It’s time for a ‘SiS’ Sex Education Session! It is time for teen stars Chubi del Rosario, JR Trinidad, Jemalene Estrada, Katya Santos, Krista Ranillo, and Glaiza De Castro to share what they know and think of sex!
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00:00We walk hand in hand, we dream together. We giggle and laugh like kids forever.
00:12We're two different people, but we're having fun. We talk about anything under the sun.
00:19We are sisters, we are friends. We've got magic that never ends.
00:27I got you sis, you got me. The best of friends we'll always, always be.
00:39We always have fun, being together. You know me the best, we're friends forever.
00:46Through good times and bad, I'm here for you sis, right by your side.
00:52Hit or miss, we are sisters, we are friends. We've got magic that never ends.
01:01I got you sis, you got me. The best of friends, the best of friends.
01:09The best of friends we'll always, always be. We are sisters, we are sisters.
01:17Good morning to all of you sis. Maybe we don't hurt our parents, just like us.
01:26If we wake up one morning, we'll know that our children are in danger.
01:33Like, mommy, I'm going to get married.
01:36There are times when they make mistakes, that it's too late if we blame them.
01:42In their early age, they already tasted sex.
01:45They already explored it when they were young.
01:47That's why they're getting old.
01:51Usually, when they're going through their teenage life,
01:54they don't tell us what they're thinking.
01:57They're usually solo, right?
01:59They lock themselves in their room.
02:01We don't know what things are running through their minds,
02:06especially when it comes to sex.
02:08Around us, there are a lot of body influences.
02:11There's TV.
02:13Otherwise, we don't know, maybe they're watching porn,
02:16or our children's ball games.
02:18It's so cheap, it's easy to buy.
02:20It's everywhere, you can buy it anywhere.
02:22And they see couples, not only on TV, or in the movies,
02:26but, you know, they're just hanging out with us.
02:31Throughout the day, the public display of affection is okay.
02:35It's good if we can detect early on what's really on their mind,
02:41or if we can educate them early on when it comes to sex and intimacy.
02:46Oh, my.
02:47We're so distracted.
02:48That's why, sis, and especially to the young ones,
02:52watch this episode,
02:54so you can ask and answer your confused minds.
02:59Because what we're going to talk about today is
03:03if teenagers are well-educated when it comes to sex.
03:07Is it hard?
03:08Yes.
03:10All of that, when we return, here on Sis.
03:17No.
03:19It's just me.
03:21You see, the young ones,
03:24there are kids now, 14, 15 years old.
03:29Most of them have kids now,
03:31because they don't really understand sex.
03:36They're not formally educated,
03:38but they know something about sex already,
03:41because they can get a lot of information about that,
03:45to their friends, to their family.
03:48But as informal education from school,
03:51it's still lacking.
03:53Young people are so active now, right?
03:56Conservatives are no longer absent.
03:59Sometimes, it's the family that starts it.
04:02If they're taught by their family about it,
04:05if they're exposed to that topic,
04:07they won't think about it,
04:09they won't be curious about it.
04:11But if it's about their peers,
04:13they'll be influenced by their friends.
04:16Maybe that's why a lot of them know about abortion.
04:20One of the many forms of abortion
04:22is when a lot of young women get pregnant early.
04:25And sometimes, we see in the news,
04:28teenagers are raped.
04:31Aren't these things alarming?
04:34What do teenagers think about sex?
04:40Let's ask them,
04:41so we can know if their point of view
04:44is on track with things about sex.
04:50Please, welcome.
04:52Our first guest watched a hardcore movie
04:55with his friends in his first year.
04:58He's 17 years old, Chubby del Rosario.
05:04He said, virginity is not important.
05:08He's 17 years old, J.R. Trinidad.
05:15Last year, he was curious about sex
05:17because his friends talked about it.
05:20He's 16 years old, Jemeline Estrada.
05:25He said, sex is sacred,
05:27and I hope it happens after marriage,
05:29but it doesn't stop.
05:31He's 19 years old, Katia Santos.
05:35He's not in favor of premarital sex,
05:37but he's very open about it.
05:40He's 19 years old, Krista Ranillo.
05:44He's afraid of sex.
05:46They don't talk about it at home.
05:49He's 30 years old, Glyza De Castro.
05:56So, are you ready?
05:57Are you ready?
05:59Let's open our minds and hearts.
06:03Actually, you should really be open about it
06:05because you're all coming into age.
06:10It's a very crucial time for you, actually.
06:13Actually, it's more crucial for him
06:15because he's only 13.
06:17So, instead of making this subject taboo,
06:20all of a sudden, everyone is quiet.
06:23Let's not do that.
06:24No, I think it should be talked about.
06:26So, you'll understand more.
06:29Of course, we all.
06:30I'm sure.
06:34Obviously, you're curious about sex.
06:37If not, a little bit already,
06:40but I'm sure more curiosity.
06:42Okay.
06:43What comes to your mind when you talk about sex?
06:46Do you have questions?
06:50JR, you're the expert here.
06:55Girls, of course.
06:57Of course.
06:58You're a boy, right?
07:03The figure of a girl.
07:05Of course, sexy.
07:07Yes, that's it.
07:09Okay, Janice.
07:10For girls.
07:11Like a boy and a girl doing it.
07:14Intercourse.
07:15Yes, intercourse.
07:16That's the first thing that comes to mind.
07:19When do you wonder about sex?
07:21I mean, do you ever?
07:23I mean, are there questions going on in your minds?
07:26When was the first time
07:29that the idea of sex became very clear to you?
07:33Like before, when I was small,
07:36it was always forbidden.
07:38We weren't allowed to talk about it even in school
07:40because the school was strict, even at home.
07:43So you get curious and you hear from your friends,
07:46and you see it on movies, on TV.
07:48Then, we started talking about it
07:51because of sex education.
07:53That's the only...
07:54But I know that in my time,
07:57sex education in school was very general.
08:00Is it still like that now?
08:01Something that you don't understand?
08:02No, they're more...
08:03Graphic?
08:04Is it more graphic now?
08:06Well, of course, we all discuss the reproductive system.
08:10You have to fertilize the egg.
08:13But it's never as clear as it's supposed to be.
08:17It's confusing.
08:19Iglaiza, why are you scared?
08:21When it's about sex, why are you nervous?
08:25Because I'm still young,
08:27and I'm not aware of sex
08:29because at home, we don't really talk about it.
08:35Maybe later on.
08:37Maybe when I'm 16.
08:40But they say that sex should be introduced to your children
08:45the minute they start talking about the opposite sex.
08:49Yes.
08:50Maybe it's not that graphic,
08:52but you introduce it little by little.
08:54When did you become curious about sex?
08:56I mean, honestly,
08:57I'm sure even when you're 7 years old,
08:59you already have that curiosity.
09:01No, because I'm still young.
09:06Before, when I was young, I asked my dad,
09:09how did I grow up?
09:11Right?
09:12Where did you come from?
09:14Have you talked to your parents about it?
09:16Yes.
09:17I never really talked to my parents directly.
09:19I just got it more from friends.
09:21It was never a topic at home.
09:23You know, the best people to talk to about sex are your parents
09:26because if you get the idea from friends,
09:28it's different.
09:30It's different.
09:32You'll get a different idea.
09:34Even though they don't know about it.
09:36Explore it.
09:38Explore.
09:39Actually, your friends are just bragging about it.
09:42Guys!
09:46So usually, do you talk about it in school?
09:49Yes.
09:50Always with friends.
09:51How?
09:52What does Katcha talk about?
09:55Okay.
09:58Usually, when I was in high school,
10:03I heard my friends telling me about it.
10:06It's detailed.
10:08So I was like, wait.
10:10So that's how it is.
10:12They were teaching me.
10:14We were teaching each other how to do it.
10:18This is how to avoid it.
10:21But since high school,
10:23they weren't like,
10:25it's okay.
10:26That's what they were thinking.
10:28Unlike now,
10:29you can think that you need to be safe.
10:33Protection.
10:34Protection.
10:35But in high school,
10:36it wasn't like that.
10:37They were just like,
10:38it's good.
10:39It's good.
10:40It's fun.
10:41Now, at least,
10:42there's protection.
10:44Protection.
10:45Who among you has watched the movie?
10:48Aside from Chuby.
10:49Just once.
10:50Yes, Chuby.
10:51It's okay.
10:52My mom watched it once.
10:53It's okay.
10:54Me.
10:55Me, me, me.
10:56There's a lot.
10:57Window.
10:58Have you watched it?
10:59No.
11:00I haven't.
11:01But the love scenes,
11:04for example,
11:05the kissing scenes,
11:06those kind of things.
11:07Oh, the love scenes.
11:08I haven't watched it.
11:09I don't know.
11:10The morning scenes.
11:11Like in school,
11:12but hardcore.
11:15The playboy scenes.
11:17Those kind of scenes
11:18that they bring to school.
11:20And they bring it to school.
11:22And they get caught.
11:24And they get caught.
11:25They get caught.
11:26It's like a private station.
11:28But it's just a little.
11:29It's not that thick.
11:31What's your reaction?
11:35Usually,
11:36I don't know,
11:37for others,
11:38because for us,
11:40even though,
11:41it's always like that.
11:43No, because when they watch,
11:45like us,
11:46Magbabarkada,
11:47when we watched it for the first time,
11:49it was more like a trip.
11:50It's like,
11:51let's see,
11:52what are they really doing?
11:54What are they showing?
11:56So when we watched it,
11:58it's like we're confused
12:00that we don't understand
12:01what we're going to do.
12:02It's like,
12:03that's how it is.
12:04It's like,
12:05you also feel it.
12:06It's like that.
12:07For us,
12:08we also feel it.
12:10At first.
12:11But now,
12:12when we watch it,
12:13it's like,
12:14okay,
12:15let's watch it.
12:16Now,
12:17it's like a triple X.
12:18Usually,
12:19it's better to watch it boldly.
12:20There's a story.
12:21It's not just bold.
12:23Right?
12:24Because there's no sense.
12:25They're just doing it boldly.
12:26You get the wrong idea.
12:28It's for education,
12:29in a way.
12:30Just to give you ideas.
12:31Yeah.
12:32But if you keep on watching it,
12:33you get the wrong idea
12:34on what sex is supposed to be.
12:36Right?
12:37How do you filter it?
12:40How do you...
12:41I'm strained.
12:42What should you...
12:43Listen to.
12:44Listen to.
12:45Believe.
12:46Believe.
12:47First,
12:48I ask my mom
12:49if what she's saying is right.
12:51You talk to your mom about it.
12:53That's good.
12:54That is actually the best communication.
12:56My mom is open to that.
12:58What did she say?
12:59Let's say,
13:00what did you ask her?
13:02If...
13:03the first time,
13:04you'll get pregnant,
13:05if it's like that.
13:06It's like that.
13:07Then,
13:08what did your mom say?
13:09She said,
13:10I don't know.
13:11She said...
13:12No,
13:13because my mom says,
13:14I don't know,
13:15ask your manager.
13:16Your manager is good.
13:19Let's ask your manager,
13:20mommy.
13:21Oh, well.
13:23You know,
13:24when I was a teenager,
13:25Betamax was still popular.
