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00:00Pamela, honey, when can you get around to doing my nails?
00:06We live in Jay's parents' basement.
00:09We share a wall with my 80-year-old grandmother,
00:11and she's always coming in.
00:13Peek-a-boo.
00:14Peek-a-boo.
00:15I will reach out to you, and we'll figure out a ton.
00:17We've been putting money aside,
00:19because our two biggest goals are to get married and move out.
00:22Good thing we're a light dress.
00:24Imagine our whole booty out.
00:26Hi, welcome in.
00:30Hi.
00:31I hear you guys have a big day coming up.
00:33Yes, around the corner.
00:34Yeah.
00:35We have been engaged for almost two years now,
00:38and we plan on getting married this year.
00:40This one actually connects to the bridal suite,
00:44so you can be in your dress and give yourself a little twirl.
00:47We want to get married today.
00:51Okay, I got a question.
00:53He's going to do all this cooking for you, too.
00:55I know the basics, like spaghetti and salmon.
00:59Why don't you plan a meal for us?
01:02Cool.
01:03Okay.
01:04I will even give you access to the kitchen.
01:06Raphael invited me to cook in the kitchen.
01:10I'm really excited to, like, bond with him,
01:12but also a little bit nervous.
01:14Chef Boyardee, come on.
01:16Be your thing.
01:17All right.
01:18Yes.
01:19Okay.
01:20Cheddar.
01:21Stop.
01:22Cheddar.
01:23Come here.
01:24We're very independent when it comes to, like, household chores.
01:28I'm over here cleaning your mess, Missy.
01:29We do have to take turns.
01:30We're very independent when it comes to, like, household chores.
01:36I'm over here cleaning your mess, Missy.
01:37We do have to take turns when it comes to responsibilities.
01:39Come here.
01:40We have osteogenesis imperfecta type 3.
01:41It causes short stature, scoliosis.
01:43We have osteogenesis imperfecta type 3.
01:45Uh, scoliosis, fragile bones, so we break easily.
01:46It's like, what kind of cards did I get?
01:47Yeah, bubblegum imperfecta.
01:48I got up.
01:49There's a rése.
01:50Anywhere.
01:51Anywhere.
01:52Anywhere.
01:53Anywhere, any doubt.
01:54I need to take it.
01:55I can't wait.
01:56All right.
01:57Anywhere.
01:58Anywhere.
01:59Anywhere.
02:00Anywhere.
02:01Anywhere.
02:02Anywhere.
02:03Anywhere.
02:04Anywhere.
02:05Anywhere.
02:06Anywhere.
02:07Anywhere.
02:08Anywhere.
02:09Anywhere.
02:10Anywhere.
02:11Anywhere.
02:12Anywhere.
02:13Anywhere.
02:14Did I get?
02:14Yeah, bubble mammy.
02:15I mean, pick, I struggle.
02:17Excuse me, I gotta go to the trash can.
02:18Okay.
02:19Whenever I have a broken bone,
02:21he needs to take on more and vice versa.
02:25He lets me know like, hey, today my arm is killing me.
02:28Can you take out the trash?
02:30Nothing but net.
02:32Those simple little tasks mean a lot to each other
02:35if one of us is injured.
02:37I love having a dog,
02:38cause we get to be outside more.
02:40Exactly.
02:41And add having a dog park nearby
02:43to our apartment for the needs.
02:45When I proposed to Pamela,
02:47I was not expecting us to still be in the basement
02:50two years later.
02:52However, we are now looking at everything
02:55for what it's gonna take to move and getting married.
02:59Once we're officially husband and wife,
03:01we wanna have our own lives, our own space.
03:04That's like ours.
03:06I'm looking forward to what's coming up
03:08with our wedding and moving
03:10and getting new plates for our place
03:13and like be able to navigate without feeling like
03:18we're under a microscope all the time.
03:20Yeah, definitely.
03:22Remember that one night,
03:23I said your dad is like right below us.
03:25Yeah.
03:26And you're like, how did you know that?
03:28Yes.
03:28And I can tell if he overheard us about something.
03:32Yeah.
03:33By the way he walks.
03:34Yeah.
03:34Or the way he looks at me.
03:36And I'm like, dang, you probably heard us argue.
03:39Mm-hmm.
03:40And that's always constantly like in the air.
03:45Raphael is a very overprotective father.
03:48So if we have, you know, an argument over the dishes or whatever,
03:53and maybe I get too loud with Jay.
03:55Raphael, he, you know, puts that in his back pocket.
03:59And then that's when he gets like either passive aggressive with me
04:02the next time he sees me.
04:03Even if it's been like two weeks later, I'm like, oh, yeah,
04:07he overheard us two weeks ago.
04:10You know, I used to be very like tense every time he would be around.
