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A woman says “breaking up” with her best friend was much harder than any relationship split - and it even left her in therapy.
Sabrina Kirberg, 31, had a decade long friendship with her best friend until they finally ended up parting ways after an argument, she claims.
She said she went through the “five stages of grief,” and believes it’s not as easy as “eating ice cream and having time with your girls” - like a typical break-up.
She had to seek therapy to help her "grieve" the friendship and still thinks about her friend everyday.
A woman says “breaking up” with her best friend was much harder than any relationship split - and it even left her in therapy.
Sabrina Kirberg, 31, had a decade long friendship with her best friend until they finally ended up parting ways after an argument, she claims.
She said she went through the “five stages of grief,” and believes it’s not as easy as “eating ice cream and having time with your girls” - like a typical break-up.
She had to seek therapy to help her "grieve" the friendship and still thinks about her friend everyday.
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00:00She broke my heart, absolutely destroyed it.
00:07I never imagined her out of my life.
00:10I imagined her being my maid of honor when we got married.
00:14I imagined her being the godmother of my kids.
00:18I imagined growing old with her.
00:21I had this running joke that when we get old and we get into
00:24a retirement home, we will just race down the hallways in our
00:29wheelchairs.
00:45It hurts because you miss that person.
00:47And for me personally, it hurts the most because she decided
00:50to ghost me instead of talk to me about it.
00:54After that, I went through a big depression and I went through
00:56the most painful experience of my life.
01:00I started paying attention to my own toxic traits and the
01:03behaviors and the beliefs that I had and I just had enough.
01:08I went through hell putting myself back together because I
01:11felt completely shattered and broken.
01:13I did not trust anyone.
01:14I didn't trust anyone.
01:16No friends.
01:16I didn't, I didn't want any friends in my life.
01:18I didn't trust anyone.
01:20I was so vulnerable with her and then she just decided to
01:23disappear out of my life completely.
01:25And that absolutely broke me.
01:42I think about her every day, but I also think about the fact
01:45that I healed from that experience.
01:47I also think about how I would go through that breakup all
01:50over again just to get to where I am now.
01:52I love myself so much.
01:54I have so much more confidence.
01:56I now have incredible friends that I know deserve to be in
02:00my company.
02:01I have an incredible boyfriend that goes beyond, beyond, above
02:06and beyond.
02:06I loved her, but this wasn't the first time that she ghosted
02:10me.
02:11She ghosted me many a times and I had to go through therapy
02:14to relive the trauma and with my therapist, she kind of made
02:19me realize like her behaviors were repeated patterns.
02:24It wasn't like, oh, she ghosted me out of the blue.
02:26No, she's been ghosting me.
02:29I've just been allowing her in my life over and over and
02:33over again and forgiving her instead of being like, I don't
02:36deserve this.
02:36I don't deserve a best friend that just pops in and out of
02:39my life whenever she pleases, whenever she's bored, whenever
02:43she broke up with a guy, whenever the guy's like busy.
02:47I loved her, but I love myself more now.