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00:00Alexandra arrived with a work of manual arts.
00:07What happens is that you laugh and everything is funny,
00:11but I think the topic we are dealing with today is a tremendous topic.
00:14There are many people who were very happy when I announced it last night,
00:18not only because one suffered bullying, I also suffered a lot of bullying,
00:22and I think it is beyond bullying too,
00:25which is that self-esteem is the basis of being,
00:28and it is everything in life, as Mrs. Hilda said,
00:31empower yourself, but of course, empower yourself how?
00:34Because deep down, this comes from dysfunctional homes,
00:37from affective deficiencies, and where there are many women today,
00:40like Hilda, who fall for these emotional psychopaths,
00:43or narcissists, who destroy you, who hurt you,
00:45and that one is not able to get ready.
00:47So today I would like to explain two things,
00:50and give a tip that I have been working on this evening,
00:52late, with the little tree, but which also serves as a manual.
00:55Yes, I'm going to put the little tree here, but I want to explain it.
00:58This is a little tree, but not necessarily,
01:00so that the viewers do not complicate themselves,
01:02they can do it on a cardboard, but I would like to explain
01:05that we must make a ... the brain and the head are not adorned.
01:09Here I brought another brain again, I love it.
01:12We do not have it adorned, because we,
01:14when we normally have low self-esteem,
01:16we are used to that critical voice that speaks to you negatively,
01:19that tells you negative things,
01:21but if we do this work, which I am going to explain,
01:23we can condition the way of thinking positively for us,
01:27and the neuronal networks are producing movement.
01:30That's when you say, I think positive, action positive, result positive.
01:34Yes, exactly, because people who have low self-esteem
01:37are always thinking negatively,
01:39negative thinking, negative emotion,
01:41negative symptoms and negative behavior.
01:44So they do not dare to do anything.
01:46So I would like to explain to you that this little tree,
01:49you could do it on a cardboard,
01:51take advantage of the fact that when you are doing crafts,
01:53it allows you to be here and now,
01:55which is another tip.
01:56So I can draw a tree?
01:57You draw a little tree.
01:58I'm going to look for a tree.
01:59You draw a little tree and you put branches on it.
02:02Are you going to draw a little tree?
02:03Yes.
02:04And you put ...
02:05I'm going to draw ...
02:06A little tree with tall branches.
02:08Already.
02:09Already.
02:10And in those branches,
02:11people must go looking for their reinforcements
02:13or their resources, like here.
02:15For example, what does it say?
02:16I have internal strength, I am resilient, I am motivated,
02:20I am responsible, I set limits.
02:23It is super important in the little tree
02:25that all your reinforcements go,
02:27that they are not, I am a good friend, I am empathetic,
02:30I am a good person,
02:31because they would be conditioning each other.
02:34Normally people with self-esteem ...
02:35What happened, Jairito?
02:36Look, what happens is that I came to see this.
02:38Tell me.
02:39Because for me it is very important,
02:40because self-esteem,
02:41and I also want to ask you,
02:42I want to get one of those who are here.
02:43Get the one you want.
02:44It makes a lot of sense to me.
02:45It also has to do with knowing yourself.
02:47That.
02:48You can have self-esteem up every day,
02:50because today I can be fine,
02:52but something happens in my life,
02:53in half an hour more,
02:55that lowers my self-esteem.
02:57I don't know.
02:58So it is important to know our strengths and our weaknesses,
03:01and I'm going to get one that I find that I have,
03:03which is this,
03:04which is, I have internal strength.
03:06Can I ask you a question?
03:07Yes.
03:08That's going to be super good.
03:09To get to these resources,
03:11it has to be from your construction,
03:14without labels.
03:15By labels I mean,
03:16that they can't be tainted by what your mom,
03:19your dad told you,
03:20bullying, etc.
03:21How do you,
03:22which one did you get?
03:23Do I have strength?
03:24I have internal strength.
03:25I have internal strength.
03:26How do you know you have internal strength?
03:27Because the truth is,
03:28when I have difficulties,
03:29when I have problems,
03:30I try to think of a way,
03:32how to solve it,
03:34rather than getting stuck in the problem.
03:38Ana Maria,
03:39I would invite you to get one too.
03:41Get one too, Ana Maria.
03:42Let's see.
03:46I'm positive.
03:47I'm positive.
03:48How do you know you're positive?
03:50I'm super positive,
03:51but I also have to be very careful
03:54with being so positive always,
03:56as Jairo said.
03:57You also have to allow yourself to be bad
03:59when you obviously feel negative emotions.
04:02If I'm bad and I feel like crying,
04:04or something happened to me,
04:05I'm not going to deny that emotion,
04:06I'm going to get it out.
04:08Because if I'm always positive,
04:09I fall into toxic positivity.
04:12Wait, I need to ask you a question
04:14that will also help me.
04:15You said that when I have a negative emotion,
04:17I try to get it out.
04:18No.
04:19I get it out.
04:20You don't have to get it out.
04:21Because when you get the emotion out,
04:23it gets even worse.
04:24On the contrary,
04:25when you have a positive emotion,
04:26for example, sadness,
04:27you have to think that sadness
04:29comes and goes.
04:31Then you can close your eyes
04:33and think that a wave of the sea that comes
04:35puts it on a surfboard,
04:37you exhale,
04:38and you let it go.
04:39It comes and goes.
04:40We experience emotions all the time,
04:42especially people who have low self-esteem.
04:44So the more you get it out,
04:46the more you get it out.
