90 Day Fiance S11 E01
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00:00:00We got what you want, we got what you want so come and get it.
00:00:07I'm home now.
00:00:10I guess you could say I got hit by the Cupid arrow right away.
00:00:16I believe everything is possible in America.
00:00:20I've been waiting a really long time for this moment.
00:00:22Oh, I see him.
00:00:23Run!
00:00:26From Favela to Beverly Hills.
00:00:28It's a new life, it's like I'm just born today.
00:00:32This is the very first time that I've seen a flag of the U.S. in Iran.
00:00:37It was always on fire.
00:00:42Family selfie!
00:00:44I love being married to Matt.
00:00:46I love being a mom.
00:00:48Like, we have a third in our relationship.
00:00:57I met Juan on a cruise.
00:00:59He is used to traveling around the world.
00:01:02His life is changing to, like, 180.
00:01:06So far, so good.
00:01:07So far, so bad.
00:01:11It's like walking on an eggshell, you know?
00:01:14You are just like a dictator.
00:01:16If it's too hard, then leave.
00:01:19Fiance visa.
00:01:20How does that work when, um, you guys are already married?
00:01:23We were thinking about separating.
00:01:25We wanted a divorce.
00:01:26Whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:01:28Something I didn't tell you is that I hadn't told Dad anything about you yet.
00:01:33Like nothing?
00:01:34Yeah.
00:01:36Is he going to make you wear a jihad?
00:01:44Not having it.
00:01:46How could you do this when I've done so much for you?
00:01:52Did you sleep with that girl?
00:01:54I'm human.
00:01:59Are you bisexual?
00:02:01Please stop.
00:02:02If I find out that Stevie is bisexual, I really don't think that we can get married.
00:02:08Part of me wonders if she had the baby to try to lock down my dad.
00:02:13I think he was Nick.
00:02:14Don't come into my wedding.
00:02:17I'm supposed to go like this.
00:02:20I should be happy.
00:02:22I should be living my fairytale.
00:02:24I just dream about how this is different.
00:02:43Nasty.
00:02:46Oh!
00:02:48We live in Torrington and it's very stinky.
00:02:53Torrington has the most poop in the whole entire USA.
00:02:57You do get used to the smell.
00:03:16Sometimes it's worse than other times and you're like, oh, that smells.
00:03:20Usually in the summer when it gets hot and like the poop starts to melt.
00:03:26Are you guys getting the poop cleaned up?
00:03:28Yeah.
00:03:30Good job.
00:03:35My life in Torrington is pretty normal.
00:03:38Stop!
00:03:39I have three amazing boys.
00:03:40Dayton is nine.
00:03:43He has such a big heart.
00:03:47Dawson is seven.
00:03:50Dawson Delmer.
00:03:51Then he's a little bit more crazy.
00:03:56And David, who is five months.
00:04:02His smile melts anyone's heart.
00:04:04He has the cutest little dimple and he's just the perfect little baby.
00:04:10Oh!
00:04:14Not cool.
00:04:16Being a boy mom can be a little crazy at times.
00:04:18Like boys are more rowdy it feels like.
00:04:20Do it again.
00:04:21Don't do it.
00:04:22Do it again.
00:04:23Don't do it.
00:04:25Oh, Dawson.
00:04:27But it's great because, you know, boys love their mama.
00:04:29And to them I'm their whole world and they're my whole world.
00:04:32And I think there's a lot of beauty in that.
00:04:40So I'm feeling a little bit nervous about Juan coming.
00:04:43Why?
00:04:44Because, well, look how dead everything is.
00:04:47I'm nervous if he can adjust to our small town life.
00:04:51You know, in Torrington everybody knows everything.
00:04:54So they even know Juan's coming?
00:04:57Probably everyone in this town knows he's coming.
00:04:59Maybe he's the world famous Juan.
00:05:02Maybe.
00:05:03The new Colombian to town.
00:05:05He's probably the only Colombian in town.
00:05:12Cheers.
00:05:14My fiance's name is Juan.
00:05:16I always say it like a white girl.
00:05:18It's like Juan.
00:05:19But he calls me Yesica, so it's like, you know, seems even.
00:05:25The story how I met Juan is a little awkward.
00:05:28One night me, my best friend Megan, her husband, and my ex-husband were drinking.
00:05:34And we decided we were going to book a cruise a year from that date.
00:05:37And so one year later came around and me and Tim, my ex-husband, were like no longer together.
00:05:42We were not in a good place.
00:05:44And so I really debated up until like the final days before.
00:05:46Like, should I go on the cruise?
00:05:47Maybe I shouldn't.
00:05:48Then I was like, okay, I'm going to go.
00:05:50He can do what he wants.
00:05:51I'll do what I want.
00:05:52I'm not going to let him bring me down.
00:05:53I'm going to go have fun.
00:05:58And so we got on this cruise.
00:06:00The very first day we were in the casino.
00:06:02And this cute bartender came up to us asking what kind of drinks we wanted.
00:06:07We flirted throughout the cruise.
00:06:11Did not go hook up with the bartender.
00:06:13Scout's honor.
00:06:14We did not.
00:06:15There wasn't even a peck.
00:06:17I swear.
00:06:19It was March 2020.
00:06:21So then COVID was at its peak.
00:06:23Cruises were ending and they were going into quarantine.
00:06:26So all of a sudden we had all this time to get to know each other.
00:06:33And then nine months later, Columbia's borders opened and I went to see him.
00:06:39Hi!
00:06:42We went out salsa dancing.
00:06:44We drank a little bit too much rum.
00:06:48Juan's always getting me flowers.
00:06:50And wine.
00:06:54It began to feel like, okay, this is someone I want to spend my life with forever.
00:07:00So on my fifth trip to Columbia is when Juan proposed.
00:07:05Look at that ring.
00:07:07I was just so happy.
00:07:08I just couldn't wait to spend my life with him.
00:07:11Life.
00:07:12To life.
00:07:13Love.
00:07:14Family.
00:07:15And friends.
00:07:17And then I came home a few weeks later and was pregnant.
00:07:21So, yep.
00:07:27He was like, exactly like daddy in all ways.
00:07:32As soon as my water broke, I called Juan.
00:07:34And he stayed on the phone with me the entire time.
00:07:36Until after David was born.
00:07:39He's so cute.
00:07:40I know, his little cheeks.
00:07:41When David was two months old, we traveled to Galveston, Texas to see Juan.
00:07:45He was just finishing his cruise contract.
00:07:47And we spent half a day with him where he was able to meet his son for the first time.
00:07:54And in a few days, he's finally coming to America to live with me and my three boys.
00:07:59It's going to be a huge change for him.
00:08:01He's used to the party life on the cruise.
00:08:03And this life here is about as far away that you can get from that.
00:08:11I can't get in.
00:08:12I can't get in.
00:08:18That one hurts.
00:08:20That one hurts too.
00:08:23Daddy.
00:08:25Hola, baby.
00:08:28Say hi, Daddy.
00:08:30Hi, Dada.
00:08:32Te amo.
00:08:33I love you so much.
00:08:36I just miss you a lot.
00:08:38Are you all packed, ready to go?
00:08:41No, I need to get back to packing.
00:08:43I'm just enjoying myself, having a cup of beer.
00:08:47You're ready to leave paradise and come here with us?
00:08:52Yeah, I'm ready.
00:08:53I'm ready.
00:08:54Can't wait to see you.
00:08:55Can't wait to see that little guy.
00:09:00He's telling you, like, you better be ready, Dad.
00:09:02Because I'm here and you better be ready.
00:09:07I'm going to be your babysitter soon.
00:09:08Yes, sir.
00:09:11So you're not my babysitter, you're my father.
00:09:17Do you think you, like, really realize, like, what life's going to be like when you come?
00:09:30I think that Juan doesn't fully understand what it's going to be like to be a parent.
00:09:34He's been a parent in small doses for, like, a total of, like, three weeks in person.
00:09:39And when he's watching the boys, his rules are like,
00:09:43we're going to eat pizza, play video games, and there's going to be no fighting.
00:09:49Dan.
00:09:51I know, but this is what happens when we're being rough.
00:09:54I think he has a lot to learn.
00:09:57Okay.
00:09:58I'm like, I hope you're ready, because, like, real life starts now.
00:10:10Come on.
00:10:13Come on, we got much, much more pumpkin to get.
00:10:16Aww.
00:10:18Look at this one.
00:10:19It's a pumpkin.
00:10:20It's a pumpkin.
00:10:22Can Daddy ride?
00:10:23Yeah.
00:10:24Oh, my goodness, girl.
00:10:28Oh, no.
00:10:30My name's Matt.
00:10:31This is my lovely wife, Amani.
00:10:33And this is my amazing, sexy, charming, mysterious, amazing husband, Matt.
00:10:38And together, we live in San Diego, California.
00:10:41Okay, say cheese.
00:10:42Cheese.
00:10:44Where are my trinkets?
00:10:45We have two beautiful daughters.
00:10:47Lila has such a loud, confident, sassy personality.
00:10:52She's just a mini-me.
00:10:54Let's get that straight.
00:10:57Hey, Sarah.
00:10:58You cheated.
00:11:00Sarah's so sweet, has the purest heart, and she's just so affectionate.
00:11:05I want this pumpkin.
00:11:07No, my pumpkin.
00:11:09No, it's mine.
00:11:11Matt and I first met in college, and I fell head over heels for this man.
00:11:17It's simple, but it's true.
