HOW TO BE A WINNER IN LIFE
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KASHIF MAG
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KASHIF MAG
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00:00Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
00:02If you can motivate today, you can motivate yourself
00:05then you can motivate yourself
00:07because in today's video, I will have 3 mindset shift share with you
00:12which have helped me in my life very much
00:16I have my university degree complete not to do it
00:20I have married my young age, I have been married, I have been with them
00:23and I have been with them
00:25and I have been with them
00:27I have been with them
00:30I have been with them
00:33I have learned a lot about it
00:35I have learned about it
00:37as a human psychology
00:38I have learned a lot about it
00:39I have learned a lot about it
00:41and I have tried to grow up on other children
00:43that I could be a good man
00:45and find it good手
00:47I have learned about it
00:49and I have taught a lot of the human psychology
00:51with therapy
00:53I had a lot of courses in partnership, couple therapy, and many other things.
00:59And along with this, I didn't give my children to school.
01:03Throughout my school, I did not school.
01:07My children obviously, when you do not school,
01:10it was a struggle that my children all the time with you.
01:13And I tried to keep them from the screen,
01:16which I still have a lot of time,
01:19and what I wanted to do, I didn't want to do anything.
01:22And along with this, I tried to help my husband in his business.
01:27And along with this, I am very serious,
01:30I am very serious in fitness.
01:32I take the gym in your life,
01:34for 2 hours of your day.
01:37And when you do the gym,
01:39there are also many other things.
01:41So I also do those things.
01:43And along with this, I am constantly improve your life.
01:47I am a reader. I love reading books.
01:49I am a reader. I am a reader.
01:52I am a reader. I am a reader.
01:54I am a reader.
01:57Mindset Shifts
01:59I will tell you
02:01I will tell you
02:03I will tell you
02:05I will tell you
02:07that
02:09my friends who know me
02:11or who know me
02:13I will tell you
02:15I will tell you
02:17life is not a struggle
02:19so without any delay
02:21I will tell you
02:23if you feel sad
02:25or stuck
02:26I will tell you
02:28I will tell you
02:30I will tell you
02:32I will tell you
02:34I will tell you
02:36I will tell you
02:38this video
02:40can help you
02:42so yes
02:44mindset shift
02:46is that
02:48discomfort
02:50today
02:52is very easy
02:54we will tell you
02:56easy
02:58we want to
03:00comfort
03:02and I strongly believe
03:04that our
03:06modern man
03:08comfort is actually killing us
03:10and it is not good for us
03:12when
03:14I will tell you
03:16that
03:18I will tell you
03:20that
03:22I will tell you
03:24that
03:26that
03:28when
03:30it is
03:32that
03:34that
03:36when
03:38when
03:40a child
03:42is
03:44and
03:46not only
03:48that
03:50that
03:52that
03:54that
03:56it
03:58is
04:00and
04:02that
04:04that
04:06how
04:08we
04:10expect
04:12that
04:14you
04:16have to
04:18that
04:20if
04:22you
04:24have to
04:26make
04:28something
04:30that
04:31you
04:32have to
04:34that
04:36that
04:38that
04:40that
04:42that
04:44that
04:46that
04:47pain
04:48is a part of growth
04:50it's a part of growing
04:51pain
04:52growth
04:54and
04:55it
04:56like
04:57like
04:58like
04:59like
05:00like
05:01temporary solution
05:02and
05:03I don't watch tv
05:05to be very honest
05:06but
05:07obviously
05:08you are
05:09passing
05:10so
05:11I thought
05:13that
05:14what message
05:15was given
05:16to us
05:17basically
05:18it
05:19was
05:20that
05:21you have to do
05:22work
05:23and
05:24you know
05:25every problem
05:26there are
05:27many things
05:28that
05:29that
05:31all together
05:32press
05:33that
05:34we
05:35don't
05:36think
05:37that
05:38we
05:39don't
05:40see
05:41parents
05:42crying
05:43that
05:44if
05:45a child
05:46is
05:47in
05:48a
05:49tantrum
05:51this is the kind of mindset we have
05:53how can we expect
05:54that
05:55frustration
05:56life
05:57so
05:58that
05:59we have to prepare
06:00our children
06:01again
06:02to train
06:03my childhood
06:04is
06:05a very small town
06:06and
06:07like
06:08grammar schools
06:09or private schools
06:10I didn't study
06:11throughout the education
06:12from public schools
06:13from public schools
06:14from public schools
06:15from public schools
06:16government schools
06:17from Pakistan
06:18from Pakistan
06:19understand
06:20now
06:21government schools
06:22have improved
06:23in our
06:24course
06:25not
06:26like
06:27rags
06:28that
06:29they were studying
06:30and
06:31obviously
06:32teachers
06:33have studied
06:34and many things
06:35are going to change
06:36and even
06:37many issues
06:38and
06:39it was also
06:40that
06:41throughout
06:42we had
06:44three
06:45four
06:46schools
06:47and
06:48we had to go
