital.
28:44Sure.
28:44All right, Jetter, let's call your dad.
28:55When Jay's in the hospital,
28:57his parents are the ones calling for updates.
29:00So Renee does a pretty good job at, like, updating me
29:04since I'm not considered an immediate family member.
29:06They can't release any information to me too much.
29:09And also, I can't make medical decisions for Jay
29:13because we're not married yet.
29:17Hey, babe.
29:18Hey, babe.
29:20I wanted to just check up on you real quick.
29:23Cheddar's with me.
29:25Hello, Cheddar.
29:27Oh, babe.
29:28You know what's really cool?
29:30I'm going to visit my wedding dress.
29:33Oh, for help?
29:34Yeah, just doing the alterations and stuff.
29:37Yeah.
29:38I just can't wait for you to see it.
29:40And, like, I'm really looking forward to getting married.
29:44Yeah, I see.
29:45I hope Jay feels better soon
29:47because with the wedding coming up
29:49and our plans to move, being a big part of that,
29:52we have a lot in our plate right now.
29:55So I want my man to be in tip-top shape.
29:59So how are you feeling, babe?
30:01Well, I thought I was going to be going home.
30:03I even put on a shirt
30:05because I thought I was going home.
30:07And then I already threw up on you, so.
30:10Mm-hmm.
30:11Mm.
30:12And then that's when it all went downhill from there.
30:14Oh, wow.
30:16Even though going to the hospital
30:18for severe constipation can be routine for us,
30:22it doesn't mean it can't turn into something more serious.
30:26Like, I feel really helpless.
30:27Like, I can't do anything for you.
30:30When I've gone to the hospital before with similar things,
30:34I ended up having to stay there for a month.
30:37It's very scary.
30:39Today I'm going to get my wedding dress altered
30:56because even though Jay's in the hospital right now,
30:59our wedding is only two months away.
31:02But not having a wheelchair-accessible van
31:04already at the house,
31:05you know, now I'm, like, scrambling, it feels like,
31:08to try to find transportation that is available.
31:13But to me, it's worth it.
31:18Hi, Pamela.
31:19Hello.
31:20Come on in.
31:21How are you?
31:22I'm good.
31:22I'm Pamela.
31:23Welcome in, Nicole.
31:25Nice to meet you.
31:25Nice to meet you.
31:27You excited to put your dress on again?
31:29Yes.
31:29Sounds good.
31:30I've got the fitting room right in here.
31:31Mm-hmm.
31:31So we'll go right in here and we'll get you into your dress
31:34and get started with pinning.
31:35All right, I'm excited.
31:35After you.
31:38You've got your dress.
31:39Obviously, this is the base.
31:40So with this one, where do you want to take it?
31:42I would like to add, like, pearls and, um,
31:45I guess they're called rhinestones.
31:46Mm-hmm.
31:46Yeah, some purple.
31:47Rhinestones.
31:48Yes, in the middle.
31:49Yeah, absolutely.
31:50So, um, I know the other dress had some mesh.
31:53Yes.
31:54So we can add some mesh here,
31:55add some pearls, some rhinestones,
31:58even, like, little glass beads that are sparkly,
32:00that type of thing, which is kind of similar
32:02to the other dress.
32:03Mm-hmm.
32:04The dress that I loved,
32:05it had pearls and sparkles at the top.
32:09Bid it with $3,000.
32:11Oh, wow.
32:13Ooh.
32:15It is very pretty.
32:18So I went with my second favorite dress,
32:21which is $1,600.
32:24Ta-da.
32:24Ooh.
32:26That's gorgeous.
32:27And Nicole is adding some details
32:31from the first dress to the second dress.
32:33And for a lot less money.
32:36I mean, I'm still glamorous, but on a budget.
32:39And then the other thing that we will go through,
32:42there's the slit in the dress.
32:44Oh, yes.
32:44So we'll make sure if this needs to be, like,
32:47opened up a little bit more
32:48so that you can show as much or as little leg as you want.
32:51Give him a little bit of illusion.
32:52A little bit of something, yeah.
32:53Just a little sneak peek, but not too much.
32:57Wait until, you know, after the wedding.
32:58Right, right, yes.
33:00Tell me what you need as we get dressed.
33:03Okay.
33:03First, I'm going to take off my seatbelt.
33:04Okay.
33:05When getting Pamela into and out of her dress,
33:08I just want to be super, super, super careful
33:10because I don't have experience with somebody with OI.
33:13So going into this experience for the first time
33:16is, oh, it makes me a little bit nervous.
33:18No, I can't stand up, but I can lift up my bottom.
33:22Okay.
33:22And that way you can slide a dress underneath me.
33:25Sounds good.
33:25All right.
33:26Trying on the wedding dress is a challenge
33:29because as we go down from my hips and down to my legs,
33:35you know, I would have to, you know,
33:37lift one side of my body to pull down the dress
33:40and then the other side and do it slowly.
33:43That way I also don't slide out of my chair at the same time.
33:46So her being like very patient and very gentle, it was great.
33:52And if you want to look in the mirror
33:53so you can kind of see yourself a little bit.
33:55Don't want to accidentally get caught.
33:57My tire's caught up.
33:58Oh, you're good.
33:59If you want to, are you going to lower down your chair a little bit?
34:03Yes.
34:03Okay.
34:04It's been a little bit since you've gotten to put it on.
34:06This is exciting.