00:11:19Every girl wants a guy who makes her laugh.
00:11:22And he's very selfless, very loving.
00:11:24He has such a good heart.
00:11:26I fell in love with Amani because I've never had someone that could balance me.
00:11:31Somebody that is truly there for me.
00:11:37Family selfie!
00:11:41I love being married to Matt.
00:11:43He's amazing.
00:11:44I love being a mom.
00:11:46Like, I'm a boss babe.
00:11:48And babe stands for boss-ass bitch energy.
00:11:56I grew up in Tunisia.
00:11:58It's very male-dominated culture, very religious.
00:12:02As a female, I can only be, like, a teacher or a stay-at-home wife.
00:12:06And I was very ambitious, so I was 18 years old when I left my country
00:12:11to have a better life for myself and my family.
00:12:14Today, I work in the tech industry,
00:12:17so I spend a lot of time finding deals, growing deals,
00:12:22and especially my favorite part, closing the deals.
00:12:27Come. Let's brush your hair.
00:12:30Let me brush your hair.
00:12:33If there was a relationship where Opus is attractive, it would be me and Amani.
00:12:37Amani is a very strong person.
00:12:40I'm a very supportive person.
00:12:43I got to Grumpus.
00:12:44Hi, Mom! You look so cute!
00:12:48Can I get a hug?
00:12:49It took us a long time to appreciate the differences,
00:12:53but now that we do, we make a very strong partnership.
00:12:57Hi, Mommy.
00:12:59We do all the typical family things,
00:13:02but there is one aspect of our life that is slightly less typical.
00:13:16Oh, Doctor.
00:13:23There's Amani's hair.
00:13:25You're no doctor.
00:13:27I've been a really bad, bad, bad nurse.
00:13:31Can you feel my heart? It's beating so fast.
00:13:34Very fast.
00:13:36I am hot.
00:13:38I don't know for what, but I need help, please.
00:13:41Who is that?
00:13:42A patient has arrived.
00:13:43Oh, hello!
00:13:46Who is this one?
00:13:48We have a girlfriend.
00:13:50Her name is Ani, and she lives in Mexico.
00:13:53We're a throuple.
00:13:55A throuple is a three-people relationship.
00:13:58You're dating that person, so you're emotionally involved,
00:14:01physically involved, mentally involved.
00:14:04Nothing is off the table.
00:14:06There is a lot of stigma around a throuple.
00:14:09It's very sexualized.
00:14:11A lot of people assume it's just a hookup,
00:14:13but it's actually a long-term commitment,
00:14:15just like any other two-person relationship.
00:14:18We're missing our better half.
00:14:21A throuple is different, but we speak every day.
00:14:25We know each other's children.
00:14:27We build friendships.
00:14:28We celebrate holidays.
00:14:30You hear each other fart?
00:14:32Yep.
00:14:33Do you accept house calls?
00:14:36Yes, please, I need help.
00:14:39Having a long-distance relationship is hard
00:14:41because you can't have that physical touch
00:14:43and interaction together,
00:14:44so we try to keep it spicy and interesting.
00:14:47How long have you been hot for?
00:14:49I don't know.
00:14:51Forever from what it looks like, doctor?
00:14:54I identify myself as bisexual.
00:14:57I don't like labels.
00:14:58It just means I love all types of humans.
00:15:00In the beginning, I would say that I was a little vulnerable
00:15:02to think that maybe there was something
00:15:04that I wasn't able to fulfill for her.
00:15:07The more we talked about it,
00:15:08the more we opened up to the idea together.
00:15:15Matt and I have been in a relationship with Ani
00:15:17for almost a year now.
00:15:19We met in Mexico at a club.
00:15:22We had a lot of fun, a lot of drinks,
00:15:24and we ended up going back to the hotel together
00:15:26and just continuing to get to know each other.
00:15:30Like, really, it was like,
00:15:32this isn't just some hookup.
00:15:34It was like...
00:15:35Feelings started to develop really quick.
00:15:39She's funny, caring, and has a bangin' body.
00:15:44Oh, yes. I'm just being...
00:15:46Like, the full package.
00:15:49Imagine how hard already it is
00:15:51for two people to find the right match.
00:15:54Now, imagine for three people
00:15:56to be, like, the exact match together.
00:15:58She motivates us. She pushes us.
00:16:01It's really the extra things
00:16:03that we've added to the relationship
00:16:05just with her being around.
00:16:08Only a few days left until we see you.
00:16:11So I'm super excited to see you in your element.
00:16:14See you at home.
00:16:15Uh-huh.
00:16:20We're super ready.
00:16:23This is our first polyamorous relationship,
00:16:25and it's been really, really fun.
00:16:27It's like, when we fell in love with her,
00:16:29we were falling in love with each other all over again, too.
00:16:33We want to bring her to live with us in the U.S.,
00:16:36but obviously, we have one tiny bit of an issue,
00:16:40and that is we are legally married.
00:16:44Our only option is to get legally divorced
00:16:46so that one of us can apply for the K-1 visa
00:16:49and bring her to the U.S.
00:16:51This trip is different and very important to us
00:16:55because we do want to take the next step
00:16:59with you in our relationship.
00:17:01I'm nervous.
00:17:05In the course of a year of our relationship,
00:17:07maybe we've been together in terms of days,
00:17:09like, give or take 24 days.
00:17:12So we're going to be traveling back to Mexico to see Ani.
00:17:16This trip will be different than the previous times,
00:17:19and it's not focused in on vacations and...
00:17:22Honeymoon mode, fun.
00:17:24Yeah, and smile and happiness and entertainment.
00:17:26It'll be...
00:17:27The real life.
00:17:29We've only met Antonella, who is her youngest,
00:17:31and she lives with her.
00:17:33We haven't met her other two kids,
00:17:35but now we're ready to take the relationship to the next level,
00:17:38to propose and get married and build a life together.
00:17:42I think that it would devastate us if this trip doesn't go well.
00:17:46I think we have a lot invested in this,
00:17:48and we have a lot of care for someone.
00:17:50It would be hard to reverse.
00:17:58I can do it.
00:18:00Nothing to scare.
00:18:02I am ready!
00:18:04Wow, you look gorgeous.
00:18:06Today is the biggest day of my life.
00:18:10Our life.
00:18:12Our life.
00:18:14Our whole future depends on this,
00:18:16so I really hope it goes well.
00:18:18Don't say it like as I become more nervous.
00:18:20It's true.
00:18:22In Maddie's country, people tend to cover up,
00:18:25so I don't know how he'll feel about me sketching nudes, period.
00:18:28My fiance's name is Maddie,
00:18:30and he's from Tehran, Iran.
00:18:32Iran's making a lot of headlines right now,
00:18:34because they don't get along with our country or other countries.
00:18:37Being in a relationship with someone whose countries
00:18:39are always threatening to go to war with one another
00:18:41is extremely hard.
00:18:43They're going to shut down the airport or something,
00:18:47and then he won't be able to leave.
00:19:05Wow.
00:19:08Wow.
00:19:33Wow.
00:19:34I am ready.
00:19:37I am ready.
00:19:41Wow.
00:19:42You look gorgeous.
00:19:43You look handsome.
00:19:46My name is Shekinah.
00:19:47And my name is Sarper,
00:19:49and today is the biggest day of my life.
00:19:52Our life.
00:19:54Our life.
00:19:56How do you feel?
00:19:58Nervous.
00:19:59Me too.
00:20:00Really?
00:20:02Then cover your boobs.
00:20:05You look gorgeous, by the way.
00:20:06Thanks.
00:20:07Let's get your visa.
00:20:09Let's go.
00:20:10Let's go.
00:20:11Today is a very big day for me.
00:20:13I am going to U.S. Embassy to have an interview
00:20:16to get my K-1 visa.
00:20:18How do you feel?
00:20:20Nervous.
00:20:21I know.
00:20:22Our whole future depends on this,
00:20:24so I really hope it goes well.
00:20:25Don't say it like as I become more nervous.
00:20:27It's true.
00:20:36Give me a kiss.
00:20:39Babe.
00:20:40Babe, we are on the street.
00:20:41I can't wait till we are in the U.S.
00:20:43and I can kiss you on the mouth.
00:20:46Will you kiss me every second?
00:20:47Yeah.
00:20:49You have to wait for it.
00:20:51Do you feel like you have everything?
00:20:53Yeah, I have a lot of things.
00:20:55Your mirror, everything, my passport, photos,
00:20:58my birth certificates.
00:21:00I have an OCD of planning things, counting things.
00:21:04You can count them for the 100th time,
00:21:06but it's still the same number.
00:21:08But you know what?
00:21:09It helps him somehow,
00:21:10so I was also just like, let him do it.
00:21:12Passport.
00:21:13Yes.
00:21:14What are these?
00:21:15They're in Turkish.
00:21:16He needed a distraction,
00:21:17so I would dress in cute outfits
00:21:19and kind of walk around in front of him
00:21:21while he's counting his papers.
00:21:22She said,
00:21:24jump to the bed.
00:21:25But I was counting, you know.
00:21:27Counting what?
00:21:29Oh, my God.
00:21:30Oh, my God.
00:21:31This paper, this paper.
00:21:32This paper.
00:21:33Okay, that's enough.
00:21:35What do these say?
00:21:36Relationship.
00:21:38It's evidence.
00:21:39Evidence of relationship.
00:21:40Let me see.
00:21:41Let me see what you've got.
00:21:42Okay, let me show it to you.
