DEJA, Quintell and Diamond are in a throuple. Deja and Quintell met as teenagers and had been married for almost six years when Diamond became Deja’s apprentice at a barbershop. A year later, Deja decided to introduce her into her relationship with Quintell and they decided to become polyamorous. He said: “We knew that we loved each other and we knew that we began having feelings for Diamond, but we didn't know what it was called or how to move forward. So we were Googling terms… And that's how we figured out about the term polyamory.” They are all in a relationship with one another. Deja said: “None of us had been in a poly relationship before. None of us had been in a throuple before - so it was brand new. So it took adjustments for all of us.” They share their relationship on social media and the response has been positive however, they’ve received a lot of judgement too. They’ve had comments calling Diamond ‘a homewrecker’ and ‘a toy’ or calling Quintell ‘a pimp’. But the throuple won’t let this affect their relationship. Quintell added: “To people that judge our relationship, I would say; we're happy. We love what we're doing.”
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00:00My name is Deidre. I'm Diamond. And I'm Quintel. And we're a couple. My wife made
00:06her apprentice our girlfriend. We knew that we loved each other and we knew
00:10that we began having feelings for Diamond, but we didn't know what it was
00:14called. The world is one of the biggest challenges because somebody always has
00:18something to say. I'm a homewrecker. Me being like a pimp. You said you'll never try it.
00:23Absolutely not. I like to do it by the book like the good Lord said.
00:29My God. If there have been jealous moments, how do you three resolve them?
00:35Oh, well. We've been together for 13 years now. 13 long days.
00:45We met at the age of 14 and been rocking ever since.
00:49We were married for six years before we decided to open up our marriage.
00:55We met at a barbershop. She actually started teaching me how to braid.
01:03I began by mentoring her. And then later on down the line, we did a friendship and now a relationship.
01:11A year to a year and a half after meeting Diamond, I decided to introduce her to my relationship with Quintel.
01:16One day I came home from work and she was in my living room with my wife talking and stuff.
01:21They were on lunch from the braiding shop and that's when I figured out that they started to become close.
01:26We both decided to open up our relationship because they're just bisexual and I've known that since we were kids.
01:33We've been to throuple for three years going on four.
01:36We knew that we loved each other and we knew that we began having feelings for Diamond.
01:40But we didn't know what it was called or how to move forward or something like that.
01:45So we were Googling terms and stuff like that and that's how we figured out about the term like polyamory.
01:51We do have some specific worlds. Basically, I do all the cooking and cleaning.
01:55Oh gosh.
01:56No, I was just joking.
01:58I was going to say, I was going to do this.
02:00Diamond basically is more so taking care of the kids and stuff like that.
02:04I'm more so paying the bills and the breadwinner, Deja, works.
02:09I think some of the best things about being in a throuple is the share of responsibilities and load
02:16that necessarily you don't have in like a two, what is it called? A couple.
02:22I'm like a two person relationship.
02:25A monogamy relationship.
02:26Okay, yeah.
02:27During jealous moments, I'm very upfront.
02:30It's important to communicate that with your partners.
02:33What do y'all want to watch?
02:35I don't know.
02:37Yes.
02:38We are all intimate with each other.
02:40We all share the same bed.
02:41We have four amazing children.
02:44We've explained the relationship as far as they know that they have two moms.
02:48And they know that when you love someone, you can have a child with them.
02:52When we first started dating, Diamond used to have her own room.
02:56We had our own room still.
02:58And Diamond would like come into our room in like the middle of the night.
03:02Normally, we would try to make sure that Diamond was back in her room by the morning.
03:07But that one day, no.
03:11We overslept and Remy came into the bedroom.
03:15She didn't think anything of it though.
03:17She just said, hi mom, hi dad, hi Diamond.
03:20We thought that she was going to be like weirded out or, you know, ask plenty of questions.
03:24But she just acted like it was normal.
03:26And she just jumped into bed with us.
03:27And I think from then on, we was like, okay, maybe we could share a room.
03:31And it's not be like super awkward with the kids or anything.
03:34None of us have been in a poly relationship before.
03:37None of us have been in a throuple before.
03:39So it was brand new.