13:28Betamax?
13:29In the 80s?
13:30And there were X-rated films back then.
13:33And there were a lot of kids
13:34that out of curiosity,
13:35they would sneak in the parents' bedroom
13:38and watch it.
13:39Oh, I remember that.
13:40Because I was curious.
13:41I remember that.
13:42We even broke the cabinet.
13:44Yes, correct.
13:45Yes,
13:46they wanted to watch it
13:47because they were curious.
13:49So,
13:50what is the first step
13:52that should be done
13:54so that
13:55we don't have to do this anymore?
13:56I don't think there's anything better
13:58to teach them
14:00or our parents
14:02that sex and intimacy
14:04is a gift for married couples.
14:06Sometimes,
14:07what's basic
14:08is what we forget.
14:10I'll come back to this.
14:12Sometimes,
14:13because of their curiosity,
14:14teenagers
14:15have sex early.
14:16Even if they know
14:17that it's not right.
14:19But,
14:20is this the only thing
14:21that pushes them?
14:23I don't know.
14:24I don't know.
14:25What are the other influences,
14:26especially nowadays,
14:28that are the reason
14:29why they
14:30get excited about sex?
14:33Look, I'm crying.
14:35It's ugly.
14:36Yes.
14:37Why is that?
14:38What is it?
14:39Peer pressure.
14:40Peer pressure.
14:41Because for boys,
14:42the earlier you have it,
14:44the status symbol
14:45is more obvious.
14:46Yes, of course.
14:48It's the opposite
14:49of women.
14:50Girls.
14:51It's like...
14:52Actually,
14:53it's still the same.
14:54Yes, you should preserve it
14:55the longer you have it.
14:56Ideally.
14:57Is it still the same?
14:58Or not anymore?
14:59Nowadays,
15:00it's not anymore.
15:01But it's better
15:02if it's that way.
15:03It's the best
15:04if it's that way.
15:05Ideally,
15:06that's why.
15:07Especially for men,
15:08of course,
15:09they want it.
15:10Yes, of course.
15:11But,
15:12it doesn't always happen,
15:13right?
15:14Of course.
15:15Okay.
15:16So, of course,
15:17they get excited.
15:18Okay, let's just ask.
15:19First kiss.
15:21Have you experienced
15:22your first kiss?
15:24We haven't.
15:25Oh, really?
15:26Go ahead, Chubby.
15:27I guess I was about
15:2814 years old.
15:2914?
15:30Yeah, around 14.
15:31It started off
15:32holding hands.
15:33There.
15:34It really started off
15:35holding hands.
15:36Step by step.
15:37Step by step.
15:38And then I was like,
15:39Oh, there's more.
15:40Your arms would just
15:41stick together.
15:42Hey, there's more.
15:43Actually,
15:44the term
15:45holding hands
15:46is primarily
15:47about sex.
15:48Because it leads to
15:49holding hands,
15:50leads to,
15:51I don't know,
15:52and then kiss,
15:53and then after the kiss,
15:54right?
15:55There you go.
15:56Okay.
15:57Can you tell us
15:58about your first kiss?
15:59Your first kiss.
16:0014.
16:01Did you go back
16:02to your old ways?
16:03At first,
16:04it was just a smack.
16:05Ah, okay.
16:06Not the first kiss?
16:07Not the first kiss.
16:08Really?
16:09At first,
16:10I was a bit
16:11flustered
16:12the first time.
16:13Why?
16:14It was the very first time.
16:15Showbiz.
16:16And after a few minutes,
16:17I got the hang of it.
16:18After a few minutes?
16:19That's a long time.
16:20That's a long time.
16:21Do you have belts ringing?
16:22Do you have electricity?
16:23It was just
16:24a...
16:25It was just a...
16:26It was just a...
16:27It was just a...
16:28It was just a...
16:29It was just a...
16:30It was just a...
16:31It was just a...
16:33I just didn't like it at first.
16:35It wasn't really my thing.
16:36Really?
16:37But you got it in a few minutes.
16:38But you got it in a few minutes.
16:41Katya,
16:42Katya,
16:43share your first kiss.
16:44share your first kiss.
16:45First kiss.
16:46I was in my first year.
16:47I was in my first year.
16:48I was 15 years old.
16:52What was it?
16:53My first kiss was...
16:54I really don't know.
16:55I really don't know.
16:56I really don't know.
16:57I really don't know.
16:58Since my boyfriend
16:59at that time
17:00was a bit...
17:02Holder.
17:03I think he was just 16.
17:05So,
17:06I was really content.
17:08I was really content.
17:11Of course I had something.
17:13But,
17:15I didn't know
17:17what was going on,
17:19how.
17:20So,
17:21as far as I could go.
17:22As far as I could go.
17:23I just felt
17:24Ah,
17:25It was like
17:26I have some reason.
17:27but,
17:28But,
17:29it was like that.
17:30Because we haven't had a kiss yet.
17:33Do you remember your first kiss?
17:36For me, my first kiss was a dare.
17:41Because when I was still in school,
17:43they would joke that I'm boyish.
17:45Because I play sports and I'm a tomboy.
17:48So, there's this party and one guy...
17:51It started with truth or conjecture.
17:53Yeah, it was a dare.
17:54I was like, okay, you're a tomboy.
17:57He was like, I'm not a tomboy.
17:58I was like, okay, you're a tomboy.
17:59He was like, okay, you're a tomboy.
18:00I was like, okay, you're a tomboy.
18:01He was like, okay, you're a tomboy.
18:02It was like there was a scoring.
18:03It was like there were fireworks.
18:05It was so good.
18:06I was like, okay, I'm not boyish anymore.
18:09I'm a girl now.