00:21:44Oh, pajamas.
00:21:45Yes, yes.
00:21:53We do have a ton of pictures together.
00:21:55We counted it at one time, it was like 7,000.
00:21:58She loves to send.
00:21:59Yeah, I think like 4,000 of the 7 were like
00:22:02not usable.
00:22:03If I show them to the embassy,
00:22:05probably they would think that I will go in there
00:22:07for porn industry or something.
00:22:09So no need for that.
00:22:13I'm gonna get under the covers and cuddle a little.
00:22:16Yeah.
00:22:17Love that.
00:22:18You love it?
00:22:20The way that I first met Sarper
00:22:21was I was actually in Turkey with a friend.
00:22:23I downloaded a dating app
00:22:26and I saw Sarper.
00:22:28And he was so handsome,
00:22:29I had to swipe right.
00:22:31And I saw you.
00:22:32Yeah?
00:22:33I looked, oh, American.
00:22:35Wait, why does that matter?
00:22:36It is rare to find American.
00:22:38Just like going to the zoo and seeing an alligator,
00:22:40you don't see it too often, you know, in Turkey.
00:22:45At first I thought that she would be a one-night stand.
00:22:47But eat big bites, don't say big words.
00:22:50Famous Turkish saying, it finds you back.
00:22:52It found me back.
00:22:54I love how you're so amazed at yourself.
00:22:56I'm fun.
00:22:58You are fun, babe.
00:22:59You're a lucky bitch.
00:23:00Okay.
00:23:01I've been going back and forth to see Sarper in Turkey
00:23:03for almost two years now.
00:23:05Babe.
00:23:07And it's been difficult.
00:23:09The flight is very long.
00:23:12And the amount of time that I can spend with him
00:23:15isn't very long because I do have to come back often
00:23:18to see my daughter.
00:23:20I have a teenage daughter in boarding school
00:23:22and she gets one week off every five weeks.
00:23:25So I always make sure to come back
00:23:27and spend time with her.
00:23:28It's also hard saying goodbye that many times to each other.
00:23:31She says that, but she never had tears, you know?
00:23:35I'm in the mood.
00:23:36He gets emotional.
00:23:37I am about to cry.
00:23:38I mean, it's here.
00:23:39I'm looking at her.
00:23:40She's eating something, looking at her.
00:23:43I mean, what are we?
00:23:46You're the emotional one.
00:23:47Yeah.
00:23:48Yeah.
00:23:49I hold it together for us.
00:23:51Okay, babe.
00:23:52It looks like you're pretty organized.
00:23:53I am organized.
00:23:54Yeah.
00:23:55But it's up to them.
00:23:56Nothing for me.
00:23:57I did my best, you know?
00:23:58It's stressful because I can't live in Turkey,
00:24:01so Sarper has to come to the U.S.
00:24:03or else we don't really stand a chance.
00:24:06Yeah.
00:24:07Don't try to charm them either.
00:24:08They can see right through that.
00:24:09You're a little unpredictable.
00:24:10I will just stay there like a candle.
00:24:12Please don't do that either.
00:24:13It's weird.
00:24:14You remember our meeting point?
00:24:16Yes.
00:24:17I will be there at 11.
00:24:18Okay.
00:24:19I won't have phone.
00:24:20I know.
00:24:21I don't have anything.
00:24:22I hate that you're not going to have your phone.
00:24:23No, you will understand from my face.
00:24:25Yeah.
00:24:27See you.
00:24:28Love you.
00:24:29If Sarper doesn't get approved today,
00:24:31I really don't see how we can survive
00:24:34in a long-distance relationship.
00:24:36My daughter lives in the U.S.
00:24:38My business is there,
00:24:39and this has become such a big, you know, stressful situation
00:24:45because so much is riding on it.
00:24:49I'm just trying to think positive in this moment,
00:24:51and I keep thinking he's going to be approved.
00:24:53He's going to be approved.
00:24:55He has to get approved.
00:25:01Hey, Dad.
00:25:02I just want to let you know I was fixing to leave the house.
00:25:04Okay.
00:25:05My dad does not know about Maddie.
00:25:09Americans hear about Iran,
00:25:11they automatically assume terrorists.
00:25:14Now I'm on the way to get it all out and tell him.
00:25:19My dad bleeds red, white, and blue,
00:25:21so I don't know how he's going to feel
00:25:23about me bringing a boy from a country
00:25:25that supposedly hates us.
00:25:27Hey, Dad.
00:25:53You ready?
00:25:54Yes, I'm ready.
00:25:55Okay.
00:25:56Okay.
00:25:57It's fun, and you look amazing,
00:26:00so I'm happy I got you to do it for you.
00:26:02Yeah, you're amazing.
00:26:03I love that.
00:26:04My name is Stevie.
00:26:05I'm 37 years old, and I'm a painter.
00:26:07I said that so Southern.
00:26:08Piner.
00:26:12I love everything about you.
00:26:14I love you.
00:26:15I love you.
00:26:16I love you.
00:26:17I love you.
00:26:18I love you.
00:26:19I love you.
00:26:20I love you.
00:26:21I love painting abstract art,
00:26:23but just recently I started painting nudes.
00:26:26I think what I like about painting nudes
00:26:29is just normalizing different body types.
00:26:32I think a lot of times in the real world
00:26:34we forget that people are beautiful,
00:26:36but yet they can look at a painting and see that.
00:26:40I'm going to get changed and then head out.
00:26:44Painting is my passion,
00:26:45but it doesn't really pay the bills.
00:26:47And since I'm a single mom with two kids and a mortgage,
00:26:50I also teach English online.
00:26:52Here where I live, we say y'all,
00:26:55which is a combination of you and all.
00:26:58My English students are from all over the world.
00:27:01Some are learning English for their jobs.
00:27:03Some are fixing to travel to the U.S.
00:27:06But there was one guy unlike any other student.
00:27:13My fiancé's name is Matty.
00:27:15He's 27 years old, and he's from Tehran, Iran.
00:27:18Matty, turn your camera on.
00:27:21Hey!
00:27:22Hey, babe.
00:27:23Matty stood out from my other students appearance-wise
00:27:26because he was very intimidating to look at.
00:27:29He looks handsome, and he looks hot.
00:27:32But it wasn't even Matty's looks that grabbed my attention.
00:27:36It was that he came overly prepared.
00:27:39He was the only student that would show up
00:27:42with a list of questions to ask me.
00:27:45What do you call Wednesdays?
00:27:47We call Wednesday Hump Day.
00:27:50Hump Day.
00:27:51And not only that, but Matty's connection
00:27:53was the worst of all of the students I've ever had.
00:27:56Sorry, I think I'm losing you.
00:27:59We couldn't finish sentences
00:28:00because it was just always cutting off,
00:28:02and then he would come back on.
00:28:03Can you just say that again?
00:28:05It was rough. It was so rough.
00:28:13Matty's probably the only guy I've ever sketched,
00:28:16and I thought it would be kind of nice
00:28:17to give him a gift, a painting of himself nude.
00:28:21In Matty's country, people tend to cover up,
00:28:23so I don't know how he'll feel about me sketching nudes, period.
00:28:27But Matty is the king of checking himself out.
00:28:34Sometime after I finished teaching Matty,
00:28:36he sent me a link.
00:28:38It was his social media page.
00:28:41Matty likes to appear that he's, like, this really shy guy,
00:28:44but he had tons of girls following him,
00:28:47and he was shirtless.
00:28:49So I was just like, look at this guy.
00:28:51Like, I would never date someone like this.
00:28:56So I'm totally eating my words right now,
00:28:58but after that, Matty continued to talk to me.
00:29:02You look cute today.
00:29:04Thanks, I have my pajamas.
00:29:07I had such a special bond with Matty
00:29:09that I knew I needed to meet him in person.
00:29:11But when Matty and I started developing feelings for each other,
00:29:14there was a lot going on in the news.
00:29:21It would not have been safe for me to travel to Iran.
00:29:24Turkey was one of the only places that Matty could actually travel to,
00:29:28so I was like, let's meet there.
00:29:34Matty lives in a country where you can't, like,
00:29:37physically hug in public and things like that.
00:29:40But our physical connection was magnetic
00:29:43the minute that we were alone.
00:29:47After only physically being together for one week,
00:29:49Matty proposed to me.
00:29:50Matty just handed me the ring, and he was like,
00:29:53um, I want to spend the rest of my life with you.
00:29:56And I was just kind of like,
00:29:58I want this too, even though this is crazy.
00:30:01And after one year of waiting,
00:30:03Matty's visa is finally approved.
00:30:06Right now, I am super excited,
00:30:08but also trying to prepare myself that it may not work.
00:30:14I'm going to ask him, like, how the news is today,
00:30:16because I don't know. I haven't checked it.
00:30:19So Matty wasn't expected to come here for a few weeks,
00:30:23but Iran's making a lot of headlines right now,
00:30:26and they don't get along with our country or other countries.
00:30:30Waiting for this visa has been
00:30:32one of the most stressful 12 months of my life.
00:30:35I think anybody that's in a long-distance relationship
00:30:38has to deal with a lot of difficulties,
00:30:40but we also have added stress
00:30:42because our two countries don't like one another.
00:30:44Matty and I are not able to exchange gifts.
00:30:47We're not able to send mail.
00:30:48And also, Matty's country is constantly
00:30:51banning connections with our country.
00:30:53Literally, Matty and I just want to be together,
00:30:56but we know at any moment a war could start,
00:30:58and we could lose that opportunity forever.