03:41So it took a just use for all of us.
03:44Y'all ready to go live?
03:46Yeah.
03:47Because we've been telling them that we were going to do a Q&A all week.
03:51It's not that time.
03:52Oh lord, yeah.
03:53They're going to be asking some crazy stuff.
03:54Basically, we use our platforms to kind of like shed light on what like polyamory is,
04:01what a throuple is, and what our dynamic looks like.
04:06We shared that we were a throuple about two years ago.
04:09The response was mostly positive.
04:12Negativity that we received about our relationship consisted of people who are like super religious,
04:19people who are monogamous and only see life one way.
04:24My response that I've gotten is more so I'm a home wrecker.
04:29Quintel's going to have to choose one day.
04:31Diamond is just a toy.
04:34Me being like a pimp.
04:36We've gotten comments of like a cult or me not even loving neither one of them.
04:41Some comments that I did receive when I was pregnant with my first child that I should have an abortion
04:45because my child wasn't made with purity basically.
04:49Some of my family asks us questions like, what's wrong in your marriage?
04:55I don't need to do that in order to keep my husband.
04:58No.
04:59People are funny.
05:01The entire system.
05:02The world is one of the biggest challenges because somebody always has something to say.
05:06I would like to say to those who are judging our relationship, what's it to you?
05:12Why do you care?
05:13Are you married?
05:16Do you have a boyfriend?
05:17No.
05:18Me either.
05:20Are you happy?
05:21Are you happy?
05:22Yes.
05:23Not only with somebody else but with yourself.
05:25Hey, thank you all for joining your favorite Polly.
05:28I know that's right.
05:29Hey.
05:30We're going to the salon to go ahead and meet Brandon and MJ.
05:34The first time we stepped out in public as a struggle, it was like, do you think they all know?
05:40Right?
05:41We thought everybody was looking at us.
05:42How many times do you think we got to explain this, you know?
05:46I felt like a superstar, honestly.
05:48This is Martela and I've been doing her hair for five years.
05:53I found out about their relationship through social media and honestly, I felt kind of salty about it.
05:59At first, I think it was kind of like a secret.
06:01I wasn't supposed to know about it.
06:03When I first found out about the thruple, I told Deja and Quintel, like, I don't know if this is going to work out.
06:08Like, it is what it is, but wasn't a fan at all.
06:12I don't think the relationship was a form of cheating.
06:15Probably just was having fun, a little phase or something at the moment.
06:18So, how does the relationship work out for y'all?
06:21It's, like, more help.
06:22Like, we have more balance.
06:24If one person isn't feeling up to it, I can get it from the other person, basically.
06:28Like, emotional-wise, reassurance, all that.
06:32So, it works for the best.
06:34I love you and Quintel.
06:35So, just like, dang, I don't know what to expect out of this.
06:38Y'all relationship is so strong.
06:41I don't know how it's going to work out for y'all, but honestly, I'm happy for y'all now.
06:45I've known Martela for over 10 years, and we've just known Brandon for about four.
06:50Brandon met us as a thruple.
06:52Out of everything you know about Polly, you said you'll never try it.
06:56So, you're asking me, would I?
06:57Would you?
06:58Absolutely not.
07:01It looks a little expensive.
07:03If I'm dating one person, it's, like, me and her.
07:06Q, on the other hand, he got to pay for him.
07:08Days and that.
07:09I'm like, boy.
07:11Nah, but more power to him, man.
07:13But it ain't for me, man.
07:16I'm a traditional guy.
07:17I love to see love, but I like to do it by the book, like the good Lord said.
07:22My God!
07:24Their relationship, the three of them, looks better than a lot of people with just two.
07:29Like, the way they love each other, the way they compromise and resolve conflict together.
07:35Would you want another person to join your relationship now?
07:38Yes, right now.
07:39No.
07:40I'm just joking.
07:41I'm joking.
07:42I think the relationship works so well because we all understand each other.
07:46We all give each other grace whenever we all have our bad days.
07:49And we always try to make sure that each person feels loved.
07:53To people that judge our relationship, I would say we're happy, we love what we're doing.
07:58I would say love don't judge.