18:11How important is virginity to you?
18:17Okay, JR.
18:18For me, as in me.
18:23It's okay.
18:24But for my girlfriend, of course.
18:27I want her to be happy.
18:31But for me, I don't want it.
18:34That's true.
18:36Actually, for me, you know, for my girlfriend,
18:40if I really love her, I mean, I can't do anything
18:42if she's not a virgin anymore.
18:44I mean, you can't help it.
18:46But, so, I guess it's okay.
18:48It doesn't really matter for me.
18:52For me, if I can do that,
18:55maybe, until the end, it's still her.
19:01Yes, it's her.
19:03You can preserve it as much as possible.
19:05Yeah.
19:06Katya, Kristen.
19:07Same.
19:08Same.
19:09I'm sure.
19:10I'm different.
19:13Right?
19:14I'm different.
19:15Ideally, right?
19:16Why is it like that?
19:20Do you hear the terms like sexual addiction?
19:22Have you ever heard of those?
19:24No, I haven't.
19:25Actually, no.
19:28Actually, sexual addiction supposedly starts from
19:33watching too many X-rated films.
19:35That's where it usually starts from.
19:38There's a constant need.
19:41That's what they say.
19:42And then, after a while, you turn into sex addicts.
19:46That's so serious.
19:48No, but yeah, I know someone.
19:50It's like that.
19:51But there are people like that.
19:53So, you're not aware of that?
19:55I didn't do it every day like that.
19:58They don't care.
19:59They don't care who they do it with
20:01just as long as they do it.
20:04That's why they don't rate it.
20:07They don't control it anymore.
20:09There are women who love it.
20:14When they try it,
20:16they're like,
20:17I'll see what it is.
20:19Actually, I feel like that's the result of
20:22early exposure to sex
20:24without the right guidance.
20:26Exactly.
20:28So,
20:29what do you think is the consequence of
20:32early exposure to sex?
20:36Aside from
20:38what else?
20:39AIDS.
20:41Right.
20:42Unprotected.
20:43Sick.
20:44Not only AIDS, but other
20:46sexually transmitted diseases.
20:49And also,
20:50what you're saying that you're
20:52getting sick of.
20:54Because when you're young,
20:56you want to eat.
20:57You want chocolate.
20:58You want it.
20:59You need chocolate.
21:00You're young.
21:01Exactly.
21:02So, it goes the same way.
21:03When you're pregnant,
21:04you're still young, right?
21:07What's the next question?
21:08If we were your parents,
21:11how would you tell us
21:13that you're pressured
21:15and you're thinking about
21:17having sex?
21:19Like,
21:20you want to try having sex.
21:23I think the pressure is more from your friends.
21:26How do you tell your parents that?
21:32You won't?
21:33I wouldn't tell my parents.
21:34I would.
21:35You would?
21:36Yeah.
21:37Because I'm really open to my parents about everything.
21:39How would you tell them?
21:41I just tell them out straight.
21:42Or maybe I talk about the topic first.
21:45What's the intro?
21:46Like,
21:47Johnny is your mom.
21:48I'm your dad.
21:50Okay.
21:51I can't do that.
21:54I'll talk about the topic.
21:56Sex, right?
21:57Then, I'll tell them, you know,
21:58I've done it.
21:59Outright?
22:00You'll tell them?
22:01It's like this.
22:02Let's talk about sex.
22:03I don't think we did that.
22:05It depends.
22:06First, I want to get deep into the conversation.
22:09Like, there's an intro.
22:10There's an intro.
22:11Okay, girl.
22:13Then, that's when, you know,
22:14it's like a really serious conversation.
22:17You won't drop it on their chair.
22:19There needs to be an intro.
22:21Why?
22:22So they have a chance to hold it first.
22:24No, they're not like,
22:25Oh, shit, he had sex.
22:26It's like, you're not really dropping it.
22:29But at least, it's important to tell your parents,
22:32to your friends.
22:34That's what I think.
22:35What, what, what?
22:36I'm sorry?
22:37It's more important that you open up to your parents.
22:40Of course.
22:41Your uncles or your friends.
22:43So you get the right guy.
22:44Idea.
22:45Idea.
22:46You can say,
22:47you can open up and say,
22:48Oh, mom, I'm 19.
22:49You have,
22:50you know, my hormones are like,
22:51messing up my head.
22:54The first step of sex education
22:55is not teaching teenagers
22:58how to do it.
23:00The first step is
23:01to listen to the teenagers
23:04about their views about this topic.
23:08Let's admit that,
23:09there are more kids learning about this topic,
23:11especially outside of their homes.
23:13But do they tell us about this?
23:15Do we know about this?
23:17The best way to prevent them to have sex,
23:19due to curiosity,
23:21is to ask and listen to them.
23:25Because sometimes,
23:26a lot of parents are listening
23:28when they hear the sex
23:30that their children are talking about.
23:33Why are you looking at me?
23:34No, because I'm next to you.
23:37Really?
23:38So instead of using it,
23:40let's talk about their struggles on teenage sex
23:43and why they experience it
23:45when Sis Returns.
23:48The price of a porno VCD is only Php 50.
23:51So you should know
23:52where your children are going.
23:55For this small amount,
23:56think of it as a sexual ad.
23:59They say,
24:00an idle mind is a devil's workshop.
24:03So does this mean
24:04that if they don't do anything,
24:06while they're daydreaming,
24:08they're thinking about sex?
24:10What do you think?
24:11I don't know.
24:12Maybe it's true.
24:14And if it's true,
24:15how can we prevent these kids
24:17from continuously
24:19having curiosity in their minds?
24:21That's what we're going to ask them.
24:23When do you think about this?