00:31:01I'm constantly nervous because I don't know
00:31:04if something's going to go bad,
00:31:05and they're going to shut down the airport or something,
00:31:10and then he won't be able to leave.
00:31:12That's, like, probably my biggest fear.
00:31:14Sometimes it makes me super upset,
00:31:16thinking that we've got this far,
00:31:17and then there's a possibility that he can't leave.
00:31:23Okay, and I shall...
00:31:27Yeah.
00:31:29My sisters know about Matty.
00:31:32They know everything about Matty.
00:31:34And my mom knows about Matty, too.
00:31:36But my dad does not know about Matty.
00:31:44Hey, bud.
00:31:45Hey, Dad.
00:31:46I just want to let you know I was fixing to leave the house.
00:31:48Okay.
00:31:49Okay, I love you.
00:31:50Love you.
00:31:51All right, bye.
00:31:52I feel like it's always, like, on the tip of my tongue
00:31:54every time that we're together,
00:31:55and I just somehow haven't been able to get it out.
00:32:00Americans hear about Iran,
00:32:02they automatically assume, like...
00:32:07terrorists.
00:32:09My dad bleeds red, white, and blue,
00:32:11so I don't know how he's going to feel
00:32:12about me bringing a boy from a country
00:32:15that supposedly hates us.
00:32:18But now Matty is coming tomorrow,
00:32:20and I need to tell my dad everything.
00:32:22Today.
00:32:24I am going over to have my dad look at my car
00:32:28because I need to get the oil put in it,
00:32:31and one of my lights went out.
00:32:33I'm going to have Dad fix all those things,
00:32:35but I haven't told him the reason
00:32:36why I'm getting them fixed,
00:32:37and that's because Matty is coming,
00:32:40so now I'm on the way to get it all out and tell him.
00:32:47It's been very hard for me,
00:32:49walking through this without him knowing,
00:32:51because I always tell him about everything,
00:32:53but my dad's health is not good right now.
00:33:00It was only a few months ago that I found out
00:33:03my dad was diagnosed with a lung disease.
00:33:07So the last thing I want to do
00:33:08is put a strain on our relationship
00:33:10when we may not have a lot of time left together.
00:33:14My dad doesn't have a whole lot of time here,
00:33:17and when I...
00:33:18Mm, I'll cry.
00:33:30Mm.
00:33:33Give me a minute.
00:33:39I'm so sorry.
00:33:41I'm so sorry.
00:33:49I don't have a plan B,
00:33:50and honestly, I don't know what I'll do
00:33:52if he says, no, you're not marrying this guy.
00:33:57My heart's pounding.
00:34:11I'm thinking that my dad won't be okay with Matty
00:34:14because I've already made this decision,
00:34:16and Matty is coming.
00:34:19Hey, Dad.
00:34:28In 2019, I was on a trip as a pilot to Paris.
00:34:32Took a turn down another direction in my life.
00:34:35Hey, baby.
00:34:38So when's Mina coming?
00:34:40A few days.
00:34:41It's so crazy that they're actually gonna be here.
00:34:43He doesn't really see the potential that this could cause
00:34:46if it doesn't go right.
00:34:49We're thinking about having another baby.
00:35:11I'm Mark. I'm 58,
00:35:13and I live in West Ospeda, New Hampshire.
00:35:16Welcome to my airport and my runway.
00:35:20This is 4,000 feet long.
00:35:22You know, there's probably 30, 40 houses on the runway.
00:35:26My house is here.
00:35:28My airplane's inside the hangar here,
00:35:30so, I mean, it couldn't get any better than this.
00:35:34Life's coming up. We're clear of trees.
00:35:37Beautiful weather.
00:35:39Didn't ask for anything more.
00:35:41For work, I fly privately-owned jets.
00:35:45I've flown celebrities, athletes, ex-presidents.
00:35:49I can't say anything more than that.
00:35:51I'm a pilot.
00:35:52I'm a pilot.
00:35:53I'm a pilot.
00:35:54I'm a pilot.
00:35:55I'm a pilot.
00:35:56I'm a pilot.
00:35:57I'm a pilot.
00:35:58I'm a pilot.
00:35:59I'm a pilot.
00:36:01I can't say any specific names because it's private.
00:36:05The lawyers will be coming out of the woodwork after me.
00:36:11In 2019, I was on a trip as a pilot to Paris.
00:36:15And I was just going out to grab a drink
00:36:17and kind of unwind from the trip.
00:36:19And I just ran into this person
00:36:21and took the turn down another direction
00:36:23in my life that I didn't expect.
00:36:30I walked into a restaurant and there was Mena and we kind of locked eyes.
00:36:41I don't know why she was staring at me because she'd probably pick any guy in the place.
00:36:49She's 35.
00:36:50I'm 58.
00:36:51But what's wild about that is that we still have that connection.
00:36:58But also maybe I'm naĂŻve, I don't know, we'll see.
00:37:05For two years, we were long distance and every time I came back to Paris, I didn't want to
00:37:10leave her and have to go back to work, I didn't want to have to go back to the U.S., so it
00:37:14just clicked and I just thought, what am I waiting for?
00:37:18Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
00:37:22Yes, yes, yes, yes.
00:37:24Yes, yes, yes, yes.
00:37:26Yes, yes, yes, yes.
00:37:28Yes, yes, yes, yes.
00:37:30So then, six months after we're engaged, she tells me she's pregnant.
00:37:35That means you're pregnant?
00:37:37Yes.
00:37:38Oh my God, I love.
00:37:40Are you serious?
00:37:42Yes.
00:37:43Baby, you don't know it.
00:37:45I'm so happy.
00:37:46At my age, you know, this is not plan A, B, C.
00:37:49This is, I think, plan Z.
00:37:51Have a kid.
00:37:55My daughter Maria, unfortunately, not unfortunately, it's a cool place to be born.
00:37:59She was born in Paris.
00:38:01This has been a crazy two years of constantly on the move in different places.
00:38:06You know, I'm gone for ten days, sometimes three weeks.
00:38:10It can be a bit hectic lifestyle.
00:38:20It's a beautiful life.
00:38:25It's a beautiful day.
00:38:28I'm down in Florida quite a bit.
00:38:30You got Palm Beach, Miami, Fort Lauderdale.
00:38:33There's a lot of private jets down in Florida, so, and my daughter's down here.
00:38:39Hey, bear.
00:38:40Hey.
00:38:41How you doing?
00:38:42How are you?
00:38:43I'm good.
00:38:45I'd say most of my friends and family are skeptical of my relationship with Mina.
00:38:49You know, is she just coming to the U.S. to get a green card,
00:38:52or is she having a baby to kind of, you know, solidify things and make sure I'm not going anywhere?
00:39:01I'm going to see if I can hit the guy in the car.
00:39:05I don't think so, but, you know, you never know.
00:39:09Everyone's intentions 100%.
00:39:15I think I beat you on that one.
00:39:17You got me on that one.
00:39:19Logan, I miss you.
00:39:21Miss hanging out with you.
00:39:22I know, I miss you too.
00:39:23I'm glad you're here.
00:39:24Yeah, no, it's cool.
00:39:25It's fun.
00:39:26So when's Mina coming?
00:39:28Soon.
00:39:29A few days.
00:39:30It's so crazy that they're actually going to be here.
00:39:32I know.
00:39:33For a while, I didn't know if they were ever going to make it.
00:39:35And it's been, you saw them in October, but last year, Maria was only five months old.
00:39:40I saw her like a year and a half ago.
00:39:42You're going to be shocked when you see her because she's changed so much since you were over there before.
00:39:48My brother and I went to Paris to meet Mina and for Maria the baby's baptism.
00:39:53There was a cocktail hour.
00:39:55There was a catered dinner, multiple open bars.
00:39:58It was very over the top for a baptism party.
00:40:02And Mina was about three hours, four hours late to the party and kind of left my whole family there while she was getting glammed up.
00:40:10It didn't feel like my family being there was much of a priority to her.
00:40:15So I kind of left Paris feeling that maybe she could be taking advantage of him, could be going after his money, could just be trying to come to the U.S.
00:40:23I really don't know.
00:40:26When we were in Paris, it didn't really feel like me and Jack were like as much of a priority.
00:40:32Was it, was it what I did or because of me and Mina or the baby?
00:40:38The last night that we were all there, we all went out to dinner as a family and she didn't come.
00:40:44You know, it was kind of a, not to make an excuse, a hectic weekend.
00:40:49But I appreciate you telling me that because I don't want you to feel like that when they come to the U.S.
00:40:54I feel like if she really wanted to be involved, she would want to develop these relationships with your family.
00:41:04Honestly, it really surprises me because I thought everyone had a great time and looks like she's been holding onto this a while.
00:41:11She didn't tell me about it after that weekend, but my future wife and my daughter have to get along.
00:41:18And if they don't, that's going to be a huge problem going forward because they're both a huge part of my life.
00:41:24And my daughter has been a part of my life for 27 years and that's never going to change.
00:41:30Your feelings and concerns are way big on me.
00:41:37It's hard to hear and talk about a little bit because I thought everything was good in Paris and I wish maybe it would have gone different.
00:41:47I don't know her and I don't know her intentions.
00:41:51I just think he doesn't really see what everyone else sees.
00:41:55And I don't think he sees the potential that this could cause if it doesn't go right.
00:42:01You know, I know you had concerns the first time, you know, with us having a baby.
