Gracie Abrams likes to write about relationships—deeply. So, we gave her a bunch of real-life Cosmo Confessays to react to and share how she’d handle them. While the beyond talented singer-songwriter gets why someone would "do it for the story," she also knows when it’s time to walk away. Finding a partner’s secret spam account? That would make Gracie feel extremely uneasy. Getting “WYD” texts at 2 A.M. only on weekends? Big thumbs down to that. From secret TikTok accounts to sharing phone passwords, Gracie dishes out advice, including why focusing on yourself is always better than dealing with any sad, sad boys.
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00:00I've never, ever been with someone where I'm like,
00:03I need to know your phone password.
00:05That freaks me out, personally.
00:07Hey, I'm Gracie Abrams, and this is If It Were Me.
00:09["If It Were Me"]
00:12Today I'm going through real life confesses
00:15from Cosmo readers and telling you how I would handle it.
00:19I don't know if I'm good at giving relationship advice.
00:21I like to write about relationships, deeply.
00:25All right, let's do it.
00:27The secret agent.
00:28I found my girlfriend's secret spam TikTok account,
00:31and all her reposts are about being
00:33in a miserable relationship
00:34and wanting to break up with your partner.
00:36Do I confront her about the account?
00:37Yes.
00:38What?
00:39Yes.
00:40Confront her about the account.
00:41Say, hey, I actually found this, and I'm, are we okay?
00:46Do you wanna talk?
00:47I would feel deeply uneasy if it were me.
00:50How do you feel about when someone is posting
00:52sad lyrics or sad quotes?
00:55Different, which is maybe, I'm not that person.
00:59I'm not posting them.
01:00I'm instead releasing them into the world.
01:04This sounds deeply specific and concerning.
01:07Playing with fire.
01:08My ex-boyfriend recently moved back to town,
01:11and I want to reconnect,
01:12even though I'm in a healthy dot, dot, dot,
01:15but very vanilla relationship.
01:18Do I reach out and risk possibly losing out on both guys?
01:22I don't like that being the question.
01:24It sounds like maybe there's an opportunity
01:26to do some inner work prior to reaching out to either,
01:32if you're unsure.
01:33I think she should have a conversation
01:37with her current partner.
01:38Let them know they're having this thought.
01:41Just be clear.
01:41Clarity is kindness.
01:43Flying solo.
01:44I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year.
01:46His sister is getting married,
01:47but he told me he doesn't want to bring a plus one
01:49because he wants to spend quality time with his friends.
01:52Should I be concerned?
01:55Yeah, I think so.
01:57If it were my sibling, I'd probably be like,
02:00absolutely, please come.
02:01I would be hurt,
02:03and I would then be concerned in that order.
02:07Gone fishing.
02:08I've always shared phone passwords with exes.
02:12My current boyfriend told me
02:13he's not into sharing his password
02:15because he trusts me completely,
02:16and there's no reason to.
02:17Is this a total red flag
02:18or actually a sign of a healthy relationship?
02:22I mean, I've never, ever been with someone
02:26where I'm like, I need to know your phone password.
02:28That kind of shit freaks me out, personally.
02:31I think if you feel compelled
02:33to search through your partner's phone,
02:36that's a red flag.
02:40To your phone?
02:41Like, we're in the car,
02:42and I'm like, put something on, please.
02:45Yeah, it's not so serious.
02:47It's in passing,
02:48which I guess is the sign of healthy openness.
02:52I suppose, maybe.
02:53I don't know.
02:53I don't know.
02:54I've only been in a few.
02:56The wild ride.
02:57I'm a ride-share driver on the weekends,
02:59and I was picking up a guy late night from a bar.
03:02One thing led to another,
03:03and we hooked up in the back of my car.
03:05Is it weird if I message him on the app?
03:08I don't know.
03:09Is it weird?
03:10I'm a ride-share driver on the weekends,
03:11and I was picking up a guy late night.
03:13I think maybe it's not weird.
03:14Maybe if you hooked up,
03:16and you have questions,
03:17or you're concerned about something,
03:20or you really had a great time,
03:22and you wanna see this person again,
03:24maybe message him on the app,
03:25and then you take it from there.
03:27Maybe.
03:28The late night snack.
03:29I met this guy on Hinge,
03:30and we hit it off,
03:31but after hooking up,
03:32all I get is W-Y-D text at 2 a.m. on the weekends.
03:37The sex is great,
03:38but I'm looking for something serious.
03:39Do I cut him off?
03:40Yeah, or wait and see if it turns into something real.
03:42No.
03:43I don't believe in W-Y-D at 2 a.m. on the weekends
03:47only, then develop.
03:48I think that's sh-tty.
03:50I think that's sh-tty.
03:51It's sh-tty if that's not what you're looking for.
03:55No, f-ck no.
03:57Not today.
03:58The cross-country holdup.
04:00I slid into my Celebrity Crushes DMs,
04:03knowing I was about to move across the country,
04:05and being rejected was the least of my worries.
04:07To my surprise, he said yes to a date.
04:11Is it insane to put off a big move
04:13to go on a date with a celeb?
04:14I think it's insane.
04:16You're moving across the country.
04:19Go, go find someone there.
04:22And also, what a fun story.
04:24You got a response.
04:26What a beautiful thing.
04:27Also, there's something really cool and hot
04:32about asking someone out and then being unavailable
04:35because you're taking care of your own life.
04:37To me, holy sh-t, no.
04:40I feel like I need to also fix my posture and my tone.
04:43I feel like I'm like, f-ck no, but all I mean is,
04:46I stand by my initial reaction,
04:48and I also would say, if you're packed up,
04:50you're ready to move, you have a refundable flight,
04:53you feel like staying one more day to have a story
04:57and giggle, do it.
05:00But if this person really wants to go on a date with you,
05:02it would not be a once-in-a-lifetime.
05:03You would have another, you know what I mean?
05:06Thank you so much for watching.
05:07Happy Valentine's Day.