04:14Because I didn't know how to juggle like, are we cool, are we not cool?
04:20I know like he has my back in a lot of ways, but also I can tell he kind of
04:24keeps me at arm length in a way.
04:28And it sucks because I do want to have a good relationship,
04:33a better relationship with your dad, especially now that we're getting married soon.
04:38Are you excited to be cooking with my dad tomorrow?
04:41Because my dad has a lot of knowledge about cooking.
04:43Yeah, the plan is to cook with Raphael with my soon to be father-in-law.
04:48I am a little nervous about being alone with your dad.
04:54You're going to have to help, you know, but I don't know.
04:58I'm hoping for the best because, you know, I want to like really get to know him, know him.
05:03Like I'll stop, like if I were to take off the title of like, he's your dad
05:07and he's my soon to be father-in-law.
05:09Like, who is he as a person?
05:12I hope that you both get more comfortable and like learn about each other
05:16because y'all are both very interesting people.
05:18Hopefully interesting in a good way.
05:20Yeah.
05:21Cheddar, you want to come here?
05:26You want to come here?
05:27There we go.
05:28Okay.
05:29Aw, she's giving you a hug.
05:30There you go.
05:31She felt that.
05:32She's like, yes, can we all just get along in this house?
05:38You're welcome.
05:39Ready.
05:40All right, Pomelo, are you going to be up first?
05:54Yes, ma'am.
05:56There we go.
05:58All right, Pomelo, thank you.
06:15I'm about to send you the address to this special Mexican grocery store
06:21because I'm going to need some authentic Mexican ingredients.
06:26Yeah, because Pomelo, she's going to be whipping it up in the kitchen with Dad.
06:30We're going to the Super Mercado La Villa and I'm really excited because I feel like I haven't
06:37gone to a Mercado like that in a million years.
06:41Did you let Raphael know what y'all were cooking?
06:44Oh, no, I haven't.
06:47You're in the kitchen with Raphael.
06:49Raphael is very serious when it comes to cooking.
06:52Oh, yeah.
06:53He is.
06:54That is his kitchen.
06:55So he is definitely going to, he's going to help you out.
07:00I am inviting Pomelo to my kitchen so that we can help her in her goal of becoming a more
07:09efficient and better cook.
07:11I think that Jay and Pomelo need to show more of an effort of cooking at home.
07:18I told them if you guys are going to be married, living by yourselves, you can't continue to be
07:23spending $800 a month on takeout and groceries and throwing half your groceries away.
07:31But more importantly, I'm hoping you guys just have fun while you're cooking and getting to know each other more.
07:39Mm-hmm.
07:40I'm just glad I won't be there.
07:42But you'll have some good food at the end.
07:45That's all I look for.
07:47Mm-hmm.
07:51Let's go, y'all.
07:53My Mexican heritage is something very special to me because I do miss a lot of, like, even
08:00the smells and the, like, ingredients and snacks, everything that I grew up with.
08:05And I would like to, you know, share with my soon-to-be husband and mother-in-law.
08:10Oh, wow.
08:11Oh, look at that.
08:12They have everything.
08:13Like, this is very nostalgic.
08:15Like, the Mexican paletas, we would get these a lot as a kid.
08:20And then this is, um, I think I've given you one before.
08:23Yeah.
08:24The mazapán.
08:25Oh, yeah.
08:26It's like peanut butter.
08:27Mm-hmm.
08:28I'll get one of these.
08:29Uh, can we make sure we're getting something other than candy?
08:30Yeah.
08:31Yes, we will.
08:32We will.
08:33Is there anything that you want to try?
08:34See the mango.
08:35I gotta unbuckle myself.
08:39Please remember we have the grabber.
08:41Do not do anything.
08:42I'm okay.
08:43Can I hurt yourself?
08:44It does make you nervous when another unbuckles yourself because any fall almost guarantees
08:51a broken bone.
08:52Trust and believe.
08:53I am always trying to prevent accidents because I have fallen out of my chair in the grocery
08:59store trying to grab something and then I broke my leg.
09:02Okay.
09:03Oh, my gosh.
09:04Like, ooh, ooh.
09:05I did it.
09:06I did it.
09:07Now, is there something that we're looking for in particular today?
09:11Yes, actually.
09:12I'm going to try to make chicken mole.
09:15Okay.
09:16So, let me check out my list real quick.
09:19Mm-hmm.
09:20White onion, tomatoes, and cilantro.
09:24Okay, so you're looking for produce.
09:26Fresh produce, yes.
09:27Mm-hmm.
09:28Okay.
09:29Pamela, you speak Spanish.
09:31You could be reading the signs to figure out where the stuff is at.
09:34Oh, where are the signs?
09:35Up here.
09:36Oh.
09:37See, that's my short moment.
