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00:00:00This morning has come, kissing your cheeks

00:00:16This morning has come, kissing your cheeks

00:00:26This morning has come, smiling like this

00:00:47Are our children really fine?

00:00:50Do parents know that their children are absolutely fine?

00:00:53They try their best to educate their children in a good school

00:00:57Give them a good future

00:01:00Take good care of their clothing, food and everything

00:01:04Who can love their children more than their parents?

00:01:07And sometimes unknowingly, they forget

00:01:11That there is a lot going on in their children that doesn't reach them

00:01:16Every parent tries their best to be a good parent

00:01:21But sometimes we make a mistake, we don't even know

00:01:24We don't know when we have to be a friend of our child

00:01:28And when we have to be a parent of our child

00:01:31Many times we scold our children

00:01:35Because of which they don't share their inner feelings with us

00:01:40And many times we pamper our children too much

00:01:45And sometimes they get on our nerves

00:01:48So how to maintain a good relationship

00:01:53When to feed your child, when to look at your child from a lion's eye

00:01:58All this comes with experience

00:02:01Maybe you are not as good a parent as your first child

00:02:05But if you learn from your second child

00:02:07That you won't repeat the mistakes you made in your first child

00:02:12Maybe you won't be able to repeat the mistakes you made in your first and second child

00:02:17If your children are more than one

00:02:19Apply that and after implementing it

00:02:22You will realize that this is how you should have done it

00:02:25Sometimes those children look for friends in their teachers

00:02:29Sometimes they look for friends in their cousins

00:02:33Sometimes they look for friends in their class fellows

00:02:36And those are very lucky children

00:02:38Who get their friends and friends in their parents

00:02:42And they get such trust that no matter what we do

00:02:45If we tell our parents first

00:02:47Then we will get a very good destination or a very good path

00:02:52Instead of getting scolded a lot

00:02:55So how to do parenting, no one learns it

00:03:00Gradually with your experiences

00:03:03You realize that this is how you have to tackle your child's psychology

00:03:09A lot of teachers are like this

00:03:12Because they have developed the skill of teaching

00:03:18So they know how to tackle this child with his mannerism and behavior

00:03:25He is not good in studies, he is not paying attention

00:03:28And he is a good, capable student

00:03:30So it means something is going on inside him

00:03:33And the teacher knows this before the mother

00:03:36And then with the help of the mother or the help of the parent

00:03:41They make a team with which we can help that child

00:03:46Today's show is going to be something like this

00:03:49A lot of children who sometimes can't talk to their mother or parents

00:03:56They try to talk to someone else and they get help

00:04:00So today's class is something like this

00:04:02There will be some experienced mothers here

00:04:06With whom they can talk to their children

00:04:09Or if the children have any problem

00:04:12Which is going on in their heart or in their mind

00:04:15Sometimes you discuss your problems with strangers

00:04:19And they give you such an answer

00:04:21Which answers all your questions

00:04:24Without judging anyone

00:04:27Without measuring anyone

00:04:30You help them with your experience

00:04:33And that's why sometimes strangers teach you something in life

00:04:37Which you want to learn from your loved ones

00:04:40So come to a small staff room class

00:04:45In which sometimes you find it easier to ask your teacher

00:04:52Than your parents

00:04:56So if you understand that today's experienced mothers

00:05:01Will work as a teacher

00:05:04Then this won't be wrong

00:05:06Today those students, those children who want to ask something

00:05:10And maybe your children are also asking the same questions

00:05:15And they are not getting the answer

00:05:18Maybe you can learn from them

00:05:21What are the questions that your children can't answer

00:05:25Stay with us after a short break

00:05:27Good morning Pakistan

00:05:33Welcome, welcome back, good morning Pakistan

00:05:36So today in our staff room

00:05:38The teachers who are working

00:05:41Because sometimes the teacher says a lovely sentence

00:05:44And it feels like you have applied ointment on the wound

00:05:47So the teachers who are doing the ointment

00:05:50They are also self-taught

00:05:52And of course professionally

00:05:54The celebrities I have today

00:05:56They have also been in this profession professionally

00:05:59Especially Munazza Arif is with us

00:06:02Who is an educationist

00:06:03And she says if she gets a chance

00:06:05She will go back to the teaching line

00:06:07Assalamualaikum

00:06:09So you can understand this pain very well

00:06:12Yes, I am aware of it

00:06:15And our next celebrity is obviously a mother

00:06:18So she has been able to bear all these things

00:06:21What difficulties do children face

00:06:23So she will also be able to help our children with her experience

00:06:28Sunita Mashallah is with us

00:06:30Assalamualaikum

00:06:31How are you?

00:06:32Absolutely fine, you tell

00:06:33And apart from these two

00:06:35We also need professional help

00:06:37Mothers and children have it

00:06:39For that we needed expertise

00:06:42And here Dr. Neelam is my favorite

00:06:44She is a clinical psychologist present today

00:06:46Who will give us guidelines

00:06:48As to what to do

00:06:50How to tackle children at this time

00:06:52Assalamualaikum

00:06:53Thank you for having me again

00:06:55Today's topic is also a very sensitive topic

00:06:58Because all the responsibility of a mother is on her children

00:07:03They are not eating food

00:07:05They are not studying

00:07:07They are not getting good marks

00:07:08Our whole life is spent in this pain

00:07:10Exactly

00:07:11Now this has to be done

00:07:12Now this has to be done

00:07:13Now the marriage is about to happen

00:07:15After marriage you are fighting with your wife

00:07:18Or you are fighting with your husband

00:07:19We are stuck in this till our last breath

00:07:22That this responsibility never ends

00:07:25True, absolutely

00:07:26Being a parent is a lifelong responsibility

00:07:28Yes

00:07:29And specially if I talk about today's topic

00:07:31The young teenager clients we have

00:07:34I tell them that

00:07:35The personality of your parents, friends and teachers

00:07:41Which comes naturally

00:07:42Has a very strong role

00:07:44If these three areas are positive in your life

00:07:47Then your personality has to be good

00:07:50So it is important that we talk a lot about parents

00:07:54How to make a connection with the school, teachers and friends

00:07:59It is important to keep an eye on that

00:08:01From all three of you

00:08:03I don't know if you have kids or not

00:08:05Are you married or not

00:08:07So I would like to ask your experience from both of you

00:08:11Did you push your children to run in this competitive era, in this race

00:08:19Or did you tell them to pass and study well

00:08:24Everyone has their own family

00:08:26And they make different preparations

00:08:29In the beginning, when my son and daughter grew up

00:08:34I was very crazy in the beginning

00:08:37I had to get them horse riding

00:08:39I had to get them swimming

00:08:41I wanted good grades

00:08:44I ruined my health by doing all that

00:08:48And I understood in a long time

00:08:50What I was doing was wrong

00:08:53And then I calmed myself down

00:08:55And then I started paying more attention to my kids

00:08:59I felt that not everyone is perfect

00:09:02And this competition

00:09:06What were you losing from all this?

