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00:00it's my first interactive session with you online and I'm really very excited but also nervous so
00:13my question is you said in one of your videos that close your eyes and identify if you had
00:19no fear then what would you be doing currently in your life and then just do that however in
00:25another video you also mentioned that do not do what you want because whatever you want comes
00:32from external influences and so whatever we want may be useless and not really meaningful so
00:39what to follow what our heart says or something which we are not interested in but it's meaningful
00:45sir because I'm in my CL final level and like I'm also interested in many extracurriculars
00:52like dancing and performing arts but I've never tried it like I'm good in dance and I also spend
01:00one hour a day to go to dance sessions but I'm currently living in Bhatanda in Punjab so I did
01:07do jobs in Delhi and Gurgaon and in finance and accounts department and then I also worked for
01:13a startup in IB investment banking after a point I've switched many jobs and put a gap in between
01:20and have tried multiple things but now my parents have said that just finish your college
01:26finish off your degree and then you can do anything you want now as time is passing and I'm seeing that
01:33they're like they're saying that it's now your age to marry but my degree is just six months I mean I'll
01:41get my final degree in six months and they're like just finish off your degree and then we will find
01:46someone for you so like there are many things which I want to explore for myself but I'm very very
01:51confused what to do
01:53this is
02:01before I start answering your particular question see this is what this this country does to women
02:09you know the woman counts her days he says let me do whatever can be done of life before marriage
02:23because after marriage all this exploration and discovery and adventure will anyway come to an end
02:33makes me sad makes me sad also makes me angry depends on the mood anyway
02:41men don't feel that way once they get married they won't be able to go out and seek things
02:54or explore or find doors closed okay so you said the first thing I said was close your eyes
03:06without fear
03:09do
03:12what comes to you right that was the first statement
03:18that spoke of being without fear
03:24and the second one that you quoted talked of being
03:30without
03:31your
03:33desires
03:35you said do not do
03:38what you want
03:40do not do
03:43do not just go with your
03:44with your random desires
03:46the first one is talking of being without
03:50fear
03:52and the second one
03:54is talking
03:56of being without
03:59the usual kind of desires
04:02and if these two sentences are to agree with each other
04:07what would that need
04:09just
04:13just equate these two sentences each other assuming
04:16that the speaker has some integrity
04:19he won't be talking of two different things at two points
04:24if two
04:26if these two sentences are coming from the same center
04:29then these two will agree with each other no
04:32and if you equate these two with each other what do you get
04:36no fear is no desire
04:38no fear is no desire
04:40so fear equals
04:41desire
04:42that's the key to understand
04:44typically
04:47your desires are deeply related to your fears
04:52first comes the fear and then comes the desire
04:57and the desire is always a cover up job on the fear
05:03and that too a bad cover up job
05:07the fear remains
05:12and a lot of time and energy is spent on the desire
05:16and yet even the fulfillment of the desire
05:20fails to cover up for the fear
05:24the fear still remains
05:26fear still remains
05:31that's what we are probably missing on
05:34we take fear as a negative thing
05:37you should not have fear in life
05:39equally we take desire as something to be pursued
05:44go chase your desires
05:47go get what you want
05:53no this is ignorance
05:56you look at any desire that you have
06:00that has arisen
06:06just as a blind reaction
06:08to an inner ignorance
06:12I feel I lack in something
06:14and that's
06:16that's related to fear
06:17when you lack in something
06:19then
06:19oh my god
06:20am I missing out on life
06:22I lack in something
06:23fear
06:23we feel we lack in something
06:26and then to make up for that lack
06:29we want an object
06:32today this object
06:37and tomorrow that one
06:38that's desire
06:39one does not desire for nothing
06:42if you were totally alright with yourself
06:46if you were very fulfilled within
06:49would you still have these same desires
06:52that you currently have
06:53no
06:54so all desires arise from a feeling of incompleteness
06:59and there is a great insecurity
07:01what if I live all my life
07:04remaining incomplete
07:08what if I die unfulfilled
07:11in fact you would have
07:13heard
07:14these
07:16these
07:16statements
07:17often
07:18in fact these are
07:22some of the same statements
07:23that scare mongers
07:25use to target women
07:26especially
07:27the more you hear
07:40such warnings
07:42the more you covet
07:45a darling husband
07:46even though you know
07:50what that fellow is
07:51is probably going to bring
07:52to your life
07:57wanting
08:01per se
08:03is neither good nor bad
08:05but when you want
08:09from a point of ignorance
08:11when you have
08:13never bothered
08:14to
08:14to see
08:15that even if your want
08:17is fulfilled
08:18it would still leave
08:21you unfulfilled
08:23then wanting
08:25is a problem
08:25nothing is always a problem
08:28and everything
08:29is a problem
08:30from the wrong center
08:31wanting from the wrong center
08:34is a problem
08:35you can also want
08:38from the right center
08:39you can have targets
08:43from the right center
08:44you can run
08:48huge projects
08:49and
08:49international missions
08:52from the right center
08:54forget
08:55small desires
08:56you can have
08:56mammoth desires
08:57from the right center
08:59and they would
08:59still be great
09:00we are told
09:03you should not
09:03desire too much
09:04you can desire too much
09:06and that would
09:07still be alright
09:08if the desire
09:09is from the
09:09right center
09:10and even the
09:12feeblest desire
09:13from the
09:15center of ignorance
09:16would not be right
09:20not be right
09:21for you
09:22we are not talking
09:24in the moral sense here
09:25we are talking
09:28in the utilitarian sense here
09:29in the practical sense here
09:31getting it?