09:39I don't really look that high up.
09:42Okay.
09:47And you still don't see any?
09:49Mm-mm.
09:50Oh.
09:51I do not see the chicken broth.
09:54Onions.
09:56Ooh.
09:57When we go to anywhere, especially to the Super Mercado.
10:02You're making me nervous.
10:03I'm making myself nervous.
10:05Things are up high.
10:06Please, please fall in here.
10:08Oh.
10:09Things are down low.
10:10Excuse me.
10:11Excuse me.
10:12Or we have to ask for help from other people on the store.
10:16Excuse me.
10:17Excuse me.
10:18No stranger danger, I suppose.
10:19Do you mind?
10:20Cinnamon.
10:23I guess I'm on my own.
10:24Maybe she didn't hear me.
10:27And sometimes the people at the register feel like they're hearing voices because they can't
10:30see us.
10:31They just hear a voice first.
10:32And they're like, looking around.
10:33And they're like, oh, you're there.
10:34You're down there.
10:35Hello there.
10:36All right, you can do this.
10:40Oh, aw, man.
10:42Oh, gosh.
10:43I can be a little clumsy when it comes to getting things.
10:46Even things that are probably easy to get with a grabber.
10:49So, like, seasonings.
10:50That should be easy.
10:51Like, you just grab it and then it just falls to the ground and I have a little sad face
10:55and then I get it again and it falls again.
11:02I feel like someone's playing tricks with me somewhere.
11:04Yeah, gravity is not your friend.
11:05Yeah.
11:06Is there someone there?
11:08I can't see.
11:09Hola.
11:10Tienes cinco libras de pollo, por favor?
11:11Si.
11:12De que?
11:13Uno completo.
11:14Estás segura que eso fue lo que tu mamá te pidió?
11:15I get asked, like, where's my mom when I'm in the grocery store and I'm like, she's at home.
11:30Where's your mom?
11:32Gracias.
11:33You want me to get ready?
11:34Yeah, cheers.
11:35I got you.
11:36See?
11:37For the most part, you guys were able to get everything.
11:40I love it.
11:41Where's the register?
11:42Oh, the register's here.
11:44I got it.
11:46Grocery shopping was successful.
11:50Oh, wow.
11:51Under budget.
11:52You probably missed a few items, but we're, you know, oops.
11:57And my dad is definitely going to call you out on that, so good luck.
12:02Good luck.
12:07Read off the ingredients.
12:08Chicken broth, which we don't have.
12:12Okay, so we're already kind of starting behind.
12:15I am stressed to cook with Raphael.
12:19I feel like he is constantly telling me what I'm doing wrong.
12:23Whoa, whoa, whoa.
12:24I see we got some tears over there.
12:26Talk to me.
12:27What's going on?
12:49Home sweet home.
12:52Let's get this show in the red.
12:55All right.
12:56Well, these items go in the fridge.
12:58Okay, I'll put them.
13:00You can handle some.
13:01It's kind of heavy, so.
13:02It's fine.
13:03It would have been even happier if we could have found everything on our list.
13:06It's physically tempting to go grocery shopping because typically I'm the one that has to do a lot of the...
13:13Heavy lifting.
13:14Heavy lifting because I can actually lift more weight than Pamela.
13:18Oh, sorry.
13:19No problem.
13:21At the same time, it's also rewarding because anything that I can do physically still, I'm like very grateful for.
13:28Me too.
13:29And if I'm feeling pain, that means I'm alive, so I'm at least grateful for that.
13:34Yeah, we've got some food in here too.
13:37I'm going to have to throw some of these things out of here because it's pretty full.
13:42So.
13:43Oh, watch out.
13:44Oh, man.
13:45Babe, what?
13:46Because I'm trying to...
13:48I wasn't cooking up.
13:49I'm trying not to injure you, for real.
13:50Sorry.
13:51Well, the dangers of bumping wheelchairs isn't expensive, so.
13:55And we could get injured too if we ran into each other hard enough.
13:59We could break our feelings.
14:00We even have a thing where, like, when we hug and then we're about to back up.
14:05We're like, just a heads up.
14:06I'm backing up now.
14:07So that way you don't lean over trying to get another hug.
14:10Now you're on the ground.
14:11There you go.
14:13Oh, hi, Cher.
14:15Look who it is.
14:16Hi.
14:17Did you miss us?
14:18Did you miss us?
14:20I'm kind of nervous to hang out with your dad.
14:23What I've been wanting more is, like, I have bonded more with your mom.
14:27Yeah.
14:28You know, maybe naturally because we're both women.
14:30You know?
14:31Exactly.
14:32Or whatever.
14:33But, like, with your dad.
14:34We have totally different personalities.
14:35Yeah.
14:36Oh my gosh.