00:09:08That your kids are studying

00:09:10I was not able to give myself time

00:09:12I was working

00:09:14And I used to fight on shoots

00:09:16That my kids have horse riding time

00:09:18So I used to run and take them horse riding

00:09:21Then I used to leave the house

00:09:23Then I used to shoot again

00:09:25It was too much

00:09:27Hassan also used to do things

00:09:29But he didn't do as much as I did

00:09:33Then I realized that I am tiring my kids

00:09:37I am bringing them in a very competitive mood

00:09:40Which is wrong

00:09:42Then I realized all this

00:09:44And I calmed myself down

00:09:46Because of that my kids also calmed down

00:09:48And relaxed

00:09:50It made a big difference

00:09:52It made a difference to me and to them

00:09:54First of all there should be competition

00:09:56But a healthy competition

00:09:58You shouldn't go crazy

00:10:00So now a lot of things

00:10:02Like my son does rowing in school

00:10:05So his rowing was regatta

00:10:08So I didn't tell him

00:10:10That you have to win

00:10:12I told him just have fun

00:10:14I told him if you win

00:10:16Then obviously we will be extremely happy

00:10:18But even if you don't win

00:10:20We are still happy for you

00:10:22You just go and have fun

00:10:24So I think

00:10:26It makes a lot of difference

00:10:28I haven't studied psychology

00:10:30And I don't have much experience

00:10:32But in today's world

00:10:34According to what I think

00:10:36I think we push our kids a lot

00:10:40Let them stay for a while

00:10:42Let the teachers do some work

00:10:46And let the parents do their work

00:10:48It's not necessary

00:10:50To be involved in everything

00:10:52I have often seen teachers

00:10:54Fighting with the parents

00:10:56You don't teach my child

00:10:58Even the teachers say

00:11:00His parent has come

00:11:02He will stay in the meeting

00:11:04One small mistake is that

00:11:06In majority schools

00:11:08The number of students in a class

00:11:10Is very high

00:11:12Normally in any school

00:11:1432, 35, 36

00:11:16There are so many students in one class

00:11:18Now there is only one teacher

00:11:20She can't focus on every student

00:11:22What she does

00:11:24I think it's a natural thing

00:11:26A very smart student

00:11:28Naturally comes in the eyes of the teacher

00:11:30She often asks him questions

00:11:32It's time saving

00:11:34And you know you will get an accurate answer

00:11:36The lesson will end soon

00:11:38So the weak student is left behind

00:11:40And he also feels

00:11:42The teacher is giving more attention to him

00:11:44And not to me

00:11:46So these are the small things

00:11:48I think

00:11:50It makes a lot of difference

00:11:52In the upbringing of a child

00:11:54You tell

00:11:56First of all

00:11:58My husband and wife

00:12:00Should be on the same page

00:12:02Where the education of children

00:12:04And the question of upbringing

00:12:06There is no complete education

00:12:08Until education is involved

00:12:10So the role of parents

00:12:12Towards upbringing

00:12:14And even teachers

00:12:16Have a very important role in upbringing

00:12:18Empty education does not really do the magic

00:12:20So yes

00:12:22Children should be enabled

00:12:24That they become a part of the society

00:12:26But

00:12:28Hound them so much

00:12:30Your aunt's daughter

00:12:32Has straight A's

00:12:34So beware if you get B or C

00:12:36So this thing

00:12:38That really

00:12:40Affects their mental development

00:12:42I am asking you about your children

00:12:44You said you didn't become a team

00:12:46We didn't say

00:12:48Even if you fail, we are okay

00:12:50No we are not

00:12:52So there is a sense of expectation

00:12:54They also knew

00:12:56If we have to work, we have to do it right

00:12:58But we never made a condition

00:13:00You have to come first

00:13:02Like you Sunita

00:13:04We also inducted them in every field

00:13:06You guys

00:13:08In summer school

00:13:10There are theatrical workshops

00:13:12So they were

00:13:14Exposed to lots of things

00:13:16Musical instruments

00:13:18Because learning to play an instrument itself

00:13:20Is a mental development thing

00:13:22So we did all this

00:13:24But along with that

00:13:26We provided the assistance

00:13:28And me being

00:13:30An education person

00:13:32I had to support my children

00:13:34As much as I could

00:13:36But they didn't hound us

00:13:38That this will definitely happen

00:13:40We have some kids here

00:13:42And they will bring their problems

00:13:44To you

00:13:46So based on your experience

00:13:48And the professionals

00:13:50They need professional help

00:13:52And

00:13:54Motherly help

00:13:56And teachers help

00:13:58So we will do what we can

00:14:00It is possible that

00:14:02The kids sitting there

00:14:04Who don't have anyone to ask

00:14:06To whom they can't ask

00:14:08Maybe they will get help

00:14:10Kashan

00:14:12Kashan is with us

00:14:14Come

00:14:16To the staff room

00:14:18Enter

00:14:20Come in

00:14:22Take a seat

00:14:24Take a seat

00:14:26Ma'am

00:14:28I have a problem

00:14:30I want to say something

00:14:32My parents

00:14:34Don't understand each other

00:14:36They don't talk to each other

00:14:38And everyday

00:14:40They fight

00:14:42And my mom

00:14:44Shouts at them

00:14:46So

00:14:48Because of all this

00:14:50Our home environment

00:14:52Has a negative impact

00:14:54Because

00:14:56We can't focus on our studies

00:14:58And

00:15:00I try to freshen up

00:15:02But my sister

00:15:04Is getting irritated

00:15:06So I don't know

00:15:08How to talk to my parents

00:15:10Should we start with you?

00:15:12Sure

00:15:14I would like to talk to their parents

00:15:16More than them

00:15:18But I know

00:15:20The people who create problems

00:15:22Their kids get affected

00:15:24And looking at your age

00:15:26If there is tension

00:15:28Between the parents

00:15:30You are not that young

00:15:32So you are getting

00:15:34Disturbed

00:15:36First thing

00:15:38Even though you are growing up

00:15:40It's not your responsibility

00:15:42To fix your parents' fights

00:15:44It's not your responsibility

00:15:46So don't take the pressure

00:15:48To fix their problems

00:15:50Or stay at home

00:15:52So that I can solve their problems

00:15:54You are a kid

00:15:56And your responsibilities are different

00:15:58It's a difficult task

00:16:00But you have to focus on your goals

00:16:02You have to keep your distance

00:16:04Unless

00:16:06They involve you

00:16:08Unless they share

00:16:10Their problems

00:16:12We want you to be more involved

00:16:14Or talk to them

00:16:16Where they are sharing their expectations

00:16:18You have to go there

00:16:20But other than that

00:16:22You have to keep your distance

00:16:24Sometimes fights

00:16:26Happen because of kids

00:16:28They don't get good marks

00:16:30Or they are in a wrong company

00:16:32Or they are coming late

00:16:34So parents

00:16:36Often fight because of their kids

00:16:38If they have a realistic complaint

00:16:40If they have

00:16:42Expectations

00:16:44On which you are not able to fulfill

00:16:46You have to be involved

00:16:48And your sister

00:16:50Is younger than you

00:16:52So you have to

00:16:54Make a strong connection

00:16:56So that she has someone

00:16:58To talk to

00:17:00So when you siblings

00:17:02Have a strong bond

00:17:04You can deal with the stressor

00:17:06And wherever possible

00:17:08If you are closer to your father

00:17:10Or mother

00:17:12Give them a chance to connect

00:17:14Individually

00:17:16Talk to them

00:17:18Usually parents

00:17:20Say that it's not your problem

00:17:22We are adults

00:17:24Focus on your things

00:17:26My grades can't come right

00:17:28If there is

00:17:30Stress in the house

00:17:32Neelam

00:17:34Kids talk to their mothers

00:17:36But there are some fathers

00:17:38Who

00:17:40Can't go to them

00:17:42And tell them

00:17:44What they are feeling

00:17:46What they are feeling

00:17:48What they are doing

00:17:50They can't say it in front of their parents

00:17:52So in this situation

00:17:54If it's your grandmother

00:17:56Or someone else

00:17:58They will be more

00:18:00Connected to you

00:18:02So share it with them

00:18:04In a light note

00:18:06Don't fight everyday

00:18:08Because

00:18:10There is privacy in the house

00:18:12So tell them

00:18:14If they

00:18:16Get angry

00:18:18Or stressed

00:18:20Find someone

00:18:22Who can talk to them

00:18:24And you

00:18:26Won't solve their problem

00:18:28You will tell them

00:18:30My sister and I are stressed

00:18:32My studies are affected

00:18:34Because there is stress in the house

00:18:36So that the parents realize

00:18:38That their fights affect

00:18:40Their kids' studies

00:18:42We have a compartment in our mind

00:18:44That

00:18:46All the fights and

00:18:48Relationships

00:18:50Affect the kids' studies

00:18:52Because I am investing so much

00:18:54But all these things

00:18:56Are linked

00:18:58You are providing them

00:19:00A happy place

00:19:02You are taking it positively

00:19:04Like they shared

00:19:06How they kept their kids

00:19:08Related to their studies

00:19:10Perform and experience

00:19:12Whatever the results are

00:19:14We accept it

00:19:16It is important to give them

00:19:18A normal environment

00:19:20One more thing

00:19:22When there is stress in the house

00:19:24Usually the coping mechanism

00:19:26Of boys is

00:19:28They go out of the house

00:19:30They spend more time outside

00:19:32Especially at this age

00:19:34That's why they are more vulnerable

00:19:36To get stuck in the wrong environment

00:19:38Late night

00:19:40Smoking

00:19:42This is usually the starting point

00:19:44We have seen in our clients

00:19:46That

00:19:48At the age of 15, 16, 17, 18

00:19:50You are more vulnerable

00:19:52To someone else

00:19:54And you don't know what is right or wrong

00:19:56Because the kids want to escape

00:19:58When the kids go out and tell their friends

00:20:00To chill

00:20:02It will be easy

00:20:04This is where the problems start

00:20:06Because they want to escape

00:20:08They need an escape

00:20:10Window of peace

00:20:12They find peace through these things

00:20:14And the second thing is

00:20:16Develop your communication

00:20:18With your parents

00:20:20When they are in a good mood

00:20:22Not when they are angry

00:20:24When they are in a good mood

00:20:26You tell them

00:20:28I am having some problems

00:20:30And when they are in a good mood

00:20:32You tell them

00:20:34If the kids

00:20:36Tackle this maturely

00:20:38And are in a good mood

00:20:40Not when they are in a good mood

00:20:42Of course, they talk to you in a good mood

00:20:44At that time

00:20:46You tell them

00:20:48And in privacy

00:20:50Not in front of mom or sister

00:20:52Man to man

00:20:54Private talk

00:20:56God willing, the solution will come

00:20:58Suneeta, will you also say something?

00:21:00No, whatever they said

00:21:02Is 100% correct

00:21:04Follow their advice

00:21:06And I am sure you will be fine

00:21:08Thank you

00:21:10Let's take a short break

00:21:12And then we will see

00:21:14Who is outside the staff room

00:21:16Good morning Pakistan

00:21:22Welcome

00:21:24Welcome back, good morning Pakistan

00:21:26Today we welcome you

00:21:28In the staff room

00:21:30And a lot of responsibility

00:21:32Is put on everyone's shoulders

00:21:34Let's see what the next problem

00:21:36Is in the child's mind

00:21:38Maybe it's in your child's mind

00:21:40So with us

00:21:42Is Ayesha

00:21:44Ayesha, come

00:21:48May I come in?

00:21:50Yes, you may

00:21:52Please take a seat

00:21:56I have an issue with you

00:21:58I wanted to discuss

00:22:00An issue with you

00:22:02I want my mom to raise

00:22:04My pocket money

00:22:06But she is not doing it

00:22:08She says that

00:22:10It's very expensive

00:22:12And I have to go for hangouts

00:22:14For college

00:22:16I have to go to my friends

00:22:18To hang out

00:22:20She doesn't raise my pocket money

00:22:22Now you tell me

00:22:24What should I do

00:22:26I have to raise my pocket money

00:22:28And it's very expensive

00:22:30So why do you have to

00:22:32Hang out so much?