09:37there has been
09:44lately this controversy
09:45some
09:49internet
09:51chaps
09:52and comics
09:53and stand-up
09:54artists
09:55and they have
09:55said a few things
09:57and there is a
09:58general outrage
10:00and everybody
10:00is outraging
10:01and
10:03massive
10:05so
10:09it is all over the place
10:11I was scrolling
10:13through
10:13my reels
10:14and it appeared
10:15there as well
10:17there is
10:19this
10:20girl
10:21who is a part
10:24of the controversy
10:25there was a small clip
10:27that appeared
10:28on my screen
10:29she was being
10:31interviewed by someone
10:32she was actually
10:34being interviewed
10:35by someone
10:35who has interviewed
10:36me as well
10:37so maybe that's
10:37the reason
10:38it appeared
10:39on my feed
10:39so he
10:43asks her
10:44and this
10:46this
10:47this girl
10:48I do not know her
10:49but from her
10:50get up
10:50and mannerisms
10:51she looks like
10:54the
10:54typical representative
10:57of
10:59Gen Z
11:00outspoken
11:03unafraid
11:06outgoing
11:06all those things
11:09so this fellow
11:13asks her
11:14what do you expect
11:18from your husband
11:19a small
11:22like 60 second
11:23thing
11:24and she says
11:25after a bit
11:27of a silence
11:27what's your
11:29ideal man
11:29yaar
11:30maare waare na
11:32bas yaar
11:35maare waare na
11:36no
11:40typically I just
11:44scroll away
11:45but this
11:49this wasn't
11:52a made up
11:53thing
11:55or at least
11:56that's the way
11:57it appeared
11:58to me
11:58and this
12:00wasn't
12:01coming from
12:02a small
12:05town girl
12:06coming from
12:09the interiors
12:10Jharkhand
12:11or Chhattisgarh
12:12or eastern
12:13UP
12:14this is coming
12:16from someone
12:17who probably
12:19has a
12:20significant
12:21net worth
12:22a passport
12:28carries
12:29stamps
12:29of at least
12:3010-20
12:30countries
12:31she has
12:31travelled to
12:32and yet
12:38there is
12:38this
12:39fear
12:40that I
12:41would be
12:41beaten up
12:42in the
12:43marriage
12:43I don't
12:46think she
12:47was joking
12:48at that
12:49point
12:49it was
12:52half a
12:52second
12:53of
12:55authenticity
12:55I
13:03tend to
13:04think
13:04what if
13:05all these
13:06roses
13:07and garments
13:09and ornaments
13:10just a cover
13:13up for fear
13:14it's the wedding
13:19season right
13:19the sky is
13:24pink
13:24and still
13:27another moment
13:30another place
13:31another day
13:32the same
13:33person
13:34or somebody
13:35else like
13:35her
13:35somebody else
13:37like
13:38would be so
13:41desirous of
13:41getting into
13:44a
13:44relationship
13:45without ever
13:46bothering to
13:47inquire
13:47why
13:48what is it
13:49within me
13:50that impels
13:53me
13:54in such a
13:55direction
13:56are your desires
14:12really your
14:13friends
14:14have you seen
14:21where your desires
14:23come from
14:24and those who have
14:32stakes in your desires
14:34will they ever want you
14:36to turn inwards
14:37there is just fear
14:48within
14:49especially as a
14:51woman if you will look
14:52into your heart
14:52that's what you will
14:53find
14:53not love
14:54the heart
14:55for a woman
14:56is hardly a symbol
14:57of love
14:57that's why I feel
15:01so sad
15:03for
15:03for
15:03this
15:04potentially
15:05great country
15:06half its population
15:10has
15:11nothing but fear
15:13in its heart
15:13that's not to say
15:18that the other half
15:19is fearless
15:19and from that fear
15:26you can keep taking
15:27all kinds of decisions
15:28to get into a relationship
15:30to not to get into a relationship
15:31to take up a job
15:33to quit from a job
15:34to have a baby
15:36to not have a baby
15:37to shift to that place
15:41to not to shift to that place
15:43to cover up your body
15:48to reveal your body
15:50you can take
15:51all kinds
15:52of very distinct decisions
15:54from that same center
15:56the center of
15:57fear
15:58how does it matter
15:59how does it matter
16:01if everything is coming from
16:03fear
16:04somebody is scared
16:11I would be beaten up
16:12she decides not to marry
16:14somebody is scared
16:15I would be left alone
