Una familia que apoya mucho a su hija.
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00:00Today, on the day of pride, we have to say no to transphobia,
00:04firm and clear, no to transphobia, because that only generates pain and suffering.
00:09How many children feel rejection first, from their own families, from their nucleus?
00:14Today, on the other hand, we are on the opposite side.
00:17We are with a family that has received the news that their Alicia,
00:23who was born as a child, told them at a certain age,
00:25no, I am a girl, and her parents are here, next to her,
00:29in every step she takes in life, supporting her, proud, happy to be with her.
00:35And this has made, of course, the process for Alicia much easier,
00:39because instead of starting from pain, it starts from love, it starts from support.
00:44And in a little while we are going to know her whole story,
00:46because I promise you, Pri, I assure you, she is a charming girl,
00:49they are great parents, you are going to fall in love with them.
00:52I am sure of that.
00:53Look, I want to stay with this happy family photo.
00:57Send me one, run, run Clarissa, get out of the frame.
01:02I want only the three of them.
01:04Almoy, also get out of the frame.
01:06That happy family photo.
01:08We are going to ask her a lot of questions, because we have a lot to learn from you.
01:12So we are really going to be transformed into an example,
01:15and of which we have a lot to learn, right Clari?
01:18Why do you throw dirt on me if no one saves themselves?
01:20That's right. Hey Priscila, thank goodness that times are changing,
01:23thank goodness that these issues are being discussed,
01:25thank goodness that it is already opening up in a better way.
01:27I have interviewed trans people who told me about their story,
01:30about their transition, years ago,
01:31and the first rejection they received was from their families, many times.
01:35Well, here, I told you before, it is the opposite.
01:38You are here with your Alicia, proud of her,
01:41you have accompanied her throughout the process.
01:43Tell us a little bit, tell us, Alicia, how was this?
01:47How did you start seeing him since you were little?
01:49How did you start thinking about him in front of your parents?
01:52Well, honestly, since I was very little, I knew he was different.
01:58Since I was little, I never really liked trucks and superheroes.
02:03All the time I would hide and play with my sister's dolls,
02:07and sometimes my mom would see me and it was not strange to her.
02:12And then, I knew that in school, I was different,
02:19because my classmates would only play ball, fight, and things like that.
02:26And that bothered you?
02:27Yes, it bothered me.
02:30And I was going to play with my classmates' dolls,
02:33and sometimes they would just look at me weird,
02:36but then they would leave me.
02:38Alicia, your mom told me about an episode of a commercial,
02:42of some dolls that dream of what you want to be.
02:44Do you remember that episode?
02:45Your mom told you about it, and it reached your soul.
02:47How was that?
02:48Yes, the thing was that when I was little,
02:52I saw a commercial for Disney princesses,
02:55where it said that you could do whatever you wanted,
02:59but it made me very sad.
03:01And then my mom came and asked me why I was crying.
03:05And I told her that I was like that,
03:08because I couldn't be who I wanted to be.
03:13And then my mom missed me, and it felt weird at first.
03:19Let me complement this with your mom,
03:21who is here, because she told us that story.
03:23What happened to you when you saw that scene of your daughter?
03:25Did it make sense to you? Did you understand it?
03:28Well, the truth is that at first it didn't make sense to me.
03:33I didn't know, I didn't understand what was going on.
03:36It was a friction at the same time.
03:38As I told you, at some point,
03:42for me there were gays and lesbians.
03:45When I was younger, I didn't know any more.
03:48So at some point I thought,
03:50and we talked about it with my husband,
03:52that maybe we were going to have a gay child.
03:54Well, our older daughters, they supported us a lot.
04:01Young people are more up-to-date in all this,
04:04they understand more.
04:06And they kind of opened their eyes to us.
04:09And they made me see a report
04:12from the Selena Foundation at that time,
04:15where trans children were coming out.
04:17And my older daughter came to me and said,
04:19Mom, maybe it's going that way.
04:21So we started to question ourselves a little.
04:26We wanted to communicate with the Foundation at first.
04:30I sent them an email.