00:22:34I have to go

00:22:36Once or twice in a month

00:22:38I understand once

00:22:40But if you go

00:22:423-4 times in a month

00:22:44That's too much

00:22:46My son also started

00:22:483-4 plans in a month

00:22:50Then I said

00:22:52That's not possible

00:22:54You have to go to your best friend

00:22:56Once in a week

00:22:58But hanging out

00:23:00For that you have to

00:23:02Spend a lot of money

00:23:04You will go out to eat

00:23:06We will go to the

00:23:08Jumping castle

00:23:10That's not happening

00:23:12There is a surprise party

00:23:14For the birthday

00:23:16It's her birthday

00:23:18So you have to

00:23:20Control yourself

00:23:22Parents

00:23:24Don't put pressure on their kids

00:23:26They take lunch from home

00:23:28They avoid

00:23:30Parties or get togethers

00:23:32Because of the inflation

00:23:34If your parents

00:23:36Teach you in a good school

00:23:38That's a big thing

00:23:40Because a lot of parents

00:23:42Teach their kids

00:23:44They will say

00:23:46We will eat

00:23:48We will live in a less rented house

00:23:50You have to teach them in a good school

00:23:56What is Ayesha's age?

00:23:5819 years

00:24:00At this age

00:24:02There are definitely shocks

00:24:04For them

00:24:06It's difficult to understand

00:24:08Their perspective

00:24:10Ayesha if you

00:24:12Want to increase your pocket money

00:24:14Or spend time with friends

00:24:16No problem

00:24:18I am pretty sure

00:24:20You must be working hard

00:24:22But 19 is a big age

00:24:24You can take

00:24:26Financial responsibility

00:24:28Exactly

00:24:30You can teach tuitions

00:24:32If it's your father's business

00:24:34You can get help in that

00:24:36You can work online

00:24:38You can get involved in household chores

00:24:40You can take responsibility

00:24:42In return for

00:24:44What you do

00:24:46In Neelam West

00:24:48The kids are 14 years old

00:24:50They can work

00:24:52For a few hours

00:24:54And the kids do it

00:24:56Because after 18

00:24:58Their parents say

00:25:00Do it yourself

00:25:02But in our country

00:25:04Even after marriage

00:25:06The parents babysit the kids

00:25:08And get them married

00:25:10Everything

00:25:12In our country

00:25:14It's a responsibility

00:25:16There are many online jobs

00:25:18Work from home options

00:25:20You can enrol anywhere

00:25:22Like content writing

00:25:24Anything

00:25:26Internationally

00:25:28You get good jobs

00:25:30And the easiest thing

00:25:32Is to teach tuitions

00:25:34In the olden days

00:25:3619 is

00:25:38If you need money

00:25:40You have to work hard

00:25:42Until you get the money

00:25:44It won't hurt

00:25:46I used to tell my kids

00:25:48When you eat ice cream

00:25:50With your own money

00:25:52You'll want to eat it

00:25:54What I do

00:25:56On Eid

00:25:58I tell them

00:26:00This is your pocket money

00:26:02You won't get extra

00:26:04They've learnt budgeting

00:26:06How to do it

00:26:08They manage

00:26:10On your own money

00:26:12They have it?

00:26:14That's good

00:26:16They can manage

00:26:18I used to tell my kids

00:26:20That

00:26:22After two sisters and brothers

00:26:24I had to make a third room

00:26:26One day he told me

00:26:28His bed

00:26:30Will come here

00:26:32In an empty room

00:26:34His sister's curtains

00:26:36He took out the curtains

00:26:38And told me

00:26:40He has the right

00:26:42To make a separate room

00:26:44He has seen me

00:26:46Calculating

00:26:48He was saying

00:26:50Parents have a comfort room

00:26:52Sometimes

00:26:54We talk to our kids

00:26:56About budgeting

00:26:58We should

00:27:00I think this is

00:27:02The need of the time

00:27:04I want to ask you this

00:27:06How much should we talk about

00:27:08Budgeting in front of our kids?

00:27:10It shouldn't be so much pressure

00:27:12It's important

00:27:14To keep a balance

00:27:16And what's the age of the kid?

00:27:18If you talk to a 12 year old

00:27:20About budgeting, expenditure

00:27:22Or taking a loan

00:27:24He'll be under pressure

00:27:26Because he doesn't understand

00:27:28But if you talk to an 18 or 19 year old

00:27:30He'll be healthy

00:27:32Don't convey it negatively

00:27:34Even if you're worried

00:27:36About the expenses

00:27:38Or medical expenditure

00:27:40Don't tell him everything

00:27:42But tell him the limitations

00:27:44How will you make him feel?

00:27:46You'll make him feel

00:27:48When you put financial responsibility

00:27:50On your kids

00:27:52I'll tell parents

00:27:54To start early on

00:27:56Get him to do something

00:27:58Like filling bottles

00:28:00A 12 year old can fill a bottle

00:28:02If he's filling bottles

00:28:04In the fridge

00:28:06Give him some money

00:28:08At the end of the week

00:28:10A lot of parents

00:28:12Don't want their kids

00:28:14To work

00:28:16It's a bad habit

00:28:18It's a new learning

00:28:20If you work

00:28:22You'll get something in return

00:28:24It's a message from a young age

00:28:26If I work

00:28:28I'll get something in return

00:28:30You don't have to give him money for life

00:28:32Even if he's 30

00:28:34He'll get money in return

00:28:36I remember an incident

00:28:38My younger daughter

00:28:40She must be 3 or 4 years old

00:28:42She used to see

00:28:44That we go to the ATM

00:28:46To withdraw money

00:28:48She wanted something

00:28:50I told her

00:28:52I don't have money

00:28:54We'll do it later

00:28:56She told me to go to the ATM

00:28:58I told her

00:29:00You don't get money for free

00:29:02It's yours

00:29:04She understood it

00:29:06Young kids say this

00:29:08Please go to the ATM

00:29:10You'll get the money

00:29:12According to that age

00:29:14The message is right

00:29:16You have to put money in the ATM

00:29:18Then withdraw

00:29:20You have to discuss

00:29:22Financial situations

00:29:24According to their age

00:29:26If they're young

00:29:28You have to tell them

00:29:30We can take a trip once a year

00:29:32We can meet your expenses

00:29:34You can do outings with your friends

00:29:36We can arrange your birthday party

00:29:38According to their level

00:29:42As they grow up

00:29:44You have to be more open

00:29:46So that they know

00:29:48Where the money is coming from

00:29:50And what are the things

00:29:52There's another problem

00:29:54If I'm their mother

00:29:56I'll tell them

00:29:58We have to live with this

00:30:00But their friends

00:30:02Who have a lot of money

00:30:04They'll never say no

00:30:06They'll give me references

00:30:08But everyone's parents

00:30:10Give a lot of money

00:30:12I'm poor

00:30:14You didn't earn

00:30:16You're like this

00:30:18They'll feel

00:30:20My parents don't have money

00:30:22But my friends have a lot of money

00:30:24For example

00:30:26I'll give you an example

00:30:28I give my son pocket money

00:30:30Rs. 220

00:30:32When he goes to his friends

00:30:34He gets Rs. 1000

00:30:36One day he told me

00:30:38I used to count it

00:30:40And I knew I couldn't give him more

00:30:42I don't like to give kids more

00:30:44So

00:30:46One day he told me

00:30:48You give me so much

00:30:50His mother used to give him Rs. 1000

00:30:52So I told him

00:30:54Everyone has a different way of thinking

00:30:56Different way of earning

00:30:58And different way of spending

00:31:00Whatever you need

00:31:02We'll get it for you

00:31:04This is not your necessity

00:31:06It's your luxury

00:31:08And we can only give you this much

00:31:10So that day was

00:31:12The next day he never told me

00:31:14Sometimes it happens

00:31:16He studies in a school

00:31:18Classmates

00:31:20They must be very rich

00:31:22So he came

00:31:24And told me

00:31:26That kid came to my house

00:31:28And told me

00:31:30They're not very rich

00:31:32They're poor

00:31:34So I told him

00:31:36I don't make friends with rich and poor people

00:31:38I told my son

00:31:40Who is with you

00:31:42And how much peace you get

00:31:44He's sincere with you

00:31:46He's weighing

00:31:48If you're poor or rich

00:31:50I don't know if you need to dialogue with kids

00:31:52It's very important

00:31:54Dialogue

00:31:56When kids are saying something to you

00:31:58Please understand

00:32:00Kids and teenagers

00:32:02Must be very materialistic

00:32:04This is their world

00:32:06They come in this car

00:32:08Why did you send me a small car

00:32:10To pick me

00:32:12They compare

00:32:14Parents

00:32:16Don't take pressure

00:32:18My kid is feeling poor

00:32:20We didn't provide him well

00:32:22That's not the issue

00:32:24Kids will always complain

00:32:26That you didn't do enough

00:32:28You don't have to take pressure

00:32:30You have to show him another side

00:32:32First

00:32:34Not everything in the world is equal

00:32:36Some have more money

00:32:38Some have more families

00:32:40You have to take examples

00:32:42Your friend has a big house

00:32:44But his house is empty

00:32:46Only two people live

00:32:48You have grandparents

00:32:50You have to focus

00:32:52What are your blessings

00:32:54Other than money

00:32:56God

00:32:58Distributes blessings

00:33:00They are not equal

00:33:02Some things are more

00:33:04If you need more money

00:33:06Or you want us to have more

00:33:08Make your life goal

00:33:10You study well

00:33:12Choose a field

00:33:14Where you can earn more

00:33:16We will support you

00:33:18You can save them from being

00:33:20Converted into a complex

00:33:22By channelizing it positively

00:33:24That's exactly what I used to say

00:33:26I am so glad

00:33:28You are going on the right track

00:33:30I was on the right track

00:33:32This happened to me

00:33:34They were young

00:33:36I asked them

00:33:38Do you not get food?