16:16she decides to marry
16:18how does it matter
16:20how is it any different
16:22and what would be
16:27the quality of relationship
16:29I beg to ask
16:30you know
16:32you are a
16:33you are a man
16:34a woman marries you
16:36because she is afraid
16:37of being
16:39being lonely
16:40as a man
16:44should you accept
16:45that relationship
16:45and
16:52instead you
16:54catch the opportunities
16:57with both hands
16:57you want to make her
17:00feel even more lonely
17:01so that she runs
17:03to you
17:05even faster
17:06we
17:14used to have
17:16these scenes
17:18in the dark decade
17:22of
17:23of Bollywood cinema
17:2590s
17:26the hero
17:29wants to patow
17:30the heroine
17:31so he lets
17:35lose a few
17:36goons upon her
17:37just to impress
17:42upon her
17:43that she is
17:44weak and vulnerable
17:45and
17:49these goons
17:50are
17:50obviously
17:51buddies of the
17:52hero himself
17:54and just
17:56when they are
17:56about to
17:57overpower her
17:58he jumps
18:01from some
18:01god damn
18:02branch of a tree
18:03and takes
18:05four of them
18:05down
18:05and then
18:09the lady
18:09is all
18:10wooed
18:10and impressed
18:11and
18:15find that cute
18:16you are
18:20coercing
18:20someone
18:21to come
18:22to you
18:22by inducing
18:23fear in that
18:24person
18:25that is
18:27continuously
18:28happening
18:28even today
18:29maybe in
18:30not as
18:30gross a
18:31form
18:31but it is
18:32still happening
18:33there may be
18:35external
18:36goons
18:37were needed
18:37to forcefully
18:42make her
18:42admit that
18:43she is weak
18:43today you
18:44have internal
18:45goons
18:45but there is
18:47just so much
18:48around to
18:49make her
18:49feel weak
18:50and from
18:51that weakness
18:51all kinds of
18:52decisions are
18:53being taken
18:53and no
18:57decision I
18:58repeat is
18:59necessarily
18:59right or
19:00wrong
19:00you obviously
19:01can take the
19:02decision to be
19:02married and
19:03the decision
19:04can be wonderful
19:05provided it is
19:05coming from
19:06the right
19:07center
19:07but is the
19:09right center
19:09active at all
19:10in the first
19:11place
19:11it cannot
19:13be selectively
19:14activated for
19:15the purpose
19:15of marriage
19:16or can it
19:17be
19:17everything about
19:19your life is
19:20coming from
19:20the wrong
19:20center
19:21and just for
19:22one purpose
19:23you say you
19:24know this is
19:24the love of
19:25my heart
19:25how come
19:27nothing else
19:28is coming from
19:29your heart in
19:29your life
19:30only this man
19:31happens to
19:32come from
19:32there
19:32consciousness
19:37itself
19:37shrivels
19:39have you seen
19:40how you behave
19:41when you are
19:42afraid
19:42feel a turtle
19:45when it's
19:45afraid
19:46what does it
19:47do
19:47it shrinks
19:50into itself
19:51it covers
19:54itself up
19:55with its
20:00armor
20:00not a petty
20:06sight
20:06oh is it
20:07turtles can
20:09be cute
20:10but all
20:11that you get
20:12to see
20:12if it's an
20:13armor
20:13how cute
20:14is that
20:15in the name
20:16of a turtle
20:17if you see
20:18just the
20:20inverted plate
20:21the armor
20:23is it cute
20:25no
20:25that's how
20:29one half
20:29of the population
20:31of my country
20:31looks
20:32only armored
20:35because they
20:40operate from
20:40here
20:41and then I am
20:43saying there is
20:43a shrinking
20:44whereas the
20:47nature of
20:47consciousness
20:48is to
20:48expand
20:49that's where
20:51fulfillment of
20:53life lies
20:54in expansion
20:55therefore
20:57the scriptures
20:59the philosophies
21:01often equate
21:02the true
21:05state of
21:05consciousness
21:06to the sky
21:07in the sense
21:08of expansion
21:09and freedom
21:10and limitlessness
21:11where is expansion
21:16where is freedom
21:16there is only
21:18the desperate
21:19urge for security
21:21and one can
21:22understand that
21:23urge
21:23if you are
21:25always behind
21:26someone
21:26right from
21:28her childhood
21:28chasing her
21:32indoctrinating
21:33her
21:33conditioning
21:34her
21:34terrifying
21:35her
21:35nobody is
21:39a super
21:39woman
