LOLA and Dominic are two proud trans people, but their relationship doesn't always receive a positive response. Lola admitted to Love Don't Judge: "We're judged because we swapped genders," agreeing, Dominic added: "We definitely face more judgement on social media than anything." Discussing the trolling they receive, Lola explained: "They're always focused on body parts, which is no one's business." In this episode of Love Don't Judge, we'll see the couple meet with their friend, Rhea Litre, who had some reservations when the couple first met. Rhea revealed: "I thought that they were going to ruin each other's lives. I had separate conversations with the two of you about staying away from each other." Reflecting on their relationship, Lola said: "To the people who judge us, we're here to just love and live life. So regardless of you having a bad day, that's not going to stop us from having a good day."
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00:00I'm Lola.
00:01I'm Dominic.
00:02We're judged because we swap genders.
00:04We definitely face more judgment on social media.
00:07That's a man.
00:09I love seeing two men happily in love.
00:12So you are straight then.
00:14So the real woman is the man and the real man is a woman.
00:18My name is Rae LaTrey.
00:19I had all the Rae reservations about their relationship.
00:21I thought that they were going to ruin each other's lives.
00:23I was completely gacked because I had separate conversations with both of you about staying away from each other.
00:32I'm Dominic.
00:33This is my girlfriend Lola.
00:34We're going to have kids but I don't plan on carrying them.
00:36We're judged because we swap genders.
00:39I started transitioning about five years ago.
00:42I have not had any surgery.
00:44Just a few modifications to my face.
00:47I started my transition ten years ago.
00:50I'm just on hormones and I've had top surgery.
00:53I never thought I would date a trans man.
00:56I never thought that I would date another trans person because I feel like society has expectations of who trans people should date.
01:03Dating a trans person has helped with my own journey by just the comfortability and the understanding.
01:10We definitely face more judgment on social media than anything.
01:15Like all the time.
01:17I feel like judgment amongst the trans community in general is always name calling back to the gender at birth.
01:24Which is like, that's old.
01:26Come up with something else.
01:27That is clearly a man so please don't insult real women.
01:31That's a man.
01:33I love seeing two men happily in love.
01:36So y'all are straight then.
01:38So the real woman is the man and the real man is a woman.
01:42Okay, got it.
01:44This is why I get so confused about this community and the dating process.
01:48A lot of the trolls on our posts and stuff, when it comes to the straight with extra steps thing.
01:55I think that's hilarious.
01:57It's funny, but they're always focused on body parts.
02:02Which is nobody's business.
02:05I don't let the negative comments stick with me because then I'm carrying that around on top of the weight that I already have carrying around being trans.
02:12So I just kind of let it go.
02:15I've been doing social media for like 8 years, 9 years.
02:19So the negative comments and stuff like that, I don't really pay attention to them that much.
02:24I realized I wanted to transition when I was 12.
02:27I was a tomboy growing up and I was around a lot of older people that were tomboyish too.
02:35I thought that I was just a lesbian.
02:37And then I kind of just started asking myself, why do I feel like this?
02:44And then eventually I found the trans community.
02:48I was googling, I feel like a boy trapped in a girl's body.
02:51And then next thing you know, there's all these YouTubers and they're talking about how they feel and what they're going through.
02:57And I was like, this is exactly what I feel like.
02:59I feel like I've always known.
03:01Growing up, I had all the Barbie dolls.
03:03I was into the hair, the makeup.
03:07But I wasn't educated or I didn't know what transgender or trans was.
03:14Our friend Rhea is coming over today and we're going to discuss her opinions on our relationship.
03:19She is a wild card, so you never know what she's going to say.
03:22My name is Rhea LaTrey. I am drag's baddest bitch.
03:25And I am one of Lola and Dominic's best friends.
03:28I had all the Rhea-servations about their relationship.
03:31I thought that they were too young and they have too much to do and too much to accomplish before they allow other people into their lives.
03:37But as in true Dominic and Lola fashion, they don't listen.
03:42I thought that they were going to ruin each other's lives.
03:49As-salamu alaykum!
03:51Hey!
03:52You know I had to stop by and get some dinner up in here.
03:56Hi Dom!
03:58Hi Lola!
03:59So what did you think when you found out that we were officially?
04:02I was completely gaxxed because I had separate conversations with both of you about staying away from each other.