14:37Very different.
14:38I'm anxious about Pamela cooking with my dad specifically.
14:42Because I don't want her to say something, like, super wild.
14:45And then she's gotta, like, stick up for herself or, you know, whatever alone.
14:49I don't know.
14:50I'm hoping for the best because I do want a relationship with your dad.
14:55More than just, you know, hi, hello, how are you?
14:57I'm ready to just eat it.
14:58I'm glad I don't have to do anything.
14:59I don't have to cook nothing.
15:00Because, oop.
15:01Nope.
15:02Yeah, because it's gonna be.
15:03Not in there.
15:04Oh, and then afterwards we can have, uh, the party after the party.
15:11Oh.
15:12And just a party of two.
15:13Oh, cheddar, not for you.
15:17Well, what are you thinking?
15:19Um, spice it up.
15:21Dress as a maid.
15:22Oh, you dress up as a fireman.
15:26Oh, handcuffs.
15:27Like, what?
15:28Oh, my God.
15:29What?
15:30What?
15:31Okay.
15:32Have I been a bad girl?
15:33Make sure you get the key still because we got locked up.
15:36I will never let you down.
15:38How does sex work for a couple that breaks bones so easily?
15:42Do you have to be extra careful?
15:44Careful is not even in the room when we're having sex because I thought it would be.
15:52I thought we were gonna be, you know, cautious.
15:54Yeah.
15:55But you just take a risk.
15:56Risk it for a biscuit.
15:57Yeah.
15:58And then the next day you're like, my pec hurts.
16:01Yeah.
16:02And I was like...
16:03There's some pain meds over there.
16:04You'll be fine.
16:05Take a towel and off.
16:07It feels like you're standing on your wrist.
16:09Yeah.
16:10I mean, the doctor says, you know, stay active.
16:13Might be the cure.
16:14That might be the cure.
16:15Yeah.
16:22Okay, you want the tortillas too, right?
16:34Yes, please.
16:35While my chair is already full with stuff.
16:38I am stressed to actually cook with Rafael because I know he's a huge chef and I don't
16:48want to do anything wrong and stress him out or make him be like, oh, I don't want to invite
16:54you to my kitchen ever again.
16:57Okay.
16:58That was smooth.
17:00And also, I'm nervous about like what conversations we're going to have because now there's no one
17:06going to be in the middle.
17:08There's nobody around.
17:10Just gonna be looking at each other like, so this chicken smells good.
17:15You know?
17:16That's awkward.
17:18Nice.
17:19Well, looky here.
17:20So apparently we're not doing Italian today.
17:23We're doing Mexican.
17:25Yes.
17:26Okay.
17:27Typically, I'm the only one in the kitchen because they're good at eating it, but they
17:32don't have anything to do with getting it ready.
17:34So, regardless of your status, if you are not participating in the cooking, then you are
17:39outside the kitchen.
17:40There's only so much space and you're only going to be getting in the way if you don't
17:45know what's going on in the kitchen.
17:47They're getting ready to cook.
17:48Yeah.
17:49You want to get out of here?
17:50Yeah, I'm ready to cook.
17:51So, y'all can get out of the kitchen and for once you get to stay in the kitchen.
17:54All right.
17:55See you later.
17:56Bye-bye.
17:57Hopefully when you come back there's a delicious meal.
17:59But don't come back to a call.
18:00See you.
18:02You have a recipe, correct?
18:04Mm-hmm.
18:05Did you send me that recipe?
18:06Mm-hmm.
18:07Read off the ingredients as you go down the list and I'll see if we have them.
18:11Yes.
18:12Chicken broth, which we don't have.
18:16Okay.
18:17So we're already kind of starting behind.
18:20Raphael giving me somewhat of a hard time.
18:23What are we doing with these?
18:25Uh, pour the chicken.
18:26Nope.
18:27I feel like he is constantly telling me what I'm doing wrong and that can come off very,
18:33like, too much for me.
18:35Ground something seed.
18:36I don't know what that is.
18:38Uh, ground anise.
18:40You can buy the seed.
18:41So I take it we didn't get that either.
18:43No.
18:44Okay.
18:48You got it.
18:49Let's go.
18:50Oh, man.
18:51Oh, wow.
18:53I think I got all of your staring at us.
18:56So there's this guy looking at us right now.
18:58It's not something that we should have to get used to.
19:00He's creeping me out.
19:02It feels very intense.
19:03Always introduce yourself.
19:05We don't bite.
19:10So what made you decide to go with Molay?
19:29Well, I wanted to do something that I've always loved as a kid.
19:35Okay.
19:36A little bit of nostalgia, huh?
19:37Yeah.
19:38Gotcha.
19:39My role in this endeavor with Pamela is to be the sous chef.