21:39people do
21:43get terrified
21:44and when
21:47you are afraid
21:48you know
21:48you can get
21:50wicked
21:50when you know
21:55what the world
21:55is doing to
21:56you
21:56you want to
21:57give it back
21:58in the same
21:58way
21:59and then
22:03men come up
22:04and play
22:04the victim
22:05you know
22:06she exploited
22:07me
22:08what the hell
22:10have you trained
22:11her for
22:11all her life
22:12you have trained
22:14her to get
22:15exploited
22:15she said
22:17you know
22:18I have
22:20one fleeting
22:22chance here
22:22let me just
22:23pay them back
22:24their currency
22:26isn't it
22:28tragic
22:29you know
22:30men come up
22:31on that
22:31same screen
22:32and ask
22:34questions about
22:34all things
22:35in life
22:35and when
22:38women come
22:38up
22:3870%
22:39questions
22:40pertain
22:40just to
22:40you have
22:47left her
22:47with just
22:48this
22:49you have
22:51left her
22:52with just
22:52this
22:53you have
22:54left her
22:55with just
22:56she will
22:56not talk
22:57about the
22:58middle east
22:58she will
23:00not talk
23:00of the
23:01reciprocal
23:02tariffs that
23:03trump and
23:03musk are
23:04bringing in
23:05she will not
23:07talk of harley
23:08davidson sales
23:09and what the
23:10tariff system
23:10will do to
23:11that
23:11she will talk
23:15of
23:15that's 50%
23:19of her
23:20population
23:20we are talking
23:21of 50%
23:21of our
23:22species
23:22and I'm
23:32saying you
23:33starve the
23:33woman
23:34and you
23:35starve the
23:36man as
23:36well
23:37because man
23:38does require
23:39the woman
23:40as company
23:40and if
23:43you have
23:43a person
23:44you have
23:46yourself
23:47weakened
23:48and sickened
23:49and terrified
23:51and reduced
23:52what will the
23:55company of
23:56that person
23:57do to you
23:58please tell me
23:59I inject a
24:05certain virus
24:05into you
24:06and then I
24:09keep you for
24:09my company
24:10what am I
24:11doing to
24:12myself
24:12I'm
24:15injecting
24:16that virus
24:16into myself
24:17through
24:18you
24:19that's what
24:21man has
24:21done to
24:21woman
24:22you reduce
24:27the woman
24:27and through
24:29the woman
24:29you will
24:31be reduced
24:31I'm sure
24:37this was
24:38not the
24:39direction
24:39you wanted
24:39my response
24:40to take
24:40so you're
24:42free to
24:42take it
24:45towards the
24:46place you
24:46wanted to
24:47take it
24:47to
24:47tell me
24:49sir
24:50actually
24:51currently I
24:52want to
24:52finish off
24:52my few
24:53papers left
24:53and then I
24:54want to
24:54explore other
24:55things
24:55but in my
24:57house the
24:58environment
24:58that is being
24:59created is
24:59like they
25:00will randomly
25:01start talking
25:02about like my
25:03mother has
25:03already told her
25:04sister to look
25:05for somebody
25:05and she
25:06regularly updates
25:07me about
25:08this boy
25:09and I have
25:10never seen
25:11the picture
25:11of this
25:12boy
25:12also like
25:13I'm not
25:14even interested
25:14in it
25:15but the
25:16thing is
25:16that now
25:17the environment
25:18which is being
25:18created
25:19it's very
25:20distracting
25:20whenever I
25:22say that
25:22I want to
25:23like after
25:24completing this
25:24exam I want
25:25to look for
25:25other
25:26opportunities
25:26they say
25:27that don't
25:28no no
25:28don't
25:29please don't
25:29leave
25:30otherwise
25:30but on
25:37the other
25:38side
25:38they're
25:38ready to
25:39send me
25:39to some
25:39stranger's
25:40house
25:40I don't
25:42understand
25:42the irony
25:43so this
25:44is going
25:44on
25:45so I'm
25:45not
25:45understanding
25:46that I
25:47have to
25:47finish my
25:48degree
25:48within six
25:48months
25:49or should
25:49I like
25:50change my
25:50environment
25:51and look
25:51for some
25:52other
25:52opportunities
25:53outside
25:53but I
25:54don't want
25:54to be
25:54distracted
25:55in these
25:55things
25:56I want
25:56to focus
25:57on other
25:57important
25:58things
25:58right now
25:59the foundation
25:59does not
26:00want to be
26:00sued by
26:01your parents
26:01but still
26:07I'll drop