04:08Because I knew the magnetism was there, but I didn't want it to derail you guys from your paths.
04:14Did you ever see yourself finding another trans person to hug up with?
04:19No, definitely I didn't think. I never thought that I'd be with another trans person.
04:23I think it was a Monday night. You met Lola and the next day you hit me up and you're like,
04:28So tell me about this Lola girl. Tell me about her. Tell me about her.
04:31And I was like, No. I ain't telling you nothing. Stay away from her.
04:37And like most of my friends, they never take my advice.
04:40But in this case, I'm glad you didn't.
04:43In this current climate that we live in, this future is scary.
04:48But it can be beautiful. Do you guys want to have kids? Do you guys want to get married?
04:52Yeah, we definitely want to get married and definitely want to have kids.
04:55But it's gonna be a process. It's gonna be, you know.
04:59Do you think you're gonna have kids the old fashioned way?
05:01No.
05:02No.
05:03We're gonna just have a baby.
05:05Yeah.
05:06We're gonna carry it. Let me know.
05:09Yeah, I think we'll do a surrogate.
05:14If I can't carry because of medical reasons, why wouldn't you carry?
05:18I just don't want to push a human out of my body.
05:22And I also don't want a belly. I don't want a human child inside of my stomach.
05:26I definitely don't want to give birth.
05:29There's so much that goes on during that process that I don't want to go through.
05:32I don't ever want him to do anything that he doesn't want to do.
05:35I mean, that's a lie.
05:37Carrying a baby is hard on the body.
05:39And also, especially being trans, there could be complications.
05:44And I don't want to put him at risk.
05:46At first, I was kind of like, you need to carry the baby.
05:51But I was, you know, set in my ways.
05:54And I didn't do my research where we could have a surrogate or have a lab.
06:00A lab grown baby?
06:02Yeah, a lab grown baby.
06:03So what do you think about our relationship now as opposed to when we first got together?
06:09Baby, let me tell you, I am living for you guys.
06:12I am living so hard.
06:14I feel like there might be some kind of magic that's going to happen in my life where I can finally meet somebody.
06:21I really respect you guys individually and as a couple.
06:25So thank you.
06:27Oh, my God, the time has come.
06:29I've got to go.
06:30Half past the freckle.
06:31It's Drag Razz brunch today.
06:33And I'm going to be a little bit late, but it was worth it.
06:36I love you so much.
06:37I love you so much as well.
06:38I'm going to take this cut.
06:41Bye.
06:42I love you.
06:43I love you too.
06:44Bye, Waila.
06:45Be safe.
06:46Today we're going to go to Beverly Hills to see the Dirt King, Dr. Lana McCarroll, to
06:50see about feminizing my face non-surgically.
06:54We have sort of a busy life, so I don't have time to be recovering and mummified right now.
07:07Well, hey, Lola, welcome today.
07:09I'm so glad that you're here.
07:10Let's talk about what brings you in.
07:12As we've spoken about, I want to feminize my face with minimal downtime.
07:19Absolutely.
07:20I'm going to put the magical wand of dermatology in front of you, right?
07:23And so there's certain areas that we can really focus in on.
07:26We're looking at, of course, more lateralization of the cheeks, right?
07:30Okay, being able to give you more lifting up of those zones.
07:33That's really going to create more of that feminization that we're looking for, right?
07:37In regards to the forehead as well, you know, Botox, wrinkle relaxers, things that's going
07:41to be able to smooth out some of those more prominent features on the face are also going
07:45to be a factor for you.
07:47What would the finished product be?
07:48The finished product would be more of a very natural, but also more feminized look to you.
07:54I definitely want to go through with the procedures.
07:56Awesome.
07:57So let's move forward with next steps, and let's go ahead and get you booked at the front.
08:00Today was amazing.
08:01I feel so much better and so much more confident and so much more ready to live my life authentically
08:09as a trans woman.
08:10What I love most about Dom is that he keeps me so cool, calm, and collected.
08:15The three C's, which are very important with me because I am a certified crash out.
08:21What do I love most about Lola?
08:22She helps me be more of an extrovert.
08:24To the people that judge us, we've been here and we're going to be here, and we are just
08:30here to love and live life.
08:32So regardless of if you're having a bad day, that's not going to stop us from having a
08:37good day.