34:08It's like a reunion.
34:09Like a reunion.
34:09I love that.
34:12All right.
34:13So straps are a smidge long.
34:15So I'm going to mark where we're going to shorten these
34:18and then we'll also mark where we're going to narrow them.
34:21Because I'm going to be dancing.
34:23Yeah, you need full range of motion for sure.
34:27Tell me how that feels.
34:30Let's see.
34:33I think that's okay.
34:35All the things.
34:36Good.
34:37Perfect.
34:38Before I get you out of your dress and everything,
34:39I'm going to let you just kind of look at yourself.
34:42If you want to take any photos, you're more than welcome.
34:44Before and after.
34:45Yeah, absolutely.
34:46You get the whole vision.
34:48I just got an urgent text from my mother-in-law.
34:51Do you mind if we take a break?
34:52Absolutely.
34:53I'm going to go make notes while you do that.
34:55And I will be back in just a few minutes.
34:57Of course.
34:58This is a situation where our routine hospital stay
35:17becomes more severe than planned.
35:21Your call has been forwarded to an automated voice messaging system.
35:26Your call has been forwarded...
35:28I keep calling him and texting him,
35:30and he has a respondent,
35:33and it's starting to stress me out.
35:34Your call has been forwarded to an automated voice messaging system.
35:39Now I'm really worried about him.
35:42I really have to go.
35:43Jay's in the hospital,
35:54and he went in because of his stomach issues,
35:59but I'm feeling really worried
36:00because now his heart rate has been higher than average,
36:06and the goal was for him to come home today,
36:09and the last time I heard from him was hours ago.
36:18These couple of days that he's been in the hospital,
36:21he's been really good at communicating that,
36:24at least within an hour.
36:26And him not responding for, you know, hours,
36:29that's concerning.
36:31That's not like him.
36:39For J to be hospitalized,
36:47six weeks before we get married,
36:49it's, like, very terrifying, really.
36:52I'm not legally considered an immediate family member.
36:55God forbid something urgent happens.
36:57You know, there's only so much I can do legally
36:59to advocate for him.
37:39You're welcome.
37:40I'm going to close it behind you.
37:45Baby!
37:47When I got to the hospital,
37:49Jay was doing better.
37:52The good news is the medicine
37:54they gave him to lower his heart rate is working.
37:57The bad news is really making him sick.
38:01I just, you know, try to keep myself busy,
38:03which is what helped my phone in the hand.
38:05It's okay.
38:06I mean, I think he just has to do it.
38:08You know what you do.
38:10Oh.
38:10As I said to him.
38:13Mom, you're sorry.
38:15I'm sorry.
38:16I'm sorry.
38:17Pamela called me about Jay in the hospital,
38:32and she did express, honestly, I'm really worried,
38:35and that's not something that she says to me a lot.
38:36So, I'm glad I can be here for her.
38:40Mom, Mom, Mom.
38:44Hey.
38:45Hi.
38:45Hi.
38:46Hi.
38:46How you doing?
38:48Thank you for being here.
38:50Yeah, for sure.
38:51How are you?
38:53Well, a little better now.
38:55Yeah.
38:56That I saw him.
38:57She said he's doing okay,
39:00but my intuition tells me
39:02that she's maybe feeling something else.
39:05They gave him heart medicine
39:07to stabilize his heart rate.
39:09Okay.
39:10They did a scan of his heart.
39:14They said nothing looked abnormal,
39:18but that still doesn't answer
39:19why his heart rate still jumps to 150.
39:23150?
39:23Mm-hmm.
39:24Dang, that is, that's high.
39:26Yeah.
39:26So, how are, like,
39:28how were you feeling before?
39:29How are you feeling now?
39:30You know, what's kind of the,
39:32where are you at?
39:33I, you know, I was just scared of,
39:37you know, what I would hear
39:38when I got here and things like that,
39:40but it's just really hard
39:42to see him there by himself in the bed.
39:45Heartbreaking.
39:46You know, he's, like, my person,
39:48and, you know, basically in my world,
39:50he's in the hospital.
39:52Yeah.
39:52And, yeah.
39:55And I think it's, like,
39:56in a way very triggering
39:58because his best friend
40:00that I met when I came to Georgia,
40:03he has, he had the same bone condition as us.
40:06Okay.
40:06And he passed away for heart failure.
40:10And, and that we know of,
40:12he didn't know he had a heart situation.
40:14And I think, I have a feeling
40:16that he, like, thinks about that.
40:18Of course.
40:19Yeah.
40:19Because he was in his 40s, you know,
40:21so that's not extreme.
40:22How old is Jay?
40:24He, well, he is 28.
40:27So, yeah.
40:28When I heard that Jay was having heart concerns,
40:32I got really worried
40:34because heart and lung issues
40:37is the number one cause of death
40:40for type 3-OI.
40:43And it's more than just, you know,
40:45the brittle bones part.
40:46It impacts everything.
40:48So, do you know if you'll want
40:52to postpone the wedding
40:53with all this going on?
40:55Mm-hmm.
40:55I don't know.
40:56This, I hope tomorrow gets here quick
41:00by the way we can know more,
41:02like, what's gonna happen.
41:03We've been putting so much effort
41:05in the wedding
41:06and finding places to move.
41:09At this point,
41:11if they can't figure out
41:12why Jay's heart rate keeps going up,
41:17then we might have to cancel the wedding.