26:09you hints
26:10strongly
26:11sir
26:15whatever you
26:15want to
26:16say you
26:16can say
26:17I'm not
26:18I'm not
26:18it is well
26:19known that I
26:20speak in a
26:20very measured
26:21way
26:21no
26:21express
26:25myself
26:26very
26:26modestly
26:26so
26:27you'd
26:35been
26:35in your
26:35twenties
26:35right
26:35yes
26:37I
26:37recently
26:38turned
26:38twenty-four
26:39twenty-four
26:43is
26:43voting
26:48right
26:48driving
26:49license
26:49you can
26:53be a
26:54lawmaker
26:55you can
26:57sit in
26:58the
26:58legislative
26:58assembly
26:59next year
27:00you're
27:01twenty-four
27:02right
27:02you can
27:03you can
27:03sit in
27:04the
27:04parliament
27:04at the
27:10age of
27:10twenty
27:11or twenty
27:11one
27:11you could
27:14be the
27:14administrator
27:14of an
27:15entire
27:15district
27:16if you
27:17clear the
27:17UPSC
27:18exam
27:18how is
27:21it that
27:21at
27:21twenty-four
27:22you are
27:24not mature
27:25enough
27:25to decide
27:26for yourself
27:28in your
27:28most intimate
27:29matters
27:30you can
27:36be a
27:36pilot
27:36responsible
27:38for
27:38the lives
27:39of
27:40hundreds
27:41of people
27:41every
27:42flight
27:43if you
27:47can be
27:47trusted
27:47with the
27:48lives of
27:48hundreds
27:49of
27:49people
27:49every
27:50hour
27:51how can
27:52you not
27:52be trusted
27:53with your
27:53own
27:53life
27:54I'm trying
28:00to be
28:00diplomatic
28:00I'm working
28:02really hard
28:03at it
28:03it's not
28:07like that
28:08like in
28:09some sense
28:09they are
28:10open-minded
28:10also like
28:12they have
28:13been very
28:14supportive
28:14of my
28:15career as
28:15well
28:15like in
28:16initial
28:16days
28:17when I
28:18was like
28:19at the
28:19age of
28:19twenty
28:20I started
28:20working
28:21I shifted
28:22to another
28:22city and
28:23they were
28:23very supportive
28:24but then
28:25when I
28:26changed
28:26few jobs
28:27and I
28:27was like
28:27not
28:28not knowing
28:29in which
28:29field I
28:30have to
28:30work for
28:30a very
28:31long time
28:31so they
28:32thought that
28:33now my
28:34age is
28:34twenty-four
28:35and they
28:36think that
28:36she might
28:36not really
28:37be very
28:37very serious
28:38about anything
28:39they think
28:40that marriage
28:41is the only
28:41way
28:42but it's
28:42not like
28:43that
28:43it's just
28:45I'm just
28:46exploring
28:46and finding
28:47what I have
28:48to do
28:48like
28:50they want
28:51everything
28:51to go
28:52perfect
28:52or at
28:53the right
28:53age
28:54so they
28:54have some
28:55deadlines
28:55set
28:56I don't
28:57understand
28:57that
28:58I don't
28:59understand
28:59is it a
29:00problem
29:00within me
29:01that I'm
29:01not able
29:02to achieve
29:02those things
29:03in a
29:03very early
29:03age
29:04or age
29:05something
29:06else
29:06parents
29:13want
29:14things
29:14to go
29:15perfect
29:15for their
29:16daughters
29:17right
29:19just as
29:21they always
29:21knew what
29:22was perfect
29:22for them
29:23for you
29:27to know
29:27what is
29:27perfect
29:28for the
29:28other
29:28you
29:30should
29:30should
29:31have
29:31known
29:31at
29:31least
29:31what
29:32is
29:32semi
29:32perfect
29:32for
29:33you
29:33I'm
29:36not
29:36talking
29:36about
29:37your
29:37parents
29:37in
29:37particular
29:38parents
29:38look at
29:40the
29:40lives
29:40of
29:40parents
29:41how close
29:45are they
29:46to
29:46perfection
29:46how many
29:49of you
29:49are
29:49results
29:50of
29:50perfect
29:51alliances
29:51do we
29:57know
29:58what
29:58perfection
29:58means
29:59do we
30:03know
30:03what
30:03it
30:03means
30:04to live
30:05a fulfilled
30:06life
30:06and if
30:07we do
30:07not know
30:07these
30:08things
30:08for
30:08ourselves
30:09is it
30:11love
30:12to impose
30:13these
30:13things
30:14on our
30:17sons and
30:17daughters
30:17in my
30:20own
30:21life
30:21I've
30:21very
30:21clearly
30:22seen
30:22I do
30:23not
30:23know
30:23anything
30:23the
30:27fact
30:27is that
30:28I'm a
30:28goddamn
30:28fool
30:28and yet
30:30I want
30:31my
30:33offsprings
30:33to live
30:35as per
30:35my
