Dear Chixie: Deadline

SunStar Philippines

Dear Chixie, Maayong adlaw nimo ug sa tanang mga viewers aning programaha. Itago nalang ko sa pangalan nga Laureen. Kining akong problema kabahin sa among sitwasyon sa akong long-time boyfriend nga itago nato sa pangalan nga Sean. I was in my second year when I met Sean. Nagka-classmate mi sa usa ka subject and from then on, ni-grow ang among relationship into friendship hangtod nagkauyab mi. Karon, naa nami sa amoang ika 10th year isip manag uyab. Naa na usab mi sa among early 30s hinungdan nga nakafeel nako og pressure kabahin sa kaminyuon. Andam na kaayo ko nga magpakasal mi sa akong uyab apan wala paman gyud siya nagpropose. Ang iyang rason Chixie, kay siya ang breadwinner sa iyang pamilya ug naa pa siyay gipaeskwela nga mga manghud. Wala pasab siyay tigom, Chixie. Ni-offer ko nga ako nalang ang mogasto sa among kasal.

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00:44 - Hello everybody.

01:01 Hello everyone.

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01:08 Good afternoon.

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01:13 We are now heading to the last few days

01:28 of the month of May

01:29 and hopefully fruitful in your May

01:32 and congratulations.

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01:42 And exercises.

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01:47 And also their parents

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02:25 Anyways, so hello everybody.

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02:41 Hello everybody.

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02:47 Shout out to everyone.

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03:03 Facebook live wherever you are in the world.

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03:08 Maybe you're outside the country,

03:10 you're in the Philippines,

03:11 especially me, Ma'am TA Grace.

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03:16 Hello, Ma'am.

03:17 Good afternoon.

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03:22 Every Tuesday, so from four to five.

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03:39 I don't know about you girls,

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03:42 since May and then after May, June.

03:44 Before, (speaking in foreign language)

03:46 Wow, I feel so old.

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03:51 Well, anyways, (speaking in foreign language)

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05:42 Excuse me, miss.

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05:48 By the way, (speaking in foreign language)

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05:59 Nice to know you, Lorine.

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06:02 Yes, second year.

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06:05 Yes.

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06:13 I see.

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06:19 No problem.

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06:24 Oh, yes, of course.

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06:30 I was in my second year when I met Sean.

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06:43 Hi, Lorine.

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06:54 Roses for you.

06:56 Congratulations.

06:57 Huh, why?

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07:02 What, (speaking in foreign language)

07:04 Yes.

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07:12 Lorine, I'm so proud of you.

07:19 Thank you, Sean.

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07:24 Let's see.

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07:44 Fast forward.

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08:09 I know, right?

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09:29 Thanks for saying, Besh.

09:54 You're welcome, Beshti.

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10:09 I am not getting any younger.

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12:22 While it's true that he is a good boyfriend,

12:31 but deep inside my heart,

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13:13 In all honesty, Chixi, getting married is my dream.

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13:27 All right, thank you so much.

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13:46 Danica, congratulations.

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13:54 And then of course, Kenneth and Charlie.

13:58 Thank you guys so much.

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14:04 Thank you, Charlie and Kenneth.

14:12 Hopefully soon, thank you.

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14:18 I'll help myself compose.

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14:25 Go ahead and comment down below

14:48 all of those sentiments.

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15:15 Please do watch our Facebook live now

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15:36 See Lorene, nearing her, really early,

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15:57 Since college, (speaking in foreign language)

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17:12 So please, your comments, your reactions about this story,

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17:20 Just yesterday, I was able to attend the wedding.

17:24 By the way, congratulations to my cousin.

17:26 And then I've seen (speaking in foreign language)

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17:53 You really need to spend for that.

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19:09 Go ahead and comment and share your thoughts.

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19:23 What are you going to do?

19:30 Are you going to wait or are you going to get out

19:34 of the relationship?