00:42:11We're thinking about having another baby.
00:42:19That's just a lot to take in.
00:42:24That would be devastating.
00:42:31We are thinking about separating.
00:42:33Getting a divorce.
00:42:34Wait.
00:42:35Whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:42:37Matt and Amini are talking about divorcing in order to bring her into the relationship.
00:42:41And there's so much they don't know.
00:42:43It seems excessive and it seems really fast to me.
00:42:46You're legally tying yourself to someone that I feel like you barely know.
00:42:54I love you.
00:43:01Nice boat.
00:43:03Should be fun.
00:43:04I miss our friends.
00:43:05I'm so glad we got to make some time to hang out.
00:43:07I know.
00:43:15All right.
00:43:16Thank you, baby.
00:43:17Yes, ma'am.
00:43:18Right.
00:43:19That's set up.
00:43:21So today I rented us a boat that we're going to take out on the water,
00:43:26have some food, some drinks, and just enjoy beautiful San Diego.
00:43:29Oh, you got a mimosa stuff.
00:43:31Mm-hmm.
00:43:32You know me.
00:43:33Yum, yum.
00:43:34Hey, it's Kelly.
00:43:36Hello.
00:43:37Yay, you made it.
00:43:38Hi.
00:43:39You look so good.
00:43:41How are you?
00:43:42Hi.
00:43:43Perfect timing.
00:43:44We invited both our close friends, Kelly and Eric.
00:43:48Hey, Eric.
00:43:49Hey, guys.
00:43:50We made it.
00:43:51We're back in there.
00:43:52Ready for boat day?
00:43:53Hell yeah.
00:43:54Let's do it.
00:43:55Kelly was there when we first met Ani.
00:43:58All she saw was us leaving the strip club with this tall, beautiful woman at 3 a.m.
00:44:04And she was like, yeah, get it.
00:44:06Have fun.
00:44:09Here's some cab money.
00:44:10I'll see you later.
00:44:11See you guys later.
00:44:16To new adventures.
00:44:17Woo!
00:44:23Cheers.
00:44:24Cheers.
00:44:25Cheers.
00:44:26Our friends are shocked that we're moving things forward with Ani, because they never
00:44:29thought this will go on for so long.
00:44:33Especially seeing us with, you know, fun adventures before.
00:44:36I thought that they thought that this was just another fun adventure.
00:44:39I don't think they thought it was serious at all.
00:44:42So last time we saw you guys was Matt's birthday.
00:44:45Yeah, it's been a while.
00:44:46So we wanted to see you guys before our trip to Mexico.
00:44:53This trip is different because we want to, you know, see her place, like, see her life,
00:44:59her friends, her family.
00:45:00Yeah.
00:45:01We're looking for that gut feeling.
00:45:03Because we want to bring her to San Diego to live with us.
00:45:10We see a forever life with her.
00:45:13We see us building a family and doing this blended family together.
00:45:17Yeah, integrating a family.
00:45:19How do you plan to bring her to the U.S.?
00:45:21Our options are limited.
00:45:23It would have to be, like, something called a K-1 visa, which is fiancé visa.
00:45:31Fiancé visa.
00:45:32Yeah.
00:45:33How does that work when you guys are already married?
00:45:37You know, me and Ani have talked about it for a while.
00:45:40And, you know, we're very comfortable with the positions that we hold in each other's lives.
00:45:45So I don't care if by paperwork you want to call me a husband or a boyfriend.
00:45:50You know, I'm going to be in your lives no matter what.
00:45:57So we were thinking about separating.
00:45:59Getting a divorce.
00:46:00Yeah.
00:46:01Like, legally.
00:46:02Wait.
00:46:03Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:46:05It's just on paper.
00:46:07Just on paper.
00:46:09It's got to have to happen.
00:46:10We don't feel like, OK, what is the worst case scenario?
00:46:13I don't see them running away together.
00:46:15We're not going to run away together.
00:46:19Matt and Amini are talking about divorcing in order to bring her into the relationship.
00:46:23And there's so much they don't know.
00:46:25To be talking, not just getting married to someone you don't know,
00:46:28but to divorce someone you do know in order to bring in someone into this marriage.
00:46:32It just, it seems excessive and it seems really fast to me.
00:46:37I don't want you getting taken advantage of.
00:46:39I know she's supposed to be a boss bitch, she's working so hard,
00:46:42but I know you spend money on her.
00:46:44I come from a country with not much opportunities, you know?
00:46:48So it could have been me where she is today.
00:46:52See, I understand that, but you're legally tying yourself to someone that I feel like you barely know.
00:46:58It's been a year.
00:47:00I was there when you met her.
00:47:01I know how long, but I also know that it's not a year straight.
00:47:04There's a difference between an entire year with somebody,
00:47:07and seeing them through good and bad times,
00:47:09and then going on vacation with them a couple times.
00:47:11Matt and I were together for three months before we got married.
00:47:16One week before we moved in together, and we're still here.
00:47:20When you know, you know.
00:47:22Matt first told me six months ago that they're opening up,
00:47:26that they found somebody that they're partnering up with.
00:47:28A lot of people out there in this world live in poly relationships.
00:47:32He seems excited about it. He likes it.
00:47:34But I'm mostly concerned just about overall Matt's well-being,
00:47:37just making sure that he is going through what he wants to do in life.
00:47:40Is he doing this because it's going to make his wife happy?
00:47:42Is he going to do it because it makes him happy?
00:47:45You guys got married for a reason.
00:47:47Now you want a divorce for this one person you met a year ago,
00:47:51which is fine, I get it, you guys are in love, whatever.
00:47:53Lust is there.
00:47:55Is this more important than the reason you got married for?
00:48:00So just keep that in mind.
00:48:02Okay, but have you done, like, polyamory relationships?
00:48:07The lady I was with, yeah.
00:48:09I remember her.
00:48:10We dabbled, yeah, with other women in our relationships.
00:48:13How did that go?
00:48:14We had a lot of fun, believe me, a lot of fun, several different ladies.
00:48:17But the thing is, is I learned that I became jealous.
00:48:20Really?
00:48:21Because they started spending time together.
00:48:24They started laughing and having their internal jokes.
00:48:28And it's hard.
00:48:29Those little private moments, those are the things that got me.
00:48:32We just kind of really started growing apart, you know?
00:48:35Maybe we lost connection.
00:48:39There's some truth in some of the facts that they bring up.
00:48:43I tend to be more jealous, I admit it.
00:48:47And being in a throuple, that's an uneven number,
00:48:50so somebody most likely is going to feel left out.
00:48:55This trip is even more nerve-wracking now
00:48:58because we have all these things in the back of our head now
00:49:01that we have to get answered.
00:49:03Does she feel the same about us as we feel about her?
00:49:07Is she ready to take this to the next level?
00:49:11Is this for the right intentions?
00:49:13Nobody wants to hear, I told you so.
00:49:15We want to prove them wrong.
00:49:18The situation with the girl reaching out,
00:49:21I'm just still nervous about that.
00:49:23A lady reached out to me and had said that she had met Juan on a cruise
00:49:28and that they had hooked up.
00:49:30I mean, honestly, I worry about that,
00:49:32but, you know, if he wants to cheat, there's a will, there's a way.
00:49:35I think Juan thinks maybe it's in the past,
00:49:38but I still have questions I need answered,
00:49:41and I will be getting those.
00:49:47You really feel like she's in it for the right reasons,
00:49:49not just because she wants to come to the U.S.
00:49:51and because you pay for everything.
00:49:53Maybe that's a 2% tier.
00:49:56My dad is just so in love with her,
00:49:58and I don't think he really sees
00:50:00what she could potentially be doing to our family.
00:50:04Are you comfortable getting the prenup?
00:50:07Uh...
00:50:18Boo-boos, good morning.
00:50:23Good morning, sweetness.
00:50:26How are you, huh?
00:50:29How are you?
00:50:36Boys.
00:50:38Time to wake up.
00:50:41Time to wake up, Dayan.
00:50:43Dayan, wake up.
00:50:45It's time for school. We gotta get ready for school.
00:50:47Dawson, it's time to get up.
00:50:50So a normal routine for us in the house is a little bit crazy,
00:50:54a little bit crazy mixed with chaos mixed with wonderful.
00:50:58Dayan, you're brushing your teeth.
00:51:01You can't wear shorts, so you're gonna need pants.
00:51:03It's not summer weather.
00:51:05On school days, it's waking up, getting the boys up,
00:51:08getting them ready for school, getting me ready for work,
00:51:11all at the same time.
00:51:13David wakes up.
00:51:15The boys sometimes have to be reminded, like,
00:51:17four different things.
00:51:19And did you flush the potty and wash your hands?
00:51:22Not my baby to sleep.
00:51:27Mom, he's crying.
00:51:33What's a normal day like?
00:51:35You just run around and you gotta get dressed.
00:51:39Yeah.
00:51:42Boys, you guys can go get in the car and get buckled up.
00:51:47I think I'm the most worried about Juan coming here
00:51:50and it's, like, straight to work, straight to business,
00:51:52time to start family life, time to raise our child together.
00:51:57I know.
00:51:59I'm a mental health counselor in private practice,
00:52:02and, you know, I work quite a bit,
00:52:04so he's gonna have to step up and help me out.
00:52:08Burr!
00:52:10I have sacrificed a lot for him for his job,
00:52:13and now it's his turn to sacrifice
00:52:15and bend over a little bit for my job.
00:52:18Okay, we ready?