30:36decisions
30:36and
30:36desires
30:37is that
30:38love
30:38I was
30:46trying to
30:46be
30:46diplomatic
30:47you guys
30:54will get
30:54in trouble
30:56very soon
30:57answers or
31:04it's not
31:05like that
31:05you are 24
31:05right
31:05today you
31:06are asking
31:06me these
31:07questions
31:07tomorrow
31:08you decide
31:09to go
31:11by your
31:11parents
31:12wishes
31:12next year
31:15you are
31:15a mama
31:15that's
31:16possible
31:16that happens
31:17in this
31:18country
31:18will you
31:20be a
31:21perfect
31:21mom
31:21tonight
31:27this
31:28hour
31:28we are
31:31mired
31:32in confusion
31:33we do
31:34not
31:34know
31:34out of
31:37confusion
31:38some
31:39random
31:40decision
31:40gets
31:41taken
31:41very
31:44coincidentally
31:45very
31:45ignorantly
31:46very
31:47randomly
31:47from that
31:50decision
31:50you get
31:51a baby
31:51and then
31:54you want
31:54all the
31:55perfect
31:55things
31:55for your
31:55baby
31:56is that
31:59realistic
32:00have
32:03have we
32:03first of
32:04all
32:04bothered
32:05to shape
32:07our
32:07own
32:07lives
32:08in any
32:08way
32:09that
32:09resembles
32:09perfection
32:10then how
32:13will we
32:13be perfect
32:14as parents
32:15and why
32:18must the
32:19wishes of
32:19parents
32:20be taken
32:21with such
32:22seriousness
32:22I mean
32:29I'm old
32:34enough to
32:34be the
32:34parent of
32:35a
32:35youngster
32:35and had
32:39I been
32:39a parent
32:40I wouldn't
32:40have wanted
32:40the girl
32:43or boy
32:43to obey
32:44my wishes
32:45mostly
32:49because I
32:50know
32:50I can
32:52act a
32:52huge
32:53idiot
32:54at times
32:54many
32:55times
32:56alright
32:57most
32:57times
32:58why
33:01would I
33:02throw
33:02myself
33:03at
33:04someone
33:05who is
33:0520 or
33:0525
33:06and ask
33:07them to
33:08my line
33:09let's
33:14have some
33:14honesty at
33:15least
33:15we are not
33:18talking to
33:18someone who
33:19is 5
33:19years old
33:19we are
33:20talking to
33:20a 25
33:21year old
33:21and the
33:23parent is
33:2345 or
33:2450 or
33:2455
33:25in terms
33:28of
33:28consciousness
33:29both are
33:29equals
33:29right
33:32how does
33:34one of
33:35them then
33:35get the
33:36right
33:36to dominate
33:39the other's
33:40mind
33:40and also
33:45again at
33:47the risk
33:47of being
33:48portrayed
33:50a dreaded
33:54family
33:55breaker or
33:56somebody
33:56all these
34:01excuses that
34:01daughters come
34:02up with
34:03in defense of
34:04their parents
34:05no no my
34:05parents are not
34:06totally evil
34:07they gave me a
34:09decent education
34:10decent education
34:16so that you
34:17can be married
34:17off
34:18or is that
34:20very different
34:21from keeping
34:23somebody
34:23uneducated so
34:24that she can be
34:25married off
34:26the purpose is
34:27the same
34:27of what
34:36youth is
34:36education
34:37when the
34:39FLPR in the
34:40country is
34:41continuously
34:41declining
34:42and women
34:44are more
34:45educated today
34:45than they
34:46ever were
34:46more educated
34:50and yet
34:51dropping out
34:52of jobs
34:52why because
34:57the first
34:58priority
34:58is the
35:00wedding
35:00and the
35:01man
35:01and the
35:03baby
35:03that's how
35:07the parents
35:07have
35:08indoctrinated
35:08them
35:09what is the
35:12point of
35:12education
35:12just so that
35:15the CV
35:15looks good
35:16you don't
35:25educate
35:26someone
35:26so that
35:29she is more
35:30efficient in
35:30the kitchen
35:31or more
35:33productive on
35:33the bed
35:33is that what
35:35education is
35:35for
35:36if the
35:42if all
35:43these years
35:44of education
35:44are going
35:46to be
35:46ultimately
35:47eaten up
35:48by household
35:51chores
35:51what have
35:53parents educated
35:54their daughter
35:55for
35:55go out
36:08and
36:08check on
36:10this
36:11particular
36:11metric
36:12FLPR
36:13female
36:13labor
36:14participation
36:14rate
36:15there is
36:17something
36:17happening
36:18culturally
36:18in this
36:19country
36:19something
36:20very
36:21very
36:21vicious
36:21proportionally
36:32more women
36:32were part
36:33of the
36:33workforce