24:26Me?
24:27When I see a sexy girl, maybe.
24:29That's terrible.
24:30Do you think that when you think about it,
24:32you feel guilty?
24:33No.
24:34Jemeline, that's what you think?
24:36When you think about it,
24:37you feel guilty?
24:39I feel like I'm a bad person.
24:41You feel dirty?
24:42Yeah.
24:44Christa, Kaja, Klaiza?
24:46I feel like I'm guilty.
24:48I feel like, Lord, I'm sorry.
24:53Even when you were young?
24:54No.
24:55When I was young,
24:57I asked my aunt,
24:59I said,
25:00Aunt, how can a woman get pregnant?
25:03Just by kissing?
25:05She said,
25:06No, it's not like that.
25:07Because I always hear from my mom,
25:09for example,
25:10let's have a baby.
25:11I thought,
25:12when they say they're going to have a baby,
25:13they're going to buy legs,
25:14they're going to buy hands,
25:15they're going to buy feet.
25:16I was so young back then.
25:18I was so young back then.
25:20Then,
25:22I asked how to get pregnant.
25:23Because when I was in grade 1 or 2,
25:27a classmate of mine brought me home.
25:29I was scared
25:30because I might get pregnant.
25:33So, I asked my aunt.
25:34She said,
25:35You'll know when you're at the right age.
25:39My parents didn't hide it from me.
25:44When they watch me,
25:45they watch me.
25:46They became open to me.
25:48So,
25:49for me,
25:50I learned to be open about sex.
25:52It's not because I asked them
25:55or they taught me.
25:56But in school,
25:57and in the environment,
25:59that's what I learned.
26:00That's what you can't avoid.
26:01That's what you can't avoid.
26:03Necking.
26:05Okay.
26:06Define necking.
26:08I told you.
26:09I told you.
26:10Define necking.
26:11What's necking?
26:13Is that necking?
26:15Let's do necking.
26:17You just need to do necking.
26:18Okay, Jelly.
26:19Define necking.
26:20Why?
26:21That's why I'm asking you.
26:22We're both going backwards.
26:25It's an act of kissing.
26:26It's an act of kissing.
26:27But there's a lot of...
26:29There's a lot of necking.
26:30There's a lot of people doing that.
26:32Right?
26:33There's a lot of people doing that.
26:34That's too much.
26:35That's too much.
26:36Like that.
26:37Like that.
26:38Scary.
26:39Actual.
26:40For couples,
26:42it's normal
26:43because that's how they are.
26:45But for girlfriends or boyfriends,
26:49they should get married first
26:51before doing that.
26:55You know what?
26:56I'm going to watch this interview of yours
26:585 years from now.
27:00Let's meet again.
27:01They always say that
27:03if you have a boyfriend,
27:05limit yourself to kissing.
27:07Because once you get tempted,
27:09they always say that
27:11it's a temptation.
27:13That's right.
27:14That's why...
27:15Everybody.
27:16Right?
27:17That's why
27:18there are first base,
27:19second base,
27:20third base.
27:21They're like home run.
27:22Correct.
27:23Correct.
27:24Gotcha.
27:26Because when you have a French kiss,
27:28it's direct.
27:29It goes straight to the neck.
27:31That's where it goes.
27:32It's impossible.
27:33You tie your hands.
27:34It's impossible.
27:35You're like this.
27:36For example,
27:38you're the girl.
27:39And you're like this.
27:40It's like,
27:41you know,
27:42wait, don't do that.
27:43But
27:44you know,
27:45that's okay.
27:46Then you stop.
27:47It's so impolite.
27:48It's so impolite.
27:49It's like,
27:50it's okay.
27:51It's like,
27:52if it's at the right age,
27:54the right guy,
27:56it's okay.
27:58For me,
27:59it's like,
28:00when I do it to myself,
28:01it's ugly.
28:02But,
28:03when I look at others,
28:04You can't really do it to yourself.
28:06It's hard.
28:08It's kind of hard.
28:12Are you crazy?
28:13No.
28:14I really can't do it.
28:15No,
28:16I'm not there at that moment.
28:19But,
28:20You can't do it to yourself
28:21when you're there, right?
28:23Ideally,
28:24when you're here,
28:25No.
28:26But when you're there,
28:27This is JR.
28:28But when I look at others,
28:29it's like,
28:31it's okay with them.
28:32It's like, it's okay.
28:33Don't do it to yourself.
28:34Don't do it to them.
28:35Don't do it to me.
28:36This is JR.
28:37His eyes are really twinkling.
28:38That's right.
28:39His eyes are really twinkling.
28:43If you're going to do that,
28:45it has to be private.
28:46Because,
28:47the others,
28:48you can see them.
28:49You don't want the public to see you.
28:50It's ugly when the others see you.
28:54It has to be private.
28:55Secret.
28:57Because,
28:58French kissing,
28:59people do that in public.
29:00And when you're necking,
29:01People do that in public?
29:02Yes, sometimes.
29:03Yes, really?
29:05That's ugly.
29:07It's for private areas only.
29:10Because,
29:11you go pretty much,
29:12it depends,
29:13but usually,
29:14people might go all the way.
29:15It looks,
29:17I mean,
29:18yeah.
29:19Especially in public.
29:20So,
29:21public display of affection.
29:22Holding hands,
29:23it's okay.
29:24Hugging.
29:25Hugging,
29:26it's okay.
29:27Smacking,
29:28it's okay.
29:29But French kissing,
29:30it's disgusting.
29:31When you see it outside.
29:32No, no.
29:33So anything other than that,
29:34is bad.
29:35Okay.
29:36How about,
29:37Chikinini,
29:38JR?
29:39Chikinini.