00:33:40We go on trips every year

00:33:42There are so many kids

00:33:44Who have not gone out

00:33:46They are not privileged

00:33:48I am thankful to them

00:33:50Last year

00:33:52My son wanted a room

00:33:54We made a room for him

00:33:56Our school run car

00:33:58Got damaged

00:34:00We told them

00:34:02We have spent a lot

00:34:04We will skip vacation next year

00:34:06Then we will go next year

00:34:08They understood

00:34:10They did not question me

00:34:12They said yes

00:34:14If you have been communicating

00:34:16From the beginning

00:34:18There will be nothing new

00:34:20But if you have told them

00:34:22Everything

00:34:24If you refuse

00:34:26They will feel bad

00:34:28How did you refuse?

00:34:30On small things

00:34:32Like saving food

00:34:34If you tell them

00:34:36There are so many kids

00:34:38Who do not get food

00:34:40They feel

00:34:42We are so privileged

00:34:44There are so many kids

00:34:46Who do not have

00:34:48Clothes, shoes, food

00:34:50We have everything

00:34:52You can add

00:34:54Those blessings

00:34:56Which are not materialistic

00:34:58Food

00:35:00Clothes

00:35:02Health

00:35:04Relatives

00:35:06Love

00:35:08Parents

00:35:10If we

00:35:12Think about

00:35:14This

00:35:16It will be healthy

00:35:18Mental development

00:35:20Will go towards

00:35:22Children

00:35:24Parents

00:35:26Health

00:35:28They will feel

00:35:30Everything is healthy

00:35:32My parents

00:35:34Talk to me

00:35:36They ask me

00:35:38How was my day

00:35:40We have to put

00:35:42These thoughts in their minds

00:35:44Only then

00:35:46They generate

00:35:48Thank you so much

00:35:50We have Hania

00:35:52In the staff room

00:35:54Come

00:35:56Hania

00:35:58Assalamualaikum

00:36:00Assalamualaikum

00:36:02Come

00:36:04Yes

00:36:06My problem is

00:36:08My friends and classmates

00:36:10They bully me

00:36:12That I am overweight

00:36:14They send me pictures

00:36:16Of me looking fit

00:36:18They tell me

00:36:20I am not fit

00:36:22They send me pictures

00:36:24Of my clothes

00:36:26But they were not available

00:36:28In extra large

00:36:30So

00:36:32My studies are affected

00:36:34Sometimes I can't study

00:36:36I keep thinking

00:36:38Why did they tell me

00:36:40I do dieting

00:36:42But

00:36:44Sometimes my mom

00:36:46Tells me to eat

00:36:48But I don't

00:36:50My mom forces me

00:36:52Then I eat

00:36:54After a short break

00:36:56Who hasn't been bullied?

00:36:58Thin people

00:37:00Thin people

00:37:02Overweight people

00:37:04On colour

00:37:06On glasses

00:37:08On short or long hair

00:37:10You must have an answer

00:37:12After a short break

00:37:14Keep watching Good Morning Pakistan

00:37:20Welcome back

00:37:22Before going to Pakistan

00:37:24The girl told us

00:37:26That she is bullied

00:37:28About her weight

00:37:30And all of us

00:37:32Must have been bullied

00:37:34In our childhood

00:37:36You are bullied

00:37:38On your physical appearance

00:37:40You are bullied

00:37:42In everyone's school

00:37:44I was so tall

00:37:46I used to live in a complex

00:37:48I used to walk like this

00:37:50You used to stand in the back

00:37:52In the class

00:37:54I used to sit in the back

00:37:56A person who is capable

00:37:58Is called a nerd

00:38:00A teacher's pet

00:38:02You can't name anyone

00:38:04So why worry?

00:38:06You shouldn't be worried

00:38:08So

00:38:10Take pride in being

00:38:12Who you are

00:38:14God has created you

00:38:16For a reason

00:38:18You shouldn't worry

00:38:20If this extra weight

00:38:22Doesn't make you lazy

00:38:24Nothing to worry about

00:38:26Celebrate who you are

00:38:30When I was running a girl's school

00:38:32I used to think

00:38:34All girls should be confident about themselves

00:38:36If you listen to everyone

00:38:38You will be happy

00:38:40The society will never be happy

00:38:42You will be bullied

00:38:44So

00:38:46Unlearn

00:38:48And make it your habit

00:38:50Sometimes

00:38:52Bullying

00:38:54Gives you an advantage

00:38:56Motivation

00:38:58You join a gym

00:39:00You eat healthy

00:39:02You leave your bad eating habits

00:39:04Sometimes

00:39:06It works for you

00:39:08I feel

00:39:10The words

00:39:12Fat, thin, black, glasses

00:39:14It comes from our ancestors

00:39:16It gets inbuilt

00:39:18There were nicknames

00:39:20She has come from Kallu's house

00:39:22She has eaten Kallu's fritters

00:39:24At that time

00:39:26It was very normal

00:39:28At that time

00:39:30It was very normal

00:39:32Now

00:39:34It has become more vocal

00:39:36So I feel

00:39:38The kids who are facing this

00:39:40It is a lesson for them

00:39:42Don't use such words

00:39:44So that

00:39:46Their future generation

00:39:48They should not know

00:39:50If we say

00:39:52The kids stop us

00:39:54Don't do racism

00:39:56Don't do this

00:39:58The kids scold us

00:40:00Which is a healthy thing

00:40:02Like we are talking

00:40:04If someone says a name to you

00:40:06If someone says something

00:40:08Ignore it

00:40:10It is in your control

00:40:12I would like to add

00:40:14Bullying is a serious problem

00:40:16It affects your personality

00:40:18It affects your personality

00:40:20When does it become a problem?

00:40:22When does it become a problem?

00:40:24There are two things

00:40:26First

00:40:28If you are

00:40:30Spending 3-4 years

00:40:328 hours in school

00:40:34If for 3-4 years

00:40:36You are being made to feel

00:40:38Uncomfortable

00:40:44If the kid is not developed

00:40:46He will definitely feel conscious

00:40:48Another problem is

00:40:50In young girls' therapy

00:40:52The problem is

00:40:54Their friends gang up

00:40:58They stay alone

00:41:00And they form a group

00:41:02They go to the mall

00:41:04And target them

00:41:06that only I am being made to feel this way, only I am being pointed out that I am like this.

00:41:11So, it is definitely a painful feeling and see, our confidence, our opinion about ourselves

00:41:18is not that strong because this age, from 12 to 18, it doesn't matter what your parents

00:41:24are saying. Your parents will say that you are the best daughter in the world, you are

00:41:29very good, it won't matter because what your friends are thinking about you, that is the

00:41:34most important thing. At this age, you just have to live and die for your friends. Exactly.

00:41:38If they say jump, then jump. So, you have so much trust and those kids are in charge

00:41:45of acceptance with their friends. That's why parents should keep an eye on how the friends

00:41:50group is. Yes, exactly. Is it going to grow, is it respectful or is it more of a party?

00:41:55Right? So, obviously, your kid will also start getting into that environment. So, the first

00:42:00thing is that definitely if this is happening with you continuously and if you feel that

00:42:04it is also affecting your rest of your life. Now, you don't feel like going to school,

00:42:09you don't feel like interacting with those people, you feel that you can't stand for

00:42:13yourself or they come in front of you, then you start avoiding them. You go to drink

00:42:17water, you are getting worried during the break. So, what should they do? See, the first

00:42:21thing is, if this is getting very serious, their studies are also getting affected, sleep

00:42:24is also getting affected, food is also getting affected, therapy. Okay? You should come,

00:42:28you should talk to someone. No, but to stop that in school, you should do something.

00:42:32Talk to the teacher first. Exactly. First, get support from the teacher, from the parents.

00:42:36In fact, you should talk to your parents. Your parents should talk to your teacher. Yes.

00:42:41And the teacher should give a roundabout way, slowly, slowly, to the kids, a little bit of

00:42:46manners and start their training that all this shouldn't be done. When my kid complained

00:42:50to me that he is getting bullied, I emailed the teacher. And that teacher then, there

00:42:56was going to be a party for the kids in the class. They ended that party as a punishment.

00:43:02So, because of that, there was a little bit of tension in the class. That means, if you

00:43:06bully someone, then the matter can go further. Definitely. I solved his problem like this.

00:43:12Because I know that if he is bullied, his personality will be ruined. Okay, some kids

00:43:17don't even tell, right? If they are getting bullied, then they keep absorbing it inside

00:43:22themselves and then they don't tell. It is a very dangerous thing. First thing, definitely,

00:43:25you… We also had to ask a lot from the kid because I didn't find his behavior normal.

00:43:31I felt that he was a little sad. After asking again and again, 4-5 times, then I got the

00:43:37result that this problem is happening. That's because you had so much availability, right?

00:43:43You were so focused on your child. All the parents are not able to pay attention that

00:43:46how is his mood? If he is not eating food, then why is he not eating? So, definitely,

00:43:50I will also encourage the kids to talk first. Your safe adult, you feel comfortable with

00:43:55the teacher, you feel comfortable with the parents, talk to them. But what happens with

00:43:59this? When the school gives punishment, then the rest of the kids start excluding him more.

00:44:04You know, that you cancelled our party, you did this thing. See, here the school's responsibility

00:44:11is that there should be anti-bullying workshops. You should create awareness in the kids that

00:44:17how you have to give understanding to each other, how to make a bond.

00:44:21That's where teacher training comes in. It's very important for the teachers to know that

00:44:26if this problem is coming, then how to handle it. Very professionally, in a very covered

00:44:32way, so that there is no damage and it gets cured.

00:44:35You also tell us, Sunita, as a mother, what would you have done if this had happened to

00:44:38any of your kids?

00:44:39Thank God, I haven't faced such a thing yet. But I know that in my son's class, there

00:44:45was a girl who was being bullied. And then her mother complained, so her section was

00:44:50changed. And the other kids who were being bullied, they were given a warning. But I

00:44:55just have this fear that is your child telling you everything? And did I see in his face

00:45:07that he is changing or not? So keeping all these things in mind, every parent should

00:45:13take care of their child. If there is even a slight change in the child, then talk to

00:45:18him, communicate with him lovingly.