36:3420-30
36:35years back
36:36the
36:41cultural
36:41environment
36:42is
36:42degrading
36:43in a
36:43direction
36:44that is
36:45discouraging
36:46probably
36:48even
36:49forbidding
36:50or
36:50threatening
36:50women
36:51away
36:52from
36:53the
36:53workforce
36:53the
36:55workplace
36:55and you
37:00say
37:00you know
37:00do you
37:01English
37:02honors
37:02what's
37:03the
37:03point
37:03what is
37:07the point
37:08and I
37:09respect
37:09the
37:11household
37:11jobs
37:12but you
37:13also
37:14know
37:14that had
37:18the household
37:18jobs been
37:19of paramount
37:20importance
37:21the men
37:21would have
37:21taken
37:22them
37:22and it
37:26does not
37:27take a
37:27genius
37:27to figure
37:28out the
37:29total
37:30financial
37:34value
37:34monetizable
37:35value
37:35of all
37:36the
37:37household
37:37jobs
37:37that you
37:38do
37:38you can
37:41add that
37:41up
37:42and see
37:43what it
37:43comes to
37:44is that
37:45what you
37:46got educated
37:46for
37:47they say
37:58you know
37:58there is
37:58great dignity
37:59in household
38:00work
38:00yes I
38:01understand
38:01let the
38:02men do
38:02it
38:03why do
38:05the men
38:05want to
38:06be deprived
38:06of dignity
38:07then their
38:11final vulgar
38:11argument is
38:12then will
38:14the men
38:14give birth
38:14and breast
38:15feed
38:15this is
38:18what the
38:18argument
38:19ultimately
38:20comes to
38:20I am
38:25just trying
38:25to be
38:25diplomatic
38:26holding
38:27myself
38:27back
38:28Sir
38:32like I
38:33also love
38:33traveling a
38:34lot
38:34so recently
38:35I shared
38:36that I
38:36want to
38:37travel to
38:37from
38:38Kashmir
38:39to
38:39Kanyakumari
38:39and I
38:40have decided
38:41everything
38:41like which
38:42buses I
38:43have to
38:43take
38:43from where
38:44I have to
38:45travel
38:45everything
38:46and I
38:47want to
38:47do a
38:47solo
38:48trip
38:48first time
38:49so my
38:50parents
38:50were very
38:51shocked
38:51and my
38:52father said
38:52that first
38:53talk to
38:53Tauji
38:54and if he
38:55approves
38:55then you
38:55can go
38:56then we
38:56will see
38:57so I
38:58was very
38:59angry on
38:59that
39:00I also
39:01discovered
39:01like what
39:02Tauji has
39:03to do with
39:04this
39:04if I have
39:05to go on
39:06a solo
39:06trip
39:07I understand
39:08like it's a
39:08joint family
39:09and everything
39:10and it's a
39:11Banya family
39:11and everybody
39:13gets married
39:13till 25
39:14so my
39:15brother
39:15who is
39:16like one
39:16year older
39:17he has
39:18already got
39:18married
39:19now everybody
39:20is just
39:20looking at
39:21me
39:21so every
39:24time they
39:25have the
39:25same thing
39:26like whenever
39:27I visit
39:27them
39:28so in this
39:31environment
39:31I'm thinking
39:33that in
39:33March when
39:34my exams
39:35will get
39:35over
39:35then I
39:36will see
39:37if whatever
39:38I have
39:39in my
39:39hand
39:39I'm just
39:40not thinking
39:41about it
39:41currently
39:41listen lady
39:43this
39:43this ugly
39:44world
39:45this world
39:46understands
39:48only the
39:50language of
39:50power
39:51your Tauji
39:58he might be
39:5860 or
39:59whatever
39:59but if
40:02there is a
40:0325 year
40:03old
40:04with enough
40:06financial heft
40:09your Tauji
40:10will bow
40:11down
40:11you could
40:21be in
40:22some industry
40:22at the age
40:23of 22
40:2424
40:24earning a
40:26fat package
40:27and then
40:28people are
40:28less likely
40:29to get
40:31into your
40:31business
40:32they'll
40:36stay away
40:37and
40:37respect
40:39their limits
40:41you could
40:50be an
40:51IAS at
40:5121 and
40:52you can
40:53have 50
40:54year olds
40:55reporting to
40:57you
40:57and all
41:01those 50
41:01year olds
41:02will be
41:02somebody's
41:03Taujis and
41:04Pupajis and
41:04Mamajis and
41:05Papajis
41:06gather power
41:12for yourself
41:13in whatever
41:16way you
41:17can
41:17if you
41:19remain
41:19feeble and
41:20dependent
41:20this
41:23this
41:24ugly world
41:25will simply
41:26eat you
41:26up
41:26they'll throw
41:30you away
41:30somewhere
41:31and that
41:34would be