00:52:19Yeah.
00:52:21Whoa!
00:52:24Whoa!
00:52:27Sunset over canyons, I can see the moon now.
00:52:31Okay, there's jeans.
00:52:34Get him a nice, like...
00:52:37You're gonna have to get him a car heart.
00:52:39Get him a nice cowboy shirt.
00:52:41Cowboy shirt.
00:52:43He would look great.
00:52:45Meg and I have been friends forever,
00:52:47and we're both counselors,
00:52:49and Amanda is, like, our office assistant.
00:52:51They're both really feisty and really opinionated,
00:52:53and they're protective of me, like, I'm their friend,
00:52:55and so obviously they want to protect me
00:52:57and my feelings and not get hurt.
00:53:01This looks like something I can see him in.
00:53:04Yeah, the gray hoodie's perfect.
00:53:05The gray hoodie, like, balances it out.
00:53:07And he's never had a winter coat in his life.
00:53:09No, probably his first time wearing gloves.
00:53:11Has he ever actually seen snow?
00:53:13No, mm-mm, nope, this will be a first, too.
00:53:15He's gonna get on the plane, get off,
00:53:17and turn right back around, like, nope.
00:53:20My original hope was that Juan could be here in the summertime
00:53:23and, like, we could ease into the cold weather
00:53:26and then not be, like, bam, cold right away.
00:53:29But that's not what's happening, and he gets here in December.
00:53:35It will be negative 10, negative 15.
00:53:37Like, last year, it got, like, negative 60.
00:53:39It freezes your ears off, and it, like, burns.
00:53:43It hurts so bad, like, it gives you such an earache.
00:53:45That's definitely the worst part.
00:53:47I mean, I feel the pressure to, like, make this, you know,
00:53:50his home and for him to feel comfortable.
00:53:53Well, almost all your guys' time has been on vacation,
00:53:57on cruises in Colombia.
00:53:59Like, now he's gonna see Jessica constant working,
00:54:03plus three boys.
00:54:04How is he gonna deal with that?
00:54:06I think there's parts of it, the money and some of the travels,
00:54:09that are gonna be hard for him to leave behind.
00:54:13Yeah, I definitely have a concern about him coming here
00:54:15and not being able to make money
00:54:17and then wanting to go back on the cruise.
00:54:19That's what I'm worried about.
00:54:21Megan and Amanda are more skeptical
00:54:23because about eight months after Juan and I had been engaged,
00:54:27a lady reached out to me
00:54:29and had said that she had met Juan on a cruise
00:54:32and that they had hooked up, and I was really confused by it.
00:54:38I know she texted, she called you,
00:54:41basically saying, like, we have something,
00:54:44but we never have something.
00:54:47Juan was trying to reassure me of what his role was in that
00:54:51and that it didn't happen.
00:54:53I did want to talk to you about you going back to the cruise
00:54:57where it's easy to do something and get away with it.
00:55:02I haven't cheated on you,
00:55:04and I wouldn't cheat on you no matter what.
00:55:09Since then, you know, we've had a kid together,
00:55:12and he's finally coming to America,
00:55:14so I'm definitely trying to move past all that.
00:55:16But truthfully, I know there's something that my friends don't know,
00:55:20and I'm a little nervous about what will happen if that comes to light.
00:55:26The situation with the girl reaching out,
00:55:29I'm just still nervous about that.
00:55:31I'm worried for your heart, and yeah, I'm just really nervous.
00:55:35I mean, honestly, I worry about that.
00:55:37I don't think distance is comfortable by any means,
00:55:40but, you know, if he wants to cheat, there's a will, there's a way.
00:55:43And so he could have easily went and did something
00:55:46and then called me right after, but how am I going to know that?
00:55:49I know you don't hold grudges, but I do, so I'll hold this for you.
00:55:53I mean, it just, it's nerve-wracking.
00:55:59I really struggle trusting Juan now, still to this day,
00:56:03because of that situation and what that lady said.
00:56:06It's not something that I take lightly,
00:56:09and Jessica deserves nothing but the best for her life.
00:56:14Why focus on something like that
00:56:17when we can just focus on, like, our beginning actually being together?
00:56:23I say forgive, just don't forget.
00:56:26When Juan gets here, I definitely want to have a conversation with him.
00:56:30I don't know if he'll be expecting that.
00:56:32I think he thinks maybe it's in the past and we're done with it,
00:56:35but I'm not done.
00:56:37I still have questions I need answered, and I will be getting those.
00:56:52We're thinking about having another baby.
00:56:57That's just a lot to take in.
00:57:01You already have one baby, and then you're going to have another baby.
00:57:04It's going to change everything drastically.
00:57:06It's going to change the whole family dynamic.
00:57:17I wanted to discuss it with you,
00:57:19because she's thrown it out there, like, multiple times.
00:57:22I mean, I already accepted that you had one baby,
00:57:27so I don't think I'm ready to accept you having another one yet.
00:57:31I mean, maybe if I felt more welcomed by her,
00:57:35then I would be more OK with that,
00:57:37but from how it went in Paris,
00:57:40I'm pretty hesitant about you guys having another kid.
00:57:46He should be retiring, not changing diapers.
00:57:49I almost feel like her having another baby with my dad
00:57:53is her way of separating and taking control over the situation,
00:57:59taking control over him, further dividing the family.
00:58:03You really feel like she's in it for the right reasons
00:58:06and not just because she wants to come to the US
00:58:08and because you'd pay for everything.
00:58:10Maybe that's a 2% fear.
00:58:13I want to make sure I'm looking at this fully,
00:58:17and this is the rest of my life, too.
00:58:20So, are you comfortable getting a prenup?
00:58:29It's just there to protect you,
00:58:31and you've worked your whole life for everything that you have.
00:58:35Right.
00:58:36We still don't know her full intentions,
00:58:38so I feel like it's just to be safe.
00:58:41And I think that if she freaks out about it and refuses,
00:58:45I think that that is a red flag.
00:58:48You know, I get why a prenup is valuable,
00:58:51but I'm hesitant about it because after my first marriage ended,
00:58:55after 19 years, I started dating a younger girl named Jade.
00:59:00So things got pretty serious between Jade and I.
00:59:04At one point, I brought up a prenup
00:59:06because I just was going through a divorce and lawyers
00:59:09and dealing with that, and she flipped out on me.
00:59:12And ultimately, our relationship fell apart for those reasons,
00:59:16and I do see the value in having it,
00:59:18but I'm going to make the choices that fit Mina and Maria
00:59:22and me and our family right now.
00:59:26You know, I'm never going to allow myself to be in a position
00:59:31where she asks me to choose between her and you.
00:59:37Do you trust me on that?
00:59:41Yeah.
00:59:42You believe me? You sure?
00:59:44Yeah, I do.
00:59:49My dad is just so in love with her,
00:59:51and I don't think he really sees
00:59:53what she could potentially be doing to our family.
00:59:57I think she might think that she can get away with it,
00:59:59but when Mina finally comes to the United States,
01:00:02this isn't going to fly anymore,
01:00:04and I think that we might have to have some hard conversations.
01:00:11He's from Iran, and we will have 90 days to get married.
01:00:18No, you're not.
01:00:20Of course I have, you know, some concerns.
01:00:24I really want you to be able to meet him and be there.
01:00:27That's what's important to me.
01:00:29They hate Americans, you know that, huh?
01:00:40âȘâȘâȘ
01:00:52My heart's pounding.
01:00:54âȘâȘâȘ
01:00:57âȘâȘâȘ
01:01:05Honestly, I am ready to get the conversation behind me,
01:01:11but the thought of it not going well
01:01:13is kind of torturing my brain a little,
01:01:16and if his reaction is not good,
01:01:18I don't think I'll be able to handle it.
01:01:20You made it, huh?
01:01:22Yes.
01:01:23How you doing?
01:01:25Okay.
01:01:27What you having trouble with?
01:01:30It is making a whining noise, but I knocked the...
01:01:33What's it called?
01:01:35The spoiler? How'd you do that?
01:01:37I don't know. I was just going down the road,
01:01:39and it was, like, flapping, making noise.
01:01:41My dad was a mechanic, and I took him straight up
01:01:44doing body and paint work.
01:01:46So I've always taken care of Stevie and her vehicles.
01:01:48Can't do this anymore, Stevie.
01:01:50Can we do it?
01:01:51You just stand there and look pretty,
01:01:53and that'll be good enough.
01:01:54I am really looking forward to seeing her today.
01:01:56It just brings a certain joy with her, you know?
01:01:59It's just getting old.
01:02:01Do you want to stop for a minute?
01:02:03Sit down and rest.
01:02:08So what's been going on?
01:02:10A lot.
01:02:16I'm putting it off, but I have to tell you,
01:02:19it's probably going to be a bit shocking.
01:02:22I mean, is it going to make me mad?
01:02:25It better not.
01:02:27So, do you remember the time I went to Turkey?
01:02:30Mm-hmm.
01:02:32Um...
01:02:34I said,
01:02:36I'm going to see people I work with,
01:02:38and you said something to me.
01:02:40Do you remember what you said?
01:02:42Mm...
01:02:43Well, first of all, I told you...
01:02:44No, I don't have a clue what I said.
01:02:45Really?
01:02:46I told you, I mean...
01:02:47Well, right before...
01:02:48I told you it's crazy, I mean...
01:02:49You said nobody goes across the world unless...
01:02:51You don't remember?
01:02:52Unless they go and see somebody.