19:44Oh, can you show me how to cut a chicken like this, please?
19:47I will give her guidance where I feel she may be missing a step.
19:52But at the end of the day, this is her kitchen.
19:55And I'm just here to support.
19:57Lies.
20:00There we go.
20:02There we go.
20:03Just start your cut.
20:04Lightly there.
20:05Yep.
20:06Oh.
20:07Oh.
20:08See here.
20:09Hold that thought.
20:10Hold that thought.
20:11Why don't you try this one?
20:12A little more for your hands.
20:13A little lighter too.
20:14Oh, yeah, it is.
20:15Okay, ooh.
20:16Okay, ooh.
20:17Am I doing it wrong?
20:18Oh, you are doing it dangerously.
20:20So, we'll work on cutting another day.
20:21Okay.
20:22Um, we're not trying to go to the ER.
20:23Okay.
20:24You know, Pamela and I, we're gonna be apartment hunting soon.
20:26Are you guys targeting a particular thingy for?
20:53targeting a particular area?
20:55Have you already started looking at places online?
20:58We already have an idea of like what we're looking for
21:02as far as the amount of bedrooms, bathrooms.
21:04We're really looking at a three
21:06because she wants her own space.
21:08A three bedroom?
21:09Because she wants her own space, that's not.
21:12What is happening in the second bedroom?
21:14Is that Cheddar's bedroom?
21:15Listen, I'm not gonna fight the lady, okay?
21:18Better make sure you have your money right.
21:20Yeah, we will, definitely.
21:23I hear Jay and Pamela talking about moving out,
21:26but there's definitely some things
21:28that are really questionable to me on it becoming a reality.
21:32Budgeting, I still feel like is a big thing.
21:35Seems like they're just kind of in this limbo
21:38of wanting to move out for independence,
21:41which is no different than anybody else getting married,
21:45having to deal with things, but they don't have the details
21:49on how they're going to make it happen.
21:51When it happens, we'll see.
21:53Let's just say they said they were going to move the year
21:55after she got down here.
22:03In the middle, there you go.
22:05Bob's your uncle.
22:06Oh, this one's a lot easier to cut than the chicken.
22:08Well, chicken has got tendons and bones and muscles.
22:11Yeah, bones.
22:13Just like you would be harder to cut into.
22:16You wouldn't want it to be that easy.
22:18So, like, when we all ended up in the same household,
22:23very early on, did you have any worries when Jay told you
22:28he was talking to some lady in a different state?
22:31I wouldn't call them necessarily worries.
22:35I was just making sure that he wasn't getting into something
22:44that could be harmful to him.
22:46When you two were first starting out,
22:49there was disappointment there that the two of you
22:53would go for the jugular.
22:55There's always going to be a little bit of surface tension,
22:58you know, as you're growing together,
23:00but going for words that you can't take back.
23:04You know what I mean?
23:06I was diagnosed with autism in 2021,
23:09and I got tested because when I got in a relationship with her,
23:14she was like, yo, this guy's got, you know, something going on,
23:17or at least I hope so.
23:19Let's get some confirmation.
23:21When we would have, like, serious conversations,
23:24he would look away a lot, or his body language,
23:28because I didn't know he was autistic,
23:30made it look like he was a liar.
23:32And when we would get into fights,
23:35I would say, oh, you're so selfish.
23:38Looking back, I do wish I would have handled it better,
23:43because in the process, I ended up, you know, hurting him.
23:47But I'm really grateful that you encouraged me
23:50to get the autism diagnosis,
23:53because it's been super freeing for me,
23:55and we've really worked hard on being the type of person
24:01when you would want to be around,
24:03because, like, we don't have, like, drag out, like...
24:07Yeah, I'm not super, like, blow-ups anymore.
24:09No.
24:10Saying those things, I do regret, and I have apologized.
24:13So that also impacted me to try to figure out who I am
24:17as a person naturally, and not behave a certain way.
24:21So we find out stuff about ourselves when we're dealing with others,
24:24especially in relationships.
24:25So that's a... you've learned quite a bit.
24:28How about from your side?
24:29Do you ever feel like Renee or I were too involved in your relationship?
24:35Um, in some ways.
24:38Like, kind of feeling cornered.
24:40Cornered. Okay.
24:41I can understand that.
24:43Yeah, because, like, when Jay has, like, not just about our relationship,
24:48but just life stuff in general, like, he needs help.
24:51Sure.
24:51I guess feeling comfortable to go to his parents, I don't have that.
24:55Because, like, my parents don't really talk to me, so I feel alone.
25:01We, as parents, will always look out for our son.
25:06And at the same time, we apologize if our intent came across in a way
25:13where you felt like you are on, uh, you know, the opposing team, in a sense.
25:19You know, it's Renee, Jay, and I, and then it's you,
25:23and you've got nobody else here.
25:24So I can... I can appreciate where cornered may come in.
25:28Okay. So, uh, whoa, whoa, whoa.
25:31I see we got some tears over there.
25:32What's... what did I miss? I'm sorry.
25:36No, it's okay. It's not your fault.
25:43I mean, we're going to get to know each other.
25:46Talk to me. What's going on?
25:47You know, it doesn't matter.
26:06One thing about me, it's hard for me to express my feelings.
26:19Okay. What did I say that triggered your emotion?
26:25Um, I haven't seen my parents much.
26:31Right. Right.
26:33You know, they were supposed to come. Remember that one weekend?
26:38Yes. I was a bit shocked.
26:40They said they had some things to take care of in the house.
26:44Okay. So I'm going to go ahead and call BS on that.
26:47That is a weak excuse for, I don't want to do it.
26:50And it's extremely disappointing that you would get that from your parents.
26:55My parents are like getting older. My siblings are getting older. I mean, I haven't met one of my nephews.
27:04So now I feel like not just distance, literally, we're not really connected.
27:12Like there's a lot of emotional disconnect.
27:16Jay and his family have told me a lot about like you make time for the things that matter.
27:24And it has made me feel like kind of like sad and disappointed that I don't have that with my own family.
27:30I once had a conversation with my mom where I never felt like she acknowledged anything I did.
27:40I didn't do anything right. That's how I felt growing up.
27:44Later on, when I had that adult conversation with her, I found out that she basically came the same
27:49way and she didn't know any differently. If possible, you may have to have that conversation with your
27:55parents to get a better understanding of why things work the way they work so that you can move on.
28:01Because as long as you hold on to something, it eats at you. So when you're cooking mole,
28:06you're crying in the kitchen. And all of a sudden, it's not cooking mole anymore. It's, you know,
28:13a session on the couch. Pamela is planning for a wedding. To not have her own family here,
28:21a part of it, it's a bit sad. You know, I feel for her. I imagine she's lonely.
28:29We're supposed to be having fun here cooking, not crying over the...
28:32It's the peppers and stuff.
28:34Yes, the peppers are still like... You're right.
28:36Yeah, it's the peppers.
28:38I can still fit peppers. You are absolutely correct.
28:41You feeling better about the situation?
28:44Yes.
28:45I'm not just the cooking.
28:46Yes.
28:47You feeling better?
28:48Okay, good.
28:49I appreciate the advice or concern. I wasn't expecting him to like,
28:56oh, like, are you okay? And ask if I'm okay. Because we don't have that strong relationship.
29:03But I was able to share something about myself too, as not just his son's partner,
29:10or his daughter-in-law, just me. Like, who was I, or who I've always been, and things like that.
29:16So it was nice.
29:16Cheers.
29:18It has a nice spice to it.
29:29It's good. It's good. I think the people will like it.
29:33I guess the one thing that I would hope that Jay and Pamela can understand,
29:39why don't you reach out to the people? Tell them to come up.
29:43If you are in my son's life, if you're in Jay's life, then you are in our life.
29:48Hello.
29:49Hey.
29:50Hey.
29:50Woo.
29:51Hello.
29:52If that's who Jay wishes to have in his life, then I'm going to support both Jay and Pamela
29:59to the extent I can support them.
30:01Jay, you should taste it first since this is your woman.
30:09Yeah, that's great.
30:10Really?
30:11I would not lie to you about food.
30:13Great.
30:13What about you, Renee?
30:14Oh, that's good.
30:16It's tender.
30:17Man.
30:18That's good.
30:19But don't forget, Jay does know how to cook, so don't feel like you got to be stuck in there.
30:22Oh, yeah.
30:23And he can help cook.
30:25And he will clean after I cook.
30:31Tonight, we're going on a bowling date with our friends Ben and Lauren.
30:48The life expectancy for someone with OI is shorter than the average person.
30:53I think the mental impact of, you know, maybe being isolated or not having that support have
31:03to do with that.
31:03So, it is important for us to have the opportunity to get out and have fun.
31:15I know Ben because we are both in the recording academy.
31:25I know Ben because we are both in the recording academy.
31:38I met him at a private event.
31:40How's the ride in, dude?
31:41Great.
31:42He's a great guy and he's someone that just listens and gives great advice.
31:47And he's just really kind.
31:48Let me see your ring.
31:50Is it an amethyst?
31:51Yeah.
31:52Oh, my God.
31:52It kind of looks like yours.
31:54Yeah.
31:55It's been pretty difficult finding new friends in Georgia because I came when the world was shutting
32:04down and so everything was closed.
32:06But Jay found out that Lauren does card readings and on my 30th birthday, he thought it would be
32:16cool for her to record like a tarot reading for me.