41:34the end
41:34of their
41:35role and
41:35they'll not
41:36come to
41:36inquire
41:37investigate
41:37or help
41:38keep
41:47everything
41:47else
41:48off of your
41:49mind
41:49build yourself
41:52up and gather
41:54strength
41:55this is a very
41:58loveless world
41:59it knows only the
42:01language of power
42:02Tauji will sanction
42:16your travels
42:17and it's quite likely
42:20that
42:21Tauji's boss
42:23is a 30 year old
42:24and he sanctions
42:27Tauji's leaves
42:28be that boss
42:33attain a similar
42:39position
42:40then they
42:43forget all
42:46their gender
42:47based prejudices
42:48they also
42:50forget caste
42:51hierarchies
42:51everything is
42:54forgotten in front
42:55of power
42:56and money
42:57and authority
42:57that's the only
42:58language they
42:59understand
42:59forget that you're a
43:09Baniya or anything
43:10a woman has no caste
43:13she only has a body
43:15that's the world we live in
43:21to the world you're a
43:28womb
43:28what they want you to
43:34get married so that
43:35you can play little
43:35cute games with the
43:37man
43:37what else is marriage
43:40go procreate
43:42get us a few toys
43:45to play with
43:45in the name of
43:48furthering the clan
43:49if you are well
43:54educated
43:54use your education
43:56for your empowerment
43:57and that power
44:01will
44:02give you
44:04the leverage
44:05to live life
44:07on your own terms
44:08else anybody
44:15everybody
44:15will ride roughshod
44:19over you
44:19and you will
44:23internalize it
44:23one resists
44:30only to the point
44:31there is a point
44:32in resisting
44:32no
44:33and after that point
44:35what do you do
44:36you succumb
44:37you surrender
44:38you give in to the
44:42situation
44:43you start pretending
44:45as if
44:46you are in the
44:47situation by choice
44:49in fact you start
44:52siding
44:53with your hunters
44:55you start acting
45:00as if
45:01your oppressors
45:02are your well-wishers
45:03because you know
45:05very well
45:05there is no point
45:06resisting anymore
45:07you flip sides
45:10let that not happen
45:15to you
45:16women die
45:19a very early
45:21death
45:22internally
45:23after that
45:25they are just
45:26machines of flesh
45:28eating
45:30reproducing
45:31entertaining
45:34and getting
45:34entertained
45:35talking gibberish
45:38and spewing
45:43venom on anyone
45:44who dares to
45:45show them the
45:46mirror
45:46at 24
45:50you are talking
45:51to me
45:52and you are
45:52ready
45:52to at least
45:54lend an ear
45:55to what I am
45:55saying
45:55it's possible
45:57at 34
45:58you hate me
45:58it's possible
46:01at 34
46:02you say
46:02this man
46:03is evil
46:04avoid him
46:05at all cost
46:05because
46:09at 34
46:09it is very
46:10possible
46:10that you will
46:11be very
46:11very deeply
46:12invested
46:13in this
46:15same
46:15traditional
46:15system
46:16you will be
46:17so deeply
46:18invested
46:18you will know
46:19there is no
46:19way out
46:20so you will
46:23want to
46:24pretend
46:24as if
46:25you have
46:25willingly
46:26chosen
46:26to be
46:27in that
46:27system
46:28and you
46:34will pretend
46:34so deeply
46:35you will
46:36believe in it
46:36and you will
46:38believe in the
46:39hatred you will
46:39have for me
46:40a lot of
46:41women
46:41hate me
46:43from their
46:43guts
46:43if they find
46:49me they will
46:49slash my
46:50throat
46:50extremely
46:51visceral
46:53hatred
46:53you know
46:58why they
46:58hate me
46:59they hate
47:00me because
47:01I didn't
47:01come to
47:02them when
47:02it was
47:03time
47:03they hate
47:05me for
47:06coming too
47:06late to
47:07them
47:07they will
47:11not accept
47:11this
47:12when I
47:14say this
47:15they will
47:15scoff at
47:16it
47:16instead of
47:16acknowledging
47:17the fact
47:22is
47:23every 15
47:24year old
47:24needs to
47:25listen to
47:25this
47:25or else
47:30it will
47:31be too
47:31late
47:31I was
47:35supposed to
47:35be
47:36diplomatic
47:38you will
47:42get me
47:42in jail
47:43more than
47:43later
47:44yeah
47:46that's
47:46all
47:47thank you
47:49so much
47:50sir
47:50thank you