01:02:54Yeah.
01:02:55I did meet somebody there that was one of my students,
01:02:59so I was not lying to you,
01:03:01but I ended up having a lot of feelings for this person.
01:03:04Is it he?
01:03:06Dad!
01:03:07Well, you keep saying that person.
01:03:08Stop, stop, stop.
01:03:10Yeah.
01:03:11Stop now.
01:03:12What's his name?
01:03:13Matty.
01:03:14The guy?
01:03:15Yeah, but my name's Stevie.
01:03:17Oh, yeah?
01:03:18And I've dealt with that my whole life.
01:03:20But with that being said,
01:03:22the country he's from is not that good of a country.
01:03:26The government is not good.
01:03:27The people are good.
01:03:29He's from Iran.
01:03:36They hate Americans, you know that, huh?
01:03:38He obviously don't hate me.
01:03:40Yeah.
01:03:41Does he speak English?
01:03:43Yes, very good English.
01:03:45Probably don't speak redneck, I bet.
01:03:47They don't.
01:03:50With her meeting somebody, you know, from Iran,
01:03:54of course I have, you know, some concerns.
01:03:59The way men and women are treated,
01:04:01they keep their women very well oppressed.
01:04:03I think we all know that.
01:04:04It's going to have to be a shock.
01:04:06I mean, it's going to be a lot of differences going on.
01:04:09Is it over with now?
01:04:11You got it out of your system?
01:04:13It's definitely something that I do want to follow through with.
01:04:17And I do love him, and I do care about him.
01:04:21And he did tell me that he would like to spend
01:04:24the rest of his life with me.
01:04:30I wanted to tell you sooner,
01:04:32but I waited until the last minute.
01:04:34And he's coming tomorrow now.
01:04:38What, Lauren?
01:04:39Coming where?
01:04:41He'll be coming on his K1 visa,
01:04:44and we will have 90 days to get married.
01:04:53Are you not?
01:04:55Yeah.
01:05:00I don't know.
01:05:01They can just get out of marriage.
01:05:03I know it seems crazy, and I would have never expected that,
01:05:06but I fell in love with this person, and I like them,
01:05:09and that's how it is.
01:05:10Yeah.
01:05:11Girl.
01:05:12Yeah, I know.
01:05:13It's a lot.
01:05:16Is he going to make you wear a jihad and not drive or do anything?
01:05:19No, not at all.
01:05:20No, he's not.
01:05:21Mm-mm.
01:05:22You don't know.
01:05:23You're his property.
01:05:24No, it's not like that.
01:05:26It is like that.
01:05:27It's not like that.
01:05:28I'm telling you, I know him, and it's not like that.
01:05:30You had to bring him, wait on him hand and foot and stuff
01:05:32or whatever.
01:05:33No, absolutely not.
01:05:34Once you get to know somebody, they start changing or something.
01:05:39I wasn't expecting to hear that.
01:05:41If Batty Collins has a lot of expectations
01:05:44as far as his upbringing and stuff,
01:05:46that's different from ours.
01:05:48We need to stop and rethink this whole situation.
01:05:53It was the last minute, didn't you?
01:05:55I did.
01:05:56I think even though this wasn't like,
01:05:58it feels like it happened faster than I would have liked,
01:06:01I think sometimes timing can be perfect
01:06:03even when it's imperfect,
01:06:04and I really want you to be able to meet him
01:06:07and be there.
01:06:08That's just important to me.
01:06:12That's the only thing that makes me cry
01:06:14is when I think about it.
01:06:16About what?
01:06:18About you.
01:06:20What did I do?
01:06:21Nothing.
01:06:22I just love you, and I want you here forever.
01:06:26Well, I'm going to be here forever.
01:06:27That's right.
01:06:34Even though we only have 90 days,
01:06:35I would need your approval before I married someone,
01:06:37but most importantly, I couldn't do something like that
01:06:40unless I had you walk me down the aisle.
01:06:43Would you be willing to do that?
01:06:47That's going to lock there, Stevie.
01:06:48I mean, I don't know the guy yet.
01:06:51If you say you're in love, you know,
01:06:52love is blind sometimes.
01:06:54I might see something there that, you know?
01:06:57And then if you approve of him,
01:06:58then would you walk me down the aisle?
01:07:00We'll figure that out.
01:07:01Talk about that later.
01:07:03Yes, sir.
01:07:06Honestly, I don't know what I'll do
01:07:08if my dad doesn't approve of Maddie,
01:07:11because Maddie being from Iran
01:07:12means that his visa situation
01:07:14is much different than other people's.
01:07:18When Maddie comes here,
01:07:20we are pretty certain that Maddie
01:07:22will never be able to return back to his home country.
01:07:26There's a good chance that he won't be able to see
01:07:28his family or his friends in Iran ever again.
01:07:31It's a massive sacrifice,
01:07:33and honestly, it just adds a lot of stress for me.
01:07:39I won't choose between my dad or Maddie.
01:07:42I can't do that.
01:07:43So this crazy situation, it has to work.
01:07:46And we don't have a backup plan.
01:07:49It has to work.
01:07:52Three months.
01:07:53Three months to see if you like him.
01:07:56Oh.
01:07:57I need you liking.
01:07:59Who is this man?
01:08:01The boys have been waiting so long.
01:08:03They are just so eager for Juan to be here.
01:08:06But my relationship is not perfect.
01:08:08Nobody's is.
01:08:09And I feel a lot of pressure to make this home for him.
01:08:15Oh, I see him.
01:08:16I'm coming for you!
01:08:29What do you think?
01:08:30Do you think Daddy's going to love these?
01:08:32Is Daddy going to love these?
01:08:35That's a yes approval.
01:08:36Yeah, that's a yes approval.
01:08:38That is a dog eat approval.
01:08:59Okay, boys, let's go, let's go.
01:09:01It's time to go get Juan.
01:09:02Let's go, let's go.
01:09:04Go, go, go, go, go.
01:09:06Today is the day, and I just can't wait to go to the airport and get Juan.
01:09:10It's pretty heavy, sweetie.
01:09:11I don't know if you can get both.
01:09:13I'm so excited to see him and have him in, like, my stomping grounds.
01:09:17And I just can't wait to be with him and kiss him.
01:09:19Let's hit the road.
01:09:23Okay.
01:09:24So the plan is we're going to head to the airport.
01:09:26And then we're going to stay the night in Denver because it's a three-hour drive.
01:09:29And then the next day we'll do the three-hour drive back home.
01:09:33Okay, we're ready.
01:09:34Are you guys ready to go get Juan?
01:09:35Yes.
01:09:36Like, how ready?
01:09:37Like, one through ten, how ready?
01:09:41A thousand.
01:09:52I'm currently at the airport.
01:09:54I'm on my way to Denver.
01:09:56I can't wait to get there to see them, kiss, yes, hug the boys.
01:10:01It's been a long time, just waiting and waiting, almost two years.
01:10:06I haven't seen my son in two months.
01:10:09So that make it even extra special because I'm missing so much.
01:10:14Four more hours, we'll see my family.
01:10:18What happens if we're just dreamy?
01:10:20If we're dreamy and this is all a dream, and then we wake up?
01:10:23Yeah.
01:10:24It's not a dream, it's real life, Dayton.
01:10:26And he's actually coming, even though it still kind of feels like a dream, huh?
01:10:30Yeah.
01:10:34Are you guys feeling nervous at all?
01:10:36To do what?
01:10:37To see Juan.
01:10:38No, I'm happy.
01:10:40I'm feeling a little nervous.
01:10:43Why?
01:10:44Maybe because I'm so excited, but I'm just nervous.
01:10:47I just hope he loves it.
01:10:50I've just been waiting for so long.
01:10:52I just want everything to go right.
01:11:08Okay, I'm going to get all our stuff, but you guys can get out.
01:11:10I'm waiting to see your dada.
01:11:13I know, it's time for him to see his dada.
01:11:17Today Juan's coming.
01:11:19I want to run and hug him.
01:11:21This is what I'm going to do.
01:11:23I'm doing it.
01:11:27Do you think he's going to get lost trying to come out of here?
01:11:29Yeah.
01:11:30I feel like I'm lost trying to find him.
01:11:34I feel a ton of pressure to make this work.
01:11:36The boys have been waiting so long to, I mean, they are just so eager for him to be here.
01:11:42But our relationship is not perfect, nobody's is, and there's been highs and lows.
01:11:47And there's been times that have been really challenging for us.
01:11:51And it's overwhelming because it's like there's lots of factors,
01:11:54and there's a lot of things that could make him unsure of this place.
01:11:58And I feel a lot of pressure to just make this home for him.
01:12:06Where is this man?
01:12:08Oh, he's in Denver. He's landed.
01:12:10Yay!
01:12:11He just landed?
01:12:12He landed.
01:12:13He's done now?
01:12:14Well, he said, guess who's in Denver?
01:12:16And I'm saying, yay, come to us.
01:12:29Where is he?
01:12:31Mom, where is he already?
01:12:39Oh, I see him.
01:12:40Hold your posters.
01:12:45I see him.
01:12:49I got him for you.
01:12:57I was ready for you.
01:12:58Hi, baby.
01:12:59Hi, baby.
01:13:00Hi, daddy.
01:13:01Hi, daddy.
01:13:02Hi, baby.
01:13:07Hi.
01:13:08Hi.
01:13:09Hi.
01:13:10Hi, daddy.
01:13:11Hi, dad.
