Video Information: Shabdyoga Satsang, 26.10.2016, Advait Bodhsthal, Noida, India
Context:
~ What is love?
~ What is marriage?
~ How to relate with others?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Context:
~ What is love?
~ What is marriage?
~ How to relate with others?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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LifestyleTranscript
00:00 So whenever I see what's my mom's life, what's my dad's life, also called married
00:13 life, and then I'll discuss with my friends that only that aisa hi hota hai, aisa hi zindagi
00:22 hai, and whenever that happens, that's a good thing.
00:31 So I don't understand, the way they live, the way they live, there's no shortage of
00:37 anything, if there's a problem, I don't understand that.
00:41 Why do we often talk of marriage?
00:44 As such, I have nothing against two people committing to stay together.
00:50 But why do I often talk of it?
00:54 I talk of it because the mind that is so eagerly wanting marriage is often a mind that wants
01:10 the marriage due to its insecurity, its dullness, and its inability to see what it is wanting
01:35 and doing.
01:40 That darkness, that ignorance reflects in all the actions of that mind, all the actions
01:47 of that individual.
01:49 But it reflects most starkly in the institution of marriage because it is so very permanent,
01:59 at least relative to the other things in life.
02:02 You can buy a shirt and you can do away with it.
02:06 That's not what you can do with your wife or husband.
02:12 That's why I talk so often of it.
02:14 I have nothing against marriage.
02:16 I have a lot to do with the mind of man, the mind that rushes towards security, the mind
02:24 that wants to possess and hold captive another living being.
02:30 I want to talk of that mind.
02:33 But when it comes to marriage, that mind acts almost in a suicidal way because now you have
02:43 gone into something which given your current state would be extremely irreversible for
02:49 you.
02:50 Not only would it be irreversible, it would be spawning a series of actions from here.
02:58 Marriage will decide the kind of work that you will do.
03:04 It will decide your relationship with the kids that you will breed.
03:08 It will decide practically everything about your life now.
03:13 That's why I talk about marriage.
03:16 Otherwise, why must I bother?
03:20 Two fellows can comfortably live with each other all their life and it can be very beautiful
03:26 as well.
03:29 But what if both of them have come to each other in sheer darkness?
03:33 What if they do not know what they are doing?
03:37 What if they are getting into an irreversible trap?
03:44 What if the mistake is final, incorrigible?
04:06 That's why I talk about it.
04:09 A Buddha entering marriage would be so very alright.
04:16 Why would one bother?
04:20 He is a Buddha.
04:22 In his Buddhahood, whatever he does is beautiful.
04:27 As an awakened one, in your wisdom, whatever you do would be beautiful.
04:32 You may decide to marry, you may decide to not to marry.
04:35 You may decide to live with one man, you may decide to live with three men.
04:39 You may decide to have no kids, you may decide to have ten kids.
04:42 Whatever you do would be wonderful.
04:45 Who am I to talk about your intimate and individual decisions then?
04:53 Whatever you do in your awakened state is just the right thing that you must do.
05:00 Why must me or anybody talk about it?
05:04 So I have nothing as such against the institution of marriage.
05:08 But I very well know why this institution is so all pervasive.
05:13 Why one may skip anything else in life but does not skip marriage?
05:21 Because it pertains to our deepest darkness.
05:28 And the deepest desire of the ego with a sense of incompleteness is to permanently latch on to somebody else.
05:43 Love is the one thing that can redeem.
05:51 And marriage acts as a very profane substitute for that.
05:59 What should have been the avenue for your redemption becomes your permanent enslavement.
06:08 Love can sublimate, love can help you break out from your regular patterns.
06:16 But love withheld by marriage becomes a pattern in itself.
06:22 Instead of showing up as a dynamite, as something that can revolutionize your life,
06:32 it becomes something that strangulates your life.
06:36 Do you see this?
06:38 You know the utter power of love, don't you?
06:40 You know what it can do.
06:42 And you must also know that when this power is socialized,
06:51 when this power is given a name, a shape, a pattern, a uniform,
07:03 then you have lost that which was your only possibility of redemption.
07:14 It's like having an axe that can break all your chains and using that axe instead to strike at your own legs.
07:30 Love would have helped you fly.
07:35 And now you have captivated love within four walls.
07:50 As wise men and women, if you are married, wonderful.
07:56 As wise men and women, if you are not married, wonderful.
08:00 The point is not really marriage.
08:02 The point is wisdom.
08:05 You get this.
08:12 I'm not crusading against a social evil.
08:22 My one and only concern is the mind of man.
08:29 Society and other things come way later.
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