06:49to the school
06:50and I remember
06:51that
06:52in the winter
06:53there were foggy
06:54foggy memories
06:55in my mind
06:56foggy
06:57and when we were going
06:58to the park
06:59and sometimes
07:00some things
07:01came out
07:02so
07:03alhamdulillah
07:04if I see it
07:05I feel like
07:06that
07:07I had to go
07:08through life experiences
07:09and I had to travel
07:10so
07:11I had to travel
07:12and then
07:13it was a different story
07:14which is a different time
07:15so all the problems
07:16made me shape
07:17Alhamdulillah
07:18in good way
07:19now
07:20if I look at my children
07:21obviously
07:22in their life
07:23there is no struggle
07:24or discomfort
07:25so I put them
07:26intentionally
07:27in discomfort
07:28so that
07:29they can practice
07:30whether
07:31they take fitness classes
07:32or
07:34karate classes
07:35you know
07:36this kind of thing
07:37it's very important for me
07:38that they go through
07:39their life
07:40physical discomfort
07:41and mental discomfort
07:42because
07:43believe me
07:44in my therapy
07:45when there are such children
07:47that their parents
07:48have never said
07:49that their parents
07:50never said
07:51that they are
07:52because
07:53obviously
07:54I talk about this
07:55as well
07:56because
07:57I deal with 99.99%
07:58with women
07:59and girls
08:00male counseling
08:01which is very rare
08:02I can count on my fingers
08:03that I have so many people
08:04to talk about it
08:05and I am not saying that
08:07do all of these things with your children
08:08that you can do
08:09that
08:10do all of these things with your children
08:14that you do it
08:15And look, life has never seen that he has treated this person with love and with it.
08:21Life will always kill you, you will kill you, you will kill you, you will kill you, you will kill you, you will kill you.
08:28And I am not saying that you do all of these things with your children, that you do all of these things with your children.
08:32The meaning is that if a child is dealing with a person with a frustration, and in life there are many frustrations in life, and they are working on it,
08:43then this thing is healthy.
08:45And so, when I give my children a little bit, my baby is a baby, my baby is a baby, my baby is a baby, my baby is a baby, my baby is a baby, my baby is a baby.
08:53So, these things are very necessary.
08:56Again, with this concept, it's a big concept, it just touches me.
09:02So, much, that is, that is, that every problem with easy.
09:05Easy is easy, it's easy, it's easy.
09:08So, how can we think that we can bypass the problem, we can leave it, we can leave it, and go straight to easy?
09:14No.
09:15If you want easy, then you have to go through the problem first.
09:18So, let me explain it, let me explain it, let me explain it, let me explain it, that I don't have a discomfort in life.
09:25Honestly, so many times in the gym,
09:28You are lifting heavy, you are lifting even light, like if you haven't lifted before.
09:38So, at one point, you feel pain, discomfort, not even pain, I would say.
09:44So, let me explain it, let me explain it, let me explain it, I don't know, anything will happen.
09:48When you are stretching yourself, certain stretches, obviously, when you are used to your body, you are not used to that.
10:01When you do that, you feel the tension in your body, your muscles.
10:05But once you stay in that discomfort, then that thing will end.
10:10So, mentally, if something is uncomfortable, whether it is going to talk to someone,
10:16whether it is making a video, whether it is a difficult conversation, whether it is in your career,
10:22you have to ask for a raise, whether it is starting a new business,
10:25whether it is something you have to do in life, you have to learn new language, new skills,
10:29you have to change your career path.
10:31So, you have to be uncomfortable, a new one, a new thing, you have to go through it.
10:37And it will go through it, it will be easy to go through it.
10:40So, if we start to understand it, that I don't have to run from discomfort,
10:45I don't have to go through it, I don't have to go through it, I don't have to go through it,
10:48So, this itself, our problems are solved.
10:53The second mindset shift, that is, you know, just again, life changing.
10:59And that is so, so, so close to my heart.
11:01Just like in our lives, there are some values.
11:03One of my values is this.
11:05And that is gratitude.
11:07You know, gratitude is one of the words.
11:09But believe me, this is such a mindset, this is such a thing,
11:13One of the things that you have to do in your life,
11:18like physical discomfort, physical discomfort,
11:20I don't actually talk about pain.
11:22The thing that you have to do in your life,
11:26and that you have to do in your life,
11:28and that you have to do in your life,
11:30you can also feel gratitude.
11:33Literally.
11:34I know it takes practice.
11:36I know not everyone is there.