04:48It flows, let it flow.
04:49When you breathe,
04:50it goes and comes like a wave of the sea
04:52that takes it away.
04:53You know what I love?
04:54I love this, I love this.
04:56Let's see, let's see the little tree.
04:57I'm afraid.
04:58What happens is that I didn't hear any of the explanation.
05:00Can you tell me about the commercial?
05:02Of the tree.
05:03Can I explain to you about the wave?
05:04I made a little tree.
05:06I'll show it to you when we get back from the commercials.
05:08Well.
05:09Let's go and come back.
05:10Can you explain to me about the tree?
05:11You're going to help me too.
05:12We're doing the tree dynamic.
05:14I made my tree.
05:15Can you see it?
05:16Wow.
05:17It looks more beautiful live.
05:22It looks weird on TV.
05:23It's not photogenic.
05:24Yes, it's not photogenic.
05:25It doesn't look hygienic.
05:26Hey, I put my strengths here.
05:29Or at least what I think.
05:30Read me a strength.
05:32I'm happy.
05:33Another one.
05:34I'm responsible.
05:35Another one.
05:36I'm resolved.
05:37Ah, very good.
05:38Why do I ask you?
05:39Why do I ask you?
05:40Again.
05:41I'm...
05:42Let's see, let's see.
05:43What else am I?
05:44I forgot.
05:45Positive.
05:46Those strengths that you made are super good because people tend to make strengths with
05:50respect to each other.
05:51And when you want to build yourself and make the drawing that you made with the tree and
05:55place all your strengths, they are for you, for the construction of yourself.
05:58Ah, I know.
05:59For example, it didn't work for me.
06:00I'm a good mom, a good partner.
06:01No, no, no.
06:02Because there you are building yourself for another.
06:06And when you want to rebuild yourself, say the label, you have to do it from yourself.
06:10And how to look for it?
06:11Well, we're going to see it later because now we're going to show a dynamic.
06:14Very entertaining.
06:15So, Claudita, you look in the mirror because I want to tell you something super important.
06:20Looking in the mirror.
06:21Look in the mirror.
06:22Look in the mirror.
06:23Yes.
06:24With confidence.
06:25With confidence.
06:26That.
06:27Today, when you look in the mirror, what do you see?
06:30What was the first thing you looked at?
06:32Because you looked down.
06:34Well, the physical part, obviously.
06:37And the physical part, do you see it as positive or negative today?
06:41No, positive.
06:42100% positive.
06:43Very good.
06:44Previously, you looked at yourself and you didn't want to see yourself.
06:47Of course.
06:48Okay.
06:49I would like to ask you a question because not all people have the possibility, suddenly,
06:53to rectify some anomaly with some operation.
06:56But you suffered a bullying.
06:58And it was very violent.
06:59When you look in the mirror, what happens now?
07:02You have a wonderful nose.
07:03It's just been operated on.
07:04What happens from the deepest part of your being with the inner part and that bullying?
07:09Do you think that has healed that?
07:11Psychologically, not yet.
07:13What part do you lack psychologically to give you some tips?
07:16And I can help the people who are listening to us.
07:18Do I have to look in the mirror?
07:19Yes, look in the mirror.
07:22Talking to her?
07:23Talking to her because I'm seeing her out there.
07:27Let's see.
07:28Talking to myself.
07:30Do I have to change the psychological part?
07:32Because I have it too damaged.
07:35What do you have damaged?
07:36What happens to you with that damaged part?
07:39Let's see.
07:40Well, I remember everything.
07:42Because the damage is there.
07:44Okay.
07:46You have never built yourself, right?
07:49No.
07:50Okay.
07:51So, what Pri did, what we did with the tree and with looking in the mirror,
07:55and I would like that through you, that you are still very damaged,
07:58you are very beautiful on the outside, but you have a tremendous trauma inside,
08:02is that you said something at the beginning, the here and now, I am from here.
08:06Start looking for all your strengths and especially what happened to you in the bullying.
08:10How did you get ahead because you survived?
08:13Maybe you got married, you have a life.
08:16Go look and look in the mirror.
08:18Every day, when one looks in the mirror, the mirror will help you.
08:22Now I think you are going to look for the most positive, look for the positive,
08:25ask and see what your internal dialogue is, what your internal critic is,
08:30and take it to the test of reality, in the here and now, and speak from yourself.
08:35Because the most important thing is that we can put on makeup on the inside, on the outside,
08:40but what we have to solve is on the inside.
08:43Yes, because in addition, many of those insecurities or not wanting us, it does not go through an operation.
08:49That's what I wanted to tell you, that there are many people, I don't know, super fast.
08:53I had a patient who wanted to have his jaw operated because he was super bad,
08:56but his jaw was operated and he came to the consultation and said to me,
08:59and now that Alexandra is still doing the same.
09:01She was super pretty, but the problem was internal.
09:04So it is super important to put on makeup on the inside,
09:07enter the house internally, connect with the resources, with the exercise that the PRI did,
09:11and put it somewhere, a tree, in a picture,
09:14and every day wake up and look at all your strengths.
09:17And with that, you are going to empower yourself, because you are going to rebuild yourself from yourself.
09:22No, and Claudia is looking forward to it.
09:24Yes, already with coming to the program, look how cute the kids left you.
09:29Claudia was made up by Alexia,
09:32she was combed by Paula.
09:33Precious work of the girl, with a lot of love.
09:36We welcome you here, not only in the program, but also on the channel.