04:32And, well, because of personal things,
04:36because of a disease,
04:37unfortunately I couldn't meet them
04:41so they could explain to me what could be happening.
04:45And here comes the other part of Alicia
04:47that I would like her to tell you,
04:48because she was very brave.
04:51Well, I was going to tell my mom
04:54that I didn't feel comfortable as a child
04:56and that I wanted to be a girl.
04:58But, unfortunately, my mom had breast cancer.
05:03And I didn't want to feel like an extra weight.
05:06So I went to my uncle's house
05:13and I opened up to him.
05:18And I told him that I didn't want to be a boy,
05:21that I felt more comfortable as a girl.
05:25And then they told my mom.
05:27How old were you there?
05:29I was about 7 or 8 years old.
05:34Were you afraid?
05:34What did you feel when you heard that?
05:36Well, honestly, I felt something liberating,
05:40like being able to tell someone
05:41and not keep it to myself.
05:44How did you feel?
05:46How was that first time you heard the news?
05:49Well, when my sister-in-law told us,
05:55I felt a great deal of anguish.
05:58Because I felt a part of that mother's pain.
06:03She said, why didn't she tell me?
06:04Why didn't she trust me?
06:06But when she told me that she didn't want to feel like a burden
06:10for everything that I was going through
06:11and what we were living as a family,
06:14it was even more distressing.
06:17Because the only thing you want as a mother
06:21is to be supportive and that our children are always happy.
06:24You know what I love?
06:25That the first thing that hurt you wasn't the news.
06:28It hurt you that she didn't tell you.
06:29And that probably has a lot to do
06:31with how easy this transition has been.
06:33I also want to hear from Jorge, the father.
06:35Can you turn around here, please?
06:37Because in the society in which we live,
06:39which is so heteronormative,
06:41which is a patriarchy,
06:42where men are demanded this virility
06:45and that their men have to be male.
06:48How does that work for you as a father?
06:52The truth is that I was lucky to have a mother
06:57who didn't condition me in that sense.
07:00I grew up in a family with three brothers.
07:05One of them is a woman, plus two men.
07:09And, well, as a child,
07:12I belonged to the Scout movement for many years.
07:16And as a child, I was very conservative.
07:17For example, I asked my mother to teach me how to sew.
07:21And the truth is that that didn't condition me
07:27to feel less or more...
07:29You were a more prejudiced man.
07:30Exactly.
07:31And how do you take Alicia's news?
07:33Initially, as I had told you,
07:36the fact that one is in a circle of ignorance
07:41scares you a little.
07:44But it's basically because of the reaction of your environment.
07:49You feel like a patrol and you have to give explanations.
07:54And, fortunately, I was able to overcome it
07:57with a certain degree of speed.
08:02As I had told you, that ignorance
08:04and that lack of information that one can have
08:08generates a lot of prejudice, finally.
08:10And I said at some point
08:12that it was the starting point of all discrimination.
08:14Well, hopefully today with this we can deliver a grain of sand
08:16to break down prejudices,
08:18which is what we want to do today in this program,
08:20so that everything is easier for people of diversity.
08:23Because the idea is that we all live calmly and with love,
08:26and with acceptance and empathy towards others.
08:30Why discriminate if we can love each other, right Pri?
08:33Yes, and it is the fear that many parents have.
08:35That's why it's important to listen to them.
08:37Why have to give explanations?
08:39Or why feel that we are forced to give explanations to others?
08:43And on the other hand, something that Alicia does,
08:46and she did it almost instinctively,
08:50she approached the support network before telling her mother.
08:53Although her mother was hurt that she didn't tell her first.
08:56But precisely that's what Juan Cristobal had told us.
08:59That before talking to parents,
09:00perhaps looking for a support network worked for her.
09:03Totally, totally.
09:04Because that's what it's about.
09:05In the end, one understands that it comes from concern
09:09and from not feeling like a burden.
09:10But precisely the most important thing is the support network.
09:13And sometimes they tell me,
09:14but Juan Cristobal, I don't have anyone.
09:16There will always be someone.
09:17Always, always, there will always be someone.
09:18Whether it's from the family core,
09:20or it's more extensive, even foundations, groups,
09:24there will always be someone who will listen to you.