01:13:12Hi, daddy.
01:13:14I missed you.
01:13:19We've been waiting 1,381 days since the day I met you.
01:13:24That's a long, long wait.
01:13:27I've been patiently waiting.
01:13:29But happy to be here.
01:13:31Mom, I see it. Mom.
01:13:37I just can't believe it. It doesn't feel real, finally be here with Jess.
01:13:42And just getting to be together, it's just amazing, a great feeling.
01:13:46I'm just really, really, really happy.
01:13:50You all hug me.
01:13:51And mom on the outside.
01:13:52Family hug, family hug.
01:13:53Mom on the outside, all my boys.
01:13:55Too much boys.
01:13:57Never too much boys.
01:13:58I'm so happy to see you guys.
01:13:59And then your daddy.
01:14:01There's your dad.
01:14:03Still can't believe I'm here.
01:14:05I just still can't believe I'm with my son.
01:14:08Seeing him, holding him, he's my son.
01:14:10He deserves his dad to be with him, you know.
01:14:19Sorry, it just touched my heart a little.
01:14:21Because, you know, being a dad and not being able to be with your son, it's really hard.
01:14:27It's not an easy thing to do, you know.
01:14:30It's not easy.
01:14:32Not easy.
01:14:33Not easy to be away from my son.
01:14:37My plan is in!
01:14:38My plan is in!
01:14:39My plan is in for you!
01:14:41No, it's nice, but that will keep you really warm.
01:14:44And this is, like, super farmer, Wyoming, American coat.
01:14:49I love it.
01:14:50I like this style.
01:14:51Look how warm it is.
01:14:52Yeah, that's nice.
01:14:53Everything looks so nice, I think.
01:14:55It's too far to drive home tonight to Torrington.
01:14:57So we're going to get a hotel for the night.
01:14:59And then tomorrow we'll sleep in.
01:15:01And then head home.
01:15:03I have a question.
01:15:04Are we sharing the same room?
01:15:06Yeah, we have the same room.
01:15:07But we have, like, different beds.
01:15:09They can't have their own room.
01:15:10They're too little.
01:15:11What, are you hoping for your own room?
01:15:15That would have been amazing, you know.
01:15:19We haven't seen each other in two months.
01:15:21I mean, there's a bathroom.
01:15:23And, uh, yes, uh, yes, uh, I'm just beingâ
01:15:27Just like the cruise.
01:15:31I feel handsome.
01:15:32Actually, that looks really good on you.
01:15:33I feel handsome.
01:15:34Does it feel warm?
01:15:36It feels great.
01:15:37I like it.
01:15:38It looks good on you.
01:15:40How does he know how to do that, bro?
01:15:42Because I'm a father.
01:15:45Every time I see the boys, we're on vacations.
01:15:47But this time it's not the same.
01:15:49It's a whole different culture.
01:15:50It's a whole different world.
01:15:51And, uh, yeah, I mean, I have thought about it, like,
01:15:54what I have gotten myself involved to.
01:15:56Um, am I good enough for this?
01:15:59Am I ready to be a stepfather and a father?
01:16:03I know hopefully when we start drivingâ
01:16:05Do you see what our life is?
01:16:07Yeah.
01:16:08Do you see what our life is?
01:16:10This is it.
01:16:12Coming from a single guy to becoming a father of three
01:16:16is such a big responsibility that I have never had in my life.
01:16:20Pressure.
01:16:21Lots of pressure.
01:16:24Welcome.
01:16:26Mom!
01:16:29I have worried every single day that Sarp would back out of this.
01:16:33We've kind of touched on what would happen
01:16:35if the K-1 doesn't get approved.
01:16:37If this doesn't work out, we can't be together.
01:16:40What did they say?
01:16:42I don't like how your face looks.
01:16:50Kitty, kitty, kitty, kitty.
01:16:52Sweetie.
01:16:56I had to stay so strong for Sarp and be so positive
01:17:00that now that he's in there and I'm alone,
01:17:03I am feeling all my feelings, all my nerves.
01:17:08And I just wonder what's happening,
01:17:11if there's problems.
01:17:12So many things I'm thinking of.
01:17:26I have worried every single day that Sarp would back out of this
01:17:30because he's been so on the fence about going to the U.S.
01:17:33He's like, I want to be with you, but I don't really want to go to the U.S.
01:17:37Sarp has definitely tried to get me to stay in Turkey
01:17:40all the way up until today
01:17:43because he has a lot of reservations about moving to the U.S.
01:17:46He doesn't want to be so far away from his parents,
01:17:48which I totally understand.
01:17:49But I think it's also just a fear of the unknown.
01:17:52We've kind of touched on what would happen
01:17:54if the K-1 doesn't get approved,
01:17:56and it was just too scary of a conversation,
01:17:58so we just decided not to have it.
01:18:00But basically, it was going into the place of like,
01:18:03if this doesn't work out, we probably can't be together.
01:18:11I really want to find a gift for Sarpur's parents.
01:18:14I wish that Sarpur would have told them
01:18:16that he had the interview today
01:18:19so they could be mentally preparing for, you know,
01:18:22the answer that he's going to get,
01:18:24but he wanted to save it.
01:18:27So, you know, it's going to be a surprise to them
01:18:30when they find out, I'm sure.
01:18:33I don't know how they're going to take it.
01:18:36One of the things that's really difficult about today,
01:18:39if he does get approved,
01:18:41is that it will be a long time before he can come back to Turkey
01:18:44to see his family again.
01:18:46And that's hard.
01:18:48I think I'll get this little set.
01:18:50Thank you so much.
01:18:52I love them.
01:18:54Thanks.
01:18:56I think it's going to be one of Sarpur's biggest struggles
01:18:59being in the U.S.,
01:19:01is just knowing that he's so far away from his parents.
01:19:03And they're getting older, and it's just, you know,
01:19:05he's an only child.
01:19:07He's their everything.
01:19:09So I'm worried all the time
01:19:12that this isn't going to actually go through,
01:19:14even if he gets approved,
01:19:16I am still afraid he could back out.
01:19:18Because he could.
01:19:33I'm so nervous right now.
01:19:35I'm waiting for Sarpur.
01:19:37This is the spot we agreed to meet at.
01:19:39And I just don't know what happened.
01:19:41Like, I don't know what he's been through
01:19:43for the past three hours.
01:19:45I'm dying to know what happened.
01:19:53A lot is riding on this, and I feel it.
01:19:55Like, this is such a serious moment.
01:19:58And, you know,
01:20:00we're never going to have this moment again.
01:20:02Like, it needs to be good news.
01:20:05So I really hope he got a good answer.
01:20:11âȘâȘâȘ
01:20:25Baby, I don't like how your face looks.
01:20:29What happened?
01:20:31Why'd that take so long?
01:20:34What happened?
01:20:36Are you okay?
01:20:41Best season on 90 Day Fiancé.
01:20:44This is not fair, it's Maria.
01:20:47Whoo!
01:20:49I am utterly head over heels for you.
01:20:51âȘâȘâȘ
01:20:53That was close.
01:20:55âȘâȘâȘ
01:20:58It's like a different planet to me.
01:21:00I feel weird.
01:21:02Like, I do not belong here, but I like it here.
01:21:05Rabbi, you opened the gate.
01:21:08Oh, my God.
01:21:11What is this?
01:21:13Oh, man.
01:21:15Let's go.
01:21:17Wow.
01:21:18You know what would make me feel better?
01:21:20Like a quickie?
01:21:22I can't wait to squeeze that booty.
01:21:26Is my mom blowing the launch?
01:21:29Hi, Greg.
01:21:34As of right now, my fiancé, Joan, and I,
01:21:36we're living at home with my mother.
01:21:40Well, I'm hoping a year and a half, two years.
01:21:47What do your kids say when you talk to them
01:21:49about your relationship?
01:21:51Oh, they don't know I'm getting married.
01:21:53Wait, they don't know you're getting married?
01:21:55No.
01:21:57What else don't they know?
01:22:01Have you guys talked anymore about a prenup?
01:22:05We're gonna do that.
01:22:06Yeah.
01:22:08You think I come just for your money, Mark?
01:22:10You too?
01:22:13Your f***ing contract.
01:22:16I still think that I would be a better guy to be with.
01:22:19Stop. What are you saying?
01:22:21We went on dates.
01:22:23We've done more than just kissing.
01:22:25You better not want to have problems with me, for sure.
01:22:28Really?
01:22:31What the f*** is going on?
01:22:35You should have told me.
01:22:37I've already done it. What do you want me to do about it?
01:22:39I can't get back in town.
01:22:41I feel like I made a mistake coming here.
01:22:45Next time I go to Colombia, I'm gonna tell my ex-girlfriend
01:22:47to come while I'm alone.
01:22:49I mean, I did tell you, and I did tell you.
01:22:52I did tell you.
01:22:53I don't want to be here.
01:22:55For real.
01:22:57So I just, yeah, I'm just done with this.
01:23:00Nice meeting you, man. Nothing personal.
01:23:02Sorry about that.
01:23:03Are you not telling people you are in a serious relationship?
01:23:06Do you tell people you are in a serious relationship, yes or no?
01:23:09Please answer my question.
01:23:10No, I'm not.
01:23:12Honey.
01:23:13I'm f***ing done. Come on.
01:23:14Really?
01:23:15No, I am done.
01:23:16Honey.
01:23:19You can't turn a f***ing hoe to a housewife.
01:23:21That's what the f*** is going on.