00:45:20Obviously, the mother gets to know, if you have three children, which of the three is

00:45:25the most verbal?

00:45:27Exactly.

00:45:28Everyone must have come to tell immediately. The rest, the mother also knows that if this

00:45:34is the girl, then she doesn't speak, she stays quiet, she keeps things in her heart.

00:45:38So you have to pay more attention to those children.

00:45:41A question related to this came to my mind. Suppose there are some best friends, and suddenly

00:45:49that girl starts bullying her own friend. And she doesn't even know that she is bullying

00:45:54him unconsciously. The parent finds out that yes, she is bullying him. Now how should the

00:46:00parent explain to their child to stop being friends with him? Because the child will not

00:46:06agree.

00:46:08See, the parent is being protective. He doesn't want his child's self-esteem to be affected.

00:46:13Because he knows that she is telling him again and again that you can't do this, you don't

00:46:17wear these clothes. You know, subtle messages he is sending. And you know that your daughter

00:46:21is becoming conscious.

00:46:22See, if you say to stop being friends here, your child will stop telling you, or delete

00:46:27those messages.

00:46:28What you have to do is, you have to teach your child the boundary setting. That when

00:46:33someone talks to you like this, you don't have to say yes or no. You have to say thank

00:46:38you very much. I like every color. Thank you very much. I like this way too. Why should

00:46:43I stay behind? I will go and talk. I will go and lead. So you have to teach your child

00:46:48how to stand for yourself.

00:46:50That is, if you say in common language that you don't want to be a bad person.

00:46:53That's it.

00:46:54You will see a lot of people in your circle. Now we have grown up. There is someone who

00:47:01makes a doormat for everyone.

00:47:03Exactly.

00:47:04And then that poor guy is always making a doormat.

00:47:07And that development is from this age. That you will become a doormat or learn to stand

00:47:11for yourself. All those things start developing at this age. If at this age, you have this

00:47:18healthy balance that I have to take care of people to what extent and after this, my

00:47:24respect is lost. Thank you very much. Now I am like this. And I am okay with that.

00:47:28I don't want to misbehave. I don't want to fight. But I don't appreciate this comment of yours.

00:47:34So how will your child give this message to his best friend? That is up to you.

00:47:40Absolutely.

00:47:42Thank you. Now there is Nabiha who wants to come to the staff room and talk to you.

00:47:49Yes, Nabiha. Nabiha, come.

00:47:53Yes.

00:47:54Come in.

00:47:55Assalamualaikum.

00:47:56Walaikumassalam.

00:47:57Take a seat.

00:47:59My issue is that my younger brother gets better marks than me.

00:48:05And my studies are not that good. But my interest is more in sports.

00:48:11So my parents, relatives and friends compare me to him.

00:48:15They say, he gets better marks than you.

00:48:20Why don't you get better marks than him?

00:48:23So this is my issue.

00:48:26That's such a serious issue.

00:48:29The sibling competition is the worst thing for learning.

00:48:34The child falls into such depths that it is very difficult to pick him up from there.

00:48:42And the biggest damage is happening at home.

00:48:45The sad thing is that how can anyone intervene from outside and tell the parents not to do this?

00:48:52Allah has sent every child with a set of intelligence.

00:48:57Some have more intelligence in one area and some in another.

00:49:02So to compare like this, all of you should get A plus grades and all of you should do this.

00:49:08I remember that my younger sister was very good in Maths.

00:49:12And she knew my Maths.

00:49:14So one day my grandfather said,

00:49:17If you don't do it, your younger sister will pass and you will fail.

00:49:21You will have to study with her in the next class.

00:49:23Oh my God!

00:49:25This comment was so difficult.

00:49:28I cried for hours in a storeroom.

00:49:32I will never repeat the class with her.

00:49:36But it takes a lot of time to make yourself out of it.

00:49:40But eventually I started hating Mathematics.

00:49:43So they become traumas for the children.

00:49:46They come and say that there is no future in sports.

00:49:53Teach her. Her brother studies so well. She doesn't do this.

00:49:57The achievements of our sportspersons are in front of you.

00:50:01How many national heroes do we have?

00:50:04And how much God has blessed them with respect.

00:50:07Now I think there will be no parent who will discourage a child.

00:50:12And especially the girls.

00:50:14If anyone discourages the girls to come forward in sports,

00:50:17That's the best time for girls to shine out.

00:50:19Please carry on doing this.

00:50:21And the parents who are watching,

00:50:23If your daughter or child is interested in sports,

00:50:27Then encourage her.

00:50:29We need good sportspersons.

00:50:32What I would like to say to parents is,

00:50:34If you get a job,

00:50:36And you think of it as a job,

00:50:38That you have to go to office in the morning and in the evening,

00:50:41When you don't have a job of your choice,

00:50:43Then how do you live your life?

00:50:45Similarly, there is a subject or education.

00:50:48If you get a job of your choice,

00:50:50Then every morning there is a challenge for you.

00:50:53Whether it is a business, a TV show,

00:50:56Whether it is medical,

00:50:58If you are in any field,

00:51:00And if it is a job of your choice,

00:51:02Then you do your best and excel in it.

00:51:05Similarly, there are children too.

00:51:07If the children like the subject,

00:51:10If the teachers like it,

00:51:12I don't know what they are doing in that subject.

00:51:16I remember Nida,

00:51:18When I was teaching,

00:51:20Since I started my career from a boys school,

00:51:24There was a boy who was very good at cricket.

00:51:27His sports teacher came to me and said,

00:51:30Please give him some additional time.

00:51:32He is very good.

00:51:34Even if he misses his class,

00:51:38At times there were test matches,

00:51:40For which he didn't come to class all day.

00:51:43But he was in the ground.

00:51:45So I told him to give him extra time.

00:51:47He is very good at sports.

00:51:49At that time, there was a call from my profession too,

00:51:53That I have to help him because he is excelling there.

00:51:56So this is a message for teachers too,

00:51:58If you have a sports,

00:52:00Kinetically intelligent child,

00:52:03Support him for a good cause.

00:52:05Give him some time.

00:52:07And one more thing,

00:52:09If the teacher says this to the parent,

00:52:11Many parents listen to the teacher a lot.

00:52:14So if the teacher also convinces them,

00:52:17That your daughter has more talent in sports than in studies,

00:52:21And she can excel in it.

00:52:23Even then the parents understand.

00:52:26But if the teacher says,

00:52:28Look at your son and daughter.

00:52:30What is happening?

00:52:32In our culture,

00:52:34The parents of teachers listen a lot.

00:52:38They listen a lot.

00:52:40Yes, the teacher said it.

00:52:42There is a lot of respect too.

00:52:44I think in our culture,

00:52:46People unconsciously compare.

00:52:50Because it has happened to me.

00:52:52My daughter was very intelligent.

00:52:56And my son was not.

00:52:59He did not understand things quickly.

00:53:01So I used to compare unconsciously.

00:53:04Okay, you do not know his spellings.

00:53:06And Zainab is two years younger than him.

00:53:08You tell me his spelling.

00:53:10He said the correct spelling.

00:53:12I did not realize at that time,

00:53:14What am I doing?

00:53:16I did an ARY drama,

00:53:18Pinjra.

00:53:19This was the subject in it.

00:53:22When I read the script,

00:53:24I was also shooting the drama.

00:53:26I realized that,

00:53:28This is the same thing written in the drama,

00:53:31What I am doing with my children.

00:53:33And that is the time when I realized,

00:53:35That I am doing wrong.

00:53:37And I immediately stopped myself.

00:53:39Changed.

00:53:40I did not tell my children.

00:53:42Obviously they were young,

00:53:43That I made a mistake.

00:53:45But I gave my son more time.

00:53:49When we become a mother,

00:53:51We do not learn from our mother's stomach.

00:53:53We also make mistakes.

00:53:55And then we realize,

00:53:57Here we made a mistake.

00:53:59And thank God,

00:54:00We can correct those mistakes.

00:54:02And we did not make a big mistake,

00:54:04Which ruined the lives of our children.

00:54:06Alhamdulillah.

00:54:07So you are not an angel.

00:54:09You are a mother.

00:54:10You are a human.

00:54:11If you also made a small mistake,

00:54:13And you have a margin,

00:54:15That you can correct it,

00:54:16Then it is not too late.

00:54:17That's why we made this program.

00:54:18And children are not a factory product.

00:54:20Yes.

00:54:21That they are coming out of the same shell.

00:54:23And they are coming out like angels.

00:54:25Exactly.

00:54:26So this is the nature of God.

00:54:28He has made every person,

00:54:30An individual.

00:54:32He has made a unique person.

00:54:34So that individuality is celebrated.

00:54:36This means,

00:54:37All the things we are explaining to you,

00:54:38Send your mother and make her understand.

00:54:40Yes.

00:54:41Eventually the things will reach her.

00:54:43We are taking a short break.

00:54:44Keep watching after the break.

00:54:45Good Morning Pakistan.

00:54:49Welcome.

00:54:50Welcome back.

00:54:51Good Morning Pakistan.

00:54:52We were talking during the break,

00:54:53Which teacher do we remember?

00:54:55Which teacher do we remember or not?

00:54:57Many teachers have taught us.

00:54:59But there must have been some good or bad actions,

00:55:03Because of which we remembered them.

00:55:05And in our upbringing,

00:55:07Other than parents,

00:55:08Teachers have a very big role.

00:55:10They are our teachers.

00:55:11They teach us.

00:55:12And we have to learn from them.

00:55:13And we have to learn from them.

00:55:14And we have to learn from them.

00:55:15And we have to learn from them.

00:55:16And we have to learn from them.