09:26And in this case, I think it was from the uncle's support network.
09:29Ah, yes, yes.
09:30Of course, but there are also the parents
09:33who are there with Alicia, supporting her.
09:36And great, finally Alicia will grow up
09:38in an environment of love and affection,
09:40and that will totally favor her mental health,
09:42her self-esteem, her well-being.
09:43And you know what?
09:44I think that here the parents also did something,
09:46like the father questioned something wonderful,
09:49which is that, we were just talking before,
09:52that one comes out of the closet first to oneself,
09:55like one realizes, well, I'm not straight, right?
09:59In my case.
09:59And then comes out of the closet with this environment
10:02and looks for this support network,
10:04but sometimes we forget that there is this exit
10:07of the closet from our environment.
10:09For example, I may have been a lesbian for a long time,
10:12everything was fine, my mom was perfect with me,
10:14she never felt anything, she always supported me.
10:17You said directly to your mom,
10:18you looked for this first support network.
10:20Directly to my mom.
10:21But what happened to me was that everything was fine,
10:24but the time came when I said, well, I'm going to get married.
10:27And since I'm going to get married, at that point,
10:30there is another exit of the closet,
10:32which is the exit of the closet, in this case, of my parents.
10:34Yes.
10:35Because it's not just, I accept you and I love you
10:37and I support you as you are,
10:38but now I have to tell my friends, my networks,
10:41and give explanations.
10:43And I feel that in that sense, the father did it wonderfully,
10:45because he said, well, these are my prejudices,
10:48I'm afraid, but I'm going to get over it quickly.
10:51I think that there was a super big success.
10:55Yes, we want to thank you.
10:57The truth is that you are a family that not only looks happy,
11:01but also looks united.
11:02This is not for the TV,
11:03because I imagine that they are all together instinctively.
11:06Yes.
11:07Or not, Clarissa?
11:09There was no instruction.
11:10I can't imagine any instruction there.
11:12Because they are supporting their daughter unconditionally.
11:15I want to congratulate you,
11:17because the truth is that as parents,
11:18they also continue to teach us.
11:20And above all, because they have a wonderful daughter.
11:23We are going to give you an applause,
11:25because thanks to you,
11:27we can also give the necessary tools to so many people
11:31who face this with so many complexes,
11:34who think that everything is so difficult.
11:36You were helped by the Selena Foundation,
11:38and there are many foundations like the Selena Foundation
11:41that help in these transitions, fortunately,
11:44because before we did not have this.
11:46And I just want to say something.
11:48When there are people who say,
11:50you know what, I don't believe in this,
11:52I think this is a fashion.
11:53Could it be that in the past,
11:55many frustrated people could not leave the closet,
11:58they could not say what they were,
12:00what they felt,
12:01precisely because we had little information?
12:04Because sometimes it was not even diagnosed.
12:06And the truth is that you are a tremendous example to follow,
12:10because this is precisely how it should be faced.
12:13I send a hug to all of you,
12:15let's see if you hug each other.
12:17Hug each other.
12:19Do you want to say something?
12:20Do you want to say something strong?
12:22The hug, the hug.
12:25A little reflection.
12:30Hopefully we get to that day,
12:32that day of pride,
12:34be proud to be a better society,
12:36to be more tolerant,
12:38more respectful,
12:40and not have to be
12:42disputing spaces between everyone
12:44and respect.
12:46Hopefully that pride becomes
12:48a pride to stop being selfish,
12:51to stop being cowards,
12:53and accept ourselves as we are,
12:56in our deep diversity.
12:59You are absolutely right, Jorge.
13:01Thank you very much.
13:02And in that we are contributing,
13:04we are contributing a grain of sand
13:06for this paved road,
13:08especially for the new generations.
13:10May it be very good.
13:11A little hug for everyone.
13:12Congratulations.
13:13What a beautiful image.
13:15Hey, let's stay with that image.
13:17What?
13:18I have to go to the bathroom.
13:19Really?
13:20That's it.
13:21That's it.
13:22Read it whenever you want.
13:23Hey, we have an activation.