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20:31 10 years is no joke.

20:36 In this modern time and age of having a relationship

20:39 while others are just playing around.

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20:56 I understand the test of time.

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21:03 And again, we are streaming live,

21:16 not just on Sunstar Cebu on Facebook,

21:18 but also Super Balita Cebu, okay?

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21:53 Hello, everybody.

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22:07 My father.

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22:25 Best Actress Trophy, Nia,

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22:29 I think a few weeks ago,

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22:50 Congratulations.

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22:55 Congrats, Catherine.

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23:06 Congrats, Catherine Bernardo.

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23:37 Vlogger, and also, not just a content creator, rather,

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24:21 He can go out with his friends,

24:23 go drinking every once in a while,

24:26 and chat with whoever he wants.

24:29 No harm in that.

24:30 What's shameful is purposely posting and editing a video

24:34 to cause a stir, disturbing the peace of people

24:38 and dragging them into their negativity

24:41 just for some social media attention.

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25:07 But it's not true,

25:07 and they're not flirting with each other.

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26:06 We always need to think before we post.

26:15 Okay, if you're posting it for in a way,

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26:21 it's something romantic.

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28:34 In January of 2024,

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28:40 So as of the very moment,

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28:57 Number one,

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29:03 vacation date or it's work related.

29:06 So as of the very moment,

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29:59 However, in the papers,

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30:11 Especially some mommy,

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30:13 retry if she's going to speak about it

30:15 or is he Barbie will also speak about it

30:18 or their management will speak about it.

30:19 But as of the moment,

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30:40 Moving forward time right now is 4.42.

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30:49 Obligation is on the part of the,

31:00 the BF or her BF,

31:05 it's practical to share the expenses of both parties.

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31:13 We will share.

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32:02 I'm so confused.

32:03 Should I stay in the relationship?

32:05 It's been 10 years.

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32:09 All that.

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32:27 Earlier on,

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34:00 This is why you need a date to marry.

34:02 Obviously, he isn't ready to marry

34:04 because of his obligations.

34:07 You need to think this through several times.

34:11 Believe me when I tell you,

34:13 his obligations don't end after his siblings graduate.

34:18 Is this something you can live with?

34:21 For me, it's a major red flag.

34:24 Remember that these red flags you overlook

34:27 will eventually be the reason you want to live.

34:31 I'd run if I were you, but again, that's me.

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34:42 Responsible, even in the story,

34:52 in the beginning of the story,

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34:56 See, Sean have exhibited the example.

34:58 He's a very responsible man.

35:00 In fact, finishing college as a working student

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36:04 That's the question.

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37:29 Be patient or move on.

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37:49 Okay, so, (speaking in foreign language)

38:07 We will go down to the (speaking in foreign language)

38:09 We will go down to the summary of it all.

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38:18, thank you so much.

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38:24 So anyways, thank you so much, TA Grace,

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38:51 So let's move forward.

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38:56 It should go both ways.

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39:25 Because number one, he is a breadwinner.

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39:36 As a woman, I'm not sure if you're well-off,

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39:43 However, 10 years is not a joke, and it's right.

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40:07 Who would last a very long relationship

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40:20 This is one of the major concern,

40:23 because as a woman, I understand you.

40:25 I feel you, in fact.

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40:30 Everybody around you is settling down

40:32 while you are there left like, huh?

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40:48 How are you willing to understand and wait?

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40:56 Because you have savings.

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41:01 It's just that (speaking in foreign language)

41:21 viewers and all that.

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41:36 If you are left behind by the society,

41:39 you have the option to run away.

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42:00 It's not just that the society is pressuring me.

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42:27 I mean, in the modern time and age,

42:52 I'd still want that I will be the one

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43:03 No, as a woman, it's really nice to be pursued.

43:06 In the first place, (speaking in foreign language)

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43:24 Because in the setting of, though,

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43:37 That's one very important,

43:44 and even in the setting of (speaking in foreign language)

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44:19 I mean, men have their own egos as well.

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44:26 Lorraine, you have two options,

44:31 and I'm gonna give you the two options.

44:33 Number one, you wait and compromise.

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44:38 Or number two, get out.

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44:47 It's not easy to wait forever, but until when?

45:02 And I always believe (speaking in foreign language)

45:12 But as of the moment, (speaking in foreign language)

45:14 you've mentioned the story

45:16 that your partner is responsible,

45:18 your partner is helping out their family.

45:22 That's one.

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45:26 So have a setup.

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45:31 But have a setup, concrete plan.

45:34 Like maybe by this year, (speaking in foreign language)

45:37 as partners, maybe by this year,

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45:40 establish for your future,

45:42 maybe by this year, have a plan.

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45:47 I'm sure you're gonna get tired,

45:50 and one day you'll just wake up and wanna go.

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46:02 Truth be told, I've been experiencing

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46:06 in my case, 'cause we're not getting any younger,

46:09 but some people are asking, "When?"

46:11 But at the end of the day,

46:13 case to case basis, (speaking in foreign language)

46:18 Because when the time is right,

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46:24 I'm not trying to be preachy about this,

46:26 but I believe that (speaking in foreign language)

46:31 When the time is right, I, the Lord, will make it happen.

46:33 So (speaking in foreign language)

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46:40 Possibly, it's gonna be with Sean,

46:43 or possibly it's gonna happen with another man.

46:46 So I'm not closing here my (speaking in foreign language)

46:51 And maybe when you let go, that's the time,

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47:37 As a woman, you are going to establish what you felt.

47:42 And then, of course, (speaking in foreign language)

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47:48 Are you not sure about us?

47:53 I need to know, because sometimes it needs assurance.

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48:04 And doesn't mean (speaking in foreign language)

48:21 you won't pursue your partner.

48:22 It's very important, it's vital,

48:25 that even in marriage,

48:27 that you continue to pursue your partner regardless of.

48:32 You continue to make them feel special,

48:36 you continue to let them feel respect,

48:39 you continue to let them feel loved,

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48:47 But what will stay is your companionship.

48:51 And it needs to be (speaking in foreign language)

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49:04 And also, you meet halfway G.

49:24 I mean, Lorraine, (speaking in foreign language)

49:29 You meet halfway Lorraine.

49:31 You have to tell him, (speaking in foreign language)

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50:00 You just fear.

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50:07 Again, it all leads to (speaking in foreign language)

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50:34 And one thing, (speaking in foreign language)

50:39 is part of how you look back to your family

50:43 as a good son or daughter.

50:45 (speaking in foreign language)

50:49, I agree, from Karame.

50:54, no?

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51:20 So again, (speaking in foreign language)

51:25 Again, I gave you two options.

51:27 I'm not gonna stick to one,

51:28 because I know that you have your choices.

51:31 (speaking in foreign language)

51:35 You state your case.

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51:54 But if he does something, he do something for your future.

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52:02 Thank you so much.

52:13 I hope (speaking in foreign language)

52:18 But however, thank you so much.

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52:22 And I'm gonna see you next week, same time, 4 to 5.

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52:29 By the way, I have a radio show there later, 6 to 9.

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52:39 And also, (speaking in foreign language)

52:44 Again, don't forget, (speaking in foreign language)

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52:54 I also have a page where you can send your stories

52:59 and be featured (speaking in foreign language)

53:04 through DJ Chixi on Facebook.

53:09 And of course, Instagram and Twitter,

53:12 Instagram, (speaking in foreign language)

53:15 and on TikTok, DJ Chixi.

53:17 Thank you so much.

53:18 Don't forget to also check out the latest news

53:20 and updates at www.sunstar.com.ph.

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53:24 And once again, can you say Chixi?

53:26 Till next Tuesday, God bless you all.

53:28 Bye.

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