00:55:17And they play a very big role.

00:55:18Ofcourse.

00:55:19A very big role.

00:55:20Because there are many things

00:55:21You might think or say in your life,

00:55:23But you learnt it because of that teacher.

00:55:26You learnt it because of his attitude.

00:55:29The first crush of a kid is his teacher.

00:55:32Exactly.

00:55:34So let's see what's the problem with the next student.

00:55:37His name is Munam.

00:55:38Assalamualaikum.

00:55:39Come in.

00:55:41Yes, where are you?

00:55:42Come in.

00:55:43Come in.

00:55:44What's your name?

00:55:45Your name is the most difficult

00:55:48It's a fun name, Monam

00:55:49I've heard it for the first time

00:55:50Yeah, I've heard it for the first time too

00:55:51My main issue is that I've had a lot of friendships

00:55:56Okay

00:55:57Apart from the area, apart from the school

00:55:59Friendships, sweet!

00:56:01Good

00:56:02But my college friends are very advanced

00:56:05They smoke, they vape

00:56:08And the environment in our house has always been strict

00:56:10Our father never let us touch anything

00:56:13Even when we used to go to him, he used to beat us up

00:56:17Now, I sit with them

00:56:19It's become a social bonding

00:56:21And my mindset also connects well with them

00:56:25But then they pressure me to smoke and vape

00:56:29But I tried once

00:56:31But I didn't like it at all

00:56:33So they tell you that you'll only become cool

00:56:36When you're like them, right?

00:56:38And you're laughing there

00:56:39Sign of manliness

00:56:41My parents have good expectations

00:56:45And I don't want to disappoint them

00:56:47So, I don't understand

00:56:49I have a good bonding with them

00:56:52I can't be friends with them

00:56:54But I can't smoke and vape

00:56:56This is a very big issue

00:56:58The issue of this kid

00:56:59I don't know how many kids have this issue

00:57:04Can I?

00:57:05Yes, please

00:57:06First of all, kudos to you

00:57:08It's a very good thing that you're understanding this as a problem

00:57:11Most of the teenagers of your age

00:57:14They don't even consider it a problem

00:57:16They say, I want to smoke, so what?

00:57:18We'll do it secretly

00:57:19They won't know at home

00:57:20They'll change their shirt and go

00:57:22They'll cover it

00:57:23They'll come at this time and do it

00:57:24They don't even consider it a problem

00:57:26How peer pressure is affecting you

00:57:29So, you consider it a problem

00:57:31Because you don't want to blend in their company

00:57:34It's a good thing

00:57:35The values your parents have put in you

00:57:38Are healthy

00:57:39Exactly

00:57:40Definitely, because you're young

00:57:42You won't agree to leave them

00:57:44Can't you separate your best friends?

00:57:47You're connecting with them

00:57:49You won't leave them 100%

00:57:51I would like to explain one thing to you

00:57:53The whole game is about energies

00:57:56Whose energy is stronger?

00:58:00If you feel that the values your parents have given you

00:58:04Are strong in you

00:58:06And your energy is powerful

00:58:08Then you can change those people

00:58:10Because of your energy

00:58:12But if you feel that you're not that strong

00:58:15You get convinced easily

00:58:18Then keep a little distance

00:58:20Because it's not possible

00:58:22That you stay with them 24x7

00:58:24And not be like them

00:58:26There's a saying in English

00:58:27Man is known by the company he keeps

00:58:29Your environment will be the same

00:58:32If not today, then tomorrow

00:58:34If you feel that you're that strong

00:58:36And you can positively influence their life

00:58:39Then you can develop a one on one equation

00:58:42Which is less in drugs, smoking and other things

00:58:46And develop a one on one equation

00:58:48Why are you doing this?

00:58:49Why are you spoiling your lungs?

00:58:51Why are you doing these things?

00:58:52I run, you run

00:58:54What's the difference in our running?

00:58:55If you feel that you're that strong

00:58:58That you can bear this pressure

00:59:00Then you can stay connected with them

00:59:02Otherwise, keep your health, your life

00:59:05And your future safe

00:59:08These days, there's a lot of free knowledge

00:59:11On YouTube and Instagram

00:59:14I was listening to a mother

00:59:17And I was shocked

00:59:19She said that her children's friends

00:59:23Were saying that their experience was

00:59:26That their children's friends

00:59:28Have a strong observation of their mothers

00:59:30They used to see which child is more honest

00:59:32Or has a good relationship with their family

00:59:35She used to say that she used to force her children

00:59:38Or force her children to make friends

00:59:41I used to call them to my house

00:59:43Or I used to take them

00:59:45Being a clingy mother

00:59:48And that helped me

00:59:49To have a good company around my children

00:59:52I was giving them a good education at home

00:59:55But more than me, at school

00:59:58They used to stay awake for 8 hours

01:00:01At school or college

01:00:03So obviously, their company mattered a lot

01:00:06I was so touched by what she said

01:00:09That I used to call her home

01:00:12As a clingy mother

01:00:15I used to send her gifts

01:00:17So that my children's friendship

01:00:18Was with those children

01:00:20The problem you told me

01:00:22There are two aspects of it

01:00:24That I can understand

01:00:26If I was in your place

01:00:28They wouldn't be vaping or smoking all the time

01:00:31I would tell them

01:00:33That I can't join you at this time

01:00:36Otherwise, we are very good friends

01:00:38You can hold on to the friendship

01:00:39But you are not part of smoking

01:00:41This is strictly forbidden in our house

01:00:44This is your one to one

01:00:46Tackling with them

01:00:48As far as those children are concerned

01:00:51Like she said

01:00:52If you can convince them

01:00:54If you can't

01:00:56Then at least

01:00:57Take the teacher or an elder person

01:00:59With confidence

01:01:01To inform their parents

01:01:04That your children are doing this

01:01:06Which is not really healthy

01:01:08So that if the parents don't know

01:01:11That their children are smoking

01:01:12Or vaping

01:01:13At least they don't do anything

01:01:15You are a teacher

01:01:17You will never tell your children

01:01:19Never

01:01:20Don't tell your children

01:01:22I don't know if I have been clear enough

01:01:24You tell your teacher

01:01:26So that they can inform their parents

01:01:28But if those children find out

01:01:30That she has snitched

01:01:32Then you can ask her

01:01:34How will they find out?

01:01:36Small children say

01:01:37You are a snitcher

01:01:38You have snitched

01:01:40My younger child says

01:01:42I can't tell the teacher

01:01:44She will say that I have snitched

01:01:45All my classmates

01:01:46Look, she won't be the only one

01:01:48Who knows about vaping and smoking

01:01:5050 more people know about it

01:01:52It's not just about smoking and vaping

01:01:54Only Monim knows about it

01:01:56The rest of the classmates don't know about it

01:01:58Even if you sneeze a little

01:02:00The whole class knows about it

01:02:02Thanks to social media and everything

01:02:04Everyone knows about it

01:02:06It's not like that anymore

01:02:08It used to be a problem in the olden days

01:02:10If she complained, everyone knew

01:02:12Now everyone knows

01:02:14We can approach it from that direction

01:02:16Be sincere with your boundaries

01:02:18Be sincere

01:02:20That I am not with you at this time

01:02:22Do smoking

01:02:24Then we sit together and eat samosas

01:02:26We chat

01:02:28Friendships are made in different ways

01:02:30It's not just about

01:02:32Smoking, vaping or drinking

01:02:34Sometimes

01:02:36You help your friends

01:02:38When they are stuck in a difficult time

01:02:40Whether it's studies

01:02:42Friendships are like that

01:02:44My child doesn't study here

01:02:46We have given him values

01:02:48He is famous among friends

01:02:50Because he is kind

01:02:52He helps everyone

01:02:54He has told me

01:02:56If you study in a western culture

01:02:58People drink and smoke there

01:03:00To save yourself in that environment

01:03:02You have to give very strong values

01:03:06But his friendships are because

01:03:08He is kind to everyone

01:03:10He helps

01:03:12Whether it's studies

01:03:14Or shifting

01:03:16Or something else

01:03:18You can make good friends like that

01:03:20He will tell you

01:03:22He is not with us in bad things

01:03:24But he helps us in bad times

01:03:26You have to choose

01:03:28Like he said

01:03:30At what time do you want to be with him

01:03:34I see so many things

01:03:36This time is yours

01:03:38When you can party

01:03:40When you can fall into bad things

01:03:42When you feel you are enjoying

01:03:44This is the time

01:03:46When you can become something

01:03:48When the world is

01:03:50Going wrong

01:03:52When you go in the right direction

01:03:54You will become something

01:03:56This is the time

01:03:58It's a precious time

01:04:00Stay focused

01:04:02Don't worry about that

01:04:04Keep your boundaries

01:04:06Firm

01:04:08We also work in this field

01:04:10There are good people in this field

01:04:12There are bad people

01:04:14It's the same

01:04:16People around you

01:04:18You filter them

01:04:20You sit with them

01:04:22You have to filter

01:04:24In life

01:04:28All the best Monam

01:04:30Best of luck

01:04:32May God keep you on the right path

01:04:34Inshallah

01:04:36Umama

01:04:38Please come

01:04:42Come

01:04:44Assalamualaikum

01:04:48My problem is

01:04:50My family

01:04:52Is conservative

01:04:54I have always been

01:04:56The highest achiever

01:04:58In my school and college

01:05:00But my family always

01:05:02Wants me to get married soon

01:05:04But

01:05:06I don't want to get married

01:05:08I have thought a lot about my future

01:05:10I want to study

01:05:12I want to achieve my goals

01:05:14I discussed this with my mom

01:05:16But she can't say this

01:05:18In front of my family

01:05:20I can't even

01:05:22Discuss this with my friends

01:05:24Apart from that

01:05:26They are looking for engagement

01:05:28But I

01:05:30Don't want to get involved

01:05:32Because

01:05:34There are a lot of responsibilities

01:05:36And expectations

01:05:38I don't know

01:05:40How to face this problem

01:05:42I want to study

01:05:44But they are not letting me

01:05:46This is a very common problem

01:05:48That our girls

01:05:50Especially face

01:05:52I think you will be the right person

01:05:54To answer this

01:05:56Who is the most supportive

01:05:58In your family

01:06:00As an adult

01:06:02Who is the most supportive

01:06:04In your studies

01:06:06My mom is happy

01:06:08But she can't say this

01:06:10In front of my family

01:06:12So you are the first person

01:06:14Who is taking studies seriously

01:06:16As a girl

01:06:20This is called generational trauma breaker

01:06:22You are the first person

01:06:24Who is ignoring your family

01:06:26You want to do something different

01:06:28Sorry, your name?