29:40He's smart.
29:41Chikinini.
29:42When you see Chikinini,
29:43how do you feel?
29:44I laugh.
29:45Have you met your friends,
29:46Chikinini?
29:48My brother.
29:49Your brother?
29:50My cousin.
29:51Brother?
29:53What's that?
29:56She said it slowly.
29:57You know, kids,
29:59when you're alone,
30:00you think of things,
30:02about sex,
30:03it's normal.
30:04But,
30:06you shouldn't,
30:07be a habit.
30:09If you're always thinking about this,
30:11the next thing,
30:12the next thing is,
30:13you should practice,
30:14practice it.
30:15That's why,
30:16that's why it's good to teach our kids,
30:18to discover their other talents,
30:20so that,
30:21their attention will be focused on that.
30:23Right?
30:24We'll be back for more,
30:25still here,
30:26on SIS.
30:29The best words to tell your kids,
30:31on when they can practice safe sex,
30:33is the time,
30:34when they are wearing their wedding ring.
30:36And the best example of that,
30:37is us parents.
30:40For teenagers,
30:41when they start having sex,
30:43that's when they have boyfriends.
30:45And usually,
30:46because of their age,
30:49they have a lot of time.
30:51That's true.
30:52That's why they're so emotional,
30:54about everything.
30:55That's why,
30:56the things,
30:57that they're being careful about,
31:00are lost,
31:01because of the time,
31:02because of mistakes.
31:04That's what we're going to ask now.
31:07What is it?
31:08Does sex really pressure you?
31:10Especially when you have a boyfriend.
31:12Are you pressured,
31:14to have sex early?
31:18Me,
31:19I'm like that.
31:20For girls,
31:21maybe,
31:22there's that,
31:23of course,
31:24you ask for it,
31:25because you're a girl.
31:26Right?
31:27Depends on the girl.
31:28More on the girl.
31:29Especially,
31:30if the age gap's kind of big.
31:31If the guy's a lot older,
31:32and the guy's more experienced,
31:34and the girl's ready,
31:35the starting off.
31:36A first boyfriend,
31:37because you think it's the expectation,
31:39of the guys also.
31:41I'm sure,
31:42there's also a pressure,
31:43that you need to let your friends know,
31:45Hey, dude!
31:46What?
31:47How far are you?
31:48There are guys like that.
31:49Do you really talk to them?
31:50But,
31:51before,
31:52I used to be like that,
31:53with my close friends from school.
31:54But now,
31:55I mean,
31:56when I'm together with someone,
31:57and I really love her,
31:58but,
31:59I don't like making it up,
32:00because for me,
32:01it's like a story.
32:02What do you read to your girlfriend?
32:04If you really love the girl,
32:05that's it.
32:06As in,
32:07that's private.
32:09Girls?
32:10It can be discussed,
32:11and in their understanding,
32:13it doesn't mean like,
32:14for example,
32:15you have a boyfriend,
32:16you just have to do it.
32:17What if,
32:18you say,
32:19I'm ready,
32:20and the guy says no,
32:21or he's ready,
32:22and I'm not.
32:23It can be discussed.
32:24It can be like,
32:25you have to wait.
32:26You have to be open about it,
32:27with your partner.
32:30Maybe,
32:31wait,
32:32just wait.
32:33Jereb,
32:34do you have a boyfriend?
32:36Not yet.
32:37Gotcha.
32:38How did you know,
32:39if you're too physical?
32:40Because you,
32:42during the relationship,
32:44I'm sure,
32:45you're thinking about it,
32:46like,
32:47wait,
32:48I think it's too much.
32:49Yes.
32:50Do you think about it?
32:52Before,
32:55in the beginning,
32:56maybe,
32:57because usually,
32:58for girls,
32:59it's the pressure.
33:00For me,
33:01I get pressured usually,
33:02because,
33:03for my other boyfriends,
33:04it's just that,
33:05it's like,
33:06is there no one else?
33:07Why is it always that?
33:08It's like,
33:09don't do it.
33:10I don't want to.
33:11I'm not ready yet.
33:12So,
33:13maybe,
33:14the right person will come.
33:16Maybe,
33:17you'll feel the right person,
33:18if,
33:19when,
33:20or,
33:21if this is it,
33:22if,
33:23is it right for me to do this,
33:24or what?
33:25You have to make sure,
33:26first,
33:27of the right guy.
33:28The one who understands that,
33:30okay,
33:31if you don't like him,
33:32it's okay.
33:33Okay,
33:34I'll wait.
33:35Yeah,
33:36you can wait.
33:39So,
33:40are you aware,
33:41if,
33:42okay,
33:43those who don't have a boyfriend yet,
33:45because they know me,
33:46I'll ask,
33:47are you aware,
33:48how to date?
33:49Do you know,
33:50what's happening
33:51in those dates?
33:52Are there rules in dating?
33:54Basically,
33:55there's,
33:56there are,
33:57not rules,
33:58but like,
33:59certain expectations,
34:00right,
34:01in dating?
34:02Okay.
34:03Do you have expectations,
34:04like,
34:05I'll just go to a restaurant,
34:06then eat,
34:07usually,
34:08I watch TV.
34:09Romantic date.
34:10Romantic date.
34:12Because,
34:13for my sisters,
34:14for my sisters,
34:15I know,
34:16when they're on a date,
34:17they just eat,
34:18outside,
34:19shopping,
34:20like that,
34:21but,
34:22shopping?
34:23Yes,
34:24shopping.
34:25Who pays for shopping?
34:26Boyfriend.
34:27Wow.
34:28Rich kid.
34:29Rich kid,
34:30because,
34:31like that.
34:32And,
34:33so,
34:34you don't get scolded
34:35by your sister?