11:38But we can cultivate it.
11:40We can learn.
11:42Because in your life, there is nothing,
11:44let's say, if you are feeling sad right now,
11:45you are feeling stuck,
11:46there is nothing else.
11:47Because we all in our lives have many things,
11:49which are not meant to our sins.
11:52There are many things.
11:54And the person is in this situation.
11:55There is frustration.
11:57There is sadness.
11:58There is depression.
11:59There is anxiety.
12:00People are anxious.
12:01And that is okay.
12:02It is okay to have little pity parties as well.
12:04Whether you are complaining with Allah,
12:06or your love,
12:08or your love,
12:09or your love.
12:10But we are stuck with us.
12:11In any, any situation,
12:13we have so much to be grateful for.
12:16Literally.
12:17In any given moment.
12:18If you have never practiced this thing,
12:20then you may have a little time.
12:22But when you start to understand it,
12:23when you are doing it,
12:24then at any moment,
12:26you will get thousands,
12:28crores of such things.
12:29Maybe exaggeration will happen.
12:31But there are thousands of crores.
12:32We may not count as much.
12:33But you know,
12:34there are so many things to be grateful for.
12:37Now,
12:38positive psychology is full of gratitude.
12:40That means,
12:41people are watching half a glass,
12:43and half a glass.
12:45And when we complain,
12:47just take this example.
12:49I often give this example to my clients.
12:52Often,
12:53some people say often.
12:54It's not often.
12:55It's often.
12:56We say it often as well.
12:57So it's all about British and American.
12:58So,
13:00you have an example here.
13:02It's a whole circle.
13:04It's a big circle.
13:06You know,
13:07there's a small dot.
13:08It's like we are looking at a picture.
13:10We have to see a picture.
13:11We are looking at the picture.
13:12We are looking at a picture.
13:13We are looking at the picture.
13:14We are looking at the picture.
13:15So imagine,
13:16we are looking at the spot.
13:17If you are looking at the square,
13:18and the dot make the dot.
13:20It's a time when you look at the dot.
13:23It will be like the whole dot.
13:24The background will go.
13:26That's how we are the mindset of human beings. Our focus is like this. Our focus is like a magnifying glass.
13:34If you focus on the things, the things will magnify your life. It will become bigger and the other things will go back.
13:40Usually when we are stuck in the problem and complain, we feel pessimism, we become pessimists.
13:47If we zoom out a little and see, there is so much, there is so much which I can be grateful for.
13:56And I am sitting in a small thing and sitting.
14:00So instantly our chemistry, internal, neural, brain and body, they all change.
14:10Gratitude is actually life changing.
14:13And we know that because of that, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has said in the Quran in the
14:18Quran in the Quran, in the Quran, in the Quran, in the Quran, in the Quran, in the Quran, in the Quran.
14:19And if we have any other things, any religion, any ethnicity, any religion, any religion, any
14:25ethnicity, any people who are satisfied with their lives, it doesn't happen.
14:28And it doesn't happen to us that you have a lot of things.
14:30Again, it doesn't happen to us that we don't contribute from our happiness.
14:34But it starts to reduce our energy.
14:37We don't need too much to be happy.
14:40We just need the right things.
14:43So you can have a lot of things.
14:44You can have a lot of things.
14:46You can have a lot of things.
14:48So you can have a lot of things.
14:50All it takes is gratitude.
14:52We always have something next.
14:57Now, what?
14:58What?
14:59What?
15:00What?
15:01What?
15:02What?
15:03What?
15:04What?
15:05What?
15:06What?
15:07What?
15:09What?
15:10What?
15:11What?
15:12What?
15:15What?
15:16What?
15:17What?
15:18What?