01:06:30Umama

01:06:32You will face resistance

01:06:34You have to choose

01:06:36And I know it's not fair

01:06:38Because you are very young

01:06:40But this is the reality of your life

01:06:42You have to choose

01:06:44For your education

01:06:46To what extent

01:06:48Can you tolerate family resistance

01:06:50You won't get both

01:06:52Your educational success

01:06:54And family approval

01:06:56You have to choose

01:06:58Who is the decision maker

01:07:00In your family

01:07:02Who is your grandma

01:07:04Who is your dad

01:07:06You are still looking for a match

01:07:08You have to

01:07:10Make your connection

01:07:12With the decision maker

01:07:14You have to get close to them

01:07:16You have to show them

01:07:18Your grades

01:07:20Your teacher's feedback

01:07:22What they say about you

01:07:24You have to start

01:07:26Showing them

01:07:28So that they understand

01:07:30What you want from your life

01:07:32Parents' concern

01:07:34Is about safety

01:07:36They think

01:07:38You will get married soon

01:07:40You will be safe

01:07:42In our culture

01:07:44Younger girls

01:07:46Get married easily

01:07:48And people are looking for young girls

01:07:50So parents are worried

01:07:52That she will get married

01:07:54At an urgent time

01:07:56For studies or career

01:08:00So parents are worried

01:08:02And people get scared

01:08:04Of the current condition of the country

01:08:06They are scared

01:08:08They want their family to be settled

01:08:10Many girls

01:08:12Are settled

01:08:14But they are not getting

01:08:16The right proposals

01:08:18But it happens

01:08:20There are a lot of girls who study even after marriage, even after having kids, they make their careers.

01:08:26But it is very difficult Sunita.

01:08:28It is very difficult, I know it is very difficult.

01:08:30But I say that Allah has given women the ability to multitask.

01:08:35That she can do it because she is so strong.

01:08:37But Sunita, it will only be possible when her in-laws are supportive.

01:08:41Yes, so I want to come to the same point that before marriage, you meet your future husband.

01:08:48Now is not the time to get married overnight.

01:08:50You must talk to him that I want to study further, I want to build my career.

01:08:56And sometimes in-laws are very fond of having an educated daughter-in-law.

01:08:59Absolutely.

01:09:00Sometimes they are very fond of it.

01:09:02And then they let you study more, but it is your fate.

01:09:05But the girl's family can also keep this condition that yes, we will do it or we will get married.

01:09:11This is how it is.

01:09:12Whatever further study program you want to do, whether you want to do a master's or a bachelor's.

01:09:19If you do this, then after that we will get married.

01:09:22And you can put a bridge in the middle that yes, I will agree.

01:09:27If you want to agree with me, it is up to you.

01:09:33But I will get married after completing my education.

01:09:38Exactly.

01:09:39If you say no, I don't want to get married until I complete my degree.

01:09:43Then you will be under a lot of pressure.

01:09:45Because they will feel what she is saying.

01:09:47So they will not listen to you at all.

01:09:49But find a way in between.

01:09:51And again, girls have the ability to be emotionally intelligent.

01:09:55They can talk in a balanced way.

01:09:57That you marry me or get married.

01:10:00At least in a house where there is no problem with my education.

01:10:04So you can at least tell your family to come to an educated family.

01:10:08Or those who know about me and appreciate me.

01:10:13So that is important.

01:10:15So if you keep this condition, the elders will resist.

01:10:20You will say that this is my request.

01:10:22I want this for my life.

01:10:25If they don't agree, then what do they have to do?

01:10:28Patience.

01:10:29The first thing is patience.

01:10:31Because how much will you go against your parents or everyone.

01:10:34And then the second part is that where you have decided.

01:10:37With which you have connectivity or the relationship is fixed.

01:10:39You share this with them.

01:10:41When two people are connecting in a marriage.

01:10:44For any reason.

01:10:45It can't be that there is an upper hand from the beginning.

01:10:48Or someone is dominating.

01:10:49Your family will find a good family.

01:10:52Will find a loving family.

01:10:53So what kind of connectivity do you have with your fiancé or partner?

01:10:58And how do you tell them that this is important for me.

01:11:01If you say no, then I can't do anything.

01:11:04But maybe I am not happy as a person.

01:11:06Because the thing inside me will be that I could have done it.

01:11:09And I couldn't do it.

01:11:11So maybe I will have regrets for the rest of my life.

01:11:14But nowadays I will tell my parents.

01:11:16We are trying to make them understand.

01:11:17I will tell my parents to educate their daughters.

01:11:20And stand on their feet.

01:11:22Then get them married.

01:11:24Because nowadays we don't know about the situation.

01:11:26How will they go home?

01:11:27God forbid.

01:11:28If someone makes a wrong decision.

01:11:29The parents can also make a wrong decision.

01:11:31Those who have been married and gone.

01:11:33They are not worthy of you giving them your daughter.

01:11:35Or the financial situation can change in the future.

01:11:38At least have a skill.

01:11:40They don't want you to work.

01:11:42But if you have this opportunity.

01:11:44Because couples are moving out.

01:11:46They are starting their lives there.

01:11:48So if you have a skill, a degree.

01:11:50Then it will also help the partner.

01:11:52If necessary.

01:11:53This thing can be useful.

01:11:55You said that if you don't agree.

01:11:57And if you get married.

01:11:59Then with age.

01:12:01Education is not a condition.

01:12:04At any age.

01:12:05At any time.

01:12:07You can enroll again for your studies.

01:12:09And you can study further.

01:12:11I have done two professional courses.

01:12:13In the presence of three children.

01:12:15My younger daughter was just four months.

01:12:17And I used to write my assignments.

01:12:19She used to put all the children to sleep at night.

01:12:21I used to sit here at night and read my books.

01:12:23I used to write my assignments.

01:12:25I used to sleep.

01:12:27It was a very painful time.

01:12:29But now I feel very proud of myself.

01:12:31That so many responsibilities.

01:12:33You got married early.

01:12:35I had given the last paper of the master's.

01:12:37So I got married.

01:12:39So the point is.

01:12:41It is not necessary that you can study now.

01:12:43And can't study later.

01:12:45Even if you get married.

01:12:47So don't give up this hope.

01:12:49But it should not be delayed.

01:12:51I will tell you one thing.

01:12:53Children have thought a lot.

01:12:55We will do it after 30s.

01:12:57Because everything has a time.

01:12:59Obviously there is a time to become a mother.

01:13:01If all these things happen together.

01:13:03Then you have a perfect life.

01:13:05So don't delay too much.

01:13:07While making a career.

01:13:09Doctors say.

01:13:11You must know.

01:13:13If you try to become a mother after 34.

01:13:15There are a lot of complications.

01:13:17Then all those things cannot be completed.

01:13:19There are a lot of things happening medically.

01:13:21I am not talking on screen.

01:13:23There are a lot of things.

01:13:25But still there is a time for everything.

01:13:27And if everyone takes a balance.

01:13:29Then it will be better.

01:13:31Keep watching Good Morning Pakistan.

01:13:39Welcome. Welcome back.

01:13:41Good Morning Pakistan.

01:13:43So today in the staff room.

01:13:45We are getting to know some big news.

01:13:47Are there such things in the staff room?

01:13:49There are a lot of things.

01:13:51There are negative and good things.

01:13:53There is a lot of Khichdi.

01:13:55Are you talking about yourself or students?

01:13:57We are talking about ourselves.

01:13:59Your brother-in-law is getting married.

01:14:01What are you wearing?

01:14:03Because you need to unwind.

01:14:05You have taught a tough lesson.

01:14:07So you have to unwind a little.

01:14:09You are wearing a very nice suit.

01:14:11Where did you get it from?

01:14:13This is also going on.

01:14:15So let's see.

01:14:17Ali, come inside.

01:14:21Can I come in?

01:14:23Yes, come in.

01:14:25Ali has opened the door.

01:14:27I will close the door.

01:14:29No one should hear you.

01:14:31Ma'am, actually my issue is that.

01:14:35I am very worried.

01:14:37I may be demotivated in studies.

01:14:39Because my father and his relatives.

01:14:41They are all doctors.

01:14:43My father forces me.

01:14:45To become a doctor.

01:14:47I am very worried.

01:14:49That's why I am demotivated.

01:14:51You don't want to become a doctor.

01:14:53I have an opposite interest.

01:14:55I have an interest in computer science.

01:14:57Computer science is very good.

01:14:59It's a computer science.

01:15:01It's very difficult to make parents understand.

01:15:03It's a very general problem.

01:15:05In our family.

01:15:07There are doctors everywhere.

01:15:09You will have to become one.

01:15:11If I say something from my heart.

01:15:13There are a lot of clients.

01:15:15Who are doctors.

01:15:17And they are coming to therapy.

01:15:19Because they are depressed.

01:15:21An unhappy doctor.

01:15:23That can be the worst thing for your life.

01:15:25Medical is a profession.

01:15:27Which never ends.

01:15:29You will do your residency.

01:15:31Even after that you have to give papers.

01:15:33This remains lifelong.

01:15:35It's a very difficult decision.

01:15:37To study medicine.

01:15:39To practice medicine.

01:15:41To see the patients.

01:15:43No stress.

01:15:45No work-life balance.

01:15:47If a person is helpless.

01:15:49Then his coping will be ruined.

01:15:51My sincere request to parents.

01:15:53As a clinical psychologist.

01:15:55Don't do this to your children.

01:15:57Don't put anything like medicine on them.

01:15:59If they have an interest.

01:16:01They want to work.

01:16:03They have fun in theory.

01:16:05It's their passion.

01:16:07The one who has a passion.

01:16:09Has a passion.

01:16:11There are grades.

01:16:13They are good in theory.

01:16:15Their road memory is good.

01:16:17They are good in science.

01:16:19When all this is matching.

01:16:21Then you tell your children.

01:16:23Take a decision.

01:16:25Because you are involved in other people's lives.

01:16:27And we have all experienced.

01:16:29Those doctors.

01:16:31Who were not good doctors.

01:16:33They have bad experiences with doctors.

01:16:35Because of them.

01:16:37Others have suffered.

01:16:39We have seen so many hospitals.

01:16:41Mistakes have been made by doctors.

01:16:43They are humans.

01:16:45They are not angels.

01:16:47If you are choosing this.

01:16:49As a negativity.

01:16:51And along with that.

01:16:53Five years.

01:16:55Five years are the most important years of your personality.

01:16:57What will happen with them?

01:16:59Because the pressure of the family.

01:17:01He is very young right now.

01:17:03He will refuse again and again.

01:17:05And if he is good in studies.

01:17:07You are getting A+.

01:17:09Why don't you do it?

01:17:11He will do it.

01:17:13But for five years.

01:17:15Compared to other classmates.

01:17:17Less.

01:17:19The child who was already good in studies.

01:17:21Whose aptitude was good.

01:17:23Will drop his grades in medical university.

01:17:25And in that.

01:17:27This feeling of inferiority will come.

01:17:29I am not worthy.

01:17:31I can't do this.

01:17:33Because he has a lot of exams.

01:17:35And until you are not interested.

01:17:3710-12 hours of studying.

01:17:39Till then you are a doctor.

01:17:41You can't be a doctor of a decent level.

01:17:45One of my acquaintances.

01:17:47His parents said.

01:17:49We have engineers in our family.

01:17:51You will also have to do engineering.

01:17:53That boy said.

01:17:55That boy wanted to study marketing.

01:17:57He thought he could do it.

01:17:59He took engineering degree to please his parents.

01:18:01And then.

01:18:03He said I will not become an engineer.

01:18:05I took the degree.

01:18:07After that he went professionally.

01:18:09In the field of marketing.

01:18:11And he got a very good position.

01:18:13But then.

01:18:15From his parents.

01:18:17He did his catharsis.

01:18:19Because of you people.

01:18:21I was left behind a lot of people.

01:18:23It took time.

01:18:25It took time for me to get here.

01:18:27If you had allowed me to study marketing.

01:18:29Where I have reached now.

01:18:31I would have reached here long ago.

01:18:33The years of his life were wasted.

01:18:35He had to learn something again.

01:18:37And he will be angry.

01:18:39He will be angry for his parents.

01:18:41From his parents.

01:18:43And many such parents.

01:18:45Who want to give their children a secure future.

01:18:47My question to them is.

01:18:49Do you want a successful child?

01:18:51Or do you want a happy child?

01:18:53He will be successful.

01:18:55He will be successful.

01:18:57You got him admitted.

01:18:59Because you have sources.

01:19:01But he will never be happy.

01:19:03One more thing.

01:19:05Parents are also very anxious.

01:19:07Often such young children.

01:19:09Look at their friends.

01:19:11If he is going to college.

01:19:13If he is taking this subject.

01:19:15Then I will also take that.

01:19:17Sometimes the children themselves do not know.

01:19:19What they have to do.

01:19:21They see our group of friends.

01:19:23And he is choosing this subject.

01:19:25So the children go there.

01:19:27So parents often think.

01:19:29That their children do not know.

01:19:31What they have to do in life.

01:19:33So what should parents do there?

01:19:35First of all.

01:19:37Because you are the parents of that child.

01:19:39No one knows them as well as you do.

01:19:41But the problem is.

01:19:43Parents are mostly.

01:19:45Instead of parenting their children.

01:19:47They are parenting themselves.

01:19:49The opportunities we have not got.

01:19:51We want to forcefully give it to the children.

01:19:53If we do horse riding.

01:19:55We do not have those options.

01:19:57So we want our children.

01:19:59To go into everything.

01:20:01The child says I do not want to do it.

01:20:03I want to do it through the child.

01:20:05The child says I have no hobby.

01:20:07I could not become a doctor.

01:20:09But I want you to do it.

01:20:11I have earned so much.

01:20:13So please come out of it.

01:20:15Your child will do it.

01:20:17But he will not do it happily.

01:20:19Please make it a little easier.

01:20:21Second thing.

01:20:23The children are now becoming unconscious.

01:20:25And they are becoming early.

01:20:27At the age at which we started to understand.

01:20:29Why am I doing it?

01:20:31Now the children.

01:20:33They have started to become aware of themselves.

01:20:35So give them a little respect.

01:20:37If he is going to a university because of his friends.

01:20:39He is going behind them.

01:20:41That is the need of this age.

01:20:43You cannot disconnect him from his friends.

01:20:45Let him go.

01:20:47Third thing.

01:20:49If your GPA is less than 3.5 or 3.4.

01:20:51Then we will re-evaluate your career decision.

01:20:53It will take a year.

01:20:55It will take 6 months.

01:20:57Let him do it.

01:20:59And attach some conditions.

01:21:01If the performance falls.

01:21:03Then we will talk about it again.

01:21:07When you are making such an important decision.

01:21:09It cannot be done under dictatorship.

01:21:11It has to be done mutually.

01:21:13How to convince your parents?

01:21:15How old are you?

01:21:1716

01:21:19Fair enough age.

01:21:21First of all, you have to give parallel options.

01:21:23Why are your parents going to the doctor?

01:21:25Because I think.

01:21:27They will have a launching pad.

01:21:29We have a hospital or a clinic.

01:21:31Many parents do not have awareness.

01:21:35The new jobs that have come out.

01:21:37What is their value?

01:21:41What is the value for their child?

01:21:43After medicine.

01:21:45They are doing MBA.

01:21:47They are going towards management.

01:21:51If your father wants more.

01:21:53Whatever pressure he is creating on you.

01:21:55You have to talk to him one on one.

01:21:57In a reasonable way.

01:21:59Like we negotiate.

01:22:01When we go to buy something.

01:22:03We talk to him in a reasonable way.

01:22:05Why do we go to the doctor?

01:22:07First you will ask him.

01:22:09Because you are capable.

01:22:11Because we have all the doctors.

01:22:13My image will remain.

01:22:15Their answer will come.

01:22:17Your answer should be prepared for it.

01:22:19If he says no.

01:22:21What will I tell everyone?

01:22:23Why did my son not become a doctor?

01:22:25Because I myself am in our family.

01:22:27It is more important to tell everyone.

01:22:29Or it will take all my years.

01:22:31Which I will be studying.

01:22:33Which I will be unhappy.

01:22:35What would you rather have?

01:22:37You will ask your father this.

01:22:39There are so many student counsellors.

01:22:43If you convince your mother.

01:22:45She can take your father to a student counsellor.

01:22:47So that he can explain to her professionally.

01:22:49In their own language.

01:22:53Sometimes children are not able to reach that level.

01:22:57That's why they are not able to convince their parents.

01:22:59Everyone does not have convincing power.

01:23:03Sometimes your big cousins.

01:23:05Big brothers.

01:23:07Your father respects them a lot.

01:23:09Even if he is a doctor.

01:23:11But if you talk to him.

01:23:13You can keep a mediator.

01:23:15Who communicates in between.

01:23:17If he is a doctor.

01:23:19Your father will understand him more.

01:23:21He will also accept him.

01:23:23If you want to choose a parallel profession.

01:23:25You start researching about it.

01:23:27What is his specialization?

01:23:29You said you want to go into computers.

01:23:31Computers have become a whole world.

01:23:33What do you want to do in computers?

01:23:35What do you want to do specifically?

01:23:37What is his future?

01:23:39What is his security?

01:23:41What are his professional rewards?

01:23:43When your father understands this.

01:23:45He will open up a little.

01:23:49Since the time you were born.

01:23:51He had thought for 16 years.

01:23:53That I want to make him a doctor.

01:23:55It will take some time to break him.

01:23:57They also have their own rights.

01:23:59That's how it is.

01:24:01Children are not our property.

01:24:03If the parents understand this.

01:24:05Many problems will be solved.

01:24:07There are two more years in the matriculation.

01:24:09Slowly.

01:24:11Don't fight.

01:24:13Don't go into avoidance.

01:24:15This problem will not be solved.

01:24:17Often it happens that the mind of the children changes.

01:24:19That I don't want to do this.

01:24:21It's a raw mind.

01:24:23Thank you so much.

01:24:25I got a chance to learn a lot of things.

01:24:27As a parent.

01:24:29To the mothers sitting there.

01:24:31And the children.

01:24:33I always say this.

01:24:35To make your life better.

01:24:37Do what you have to do.

01:24:39If today is better.

01:24:41Tomorrow will be better.

01:24:43Good morning Pakistan.

01:24:45Khuda Hafiz.

Good Morning Pakistan | Apne Bacchon Ko Samjhein Special Show | 30 October 2024 | ARY Digital

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