34:36No,
34:37not really.
34:38So,
34:39what do you think,
34:40are the do's and don'ts,
34:41that a teenager should remember,
34:43when it comes to sex?
34:46Safe sex.
34:47Okay.
34:48How do you practice safe sex?
34:49Okay,
34:50okay.
34:51Just,
34:52just get,
34:53get a condom.
34:54Condom.
34:55What else?
34:56That is a protection.
34:57For girls,
34:58the pills.
34:59Oh yeah,
35:00pills.
35:01Well,
35:02if you're pregnant,
35:03but what about STD?
35:04Yeah,
35:05yeah,
35:06yeah.
35:07They have like,
35:08for girls,
35:09condoms.
35:10Yes,
35:11but not too much.
35:12Just don't do it with a guy
35:13that you don't know,
35:14or with a girl that you don't
35:15really know.
35:16It's like,
35:17one night stands.
35:18You know what,
35:19I feel like,
35:20even if you know her,
35:21you don't know her.
35:22Even if it's her,
35:23she doesn't know.
35:24Yes,
35:25but.
35:26Right?
35:27You can be a,
35:28you can,
35:29this could be like,
35:30your second boyfriend.
35:31I think your first boyfriend.
35:32Right?
35:33Anyway,
35:34that is not the topic.
35:35It's safe sex.
35:36There,
35:37it's safe.
35:38Condom.
35:39What else?
35:40Pills.
35:41Pills.
35:42What else?
35:43What else?
35:44What else?
35:45Diaphragm.
35:46Diaphragm.
35:47Maybe,
35:48just do it with the right person.
35:50Yeah,
35:51with someone.
35:52The right age,
35:53in the right place,
35:54in the right time.
35:55Because.
35:56Yeah,
35:57STD.
35:58Yes.
35:59Why are you being so clear about it?
36:01It's not something you just do.
36:03You should be serious about it.
36:05Easier said than done,
36:06right?
36:07How do you balance it?
36:08Because,
36:09you're in the way,
36:10right?
36:11Right?
36:12In the heat of the moment,
36:13how do you avoid yourself from that?
36:16Consequences of it.
36:17Think about it.
36:18Think about the consequences.
36:20It's scary.
36:21Do you really think about the consequences?
36:23That's another thing.
36:24Because to say it is different
36:26from when you're actually there.
36:29Because when you say no,
36:30for me,
36:31for example,
36:32I don't know about you,
36:34but,
36:35for us,
36:36for our age,
36:37for our age,
36:38because when I say I don't want it,
36:40I don't want it.
36:41It's one thing,
36:42not just sex.
36:43For example,
36:44when I say I don't want it,
36:45I really don't want it.
36:46I can't be forced by anyone.
36:48So,
36:49if you really don't want it,
36:50there's a way.
36:53But let the person understand then,
36:55why.
36:56Yes.
36:57Because sometimes,
36:58they could also take it against themselves.
37:00Maybe I'm not good enough for you.
37:02Yes.
37:03They emote the boys.
37:04They also go against their egos.
37:07Then they get drunk,
37:08then they go there,
37:09then they go there.
37:10You're like that.
37:12You're like that.
37:13I became defensive all of a sudden.
37:15And you're always blushing.
37:17No,
37:18that's just how I am.
37:20So,
37:21define sexuality.
37:24Define sexuality.
37:30In terms of age.
37:35Start from the eldest.
37:39Okay,
37:40sexuality.
37:42I think it's
37:44a man and a woman
37:48who have feelings for each other.
37:53For me, sexuality is
37:55love me.
37:57Simple as that.
37:59For me, sexuality is not a joke.
38:03I can't say that you shouldn't do it
38:05or you should do it
38:06because
38:07different people have different opinions about it.
38:09But,
38:10when you put something in,
38:11you should know
38:12what could happen.
38:13The consequences to you,
38:14to your partner.
38:17Maybe because of my age,
38:19I'm not aware of that.
38:23You should skip him.
38:26Maybe,
38:27he has something to say.
38:28Maybe,
38:29he has something to say.
38:30Maybe,
38:31he has something to say.
38:32Maybe,
38:33he has something to say.
38:34Maybe,
38:35he has something to say.
38:36I agree with Katya.
38:38I think,
38:39sexuality is
38:41love me.
38:44Me?
38:45You?
38:47I guess,
38:48it's making love
38:50with the right person.
38:51Yes.
38:52Yeah,
38:53you know.
38:55Can you go?
38:56Oh, do it with the right person.
38:58Okay.
38:59I believe you.
39:01Okay, thank you very much.
39:02Thank you.
39:03For being very open.
39:04Thank you.
39:05For being very open.
39:06You should be proud of yourself.
39:09I like that.
39:10That was a good video.
39:12Actually,
39:13if you haven't talked about sex,
39:15I'm sure that
39:16when your parents watch this,
39:18you'll talk about it.
39:19You're grounded now.
39:20No.
39:21Remember,
39:22keep an open line of communication
39:23between you and your parents.
39:24Yes,
39:25don't shout at them.
39:26Because,
39:27I'm sure,
39:28they also want to share with you.
39:29In the end,
39:30you'll run to them
39:31if you have a problem.
39:32Correct.
39:33It's hard to stop teens
39:34when it comes to relationships.
39:36Parents are worried
39:37that they might end up alone.
39:39It's too early to get married.
39:41Sometimes,
39:42we don't remind kids
39:43about the purpose
39:44of a relationship.
39:47Often,
39:48we don't have enough time
39:49to answer their questions.
39:51Because,
39:52automatically,
39:53we're afraid
39:55to discuss the topic of sex.
39:57Right?
39:58You're just there.
39:59You'll come back.
40:01Do you think
40:02our teens are well-educated
40:03when it comes to sex?
40:04Not all of them.
40:06There are well-educated teens
40:08maybe because
40:09they're open to talk about sex.
40:11There are also
40:12well,
40:13a greater percentage
40:14who are not.
40:15Because,
40:17whether we admit it or not,
40:18in other households,
40:19when you talk about sex,
40:21all of a sudden,
40:22it becomes uncomfortable.
40:23It's like there's a dead air.
40:24Yes,
40:25it's like there's a dead air.
40:26Because you don't know
40:27if you should continue
40:28or wait for a while.
40:30Until when
40:31will I share it with my child?
40:32Exactly.
40:33Or sometimes,
40:34there's a little guilt complex
40:35that I can't answer.
40:37Because,
40:38what if they ask me
40:39the question,
40:40what will I answer?
40:41Usually, that's it.
40:42What do you remember
40:43from what we talked about earlier?
40:44How were the reactions
40:45of the kids?
40:47Well, definitely,
40:48of course,
40:49because of their age,
40:50they still lack
40:51sexual maturity.
40:53Right?
40:54Their thoughts,
40:55there are a lot of things
40:56that are not clear to them.
40:57Well,
40:58partly because of their,
41:00their,
41:02growth spurt?
41:03Is that what you call it?
41:05Hormones?
41:06Hormonal,
41:07haywire?
41:08There are stages,
41:09adolescence,
41:10puberty,
41:11and others.
41:12Others,
41:13it's kind of like,
41:15aside from being young,
41:16there are others, right?
41:17Yes.
41:18It's kind of like,
41:19I'm learning something,
41:21I can relax.
41:22It's kind of like that.
41:23Yes, a little bit.
41:24But at least, you know,
41:25I'm proud of them
41:26because
41:27they know that they should be
41:29practicing safe sex.
41:31If ever.
41:32Right?
41:33Like, safety comes first.
41:34Part of that now.
41:35Which is very important.
41:36Which is very important right now.
41:37Because I feel like,
41:39there should be no more
41:40age,
41:41you should look at the age of 13
41:43and what they're talking about.
41:44I feel like,
41:45the earlier, the better.
41:46The better, right?
41:47Because you really have to talk about it
41:48because of the exposure of the children.
41:50Because there's TV,
41:51there's newspapers,
41:52there's magazines,
41:53there's everything.
41:54Anything is available now.
41:56And also,
41:57how is it,
41:58what is the way,
41:59what level,
42:00how do you bring that in?
42:02Because you can't be
42:03too authoritative
42:04because all the more
42:05they will be
42:06against each other.
42:07You can't be
42:08too friendly
42:09because
42:10they will forget
42:11the boundaries.
42:12I think the best way
42:13is to lay all the cards
42:15on the table
42:16and then,
42:17while you do that,
42:18these are the consequences.
42:20Okay, fine.
42:21This is what you want.
42:22These are the consequences.
42:23Are you ready for that?
42:24Can you do this?
42:25Or these are the other consequences.
42:27Are you okay with that?
42:28Can you deal with that?
42:29I think it's important
42:30for you to actually
42:31lay it all there.
42:33But give them the choice.
42:35This is it.
42:36This is the truth, son.
42:37These are the choices.
42:38It's up to you.
42:39But for this choice,
42:40this is what will happen.
42:41This is what will happen.
42:42For this choice,
42:43this is what will happen.
42:44So, in short,
42:45we really need to be open
42:46to our children.
42:48Let's not wait
42:49for them to grow up.
42:51Because by that time,
42:52they already know that,
42:53I'm sure.
42:54You might already be
42:55ahead of other people.
42:56Maybe they already know.
42:59Of course,
43:00our discussion will end
43:01on teenagers'
43:04awareness.
43:05On sex.
43:06Yes.
43:07I hope you learned
43:08something from
43:09what we talked about today.
43:10That we can use
43:11to raise our children.
43:13Okay.
43:14Thank you very much
43:15for joining us.
43:16I'll see you again
43:17right here
43:18on SIS.
43:20SIS would like to thank
43:21Bambi Fuentes,
43:22Trivia Bar and Restaurant,
43:24Mossimo,
43:25FNH Folded and Hung,
43:26Wayless Center,
43:27Adidas,
43:28Chloe for our eyewear,
43:30Optical Works,
43:31BR Chua Enterprises,
43:33680 Home Appliances,
43:35Durastar,
43:36La Germania,
43:37Human,
43:38Salon de Manila,
43:39Janeline,
43:40Under the Sea Pet Shop,
43:42The Barnyard,
43:43Play and Display,
43:44Dominic's Flowers,
43:46Kit Kakes,
43:47Part Details for our balloons,
43:49and Phoenix Quilt.
43:51When I was young,
43:52I asked my aunt,
43:54how does a woman
43:55get pregnant?
43:57Just by kissing?
43:58Does she get pregnant?
44:00She said,
44:01no, not like that.
44:02Because I always hear
44:03from my mom,
44:04for example,
44:05let's have a baby.
44:06I thought,
44:07when they say
44:08they'll have a baby,
44:09they'll buy legs,
44:10hands,
44:11boobs,
44:12I was so young back then.
44:13I was so young back then.
44:15If you do it
44:16with the person you love,
44:17for me,
44:18it's better.
44:20Girlfriends or boyfriends,
44:22they should get married
44:24before having a baby.
44:29They always say
44:31if you have a boyfriend,
44:33limit yourself
44:34to just kissing.
44:35Once you get tempted,
44:37they always say,
44:38it's a temptation.
44:41That's right.
44:42Everybody.