15:24any given moment honestly i can think of so many things right from my kids to the shelter
15:29to all the resources to my health like so much and all of us have all of us have so much to be
15:37grateful for every single day at the end of the day in the beginning of the day
15:44time fix your mental note or you can write it down as well you know where you show gratitude
15:53towards allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and honestly you will see how it will change you it will change your
15:59whole way of being in any given moment so this attitude ko apne andr johana woh koot koot ke bhar
16:06le third thing which really really really really helps me is that ke hum mein se har insan ko
16:15jahaan itna sara potential diya gaya hai wahaan pe har insan ko limited control diya gaya
16:22limited uska influence johana woha limit kard diya gaya jyacin ham dhekhe qurán
16:27mujid me bhe Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ki zahat ki zahat ki zahat ki zahat kisī bhi
16:30insan ke oper uski uqat se zahada bojh nashin ndalati liekin ham dhekta
16:34hi hama se har dousra benda johai bojh uthhanay se kaser hai joh bhi us ke
16:37pere ndala gaya usko lakata hai ki nahi can do it madame maslaya hai baut maslaya
16:40hai baut maslaya hai baut maslaya hai hai kisiki iski wajah kia hai hem a
16:44pene maslaya ka hal johai woh غلط jaga pe fokus ker ke nikalna
16:49chahar hai hotei johan peh aap ko maslaya ka hal maslaya diya gaya hai
16:53aap ki uqat se badeka ni diya gaya woha peh aap ko apki apki apni oper
16:57zaat ke oper aapni soch ke oper aapni mindset ke oper which is soch mindset
17:02to like these are connected aapke actions ke oper aapke emotions ke oper yes
17:08hame emotions ko bhi control ker sakti hai
17:10or is mahar mein baad me baat ker ogi so you know ager hame is cheeze ke oper
17:14aapki so you know ager hame is cheeze ke oper aapki so you know ager ham is cheeze ke oper
17:14zastari 시�ar kar lein too humare aadah say ze ziadha maslaya toh fora ni hi hal ho jate
17:18hame usually douserye loogun ke oper focus ker ke aapne maslaya ko hal karne ki koho
17:24shush karret hoetate haame
17:25ager jaisy again counseling me sessions me
17:28kiwunki as I said mein khuatyn ki sate baat kertyi ho
17:30you know they are always complaining okay this is this is my husband does this
17:35phone pay rata ha ye kartaya woh kartaya woh kartaya woh kartaya woh kartaya
17:36all the time you see
17:38then I asked them
17:39like what are you doing for yourself
17:43what do you do
17:44you have to fix the problem
17:45because you are focused on one thing
17:49if you are focused on all time
17:50if you are focused on your husband
17:52and if your husband does this
17:54I do both of them
17:55but I am talking about it
17:56if you are focused on all time
18:00if you are focused on all time
18:01then who will improve your life
18:04like who will work on you
18:06we cannot solve our problems
18:10by focusing on other people
18:12like okay he's doing this and this
18:14what did you do to help yourself
18:16why are you relying so much on that person
18:20so
18:21so
18:21focus on your own
18:22focus on your own
18:23you first
18:24do that your career
18:25is not good
18:26like that you don't do so
18:28wherever you have control
18:30yes
18:30do your own effort
18:31and besides
18:31your life
18:32will be another area
18:33like that you can do a lot of things
18:35that you can do a lot of things
18:35that you have in your own
18:36why are you not doing that
18:38for example
18:39how many people who are
18:41like they are unwell
18:42they are
18:43like they are out of shape
18:45they don't like it
18:46if you are out of shape
18:47and you are okay with it
18:48absolutely fine
18:49but if you are out of shape
18:51and you don't like yourself
18:52the way you are
18:53then what are you doing
18:54to solve your problem
18:55you need to do something
18:57it doesn't work
18:58that you have a problem
19:00and you don't do anything
19:02you don't do anything
19:03you don't do anything
19:04so you know
19:04you don't have to focus on your own
19:06constantly
19:07you can improve your own
19:08and do anything
19:09in which areas you can do
19:11in which areas you can do
19:12in which areas you can do
19:13like many times
19:14okay I am not saying
19:26this is a big problem
19:27you know there is so much again
19:28you know there is so much again
19:29you know there is so much again
19:30you don't have the finances
19:31you don't have nothing to do
19:32you don't have a problem
19:33than somos
19:34so that thing
19:35what impacts you
19:35but how long does that person
19:36affect you
19:37that person
19:39how long does that day
19:40you have to stay
19:47you know there is so much again
19:50you have not got the finances
19:53you have financial problems
19:56you have health in your hands
19:59you can do a lot of things in your relationships
20:02you can do a lot of things in your relationships
20:05we all have three or four areas
20:07you can work with God
20:09so it does not happen that you are stuck
20:12you are stuck in every way
20:15if you are stuck in those things
20:17and you get that reward in the effort
20:19why don't you do that
20:22so again
20:24focus on yourself
20:26focus on your mindset
20:27focus on your actions
20:29focus on your emotions
20:31focus on the way you think
20:33the way you interact with other people
20:35what is the effort you are willing to put
20:37and you are putting in that particular situation
20:39so if you do these three things
20:41honestly there is nothing in your life
20:43which you can't solve
20:45if you haven't subscribed to the channel
20:47please do and let me know in the comment section
20:49what do you think about this video
20:50and let me tell you another thing
20:51before I
20:52this video
20:53I effort to record this video
20:55and I know that the first time
20:57it was much better
20:59but alhamdulillah
21:00I am glad
21:01I am sure
21:02I have to think positive
21:03as-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
21:05I am sure
21:06I am sure
21:07that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
21:08will be better
21:09so yes
21:10we have to think positive
21:11I will be very thankful
21:12As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh