Avanti Nagral and her grandmother educate and entertain in this candid chat about all things sex.
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00:00Consent is the first thing
00:04Yes, consent is the first thing
00:06Okay, but even after that
00:08you have to think about the consequences also
00:11When it comes to sex, right
00:13obviously some people do sex for babies
00:16but some people do it for pleasure, right?
00:18No, mostly it is for pleasure
00:22Outcome is baby
00:26Yes, Aashi, high five
00:30How did you come to know about consent?
00:44Actually when Avanti told me
00:46that I have to talk to you again
00:48I was a bit reluctant
00:51and when she told me the subject
00:54then I thought
00:56we should do it
00:58Sex is such a thing
01:00Nobody wants to talk openly
01:03Being a medical person
01:05and an elderly person
01:08I thought I can do justice to the subject
01:12No, thank you so much
01:14for introducing that
01:16Why do people feel shy to talk about sex?
01:19Why is it a taboo topic?
01:21No, sometimes what happens in our society
01:24there are two extremes
01:26Formerly, sex
01:28Oh no, no
01:30And now
01:32even teenagers are
01:34all the time talking
01:36and not talking, thinking about sex
01:39So these are two extremes according to me
01:42Because sexual feelings
01:44are unique in a human being
01:47In some animals
01:49the sexual feelings are
01:51sexual propagation is there
01:53But it is seasonal
01:56and there are no
01:58feelings behind it
02:00But in a human being
02:02it is very unique
02:05and that's why you have to handle it
02:08When a person from teenage to youth
02:11that period
02:13is very turbulent
02:15because the hormones are changing
02:17So many changes occur in the body
02:19Of course, puberty
02:21But those changes
02:23should be looked at
02:25and taken with respect
02:27and restraint
02:29Many people think
02:31you should only have sex after marriage
02:34What is your thought process on this?
02:37As far as possible
02:39As far as possible, okay
02:41And why do you say that?
02:43That it should be after marriage
02:45Okay, that's a fact
02:47Or at least
02:49You should be 100% sure
02:51when you have some sexual
02:53relationship with somebody
02:55that you are going to marry that person
02:57Okay
02:59That's your opinion
03:01It's a very special
03:03thing given to a human being
03:05It's a special bond
03:07I respect your opinion
03:09My view is
03:11you don't have to have marriage
03:13But personally for me
03:15it's important that you feel ready for it
03:17Because as you are saying
03:19it's not just physical
03:21You have to be mentally ready
03:23Emotionally ready
03:25It's not just a physical thing
03:27like a beast
03:29The fact is that
03:31people are having sex younger
03:33But because we don't talk about
03:35sex as a result
03:37we don't talk about consent
03:39Consent means that both people
03:41should be
03:43So what is your thought?
03:45Consent is the
03:47first thing
03:49Yes, consent is the first thing
03:51Okay, but even after that
03:53you have to think about the
03:55consequences also
03:57Yeah, so consent and consequence
03:59Both you have to take
04:01into consideration
04:03So when we are talking about consent
04:05Both men, women
04:07or whoever the partners are
04:09Both of them should consent
04:11Of course
04:13But Ajay, what happens is
04:15a lot of men feel that
04:17when they are married
04:19they have a right on their
04:21wife's body
04:23No, that should not be the case
04:25It is a mutual thing
04:27When it comes to sex, right
04:29Obviously some people do sex for babies
04:31but some people do it for pleasure
04:33Mostly it is for pleasure
04:35Outcome is baby
04:39Yes, Ajay, high five
04:42So what are the kinds of contraceptives
04:44out there?
04:46Male or female?
04:48For male, very few are there
04:50Most of them are for the female
04:52True
04:54But that is nature
04:56We have to accept that
04:58Some boys think that
05:00condom reduces their pleasure
05:02Is that true?
05:05I don't think so
05:07I cannot tell
05:09So many things are there
05:11to give you pleasure
05:13But you have to balance
05:15the feeling of pleasure
05:17and the outcome also
05:19And the safety
05:21You can't give only pleasure
05:23No?
05:25So you have to balance that
05:27Maybe a little less feeling
05:29is there, it's okay
05:31According to you, it's important to remember
05:33the consent, consequences
05:35safety and respect
05:37Respect is key
05:39Respect is number one
05:41And mutual consent
05:43Not only one man's consent
05:47What would you say to somebody
05:49who is, because you and I
05:51in this conversation
05:53we said the words sex, condom
05:55penis, vagina
05:57How do people say when they go to the chemist
05:59I want a condom
06:01My vagina
06:03Sex
06:05Is it okay to people who still feel
06:07shame around it?
06:09They should not be so much
06:11reluctant to
06:13talk about it