32:21And yeah, then it just became a really cool friendship.
32:24You know I'm awful at bowling.
32:27We're obviously experts at this.
32:28I think you did.
32:29Yeah, right.
32:30We'll figure it out.
32:31We're so good at it.
32:32We've never bowled together.
32:34Ever.
32:34I went out bowling before, but that was you.
32:39Is this a story?
32:40Who would you go bowling with?
32:41I don't know.
32:42You'd be saying, I don't get jealous.
32:43Yes, you do.
32:44No, I just asked him.
32:45He said, with who?
32:46And I'm just wondering who you're bowling with.
32:48We're my friends.
32:49Okay, hey, listen.
32:51Yeah.
32:51Remember when I used to like hang out with friends a lot?
32:54No, I didn't.
32:54That's it?
32:55Mm-hmm.
32:57And some partying.
33:03I would say in my early 20s, I would go out with friends and party with them.
33:10Now that I am with Jay, he doesn't want to yell past midnight.
33:14Please.
33:16He's like, all right, wrap it up, go home.
33:18Wrap it up, please.
33:21Thanks for coming all the way down to the big city and leaving the country.
33:24Yeah.
33:25Just come see us city folks.
33:26See people instead of cows, you know?
33:27Yeah, right.
33:28Exactly.
33:29Everything is just so far away.
33:30Which is another reason why, like, moving somewhere where you're actually having access to things you
33:36want to do.
33:37Right.
33:37I stole you a referral for the leasing agent.
33:39That'd be great.
33:41I'd love to call whoever you used to find your place.
33:43All right.
33:44Cool.
33:44To be continued.
33:45So fun.
33:45Yes.
33:46Yes.
33:47How'd you guys get down here today?
33:48Oh, you know, my dad drove us.
33:50Oh, yeah.
33:52They're unreliable.
33:55Where'd you hide him?
33:55Is he out in the front?
33:58Probably running around here somewhere, staying in the van on a game or something.
34:01Oh, there you go.
34:01It is a little frustrating sometimes because just having to tell another adult, like,
34:10hey, my dad took us here.
34:11It makes me feel like, personally, that people perceive us as less than adults.
34:17Yeah, we've had moments where, like, oh, it'd be really nice if we went out to dinner today.
34:21This kind of spontaneous day, like, hey, let's go.
34:24You know, like, we can't really do that.
34:26It makes you feel like you're just not really independent, you know?
34:30Yeah, that's true.
34:31Are we ready?
34:32Let's bowl.
34:33Woo!
34:34Jay's first.
34:36Take it up there for you.
34:39All right, dude.
34:39Go, Jay, go.
34:40Show us how it's done.
34:41All right, you got this, babe.
34:43So we use a ramp to bowl, and that is due to the fact that the bowling ball is too heavy
34:49for us to, like, throw on the ground.
34:51That is definitely going to cause some injuries.
34:52I mean, we can fracture it or harm.
34:54Let's go.
34:55Hey, that's pretty good.
34:56Oh, man, he's got the perfect curve.
34:58Oh, wow, that's really good.
34:59Okay.
35:00Good job.
35:01Yay!
35:02Great job.
35:03We just have the ball placed on the ramp, and then push it down.
35:07We wind it up, make sure we get a good angle, and then push it and let it go.
35:12You got it, Bamo, you can do it.
35:15Okay.
35:15All right.
35:16Let's go!
35:17Oh, man!
35:18Oh, man!
35:19Awesome.
35:20We're all rooting for you.
35:21Don't look at my form.
35:24Oh!
35:25Oh!
35:25Wow!
35:26That was smooth.
35:27Oh!
35:28Oh!
35:28Wow!
35:30Nice.
35:30I love that.
35:31Thanks, guys.
35:32All right.
35:32Next up.
35:33Go, Ben.
35:34You can do it.
35:35Oh, oh, oh, oh.
35:38Okay, it knocked you.
35:39You got one.
35:39You got one?
35:40That's something.
35:41Yeah, one count.
35:45I think I got a little staring at this.
35:48So there's this guy looking at us right now.
35:50People stare at us like they are trying to remember if we were at their family reunion.
35:56It's not something that we should have to get used to.
35:58I feel strongly about that.
36:01Yeah, I guess it's awkward.
36:02He's creeping me out.
36:09Hey, guys.
36:10We got a slight problem.
36:12The man's not working.
36:14Right now is not the time.
36:16Do you think it's fixable?
36:17I'm not sure.
36:18I'm pissed, really.
36:32Quiet!
36:32Okay!
36:35Do you think all of you are staring at us?
36:37He's creeping me out.
36:40People stare at us all the time.
36:42It feels very intense.
36:43Always introduce yourself.
36:45We don't bite.
36:46You know, you can say hello.
36:47We may bite.
36:48No, it's good.
36:50Just ignore him.
36:53When people stare at us, it does get frustrating because it happens so often.
36:58However, Pamela has definitely encouraged me to let it go because I just don't want to get
37:02stressed out and overstimulated in the whole experience and try to stay focused on having a
37:07good time.
37:08I want to have a good time, but I also want to win.
37:11We're rooting for you.
37:12She's way more competitive than me.
37:14I don't know.
37:14I feel like it's just in my blood.
37:17I mean, I do like to win, but I just like to have a good time.
37:23Yeah!
37:24But that is a good time.
37:26To win?
37:26Yeah.
37:27Every time?
37:28Wow!
37:29Yes!
37:29High five!
37:31Wow!
37:32Wow!
37:55Babe!
37:58Babe!
38:02What?
38:03What?
38:04What?
38:04Hello?
38:05We have to get ready.
38:07Okay?
38:07Okay, okay!
38:08Drop them ribs!
38:12We've been looking for a place for a long time, and my good old buddy Ben can always count on him.
38:18He hooked us up with a realtor, and we're going to be here today.
38:21Today's a big day.
38:23I'm excited.
38:24Aren't you excited?
38:25Yeah!
38:25You're not even...
38:26Babe, are you dressed?
38:27Nope.
38:29It's been way overdue, five years, living with your parents, and we're getting married soon.
38:36I think it's time for more privacy.
38:39There's definitely no.
38:39Hello!
38:44Hello?
38:45Excuse me.
38:46Excuse me!
38:48Sir?
38:48May I fix your ride?
38:50Hello, Daddy.
38:50Hello!
38:51Hey, guys.
38:52We've got a slight problem.
38:56The man's not working.
39:00Do you know why it's not working?
39:01I'm not sure.
39:02Do you think it's fixable?
39:04Even if I get it started today, I'd hate for it to be an issue when we're somewhere,
39:11and now I can't get you back.
39:12I'm really disappointed.
39:14I'm not gonna lie.
39:15Like, I'm almost pissed, really.
39:18Almost.
39:18I'm already pissed.
39:20Now we can't go to apartments.
39:21I mean, we're gonna have to call up people and be like,
39:24Hey, sorry, can you reschedule your appointment?
39:25Because we don't have a ride.
39:27Like, people don't really care.
39:28Like, they can empathize with you and be like,
39:30Oh, that's so sad.
39:31But they're gonna put another person right in your slot and not think anything about it.
39:36I'm gonna call any T and see if they have any availability today.
39:40Okay.
39:41In addition to my dad, we also use accessible transportation
39:46that we have in our area too.
39:47Yes.
39:48But it's a lot harder to get those kind of services without a reservation.
39:54That really helped me find something.
39:56Any T ride service?
39:57How can I help you today?
39:59Hello.
39:59My name is Jay Manuel, and I'm trying to find out if you guys have availability today
40:04to take my fiance and I.
40:05We're both in power wheelchairs.
40:07How many are you?
40:08It's two.
40:10Two wheelchairs?
40:11Yes, two power wheelchairs.
40:12Two power wheelchairs.
40:13Mm-hmm.
40:14Looks like our next availability for two power wheelchairs is 8 p.m.
40:20Uh, yeah.
40:22Just, it's not gonna work for this particular situation, so.
40:26I think I'm more just frustrated with the lack of accessibility in our area in general.
40:33Like, it's not just the event situation.
40:35Like, it's more so just the fact that we can easily get to places just like the average person,
40:41like, that wants to get out and experience life can.
40:44Like, that's what really frustrates me is that we have to like take all these extra steps just to do the most basic things.
40:51Mm-hmm.
40:52This is now becoming more of a stress because we have so much to do right now.
40:57Yeah, I know you don't want to live in the city, but like, there's a lot more options
41:02when it comes to transportation.
41:05Jay and I, we have a lot going on.
41:08Like, moving out, looking at apartments, and planning for the wedding, and not having transportation.
41:17It feels overwhelming.
41:20Like, we're really almost trapped.
41:23This is a busy street, Pomola.
41:33It's okay, baby.
41:34Just follow me.
41:35If I can't go from being in the suburbs for years,
41:40we can try something different and move in the city.
41:42I don't think so.
41:46We've got your dress.
41:47Tell me what you need as we get dressed.
41:49Okay.
41:49Tell me how that's feeling, tightness-wise.
41:59Hey, Nicole, can you help me get out of this dress, please?
42:02I really need to go.
42:05I'm feeling really worried because Jay's in the hospital literally weeks before we get married.
42:11It's like very terrifying.
42:14Last time I heard from him was hours ago.
42:18That's concerning.
42:19That's not like him.